00:00My husband employs me to take care of the home and I encourage other women to pursue
00:04the same dynamic for their future financial success.
00:07I didn't even know I wanted a traditional relationship where there were gender separations.
00:12I earn more now married than I did when I was in the military and it's the best job I've ever had.
00:19There are feminists on Reddit who hate me, most of which are single over the age of 30.
00:25They called me a white f******.
00:27Our friend is coming over to get to the bottom of what his opinion of our relationship is.
00:33I don't view marriage as an economic relationship.
00:35That's just not how I would ever choose to describe it.
00:38It's a spiritual relationship.
00:39Okay, so spiritual relationship.
00:43We were at the same work for a while and I ended up becoming single and I thought he
00:48was very attractive so I shot my shot and apparently it landed because now I'm married
00:54and I have a baby on the way.
00:56We've been together, what, two and a half years?
00:58So we were engaged and I was going to school.
01:02I was also working but I thought that he was wanting a little bit more attention
01:07to the house, to the home, and also, you know, to himself.
01:11So I had a sneaking suspicion that it might benefit our relationship if I stayed home.
01:16I didn't even know I wanted a traditional relationship.
01:19I, honest to God, thought that I wanted a physicist triathlete.
01:23So until I got into a relationship with Ali, I didn't even know how wonderful having a
01:28traditional relationship where there were gender separations.
01:32The agreement was was that if I sucked at being a homemaker that I would go back to
01:35work but I did not suck.
01:38I wouldn't say I'm a feminist at all.
01:39I think that feminism was all bad.
01:42Men love women so much that they would have liberated us after they were fully liberated
01:47anyway.
01:48I am just of the opinion that feminism was completely unnecessary and that it's a female
01:52supremacy movement.
01:53You're just in it for the steak and eggs.
01:56So I do most of the cooking and cleaning.
01:58I do most of the laundry as well.
02:00He works for a long time.
02:01Sometimes it's 10 hours a day.
02:04So I just take care of the house while he's gone.
02:06I earn more now married than I did when I was in the military and it's the best job
02:12I've ever had.
02:13I would probably be considered on his bankroll.
02:15He pays for my living.
02:18There's a health insurance plan.
02:20I basically said, hey, look, how much money do you need per week to do fun things?
02:25She said, I need $100 for my snacks and my coffee.
02:29And I'm like, OK.
02:31We got rid of all her credit cards.
02:32We opened up new credit cards under my account.
02:35And so now I can see all of her purchases.
02:37And she's very disciplined.
02:39I don't want to drain my husband.
02:41I know some wives, they don't have a conscience with that.
02:45But I would prefer if I never had to look at a screen about dollars ever.
02:51Today, I'm going shopping, obviously, on Tom's Dine.
02:56She really doesn't ask for a whole lot of stuff that she doesn't need.
03:00She's pretty financially disciplined.
03:02The alternative is going to an actual job with an actual boss.
03:07Keep in mind, that's a man that doesn't care about you.
03:09You clock in, you clock out.
03:11You're not on his mind.
03:12He would fire you tomorrow.
03:13My husband is not going to fire me tomorrow.
03:16I think that it's much more romantic than that.
03:18But if we have to call it labor, it's not the worst job out there.
03:23I haven't received anything but positive feedback from my friends.
03:26They're probably high-fiving you, you know?
03:29OK, I wasn't going to say that.
03:30But yeah, there is a lot of that, right?
03:32Because all my buddies are in their late 40s, early 50s, like myself.
03:36And they're like, damn, dude, you've got a 27-year-old.
03:39I'm like, mm-hmm.
03:41There's been controversy surrounding the age gap.
03:44I am 28 years old.
03:46I'm 51.
03:47I think my mom was really worried.
03:48I was wondering, how did you really feel when I started dating Tom?
03:53Just a little skeptical because of the age difference.
03:55But you can tell us what you really thought.
03:58I didn't think it was going to go.
04:00I thought it was just, you know.
04:01So you thought we were going to break up or something?
04:04Maybe.
04:04I don't like, yeah, I guess.
04:08Did you not want it to last?
04:09It's OK if you didn't.
04:11Oh, it's either way.
04:14You know, I couldn't predict.
04:17How do you feel about me spreading my messages online?
04:21They're a little controversial.
04:23But I don't like the comments that some people make.
04:28I would just want to go in there and go, ugh.
04:32Online, I would say that I get the most judgment because I'm a content creator.
04:37A woman wanting to work is very different.
04:39Why are male sexual appetites suppressed?
04:42If you're a feminist at this point in time, you're a clown, right?
04:45There's a lot of assumptions, right?
04:47I do this for a brand.
04:49I do this because I'm uneducated.
04:51I do this because I'm lazy.
04:53And then, you know, there's that fun racial element.
04:56My favorite racial joke that I've gotten was,
04:58lady in the streets colonized in the sheets.
05:01I thought that was really creative.
05:03They also called me a white supremacist.
05:06And I was like, okay, I'm dating a Latina woman and I'm a white supremacist.
05:10There are feminists on Reddit who hate me,
05:14most of which are single over the age of 30.
05:17I just want women to know that they have other options out there.
05:22Sometimes I've been accused of being a gold digger.
05:25She asked for $100 a week.
05:27What kind of gold digger wants that?
05:29Actually, there's a lot of positive comments
05:32from women who feel like they've finally been seen.
05:35It's the positive comments that I get from women in that context
05:38that really let me know that I'm doing the right thing.
05:42Our friend is coming over to get to the bottom
05:45of what his opinion of our relationship is.
05:47I know that she has a YouTube channel and that it's pretty successful.
05:51From what I understand, she sells the idea
05:54that you don't necessarily have to be a professional,
05:58that it's okay to be a housewife.
06:01Do you think it's wrong for Alyssa to be employed by Tony?
06:04Here's what I think.
06:05Hey, here's my offer.
06:07I will provide you a home, a house, protection, and provision.
06:11What I ask for in return is support, a clean house,
06:16so that I can go out into the world and focus on the external world.
06:20I just think that it's the right thing to do
06:22to give you a return on investment.
06:24If you have to put it in economic terms, fine,
06:26but it's just doing the right thing in a marriage.
06:29You take care of me, I take care of you.
06:31It's a good bankroll to be on.
06:33I don't view marriage as an economic relationship.
06:35I know that you can analyze it that way.
06:37Just to clarify, how I describe it, that's an economic mode?
06:40Yeah, that's an economic way of describing it.
06:43Because I didn't know that I was describing it that way.
06:45No, no, it is.
06:46There is an economic relationship there.
06:48That's just not how I would ever choose to describe it.
06:51You make a commitment to that other person, right?
06:55So that commitment isn't about like,
06:58I'm going to do XYZ in exchange for ABC.
07:02You're going to miss the big picture.
07:05I've only ever really used an economic lens
07:07because literally women would rather,
07:11some women these days,
07:12they're just completely content to follow
07:15the leadership of an employer that doesn't care about them.
07:17And if you were to tell them that they could
07:20depend on a good man financially,
07:22they just would rather stay at that job
07:24instead of having to cooperate,
07:26I would even say, with a man.
07:28So I'm trying to save these women.
07:31These ungrateful women.
07:32A big corporation ain't ever going to care about you, okay?
07:35Like your spouse, there's a chance.
07:38I'd boil it down to biology.
07:40You're never going to take away the genetics
07:42and the biology of it.
07:44Because I am in my masculine
07:47and I'm able to go out and provide the resources,
07:50I feel great.
07:52I think most modern relationships are unhappy.
07:54I think men act like women.
07:56I think women act like men.
07:58And when they get together,
07:59they have a really unbalanced dynamic.
08:02I think the entire culture that we have right now in America
08:06wants you to be single, fat, depressed, and childless.
08:10So if you are going to be counter to that,
08:13it's going to be a rough go.
08:15We have a relationship with ourselves
08:18that make us relatively happy
08:20and then we come together
08:21and then we have a happy marriage.
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