00:00My name is Deidre. I'm Diamond. And I'm Quintel. And we're a couple. My wife made
00:06her apprentice our girlfriend. We knew that we loved each other and we knew
00:10that we began having feelings for Diamond, but we didn't know what it was
00:14called. The world is one of the biggest challenges because somebody always has
00:18something to say. I'm a homewrecker. Me being like a pimp. You said you'll never try it.
00:23Absolutely not. I like to do it by the book like the good Lord said.
00:29My God. If there have been jealous moments, how do you three resolve them?
00:35Oh, well. We've been together for 13 years now. 13 long days.
00:45We met at the age of 14 and been rocking ever since.
00:49We were married for six years before we decided to open up our marriage.
00:55We met at a barbershop. She actually started teaching me how to braid.
01:03I began by mentoring her. And then later on down the line, we did a friendship and now a relationship.
01:11A year to a year and a half after meeting Diamond, I decided to introduce her to my relationship with Quintel.
01:16One day I came home from work and she was in my living room with my wife talking and stuff.
01:21They were on lunch from the braiding shop and that's when I figured out that they started to become close.
01:26We both decided to open up our relationship because they're just bisexual and I've known that since we were kids.
01:33We've been to throuple for three years going on four.
01:36We knew that we loved each other and we knew that we began having feelings for Diamond.
01:40But we didn't know what it was called or how to move forward or something like that.
01:45So we were Googling terms and stuff like that and that's how we figured out about the term like polyamory.
01:51We do have some specific worlds. Basically, I do all the cooking and cleaning.
01:55Oh gosh.
01:56No, I was just joking.
01:58I was going to say, I was going to do this.
02:00Diamond basically is more so taking care of the kids and stuff like that.
02:04I'm more so paying the bills and the breadwinner, Deja, works.
02:09I think some of the best things about being in a throuple is the share of responsibilities and load
02:16that necessarily you don't have in like a two, what is it called? A couple.
02:22I'm like a two person relationship.
02:25A monogamy relationship.
02:26Okay, yeah.
02:27During jealous moments, I'm very upfront.
02:30It's important to communicate that with your partners.
02:33What do y'all want to watch?
02:35I don't know.
02:37Yes.
02:38We are all intimate with each other.
02:40We all share the same bed.
02:41We have four amazing children.
02:44We've explained the relationship as far as they know that they have two moms.
02:48And they know that when you love someone, you can have a child with them.
02:52When we first started dating, Diamond used to have her own room.
02:56We had our own room still.
02:58And Diamond would like come into our room in like the middle of the night.
03:02Normally, we would try to make sure that Diamond was back in her room by the morning.
03:07But that one day, no.
03:11We overslept and Remy came into the bedroom.
03:15She didn't think anything of it though.
03:17She just said, hi mom, hi dad, hi Diamond.
03:20We thought that she was going to be like weirded out or, you know, ask plenty of questions.
03:24But she just acted like it was normal.
03:26And she just jumped into bed with us.
03:27And I think from then on, we was like, okay, maybe we could share a room.
03:31And it's not be like super awkward with the kids or anything.
03:34None of us have been in a poly relationship before.
03:37None of us have been in a throuple before.
03:39So it was brand new.
03:41So it took a just use for all of us.
03:44Y'all ready to go live?
03:46Yeah.
03:47Because we've been telling them that we were going to do a Q&A all week.
03:51It's not that time.
03:52Oh lord, yeah.
03:53They're going to be asking some crazy stuff.
03:54Basically, we use our platforms to kind of like shed light on what like polyamory is,
04:01what a throuple is, and what our dynamic looks like.
04:06We shared that we were a throuple about two years ago.
04:09The response was mostly positive.
04:12Negativity that we received about our relationship consisted of people who are like super religious,
04:19people who are monogamous and only see life one way.
04:24My response that I've gotten is more so I'm a home wrecker.
04:29Quintel's going to have to choose one day.
04:31Diamond is just a toy.
04:34Me being like a pimp.
04:36We've gotten comments of like a cult or me not even loving neither one of them.
04:41Some comments that I did receive when I was pregnant with my first child that I should have an abortion
04:45because my child wasn't made with purity basically.
04:49Some of my family asks us questions like, what's wrong in your marriage?
04:55I don't need to do that in order to keep my husband.
04:58No.
04:59People are funny.
05:01The entire system.
05:02The world is one of the biggest challenges because somebody always has something to say.
05:06I would like to say to those who are judging our relationship, what's it to you?
05:12Why do you care?
05:13Are you married?
05:16Do you have a boyfriend?
05:17No.
05:18Me either.
05:20Are you happy?
05:21Are you happy?
05:22Yes.
05:23Not only with somebody else but with yourself.
05:25Hey, thank you all for joining your favorite Polly.
05:28I know that's right.
05:29Hey.
05:30We're going to the salon to go ahead and meet Brandon and MJ.
05:34The first time we stepped out in public as a struggle, it was like, do you think they all know?
05:40Right?
05:41We thought everybody was looking at us.
05:42How many times do you think we got to explain this, you know?
05:46I felt like a superstar, honestly.
05:48This is Martela and I've been doing her hair for five years.
05:53I found out about their relationship through social media and honestly, I felt kind of salty about it.
05:59At first, I think it was kind of like a secret.
06:01I wasn't supposed to know about it.
06:03When I first found out about the thruple, I told Deja and Quintel, like, I don't know if this is going to work out.
06:08Like, it is what it is, but wasn't a fan at all.
06:12I don't think the relationship was a form of cheating.
06:15Probably just was having fun, a little phase or something at the moment.
06:18So, how does the relationship work out for y'all?
06:21It's, like, more help.
06:22Like, we have more balance.
06:24If one person isn't feeling up to it, I can get it from the other person, basically.
06:28Like, emotional-wise, reassurance, all that.
06:32So, it works for the best.
06:34I love you and Quintel.
06:35So, just like, dang, I don't know what to expect out of this.
06:38Y'all relationship is so strong.
06:41I don't know how it's going to work out for y'all, but honestly, I'm happy for y'all now.
06:45I've known Martela for over 10 years, and we've just known Brandon for about four.
06:50Brandon met us as a thruple.
06:52Out of everything you know about Polly, you said you'll never try it.
06:56So, you're asking me, would I?
06:57Would you?
06:58Absolutely not.
07:01It looks a little expensive.
07:03If I'm dating one person, it's, like, me and her.
07:06Q, on the other hand, he got to pay for him.
07:08Days and that.
07:09I'm like, boy.
07:11Nah, but more power to him, man.
07:13But it ain't for me, man.
07:16I'm a traditional guy.
07:17I love to see love, but I like to do it by the book, like the good Lord said.
07:22My God!
07:24Their relationship, the three of them, looks better than a lot of people with just two.
07:29Like, the way they love each other, the way they compromise and resolve conflict together.
07:35Would you want another person to join your relationship now?
07:38Yes, right now.
07:39No.
07:40I'm just joking.
07:41I'm joking.
07:42I think the relationship works so well because we all understand each other.
07:46We all give each other grace whenever we all have our bad days.
07:49And we always try to make sure that each person feels loved.
07:53To people that judge our relationship, I would say we're happy, we love what we're doing.
07:58I would say love don't judge.
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