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00:00All right, Therapy Thursday is on.
00:02This is where we talk it out and work it out.
00:04888-429-0941.
00:06If you have any question for Meredith M.D.
00:08Yes.
00:09For Orlando BGYN, we got it for you, all right?
00:12Davi is out sick today because, as the texts have read,
00:16Meredith gave him the vid.
00:18I did not.
00:18That's what they said on the text.
00:20I'm all good.
00:20They said you did it, Doc.
00:21I did not.
00:22All right, lab coach in the building.
00:24888-429-0941.
00:26Jesse is checking in with us and has a question for Meredith.
00:29Meredith M.D.
00:30Jesse, you are on the air.
00:32How are you doing this morning?
00:34Doing fine.
00:35All right.
00:35What you got?
00:36So my question is, okay, so this is not pertaining to all men,
00:41but why do I feel like it's trendy for men to be incompetent?
00:44Like, we are the administrative assistants in their lives as women.
00:48I don't like that.
00:50Are you offended by that?
00:51I don't like that.
00:52She said not all men.
00:54Right.
00:54Is this your man, your boyfriend or husband?
00:56Well, yes.
00:59My boyfriend seems to always need me to complete his administrative tasks.
01:04Are you talking like just housework, or what are we talking about here?
01:07I need a little bit more specification.
01:08Like, oh, babe, I want to get a credit card.
01:10Okay, here, fill out the credit card.
01:12Oh, babe, I need to do this.
01:15Or, you know, do this paperwork for me.
01:17Oh, okay, I got you.
01:18Okay, you ready?
01:20You ready for this?
01:21You speak in my language, girl.
01:22Well, stop doing it.
01:25He's a grown-ass man who can take care of himself.
01:29Some guys, you know, like being taken care of on all aspects.
01:33I find that highly unattractive when a man can't even fill out an application for a credit card.
01:38That's going to be a problem.
01:40Because if you start doing all that stuff now, you're going to be doing it forever.
01:43You're going to be opening up his mail.
01:45You're going to be paying all of his bills, even if you're not married yet.
01:48So I'm cool with helping out in my relationship, in my marriage.
01:53I'm totally down for helping out as much as I can.
01:56But when I start looking down on you, like you can't even help me out or help out the relationship, that's when we have a problem.
02:02So if you feel like you're being taken advantage of and, like, you're starting to make, I don't know, dentist appointments for him because he can't even do that, you need to stop.
02:10Stop.
02:10Just say, I'm not your mom.
02:11I'm not going to do this.
02:13You need to do it for yourself.
02:14So basically, you're enabling him by doing it.
02:17And so stop.
02:18Just stop doing it.
02:19Some things, you know, there should be compromise.
02:22If you don't mind doing this or that, that's cool.
02:23But other things, as simple as that, he can do himself.
02:27He's a grown man.
02:27You pointed out that you didn't want me to get offended, and I'm offended.
02:31No, I'm not offended.
02:33But let me tell you why.
02:34I would tell you just from a male perspective why it happens.
02:37It happens because, A, a man probably is trusting.
02:40Like, when a man trusts you to handle those things right there, it's almost like a tribute to you.
02:46Like, I trust you to do it right because I, A, probably will do it wrong, or I wouldn't let anybody else do this unless you were important to me.
02:56Then learn how to do it.
02:56I know that's the case, too, because, like, this man will literally buy crap from Instagram, like, and it'll be a scam.
03:07Like, he'll be getting scammed left and right.
03:09So I'm just like, let me do it, babe.
03:10Yeah.
03:11Like, and he trusts you.
03:13So that's almost kind of a badge of honor thing.
03:16So just know it's not malicious.
03:18He's showing you that he needs you.
03:20You best stop it right now.
03:21And honestly, there's ladies out there that don't mind being needed.
03:24So, you know, just incompetent, I don't know.
03:26But, yeah, we do like to move with the authority, and y'all are the authority on a lot of this stuff.
03:31Mm-hmm.
03:31So, all right?
03:32Don't be too mad at him.
03:33Don't hold it against him, okay?
03:35All right, you guys have a nice day.
03:38You too, Jessie.
03:38That's a good question.
03:40I mean, it is.
03:41All right, let's see.
03:41Meredith, you got one.
03:42Okay.
03:43It says, Dr. Meredith, I was against it, but I'm giving in.
03:46I want to get the BBL.
03:49I was against it, but quietly watching my husband and his friends, ooh and I, over the very defined booties and bodies that are out there.
03:58Now I'm going to go through with it.
04:00First, I've, first time I've said it out loud.
04:04Any advice for me?
04:05Okay.
04:05Well, congratulations.
04:07Obviously, it's something that you've been thinking about for a while, so I get that.
04:10That's a big deal.
04:12You know, a lot of women see that online, and then, you know, their boyfriends or their husbands, you know, they fantasize about women like that.
04:19You know, they watch, you know, videos like that by themselves, and a lot of women want to be that fantasy for their man at home.
04:26So, it sounds like it's not only that, but it's something you also enjoy, something that you're doing for yourself, which is really what's important.
04:33I would say make sure you're not doing something just solely on the fact that this will please your husband or your man or your partner.
04:39Make sure you're doing it for yourself.
04:40Prepare.
04:41A lot of doctors will say to go ahead and eat a little bit of extra food if you're doing the BBL ahead of time.
04:46That way, you gain a little bit of extra weight.
04:48That way, they can place it in certain areas because they're going to be sucking the rest of it out.
04:52So, go ahead and relax before the procedure.
04:55I'll just say, talk to Babs because Babs just did one.
04:58She could probably give you some advice, like, from the patient aspect.
05:02And also, I mean, I just want to kind of speak for the guys.
05:06Just because they look and ooh and ah, as you said, doesn't really mean that they want that at home.
05:12Really?
05:13Like, you can have a fantasy out there, and it's a fantasy because it's not your home.
05:18Like, I don't know if I want, you know, Jenny the body walking out to the mailbox every day with some little boy shorts on.
05:25I don't know if I want that pressure at the house.
05:27You know, I just, it might be good to ooh and ah, but it doesn't mean you want that to be your person that you're walking into your auntie's wedding with.
05:36You know what I'm saying?
05:37I get it, but it also doesn't make sense at the same time.
05:39You enjoy looking at girls like that, you fantasize about it, but you don't want me to be that for you.
05:44It's just window shopping.
05:45I'm just saying.
05:46Listen, I'm just telling you, not every dude want to walk around with cocoa like he iced tea.
05:51Like, I don't need you half naked with the booty all out if we're going to church.
05:55I might not want that.
05:56I just might not.
05:57If we're going to the PTA meeting, I might not want you to be like, ah, ah, doing the big stuff.
06:02Okay, all right.
06:02So just because they ooh and ah doesn't mean they want that.
06:05We never get, like, follow-ups.
06:07And so when we get them, we love to share them.
06:09Out of the 727, it says, good morning, freaks.
06:12I text in to you guys on Therapy Thursday back in mid-December to let you know that I've left my husband after many years of mental abuse and infidelity.
06:24I just wanted words of encouragement to know I was going to be okay.
06:29You guys stood up and clapped and gave me encouraging words.
06:33Just want to let you know that my kids and I are still going strong on our own and have gained my self-confidence back.
06:41Still working on myself daily, but I'm two months away from him as of today, and I couldn't be happier.
06:48Your words of encouragement definitely helped me.
06:52Love you guys.
06:53That's sweet.
06:54That's special right there.
06:55I appreciate you sharing that with us.
06:57Like I said, we talk to people and don't really hear the other side of it.
06:59That's true.
07:01I got one for you, Orlando.
07:03What up?
07:03Okay.
07:04Out of the 404, my family is trying to hook me up with somebody that they think is absolutely perfect for me.
07:09The thing is, is I have a little hesitation because I'm 36 and she's only 19.
07:17Should I trust my family to overlook this huge age gap?
07:21Also, should I put a little pressure on this situation?
07:27Okay.
07:27They're trying to set you up with a person who's 19.
07:31Who's perfect for him and she just graduated high school.
07:36Okay.
07:37Sorry.
07:38I mean.
07:39Sorry.
07:40I don't even know what to say.
07:42I mean, age ain't nothing but a number.
07:43Okay.
07:43That's what people say, but I, I would just say that you need to try and not go off of what they think because their impression of what's perfect for you might not represent your needs.
07:55So now it's time for you to, you can get to know the person.
07:57And I mean, like I said, ages, you know, people, people in May, September relationships or May, December relationships that, that works out sometime, but spend some time, a short amount of time.
08:08Don't leave anybody on, but just get to know the person, find out if that's it.
08:12If the only thing is the age, then maybe you got a shot.
08:15But if you talk to him and, you know, your references to certain movies and she's referencing certain Rugrats, you know, it might be different.
08:23So, you know, just make sure that you find somebody who is meeting your need as opposed to meeting the boxes that you, what?
08:31Come on.
08:32What?
08:32She doesn't even know who she is.
08:33I know.
08:34I'm trying to be nice.
08:36She just graduated high school.
08:37This is recommended by the family.
08:38You know, if he said he met a 19 year old, I would be like, OK, dude, like there's other people out there you could try and get in and maybe your generation.
08:46You're right.
08:46Because family is always family is like, yo, hey, this person is good for you.
08:50Then at least investigate it.
08:52And I said, investigate it fast.
08:54Don't be like dating.
08:55Don't be going out and doing all that.
08:58Investigate it first to find out if this is somebody you can vibe with.
09:01Right.
09:01Because, I mean, that's that's crazy.
09:03Like, 36 and that's 17 years different.
09:09Yeah.
09:09And you're not supposed to pay attention to difference.
09:11Go have some fun.
09:12Don't take it seriously.
09:13Not supposed.
09:14Age ain't nothing but a number, Meredith.
09:16You're not supposed to acknowledge that.
09:17That's weird.
09:18It feels weird.
09:20But I'm not going to call it weird because those are listeners.
09:22Yeah.
09:22OK.
09:23I got another one for you, Orlando.
09:24I don't want it.
09:24And I feel like this is a good one.
09:26I don't want it.
09:27If that was the way it is going to be, I don't want it.
09:29OK.
09:30Hard math.
09:30Out of the 813, my son is 12 and he's in the sixth grade and he wants to be a YouTube star.
09:36But I'm afraid he's not taking school seriously.
09:39I believe he just got going because I said so.
09:43How do I continue to enforce the importance of school when he has the YouTube thing going on at the same time?
09:49OK.
09:49First of all, the kid is how old?
09:5212 in the sixth grade.
09:53OK.
09:54You make the rules.
09:55First of all, I will tell you that 12 means that they ain't paying no bills.
09:59And if the YouTube thing is making money, the only way you can get teenagers, you can't whoop a person into good behavior after they become a teen and get taller than you, mom, and everything else.
10:10But you can affect them with the dollars because whatever dollars are coming in, they're not going directly to a 12-year-old.
10:16So you get to run that.
10:17And if money can be the motive, then train that puppy that way.
10:22Like, listen, your activity is only happening because you got to get your grades right.
10:27If you don't have your grades right, you don't have time for YouTube.
10:30If you ain't got time for YouTube, then guess what?
10:31Your page is shut down.
10:33Yeah.
10:33So if you want this type of vibe, then you got to put the work in.
10:38I had to talk with my daughters about that with dance.
10:41I'm like, listen, if you ain't doing school, you ain't doing dance.
10:44And my dad had to talk with me.
10:45If you ain't doing school, you ain't doing sports.
10:47So, like, that ain't new.
10:49Ain't nothing new under the sun.
10:50Threaten them.
10:51Threaten them.
10:51Take away the dollars.
10:52And matter of fact, if you don't get it done right, start spending his YouTube money on stuff for you.
10:57Yeah.
10:58Motivate him.
10:58Like, oh, man, his money sure is nice.
11:00Good thing I went to class.
11:03Oh, my God.
11:04I got an education.
11:05I know.
11:06I'm sure you dumb and mad.
11:07You can't even count how much money I'm spending.
11:09Like, tell him.
11:10Tell him.
11:10Get him motivated to get back into the business of being a student because you are not going to skip student to go be a YouTube star because you'll be too dumb to read your contract.
11:20You'll regret that.
11:21He'll regret that he didn't have a parent kind of pushing him a little bit more when you grow up.
11:26All right.
11:26Let's see here.
11:27This says no doctors.
11:29Anybody can answer this.
11:32I'm having a parenting debate with my wife about the trend that you guys talked about a few weeks ago where children are calling parents by their first names instead of mom and dad.
11:43My daughter has started calling me Edward and calling my wife Colleen, and my wife isn't bothered by it.
11:50She says it's just a phase.
11:51I hate it, and I hate being treated like the insensitive father for hating it.
11:57Help.
11:58You guys should absolutely be on the same page.
12:00I can't believe your wife wants one thing.
12:02When it comes out, do you know how bad my mom would have whooped me if I even, excuse me, Kathy?
12:07Oh, my.
12:07In the kitchen?
12:08I just, I just, I just felt, I just felt a slap in my face.
12:11Yeah, seriously.
12:12On the back of the head.
12:13If I call my mother, hey, look here, Mary Jo.
12:14Like, what did you, what did you, she'll just start taking off her earrings.
12:18Like, oh, I didn't, I didn't know we was going to squabble this morning.
12:21Like, you didn't.
12:21Keep the shoe off.
12:22But I know people who are, because it is a thing.
12:25My daughters have said, look, Orlando.
12:27And I was like, what?
12:29Wait a minute, what?
12:30And they were quoting, like, a listener or something.
12:32Yeah.
12:32So I turned around, like, what?
12:33And she's like, no, daddy, I was saying, like, the listener said, I was like, oh, okay.
12:36You better be playing.
12:37I was like, yeah, because, you know, I'm like, I wasn't going to get crazy, but I wasn't going
12:42to let them think that I was going to accept that.
12:44So it is a thing where kids are doing that now.
12:47You can't do that.
12:48I mean.
12:49Listen, it's a thing.
12:50I've seen it on TikTok.
12:51To each their own.
12:52I get it.
12:52But you guys got to be on the same page.
12:54I mean, you both are parents to the same children.
12:56You need to go have this discussion in a separate room.
12:58If you need to fight it out, fight it out.
12:59But definitely be on the same page when it comes to this.
13:02Is it worth blowing up about?
13:04I think it's what people are probably, what the mom is probably doing.
13:07Is it worth?
13:08I know what I think, but I'm asking you, is it worth it?
13:12Or do you just overlook it because it's a phase and don't make this a thing?
13:16Like picking your battles kind of thing.
13:17No, this one needs to be a battle that I would.
13:19But yeah, no, I'm stomping on everybody's parade for this one.
13:22You cannot just, because not only is it disrespectful, but most people that hear that think something
13:27is wrong with you as a parent.
13:28So, uh-uh.
13:29Don't make the family look weird.
13:31And you're making me look stupid, and that's not cool.
13:33Wait.
13:33Somebody just said out of the 407, I called my mother Donna since I was four years old
13:38and I'm 48 now.
13:39It's not new.
13:40Right.
13:40But if that's acceptable in your family, that's cool.
13:42This is, you know, an issue between the mother and father.
13:46Somebody else said I wouldn't, that would be the last name I uttered.
13:49Seriously.
13:50Look, Carol.
13:51Uh-uh.
13:52Oh, mama didn't just bust me in the face.
13:53Mama, you can't do that.
13:54I got, dad got an 800 number for that.
13:56All right.
13:56This is just every Thursday.
13:58It's wrapped.
13:58And the freak show.
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