00:00We fall into the trap of believing we're trapped.
00:03You at any moment of your life get to change your mind.
00:07I heard Oprah saying, even if the people are in the church, even if they're waiting for
00:12you to walk down the aisle, you can change your mind.
00:22This song takes you on an insane rollercoaster, and I just thought if we can pull this off
00:29and people like it, this puts me in my own sort of singular category.
00:50I journal a lot, and I thought how cool it would have been if one of my notes from my
00:58future self found me on that day of my first wedding.
01:02I just started to paint this picture of me.
01:05I remember the room I was getting ready in and feeling like I should not go through with this.
01:11And what if I actually did get a secret note for myself?
01:16Would I have changed things?
01:18Would I have not gone through with it?
01:19And I love the, it feels so sinister.
01:22He thinks he's velvet smooth, a fallin' for the act.
01:26I'm in the other room and seein' through the cracks, the voices in my head.
01:31I screamin' no, don't.
01:38This is definitely an unraveling of the illusion of this perfect guy.
01:43There's that saying of when people show you who they are, believe them.
01:48And I was not believing what was in front of my eyes.
01:53There were these little cracks and things and all these red flags that I was choosing to ignore.
01:58I wish I would have had a wake-up call sooner.
02:02You don't have to waste your night and wear your heart out.
02:08The warning signs are flashin' now.
02:11Stop the wedding, ooh, stop the wedding.
02:18Even though the table's set, the guests are waiting.
02:22You can burn the dress and run away.
02:26Stop the wedding, ooh, stop the wedding.
02:33I think the TikToks that have sort of hit the hardest are the ones about, I wish my mom had
02:40this song.
02:41That's been really brutal, cause same.
02:44This sort of realization of, gosh, like even if you love your dad, but don't love him as a husband.
02:51Ugh, that just, that's really wrecked me.
02:54Because it gave the song a completely new life.
02:59You've been such a good girl.
03:03Talking like you should girl.
03:07Keep avoiding disappointing in your white satin heels.
03:11But you know how you really feel.
03:14I'm such a people pleaser, always.
03:16I like to think that I've outgrown it.
03:18I totally have not.
03:19I really needed someone to tell me, it's okay to leave.
03:23Even if he wasn't the villain in my story.
03:26Which by the way, he is.
03:28I think the advice I would give is, you don't need an excuse.
03:32If it's not right, and you know it's not right, you don't have to form yourself to anybody else, ever.
03:40And you have every right to say, this isn't for me.
03:45And I'm gonna, I'm gonna go.
03:49Stop the wedding, stop the wedding.
03:54If your heart is dreading, hands are sweating.
03:58While the sun is setting, you'll be getting out.
04:04The bridge is where the whole scene starts changing.
04:09Like, with the sun setting, I'm picturing the curtains changing on stage.
04:15And this feeling of, it's now or never.
04:18I feel like the character in this story is, I'm gonna stay and be in this thing that I know
04:26is wrong.
04:27Or I'm gonna run.
04:28And so, I love that it repeats.
04:31Because there's this building herself up.
04:34Like getting the bravery to do it.
04:36And then the waste your life.
04:39And I'm just picturing her running through the doors.
04:43And that is definitely my favorite part.
05:06If my heart was set, I'll never break.
05:09And you can burn the dress and run away.
05:12Stop the wedding, ah.
05:16Stop the wedding, ah.
05:19The real reason why I changed those lyrics at the end was we always try to protect ourselves.
05:29And choose the safe route.
05:32Trying to escape the idea of breaking your heart.
05:36But the actuality is, if you wanna live a life worth living, you're gonna have to take the risk.
05:43It is worth setting the bomb on your life.
05:46It will be better.
05:47It gets better.
05:49But you're probably gonna have to break your heart in the process to get there.
05:54Shout out my manager, who called off her engagement.
05:58Not recently.
05:59The wedding was planned?
06:01Yeah.
06:01Stopped the wedding a month before.
06:04That's so crazy.
06:05I forget that.
06:06Of the wedding spirit.
06:06Yeah, you're gonna have to tryj Mistake in that.
06:06The wedding coming back and travel,
