- 6 months ago
Eiman Wanzul, finalis Dewi Remaja 2022/2023 yang kini bergelar isteri dan ibu. Dia berkongsi sisi kehidupan yang jarang dikongsi ramai, rasa sunyi menyusukan anak di awal pagi, emosi tak stabil lepas bersalin, dan cabaran mencari semula diri sendiri sebagai seorang wanita.
Eiman juga terbuka berkongsi tentang rasa “tak cukup sempurna” sebagai ibu baru, dan bagaimana dia masih belajar hari demi hari untuk jadi isteri dan ibu terbaik buat anaknya, Elana Dania.
Lokasi: The Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf, Temu City of Elmina, Shah Alam
Eiman juga terbuka berkongsi tentang rasa “tak cukup sempurna” sebagai ibu baru, dan bagaimana dia masih belajar hari demi hari untuk jadi isteri dan ibu terbaik buat anaknya, Elana Dania.
Lokasi: The Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf, Temu City of Elmina, Shah Alam
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00:00Just, when me and her are alone macam ni, kua dua tiga bayi,
00:04mengalih lah air mata because you just are alone, no one really understand you.
00:09Maksud tu kawan-kawan I tak pregnant lagi, belum kahwin lagi,
00:12I don't know who to talk to. I don't have anyone to talk to.
00:15Hai semua, Assalamualaikum. Selamat datang ke program digital istimewa Pak Emma bulan ni,
00:20iaitu kita ada Papa Hero dan juga Mama Dewi,
00:23di mana kita menghimpinkan finalist-finalist hero remaja
00:26dan juga Dewi Remaja pada musim-musim yang lepas
00:29yang kini telah pun bergelar seorang Mama dan juga seorang Papa.
00:34Ini adalah juga bersempena dengan program reality Dewi Remaja
00:37yang bakal berlangsung pada Oktober ni di Astoria.
00:41So sebenarnya untuk episod kali ni kita nak bawa siapa?
00:44Kita nak bawa Papa Hero ke Mama Dewi?
00:46So dengan sebab itu saya menyediakan VT khas ini untuk anda semua.
00:56Haa, itu dia. Kita dah tahu pun siapa guest kita pada hari ni,
01:01kita ada Mama Dewi.
01:03So Mama Dewi kita pada kali ni ialah Iman Wanzul.
01:07Hai.
01:07Apa khabar Iman? Hello.
01:09Hai. Alhamdulillah. Sihat, sihat sangat.
01:11Sihat, alhamdulillah.
01:12Terima kasih sebab sudi datang ke set kita lah pada hari ni.
01:16Sebab set kita kali ni pun istimewa Iman.
01:18Bukannya kita buat kat studio dah.
01:19Kita ada dekat The Coffee Bean and Lift Temu Elmina.
01:22Haa, macam atas meja kita ni pun ada di sedekat air-air dan juga kek lah
01:26untuk kita boleh je makan-makan sambil kita berbura.
01:28Kita boleh makan lah sambil kita tengah bawa-bura.
01:30Haa, kita makan boleh.
01:31Haa, betul.
01:32You sihat hari ni?
01:33Assalamualahlah sihat. Haa, terlebih sihat.
01:36Sebenarnya I nervous lah duduk sebelah Dewi Remaja.
01:38Nampak macam jauh lah.
01:39Kalau you rasa you nervous, I pun nervous kat sini.
01:41Dah lama, dah lama kita diam.
01:43So quite nervous tapi kita nervous sekali-sekali lah.
01:47Okay, Iman.
01:48Kita tahu Iman ialah finalist Dewi Remaja pada tahun 2022-2023, betul tak?
01:53Yes, betul.
01:54Okay, first sekali kan.
01:55Mungkin Iman boleh cerita macam mana Iman mula-mula boleh masuk dalam Dewi Remaja ni.
02:01Okay, so basically before Dewi, Iman baru start modelling.
02:06So Iman rasa macam Dewi tu will be a way for me to kembang lah.
02:10Tapi at that time, I still tak tahu nak pergi ke tak nak pergi.
02:14Nak pergi ke tak nak pergi.
02:15So memang it was the last day of audition.
02:17Lepas I tanya lah my housemates.
02:19I duduk dengan housemates, I, best friend I.
02:20Dia kata, pergi ke tak lah.
02:22So pergilah pergi.
02:23And then my friend yang pick me up pun, let's just go.
02:26Whatever happens, happens tapi pergi.
02:28So I macam, okay, last minute I nak tengah hari dah.
02:31I pun pergi.
02:33Lepas tu, dari situ borang semua.
02:35Hi, I'm here.
02:37So, dia orang je lah yang tahu.
02:39I tak boleh tahu parents I pun.
02:41Memang until habis malam tu dapat yang pas tu,
02:44baru, hi, Miba.
02:46I think I'm in the, I audition for Dewi.
02:50Waktu tu kan, reaction parents you, macam mana?
02:53Macam, akan dia macam, okay, it's time for you to shine ataupun macam mana?
02:56Okay, so one thing about my parents kan,
02:59dia orang daripada I kecil sampai ke besar,
03:01very, very supportive.
03:03So apa je yang Iman nak cuba,
03:05they will send me to the audition.
03:07Or masa ni, I just tak nak beritahu lagi because
03:09I just want to surprise them.
03:11Tapi before this, kalau pergi job modeling ke apa,
03:13my dad will send me.
03:14Kalau tentang belajar pun,
03:15apa yang I pilih,
03:17like I took tassel,
03:18dia orang pun macam,
03:18ambillah apa you nak.
03:19So sampai I besar,
03:21sampai even umur sekarang ni,
03:23dah kahwin pun,
03:23kekadang kalau ada job yang dekat syar alam,
03:25my dad still hantar.
03:27So they orang just proud,
03:28very proud.
03:29Sweetnya kan ada hubungan family yang macam tu kan.
03:31Tapi boleh,
03:33you anak nombor berapa lah?
03:34Iman anak yang ketiga.
03:36So ada dua abang,
03:38tapi I kakak sulung.
03:39Oh, I see.
03:39So I have to set an example for my sibling,
03:42my younger sibling.
03:43Okay.
03:43Masa Iman dah dapat macam,
03:46past tu kan,
03:47Iman ada tengok ramai-ramai contestant lain lah.
03:50Ada tak Iman macam rasa-macam insecure ke,
03:52ataupun how Iman overcome
03:54perasaan insecure tu kalau ada?
03:56Okay, don't take this the wrong way.
03:58When I say,
03:59tak insecure,
04:01it's not because I rasa I lagi better.
04:02No.
04:03Because I'm already confident with who I am.
04:05So sebab I jenis yang memang confident,
04:07I puas hati with who I am,
04:09how I look as a person.
04:11Bila I masuk dalam kalangan tu,
04:13I tak rasa tercabar lah.
04:14I rasa macam,
04:15I'm okay
04:15because we can all get there.
04:18So it's not like,
04:19okay, I'm better than you.
04:20No, no, no.
04:20It's because I'm just confident with myself.
04:22That's why I tak insecure.
04:23Betul.
04:24Sebenarnya kan,
04:24program reality ni pun memang sebenarnya,
04:27siapa diri kita lah.
04:27Kita datang tu untuk tunjukkan lagi
04:29siapa diri kita.
04:30dan itu yang membuatkan kita berbeza
04:32daripada kontes terlain kan.
04:34Okay, Iman,
04:35nak tanya jugalah,
04:36bila tengok journey you sendiri
04:37daripada awal dia,
04:38William Aja sampai sekarang kan,
04:40and you,
04:41pernah tak sangka you akan bergelar
04:42isteri dan juga ibu
04:43pada usia yang sangat muda.
04:45Kind of muda lah juga kan.
04:47Okay,
04:47bagi I,
04:4825.
04:48I got married at 25.
04:50So,
04:51still confident young.
04:53Lagi-lagi,
04:53all my friends are still very career driven.
04:55So,
04:56diorang masih bekerja,
04:57they are getting promotions
04:59and I'm out here planning a wedding.
05:01You know?
05:02it was very sudden.
05:04I can say,
05:05my husband,
05:07he was the love interest
05:09that I was talking about
05:10during dewi.
05:11So,
05:11masa I dewi,
05:12contestant dewi,
05:13I baru je kenal dengan
05:14dengan my husband
05:15masa tu.
05:16I baru nak kenal dengan dia,
05:17baru nak
05:18get to know him
05:20on a further level.
05:22And then,
05:22afterwards,
05:24dia macam,
05:25jom lah kita kahwin.
05:25So,
05:25he's also 5 years older than me.
05:27So,
05:28masa tu,
05:28dia 30.
05:29So,
05:29he's also ready to settle down.
05:31I pun dah ready kot
05:33nak kahwin.
05:34And,
05:34I let him prove himself
05:36and Alhamdulillah,
05:37benda jadi.
05:37So,
05:37jodoh is jodoh kan.
05:39But,
05:40to be a mother tu,
05:42unexpected,
05:43so fast,
05:44but,
05:45so grateful for
05:46what has happened to my life.
05:47Okay,
05:48Iman,
05:48melalui fasa kehamilan
05:49pada usia yang sangat muda,
05:51apa perasaan Iman
05:52waktu Iman tahu kan,
05:54okay,
05:54I pregnant.
05:55Okay,
05:56so,
05:56the thing is,
05:58I got married
05:58bulan tiga,
05:59tak silap.
06:00And then,
06:01kita pun tak ada plan ni.
06:02I pernah sit down
06:02with my husband lah
06:03at that time.
06:03Iman cakap lah,
06:04sayang,
06:04what do you think?
06:05Do you want us to
06:06start a family soon?
06:07Or,
06:08do you want us to wait?
06:09And we,
06:10we are,
06:11we both
06:12agree on waiting.
06:13Waiting at least two years.
06:14But,
06:14because me and my husband pun,
06:16kita tak kenal lama
06:16before kahwin.
06:17Kita kenal
06:18dalam-lam bulan,
06:19to now,
06:20terus kahwin.
06:21So,
06:21less than a year.
06:23So,
06:23we're like,
06:23okay,
06:23let's get to know each other first.
06:25and then suddenly,
06:27my period lambat
06:29masa tu.
06:30Tapi,
06:31bila I checked tu,
06:32I was not pregnant.
06:33But I felt,
06:34kind of hurt.
06:35Sedih.
06:35Sedih.
06:36I rasa macam,
06:37I think about the test
06:38and I sat down macam,
06:40maybe we're ready kot.
06:41Maybe we are.
06:42So,
06:42for the next month tu,
06:43kita adalah cuba.
06:44We didn't like,
06:45okay,
06:46kena buat sekarang ke,
06:47kena plan everything.
06:49If it were to happen,
06:50it happened.
06:50so,
06:51when I realized
06:52my period again
06:53was quite late,
06:55it wasn't even my mind
06:56because I didn't want
06:57to think about it.
06:58I didn't want to
06:58pressure myself,
07:00tak nak kecewa.
07:01So,
07:01bila I press send,
07:03period lambat,
07:04dah kursus 11 malam.
07:05Tapi,
07:06I memang ada test.
07:07So,
07:07I'm like,
07:07oh,
07:08let me just take a test.
07:09I dengan tak planning,
07:10so much to took the test,
07:11eh,
07:12I'm pregnant.
07:13I terdiam.
07:14I'm like,
07:15I just call best friend I.
07:16You tell who you are,
07:17I call her.
07:18I say,
07:18what do I do?
07:19I'm pregnant,
07:20I'm pregnant.
07:21Okay,
07:21go tell my husband.
07:22Tak ada pun nak plan,
07:22nak surprise him
07:23because it was,
07:24it just in the moment.
07:26So,
07:26memang I baik tahu dia.
07:29Anya lagi masa tu,
07:31dia tengah kerja.
07:32He's a very,
07:33someone who works very hard.
07:35So,
07:35dia masuk,
07:36dia tengah kerja,
07:36nana-nana,
07:37dia like,
07:37sayang,
07:39I have something to show you.
07:41Dia like,
07:41apa?
07:42Eh,
07:43pregnant?
07:44So,
07:45masa tu,
07:45dia pun,
07:46he's a man of very last words.
07:49and even less emotions.
07:50So,
07:51to see him cry,
07:52lagilah I nangis.
07:54Oh,
07:54bila tu ingat tu?
07:55Oh.
07:57Okay,
07:57macam sepanjang,
07:59talking about kehamilan kan,
08:01macam,
08:02kita selalu dengar lah,
08:03macam susah kan,
08:04pregnant ni susah,
08:05tapi,
08:06maybe you boleh share,
08:07macam,
08:08sweet moments lah,
08:10masa kehamilan you.
08:11Sweet moments.
08:12like I said,
08:13my husband,
08:14he's not really the romantic type.
08:16He's a very,
08:17he's not nonchalant.
08:18It's more to,
08:19dia jenis yang,
08:20oh,
08:20dia tak tahu nak express.
08:22Dia tak tahu nak express,
08:22so,
08:23kalau I nak,
08:23I minta.
08:24But,
08:24there are things that he would do
08:25throughout my pregnancy
08:26that made me realize
08:27that he's really there for me.
08:29Macam,
08:29contoh,
08:30my first three months,
08:32memang,
08:32I sangat-sangat,
08:34struggle with morning sickness.
08:36Muntah nak dekat 11,
08:3712 kali sehari.
08:38dia lah yang,
08:40ta-da.
08:41Ataupun,
08:41kalau I termuntah,
08:42dia lah yang bersihkan.
08:44Tak pernah komplain tau,
08:45selama semua bulan tu,
08:46tak pernah komplain about anything.
08:47Apa I nak,
08:48semua I dapat.
08:49I nak makan ni lah sayang,
08:50jom.
08:50I nak ni lah sayang,
08:52jom.
08:52I termuntah,
08:53tak apa,
08:53you rehat,
08:54I love.
08:55So,
08:55having him being that supportive,
08:57really helped me
08:58through the pregnancy itself.
09:00Okay.
09:00Tapi,
09:01apa cabaran pula,
09:02sepanjang,
09:04iman,
09:05of course,
09:05ada cabaran kan,
09:06maybe daripada segi emosi,
09:07and also physical.
09:09Kalau dari segi macam tu,
09:10macam mana pula?
09:11Master pregnant,
09:11is it?
09:12Master pregnant,
09:13the thing I struggle with,
09:15master the first few months,
09:16that struggle sangat,
09:16because you don't really see
09:17your body changing.
09:18Bila I dah masuk ke
09:20third trimester tu,
09:22I berubah.
09:23I nampak macam,
09:24not gemuk,
09:25but in a sense,
09:26you put on a lot of weight,
09:27you lose yourself,
09:28you lose that spark,
09:30because you're so tired,
09:31at the same time,
09:32you're holding a baby.
09:34I had an identity crisis.
09:35I macam,
09:36who am I?
09:36selama even after pregnancy pun,
09:39who am I?
09:40So,
09:41I struggled with myself a lot.
09:44Okay,
09:44being a mom,
09:45you akan jadi bakal mak lah pada,
09:47macam kita panggil sekarang ni kan,
09:48dunia macam teknologi kan,
09:49of course,
09:50we have social media.
09:51Pernah tak macam,
09:52you tengok social media,
09:53you tengok even kawan-kawan lain ke,
09:55you ni dekat rumah,
09:56tengah sedih,
09:57pregnant kan,
09:58pernah tak you macam,
10:00face benda tu?
10:01Okay,
10:01so I think,
10:03when I was pregnant,
10:04tak sangat,
10:04because when I was pregnant,
10:05I was still able to go out
10:06with my friends a lot.
10:07So,
10:08I selalu juga,
10:08cakap ke darah,
10:09macam sayang,
10:09anak keluar,
10:10sampai I like what,
10:1239 weeks pun,
10:13I pergi Ipoh,
10:14lagi with my husband,
10:16for a wedding,
10:17so I was always out and about,
10:18tak lah sunyi dekat rumah,
10:19tapi it was,
10:20after I gave birth to yang,
10:23I think about my friends,
10:24macam,
10:26oh bestnya hidup di orang,
10:27macam memanglah,
10:28you akan question like,
10:29oh I'm here alone,
10:30stuck at home,
10:31I love my baby,
10:32tapi I wish I was out there,
10:34chasing my career,
10:37but I'm not,
10:37I'm not grateful for what I am,
10:38but I,
10:39sekarang ni live vicariously to them,
10:41especially for so travelling,
10:43I nak sangat travel,
10:44especially kan,
10:44dah kahwin dah lah,
10:45boleh travel kan,
10:47dengan husband,
10:47dengan husband,
10:48so I tengok kawan-kawan,
10:49I dapat pergi balik,
10:50pergi sini,
10:51pergi sana,
10:52with ease,
10:53so wow,
10:54I could just,
10:55tengok je lah story,
10:55I'm happy for them,
10:56and I'm happy for myself,
10:57but it's just like,
10:58okay,
10:58let me live vicariously to you,
11:00and also,
11:01tadi kan,
11:02kita dengar dengan Iman cerita lah,
11:03pasal after you gave birth kan,
11:05you ada rasa macam,
11:08sunyi,
11:08kesunyian lah,
11:09maybe you boleh kongsi dekat,
11:11pembaca-pembaca,
11:12macam lapak Iman.
11:14I think a lot of mothers experience this,
11:16lagi-lagi,
11:17ibu-ibu yang,
11:18first time jadi mothers,
11:20kita tak tahu banyak,
11:21I remember when I gave birth to Ilana tu,
11:24she came into the room,
11:26at 4 a.m.,
11:27and I was alone,
11:29because I dekat government hospital,
11:31so masa tu,
11:32my husband tak boleh teman,
11:33I baru lepas bersalin,
11:35I tengok dia,
11:35dia tengok I,
11:36macam,
11:36oh,
11:37I'm a mom,
11:39you know,
11:39Mama Sita,
11:40no,
11:40no,
11:40I'm a mom,
11:41I'm a mom,
11:42I'm a mom,
11:43Ilana,
11:44it's just us right now,
11:45you know,
11:46and,
11:47it was like that,
11:48for the first four months,
11:50the first newborn phase tu,
11:52I rasa sangat sunyi,
11:53because,
11:54I'm breastfeeding her,
11:55sampai sekarang,
11:56I masih breastfeed dia,
11:57so I had to wake up,
11:58in the late night,
12:00my husband was sleeping,
12:01and I tak blame him,
12:02for sleeping pun,
12:03because dia bekerja,
12:03dia kerja,
12:04cara is okay,
12:05untuk kita orang,
12:05so I tak boleh nak marah dia,
12:07it's just,
12:08when me and her are alone,
12:09macam ni,
12:10kau dua tiga bayi,
12:12mengalih lah,
12:13I'm a mother,
12:13because,
12:14you just are alone,
12:15no one really understands you,
12:17macam tu kawan-kawan I,
12:18tak pregnant lagi,
12:19belum kahwin lagi,
12:20I didn't know who to talk to,
12:21I didn't have anyone to talk to,
12:23so I would just like,
12:24sit with her,
12:25and,
12:26macam usak-usak kepala,
12:27macam Maulana,
12:28sorry lah,
12:28kalau Mama ada kekurangan,
12:29because Mama pun tak perfect,
12:31Mama pun,
12:32tak tahu lagi,
12:33what I'm doing,
12:34and then,
12:36it's just,
12:37it's hard to struggle with,
12:38finding who you are as a mother,
12:40as a wife,
12:41and as yourself,
12:42so struggle,
12:43kat situ lah,
12:44memang rasa lonely,
12:45for the first year,
12:47and then I jadi stay at home mom,
12:48so I tak balik kerja,
12:49you know,
12:50so then I have to,
12:51take care of her alone,
12:53there are days where I say,
12:54what am I doing,
12:56it's okay,
12:57I'm taking care of you,
12:58tak rasa so much,
12:59better now,
13:01better now lah,
13:02I have to hear better now,
13:03tapi I believe kan,
13:04you masa tu,
13:05of course,
13:05you ada perasaan yang macam tu kan,
13:06tapi,
13:07bila tengok your baby,
13:09you akan rasa,
13:09betul pun juga,
13:10bukti kekuatan you,
13:11tempat you cari semangat balik kan,
13:13she's my everything,
13:14okay,
13:15macam,
13:16kita tahu,
13:16Iman kan dulu,
13:17as a feminist,
13:17dari remaja kan,
13:19and also sekarang,
13:19you dah jadi pun,
13:20seorang mak,
13:21antara kedua-dua ni,
13:22yang mana satu,
13:23Iman rasa,
13:24Iman paling proud,
13:25untuk jadi sekarang,
13:26dari remaja,
13:29was a great experience,
13:30it was something that,
13:32I sampai sekarang,
13:33very grateful for,
13:34tapi being a mother,
13:35nothing can compare to that,
13:37nothing compares,
13:38to the sacrifices you make,
13:40nothing compares to,
13:42holding her,
13:43and knowing that,
13:44I'm a mom,
13:46anything in life,
13:47I can say,
13:48this is the best thing,
13:48to ever happen to me,
13:50so I'm the proud,
13:50I'm the proudest mother of Ilana Dania,
13:52the proudest,
13:53okay,
13:54okay,
13:55my next soalan,
13:55yang I nak tanyakan,
13:56you as a young parents,
13:58pada zaman sekarang ni kan,
14:00how do you do your parenting,
14:02maksudnya,
14:02adakah you seorang,
14:03yang macam modern style ke,
14:05ataupun you still ada,
14:06macam traditional,
14:07punya type of parenting,
14:09okay,
14:09I pernah joke about this,
14:11with my husband kan,
14:12I cakap kat dia,
14:13gentle parenting,
14:14is for gentle children,
14:16our baby is not gentle,
14:18she's a little monster,
14:19so susah nak jadi gentle kan,
14:21we have our limits,
14:23our patience tu,
14:25kita perlu banyak bersabar,
14:26bila jadi mak kan,
14:27I had to learn a lot of patience,
14:29sebab,
14:30tak nampak kot dekat luar,
14:32tapi I seorang yang barat,
14:34so yeah,
14:35with my close family,
14:37with my husband kapa,
14:38if you tick me wrong,
14:40I cepat bomb,
14:41so having a baby,
14:42especially bila,
14:43I tak tahu apa dia nak,
14:44dia pun tak tahu apa nak cakap,
14:45semua tu,
14:46it can push my burdens,
14:48so,
14:50we were gentle parents,
14:51but we were corrector also,
14:53so,
14:54tak adalah nak pukul kapa,
14:55I don't,
14:57you know,
14:58do that,
14:58I don't like people who,
15:00use any sense of that,
15:03to the baby,
15:04kapa ke,
15:05it's like,
15:06understand,
15:06kalau kita barangkan,
15:07anak kena sabar,
15:08terlepas,
15:09terlepas,
15:10of course,
15:10ada yang terlepas,
15:12but,
15:12I will not go down that road,
15:14because we have,
15:15we want to break the cycle,
15:16of how maybe,
15:17we were raised,
15:18kapa ke,
15:18so,
15:19it's more too gentle,
15:20but at the same time,
15:21we were very assertive,
15:22so,
15:22macam Nana,
15:23if that is wrong,
15:24that is wrong,
15:24tak adalah everything,
15:25macam boleh je,
15:26boleh je,
15:27betul,
15:27and of course,
15:28biasa kan,
15:29let me guess,
15:29you,
15:30atas husband you,
15:31mesti husband you,
15:32lagi cool,
15:33as a parent,
15:33betul tak,
15:34kalau biasa lah,
15:36sangat,
15:37kita kan mak-mak,
15:38biasa lah kan,
15:39biasa lah,
15:39mak-mak garam,
15:40because mak-mak sayang,
15:41betul,
15:41sebab kita tahu ke,
15:42apa yang terbaik,
15:43kita tahu yang terbaik,
15:44bukan,
15:44suami tak tahu,
15:45tapi dia orang more macam,
15:46the cool cop,
15:47I'm the bad cop,
15:48I'm the one who has to,
15:50cut off all the fun,
15:51for me,
15:52I dah discuss,
15:53sama-sama tentang ni yang,
15:54I cakap kepada dia,
15:54sayang,
15:55kalau I marah Ilana,
15:57I tak expect you nak marah dia,
15:58tapi you have to be on my side,
15:59you have to show her,
16:01as a baby,
16:02and from young,
16:03yang dia tak boleh nak,
16:05okay,
16:05mummy marah dia,
16:07daddy is okay,
16:08so dia tak boleh nak,
16:09you know,
16:09jangan berikan anak lah,
16:10yeah,
16:11so kalau mummy marah,
16:12daddy put on my side,
16:13kalau daddy marah,
16:13mummy put on her side,
16:14so she knows that,
16:15okay,
16:16she's to blame,
16:17she has to fix something,
16:19she's incorrect ke apa,
16:21so kita pernah bincang lah,
16:23it's working,
16:23it's working,
16:24betul,
16:25and of course,
16:26I rasa memang communicating ni,
16:28mesin dalam kita,
16:29as husband and wife,
16:30sebab,
16:30supaya jelas apa yang kita nak,
16:33and apa yang dia nak,
16:34supaya macam,
16:35tak adalah berlaku,
16:36salah faham ke,
16:37ataupun pergaduhan kan,
16:38betul,
16:38betul,
16:39okay,
16:39I think soalan last eye,
16:40untuk pasal parenting ni kan,
16:42boleh,
16:42you ada platform macam social media kan,
16:44sikit, sikit,
16:45what do you think,
16:46tanggungjawab you,
16:47untuk share pasal motherhood lah,
16:49especially untuk kepada ibu-ibu muda di luar sana juga,
16:52I think it's important to involve parenting,
16:56in my current content creation,
16:58I would say I'm a content creator,
17:00slowly getting there,
17:02but I want to share,
17:04how great life it can be as a mother,
17:07and advice,
17:08yeah,
17:08I boleh,
17:09because I just want to come,
17:11luahkan ke I,
17:12I tak akan,
17:13bagi advice terus,
17:15I akan terus macam,
17:16you not dengar apa daripada I,
17:17you want me to just listen,
17:19or you want me to advise you,
17:20judging is the last thing I would do,
17:22because every mother is different,
17:23every parent is different,
17:25the way you parent,
17:26the way you,
17:27ajar anak semua tu,
17:28tak boleh bandingkan dengan sesapa pun sebenarnya,
17:31so,
17:32in this case,
17:32I just want to be there for mothers,
17:36I want to be their safe space,
17:37that,
17:38even if they mess up,
17:39it's okay,
17:39it's okay,
17:40I bacalah kekadang,
17:41kat Thrice ke apa,
17:42I akan bacalah macam,
17:43oh dia,
17:44anak dia terjatuh ke apa,
17:45I akan make sure,
17:46I comment,
17:46I cakap,
17:47it's okay,
17:47you're doing great,
17:48don't question yourself,
17:49because kita perlu that,
17:52what's it called,
17:53that support,
17:54we need that support,
17:55betul,
17:55and I rasa sebabkan,
17:57I faham,
17:57bila dekat,
17:58someone meluah dekat traits,
17:59ataupun dekat ex kan,
18:01netizen lain akan lebih kepada,
18:03macam,
18:03kenapa kau buat anak kau macam tu,
18:04contohlah kalau dia tinggalkan anak,
18:06kenapa tinggalkan anak,
18:07tapi dia never macam understand,
18:09kenapa seorang mak,
18:10boleh buat macam tu,
18:11and sebenarnya,
18:12kita perlu support lah kan,
18:13daripada kita mengecam,
18:14sebab,
18:15kita tak ada kat tempat diorang kan,
18:16actually,
18:17exactly,
18:17I selalu cakap,
18:18if you've never walked a mile,
18:20in someone else's shoes,
18:21then you cannot say anything,
18:23about that person's lifestyle,
18:25so you tak tahu,
18:25apa sebab dia tinggal,
18:26apa sebab dia terjatuh,
18:27apa-apa,
18:28everything yang kita share dekat,
18:30threats is not our life 24x7,
18:32it is just 15 seconds,
18:33it is just a post,
18:35so you tak boleh judge,
18:36just from that,
18:38betul,
18:38betul,
18:39okay,
18:39kalau bercakap pasal sekarang dan dulu,
18:41mesti lah lain kan,
18:42tapi,
18:42I nak tanya juga,
18:44boleh,
18:44before this,
18:45ada tak macam something,
18:46you love to do something,
18:47you love to buat,
18:48and now macam,
18:49you macam,
18:50okay,
18:50I dah tak boleh buat this thing,
18:52ataupun,
18:52I kena kurangkan lagi this thing,
18:54ada tak macam tu,
18:55I would say kan,
18:57when you have a hobby ke,
19:00my hobby,
19:01I suka bersukan,
19:02I suka sangat bersukan,
19:04so before this,
19:04I suka main volleyball,
19:06so obviously,
19:09after having Anna,
19:10I had to stop for a while,
19:12and then,
19:13I,
19:14just come back to it,
19:16it's okay,
19:16I just took a pause,
19:18focus my attention on her,
19:19now,
19:20kalau ada,
19:21kalau tak sekarang,
19:21I tengah main pickleball,
19:22every week,
19:24kita,
19:24jumpa dekat card,
19:27I dah habis dah soalan,
19:28I pasal parenting kan,
19:29let's go to,
19:29relationship with you,
19:30dengan husband pula,
19:32spicy,
19:32okay,
19:34dapat tadi,
19:34kita dah sedih-sedihkan,
19:35sekarang nak tanya,
19:36apa you choose your husband,
19:37apa kriteria,
19:38ataupun,
19:38apa yang macam,
19:39you look dalam diri dia,
19:41yang rasakan,
19:42okay, macam,
19:42he's the one,
19:43okay,
19:44so I dengan Darwin,
19:45kita,
19:46my husband,
19:47the way kita jumpa,
19:48is very traditional,
19:49so,
19:50I tengah bekerja,
19:52dia lalu,
19:53so dia lalu tu,
19:54and I macam,
19:56I kena kenal,
19:57who is that person,
19:58I don't know why,
19:59dia tiba-tiba rasa macam,
20:00I need to know him,
20:01I need to know who he is,
20:02and I balik,
20:03I balik to my,
20:04masa tu,
20:04I duduk dengan housemates,
20:05I cakap ke my best friend,
20:07okay,
20:07me,
20:07tadi I jumpa this guy,
20:09there's something about him,
20:10that I need to know,
20:12by magic kan,
20:13I did some stuff lah,
20:14I pergi,
20:15I pergi kedai yang dia lepak dekat tu,
20:17I beli barang kat situ,
20:18I post,
20:19sebelum tu,
20:19kedai tu repost,
20:20end up repost dia punya juga,
20:22so,
20:23masa tu jumpa lah,
20:24and I ask directly,
20:25I yang masuk,
20:26I yang DM dulu,
20:28I tanya,
20:29were you the one dekat,
20:30pavilion tadi?
20:31I cakap,
20:31yeah,
20:31but he ghosted me,
20:33so,
20:33masa tu macam,
20:34okay,
20:34ada lah,
20:35a bit of,
20:37conversation there,
20:39and then he ghosted me,
20:40and then,
20:40kita macam,
20:41okay,
20:41takpe,
20:41tak jadilah,
20:42and then masa raya,
20:44after,
20:45I think raya masa,
20:46dari remaja tu lah,
20:47dia ajak jumpa,
20:48and then,
20:50from there,
20:50I didn't know how serious
20:51it was going to be,
20:52tapi,
20:53I felt very comfortable with him,
20:55I rasa macam,
20:56oh,
20:57he's someone that I have been looking for,
20:58because from past relationships
20:59that didn't work out,
21:01he had a lot of other things
21:02that were better,
21:03so,
21:03bila jadi macam tu,
21:05I,
21:07instead of just,
21:08ask you to speak,
21:09and speak,
21:09and tell me what you want to,
21:10tell me what I want to hear,
21:11I want to see your actions,
21:12he proved to me everything,
21:13by just showing me his actions,
21:15dia ajak kahwin,
21:16dia push everything,
21:17and,
21:18dah kahwin dah,
21:19Alhamdulillah,
21:20Alhamdulillah,
21:20Alhamdulillah,
21:21jadi ni,
21:21you punya tactic dengan,
21:22you punya tindakan tu,
21:24berjaya lah,
21:25so,
21:25jangan malu untuk mancing dulu,
21:27mancing je,
21:27okay,
21:28diorang dah grab,
21:29okay,
21:29biar diorang pula put effort,
21:31kita biarkan diorang pula,
21:32yang cooking,
21:34yang kita panggil,
21:34yes,
21:35kita letak je,
21:36letak sikit bake,
21:37okay,
21:38Iman,
21:38kita macam tadi dah borak,
21:39dah benda yang sedih,
21:40benda yang serius,
21:41benda yang fun-fun kan,
21:42tapi kali ni,
21:43kita nak main satu game dengan Iman,
21:44oh,
21:45Iman boleh tak?
21:46I like games,
21:47yes,
21:47okay,
21:48kita jumpa selepas ni,
21:51okay,
21:51dekat tangan saya ni,
21:52sebenarnya ada,
21:53satu baldi,
21:54dan dalam ni ada beberapa barang baby,
21:56kita nak main satu game lah,
21:57dengan Iman,
21:58okay,
21:58you tanya tak apa dalam ni?
22:00tertanya jugalah,
22:01macam dah,
22:02sebenarnya dalam ni ada beberapa barang baby,
22:04okay,
22:05okay,
22:05the thing is,
22:06you kena pilih-pilih,
22:08you kena pilih satu barang ni,
22:10and maybe you kena cerita,
22:11something memorable,
22:12ataupun funny things,
22:13pasal barang baby ni,
22:14oh,
22:15okay,
22:15ada kereta dengan anak you,
22:16faham,
22:16faham,
22:16faham,
22:17tapi you pilih ni,
22:18you kena tutup mata,
22:19okay,
22:20tangan kiri ya,
22:20sorry ya,
22:20tangan kiri,
22:21boleh,
22:22you just go-go-go-go-dik,
22:23lepas tu,
22:24you pilih one je,
22:24this one,
22:29tak pernah exist in my house,
22:32sebab Ilana dan Dania,
22:34memang breastfeeding sampai sekarang,
22:37walaupun kita rasa nak give up,
22:39sebab dah setahun enam bulan kan,
22:41dia tak nak,
22:42so takkanlah kita nak starve our child,
22:44so,
22:45itulah existed in the house,
22:47even though I want,
22:47fun fact lah,
22:49I rasa,
22:50okay,
22:50so boleh letak,
22:51I think lagi satulah lagi satu,
22:53boleh tak?
22:53so ni dah letak mana?
22:54boleh je tak sini,
22:56last one,
22:56okay,
22:57terik,
22:58terik,
22:59okay,
23:02baby diapers,
23:05baby diaper,
23:07okay,
23:07benda yang paling recent,
23:09jadi,
23:10Ilana dan Dania suka buka pampers sekarang,
23:14dia dah pandai,
23:16buka her pampers,
23:16sebab dia pakai yang,
23:17pan,
23:18so it's not yang tip,
23:19so dia buka,
23:20and dia kencing,
23:21mereka tersebut,
23:22so it's something that I have to,
23:26get used to,
23:27and also have to teacher lah,
23:28dan saya,
23:28Nala tak boleh,
23:29pampers tak boleh buka,
23:31dia dah pandai,
23:31oh tak boleh,
23:32so,
23:33tiba-tiba je dia buka ke,
23:35macam mana?
23:35tak,
23:36dia suka mandi,
23:37jadi dia akan minta,
23:38mami nak mandi,
23:39so mami dah buka baju,
23:40dia pandai buka baju,
23:41so I will leave her pampers on,
23:42until last,
23:43because dia memang suka,
23:44like as soon as buka kak,
23:45dia akan kencing,
23:46so dia lah,
23:48if waiting for me,
23:50to get to her,
23:51dia tiba-tiba buka,
23:52and jalan nak rumah,
23:53run around naked,
23:54the favorite thing to do,
23:56kereta mami lambat sangat lah,
23:57mami lambat,
23:58mami lambat,
23:58mami come fast-fast,
24:00game mind tu je,
24:01untuk game kita kali ni,
24:03kita jumpa kejap lagi,
24:04sebab kita ada lagi banyak,
24:05soalan kita nak tanya mind,
24:06ok,
24:06boleh,
24:06ok,
24:07itu dia,
24:28sebenarnya tadi pun,
24:28kita tinggalkan korang,
24:29dengan VT menarik,
24:31masih Iman,
24:32jadi Dewi Remajir dulu,
24:33Iman mungkin sebab kita punya rancangan ni pun,
24:36memang macam sepenuh,
24:37Dewi Remajir yang akan datang nanti kan,
24:40boleh tak Iman share,
24:41apa bahagian lah,
24:42ataupun apa cabaran Iman yang paling tough sekali,
24:45masa Iman jadi,
24:46join Dewi Remajir?
24:47the toughest thing,
24:50I think,
24:51ok,
24:52so,
24:52dia ada episode,
24:53dia ada challenges,
24:55nah,
24:55nah,
24:55nah,
24:55that was not hard,
24:57the hard part for me is,
24:58Q&A,
24:59oh,
24:59masa malam yang elimination ke apa,
25:03dia akan tanya soalan Q&A,
25:05susah,
25:06nah,
25:07situ Iman baru,
25:08bukan baru pindah ke Malaysia,
25:10but still learning about Malaysia,
25:12because Iman pindah daripada overseas,
25:13Iman duduk dekat Afrika Selatan,
25:15selama 14 tahun,
25:16so,
25:16when I came here,
25:18nak cakap Melari pun susah,
25:20memang tak tahu langsung,
25:21so,
25:21sekarang ni baru nak belajar,
25:23at that time,
25:24they will ask questions,
25:26a lot about local,
25:27Malaysia ke apa,
25:28so,
25:28memang kena study,
25:30so,
25:30before,
25:31kita tahu that is the elimination day,
25:33contoh kalau,
25:34episode tu tentang hosting ke apa,
25:36I akan study lah malam tu,
25:38apa yang mungkin,
25:40akan terkeluar,
25:40and cara nak berjawab,
25:42very,
25:43very susah.
25:44I rasa,
25:45you boleh cakap ke orang kan,
25:45yang join dari remaja ni,
25:47bukan sekadar orang cakap rupa sahaja,
25:49dia sebenarnya,
25:50memang ada,
25:51kena ada education,
25:52pendidikan juga,
25:52betul tak Iman?
25:53Beauty is not everything,
25:55you can have a beautiful face,
25:57but,
25:58what's within,
25:58and also up here,
25:59is very important,
26:00kalau rasa rupa tu boleh bawa jauh,
26:04it's not something that,
26:05you know,
26:05so,
26:06memang kita tahu,
26:06you kena brush up on knowledge,
26:08general knowledge,
26:09hati pun kena baik.
26:11Ramai budak-budak sekarang lah,
26:12macam,
26:13mengejar popularity,
26:14more the education,
26:15apa macam comment you,
26:17pasal benda tu?
26:18Popularity does not last,
26:20it is not something that,
26:22could get you far,
26:25education is so,
26:26so,
26:26so important,
26:27kalau boleh,
26:28pergilah sambung belajar,
26:29belajarlah betul-betul,
26:30at least,
26:31have a degree,
26:31even a diploma,
26:33is enough,
26:33because once your popularity runs out,
26:36you have something to fall back on,
26:37popularity,
26:39kalau nak kerja,
26:40popularity tu senang je,
26:41nak dapat,
26:42you boleh viral benda-benda yang,
26:43merepek,
26:44you boleh viral benda-benda yang,
26:45macam tu,
26:46if that's what you're looking for,
26:47or your end goal,
26:48then,
26:49that way is not the place,
26:51and a lot of things,
26:52not the place.
26:53Kalau nak popularity tu pun,
26:54you nak sustain tu pun,
26:55perlukan strategy,
26:56betul tak?
26:57Betul.
26:57Bukannya macam,
26:58dengan cara macam tu,
26:59maybe you boleh popular,
27:00tapi masa tu je.
27:02How to say,
27:03when you do get that,
27:05viral moment,
27:06you have to know,
27:07how you grow from that,
27:08and when you grow from that pun,
27:10you cannot tell,
27:11how to bring yourself.
27:12So,
27:12kalau rasa sekejap,
27:14in that moment,
27:14you know what to do,
27:15kekana in the next few moments,
27:16you also have to,
27:18know how to bawa diri,
27:20and the way you talk,
27:21the way you engage with people,
27:24memang,
27:25benda yang you kena jaga betul-betul.
27:27Especially in this industry,
27:28this industry is small,
27:29wherever you go,
27:30people will know each other.
27:31Cakap sikit pun,
27:32orang kenal.
27:33Betul.
27:34Okay,
27:35and you pun kan,
27:35you kan ada anak perempuan,
27:37of course,
27:37anak seluruh,
27:37anak perempuan.
27:38Macam mana you boleh dah imagine,
27:40life you dengan anak perempuan you,
27:41nanti bila dah besar,
27:42adakah you akan macam-macam magic together,
27:44pergi cafe hunting,
27:45sama-sama,
27:46you dah imagine tak?
27:47I dah imagine,
27:48kita akan bergaduh,
27:49banyak.
27:50Kita akan bertekak,
27:51banyak.
27:52Because,
27:53I feel that,
27:54I hope to raise a woman,
27:55who is independent,
27:57I hope to raise a daughter,
27:59that,
28:00can stand up for herself.
28:01But with that said,
28:02having a mother pun,
28:03yang stand on business pun,
28:05akan ada pergaduhan.
28:05but I know,
28:07and I hope,
28:08that we are able to,
28:09grow a bond,
28:10that is very close,
28:11that if anything,
28:13in life happens to her,
28:14dia boleh datang ke Iman,
28:15dia boleh cerita ke Iman.
28:16I don't want to just have that,
28:17best friend relationship with her.
28:19I want her to know that,
28:20I'm her mom,
28:20and I can be her friend too.
28:22So for anything,
28:23come to me.
28:24Maci-maci too,
28:25of course,
28:26of course.
28:26I already nak jadi manager dia,
28:28in the future.
28:29Dia nak charge job I semua,
28:30silakan.
28:31Silakan.
28:31I buka.
28:32tapi I rasakan je,
28:33akan pening kepala sekali lah,
28:34sebenarnya lah.
28:35Betul.
28:36Sebab dia dah ada dua queen.
28:37Dia dah pening.
28:38Dia dah pening.
28:39Hari tu kan,
28:40tengah tengok TV,
28:42Nana lah,
28:43Nana tengah konkur TV,
28:44Nana macam,
28:45tak nak ni,
28:46tak nak ni,
28:46tak nak ni.
28:46Nak dekat 10 kali lah,
28:47dia tukar.
28:48End up dia nak benda yang first,
28:49dia minta.
28:50Doreen,
28:51my husband.
28:52Sayang,
28:53that's the first thing,
28:54she asked for just now.
28:55I cakap,
28:56I was your child.
28:57Your daughter is going to be,
28:58way more complicated.
28:59Be ready.
29:00Tapi kalau macam tu,
29:01dia ikut perangai,
29:02you ke boleh ikut perangai,
29:04Darin?
29:04Of course lah.
29:05Of course lah.
29:06Saya.
29:07Complicated ke apa ke.
29:09Saya.
29:10Dia rasa macam amaze tak,
29:11yang macam,
29:12oh mini me,
29:13sebiji perangai you.
29:14Dia,
29:14I boleh cakap ialah,
29:15muka dia 100% ikut husband I.
29:18Sedih,
29:18sikit lah.
29:19Sebab 9 bulan kita yang,
29:20you know,
29:20mengandung dia sama tu,
29:21keluar sebiji bapak dia,
29:23langsung tak nampak macam mami,
29:25tak apa,
29:25perangai dia sebiji I.
29:26And I like it.
29:27Itu kemenangan juga tu kan?
29:29A win.
29:29Like you can tell his features,
29:30but everything perangai dia,
29:31mummies.
29:33Padai muka you.
29:34Siapa suruh,
29:34dah ada dua orang dah kena hadap.
29:36Too queen lah you can harap.
29:37Dia boleh cakap,
29:38ya lah ya,
29:38apa lah ya,
29:40jadi ikut.
29:42I nak you bagi satu ucapan sweet
29:43dekat your family,
29:44your husband,
29:45and also dekat Lana.
29:46Maybe one day kan,
29:48Lana akan tengok,
29:48oh this is my mummy
29:49talking about me.
29:51Belum apa-apa lagi,
29:52I want to tak keluar.
29:53Okay.
29:54Okay.
29:54first of all,
29:58to my mum and dad lah,
29:59to my mum and dad,
30:00thank you for
30:01raising me the way I am,
30:03because
30:04without you guys,
30:05I would be nowhere
30:05to my husband.
30:07I've always been so proud
30:18of how hard you work
30:20for our family.
30:21You're the sole breadwinner.
30:22You get yourself out there,
30:24you do your freelancing,
30:25sometimes sampai malam pun
30:27you berjaga,
30:28buat kerja.
30:31You're all always seen.
30:32I've never not seen you,
30:33I've never not appreciated that.
30:35Thank you so much.
30:36Always kemas rumah juga,
30:37dejenis yang semua
30:37yang kemas rumah.
30:39Banyak sayang kepada you.
30:41A lot.
30:42And to my Ilana Dania.
30:46Mummy,
30:46Mummy minta maaf lah
30:47kalau mummy banyak kurang
30:49and mummy don't know
30:51what to do for you
30:52or how to take care of you.
30:54but I promise you that
30:55till the end of my life,
30:57I will always do
30:58my best for you.
31:00Tak pernah lah mummy
31:01hidup ni
31:02is for you.
31:04So,
31:04apa je mummy nak buat tu
31:06is
31:06to make sure that
31:07you get the best in life
31:08because that's what
31:09you deserve.
31:10So,
31:10I'm going to do that
31:11until
31:12you dah besar pun,
31:13dah kahwin pun,
31:15mummy will always
31:16be here for you.
31:17Never ever
31:17will be away from you.
31:19Sayang you.
31:20Kata-kata yang sangat
31:22buat saya sebab lah actually.
31:23sebelum kita
31:24dua-dua menangis
31:25dekat sini kan.
31:26Dimainkan.
31:27Ya,
31:27itu dah penghujung kita
31:28untuk episod kali ni.
31:30Sebenarnya banyak lagi
31:30benda yang nak borak
31:31dengan you.
31:32Boleh borak nanti.
31:33Tapi itulah masa
31:34macam burui.
31:35So,
31:36I think sampai sini sahaja
31:37episod kita kali ni
31:37bersama dengan
31:38Iman Wanzun.
31:39Jumpa lagi
31:40untuk episod akan datang
31:41siapa lagi
31:41Papa Hero atau Mama Devi
31:43yang kita akan bawa
31:44ke set kita kali ni.
31:45Jangan lupa saksikan
31:46dan bye-bye.
31:47Assalamualaikum.
31:48Bye-bye.
31:49Terima kasih kerana menonton.
31:54Terima kasih kerana menonton!
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