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On this episode of World Wide Wed, we follow Lucie Fink as she makes her way down the aisle. She marries her high school sweetheart in an epic ceremony in the Hamptons. Watch this episode of World Wide Wed to see Lucie's wedding!

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Transcript
00:00Hey everyone, I'm Lucy. I'm a content creator and a video producer, and this is my husband.
00:05I'm Michael. I'm none of those things.
00:07We just got married after dating for 10 years.
00:10We didn't have a wedding theme, per se.
00:13We wanted the tables to feel very inviting, and cozy, and warm, and really beautiful.
00:18We wanted it to feel informal.
00:20Yeah.
00:20Just fun.
00:21We both have very big families, especially Michael, so we wound up having over 200 guests at the wedding.
00:27I think what was particularly special about our wedding day was that because we grew up in the same town
00:34and we had been dating for so long,
00:37it wasn't like there was a huge distinction between the guests on his side and the guests on my side.
00:42It was like our town coming together to celebrate this wedding that has been long-awaited since 2009.
00:49We met in 2007, went to high school together.
00:52I ended up asking her to prom, and yeah, the rest was history, I guess.
00:56It feels really strange to introduce you to people or refer to you as my wife.
01:02I don't know when I'm going to get over that.
01:04Sounds legit, and like we're so old and so mature, and like I have a husband.
01:09I'm sorry, I have a husband?
01:14Being a content creator and video producer for a living definitely came into play a lot during the wedding.
01:21I did feel like people wanted a lot of wedding content, and I really wanted to give them that, but
01:25at the same time, I wanted to remember that the wedding day was about us, and I just had to
01:31remember, you know, Michael doesn't do this for a living.
01:33He's been so generous to let me throw him in videos like this one, and to be on my YouTube
01:39channel at all, I'm so grateful that he does that and lets me do that with him.
01:43But he didn't sign up to do this as a job, so I try to remember every time I'm filming
01:48something, especially if it's for a personal moment in our lives, that there are so many things that are better
01:53kept personal.
01:54I think a wedding is one of the huge events in your life, so naturally you're going to capture it
01:59in a lot of different ways, and coming out of it, we have these unbelievable photos and videos from the
02:06event, and it's really nice that you're able to share that with a broader audience as well.
02:11When we were first deciding what to do for this wedding, I think our first stop was picking our venue.
02:17We knew we wanted to get married in the Hamptons, we actually considered getting married at his family house, but
02:23that was becoming too much of a production to set up tents and building a whole venue in the backyard,
02:29so we decided instead to pick a venue, and we went only to look at one venue, which was the
02:35Parish Art Museum, and we fell in love with it.
02:38The Parish was great for us because it had a bunch of indoor and outdoor space. It gave us a
02:43lot of options depending on how we actually wanted to do the wedding.
02:46So when our planner showed us this room that was essentially a black box, and they suggested we do our
02:51ceremony in there, at first we both said, no way, we're not doing this.
02:56And then we just kept looking at this black room and thinking about what we could do with it, and
03:02eventually it really hit us that doing the wedding in this dark room and changing the theme from bright sunshine
03:09and natural light to dramatic lighting and pin spotting on us,
03:14and having the whole room be pitch black except for the two of us, that started to become really appealing
03:19to us.
03:20Leading up to the wedding itself was really nice because both sides of the family were staying at my parents'
03:27house, and then the day of was a lot.
03:30It felt like, I don't know, 10 days all in one. It felt like a very long day.
03:35Woke up bright and early. Even having not slept very well, I just felt very energized and was ready to
03:41go.
03:42Didn't need hair and makeup.
03:43Didn't need hair and makeup, all that stuff.
03:44On the flip side, I woke up and had a lot to do. I also didn't sleep well at all.
03:51Despite not having slept well, I was also incredibly energized and I was really excited.
03:56My makeup artist actually slept over the night before, and she pretty much got started just like prepping my face
04:02very early in the morning.
04:04And pretty soon it was just a very busy, bustling scene.
04:07We were also at Michael's house, but all the girls got ready upstairs and all the boys got ready outside
04:14in the pool house area.
04:15So we were not even technically in the same house.
04:19Everyone was telling me about how crazy it was that Lucy was so patient and calm.
04:25I just felt like I didn't have any reason to be otherwise.
04:29It was incredibly organized and I woke up and it was my wedding day.
04:33I just felt like it was the best day of my life was coming up.
04:37And there were so many people from out of town that had flown in and driven in to come be
04:41with us.
04:42And I had such a fun night to look forward to and I had so much in the day to
04:47look forward to.
04:48And I just had awaited this day, not only for a year and a half, but for 10 years with
04:52him.
04:53So I was just so excited.
05:00When we were ready to do the first look, they had me standing just facing a tree.
05:05I got to know that tree very well because I was just standing there with it for what felt like
05:10honestly 45 minutes to an hour.
05:12I think in reality it was like at least 20 minutes.
05:15Yeah, but finally I made it out and I walked across the lawn in my dress and what felt like
05:20the longest walk of my life,
05:22just making my way slowly to where Michael had his back to me.
05:26And when he finally turned around, he kind of went weak at the knees for a second.
05:31I think I took your breath away.
05:32Definitely.
05:33He's a really emotional guy.
05:35I think in most of our relationship, I think he cried more.
05:39I don't really think it's about who cries more or less.
05:42I definitely cried better, if that's a thing.
05:47He's the better crier of the two of us because he has more experience, you know?
05:51Yeah.
05:51So in terms of our ceremony, we had a Jewish wedding.
05:54We had a rabbi who was reading Hebrew prayers and we did a lot of the classic Jewish elements when
06:00it comes to a wedding.
06:01That being said, it was more of a reform Jewish wedding.
06:05There were certain aspects of our ceremony that were a little bit alternative and maybe not traditionally Jewish.
06:12For instance, our chuppah, although it did have four points, it didn't have the cloth that covers it that would
06:19make it a traditional chuppah.
06:21It was more of just our own version of a chuppah.
06:23Our rabbi also did read Hebrew prayers, but because I personally don't speak Hebrew or understand Hebrew,
06:29I didn't want too much Hebrew to be read.
06:32So we did transfer some of the Hebrew blessings into English blessings.
06:36And our rabbi, I would say, was more spiritual than religious.
06:41He's super cool, really young guy, and he just stayed at the wedding as a guest after.
06:46But we did, you know, the drinking of the wine and we used kiddush cups that were engraved from my
06:53family back to the 1800s
06:54and one from his family back from the 1900s.
06:58And then we also did the classic smashing of the glass.
07:02Right when he slammed the glass, he screamed like as if he just won the World Series.
07:07Like, woo!
07:09Yeah, my voice was a little bit lower than that.
07:12Something like that.
07:13Woo!
07:14I think we realized pretty early on it would be very easy to get sucked into just going the traditional
07:20route.
07:21I think you and I had a bunch of conversations early on in the process
07:24where we just realized that we wanted to do it in the way that made sense for us.
07:28The whole day and then the ceremony itself had just gone so far exceeded the expectations that we had
07:34that to me at least, and I don't know if you felt this way too,
07:37it felt like the reception was just going to be icing on the cake.
07:40We walked into the room to the song September by Earth, Wind & Fire
07:44because we got married on the 21st night of September.
07:47So that song was kind of the song of the evening.
07:50I just remember turning to Michael while we're waiting outside saying,
07:54there's no way people are sitting down waiting for us to be introduced.
07:58It sounds like there's a full party going on in there.
08:01And by the time we entered and we could hear the song September was playing,
08:04we could see that the dance floor was already packed.
08:07And I almost expected the night to just be calm and one thing leading to the next,
08:12but it was an explosion.
08:30It kind of went by very quickly in some ways, but I feel like I have a lot of amazing
08:35memories from it.
08:36I don't know, to me that's kind of how the whole day felt.
08:39In some ways it felt like it took a really long time and we did so many things.
08:43But it also, when it was over, it kind of felt like it went away like that.
08:48At the end of the day, I think we both had the best day of our lives.
08:52We wouldn't change a thing, at least I wouldn't.
08:55I wouldn't either. I felt it in the moment, but also looking back at pictures and videos.
09:02I've never seen myself that happy.
09:05Are you crying?
09:06Nobody's crying.
09:07He cries all the time.
09:08She's making things up. Come on.
09:10His eyes are moist.
09:13Love you.
09:13You too.
09:18Thank you so much for watching this video about our wedding.
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09:28See ya!
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