00:00My friend turned my boyfriend by.
00:02My name is James.
00:04My name is Sarah.
00:06My name is Hunter.
00:07James and I have been together since high school.
00:10James, he never was with a guy.
00:12Yeah.
00:13I cared for her a little bit more than a friend,
00:16but at the same time I knew I was gay.
00:18So I was a little confused.
00:20One of my friends, she was weirded out by it.
00:24It was very much a, like, what are you doing?
00:28I think the worst judgment we've gotten is from family.
00:30Is this for you or is it for him?
00:38Okay, so...
00:40I feel like you look at us from, like, an outside perspective.
00:43Majority of the time it just kind of looks like a group of friends.
00:45Yeah.
00:46And then I kiss him and then I kiss him and then...
00:51That's where the confusion comes.
00:53Hi, my name is Sarah.
00:55My name is James.
00:56Hi, my name is Hunter.
00:57I'm bisexual.
00:58I would also say my sexuality is bisexual.
01:02So, my sexuality, I am actually a gay man who is biromantic.
01:09We first got together back in high school.
01:12I met Hunter when we all were trying to find a place to live
01:17after we got done doing college.
01:19We moved in together and we were roommates.
01:26And that's where it all began.
01:28And, you know, one-bedroom apartment and all that.
01:31Yeah, we get pretty close.
01:33Have you ever considered adding a third person to your relationship
01:36before you guys met Hunter?
01:38No, we have never considered having a third...
01:42adding a third person to the relationship before.
01:44I'm a jealous person, I will say that.
01:47So, that was never anything that I had ever, like,
01:51ever crossed my mind in the slightest.
01:53I prefer monogamy, truthfully.
01:55I prefer monogamy until we got into whatever this is, honestly.
02:01That's been going on now for almost a year.
02:04I actually realized that I cared for her a little bit more than a friend,
02:09but at the same time I knew I was gay.
02:11So, I was a little confused myself.
02:13After realizing that, I think that's also kind of when I came to the realization
02:17of, like, do I have feelings for James?
02:20When did you catch on?
02:22I think maybe around the same time?
02:24And I was just kind of like, what?
02:27What?
02:28One, I'm with James.
02:29Two, he's gay.
02:31Like, get that out of your head.
02:32Hello?
02:33What is wrong with you?
02:34And it wasn't like those feelings for you, James, like, ever diminished
02:37or ever, you know, went away in any way, shape, or form.
02:41And we were sitting down packing, he said,
02:45I guess I'm going to tell you guys, I have feelings for you both.
02:49And James went, huh?
02:51And then I said, same, like, without skipping a beat.
02:55And then I went, huh?
02:58And he was just very caught off guard, and me and him kept exchanging looks,
03:02like, did we just break him?
03:03What did we just do?
03:04I would say what I caught feeling, they weren't fully there yet,
03:07but after we decided to try this out, I really started to, like, feel like,
03:10wow, like, I actually really do love and care about him.
03:14Yeah, I think that's the crazy thing.
03:16Like, when we first got into this thruple, James had no intimate feelings for me.
03:21After we got into the thruple, that's when he tried to start exploring.
03:25My feelings for you never diminished either.
03:27We'll just leave that out there.
03:28They were still good and strong.
03:30I came with me outside.
03:31You two were together for eight years.
03:33At the time, you also weren't out either.
03:35That's also true.
03:36So, like, you were, you had feelings for guys,
03:41but you also didn't want to admit it to not just us, but yourself.
03:45I never really fully, like, come to terms with it,
03:48but, like, in the back of my mind, I thought about it,
03:51and over time, it became something that I knew I enjoyed,
03:55and that made me happy.
03:57Who had s**t with who?
03:59Like, what's the deal here?
04:01Okay, so me and James will have s**t.
04:07James and Hunter will have s**t.
04:09Me and Hunter, that's kind of where that gets a little bit complicated
04:12because Hunter, as he said, is a gay man.
04:16But I do still want to please her.
04:19So, in order to do that, I've got an app on my phone,
04:22we use a remote control, things like that.
04:24I can't do anything with my mouth or, like, my downstairs.
04:29I can't do anything with that.
04:30And he's going to stay soft as a caterpillar.
04:34Like, he's chilling. He's chilling.
04:35Now, if James would try the same stuff, we've got to go to another room.
04:38You know what I mean?
04:39Like, we've got to go.
04:40Some examples of doubt that I know I've heard.
04:43You guys don't actually love each other.
04:45This is just fine.
04:46Yeah, it's a phase.
04:47It's a phase.
04:48You'll enjoy yourselves, and then you'll go back to your normal life.
04:52Well, this is normal life for us.
04:55Maybe you guys are just going through a rough patch,
04:57and is this for you or is it for him?
05:01And not thinking that it was a thing that was for both of us.
05:06One of my friends, she thought it was an April Fool's prank.
05:10She was like, you're lying to me.
05:11This is a lie.
05:12She was weirded out by it.
05:15Yeah, I think the worst judgment we've gotten is from family.
05:18It is from family.
05:19And I think yours specifically, one of your family members.
05:23Yeah.
05:24Definitely tore into him a little bit.
05:25Yeah.
05:26No matter what I did to explain it to him, he just wouldn't get it.
05:30Another one of the biggest assumptions, I think,
05:32when it comes to throuples in general is it's always two girls and one guy.
05:37Yeah.
05:38I feel like one of the conceptions people get about bisexual men is that it's –
05:43I feel like a lot of people can never really truly believe
05:45that someone actually can like both, but it is a thing, and it is real.
05:49A lot more questions about how we sleep in the bedroom,
05:53if we sleep in one bed.
05:55That seems to be the number one question.
05:58I was going to – you –
06:00I – you –
06:03We all just sleep in the same bed.
06:05Like we all just kind of take turns.
06:07It'll be me and James switching to be in the middle
06:10because Hunter does not like being in the middle.
06:12So we actually – we share a lot of things.
06:15My boyfriend.
06:16We actually do share.
06:17You're done.
06:18You're not wrong.
06:20We're going to have a video call with my grandma Peggy,
06:23and I'm interested to hear what she has to say about our relationship.
06:26Why did you suspect that we were in a throuple?
06:43Did you have any other worries about our relationship, my mom?
06:57You were happy I just had a backup plan.
07:07Yeah, honorary grandson.
07:18Sarah, I never thought I could love a woman.
07:21I really didn't.
07:23I thought it was a man, and I was going to the grave.
07:27You've definitely changed my perspective on things,
07:29and that's helped me a lot.
07:32And then, of course, James.
07:33You've definitely helped me grow as a person too.
07:35Yeah, overall, you guys have both definitely helped me to grow as a person
07:38and become the best version of myself.
07:40Stepping way out of my comfort zone to do something I never thought possible,
07:44and I'll never be able to thank you both enough for all the love, support.
07:48You truly do make me the happiest guy in the world.
07:51Knowing that you guys love each other and love me just as much as I love both of you,
07:56it makes me so happy.
07:59It's our lives.
08:00We're going to live it the way that we want to live it, honestly.
08:02Just keep your judgment to yourself.
08:04If you really don't like it, don't look.
08:21.
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