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Supernanny will help families get their behavior back on track- but it won’t be easy!! 😭 Expect lots of extreme tantrums, fighting kids and broken rules!
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00:00Well, I wonder who's going to be waiting for me this week.
00:03Hi, we're the Dre family.
00:05I'm Donna.
00:06And I'm Bella Jo.
00:07We have three kids.
00:09Josie's almost five.
00:10What's up?
00:11Jared and Justin are twin boys.
00:13They're three and a half.
00:15Stop.
00:17Stop and go to the living room.
00:21I find it difficult to actually control all three of them when they're together.
00:26Josie, don't kick now.
00:30You cannot turn your back against them.
00:32You know, somebody's going to be doing something dangerous.
00:35Josie, get down.
00:36Now.
00:37The kids go absolutely wild.
00:39They go outside.
00:40Let's get in the truck.
00:43Don't blow the horn.
00:45Just corralling the kids is a very difficult chore because you cannot focus on your task at hand.
00:50Josie, Justin, y'all got to stay with Daddy.
00:54It's absolutely impossible to do a complete job.
00:57These kids are not even listening to Dad's.
01:00We never took a vacation together as a family.
01:04We actually just bought a new camper to actually try to go camping.
01:08Hey, hey, Justin.
01:10We want to utilize the camper at least once a month, you know, as they get away.
01:14But then you're sort of scared about it because there's, you know, you can't control them at home.
01:19How could you actually control them at a campsite?
01:23You being ugly?
01:27Mimi is actually the kid's grandmother.
01:29She's my mother.
01:30She's actually here all the time.
01:32Good morning.
01:33She comes in the mornings at 7 o'clock.
01:36She gets them out of bed.
01:38She brushes her teeth.
01:39We could actually not, you know, go day to day without Mimi's help.
01:45Do you see my eyes?
01:46You see I am mad?
01:49Look at here.
01:50Mimi, what about the discipline?
01:54We need some guidance.
01:57We need some structure.
02:01Where we can actually, you know, help keep our kids under control.
02:04We fully understand that we need to modify our behavior as well as our kids modifying theirs.
02:13Super nanny, we really need your help.
02:17Looks like everybody needs a vacation.
02:19I better get on my way.
02:28Hello.
02:29Come on in.
02:30Pleased to meet you.
02:31Pleased to meet you.
02:32The door opens and I probably look really silly when I opened it because I was so nervous when she came in.
02:37Can I have a hug?
02:38Yeah.
02:39Oh my gosh, it's so nice to meet you.
02:41Hi Jo, I'm Billy Jo.
02:42Pleased to meet you.
02:43Billy Jo, pleased to meet you.
02:44Who have we got here?
02:45We've got Josie.
02:47How old are you, Josie?
02:49Four.
02:49This is Jared.
02:51I've got Justin.
02:52Jared and this is?
02:53Justin.
02:54This is Justin.
02:55Hi, Justin.
02:56I'm going to be here observing the family.
02:59I'm just taking down some mental notes.
03:02And I'll ask questions if necessary.
03:04Okay.
03:07The children had just finished breakfast and it was time for them to get their teeth brushed.
03:14Justin, Justin.
03:15We've got to brush our teeth.
03:17Now.
03:18I don't want to.
03:20Come on.
03:21All right, do you want to stand up?
03:23Do you want to stand up?
03:25No.
03:25Or do you want to lay down?
03:26How about that lady?
03:27I don't want to lay down.
03:28And I noticed that mum started to prop up pillows and I wondered what the pillows had to do with teeth brushing.
03:34And I soon found out that actually what she does is force the kids down onto the pillow so she can really ram this toothbrush down their throats to get their teeth brushed.
03:50I mean, it really is a frightening experience for these children having their teeth brushed.
03:54Oh, somebody's coming.
03:57Wow.
03:59Get your clothes on.
04:00Hey, my baby.
04:01And in walks grandma and I can tell that she was a character right out of the south.
04:06Here we go.
04:07No, we ain't going to keep.
04:08What are you doing to me?
04:10Okay.
04:10Can we stop playing and get ready?
04:17So after they've had breakfast, they then go from this house over to yours.
04:22And it's that a daily occurrence.
04:24They're out of school.
04:25When they're out of school.
04:26So we went across to Mimi's house.
04:29See you later.
04:29Okay.
04:30Whilst mum and dad went off to work and grandma looked after the kids.
04:34Mimi isn't alone.
04:35In America, 12 million toddlers are looked after by their grandparents whilst their parents go off to work.
04:43So, Mimi, this is your home.
04:44This is really their playroom, isn't it?
04:47This area here.
04:48Mm-hmm.
04:49They are my heart.
04:52I live for these young'uns.
04:54Mimi likes to help the family.
04:56And, of course, it's very convenient for mum and dad.
04:59You spend a lot of time, obviously, you know, co-caring, you know, being a part of their life.
05:04I have to, because they've my heart.
05:10Hey, hey, you want to go to the chair, little man?
05:13And after a few minutes, the kids started to act up.
05:16Well, there may be Mimi's heart, but I was afraid they were going to give Mimi a heart attack.
05:23Come on, buddy.
05:24You done pushed it to the limit.
05:26The family are trying to implement the naughty chair.
05:29Mommy, please do it!
05:31And yet, every time, they were holding the kids down.
05:34You can't get up then if you're not going to talk to me.
05:37Talking to the children, not keeping them on the chair for the correct amount of time.
05:42I'm going to wear him down and he's going to mind me.
05:45So they're not doing the steps properly and they're not getting the results because of that.
05:49And then Gerard hit his sister and Mimi was left having to wrangle both the kids.
05:58Come on.
05:59Come on.
06:00Well, I'm sorry.
06:05I don't really know whether to feel sorry for Mimi or really laugh at the situation.
06:10Is it funny?
06:11There was this older woman stretched out on the floor looking like she was doing some yoga
06:15position, holding a foot and a hand at the same time.
06:19This is the discipline, is it?
06:20I can't put them in a chair because they'll run from me.
06:24Right.
06:24It was madness to watch.
06:27But this is serious.
06:28I mean, let's face it.
06:30Grandma's no spring chicken.
06:31She could seriously hurt herself.
06:33Normally, they listen to me better than this.
06:46Later on in the afternoon, the family decided to go out for a walk and it was a lovely opportunity
06:51for me to be able to see exactly how they are with the kids when they are out of their
06:56own home.
06:57Come here, buddy.
06:58Josie, stay safe.
07:00They've got these kids on a serious, tight, tight rope.
07:04Hey, hey, hey.
07:05Be safe.
07:06I wouldn't be comfortable coming this way with them and being able to control them.
07:12Why is that?
07:14Because of that right there.
07:17The greats are on their own property and yet they are freaking out that they are having
07:23to go outside their doorstep and take their kids on their own land.
07:26I mean, how crazy is that?
07:30I want to get down.
07:32All right, I'll let you down in just a second.
07:35Why is he crying, Donna?
07:37He's crying because I'm toting him.
07:39Justin.
07:40Why can't I hold your hand?
07:41Just come on.
07:43Be safe, Josie.
07:44Justin, will you not leave us?
07:45Justin.
07:47Justin.
07:47How are you feeling right now?
07:48Just sort of kind of wondering what they're going to do.
07:53I mean, because they've already gone so far away from us now.
07:57Can y'all stop?
07:58I don't see what's so unsafe about them running around on their own property.
08:03Kids need to be supervised, but these children are way too overprotected.
08:07Such beautiful land and yet troublesome to actually enjoy it.
08:15We never get out to explore because this is demonstrated today they get away from you.
08:21It's no big secret that I'm here to help the family go on vacation.
08:25And so I wanted to see where their camper was.
08:28So we've never took this one out.
08:29We've just recently got this one.
08:30This was the first time that they were considering going away in their brand new camper and they
08:37were dead nervous about doing so.
08:40What is it as parents that you feel is troublesome in getting you in that camper and having a holiday
08:49together?
08:50They're going here and there and you're constantly at a distance screaming and hollering at them,
08:54telling them to come back.
08:55Right, so the fear is then wandering off again then?
08:58Anything that actually could danger something that could happen.
09:03So I'd seen the family outside the house and how close they had the kids on a tight rein.
09:09And I realized the same stuff was going on inside the house as well.
09:13Where did Josie go?
09:15Josie, Justin.
09:16Justin, let me follow her.
09:18Okay.
09:19Are you got any?
09:20I was surprised at how much the children are kept in line.
09:26Don't turn it off and on.
09:28You're going to get electrocuted one day, son.
09:32Sissy, out of your bedroom.
09:33You haven't made a big enough mess.
09:35Josie, don't carry that baby to the living room.
09:37Does that dolly stay in here?
09:39Yes, ma'am.
09:39They've already pulled some flowers and stuff off of it.
09:42So we don't usually let her play in there in the living room with any of her stuff.
09:46The stuff that's all here, for example, these are things she can play with?
09:49She holds it, but, you know, in here, but she usually don't go to the living room because
09:55somebody will end up messing it up.
09:57Mom has them on a very tight, invisible rein.
10:02And these kids are suffocated for it.
10:04It's a point in living that dolly if you can't play with it.
10:06That's making them want to rebel in every way that they can.
10:22Get down.
10:23You know you could have broke your neck.
10:25I could see how badly the Drakes needed a vacation.
10:28So it's my goal to give these parents the confidence in their own discipline
10:34so they can take their camper away on holiday.
10:36You're not going back in there.
10:39These are good parents.
10:40They're good people.
10:42But they need to loosen up a little.
10:45But first things first, I need to sit down with this family
10:48and have a meeting so we can get on holiday.
10:55So Donna, Billy Joe, your efforts as parents have been noticed.
11:04They really have.
11:05But I'd like to talk about the control issue with the pair of you.
11:11And that shows itself in the secondary behaviour that we see from the kids.
11:16Because then they start to answer back.
11:19You see them become defiant.
11:21Because they can't change that.
11:23Because two big parents are controlling everything.
11:27It's like big brother, bam.
11:29To the kids, it just seems like you're upset with them all the time
11:32by the way that you're talking to them.
11:35Yesterday, we were on your property.
11:39They got a few feet ahead of you and you guys panicked.
11:42It's just that wondering what they might do, you know.
11:45Take another step forward.
11:45They'd rather take 20 seconds of running wild like a horse and being pulled in
11:51than not knowing when it's never going to come next.
11:54In order for you to let go of some of that control,
11:57it means that you're going to have to loosen up a little bit.
12:00Have a little bit of fun.
12:01You're so busy trying to control everything
12:03that you're not seeing the opportunities of where you can have fun with the kids
12:08and have fun on vacation.
12:11That wouldn't be nice.
12:12It would.
12:13Very much so.
12:14So, let's talk about teeth.
12:17It was just a little bit strange, to say the least.
12:21The head being swung back to the pillow,
12:23then being chained down to the sofa, which is absolutely crazy.
12:27What made you not even think to put a toothbrush in their hand?
12:32I just didn't want them to have rotten teeth.
12:34I mean, so many kids do.
12:35But the way that you do it takes all the fun out of it
12:39and it becomes a control issue.
12:41Of course, we want to make sure it's done properly
12:44but we've got to allow our children to be able to do it themselves.
12:48Mimi.
12:50Let's talk about Mimi.
12:52She certainly helps us keep her head above water.
12:56We depend on her a lot.
12:58Those kids have got a wonderful grandma.
13:00There's no doubt about that.
13:02But, you know, there are run circles around her
13:04and she's on the floor doing like a yoga position,
13:07bent over, stretching one kid while she's stretching another.
13:10So, I think really we need to get Mimi up to speed with discipline
13:13and if you're all on the same page,
13:15nobody can run circles around anyone.
13:17Right.
13:17And until we address the issues that we have here in the house,
13:22that lovely brand new camper you've got outside waiting to be christened,
13:26it's just going to sit out there and collect moss.
13:29If in home there's rules and boundaries,
13:34it's going to be the same in the camper.
13:36All we do is keep things flexible and downsize everything
13:40so that you can both feel really confident
13:42in being able to go away with your kids and have a family vacation
13:45and say, that was great.
13:47When can we do it again?
13:48So, are we ready for a vacation or not?
13:51We're ready.
13:51We're ready.
13:52So, let's get cracking and get some work done, right?
13:54Good deal.
14:02I just wouldn't dream of sending this family out on a vacation
14:05until they've got a few techniques underneath the belt.
14:08What we are going to do is to do our first technique
14:10because we're going on vacation, right?
14:12We're going on vacation!
14:15Brushing teeth is a nightmare in the morning.
14:17The kids don't want to do it.
14:18They don't enjoy the experience.
14:20It's not fun.
14:21And between the kids not wanting to do it
14:23and half being choked with a toothbrush,
14:25it needed to change.
14:26So, this is what we're going to do, okay?
14:29Something very simple for brushing teeth.
14:32We're going to give them their own portable mirrors
14:35because not only are they going to do it here,
14:38they're going to do it when they're on the road as well,
14:40on their vacation.
14:41We are going to sing a song.
14:42Twinkle, twinkle, little star?
14:44Jared loves to sing that.
14:45Yeah.
14:46So, Mum's going to sing it this time, okay?
14:48Twice.
14:49And that's the amount of time
14:50that we want them to brush their teeth.
14:52We want them to do it by themselves
14:53because they can do it really well
14:55and they can see themselves do it as well.
14:58Mommy's going to sing a nursery rhyme
15:00and when Mommy sings it,
15:02we're actually going to start brushing our teeth
15:04and looking in our mirror.
15:05Can everybody see themselves?
15:07Yeah!
15:07Can you see yourself?
15:08Just done.
15:09Brush your teeth.
15:09Twinkle, twinkle, little star.
15:10Brush your teeth when Mama sings.
15:13Allowing these kids for the first time
15:14to hold their own toothbrush
15:15and brush their own teeth
15:17was like a big breakthrough for a start.
15:20And so being able to encourage the children
15:22to learn a life skill in a fun way
15:24makes it all the much better.
15:26Are y'all famous?
15:28Yeah.
15:28Well done.
15:30Well done.
15:31I think it's actually wonderful to see
15:33the whole family get together
15:35and brush their teeth.
15:37Let's all head off down to Mimi's
15:39because we are going to learn discipline correctly.
15:44Come on, Jared.
15:45The family has a recliner
15:46for a naughty chair at home
15:48but what they need is something
15:50that they can take on the road.
15:51And so I've brought in the naughty bean bag.
15:53Being able to give them
15:55a consistent discipline
15:56that they can take on the road as well
15:57is going to allow them
15:59to implement it in the correct way
16:01and get maximum results from it.
16:03The reason why I've brought this bean bag
16:05is because guess what?
16:06We're taking this away with us.
16:08It's portable, okay?
16:10And it will serve us
16:12because we're going to be in the camp van.
16:14So let's go through the principles of the timeouts.
16:18Height, eye contact, and our tone of voice.
16:21And we explain,
16:23I have put you onto this bean bag
16:25because you are not listening to mummy.
16:29If they get off the bag,
16:31take the child and place them back on without talking.
16:34As long as we've got the principles here
16:36and the steps up here,
16:38it doesn't matter where we take it.
16:39It can be anywhere.
16:43And it wasn't long
16:44before the kids started to act up.
16:46Do not throw.
16:48All right, let's go, babe.
16:50Come on.
16:51Just come around, Mimi,
16:52and explain why you placed him onto the chair.
16:55You were throwing things
16:56and Mimi told you not to.
16:59Now you sit here for three minutes.
17:01Come away.
17:02First time I started using a naughty chair was tough.
17:17Justin all of a sudden started to turn it into a game of running.
17:20You know, I had no idea this would be all so overwhelming.
17:32If somebody would have said it would be this tough,
17:36we would not have done this.
17:38He knows that soon somebody's going to break.
17:40Well, that's what he rettens today.
17:41We're about to change that today.
17:43Justin finally broke down.
17:53I could not believe it.
17:55And I just had to go in there and I had to cry.
17:58Why are you crying?
18:00It's for, it's happy.
18:02Him sitting in the chair,
18:03the life's the longest he's sitting in the chair.
18:05All he needs to know
18:10is that you guys are going to be consistent.
18:14Look, what we see now, look.
18:16We put you here
18:17because you were being naughty
18:19when Mimi asked you not to
18:21and that was not acceptable.
18:23So I need for you to tell me I'm sorry.
18:26I'm sorry.
18:27And I thank you.
18:28I love you.
18:30Give me a hug.
18:32That's good stuff.
18:33I want to see a hug, man.
18:38I want to see a serious hug.
18:40You three did that.
18:42Give each other a hug.
18:43Hey, I want this.
18:45You two a hug.
18:46You just had to give up.
18:48All right.
18:49This is what I'm talking about.
18:52Are we ready to go on our vacation?
18:54Are we ready?
18:58The Drake family have never been on vacation alone.
19:00So mum and dad are really going to have to step up
19:03when it comes to managing these kids without Mimi.
19:06I love you, darling.
19:07I love you, too.
19:08It's sort of kind of scary
19:10to actually go on your own
19:12because you don't want for them
19:14to get out of control
19:15in an unfamiliar environment.
19:21I love you.
19:22And everyone's excited.
19:30I mean, they're ready for their vacation.
19:33I'm extremely hopeful that Joe can teach us some techniques
19:36to where we can have some quality family time
19:38and just relax.
19:41If she can come in and change our lives,
19:43it will be all worth it.
19:44So we arrived at the campsite.
19:53The kids were just so excited.
19:55They were just running into the woods
19:56and going all over the place.
19:58We've got to get out of this road, okay?
20:00Billy Joe and Donna were really worried about this.
20:03How are they going to keep an eye on the kids?
20:05It's a new place.
20:06So I set up these very clear visual aids for them.
20:09Gerard, please come and sit down
20:11because you see these red ribbons?
20:13From the time that these children were young,
20:16they've never been given boundaries and discipline.
20:19So what we're going to do with these ribbons,
20:20we're going to tie them around the tree trunks
20:22and we're going to create a visual boundary.
20:25What we're going to do is teach the children
20:26that where you see the red ribbon,
20:29you're not allowed to go past it.
20:32If you go past the red ribbon,
20:34it means time out.
20:36So we don't want to be sitting on the naughty bean bag, do we?
20:38Hey, hey, hey.
20:38Wow!
20:40I explained to the children that it was important
20:43that we were able to see them
20:45and that they were able to be safe.
20:47Hurry, Justin.
20:47Justin, you going with us?
20:50It's just a really good visual aid
20:52for young children especially
20:53because they're able to see the bright red ribbon
20:55and know that they're not to go beyond that.
20:58And the kids got really engaged in it.
21:01You've got to take this right here.
21:02Oh, good job, Gerard.
21:05How about this tree right over here?
21:07Give you all a little bit more room.
21:08Did you do that?
21:09Yes.
21:10Good job, Gerard.
21:12Mum and Dad are laying down some boundaries here,
21:16some rules so that the kids can be safe
21:18but at the same time they can allow them their freedom.
21:21we're seeing both parents with the kids setting up these little boundaries with the red ribbons
21:27and creating a place to play.
21:32Now that boundaries are established, we need to go over safety for the kids.
21:36Okay, guys, we need your attention, okay?
21:38We're going to talk about safety.
21:40Today I gave Dad a pouch that had picture cards in them
21:45to be able to convey to the children the safety of being in the woodlands.
21:49They're just the immediate things that we know are around on the campsite.
21:54Okay, what we got here?
21:56Oh, a snake.
21:58A snake.
21:59Stay away from snakes, okay?
22:01It's important for Billy Joe to be able to convey this to his children so that they're safe,
22:05so that they have knowledge, okay?
22:06A poison ivy, okay?
22:08We need to show you some today, okay?
22:10A poison ivy has three leaves.
22:12I thought it was a wonderful, you know, idea that she came up with.
22:16An alligator.
22:17I like it.
22:18Alligators are very dangerous.
22:20They don't like little boys and girls and mommy and daddies, okay?
22:23We do not need to feed alligators, okay?
22:24Listen to Daddy, this is very important, Jay.
22:28When I was explaining the safety cards, I was very impressed.
22:32They were sprung into it.
22:33All righty.
22:34What a successful safety.
22:37That's so cute.
22:39He did it very successfully.
22:41The kids were on board.
22:42They listened.
22:44They were talking about the photos that they saw,
22:47and they really participated in the conversation.
22:49It was a very big success.
22:55So, I think a hike.
22:56Let's get everyone out.
22:57Okay, let's go walking.
22:59I wanted to get mom and dad out in the woods,
23:02exploring with their kids.
23:04So, I gave the kids a fun involvement technique called hike bingo,
23:08and I waited to see if mom and dad just loosened up a bit and let go.
23:12Look, JoJo's got these cards for you
23:14with things that we're going to see on our walk.
23:18So, if you see a squirrel, you can get your pets on and just cross it off.
23:21Let's go.
23:22You ready?
23:23She's like, okay, let's go.
23:24Let's go.
23:25Let's go.
23:25I think this hike bingo really allows the kids to be engaged,
23:29so they're not misbehaving and running rings around them all.
23:31I want pine cone.
23:33A pine cone?
23:33Where is it at?
23:34Hey.
23:35All right.
23:35Hey, see a stick.
23:36Check your stick off.
23:37All right.
23:38Check it off.
23:39Where's your stick?
23:39Who found that stick?
23:40Justin.
23:40You've already checked.
23:41Y'all better step up to the plate
23:43because Justin's going to be done found and everything
23:44before we get in the woods.
23:47Josie, we can't see you.
23:52Okay, you're fine there.
23:54Ah.
23:55Okay.
23:56That's brilliant.
23:57As long as you can see her and she can see you,
23:59you can give her a little bit of slack.
24:01There you go.
24:02Mom and dad were very relaxed.
24:04Even when Josie went a little bit ahead,
24:06Mom didn't have a panic attack, you know?
24:08So, we are seeing signs of breakthrough with Mom.
24:11I would never go through these woods with the kids like this.
24:16But I feel that I've actually learned to let them go some
24:19and feel a little bit more at ease.
24:22We are going to get her putting on the show.
24:24I know.
24:26It's tutti fruity.
24:33I'm going away for a few days.
24:35Let's remember what we've dealt with here.
24:37Boundaries.
24:38Let's keep on with our boundaries.
24:39Let's keep going with our discipline, okay?
24:41And keep working as a team and supporting one another, okay?
24:45Okay.
24:45No doubt, Mom and Dad are going to find it challenging whilst I'm away.
24:49But they're on board.
24:50They're committed.
24:51And we've not seen any signs of them giving up.
24:53So, that's a good thing.
24:54Last but not least, let's have fun.
24:56We greatly appreciate it.
24:57You're more than welcome.
24:59Don and I are a little nervous about not having Jo around
25:01and give her leadership and hands-on techniques.
25:03See you when I get back!
25:04You hated to see Jo Jo leave, but hopefully we're on the right track.
25:11You know, we're not going backwards.
25:12The Drake family is still on vacation at the campsite,
25:22and I'm very curious to see exactly how they got on without me.
25:26Good morning.
25:27How are you?
25:28Good.
25:29How are you?
25:29Okay.
25:30Not bad.
25:31Are we ready to take a look?
25:33Ready?
25:33Oh, it's on this DVD.
25:36Suspense.
25:37It's killing us.
25:39Hey, Justin.
25:40Where are we at?
25:42Justin, think about where we at.
25:45Are we past our boundary?
25:46No.
25:47Yes, we are.
25:49You're past your boundary, Justin.
25:51I'm not going to look at me.
25:53If you're not going to do it again, then you leave,
25:55and I'll bring them around there.
25:56Go.
25:57I'm telling you right now, make a decision, Justin.
25:59I'm giving you a warning.
26:01Make a decision.
26:03Are you going back where you need to go?
26:06I'm going to walk away and see.
26:10Justin, thank you for coming back.
26:16Okay, I like that, because you gave Justin here a choice,
26:20and that is the correct way to deal with Justin.
26:23You're actually working alongside him and allowing him to make the choice.
26:26I'm really pleased you got that.
26:27So the next clip is all about sharing.
26:30How many clubs we got, Josie?
26:33How many balls we got?
26:36Come here, Justin.
26:37Come back here.
26:38Hand him the ball.
26:43Come here, buddy.
26:44Hey, guys.
26:46Come here.
26:47Justin.
26:48Josie.
26:49Let me show him how to make off.
26:52So she chose not to stop.
26:55We still got a lot of work to do with sharing.
26:56It is an important skill to learn and to recognize that you're not always going to be in the front row.
27:02Thank you, Jared, Justin.
27:05Come here, buddy.
27:05I'm going back to the floor.
27:07No, ma'am.
27:08Stop.
27:08I don't think so.
27:10Josie.
27:11Stop, Josie.
27:15Come here, guys.
27:16Let me show you.
27:16I'm going to leave a plank on.
27:18Come here.
27:18No.
27:19See that behavior right there?
27:21It would have been, you come back here right now, and you're sitting here.
27:25Mm-hmm.
27:25Okay?
27:25So we do need to nip that straight in the bud.
27:28Okay?
27:33Okay.
27:33All right, that's nice.
27:35I know you got a timeout.
27:37He will stay here for three and a half minutes.
27:39No!
27:47Do not disrespect me and hit me, Justin.
27:50Don't hit me again, Justin.
27:56You will stay here for three and a half minutes, Justin, because you were disrespectful, and
28:02you were going past your boundary, which is the red rope, okay?
28:06Justin, do not hit me.
28:10He's hitting out because he's angry.
28:12He's frustrated with it.
28:13He's frustrated that you're being persistent and you're carrying on.
28:16Just don't put yourself in the fire line there.
28:18Turn him away so that you don't get any of that, because it will only put you in a place
28:23that will wear you down.
28:26All right, y'all play.
28:27No, don't come up it.
28:28Go around.
28:29Go use the steps like you're supposed to.
28:31Okay, Josie, let's use it like we're supposed to, okay?
28:34All right, take turns.
28:36Uh-uh, don't hit him, Jared.
28:38Y'all can't do that.
28:41She's in there.
28:42So, what I saw there really was a lot of control because you were worried that they
28:49were going to hurt themselves.
28:50You do want them to be safe, but at the same time, you want them to be kids.
28:54Right.
28:55I'm really pleased with what I have seen, but there are a few things that could easily
28:59go amiss and then become something very big.
29:01So, let's work today on the things that do need improving.
29:05Let's work a little bit more on those boundaries, and we'll do that with the bike.
29:09And to sharing.
29:10Sounds good.
29:11So, I think we should start working again, right?
29:13Let's go.
29:14Let's go.
29:17Are we ready to ride bikes?
29:23Yeah!
29:25I like riding my bike.
29:27Our bike ride is going to be all about setting up visual boundaries, okay?
29:32This will be good practice for here and for when we're back at home as well.
29:35This family's slowly learning how to give their kids some breathing space.
29:40So, now I want to push this family to the next level where they would have never have imagined.
29:45Where's your landmark going to be?
29:47It's going to be the trash cans right up here.
29:49JoJo said you don't have to have the red flags or anything.
29:53Just take them around and show them how far you want them to go.
29:57Okay, let's get this show on the road now.
29:59Mama's going to show you where you can ride through here.
30:01We're not going to go past.
30:02Whoa.
30:03Right here, Josie.
30:04This is our boundary, please.
30:06So, what we are seeing now is Mom and Dad very clearly lay down where they can go so that they're allowed to have the freedom of being able to ride their bikes, but within a restricted area.
30:17And that, I think, is a very healthy compromise.
30:20Okay, buddy.
30:21Just done.
30:22Come here.
30:23I need to show you where you have to stop.
30:25You see this sign right here?
30:27You cannot go past this sign.
30:29You will lose your privileges if you go by your sign.
30:33You make a decision, okay?
30:37Okay.
30:38Look, look, look, look.
30:39Turn around, Billy.
30:40Billy, turn around.
30:42Do you see where that post is?
30:43He's there.
30:43That's why he's looking at you, because he wants to play games.
30:45Walk away from him.
30:46He knows.
30:47He knows.
30:48He knows he can't go past that.
30:49If he does, he loses his bike.
30:52Okay.
30:53Attaboy.
30:53That's it.
30:54Thank you, Justin.
30:56Go, Justin.
30:57Go.
30:57Yay.
30:59Put his face down.
31:00What?
31:00Where's that boundary, Josie?
31:03Good job.
31:04Good job.
31:05It actually felt great, you know, that you could feel more comfortable letting them play and knowing that you don't have such a chance of them going past their boundaries.
31:14Hey, boy.
31:16I have great confidence with the boundary technique due to the fact that I've seen it work.
31:20That's one of the things we'll certainly implement on one of the first days that we get home.
31:24Come on, boy.
31:24And later, back at the camp, I had a little surprise waiting.
31:32Pick-a-boo.
31:34Who's there?
31:36Did you laugh here?
31:38I gave them a few minutes to catch up, and then I sent Mum and Dad off so I could get Mimi up to speed.
31:44All righty.
31:45Good luck, Mimi.
31:46All right.
31:47Bye.
31:48From what I saw from the DVD, the kids still need work with sharing.
31:52So I set up a game with Mimi to address the problem.
31:54So, shall we fill this up with water?
31:56Yeah!
31:59Come on, birdie.
32:00We've got a cone here, leaf, paper.
32:04Let's play the guessing game.
32:05Will it sink or will it float?
32:07It's going to be essential that these kids do share when playing the sink or float game.
32:13And that Mimi reinforces discipline.
32:15So what we're going to do is take turns, okay?
32:18We're going to go around here.
32:18Jared, Josie, and then Justin.
32:21Jared, will that sink or will it float?
32:23Will it stay at the top of the water or will it drop down to the bottom?
32:27Turn down to the bottom.
32:28Bottom.
32:29Okay, let's see then.
32:30Put it in.
32:30Hands out of the bucket.
32:32Hands out, please.
32:33No, I said hands out.
32:36Okay.
32:37Justin.
32:38Wait your turn.
32:39Warning, please.
32:40Warning, please, for Justin.
32:41Justin.
32:42If you can't stop and keep your hands out of the water, you go into the naughty bean bag.
32:50Here he goes again.
32:51Okay.
32:52Put it down.
32:54No!
32:56Oh, little Justin got in trouble big time because he couldn't keep his hands out of the water.
33:04Mimi told you not to put your hands in there to wait till your turn.
33:10I don't.
33:11I don't.
33:11Okay?
33:12You sit here for three minutes and then Mimi will let you get up and go try it again.
33:17Okay?
33:18Sit right there.
33:19I don't want to.
33:21These kids do need to learn that there's three of them, they're siblings and the important
33:25part of this task is to share and right now, Justin's not willing to be able to do so and
33:31he's on that bean bag.
33:32So we'll see how the rest get on.
33:34What's this going to do?
33:36Float.
33:36Float.
33:37Oh, what did it do?
33:39Well, it came through.
33:41It came through.
33:42No, it came through.
33:45Mimi, make your mark straight back.
33:47You've got to get a grip on this otherwise his kids will run you ragged when they're at
33:51yours.
33:51Oh.
33:53You can't allow him to think that he'll be able to muscle in and do what he wants.
33:57He was getting up.
34:02Oh.
34:04Moving around.
34:06Kicking.
34:07Slinging dirt at me.
34:09Oh.
34:14Just take a very quick look over there.
34:16Mm-hmm.
34:17I did.
34:18You've actually got one leg on it.
34:20Mm-hmm.
34:20So he's basically saying the one leg on the bean bag is respecting the fact he knows he
34:24has to be on it.
34:25And that's good enough.
34:26Okay?
34:26Okay.
34:26So your three minutes does start, started 20 seconds ago.
34:30Okay?
34:31Okay.
34:32That's too heavy.
34:34I cannot count the times that he got up.
34:38But he finally made it.
34:41Are you sorry?
34:43Mm-hmm.
34:44Ma'am?
34:45Mm-hmm.
34:45What'd you say?
34:47Mm-hmm.
34:49I love you.
34:50I love you too.
34:52You're sorry.
34:53I accept your apology.
34:55Let me give you a hug and a big kiss.
34:57Go on.
34:57Go and play.
34:58Go and play.
34:59There's some water there for you.
35:00You like playing in water?
35:02When he got up, he went to playing and he was super.
35:07Just super.
35:09Oh, it's like that now, is it?
35:11Woo!
35:12Watch out!
35:13Ah!
35:17Well, we've had a swimming party.
35:19I see you.
35:20Ah!
35:22Maybe it's had a swimming party too.
35:24Yeah!
35:25And with that, it was time for me to go.
35:28This family have learned about sharing, boundaries, and being less controlling.
35:34My work is done.
35:35JoJo's leaving now.
35:39Wow.
35:39Oh, well, because I'm going now, JoJo's going to the next family.
35:43So I have to leave now in my taxi.
35:45Say, stay with us.
35:47Stay with us.
35:48Yeah.
35:49Can I have a big, wet cuddle?
35:51A big...
35:52Mwah!
35:53Mwah!
35:54Mwah!
35:55Bye-bye, darling.
35:57Thank you so much.
35:58I love you.
35:59JoJo's visit has meant the world to us.
36:03I wish he would come live with me.
36:06I wish he could have stayed longer.
36:08Keep up your good work.
36:09Keep supporting your family.
36:10You're a treasure.
36:11You're a treasure.
36:12Julie, some serious hard work, mate.
36:15And you did really well.
36:17Did really well.
36:19Keep up all your hard work.
36:22I think it's wonderful that JoJo came on vacation with us and taught us the techniques that we needed because our family has never took a vacation.
36:32And it was a wonderful experience.
36:34Just get out and have fun with your kids.
36:36That's what they need from you.
36:37They need you to get out and have fun and be the mom that they know that you are now, okay?
36:43I'm going to look at you.
36:44All right?
36:45You're welcome.
36:47Bye, y'all.
36:48Bye, y'all.
36:50Bye-bye.
36:51I know that I've given the Drake family tools and techniques that they can use time and time again.
36:57And if they stick with those, they'll be able to go on more and more vacations.
37:14I'm extremely proud of my family's development.
37:17We are enjoying our kids.
37:18We're having a good time.
37:19We find that they engage in play and they want to involve us as well.
37:22And so that's very pleasing as a parent.
37:24Hold on.
37:26Let me push you.
37:28You know, I feel like our family's actually laughing more.
37:32Everybody's not so tense.
37:33You know, it makes a big difference.
37:34You know, it makes a big difference.
37:35Don't let go.
37:40I definitely feel more comfortable now taking my kids by myself somewhere.
37:46How's it looking?
37:48Looking good, Daddy.
37:49Before Joe came, we had the idea that we needed to have one adult per child.
37:53You helped Daddy out.
37:54Good job.
37:55But one adult can handle all three children now.
37:57We're very pleased with that.
37:58And then we're like, amen.
38:00Amen.
38:01Good job.
38:02I feel like this has definitely been a life-changing experience.
38:06It made a big difference in our family.
38:08Thank you, JoJo.
38:09It's been great.
38:10Hey, I love JoJo.
38:12I like JoJo.
38:14That's it.
38:15Stop it now.
38:16I love you.
38:17I believe any family can nail any situation.
38:22You've just got to put the work in and the commitment.
38:24This family and put in every single ounce of effort they can to really make these changes.
38:30That's what I love about this family, you know.
38:31They're on board.
38:32They're on board.
38:33They're on board.
38:47They're on board.
38:48They're on board.
38:49They're on board.
38:50They're on board.
38:51They're on board.
38:52They're on board.
38:53They're on board.
38:54They're on board.
38:55They're on board.
38:56They're on board.
38:57They're on board.
38:58They're on board.
38:59They're on board.
39:00They're on board.
39:01They're on board.
39:02They're on board.
39:03They're on board.
39:04They're on board.
39:05They're on board.
39:06They're on board.
39:07They're on board.
39:08They're on board.
39:09They're on board.
39:10They're on board.
39:11They're on board.
39:12They're on board.
39:13They're on board.
39:14They're on board.
39:15They're on board.
39:16They're on board.