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On this episode of World Wide Wed, we follow a couple on their journey to marriage by the sea in Brazil. Partners Jefferson and Tiago planned an Afro-Brazilian ceremony that is unique to their love. Watch this week's World Wide Wed to hear their inspirational story!

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Transcript
00:05This marriage is much more than a marriage, it is a political act.
00:11Two men have a resistance, and two black men have a resistance.
00:18We thought about something that would celebrate love.
00:20We chose Cundomblé to be an African religion.
00:24I'm Jefferson.
00:26I'm Thiago, and we're going to do a homoafetive marriage in the Afro-Brasilean Vies.
00:35There are several types of love. All these love are valid.
00:48There is a great population in Brazil who is homoafetive.
00:52There is a lot of love.
00:53Our parade is one of the biggest people in the world.
00:59And you still get mad when you hear news
01:03that a couple of people were arrested and walking on the street.
01:07You know?
01:09It's very sad to see that.
01:17The market has no preparo to make a marriage homoafetive marriage.
01:23You have to always be creating something, because you don't find it on the market.
01:27I told you something that if I was to marry, I would be a party.
01:31Something memorable.
01:32Something that would be marked in the memory of people.
01:42What is his marriage?
01:44I think he doesn't find the same marriage.
01:46On the beach, with the Bahia rituals.
01:50The land of the Orixá.
01:53At my time, I didn't have this kind of marriage, and then I was crazy to watch a gay marriage.
02:05For me, this marriage is a revolution.
02:13I was born in Salvador, a litoral city.
02:17We didn't have many financial resources, so the beach was the only space we had to play.
02:23So this contact with the mar always was present.
02:29At night, that preceded the marriage, the idea was to take a bath in the sea.
02:34We had some roses and a flask of alfazema, as a form of acknowledgement for Emanjá, in the Candomblé.
02:41The orixás are divindades that form the African pantheon.
02:47Emanjá is a orixá, the queen of the sacred waters.
02:51It's a mother that takes care of and protects.
02:54When we bring the orixás symbols, we say that everything that the Negroes suffered,
03:01the religion that was built in the African matrix, is valid.
03:09You take a bath in the sea.
03:12It's a natural bath in the land.
03:13It's the best bath in the spiritual bath that exists in any other area.
03:20The spirituality has been reging the whole journey of marriage.
03:25The orixás that rege you are represented in decoration.
03:33There is also another tradition that is the father of the wife pays a party, we heard a lot of
03:38this joke.
03:38Who is the father of the wife who pays a party?
03:41We say the father of the wife, because we work, we have the conditions to ban our party.
03:50There is a Brazilian tradition of the day of the wife,
03:53where the wife spends the day doing massage.
04:00We changed this tradition and we will have the day of the wife.
04:06We also want to make the hair before the ceremony.
04:12Gay marriage is almost a day we've never seen in Brazil.
04:19It's evolving.
04:25You are wonderful.
04:27Now I'm going to have to.
04:32Viva a diversidade, viva tudo.
04:35Let's be happy, it's what interests, it's what matters, it's what matters.
04:39I'm going to take you.
04:41I'm going to take you.
04:44My mother, unfortunately, doesn't come because of religion.
04:47She doesn't have a relationship with us.
04:48She doesn't have a relationship with us.
04:49She is homophobic, you know, against the relationship.
04:52But I think that the act of marriage is the religion puts a freer in it and says that she
04:56doesn't participate.
04:57And today it was even nice that the mother of Jefferson told me that she's your mother
05:02who doesn't come, but I'm your mother and I'm going to be here.
05:05Can you hear it again?
05:07It was very nice to hear it.
05:09It was very nice to hear it.
05:10It was very nice to hear it.
05:10It was very nice to hear it.
05:11Nobody expected.
05:12Nobody expected.
05:13She said, I'm your mother.
05:14This is my daughter.
05:16This is my daughter.
05:18Are you happy?
05:19I am.
05:20I am.
05:23I am.
05:24I am.
05:25I am.
05:27I am.
05:28I am.
05:28Do it.
05:42This marriage comes with different syncretisms, not the African mythology.
05:47African family, and they have several friends with all their profiles, and they were able
05:52to make a wedding ceremony that respects everything.
05:59The plaque announced the arrival of the bride's arrival, and we will send them to write the
06:03phrase that we tattooed.
06:06That no one will be able to tell us how to love.
06:09There are no rules for love.
06:33For the ceremony, we thought about the Rito of the Areas, and we thought about the seven
06:39colors of the rainbow.
06:44The land is the matrix of everything.
06:46So our family, as a matrix-generated, adds the land to the vase, and in the following
06:51the family, each family of the bride will take a color of the areia.
06:55We are associating the Ko, the Orixá, and the family of the bride.
07:01All the guests, in some way, are our family.
07:17And at the end, our idea is that whoever looks at the vase with all the areias,
07:21see the flag of the gay pride.
07:27And my favorite part of the ceremony.
07:29The ceremony.
07:35And our pet will be dressed as a noivinha, carrying the alliances together with my
07:39sobrinha, the more new.
07:50It will be difficult to hold the emotion.
08:03And to finish, we will put the Areas do Mar.
08:15I want a kiss, but he wants a kiss from the 30s.
08:19He wants my face...
08:21He's more shy.
08:24He is shy.
08:24He's shy.
08:24RetroĂ­do, it's different from shyness.
08:40And we're going to invite those who want to take red roses and launch the sea.
08:45Thank you to Emanjá.
08:48One, two, three!
08:59People can look and say, look, two guys here in Brazil, in SĂŁo Paulo, have married.
09:05And if they're married, we can.
09:08I think that's the biggest resistance.
09:11And love.
09:13Love is essential.
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