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Where's the discipline?! Rude back-chat, bedtime and mealtimes are just a few of the issues Supernanny must deal with. Will the Snack Box, Naughty Room and new family routine do the trick?
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00:00Tonight on Supernanny, Jo meets the Orm family, whose trio of wild boys run amok.
00:08She has two weeks to tame them, with a healthy dose of discipline.
00:15Come in, place him into the naughty room.
00:30Let's take a look and see who we have here.
00:49Hi, we're the Orm family. I'm Tammy.
00:52And I'm Sean.
00:53Sean and I, we met, and we were married in three months.
00:57One of those crazy whirlwind romances.
00:59Such a short amount of time, just the two of us, before Chandler came into the picture.
01:04We went from one to two boys.
01:07It wasn't that big of a change.
01:09But then the third really was a big jump.
01:14Sean goes to work every day.
01:16I'm the one that's there all the time, doing most of the discipline.
01:20Now, sit on your butt.
01:23I always feel like I'm getting pulled in different directions.
01:26You share with them, but they never share with me.
01:28We are here to talk about our three little boys.
01:37Chandler's biggest issue is respect.
01:40You know what I want to do now?
01:42Because of you.
01:43You clean up the toy room.
01:44No.
01:44The back talk.
01:45Chandler?
01:46No.
01:47It's all about the attitude.
01:48Caden's boy.
01:51He's always worn us out.
01:52In your popsicle.
01:54Caden, or.
01:57He won't eat anything with the family.
02:00He usually has to have another meal cooked for him.
02:04Honey, we're not having pre-pebbles for dinner.
02:06I make him something different almost every night.
02:09Caden obviously doesn't like his food.
02:11Declan.
02:11Declan.
02:13He's just a handful.
02:15Get out of my way.
02:17I'm starting to see little things that he does that are just mimics of his brother's behavior.
02:22I didn't.
02:24I didn't.
02:25No.
02:26What did you say?
02:27He is a little bit of a wanderer.
02:30He kind of has pre-raised in the neighborhood.
02:33Dex.
02:34Far too dangerous.
02:35I feel like if I don't get control now, I'm afraid of completely losing control later.
02:40We are asking for your help with our little guys.
02:44Please come and help the Orr family.
02:48Consider it done.
02:49I'm on my way.
03:03Hello.
03:04Pleased to meet you.
03:06You are so across.
03:06Joe, I'm Tammy.
03:07Today I met the Orr family.
03:10This is Caden.
03:11Hi, Caden.
03:12Pleased to meet you.
03:13Nice to meet you.
03:16Alice, that's Tamara over there.
03:18Hi, Tamara.
03:19How are you?
03:20Pleased to meet you.
03:21When she walked in the door, I was a little scared because she seemed like she had that sternness about her.
03:27Hiya.
03:28This is Declan.
03:29Hi, Declan.
03:30How are you?
03:30I'm going to shake my hand.
03:32Pleased to meet you.
03:33He's a little shy.
03:34He is a little bit shy.
03:35Tammy introduced me to her three sons and they're full of energy and, you know, definitely a handful.
03:42Tammy, what we're going to do today is I'm going to watch you and observe.
03:45Okay.
03:45So I want you to carry on as normal.
03:48Okay.
03:48I know you've got some, you know, issues that need to be addressed.
03:51Yeah, like the shoving.
03:52We'll get to the bottom of that and we'll find solutions.
03:55So I'm going to step back and just watch you as you normally would be, okay?
03:58Okay.
03:58Sounds good.
03:59All right.
03:59When I first meet a family, I observe their family life and the dynamics between parents
04:06and their children.
04:07I watch, I listen, and I take mental notes.
04:11I want paint.
04:13Well, you know, we'll paint in a minute.
04:15Let me just put one more load on my way and I'll be all done.
04:17And then I'm all yours.
04:18Within minutes of walking into the house, Chandler, who's eight, and Caden, who's six, started
04:25fighting.
04:25Ow!
04:30You are dead, me, Caden.
04:33They were hurting one another and then it became a lot more aggressive.
04:37Okay.
04:38Mom was oblivious.
04:48It was just madness.
04:51Caden, do you always step over your brother like that?
04:55Yeah.
04:55Do you?
04:56Yeah, always.
05:01Great.
05:03Which way is he going, honey?
05:04This way, right?
05:05Get the ball, get the ball.
05:06Oh, he's going for mine.
05:09So you've got to hit it this way.
05:10Play with your brother for a little bit, honey, okay?
05:14I need your help.
05:15Honey, who are you going to play with?
05:16Mommy can't play.
05:21Where's Caden?
05:22I don't know.
05:23Caden?
05:24Honey?
05:28Caden, who's six years old, nobody knows where he is.
05:36Whoa, are you going to show him?
05:38Where's Caden and Declan now?
05:41And Declan, who's three years old, he goes missing.
05:46Does that normally happen, Tammy?
05:48Yeah, because they all run outside and especially with Declan, because he never tells me if he's
05:52leaving, that I'll be running around the neighborhood searching everywhere for him.
05:55That's bloody crazy.
06:00Where's Declan?
06:01Declan!
06:02Today, Declan went missing.
06:04My word, I thought I was going to have a heart attack because we couldn't find him.
06:07Where's Declan?
06:08Mom hasn't got a clue where her sons are.
06:13I could not believe the situation we were in.
06:16Where's Declan, Tammy?
06:17Where's your little brother?
06:18Hey, but, oh, honey.
06:27No, no.
06:31That's not good.
06:32Did Declan just have those scissors?
06:33Yes.
06:35Weird.
06:36I dread to think what that boy could have done with a pair of scissors in his hands, and
06:41yet there was no discipline for taking the scissors in the first place.
06:46Tammy needs to get assertive herself and take responsibility as a mother to look after her
06:51three boys.
06:51One of the big issues in the Orme family is eating.
07:00They do nothing but constantly snack throughout the day.
07:14That can make them hyperactive, and then they're going to lose their appetite, and they're not
07:18going to want any of their meals.
07:21Sean came home at lunchtime, and it was good to see him.
07:32Did you do you at lunchtime?
07:34No.
07:35Well, my job takes me away on a lot of trips, so I'm kind of like, hopefully somebody from
07:40the outside can tell us what each one of us is doing wrong.
07:45All right, little boys of mine.
07:46Here you go, baby.
07:47No, you want a whole or a half?
07:49This is normal.
07:56I ran out of turkey, honey.
08:04Today at lunchtime, Caden decided that he didn't want to eat the sandwich that Tammy had prepared
08:10for all the other children, and he kicked up a fuss.
08:13Caden.
08:14You're being ridiculous, honey.
08:16You don't get any food.
08:18All right, just forget it.
08:19I'll just...
08:20What do you want?
08:22You want a turkey sandwich?
08:23I'll make him turkey.
08:28I just don't think that she's strict enough, and she thinks I'm too strict.
08:33Caden didn't want to eat his sandwich.
08:35Dad said he had to, and Mum went and made another sandwich.
08:40They've got different approaches, and they need to come together.
08:43What would you say that you disagree on some of the issues?
08:46I think he yells too much.
08:47That's big.
08:48Number one for me.
08:50He yells too much.
08:50I don't think she does enough when they're doing something wrong in front of her.
08:53So when you come home, you mean that you don't think she...
08:56When we're together in the car or whatever, I mean, they'll be throwing something while
08:59she's driving or I'm driving.
09:01Yeah.
09:01And she'll just sit there and talk or read a magazine and not do anything about it.
09:05But you want silence.
09:07Like, I mean, if they even, like, you know, Mum, they're like, I told you to be quiet.
09:11I'm like, gosh, she was just asking me something.
09:20Chandler!
09:21Tammy doesn't hold authority with her children.
09:24They don't look at her with any respect.
09:28Chandler!
09:29Come on.
09:30Don't teach me.
09:32Tammy, come on.
09:35Come on, sweetie.
09:37Oh, look who's coming.
09:38Oh, cool.
09:39Street Watcher.
09:39We need it.
09:41I hope they come down here all the time.
09:44Chandler's eight years old and he smart mouths his mother all the time.
09:49And I think that's very disrespectful.
09:51Huh?
09:53Chandler!
09:54Honey!
09:56I don't need that kind of attitude from you.
10:01Tammy pleads with her children to do stuff that they should be doing.
10:05Yes, Kaden.
10:06Yeah!
10:07Chandler, honey, don't yell at me, sweetheart.
10:10Stop, baby.
10:11Let me stay and fix it.
10:12Kaden, stop!
10:14She pegs them.
10:15It's cringing to watch.
10:17Please?
10:19Put it back up for Mommy.
10:20Stick it in there.
10:23Kaden.
10:23There also seems to be a lot of chaos and it seems very hectic in the household.
10:30We are in the middle of baking cookies.
10:33At one stage, Declan had his hands in the oven because they were cooking cookies and next minute...
10:39Oh, here he is.
10:41He's catching bugs.
10:42Kaden was outside the house and nobody knew where he was.
10:45And now she's got two children that are in the house, one of them being three years old, which could have his hands in the stove looking for the cookies.
10:52But Mum wouldn't know because she's out here collecting bugs.
10:58Crazy.
10:58Did you poke holes in the cookies?
11:05Oh, you did poke holes in the cookies, didn't you?
11:08Mum was really trying to multitask and manage looking after all three boys, which she was struggling with.
11:17Tammy?
11:19Come through.
11:21Look at this.
11:22I'm so tired.
11:23This is Mummy on the floor.
11:25It's just got a little bit out of hand, to be honest, in the house.
11:29The children are ruling roost.
11:33When I first meet a family, I go in and I observe their family life and the dynamics between parents and their children.
11:44I take mental notes throughout the day of what I feel is not working.
11:48And at the end of the evening, I sit down and I talk to the parents about what I've observed throughout the day.
11:57Joe, when we were waiting for her to talk to us, the longer I waited, the more nervous I got.
12:05I'm super sensitive in the area of my kids and my job as a mother.
12:10I'm definitely nervous.
12:12I don't know what to expect.
12:13I would like to say to the both of you that you couldn't find a home as warm as the home that I've walked into.
12:21And without a doubt, the love and the praise that you give your boys in abundance is really a beautiful thing.
12:30Also, I'd like to talk about the things that I'm not too happy about.
12:38Discipline needs to be a must.
12:41There is a lack of discipline on your behalf, Tammy.
12:45You're constantly trying to convince them that they should listen to you.
12:50And you're the mum.
12:52You're in charge.
12:54And there is discipline on your side, Sean, which seems so much firmer and sterner where you're more relaxed.
13:06And because no one's being consistent, the children are getting mixed messages.
13:11Chandler is a boy who smartmouths.
13:16He's rude when he smartmouths back to you.
13:19He doesn't respect by the way that he talks to you.
13:24Declan, a smart three-year-old.
13:27You know, the day is coming bad when you're walking out into the front yard and your child has got a pair of scissors.
13:35And you're thanking your lucky stars that you weren't dealing with something more serious.
13:41Caden, for example, won't eat his lunch, as we know, or his dinner.
13:48And your complete fear as a mother that your children are going to starve makes you act impulsively.
13:56Now, I'm sitting here and I'm watching you feel upset because, you know what I truly believe that I'm seeing here?
14:07It's a woman that is taking all of this blame as guilt.
14:14That you feel guilty, Tammy, if you have to discipline your children.
14:19That you feel that you won't be any closer than what you are to put your foot down.
14:26And let me tell you something, Sean.
14:34Your wife's tired.
14:36She's struggling.
14:38And she needs your help.
14:40She does need your help.
14:41I want to be a super mom, where I take on everything and I've...
14:51Sorry, honey.
14:54Yeah.
14:55Hey.
14:56I've never asked him to help me very much.
15:01And he's kind of gotten used to that.
15:04I'm sorry.
15:06Come here.
15:06He goes to work every day, earns a living.
15:11I get to stay home with the kids.
15:12He gets home and he's tired.
15:14And, um...
15:15You don't work.
15:17You work, Tammy.
15:18Oh, hell, you work.
15:19You work every day.
15:22You two come together and change your parenting techniques and change your behavior pattern.
15:27Your children will change their behavior pattern.
15:30And we are going to go through routines and techniques.
15:35Oh, we're going to make this better.
15:36So you don't think it's too late to backtrack?
15:39It's never too late.
15:40No.
15:40It's never too late.
15:41My word.
15:42It's never too late.
15:44Okay.
15:46Jo, she's definitely straightforward.
15:49So, and the combination of that and me being emotional and me taking so much pride in my job,
15:57it was a little overwhelming.
15:59There was nothing that Jo said that I disagreed with at all.
16:05Hello.
16:09Hey, Jo.
16:11Hiya.
16:12I've got a routine.
16:13Uh-oh.
16:13The routine I felt the house needed because it was very chaotic and it gives a very solid
16:21foundation here and structure for your children, which they do need.
16:25It's definitely going to take some getting used to because it's been eight years of running
16:33things this way.
16:34I wasn't expecting a routine chart to come out.
16:37I thought, oh my gosh, when does she have time to put my whole life on a chart?
16:40When she pulled out the list of routines, I thought, oh boy, I'm back in the military
16:45here, you know.
16:46I've put here snack time, which I think is very reasonable because lunch was at 12.30.
16:52Kids come home from school and they're hungry.
16:56So, I want you to make that snack time for all of the children.
17:01Okay?
17:01Before I start teaching my techniques, I lay out a set of rules of what behaviour is acceptable
17:08and what behaviour is not acceptable.
17:11What I wanted to talk to you all about was household rules.
17:17Okay, which I think are very important.
17:20No more hitting one another because I know that you brothers all love each other very, very
17:26much.
17:28When mummy cooks a meal, I want you all to behave well and eat your dinner or your lunch.
17:36Sean and Tammy, when you see behaviour that's not acceptable, I would like you to give your
17:40children a warning and tell them, no, stop that behaviour, it's not acceptable.
17:47If you don't stop your behaviour and your behaviour carries on to be naughty, then mummy will put you
17:54into the naughty room.
17:56I would like to use the downstairs bedroom as the naughty room.
18:02Okay?
18:03Yeah, are we nodding?
18:04I think.
18:05Are you nodding?
18:06Yeah.
18:06I think it's good.
18:08Kaden, he's going to be Joe's challenge for this whole thing because he's a stubborn little
18:13guy.
18:18I'm really concerned about how the boys become overaggressive when they play.
18:23That does need to stop.
18:24Hey, Declan, other beautiful picture.
18:32Kaden and Declan were painting and Kaden took a swipe at Declan.
18:38That's just not acceptable.
18:39Can we let him dry?
18:40No, no, no, no.
18:40Kaden had already been warned by Tammy not to hit his brother, so he got sent off to the
18:49naughty room.
18:50Tammy, we can come down.
18:52Okay.
18:53Give them eye contact.
18:59Lower your tone so that you're being firm and authoritative and place him into the naughty
19:04room for that unacceptable behaviour.
19:06Do you hit your brother?
19:08No.
19:08Did I already give you one warning today?
19:10You have to go sit in the naughty room right now.
19:14Come on, look at me.
19:15Without the attitude for six minutes.
19:19Explain to him why he put me in the room.
19:21You're in this room because...
19:22Kaden, you're in this room because Mommy warned you not to hit your brothers.
19:29Let's go, you guys.
19:30Out.
19:31So whilst Kaden's in the naughty room, he's going to have time to think about his naughty behaviour.
19:36It felt good to put Joe's teachings into place.
19:39Normally, it's me screaming, Kaden, knock it off.
19:43I didn't lose it.
19:44I felt so in control.
19:45I did what I had to do.
19:46I did what she told me.
19:50It's time now that you could go and get Kaden.
19:53Remember to say to him, Mommy, put you in this room because you hit your brother.
19:56It's now time to come out and I'd like you to go and apologise to your brother, please.
20:00If he says, no, I don't want to do it, then he stays in there.
20:02He stays in there.
20:04Do you know why you were in this room?
20:06What happened?
20:09For what?
20:11Yeah, is it nice to hit your brother?
20:13Can you please go and apologise to Declan and give him a hug and say you're sorry?
20:19Tammy did really, really well.
20:21She followed through to the T and it worked.
20:27The boys love to snack on loads of junk food and that can make them hyperactive.
20:33And then they're going to lose their appetite and they're not going to want any of their meals.
20:37In order to stop the boys from helping themselves to all the snacks, I've brought in a snack box.
20:41You can most definitely take that into the pantry and clear up all your snacks and put them in there.
20:48Okay.
20:48The purpose of having the snack box is so that the boys don't feed on those snacks throughout the whole day
20:55so that they don't want to eat come lunchtime or dinnertime.
20:58Oh, I see lots of things that could go in this box.
21:01There's enough for the whole army.
21:12Put them in.
21:16There it is.
21:18Come and take a look.
21:19The snack box.
21:21Okay, you guys.
21:22Come and take a look.
21:52Let's see how much more she wants him to eat.
21:54First, I want you to eat this meat and then I want you to have one bite of corn.
22:00Just a bite.
22:01Oh, he's got to have the big bite like you said and then he can get done.
22:03Finish this meat and you have to take a bite of corn.
22:06Let's not still address that situation again.
22:08Let's finish that meat up, please.
22:10Something you're doing.
22:11Finish that meat right there.
22:12I'll get the corn.
22:14Get away, babe.
22:15Don't forget about that word.
22:16Let's eat that one bite of corn.
22:18Keep on in. Keep on in.
22:19Kaden was still resisting to eat and so I taught Sean how to sit by example.
22:26Show and tell.
22:26Check it out.
22:27Dad's going to get his bite.
22:29Get your bite.
22:30Get yours.
22:31Do it together.
22:32It's a teamwork.
22:32One, two, three, go.
22:39That a boy.
22:40Good boy.
22:40Woohoo.
22:41Way to go, babe.
22:41That's my boy.
22:43At least you tried that.
22:44When we first sat down together, yeah, I probably did doubt Jo's ability and the knowledge that
22:51she had of kids, you know, that was proven wrong.
22:55I mean, Kaden did a 180.
22:57Very proud of you.
22:57I'm super proud of you, honey.
22:59I think it's wonderful.
23:00It's the same place for them all.
23:02How well they're doing.
23:03And I'd like to say well done to mom and dad.
23:06This evening, dad sat down to do homework with Chandler.
23:16I'm trying to be there for my wife when, you know, when she needs help.
23:20It's not going to be easy.
23:21Okay, so you need to think of a sentence.
23:24Chan, pay attention to your work.
23:27Yeah.
23:28As they were doing the homework, I could visibly see that Chandler was getting upset.
23:33Don't look at me.
23:34This is your work, honey.
23:35I don't know, bud.
23:37Shall I have a look?
23:38Shall I suggest something?
23:40Let's have a look.
23:41Sit down, darling.
23:42Let's have a look.
23:43Hey, hey.
23:45Chan, we're not going to do this.
23:48Sometimes children bottle up what they're feeling inside and what you get is a secondary emotion
23:54and sometimes that comes out physical with attitude or with aggression.
23:58Can I ask you why you feel really upset?
24:01Do you want to talk to Jojo and tell me and then we'll work through it together?
24:07I'm just not happy.
24:08You're not happy?
24:10Then you tell me why you're not happy.
24:12I don't know.
24:13I just don't want to say it.
24:15Why is that, darling?
24:16How do you know it?
24:17God, I just don't want to work with mom anyways.
24:20Is there any reason why you like to do it with mom and not dad?
24:24Because dad yells at me sometimes.
24:26Did I yell at you?
24:28You yelled at me in the first grade.
24:30Okay, listen to that because that's valid.
24:32Okay?
24:34How does that make you feel when dad yells at you?
24:37It makes me mad.
24:40I'm very pleased that you've said how it makes you feel because that's important.
24:45Okay, Chan?
24:46That's important.
24:47So no yelling, daddy, okay?
24:49Okay.
24:49No yelling.
24:50Like, I do much better with, like, a line.
24:53Did you ask me in love?
24:54Do you want to write the sentence by yourself?
24:56Yeah.
24:56Okay.
24:57When Chandler told me how he was feeling during homework, um, it really, truly just tore me
25:03up inside, you know, because I sure in the heck don't want my son, you know, not being
25:07able to ask me a question because I yelled at him last year over something in homework.
25:11It was an eye-opener, you know?
25:13It didn't feel good at all.
25:14And Chandler was saying that he felt that you yelled at him and made him feel upset when
25:20he was doing his homework, which put pressure on him.
25:22Yeah.
25:22So I want to open up that doorway.
25:24So if I can get you to call Chandler in and just say, you know, buddy, I'm sorry if I made
25:29you feel that way, but I really want to be able to help you do your homework sometimes.
25:34Hey, Chan.
25:36Hey, dude.
25:37Come here.
25:38Dad wants to talk to you.
25:40Yeah.
25:40Dad doesn't want you to feel like, um, that, you know, that I'm yelling at you or anything.
25:46And I'm sorry that you think.
25:48I know I used to, honey, but Daddy's going to change that, okay?
25:50Okay.
25:51If you ever feel that way again, you need to tell me, okay?
25:53Okay.
25:54Right when we're doing your homework.
25:55Sure.
25:56All right?
25:56I love you.
26:00Good job.
26:02Huh?
26:03Thanks.
26:03So I'm gone now for a while and Tammy and Sean have to do it on their own because I can't
26:11be around forever.
26:12I hope while I'm away that Tammy and Sean remember the details of the techniques that
26:17I've taught them.
26:18Take care.
26:19All right.
26:19Have a good night.
26:20Bye-bye.
26:20See you later.
26:21Bye.
26:21Bye-bye.
26:21Bye-bye.
26:24On our own.
26:25Oh.
26:27I think Joe's got us pretty close to trained and we'll find out.
26:31I just hope that they stick with it a hundred percent and whilst they're doing it, I'm going
26:37to be watching them.
26:42That thing?
26:43Here.
26:43Yeah.
26:44I'm not eating these.
26:45Tammy's got to make sure that when it comes to Caden's eating time, that it doesn't go on
26:51forever.
26:52That's what Caden's good at.
26:53Game playing with mum and stalling the whole situation.
26:57But I'll give you two dollars.
26:59No, we're not giving him money.
27:00He has to take a bite.
27:02You could either spend the good hour that we have of playtime playing or you could spend
27:09it at the table, which doesn't sound like a lot of fun to me, waiting to eat a bite
27:14of beans.
27:16Mom, don't buy into it.
27:18He's playing you.
27:19No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
27:23no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
27:24If you take a bite and you don't like it, then mommy won't give you pork and beans anymore,
27:29but you need to try it this is absurd what is going on
27:49homework time he looks stressed chandra really looks stressed
27:53do you remember that word the tricky one because it looks like a u but it says
27:56you flute it come on baby chandler do you please do homework with me i am
28:09you had a busy day today yeah yeah you're mad because you had a busy day today why would you
28:16take that on me baby i told you last night that you had a lot of homework today come on tammy
28:24get in control of this situation just like all the other kids out there honey they have homework too
28:30you know why i want to do it alone because you oh here we go attitude i tried to start this out
28:36nicely but if you're gonna have this attitude with me this is your warning are you gonna read this
28:41with me all right go into the naughty room no homework getting done tonight that's for sure
28:57chandler has given me a few challenging moments let's go do homework nicely yeah i feel like i have no
29:06control you're not gonna go do homework nicely i can't regain the control that i need whoa slamming
29:14doors again i'm done chandler i think it's hard for tammy having to manage all three boys
29:24oh my god where is anybody to look after declan nobody knows he's even outside the house this is too
29:37dangerous the car oh that's it i need to get back to the orm family now
29:46after i've left the household i go away for a couple of days and when i come back i show the family footage
29:54of where they need to perfect the techniques that they have found difficult whilst i've been away
30:02okay
30:06i'm only asking for one bite honey one bite is all i ask
30:14right and there that is where i would have stopped the nonsense your low voice should have come in and
30:21it should have been caden sit at the table properly and finish the two spoonfuls otherwise
30:26you're going into the naughty room because you are not listening to me okay
30:31just like all the other kids out there honey they have homework too
30:34okay oh i'm done you both lost oh i was so done oh jo i was so done i was so frustrated the pair of you
30:47were like this ready to pull your hair out so your firm voice could have come in with do not give me
30:52attitude do not talk to me like that if you stay calm then you can address the situations that do need to
30:59be addressed with his attitude and how he speaks to you but then you can go come on let's get it done
31:05so then we can go and we can relax and hang out together afterwards
31:07i'm not happy with watching declan move out on his own in the street you see the height of declan in
31:21comparison to the car he walks straight out on the road behind this parked car and there could have been
31:29a car and he's in the middle of the road that's to me you know my mind wouldn't even imagine what could
31:39happen to declan out on the street while you're indoors and that is why i feel that you have to
31:47supervise declan because he's too young you've got to be on top of that situation the pair of you
31:54okay is that clear okay we've looked through the footage and i'm gonna stick around and support you
32:03and reinforce all the techniques okay okay so you can carry me even
32:11i have bought a door lock okay what i would like to establish is your awareness of where the children
32:18are i think it's a very good idea that they start coming to you and asking you if they can go out
32:25okay
32:29all right you can hold that
32:34there we go okay mommy i want you to explain to your boys why that locks on the door and what do you
32:41expect from them this lock is on the door because while we're in the house and you guys want to decide
32:46do you want to go out and play i need you to come and say mommy i'm going to play outside and tell me
32:52where you're going this especially goes to you brilliant tammy excellent now the boys have to come to you
33:03tonight the orm family had a barbecue and they invited their friends
33:06as usual kaden was resisting to eat his food again
33:16have you taken bites well you just have to sit here until you take those bites okay you've just
33:21got to have a couple of spoonfuls to try for mommy and then you can get down look at me i'm giving you
33:27one more minute to take a bite of that and if you don't take a bite of that you're going to go into
33:31the naughty room i could see now that's a control thing and he's going to eat it i was catering too
33:36much
33:39there we go where to go kaden where to go darling kaden ate what i told him to eat i think he knew
33:45that we were serious and we were firm he's getting the picture hats off to tammy she did really well
33:51she followed through with it and she got the results and it was very successful i was very proud of
33:55her come here my household is so different everything is running more smoothly there's no
34:06there's not as much chaos in the house kaden's eating his dinner he doesn't come in and out of
34:12the pantry 500 times a day we're super proud of you honey that was the best dinner everybody else has
34:20ever had how to be a ranger good that was very good there's been a big change in chandler his
34:29attitude is improving it's not supposed to have two teams like now chandler wants to do homework with
34:36sean and declan's gotten used to playing in the house it's a huge difference there has been a
34:45tremendous amount of progress with the orm family tammy's got more control over situations when she's
34:53managing all three boys and both parents they've like connected and come together and they're working
35:00on the same page all right watching sean with the boys it's amazing it's good for the boys to bond with
35:11their dad like that okay you want a green guy yes progress is happening slowly but surely and that's
35:20what counts and that makes me feel very very happy for them take care everything is so awesome i mean i
35:30can't even tell you how much help us well thank you they were open from the beginning they were warm they
35:38were receptive they wanted change and they deserve every result they're getting every result because
35:47they put the hard work in and it's lovely to walk into a house and see what needs changing and to walk
35:54out and see it changed that's priceless priceless i've done what i was meant to do here in this family and
36:02uh i'm off to the next one now everything has changed this is more than i expected to actually see her
36:22come in here and work wonders on our family was more than i could have ever hoped for it was an amazing
36:30experience for for all of us since joe's been around i think the biggest difference in our family
36:35is we're much closer even though we were a tight family it's just seeming like we've came together
36:42even snugger you know kind of put some sealant around the window basically
36:49i am happy that joe came in i'm so happy but i'm so sad because i'm gonna miss it
36:54there you go double that okay start at that top right there it's fun with joe but i missed her
37:09she's made me i would say be a better father you know and and help my kids act proper you know what
37:18she's gonna reflect onto them and pass it on to their kids one day joe made a big difference forever
37:24i mean on how these kids are gonna turn into three six and eight year olds into grown men and they're
37:31gonna be raising their kids and be better parents because of what joe taught us it's it's a chain i
37:37mean not only did she affect our life but she can affect my children's life that's that's an amazing
37:42thing to do for somebody for all of us
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