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00:00:06This is the morning that has come to you
00:00:10Your face will shine
00:00:11Your face will shine
00:00:13Your face will shine
00:00:14Your face will shine
00:00:20The US has come to me
00:00:23This morning that has come to you
00:00:35His whole day is light
00:00:39He is drinking
00:00:41This morning that has come to you
00:00:42You are drinking
00:00:43The morning that has come to you
00:00:44He has theight
00:00:45Where you are you
00:00:49The morning that has come on
00:00:52This morning is drinking
00:00:54My water is drinking
00:00:56It's drinking
00:00:56It is drinking
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00:01:07foreign
00:01:15as-salamu alaykum good morning good morning pakistan
00:01:20i'm talking to you
00:01:22but yes
00:01:24as-say
00:01:26if you can find things in a place,
00:01:28you can find money in banks,
00:01:31you can find locus,
00:01:33or you can find a house in a house,
00:01:37you can find a house in a house,
00:01:39which you can find things in a house,
00:01:41you can find gadgets,
00:01:46or you can find any kind of things,
00:01:47you can find something in a house.
00:01:49But if you ask any person,
00:01:53We will ask that the most important thing in life is the most important thing in life.
00:01:59He will say that the children will be the most important thing.
00:02:03So, his answer is this.
00:02:04Your children, your assets, your all-in-law, your everything.
00:02:12Your all-in-law.
00:02:15We have seen a lot of people who have seen this.
00:02:24If you have any kind of sin, you will have to be able to lose your all-in-law.
00:02:27So, if you have any questions,
00:02:30you will have to be able to lose your all-in-law.
00:02:39If you have nothing to do with anything,
00:02:43you will be able to lose your all-in-law.
00:02:47So, if we experience these things,
00:02:52we will experience how many people have affected their all-in-law.
00:02:58So, that all of us, our all-in-law, our all-in-law, our all-in-law, our all-in
00:03:03-law.
00:03:17So, they have something like this,
00:03:18which is the reason why my father was crying,
00:03:22that the children did everything that they did in their hands.
00:03:27So, all of us, we realize that what is the thing in our life?
00:03:31Children.
00:03:32We are saying that, as parents,
00:03:35we are trying to protect them.
00:03:38We are trying to protect them.
00:04:04foreign
00:04:29in children's childhood trauma, the child abuse in children's childhood trauma,
00:04:36the trauma in their lives of children and psychiatrists and psychiatrists
00:04:44that they don't get out of the trauma.
00:04:49So, when they are wrong, they are wrong.
00:04:51and they are wrong.
00:04:52I will say that my father is wrong.
00:04:57They are so much in mind.
00:04:58But they are wrong.
00:05:01They are wrong.
00:05:02They are wrong.
00:05:06So, today, my father is basically
00:05:10a program designed to help us
00:05:12to make our children proper way.
00:05:15how to do that.
00:05:16Now, we have done that because of a mom's guilt or a father's guilt or a parent's guilt
00:05:24is not in our own.
00:05:26We have a very important thing to do in the list.
00:05:32Basically, children will give awareness.
00:05:35They will save their child abuse.
00:05:38They will save their children.
00:05:51So, come and learn.
00:05:54Good morning, Pakistan.
00:05:59Welcome, welcome back.
00:06:01Good morning, Pakistan.
00:06:03Today's topic is a very important topic.
00:06:06Many moms do also distorting their child's guilt
00:06:11or telling their children in their own household.
00:06:16Occasionality is with a joint family system.
00:06:19Many people who are not from our own,
00:06:22they also keep us out of,
00:06:25and we live in a house in a house and we respect a lot of people.
00:06:31We live in denial every time and say no, no, no, that's not possible.
00:06:35No, no, that's not possible.
00:06:37So now the time has come.
00:06:40That's why today's panel has been set up.
00:06:44When we didn't talk about that,
00:06:47now we have to talk about that.
00:06:50We have Vaniza Ahmed.
00:06:52As-salamu alaykum.
00:06:53How are you?
00:06:56Alhamdulillah.
00:06:57And then we have Atiyah Fareed, Clinical Psychologist.
00:07:00As-salamu alaykum.
00:07:02How are you?
00:07:02Absolutely. Thank you again so much for the invitation.
00:07:05And we have Ziya Awan, who is an advocate.
00:07:09Human Rights Activist.
00:07:11As-salamu alaykum.
00:07:12How are you?
00:07:13Yes.
00:07:16So what do you want to say today's topic?
00:07:20Children's health, basically.
00:07:22As mother, if you ask them,
00:07:24what is the parameters of children's health,
00:07:27or what is the canvas for you?
00:07:32It's a very big canvas.
00:07:46It's pivotal, it's very important.
00:07:48Because the rights, the agency,
00:07:51is a mother's work.
00:07:53That she will learn.
00:07:54Especially a child who doesn't know anything about it.
00:07:56We don't know anything about it.
00:07:59And we have the tools to deal with this world.
00:08:02Because we have gone through all of them.
00:08:04So it's a very big responsibility for both parents.
00:08:07First of all, you decide if you want to be born.
00:08:10And if you want to be born,
00:08:11I'm not one of those feminists.
00:08:12I think that the woman who has decided to be born,
00:08:16for the child to be born,
00:08:17I feel that for the first seven years,
00:08:19it's very important that the mother
00:08:22will give her whole attention to her child's
00:08:25and her own relationship.
00:08:27Because the first seven years are critical.
00:08:30After that, you have learned the tools,
00:08:32and understood.
00:08:33So the mother's work,
00:08:35she has emotional regulation,
00:08:37she has learned about it.
00:08:40And after that, the father's work starts
00:08:42to learn worldly things in the world.
00:08:46So I think it's a very huge canvas.
00:08:47It's a big canvas.
00:08:48We need to learn everything about them.
00:08:50From not just your physical body,
00:08:52but your mental,
00:08:53your own heart.
00:08:55What is their heart?
00:08:57First of all,
00:08:58understand this.
00:08:58But it's an authentic self.
00:09:00It's only a mother who knows.
00:09:02And we live in such a society.
00:09:05We don't think about it.
00:09:06It's like the world.
00:09:07We don't have the agency.
00:09:12We don't know anything about it.
00:09:14We don't know anything about it.
00:09:15The science is telling us
00:09:16that humans,
00:09:17which we know better,
00:09:19that humans,
00:09:20when they are born,
00:09:21when they are born,
00:09:23they have trillions of more cells.
00:09:26Yes.
00:09:27And as we grow up,
00:09:29we don't have things shed.
00:09:31We don't use them,
00:09:33they will die.
00:09:34They will die.
00:09:35They will die.
00:09:36we understand,
00:09:37when a child is born,
00:09:38there is nothing.
00:09:39Everything is done.
00:09:40But because it's not done practice,
00:09:42it's forgotten.
00:09:44So,
00:09:45we learn from the beginning,
00:09:47and to learn from the children,
00:09:49and as we don't tell them,
00:09:50we don't tell them,
00:09:50like they are born,
00:09:51they are trying to go,
00:09:53they will fall,
00:09:54they will fall,
00:09:55they will fall,
00:09:56they will fall,
00:09:57they will fall.
00:09:59So for the first 7 years, we are learning the brain that comes to it and we feel that it
00:10:05doesn't come to it.
00:10:06So she has only learned 9. So I have only learned 9 in the childhood.
00:10:10I said, it will fall, it will fall, no, no.
00:10:12So I didn't have to do it with my children. I didn't have to do it.
00:10:15I enjoyed it with my mother.
00:10:18She said, don't give it to me. It doesn't matter.
00:10:21Coming back to the topic.
00:10:23So I didn't limit my children.
00:10:25There is nothing to talk about children.
00:10:28That's what I am saying.
00:10:31That's what I am saying.
00:10:32They are dumb.
00:10:34They are dumb.
00:10:34They don't know anything.
00:10:35Like we are talking about mothers.
00:10:39But they are not realizing that you don't have agency.
00:10:45Basically, you are making them a package.
00:10:47We are selling them.
00:10:49We are selling them.
00:10:49We are selling them.
00:10:50We are selling them.
00:10:51We are selling them.
00:10:52But they are selling them.
00:10:56As a clinical psychologist.
00:10:58I would like to ask you.
00:10:59Do you feel satisfied with your children?
00:11:05Look, Nida.
00:11:06I will take two things.
00:11:08Let me be coming up with a very unbiased approach.
00:11:31When I was a mother, I thought my child was the safest with me.
00:11:35That is what all the mothers think.
00:11:38How much can I say about parents?
00:11:42I will be like parents have a parent literacy program.
00:11:46As a parent parent literacy program.
00:11:47But my children are not aware of that.
00:11:49We are taking it.
00:11:50That's what I am saying.
00:12:19It comes with both the parents.
00:12:21This is the work of Parent Literacy.
00:12:25It is necessary to take us into Parent Literacy.
00:12:29Because as Manizah said, you are basically talking about very young children.
00:12:36You don't do that, you don't do that, you don't do that.
00:12:38But the thing is that as we are growing up and as a child is growing up,
00:12:42the needs and requirements are different.
00:12:44As a professional, parent literacy is a constant developmental thing that has to go on everyday.
00:12:55Your child will take those challenges that you are not prepared.
00:12:59So you don't understand what you are doing in trial and error method.
00:13:06You will put yourself in accountability that what you are doing is okay or not.
00:13:10And you are going to provide that very safe environment for that child that he will communicate with you.
00:13:16So communication is the key to everything.
00:13:23As an advocate, I would like to ask you, as an activist,
00:13:29how many cases have come in front of you?
00:13:31My opinion is that there are cases that we have handled in court.
00:13:36And there are also cases of child abuse.
00:13:37And there are cases.
00:13:38And data.
00:13:39So you will see all those things as an observation.
00:13:45Do you think that parents have some mistakes?
00:13:48If it happens to the children,
00:13:50I will not talk about that.
00:13:52But I think that child protection is a big issue in Pakistan.
00:13:56In Pakistan, the population of the 50% of the population is children.
00:14:01And the child protection is less than 18% of the population.
00:14:06You can take 7, 6, 12% of the population.
00:14:08I have told them that every age has its requirements.
00:14:13So when I did not do this in 2000,
00:14:19I thought that children to send out to the house without protection,
00:14:24it is very dangerous.
00:14:26But when I started to make data,
00:14:27I started to make data from Pakistan.
00:14:30So we realized that both cases are together.
00:14:33The cases of children and children abuse and violence
00:14:37are one of the same.
00:14:39And in addition to that,
00:14:41when there is violence in your family,
00:14:45I am not talking about the comfort zone.
00:14:47I am talking about what is normal.
00:14:51When you talk about children in the family environment,
00:14:53you will talk about children in the family environment,
00:14:57you will talk about children in the family environment,
00:14:58you will talk about children in the abusive way,
00:15:01you will talk about the mother,
00:15:03or the mother in some places,
00:15:05maybe some percent,
00:15:06the mother is also very violent,
00:15:09with their husbands or children,
00:15:11but the majority of the men are.
00:15:13I am not saying that,
00:15:14but the majority of the men are.
00:15:17So basically,
00:15:18the thing that they have done is very important,
00:15:21that there is no such a reason
00:15:25that people will learn parenting.
00:15:27People will know that they are going to get married,
00:15:30so how will they get married?
00:15:31Exactly.
00:15:32It is not.
00:15:33It is our country,
00:15:34it was a poor country in one time,
00:15:36in Malaysia.
00:15:37So it is that,
00:15:39before marriage,
00:15:40they go through the whole process.
00:15:52Yes, you are right.
00:15:53Yes.
00:15:53You are right.
00:15:54Yes.
00:15:55You are right.
00:15:56this starts at the beginning,
00:15:57when the man is finished,
00:16:00then we say,
00:16:01yes,
00:16:01we will go to the hospital.
00:16:03So the teachings,
00:16:05the positive,
00:16:06you cannot get the same.
00:16:08So the overall abusive environment
00:16:10is our environment.
00:16:11The way you need to do it in the ..
00:16:13the community,
00:16:15the government of law,
00:16:17the rules of law,
00:16:19the rules of law,
00:16:19the rule of what as so many parties,
00:16:20there are not many people.
00:16:22Zero percent of the job is not.
00:16:23This is my personal experience
00:16:26that these are how many departments
00:16:27that they are made,
00:16:28the zero percent is.
00:16:30In the courts,
00:16:31I am also calling them,
00:16:32the case.
00:16:32There are many many of these petitions
00:16:34that really have been there.
00:16:34in Supreme Court people,
00:16:35that those two kids missing there.
00:16:37which is also important. But I'm talking about the children who are voiceless.
00:16:40You were talking about the children who are already in protection.
00:16:43Which is also important. But I'm talking about the children who are trafficking.
00:16:49Child labor in our country, I don't know if you have a child in the kitchen,
00:16:54or someone's house.
00:16:57It's a different phenomenon.
00:16:59Our children are not properly grouped.
00:17:03It doesn't happen.
00:17:04And our talent will not be in the world.
00:17:09When I go outside, I've gone to the world in 73 countries.
00:17:13I've been to, because of this work.
00:17:15I've worked with UN.
00:17:17I've worked with UN, international organizations.
00:17:19You take a name and we've worked with them.
00:17:22We've also worked on their board.
00:17:23So we're seeing that people are moving forward.
00:17:26We're going back.
00:17:27There is awareness, but there is no implementation.
00:17:30But if you talk about awareness,
00:17:32you and me,
00:17:33when people are talking about it,
00:17:35they say that there are so many people in the home,
00:17:39that there are no human rights.
00:17:41Children's rights is a big deal, right?
00:17:43Yes.
00:17:44If a mother is so hurt,
00:17:45or a father is so hurt,
00:17:48that he is not safe at home,
00:17:52let alone anywhere else.
00:17:53If a mother is so hurt,
00:17:56if a mother is so hurt,
00:17:58if a mother is so hurt,
00:17:59if a mother is so hurt,
00:18:00you're not safe at home.
00:18:02So where do you get the protection?
00:18:05The thing is that the constitution
00:18:07is the source of law.
00:18:09As the law is made,
00:18:12they interpret the constitution.
00:18:14And the human rights,
00:18:17the human rights,
00:18:18the education.
00:18:20That's the environment.
00:18:2275 years ago,
00:18:24we're seeing that the government says,
00:18:25there are two million people out of school.
00:18:30If school doesn't go to school,
00:18:32in this period,
00:18:33in this period,
00:18:34that the child will not look at school.
00:18:37So what do you expect that?
00:18:40What do you expect that?
00:18:40The family,
00:18:41the children who come to our house,
00:18:44who come to our house,
00:18:45who come to our house,
00:18:51who come to our house,
00:18:55who come to our house,
00:18:55who come to our house,
00:18:56who go to our house,
00:18:57who is going to protect them?
00:19:02So,
00:19:03why can't this be a schooling system?
00:19:06Why can't the students
00:19:07that the students of the people
00:19:07who have worked in school,
00:19:09keep them in a long time
00:19:11until 4 o'clock,
00:19:12and their value of nutrition?
00:19:15It's so much peanuts.
00:19:18I completely agree, but when the child is growing, she is capable of education.
00:19:24What we need to do is basically that we have proofing of all the things, paint proofing, water proofing,
00:19:35why not do child proofing? And child proofing means that we don't do sexual or physical abuse.
00:19:41As Vaniza said, there is also an emotional abuse. So safety is very complicated.
00:19:47There is also a physical safety.
00:19:49As they talked about in the labor class, they are having kids.
00:19:54I have witnessed this with my own eyes.
00:19:56They are standing up, standing up, playing down.
00:19:58Someone is coming, knocking, asking them to come and play.
00:20:02And within seconds, the child is gone.
00:20:03How much is it involved in drugs?
00:20:07Safety has become physical.
00:20:10The second thing is that you have emotional safety.
00:20:11What kind of environment are you providing to that child?
00:20:14Is it safe or not?
00:20:16And when I talk about physical abuse, we are talking about this every time,
00:20:18that it is probably unsafe.
00:20:20It is not safe.
00:20:20It is not safe.
00:20:22It is not safe.
00:20:22You know, sit down in bed, sit down with your son.
00:20:25Let's go with your son.
00:20:25Let's go with your son.
00:20:26Let's go with your son.
00:20:26If you don't have a child, then you will have a child.
00:20:29Mother is not written.
00:20:31If she is not written.
00:20:31Mother is not written.
00:20:33If she is not written.
00:20:33Mother is written.
00:20:34And she is not written.
00:20:34She has not written.
00:20:36If she is not written.
00:20:38Then what will she do?
00:20:39But the study is written.
00:20:40My mother, you have incestual cases are in your house.
00:20:42Yes.
00:20:43The fathers are doing it.
00:20:44The brothers are doing it.
00:20:45Because they have sexual awareness.
00:20:46Servants are doing it.
00:20:47Servants are doing it.
00:20:48Servants are doing it.
00:20:48Servants are doing it.
00:20:49Servants are doing it.
00:20:49Servants are doing it.
00:20:49We will save them.
00:20:49You have a child proofing.
00:21:03But we have not done that with people.
00:21:03That's the reason we don't have treatment is.
00:21:03We don't have to evite themselves.
00:21:04We can't find a child proofing.
00:21:05Because the child's not of a parent is back.
00:21:06To learn the children's own body.
00:21:06We understand the same.
00:21:07If the child feels safe to that person.
00:21:08Then he does that.
00:21:09It's very important.
00:21:10And we do it.
00:21:11safety measures are because we are talking about protection, we are not talking about abuse.
00:21:16In protection, they need to be strange or smart, literally.
00:21:23Which one of those two or three people can have a physical connection or emotional connection,
00:21:30who can trust them.
00:21:33And strangers may be, which one of those stranger is smart,
00:21:36who can approach a trusting relationship.
00:21:41Otherwise, the rest of the world is an unsafe place.
00:21:46We are taking a break and then I will continue your story.
00:21:51Good morning Pakistan.
00:21:58Welcome, welcome back. Good morning Pakistan.
00:22:02So, how do we keep our children's health?
00:22:04How do we keep our children's health?
00:22:05Today, we are going to try and try to learn.
00:22:08My name is Maliyah and Maliyah.
00:22:11We will share a little with you.
00:22:12Welcome Maliyah.
00:22:13Welcome.
00:22:15This is my own story.
00:22:17I have been with you.
00:22:18I was studying school for 10 years.
00:22:21I was going to go to school.
00:22:23My mom used to pick me for a day.
00:22:26They were touching me correctly.
00:22:29I had no idea.
00:22:31I had no idea.
00:22:32I had no idea.
00:22:32I was not sure what was happening with my children.
00:22:34But I was afraid of my mind.
00:22:37I was afraid of having me.
00:22:39I was afraid of having me.
00:22:40I was afraid.
00:22:40Then one day, they did my side wrong.
00:22:43I touched my phone very badly.
00:22:45I touched on it.
00:22:47And also, I touched on it.
00:22:49I was very tired of my mother.
00:22:51My mother was a doubt.
00:22:52My mother asked me what happened.
00:22:54In school, someone said something. I didn't say anything.
00:22:57Then, I cried in my room. My mother said to me,
00:23:01what happened? Who did it?
00:23:04Then, I told my mother all these things.
00:23:07Then, I didn't trust her.
00:23:12I just want to tell this.
00:23:13I don't want to trust anyone.
00:23:14No one doesn't trust anyone.
00:23:19So, what did your mother say to her?
00:23:21Do you want to trust them?
00:23:22It was a lot of struggle.
00:23:24But, today, we don't have any relationship with them.
00:23:27We don't get it.
00:23:28Very good.
00:23:28Your mother made a very brave decision.
00:23:31You also made a brave decision.
00:23:33You told home.
00:23:34The children didn't tell me.
00:23:36I thought, I don't want to tell you about this topic.
00:23:40That's why it is said that,
00:23:43the parents need to be friends.
00:23:46They don't need to be friends outside.
00:23:48They don't need to be friends outside.
00:23:49They don't need to be friends outside.
00:23:49When they are friends outside,
00:23:50you can open up and talk to them.
00:23:53If there is no comfortability with you,
00:23:55then, what do you do?
00:23:56Because this is another phenomenon.
00:23:58You have to be friends with children.
00:23:59Absolutely.
00:24:00You have to be friends outside.
00:24:02You have to be friends outside.
00:24:06They should be friends outside.
00:24:08To get liberated.
00:24:10They are feeling uncomfortable.
00:24:13And the children are really brave.
00:24:14They are also brave.
00:24:14You know, as a child,
00:24:15As a child, she was having a very small age,
00:24:18and she came out.
00:24:19They said,
00:24:20I tell them,
00:24:22and my mother was like that.
00:24:24She was accepting them.
00:24:26It is both of them.
00:24:27Because many emas don't accept me.
00:24:30Even before they take a step more, and that's the sexual literacy, so that children don't have to move on
00:24:36to this thing.
00:24:38What I wanted to talk to you, I wish that you would do a program in which you would call
00:24:45the head of the social sciences of the university.
00:24:48We would call them, and we would call them. Okay, now tell me, you have done a master, PhD or
00:24:57what did you have done?
00:24:58No, master.
00:24:59Now take a look at the university of the Karachi University, and there are so many universities.
00:25:02There are social sciences, psychology, sociology, social work, these are all social sciences subjects.
00:25:10Right.
00:25:10Why do there are such things, the children who are leaving, they give a parenting training.
00:25:16Why do they do that?
00:25:17What are the only ones doing here?
00:25:19When I read it, I'm reading it.
00:25:24But I'm looking at one side.
00:25:27I'm looking at one side.
00:25:30I'm in a second place where all the people are educated.
00:25:44foreign
00:26:03parent doctors
00:26:04to
00:26:05that
00:26:05schemes
00:26:07that
00:26:07you
00:26:08become
00:26:08a
00:26:10parent
00:26:11within
00:26:15the
00:26:16family
00:26:16roots
00:26:17if
00:26:17my
00:26:18mom
00:26:18brother
00:26:19if
00:26:23you
00:26:23child
00:26:26proofing
00:26:27you
00:26:27have
00:26:27sexual
00:26:28literacy
00:26:28literacy
00:26:28and
00:26:28sexual
00:26:30literacy
00:26:30is
00:26:30for example
00:26:33if
00:26:34a child
00:26:34has
00:26:34felt
00:26:35that
00:26:36a child
00:26:47should
00:26:48start
00:26:49screaming
00:26:50so
00:26:51that
00:26:51the child
00:26:51should
00:26:51start
00:26:51screaming
00:26:52that
00:26:53that
00:26:54the
00:26:54person
00:26:55who
00:26:55has
00:26:56a
00:26:56role
00:26:57model
00:26:58is
00:26:58a
00:27:00role
00:27:01model
00:27:01is
00:27:01a
00:27:21role
00:27:22model
00:27:23a
00:27:24one
00:27:24a
00:27:25a
00:27:25a
00:27:25a
00:27:25a
00:27:30a
00:27:30a
00:27:30a
00:27:31a
00:27:34a
00:27:34but if a mother can educate her children
00:27:38and there are so many books in cartoons
00:27:40then she can give her awareness
00:27:43because many mothers who don't have to study
00:27:45are very angry and angry
00:27:47they don't know how to do it
00:27:49in my opinion, sexual awareness is after the case
00:27:52when the child has such a big event
00:27:55after the media came out
00:27:57that you know you have to give sexual literacy
00:28:00Shehzad Roy is doing a great job
00:28:03Yes
00:28:03If she is giving sexual literacy
00:28:05and she is making schools
00:28:06She is giving all the literacy
00:28:07Perfect
00:28:08We see our secret wall concept
00:28:12We also show you the video
00:28:13I am so loving
00:28:14I am going to do it
00:28:16in school there is a secret wall
00:28:18which I will give myself
00:28:20which is a secret wall
00:28:24that children
00:28:25basically you see a lot of children
00:28:27they draw their guitars
00:28:30they don't speak
00:28:31they don't speak
00:28:32but they are drawing
00:28:34they are drawing
00:28:35more of your children's school teachers
00:28:37will say they are drawing
00:28:38if they have a problem at home
00:28:40they are teaching you the art teacher
00:28:42in your parents' teacher meeting
00:28:44they are drawing
00:28:45they are drawing
00:28:46they are drawing
00:28:46and then they are drawing
00:28:47and now they are drawing
00:28:48not even before
00:28:49we are all the adults
00:28:51so the secret wall is so much
00:28:53so that secret wall is so beautiful
00:28:53which all children are coming
00:28:56and who are in their minds
00:28:58who are working
00:28:59in their heart
00:29:01Because there is bullying in school, there is a lot of bullying in school, someone is
00:29:05ashamed of you, someone is doing what you are doing, so he has done a remarkable job
00:29:09and these are the influential people who have really changed.
00:29:14Yes, absolutely.
00:29:16So, I have the next child, she is a mother and these children are growing awareness.
00:29:24They are growing awareness, especially the children and girls.
00:29:28Because many girls are going through this.
00:29:30Please, maa.
00:29:31Yes.
00:29:33And as we are teaching our daughters, we also have to teach our daughters.
00:29:36Absolutely, it is very important.
00:29:36So, this is the need for your daughters to respect their counterparts.
00:29:43Yes.
00:29:44Absolutely.
00:29:45Yes, maa.
00:29:46I was in sixth class and I and my friends went to the same place.
00:29:51and I took my primary petition.
00:29:52Ah, well, for my last class, I took my final term.
00:29:55Okay.
00:29:57And I took my final term and I took my Youtube list.
00:29:57Once I took the help of my sixth class.
00:29:58I took my final term and my dad was married too.
00:30:01So, I took my papers to prepare my previous papers.
00:30:04Okay.
00:30:05Then, I was married, but the 3rd day that my papers did not start, I took myupert to how many
00:30:09days that I took my papers to make my future.
00:30:10When my friends went to the same place, I went to the first place, I did not.
00:30:13Since I until the first time, Mr has returned to the same end.
00:30:17So, I did not go to the same situation, but I was going to the same time in Mama's mother
00:30:21I gave an extra class. I said, okay, my friends went and said, we are going.
00:30:24I said, okay, it never happened before.
00:30:27I never felt like that.
00:30:28I said, okay, let's go, I will come.
00:30:31So, I stopped at that time.
00:30:33I tried to harass me, I tried to touch my bad touch.
00:30:37They were giving weird comments.
00:30:40It was a little while ago, I went there.
00:30:43It was a trauma for me that I couldn't forget it.
00:30:47I am in the first year.
00:30:49I didn't attend that class.
00:30:53I'm afraid of a male teacher.
00:30:56That's why I studied my math.
00:30:59I don't want to have a male teacher.
00:31:03Look, what happened here is their role.
00:31:08There are so many centers here,
00:31:11where people go,
00:31:15their mind's cycle changes.
00:31:18Traumatized.
00:31:19If this is something like a child,
00:31:22then you believe that they are the first class.
00:31:25First class, first class.
00:31:26They go back.
00:31:27They start to fail.
00:31:27Absolutely.
00:31:28Because their cycle changes.
00:31:30If they get to meet at that time,
00:31:32this is not a problem.
00:31:33They ought to be better.
00:31:34Now, it's a psychology.
00:31:37In fact, it is about we have zipped.
00:31:40If they say that they are the first psychologist,
00:31:43they say that you are the second person.
00:31:44They say they are sick.
00:31:45They are sick.
00:31:46They are sick.
00:31:47No one has been sick.
00:31:48These therapists aren't going to be the second concept.
00:32:01make regular, where students go and go to training themselves and do it. Because this is a
00:32:09very big force. In Karachi University, I go to a lot of departments like psychology, sociology,
00:32:15I go to a lot as a speaker. So I say, why are you not doing anything? Now they say
00:32:19that you
00:32:20create a kind of help line that we can handle harassment. They can create themselves.
00:32:27They can create themselves. Now there is so much force in our department. Where do they go to psychology?
00:32:35Where do they go? Where do they go? Where do they go? They don't get jobs. They don't get jobs.
00:32:39They don't get priority list. Well sir, the department is doing their job. Mental health days
00:32:45is making a lot of work. It's not happening. It's not happening. It's not happening.
00:32:50But there are many campaigns that are going on. That's not happening.
00:32:54Basically, the purpose of saying that society has to give something to you.
00:32:59So if we start from there, we start from there. Yes. Yes.
00:33:04I once said that we should learn each child. We should learn psychology.
00:33:10How will you learn psychology? How will you learn your children?
00:33:14How will you learn your children? I am a mother. I am a mother. I am a bad person.
00:33:21So in my mind, to discuss these things, I think it's important to be in my mother and son,
00:33:26or in my mother and son, in my mind, or in my mother and father, it shouldn't be露.
00:33:30We should discuss these things. We should know. What is the menstrual cycle?
00:33:35What is happening to women?
00:33:36We don't talk about it, we don't tell them.
00:33:38We don't pretend that this is not happening in our lives.
00:33:41So in these things, I think,
00:33:44I think,
00:33:45in science,
00:33:46as I was telling you in the break,
00:33:48I had both of my children
00:33:49who were 7-7 years old,
00:33:51who were 5-7 years old,
00:33:53I had a whole diagram of anatomy.
00:33:56I first taught them human anatomy.
00:33:58I taught men and women.
00:34:02That's the time a child gets inquisitive.
00:34:04It means that there are questions and curiosity
00:34:06that there are new things that they look at.
00:34:08What is it?
00:34:09So I first told them,
00:34:11that this is how your body will develop.
00:34:15In this age, these changes will come.
00:34:17So I didn't tell them about it before.
00:34:22But I showed them
00:34:23how beautiful their body is.
00:34:27And what systems are they.
00:34:28It's an open, literate communication.
00:34:30Yes, communication.
00:34:31I will add one thing.
00:34:32I will add one thing.
00:34:33And I'm 100% endorse you.
00:34:35You know,
00:34:36that there are things like welfare.
00:34:38But the fact is that
00:34:40people also go.
00:34:42When there are campaigns
00:34:42that are happening.
00:34:43People don't know.
00:34:44People don't know.
00:34:45People don't know.
00:34:46People don't know.
00:34:47People don't know.
00:34:48People don't know.
00:34:49People don't know.
00:34:50People don't know.
00:34:52That's why I think
00:34:53people talk about it.
00:34:55Even I, right now.
00:34:57I think therapy
00:34:58needs everyone.
00:35:00Because we haven't learned
00:35:02how to do our emotional regulation.
00:35:32how to do our emotional regulation.
00:35:35I have so many children who have OCD and especially after COVID, right?
00:35:42And you will be very struck that so many small children, 9-10-10 years old,
00:35:48and they have so high functioning OCD.
00:35:50So these are all things where parental awareness should come,
00:35:54whether my child is emotionally or mentally safe or not.
00:35:57So, when the mother is seeing that the child is going to take hands
00:36:00or the child is doing repetitively,
00:36:02or the child is doing their own rumination or obsession pattern,
00:36:05then they should go there and help them.
00:36:08So, you have to give safety.
00:36:10And I would like to continue with what you said,
00:36:13you know, that anatomy is so beautiful,
00:36:15that you have seen visually,
00:36:16that this is what we are thinking about in our minds,
00:36:20and that is what we don't know.
00:36:221% of people, 1% of people.
00:36:23I thought that the other thing is better than me.
00:36:27I would like to tell you.
00:36:27Look, in the children,
00:36:29some of the children have talked about the children.
00:36:32The problem of the children's children is bigger when they are young.
00:36:35And they don't know.
00:36:36They have been told.
00:36:38So, when they go to the peers,
00:36:38they are misguided there.
00:36:40The pressure is also one of the very important parts,
00:36:43that the children are broken.
00:36:44You know,
00:36:45some school allow their students get những handful of skills.
00:36:50Back in school,
00:36:51some NGOs introduce themselves to our children.
00:36:52meaning that the parents take this easy,
00:36:54that the children are experiencing the things
00:36:56because of that has also to understand the history.
00:37:02The discipline of teaching isn't a job.
00:37:04So, it may not be able to guide them to them as a teacher.
00:37:09They will guide them and they will have the subjects to learn how to get the children to get the
00:37:16children.
00:37:16As parents, we probably don't come.
00:37:18We don't come, but we don't want to learn.
00:37:20We don't come, but we don't want to learn.
00:37:23We are talking about 5% of the people who are in the top schools.
00:37:27You and our children.
00:37:28What about 2 crores who are out of school?
00:37:33How to do it?
00:37:34Actually, look at the work of NGOs.
00:37:36If they are in schools.
00:37:39You can tell me.
00:37:41There are very few NGOs left.
00:37:44Parents don't sign us.
00:37:47Parents don't sign us.
00:37:49Parents don't sign us.
00:37:50What are we teaching?
00:37:53Parents don't sign us.
00:37:54We are living in a flawed perception.
00:37:57Our child is very safe.
00:38:00Our child is safe.
00:38:03We are learning safety measures.
00:38:06They are talking about peer pressure.
00:38:08Social media influence.
00:38:09The digital availability and accessibility.
00:38:12Now, a child who has a big change.
00:38:14His sexual liberty is very high.
00:38:17Now, he has everything in the digital media.
00:38:18He has everything in the accessibility.
00:38:22Now, child abuse is a little.
00:38:24If you leave a teacher with a teacher.
00:38:27Now, it is on the internet.
00:38:29There are different games.
00:38:31Exactly.
00:38:31This is what I was talking about.
00:38:32Cyber abuse.
00:38:34Cyber abuse.
00:38:35Yes.
00:38:36Cyber sexual abuse.
00:38:37Where your child's videos are leaked.
00:38:39The most dangerous thing is.
00:38:40We have seen this.
00:38:41We are monitoring.
00:38:42The child is looking at which website.
00:38:44Which games are playing.
00:38:45We are not doing that.
00:38:46So, we will talk about cyber abuse.
00:38:48We will talk about a little break.
00:38:50Good morning Pakistan.
00:38:56Welcome.
00:38:57Welcome back.
00:38:58Good morning Pakistan.
00:38:59analogy Bye.
00:39:13Hello, Nobody..
00:39:14Подго吧, You can walk inside yourself..
00:39:15I am pequeña.
00:39:18The most of the time you feel.
00:39:19The most important of them is.
00:39:20That food is hot and the food.
00:39:23You can drink water.
00:39:24Say the ways I just think
00:39:27We have taught me how to use those decisions.
00:39:28Where the children need to gleich.
00:39:28tantowhen a family as a parent is.
00:39:29that we need to know about what we need to know about our children.
00:39:33We need to protect our children from trauma.
00:39:35We need to know what we need to learn.
00:39:38We need to know what we need to know about what we need to know about our lives.
00:39:42It's better to have our iPads and gadgets.
00:39:47Chat GPT.
00:39:48Chat GPT has become now.
00:39:50So, come on.
00:39:52This is what we need to sit with today's show.
00:39:55We have joined us with Saima.
00:39:58Saima will share something with us.
00:40:00Assalamualaikum.
00:40:01Assalamualaikum.
00:40:02My two children are a 4-year-old son and a 2-year-old son.
00:40:07My husband lives in my room.
00:40:09I and my husband are both in a job.
00:40:12So, I thought that I was working with my husband.
00:40:15We have put a house in the house.
00:40:18It's only making food.
00:40:19My children are making food.
00:40:20It's making food.
00:40:22It's making food.
00:40:23It's making food.
00:40:24It's making food.
00:40:26And it's making food.
00:40:28I don't want to visit my home.
00:40:33I think I have to go to the house.
00:40:35I have to leave my mother.
00:40:35I want to go to my home.
00:40:36I want to come back.
00:40:37I want to come back.
00:40:37I was very attached.
00:40:38I thought, let's have a good idea.
00:40:40It was so attached.
00:40:41It was quite easy to my job.
00:40:43It was easy to get a difficult time.
00:40:56She was looking for her.
00:40:58She was looking for her.
00:40:59Now, we left her.
00:41:01After that, when it happened,
00:41:03I had to do the child's work.
00:41:06She said,
00:41:07Mom, don't touch me like this.
00:41:10Mom, don't touch me like this.
00:41:12Mom, don't touch me like this.
00:41:12I was so upset.
00:41:16I said, what was going on with my son?
00:41:19I mean,
00:41:21what was going on with her?
00:41:22What was going on with her?
00:41:23I didn't understand anything.
00:41:25Sick.
00:41:27When she was so attached,
00:41:28she was gone.
00:41:29After that, she was so angry.
00:41:32I was so angry.
00:41:32I was so angry.
00:41:33She was so attached to her.
00:41:36She was so attached to her.
00:41:40Because of a mother,
00:41:41I didn't have enough time for me.
00:41:44I didn't have enough time for her.
00:41:46But when I noticed that,
00:41:48I was so upset.
00:41:49she was so upset.
00:41:51I didn't think that's what I did.
00:41:52Why did I do it?
00:41:54Because my father was on the road.
00:41:57And under that,
00:41:58She was so sad.
00:41:58You never saw her .
00:42:04She was angry.
00:42:06This is a study written, masha'Allah.
00:42:10Now, some of the studies that can be written,
00:42:13you can get a camera for 2,000-3,000.
00:42:17If you put it, you can see your children on the internet.
00:42:23How she is treating.
00:42:25Because there are a lot of challenges.
00:42:27There is a better life for children.
00:42:30But this aspect is telling us that there is no new training.
00:42:34There is no new training.
00:42:35There is no new training.
00:42:38There is no new training.
00:42:40There is no new training.
00:42:43There is no new training.
00:42:45There is no new training.
00:42:47There is no new training.
00:42:47Now, let me tell you.
00:42:49Like in UAE.
00:42:51In UAE, there are so many vacancies for teachers.
00:42:56But what do they do?
00:42:58They have made their whole system.
00:43:01So, if you go to the teacher's degree,
00:43:05then if you have done a master's degree,
00:43:10if you have done a PhD,
00:43:11then you will not take it.
00:43:13They will take you to the assistant teacher,
00:43:14which will get 2,000 dirhams.
00:43:17But if you are a teacher,
00:43:18and you have certified certified,
00:43:22then you will give them 5,000.
00:43:24There is a lot of difference.
00:43:25So, they have done that.
00:43:27They have done that.
00:43:28They have to be a licensed practitioner.
00:43:31Now, in Pakistan, majority of teachers,
00:43:34they are all of them.
00:43:35They have no training.
00:43:37They have no training.
00:43:41And they have no training for teachers.
00:43:44They have no training for teachers.
00:43:44And the teacher's training center has not been made.
00:43:47Okay?
00:43:48They need certification for everything.
00:43:50Whatever you have to do.
00:43:51Now, they have done psychology.
00:43:54So, if they have a certified psychologist,
00:43:58then they can do practice.
00:44:00Otherwise, you cannot become a teacher.
00:44:01You are not here.
00:44:04There are no licenses in here.
00:44:05The whole world has to be licensed.
00:44:07When we say,
00:44:09we have an idea about an other thing.
00:44:12This is a question.
00:44:12They aren't going to do it.
00:44:14We have to do it about physical assets,
00:44:16physical property,
00:44:17big thing,
00:44:17big ideas.
00:44:18Now, we don't prevent money,
00:44:20we have to stop the people going.
00:44:20If you do not take it.
00:44:20And the person,
00:44:20one of the people who are doing this,
00:44:23is the person who has to be famous.
00:44:23All the people who are doing this,
00:44:24and whoever is doing this,
00:44:27and our people who are doing this.
00:44:31more than we have a child.
00:44:32And in that matter, he is a very small child.
00:44:35Please don't feel guilty about that
00:44:37because he is a very small child.
00:44:40We can't do much,
00:44:42but when he was a small child,
00:44:45he would think he would come to see.
00:44:46He would never see.
00:44:48They were not seeing him.
00:44:49I'm telling you this.
00:44:51I'm telling you that
00:44:52the young age of 10-12-15-23s
00:44:54are not safe with the child.
00:44:55This is very small child.
00:44:56This is not safe.
00:45:01foreign
00:45:11foreign
00:45:12And learn from children.
00:45:24They don't know the things that they know.
00:45:29They know the things they know they are bad or bad.
00:45:33But if they learn that they will not express their emotions in their lives in four years.
00:45:38They don't understand what they are about.
00:45:41Let me tell you, I had a program with an NGO called cartoon movies, books, story books, children's eyes.
00:45:53For mothers. Especially mothers.
00:45:58We are empty. There are a lot of things.
00:46:00But we have a population of such a big population.
00:46:06When you make a policy, you know how to make a institution or areas.
00:46:14For example, if this is a UC-Nazim,
00:46:18a UC-Nazim will create a center for this area,
00:46:23where you can look after these things.
00:46:25You can tell me that you are media.
00:46:26You have a lot of information.
00:46:27Yes.
00:46:28Pakistan's population is 25 crores.
00:46:32It will be more.
00:46:33There is a channel of children.
00:46:36There was no one.
00:46:37There was no one.
00:46:37There was no one.
00:46:38There was no one.
00:46:39We have been closed.
00:46:40We have a production of children's program.
00:46:43We didn't give money.
00:46:45What I am saying is that
00:46:48these are such things that children do more visual.
00:46:52They do more things.
00:46:53Yes.
00:46:54And if you are mobile,
00:46:56you can put it on the phone.
00:46:57You can put it on the phone.
00:46:59I am saying that you leave a channel
00:47:00and if you want to make something for children,
00:47:03you have to make something digital.
00:47:06It is not possible that
00:47:08you can make an interesting package for children.
00:47:12How many channels of YouTube have?
00:47:12How many channels of children do this?
00:47:13No one too.
00:47:15No one is YouTube channel.
00:47:16No one is YouTube channel.
00:47:16No one is YouTube channel.
00:47:17I didn't see that.
00:47:19YouTube kids do this.
00:47:22It is not a channel.
00:47:22It is Pakistan.
00:47:23It is not Pakistan.
00:47:25It is Pakistan.
00:47:25The issue over here is that
00:47:27you have made a channel.
00:47:28Let me agree with you.
00:47:30The issue is that
00:47:31the external media is
00:47:49we need to be so
00:48:04very much aware we need to do so child proofing, whether it is physical, social, mental, emotional,
00:48:12media, that we need to keep all the check and balances, open communication, safe environment
00:48:20and first of all. Call it an extreme approach but we need to put controls on everything.
00:48:31Why? On ourselves first. Yes.
00:48:34The controls are necessary because we can do what we can do for safety.
00:48:40We have to see the material in the media, we have to see what they are doing in gaming.
00:48:45Do you know what are things in Minecraft and PUBG?
00:48:48In PUBG and Minecraft, there is this whole sexual life involved in which all the children are involved.
00:48:56And we are understanding that our child is playing games.
00:48:59So we need to be extremely, we need to be policing from home.
00:49:01We need to be more parenting from now.
00:49:02We need to be policing from now.
00:49:04Okay, another important thing. For example, as a mother, I am not tech savvy.
00:49:11I am not tech savvy. I am not tech savvy.
00:49:19I am the public. I am the public.
00:49:21We are not tech savvy.
00:49:22We are the public.
00:49:23We are the public.
00:49:24When it's a computer, this is a word, this and this is a word…
00:49:28We are not public.
00:49:29courses. So if you don't come to your child, then you can't say this.
00:49:36I'm saying that you are your fault, you upgrade yourself.
00:49:39Media literate.
00:49:40If you decide your child to be born, like they have already said,
00:49:44and you have to get good for them, you don't have to be born.
00:49:48So you don't have to be born, I have to be born, I have to be born,
00:49:51but you are a good person in this world and you have to be responsible for it.
00:49:56So first of all, do your parenting.
00:49:59We are not parenting.
00:50:01We have to be born, we have to be born in this thought.
00:50:05Now we are living in 2026.
00:50:09First of all, do our parenting.
00:50:10We need awareness.
00:50:12You need to be aware.
00:50:15The mothers, the fathers need to be aware that what is happening.
00:50:20And then we will...
00:50:21Parenting is an everyday challenge.
00:50:23Every day?
00:50:35Maybe.
00:50:37We need to be aware of our children.
00:50:53Because you are having physical changes in your body, so basically awareness and learn how to improve yourself or how
00:51:03to improve yourself as a father.
00:51:04So you have to upgrade yourself and learn how to improve yourself. Instead of sitting on YouTube, you are always
00:51:10trolling. Instead of doing doom scrolling, you have to see educational videos.
00:51:22So basically conscious parenting. It's called consciously.
00:51:26Consciously, what do you do? Consciously, what do you do? Consciously, what do you do?
00:51:33But consciously parent. So understand parenting. So understand, what do you think? Because you are giving that to your child.
00:51:53That means you are an excellent parent. You don't know that your child is good grades.
00:52:00but there is a pressure attack, a drug attack.
00:52:04When you know that if you have a child,
00:52:08you can see the expression of your child.
00:52:10And if you have a child, you can see the expression of your child.
00:52:14As the pregnancy happens,
00:52:16then how do you treat the husband and wife?
00:52:21From the beginning.
00:52:23There are no spaces to go.
00:52:25The discrimination starts from there.
00:52:27There is a mother who is born with her daughter.
00:52:33I remember that I had heard this story when I was a child.
00:52:36Because my father's grandfather was born.
00:52:40And he was the biggest son.
00:52:42So he was also shocked that he should be the biggest son.
00:52:46He should be the biggest son.
00:52:48His name was also considered.
00:52:50After that, I told this story.
00:52:52My father was sitting on the throne when I was born.
00:52:55When I was born in the morning,
00:52:56I was born in the morning.
00:52:56And who was praying for her?
00:52:58I was praying for her son.
00:52:59So imagine growing up as a human being,
00:53:03with the thought that I was born.
00:53:06I was born.
00:53:08I was born.
00:53:08I was born.
00:53:09I was born.
00:53:09So in that complex,
00:53:11and it was written by my father.
00:53:13I was born.
00:53:14I was born.
00:53:15My father loved me.
00:53:17But just that fact,
00:53:19is the reason is that you have all the environment
00:53:25so that you have to be able to do it
00:53:28that every time you have to be able to do it
00:53:31and you have to be equal to your wife
00:53:35or your wife with your wife
00:53:37so the reflections are different
00:53:40whether drama or women or women
00:53:44or women or women
00:53:46our stories that we talked about bullying is that it is a rebellion.
00:53:51And the whole world, the whole world...
00:53:53Because, parents are bullying.
00:53:54It's a bullying in the whole world.
00:53:57And the whole person changes the whole world when school is bullying.
00:54:01Yes.
00:54:01So, in the house, we're bullying in the house.
00:54:03My parents, I'm just going to explain.
00:54:05Basically, we just have to protect the children's house.
00:54:07Yes.
00:54:08So, the bullying is a little bit of a break.
00:54:12We're going to take this topic.
00:54:42good morning welcome welcome back good morning pakistan to
00:54:43my joint family and everyone knows that there are no harm.
00:54:49But as the moment as the future is, there are no harm. My daughter was 10-11 years old and
00:54:55my daughter was 6 years old.
00:54:59I am a housewife and I do not do job. But I have time for the work.
00:55:05It's time for my daughter to take my daughter's daughter's daughter.
00:55:13I don't know why it's so much that I felt afraid.
00:55:20I said, what is this? Why are you so angry?
00:55:23I said, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:55:26One day, two days, three days, I had a note.
00:55:28When I had tuition, I was informed.
00:55:32I was forced to get a job.
00:55:35I was like a joint family.
00:55:37They are the ones who are responsible for helping her.
00:55:40He is the most powerful thing.
00:55:42We are all good.
00:55:44She is the oldest, she's 15, 16.
00:55:47She didn't tell her what was the truth, but I didn't tell her.
00:55:52I noticed myself.
00:55:54I felt in love with her.
00:55:55I had to get into my eyes and understand myself.
00:55:57What was the result of my life?
00:55:58He told me a little bit about it and told me.
00:56:01He told me they were crying.
00:56:01They were crying. They were crying.
00:56:04They were crying.
00:56:06I thought,
00:56:08I was thinking what I would do.
00:56:11I would tell him that it was a problem.
00:56:13He told me that my brother is a child.
00:56:15He would not do that.
00:56:16I was a little tired.
00:56:19I thought I would take it myself.
00:56:22He told me that I would not do anything.
00:56:24I would not do anything.
00:56:25I was going to get into my eyes and I took it.
00:56:28I would tell him that I would not do anything.
00:56:31You are a little girl.
00:56:33Do you want to do anything with him?
00:56:35No, I did not do anything.
00:56:38I did not do anything.
00:56:39I did not do anything.
00:56:40I did not do anything.
00:56:42I was going to kill him.
00:56:43He was a little bit of a knife.
00:56:45His mother was coming.
00:56:48The story was growing.
00:56:50But he also saw the wrongdoing of his daughter.
00:56:52He told me that I had told him.
00:56:55He told me that I was a good decision.
00:56:57He is a very good decision.
00:56:58He is my daughter.
00:56:59He has to go and move his life.
00:57:01You have to take care of him.
00:57:03Yes, I do not take care of him.
00:57:04I am not taking care of him.
00:57:07Why do they hurt their daughters?
00:57:10Yes, exactly.
00:57:10I am not taking care of him.
00:57:11Yes, I am not taking care of him.
00:57:11That is my daughter.
00:57:12This is a very good idea of his daughter.
00:57:15Yes, I am not taking care of him.
00:57:17Yes, I am not taking care of him.
00:57:21The writing of my daughter is a young lady.
00:57:28but it will be shared with children.
00:57:30Whether it will be a double or a double,
00:57:33but God gives it power to them
00:57:36because it will become shared with children.
00:57:39So you will also become shared with children.
00:57:42That's why this child will become a mother tomorrow.
00:57:45If it will be married,
00:57:47then how will it be done with your children?
00:57:50You don't say that a child is a child,
00:57:54but a woman is an institution.
00:57:59A woman is an institution.
00:58:00A woman is an institution.
00:58:02She is an institution.
00:58:04And she should facilitate the role of the children.
00:58:07If she is working or talking about it,
00:58:10then she should listen to her.
00:58:11She should not be ashamed of her.
00:58:12And she should end the violent environment in the house.
00:58:16If she is to kill her,
00:58:18she is to kill her,
00:58:19she is to kill her,
00:58:21this is not the solution actually.
00:58:23Violence is taught by the children.
00:58:25When children see violence,
00:58:27as you have talked about in the beginning,
00:58:29the new science is that
00:58:30from zero to four years,
00:58:33the child who is watching,
00:58:34from five years,
00:58:36from four years,
00:58:36this is a great research.
00:58:39She is all in the camera.
00:58:40She is all in the camera.
00:58:42And she will come back.
00:58:42One to seven is where your subconscious gets made.
00:58:45Aristotle said,
00:58:47you give me a child for seven years,
00:58:49and I will make him into a man.
00:58:50Yes.
00:58:50This is a very old concept.
00:58:52In the past seven years,
00:58:54your subconscious system is built.
00:58:58So, a child is like a sponge.
00:59:00What you will learn,
00:59:02what you will see,
00:59:03what you will see,
00:59:04what you will do.
00:59:05Because he mimics.
00:59:06We have mimics,
00:59:08we have cells that mimic.
00:59:10If you say it with your mouth,
00:59:13the movement of your mouth will learn.
00:59:15That's how we learn to speak.
00:59:17Mirror neurons.
00:59:18Mirror neurons.
00:59:18Mirror neurons.
00:59:19We mimic whatever we are seeing.
00:59:22If your father is sitting on the phone,
00:59:24you can see it on the phone.
00:59:27If your father is killing you,
00:59:29he can see it on the phone.
00:59:30If your father is killing you,
00:59:32he can see it on the phone.
00:59:34So, anything that you do,
00:59:35the first seven years are critical.
00:59:37This is better to tell you.
00:59:39Absolutely.
00:59:40And you know,
00:59:41my mind is a blank slate.
00:59:43So, whatever you want to write on it,
00:59:45you will be running on it.
00:59:46You will be running on it.
00:59:46It is programming.
00:59:47This is such a beautiful case.
00:59:49There is a joint family system.
00:59:53In the joint family system,
00:59:54you have to do more safety precautions.
00:59:58We don't talk about it.
01:00:00We do not talk about it.
01:00:01We do not talk about it.
01:00:02In the joint family system,
01:00:03you know,
01:00:03there are many people.
01:00:05There are many cousins who are young,
01:00:08and their sexual liberties are high.
01:00:10You need to make the children aware,
01:00:14there are some limitations
01:00:15where there are many interactions.
01:00:18The joint family system doesn't mean
01:00:21that you are playing with 24 hours
01:00:21with cousins or talking.
01:00:23And when the girl is growing,
01:00:25especially when.
01:00:27You have to control the physical boundaries
01:00:58you have to go out,
01:00:59but the child is open-air.
01:01:01Like our house had a rule,
01:01:03that we also had a male teacher situation,
01:01:06but they were in the lounge.
01:01:08Exactly.
01:01:09Which was a path for all the children.
01:01:10From the kitchen,
01:01:12everyone's attention.
01:01:14So basically,
01:01:15if there is no such a teacher,
01:01:17he doesn't do it.
01:01:19Like I and my daughter,
01:01:21we will always study together.
01:01:23We will never study alone.
01:01:25So basically,
01:01:27you have to be curious as a parent.
01:01:31For example,
01:01:33if you do a job,
01:01:34and you can't give your children a pick-and-drop,
01:01:37but if you pick a driver,
01:01:39then there will be no other female
01:01:40for them to pick-and-drop.
01:01:43I know,
01:01:43it's a very challenging thing.
01:01:45I've also eaten a lot of people,
01:01:47and some people have to be difficult.
01:01:50If they don't have a female help,
01:01:52they don't have a female help.
01:01:53So again,
01:01:54that's the thing,
01:01:55that you have to equip your children,
01:01:57that you have to be difficult.
01:01:59You can't do it.
01:02:00You have to do it.
01:02:02You have to do it.
01:02:02And you have to sit with him on the motorbike.
01:02:04And he is a sick mom.
01:02:06So,
01:02:07that you have to give your children a shout.
01:02:09That you have so good communication,
01:02:11that you have to learn your children,
01:02:14and learn yourself.
01:02:15That's my problem.
01:02:16I don't know how to communicate.
01:02:18Because I didn't learn that from my mother.
01:02:19How do you sit on the bike?
01:02:20How do you sit on the bike?
01:02:21Yes.
01:02:21Everything.
01:02:22So you need to learn,
01:02:23yourself and teach your children.
01:02:26To speak your truth,
01:02:27that if you are trying to protect your mother or hurt your mother,
01:02:32then you don't have to hide from your children.
01:02:35You have to say the truth.
01:02:36Say the truth.
01:02:37Say the truth.
01:02:37Say the truth.
01:02:39Say the truth.
01:02:41Say the truth.
01:02:47have you seen those foreign films
01:02:50how they are asking for help
01:02:55conscious parenting
01:02:58is that you have to do more policing
01:03:01plus you have to give a safe environment
01:03:04that emotionally
01:03:05the child is the most vulnerable mother-in-law
01:03:10so whether it is sexual abuse
01:03:13or bullying
01:03:15or bullying
01:03:17or physical violence
01:03:20or body shame
01:03:22whatever
01:03:24any relationship problem
01:03:26anything
01:03:27anything
01:03:28anxiety
01:03:29depression
01:03:30stress
01:03:31stress
01:03:32very much
01:03:33if it is the grace
01:03:34because of that
01:03:35low self-esteem
01:03:35and has no serious issues
01:03:37that needs to be one medium
01:03:40that is facing
01:03:42and that is going to go
01:03:43safely
01:03:44that
01:03:44it will be happening
01:03:45because we know that
01:03:46it is a child's support
01:03:48sometimes
01:03:49we have to support
01:03:49the children's support
01:03:51their children
01:03:52yes
01:03:53yes
01:03:53because
01:03:54the children are wrong
01:03:56they are wrong
01:03:59If you have a child, they are being bullied, which is also very important.
01:04:05Exactly.
01:04:06Mental health is also very important.
01:04:07I am saying that if a child sees that her mother is being bullied,
01:04:13she has to be bullied by her daughter.
01:04:15She will learn from her daughter.
01:04:18And the daughter will be bullied by herself.
01:04:20That's why she has seen her mother bullying.
01:04:23How will she do that?
01:04:25She will not be bullied by her daughter.
01:04:28What will she do next to her daughter?
01:04:30She will say that in our drama and films,
01:04:34that you will not come to the hospital.
01:04:38The child should feel safe in her mother's house.
01:04:45That is their safety.
01:04:47That is their source.
01:04:48A psychologist, Maslow, has a hierarchy of needs.
01:04:51There is a hierarchy of needs after biological needs.
01:04:53There is a safety needs.
01:04:55There is a biological needs above the biological needs.
01:04:58There is a safety needs in all of the things.
01:04:59If you have a child,
01:05:00if she has a child in her 20s,
01:05:01and she falls in love with somebody,
01:05:04then the mother-in-law is a safe environment.
01:05:06Where she goes,
01:05:06she will openly communicate about the relationship.
01:05:09That it is mine.
01:05:11So that the parents also have a suggestion and advice.
01:05:14What do you feel safe in this relationship?
01:05:16Are you making that partner also feel safe?
01:05:21Are you making that partner also feel safe?
01:05:21Every thing has a safety.
01:05:22Today, I think,
01:05:24social media is coming,
01:05:25that the car has crashed,
01:05:27the bike has crashed.
01:05:28Are we giving safety measures?
01:05:30That we give our children a car,
01:05:32the bike,
01:05:32the thrill-seeker is in the city.
01:05:34Exactly.
01:05:34They are sitting behind.
01:05:35We are trying to stop them.
01:05:37We are trying to stop them.
01:05:37This is a very small child.
01:05:39Exactly.
01:05:39And the child is sitting behind the back.
01:05:42Basically,
01:05:42look,
01:05:43what we had before,
01:05:45the safety of our families,
01:05:46was big.
01:05:47Now,
01:05:48because families are like that,
01:05:50people love to live different,
01:05:52joint families are very low,
01:05:53as I am telling you,
01:05:54but in joint families,
01:05:55there is a lot of protection.
01:05:57That's right.
01:05:57Both of them are good and bad.
01:05:59Absolutely.
01:06:00The other thing is,
01:06:01the first thing was happening,
01:06:02the situation.
01:06:03means that people,
01:06:05people,
01:06:05they kept their eyes thank us
01:06:08as used.
01:06:08That's a good one.
01:06:10Do you wanna die?
01:06:12Do you want to die?
01:06:14Do you want to die?
01:06:14Do you want to die?
01:06:16A good beauty.
01:06:16Do you want to die?
01:06:17They are both talking to kids
01:06:18and not inf습 OGs.
01:06:20Do you want to die?
01:06:21the kids get away.
01:06:22we do not want to die.
01:06:23This is very WiFi.
01:06:25Do you want toitz dercium?
01:06:30Do you want to rally it?
01:06:33and you can only kill people with belts, with assholes and very proudly tell us that our mother-in-law
01:06:42has disciplined us.
01:06:43But what I'm saying is that at home there is a place of protection, but in the place where you
01:06:50live.
01:06:51It's where the place is, but in the place there is a place where there is very good.
01:07:10I mean, I know about the private schools, I don't know government schools, but when you come to government schools,
01:07:15we are bullying at home, so we will understand our concept of how modern we are talking about our mother
01:07:23-in-law and mother-in-law and mother-in-law and mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
01:07:32This is what I said in the start, that we have a safe environment, and we are very proud of
01:07:38our mother-in-law and mother-in-law and mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
01:08:24This is what I said.
01:08:24She said that she was a little boy and she wanted every person to love her. It was so beautiful.
01:08:32She said that she said that they were not going to.
01:08:34When she saw the track, she thought that she was feeling uncomfortable.
01:08:42And she started saying that I don't want to go.
01:08:45So she went and took her.
01:08:47Because many people who were talking about physical,
01:08:50they didn't teach the teacher.
01:08:53They didn't teach the teacher.
01:08:55They didn't teach the teacher.
01:08:56They also teach the teacher.
01:08:58They also teach the kids.
01:08:59We have a lot of physical touch in the house.
01:09:03We have a lot of physical touch in the house.
01:09:03We have to normalize each other.
01:09:07The child is cute.
01:09:08She's cute, when she was told.
01:09:09And if the child is so confident,
01:09:12that her physical boundary has changed the way.
01:09:14Some people aren't feelingfat about it,
01:09:15if someone doesn't like it.
01:09:16Somebody is a little small.
01:09:19Individu Brighters' sort about it.
01:09:20This need to be verbalized here,
01:09:22that you're about to love.
01:09:23And now when the child knows,
01:09:25that, if I didn't like that,
01:09:26I don't want to make fun,
01:09:26I'm about to love.
01:09:27What about an information?
01:09:29It will also be Sociedad in the fesion,
01:09:30how do I give a lot of crises?
01:09:38They are misguided to the child that if there are boundaries, we should be respecting them and you should be
01:09:46respecting your own body.
01:09:48Because the body never lies.
01:09:50Mother.
01:09:51That is one thing that you have done.
01:09:53You have done this very well.
01:09:53And this is very important to learn to children, which we were talking a little earlier.
01:09:58That your body, a child's body speaks to you.
01:10:03It speaks to you.
01:10:16Listen to your body because your body tells you.
01:10:19The red flag, which is called in English, which is a red flag.
01:10:24That is wrong.
01:10:25It tells you your body.
01:10:26It tells you your gut, your throat.
01:10:29Because your throat also has neurons.
01:10:31Like your heart and your brain.
01:10:41It tells you if it's right or wrong.
01:10:47It tells you if it's right or wrong.
01:10:48So you can also learn to your children.
01:10:49And learn to yourself.
01:10:50A little break.
01:10:51Break after watching.
01:10:52Good morning Pakistan.
01:10:57Welcome!
01:10:58Welcome back.
01:10:59Good morning Pakistan.
01:11:00So we will talk about it in order to maintain the body's body's body's body.
01:11:04We have analysed the whole program that the child's safety and the abuse of the child,
01:11:09whether sexual abuse or physical abuse or bullying, there are many such things.
01:11:16If parents understand that the child is small, then we will be very busy in the child's situation.
01:11:22When the child is growing, then we can save many things from them.
01:11:25We can save many things from them.
01:11:27If we invest in them, then we can save them.
01:11:36We can save money from them.
01:11:38No one tries to protect them.
01:11:40As a parent, we look at our eyes as a parent.
01:11:45They say, no, you are being old.
01:11:47This is not your business partner.
01:11:49There is a parent with their gut feeling.
01:11:52So, this is the care of our children.
01:11:57This is the care of our children.
01:11:59And when we don't have teeth in our mouth, we don't have hands.
01:12:03Then we can save our children.
01:12:06Maybe through the prayers of our children.
01:12:10So beautifully said.
01:12:11You know, I am saying what I am saying.
01:12:13In Korea, I was reading that they do this with their children.
01:12:18They are learning how to start their children.
01:12:21Face reading.
01:12:23And how to recognize emotions.
01:12:26In other people.
01:12:28They say, look at body language.
01:12:32Face reading.
01:12:34Because I teach them about emotions.
01:12:35The whole world.
01:12:37Dancing.
01:12:38Debating.
01:12:39The other skills.
01:12:40Computer work.
01:12:41Animation.
01:12:42This is all.
01:12:42Horse riding.
01:12:44And they are learning how to develop their children's skills.
01:12:47Humanity.
01:12:48Humanity.
01:12:49Basically.
01:12:49Respect.
01:12:50Also respect.
01:12:51Respect.
01:12:52As we were talking about in the break.
01:12:54The most important thing is respect for a child.
01:13:26The child needs.
01:13:27After this, there is a neuroscience that of course, disrespect comes in the form of emotional abuse and it's the
01:13:34worst form of an emotional abuse.
01:13:36Mind is not able to differentiate between physical abuse and emotional abuse.
01:13:40If someone has 4 bullets and has 4 wounds, the mind processes the same level.
01:13:47If someone has 4 wounds, you can run to the hospital and get hurt.
01:13:52What happened?
01:13:54It is not how the mind works.
01:13:56It is not how the mind works.
01:13:57If you challenge the soul.
01:14:00That is something very big.
01:14:03It is permanent damages.
01:14:04My wife is Sobiyya.
01:14:07What will you discuss with us?
01:14:10I want to tell my child about it.
01:14:13I was 2 years old and my wife is not.
01:14:18We were living in a shop in the flat.
01:14:20We were living in a mechanic.
01:14:22There was a brother sitting there.
01:14:25He was very old.
01:14:27He was very old.
01:14:28He was very old.
01:14:29He was very old.
01:14:30He was very old.
01:14:31We were living in a long time.
01:14:33We were living in a long time.
01:14:33One day, he told me to give him his daughter.
01:14:38If you look at him, you will take him to take him.
01:14:40I didn't give him.
01:14:42I had a lot of prayer with my husband.
01:14:43I didn't give him advice.
01:14:46I felt he did.
01:14:48If I was good, I would bring him to take him.
01:14:50They met him.
01:14:53I loved that.
01:14:55They made his daughter's mother.
01:14:56They sent him him.
01:14:56This time, we started to take him and take him to take him,
01:14:57We gave him and gave him his daughter.
01:15:00He used him to take him.
01:15:11We never met at home,
01:15:13I had told her that she was drinking water, she was so angry.
01:15:20She saw her at the mechanic's shop and told me that she was like this.
01:15:26I told her that she couldn't believe that she was like this.
01:15:30She was so happy and she didn't think about it.
01:15:33She was a little bit of a thought.
01:15:35She was a little bit of a child and gave her a little bit of a routine.
01:15:38He gave a child to him, and he was still there.
01:15:42He was scared, and he didn't go to him.
01:15:46He was happy and happy.
01:15:47After that, he took him to him.
01:15:49He said, go and leave him.
01:15:51He gave him a lot.
01:15:55He gave him a lot.
01:15:56He gave him a lot.
01:15:58He was scared.
01:15:59He was scared.
01:16:00He was scared.
01:16:01He was scared.
01:16:02He was scared.
01:16:02He got scared, and he was scared.
01:16:08Then, they got scared, and I thought,
01:16:11I didn't want to do it.
01:16:12You told him to give him a child.
01:16:14He gave him a child.
01:16:15He was convinced.
01:16:17He told him to tell him what the child was.
01:16:21He said, I should experiment.
01:16:22That is the concept.
01:16:24We have this concept.
01:16:27All of them are beliefs.
01:16:49I don't understand why don't we teach the child the basic need
01:16:54how to protect the child from 2 years or 3 years old
01:17:02You don't have to send outside
01:17:03I have to say that if you send outside
01:17:06you have to be smart and you have to tell the child
01:17:12who are allowed to touch you
01:17:15Nobody is allowed to touch
01:17:17I don't understand
01:17:19Nobody
01:17:19You are going to send the child to the child
01:17:25Don't send outside
01:17:26You don't send the child to the child
01:17:28You don't send the child to the child
01:17:29You are going to send the child to the child
01:17:32It will be big in your friends
01:17:36Nobody
01:17:37You are not going to allow anybody to touch you
01:17:46This is the key actually
01:17:49What will happen?
01:17:51Peers can go to the child
01:18:18Peers can misuse
01:18:19It is a safe haven
01:18:20I can tell my mother
01:18:22My mother
01:18:23My brother
01:18:24My father
01:18:25My father
01:18:26My father
01:18:26I didn't feel good about it
01:18:29So basically
01:18:29This whole discussion
01:18:31This whole discussion
01:18:32This whole discussion
01:18:32I will wind up
01:18:33First of all
01:18:34This whole conclusion
01:18:59This whole discussion
01:19:00If you are going to be a child
01:19:02If you are going to be a child
01:19:04If you are going to be a child
01:19:04Then you are going to be a child
01:19:04To be a parent
01:19:05To be a child
01:19:06To be a child
01:19:07Good morning
01:19:10And
01:19:10Good morning
01:19:10Khudhaafiz
01:19:13If you are going to be a child
01:19:16I am glad
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