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00:00:06This morning is coming to you
00:00:10Your lips will be coming
00:00:11We will be coming to you
00:00:14And we will be coming to you
00:00:20The U.S.A. has come to us
00:00:23This morning is coming to you
00:00:30The U.S.A. has come to us
00:00:37The U.S.A. tree is placed
00:00:38She will go away
00:00:41It isicles
00:00:43It isicles
00:00:50goes open
00:00:52Me
00:00:54I am
00:01:16Asalaam alaykum, good morning, good morning Pakistan.
00:01:20What is the situation? How are you?
00:01:23It's okay, good life. How is it going?
00:01:25I'm watching my ARY on weekends.
00:01:28Whatever the whole week comes,
00:01:31I'm watching my weekends.
00:01:33I don't have time for the whole week.
00:01:38It's true.
00:01:39I'm watching all the weekends.
00:01:43What have you done on weekends?
00:01:44How did the weekend go?
00:01:45The drama, our Pakistani people, especially South Asia,
00:01:52are connected.
00:01:54The drama, films, we go into fantasy world.
00:02:00After seeing them,
00:02:01we see love, love, love,婚,婚,婚,婚,婚.
00:02:38When we see the actual life,
00:02:42you can't say happy ending.
00:02:45They go through many things.
00:02:47For example, when you get married,
00:02:51after your marriage,
00:02:53you have to go through your good life.
00:02:55You have to go through different compromises,
00:02:58and sacrifice.
00:03:38So basically, you have to face a lot of challenges in life.
00:04:16So you have to face a lot of challenges in life.
00:04:17So you have to face a lot of challenges.
00:04:23So you have to face a lot of challenges.
00:04:31When you have to face a lot of challenges,
00:05:12you have to face a lot of challenges in life.
00:05:37So you have to face a lot of challenges in life.
00:05:44Actually, you have to face a lot of challenges.
00:05:55You have to face a lot of challenges in life.
00:06:18You have to face a lot of challenges.
00:06:20You have to face a lot of challenges.
00:06:22But the impact of love and love,
00:06:26and the language of love and love,
00:06:29that is the change in life.
00:06:33What are your face in life?
00:06:35I don't know.
00:06:35But in today's discussion,
00:06:38you will be able to face a lot of challenges in life.
00:06:41You will be able to face a lot of challenges.
00:07:05I always call them in a couple's show.
00:07:09You will have to write a book.
00:07:11The techniques of life of the past.
00:07:15Rubina Ashraf with us.
00:07:16Assalamualaikum.
00:07:17Today, I am a little disappointed.
00:07:19Because I thought,
00:07:22why do I have to do this every time?
00:07:25I mean, what is the reason?
00:07:27Why do I feel that I am an expert on marriages and relationships?
00:07:32There is nothing like that.
00:07:34So my knowledge is very limited.
00:07:36And please,
00:07:37if I say anything like that,
00:07:38if I feel that I am saying wrong,
00:07:40then it may be wrong.
00:07:42I will introduce you.
00:07:45Honestly,
00:07:45It is my last job.
00:07:48I am with Ghan Fiddik.
00:07:50Assalamualaikum.
00:07:51What's the situation?
00:07:51Totally fine.
00:07:52And first time,
00:07:53like,
00:07:53talk about the people's topic,
00:07:56is also very important.
00:07:57The fun thing is,
00:07:58that first time I am in a show,
00:08:00my new guest,
00:08:01and the guest,
00:08:02who is leading to the performance,
00:08:03who is leading to the people's life,
00:08:07who is the background,
00:08:09is that they are also a poet,
00:08:11who is a painter.
00:08:12And,
00:08:28I am good.
00:08:42And,
00:08:42I wanted to do another introduction,
00:08:43because,
00:08:44you have come to the first time,
00:08:45and,
00:08:45I have come to the first time,
00:08:46like,
00:08:47topic.
00:08:48Please,
00:08:50please.
00:08:52When I was studying at Punjab University,
00:08:55the finance department,
00:08:56was our head of the department.
00:08:58Oh,
00:08:58a handsome head of the department.
00:09:06Yes.
00:09:07Yes.
00:09:08he became a co-actor.
00:09:09Oh, wow.
00:09:09And now,
00:09:11the voice of all the men.
00:09:14Yes.
00:09:14We are very happy,
00:09:15that,
00:09:15today,
00:09:16we will get to hear another point of view.
00:09:18And,
00:09:18they are two experts.
00:09:20Yes.
00:09:21Two experiences.
00:09:23Yes.
00:09:24I am happy.
00:09:28Right.
00:09:34Yes.
00:09:37So,
00:09:41I will never let you know.
00:09:42Yes.
00:09:43We will be very good.
00:09:44We will be very happy.
00:09:53But,
00:09:53we will talk about the education,
00:09:54but,
00:09:54we'll let you talk about it.
00:09:57Yes, of course.
00:09:58As a male, you are leading people's lives.
00:10:04It's important to me.
00:10:06It's important to me.
00:10:08Let me tell you that the person who is a man,
00:10:11what do you think about being in marriage?
00:10:15What do you think about your life?
00:10:18You will think about it.
00:10:19You will think about it.
00:10:26What do you think about being in marriage?
00:10:27What do you think about being in marriage?
00:10:28In my opinion,
00:10:33what do you think about being in marriage or not?
00:10:36It depends.
00:10:38But what do you think about being in love?
00:10:42I think so.
00:10:46What do you think about being in marriage?
00:10:50Okay.
00:10:53And if you think about being in marriage,
00:10:55I think, what's wrong with you?
00:10:58You don't have any attention,
00:10:59you don't have any attention to me.
00:11:01I'm impressed with you.
00:11:02What do you think about being in marriage?
00:11:02Yes.
00:11:03Yes.
00:11:04Yes.
00:11:05Yes.
00:11:06Yes.
00:11:07Yes.
00:11:08Yes.
00:11:08Yes.
00:11:09Yes.
00:11:09Yes.
00:11:13Yes.
00:11:19Yes,
00:11:21Yes,
00:11:23Yes.
00:11:24Yes,
00:11:25Yes.
00:11:25I said, you don't have anything to do, you don't have a career, so what do I say to them,
00:11:33I'll talk to them?
00:11:36So he said that he was a bit upset, but he was a bit upset.
00:11:43Then he went to America and got a job and he was doing very well,
00:11:49so he came back to me and said, you know, I said to myself,
00:11:55you should be standing on your shoulders,
00:11:57and then you will say that I will be married.
00:12:01He said to myself, you said to myself,
00:12:05I will say that I will be married,
00:12:08and I will be married with the girl.
00:12:11I said that I didn't mean that.
00:12:14I don't know how to do it.
00:12:15He said, if she likes you,
00:12:18let me talk to her.
00:12:20She was out there and she is an educated girl.
00:12:24So you can talk to her.
00:12:26If she likes you, then do it.
00:12:28He said, no, you told me.
00:12:30You told me.
00:12:31You told me.
00:12:32My father told me.
00:12:33He told me.
00:12:35He told me.
00:12:35He told me.
00:12:36He told me.
00:12:37He told me.
00:12:39He told me.
00:12:44He told me.
00:12:44He told me.
00:12:45He told me.
00:12:47He told me.
00:12:48that's a girl,
00:12:49too adult,
00:12:50you'll meet him.
00:12:52If you like him,
00:12:52you'll find her.
00:12:53But he doesn't want to go to America.
00:12:56Okay.
00:12:58The girl?
00:12:59The girl.
00:12:59Why don't want to settle down?
00:13:00Yes, she was here.
00:13:01She wanted to live here.
00:13:02She came from America.
00:13:04Okay.
00:13:05So he couldn't do it.
00:13:12Then he married a Chinese girl that he loved.
00:13:16That's it.
00:13:18I think that you should marry yourself with your love.
00:13:21Do you think that a lot of life can be better?
00:13:24If it's better or not, but your responsibility is your own.
00:13:28You won't blame someone.
00:13:30After that, you will have to blame your father.
00:13:31Yes, you have to blame me.
00:13:32You have to blame yourself.
00:13:37Do you think that every person's thoughts are different from marriage?
00:13:41If you talk about marriage, every person's thoughts are different from marriage.
00:13:46Yes, every person's thoughts are different from marriage.
00:13:50The person's thoughts are different from marriage.
00:13:52Like a woman who can show a good scenario.
00:13:56There are many girls in this country.
00:13:59Oh, fantasy world.
00:14:00Because the parents didn't give us a lipstick in a time.
00:14:04Now we don't have that as a parent.
00:14:06But marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage.
00:14:13So every thing is marriage.
00:14:15And now in many of our houses, this scenario is a scenario.
00:14:17Life, you know.
00:14:18What we want with marriage is not suitable for any marriage.
00:14:20There's no marriage.
00:14:20We are going to understand everything that marriage well.
00:14:24In our times, marriage was
00:14:28comfortable.
00:14:29Peace.
00:14:31Now for girls, for girls on the other hand there was a difference between girls
00:14:38but what we understand was that it was a married life.
00:14:44It was a responsibility.
00:14:45It was a responsibility.
00:14:46And you know, girls were very good.
00:14:49But then you will have a wife of your own, somebody you can call your own
00:14:53who would probably look after you also.
00:15:00You will be looked after.
00:15:02So I think girls didn't think too much about it.
00:15:06And girls didn't think too much about it.
00:15:08A little bit of a problem was that both of them went through their first excitement.
00:15:18And the mother-in-law thought that it was a responsibility.
00:15:21If they had to do it, they would do it and end their work.
00:15:24And I didn't know that this work was never finished.
00:15:27This work is ongoing.
00:15:29You will get married.
00:15:31And then you will be a little bit of a change.
00:15:35You will become a counselor.
00:15:36You will also be a care-taker.
00:15:38You will also be a fall-back.
00:15:40You will also be a daughter and a daughter.
00:15:43Now, now, have some questions to come back in school.
00:15:46Now, just to think about it as much.
00:15:47If all of them have to think about it more than anything.
00:15:48You will always think about it as a child.
00:15:49Now, they are very smart, even if not.
00:15:57Because of it as a child.
00:15:58These people think about it as a child.
00:16:04In their heart, they don't do that.
00:16:07They don't do that for their hearts.
00:16:08They don't do that for their hearts.
00:16:09Okay, they have to look after.
00:16:11that a person who has a good job, at least reasonable, has a career.
00:16:16It didn't happen in the past.
00:16:18We would like to spend some time in time.
00:16:20When I was married, for instance, I had hardly any earnings.
00:16:27And I had prepared my wife to do this.
00:16:29It's love, it's love.
00:16:31It's not a place to sleep, it's not a place to sleep.
00:16:36The songs are the same.
00:16:38But now you should sleep.
00:16:39You should sleep.
00:16:40You should not.
00:16:42But you should not sleep.
00:16:43But you should sleep.
00:16:45And there are many demands.
00:16:46That's a true thing.
00:16:47The basics of life are important.
00:16:50And the principle of mind is important.
00:16:53The principle of mind is important.
00:16:55What is your mind in your mind?
00:16:56I think that as you were talking about a love marriage,
00:17:01there are many people who don't give this choice.
00:17:05Exactly.
00:17:06Because we are those blessed people who have got the opportunity to choose their career and partner.
00:17:13Exactly.
00:17:13We have been born in those homes.
00:17:15In Pakistan and South Asian countries, there are many families now.
00:17:20They are also very.
00:17:21There are many of the factors.
00:17:22Like we are thinking like how the girl is going to be when I want her?
00:17:28Ones have not choice.
00:17:30Not those people who choose my parents.
00:17:33They should not do it.
00:17:50So, see, don't be my responsibility.
00:17:52So, tomorrow I will tell you,
00:17:54you have done it,
00:17:55you have solved it.
00:17:57So, these are two different scenarios.
00:18:00We think that those people
00:18:03who don't have choice
00:18:03to get married,
00:18:06either they are not independent,
00:18:07or they are not financially stable,
00:18:10those who depend on their families
00:18:11and they think that the child is growing
00:18:14and the child is growing,
00:18:15they need to get married.
00:18:16So, they want to get married.
00:18:18So, they want to do their parents.
00:18:19So, all their responsibility is unique.
00:18:20After that, there is no responsibility for them.
00:18:24They don't have a responsibility for them.
00:18:25Maybe they've eaten one or two times,
00:18:26they say that they don't have a love marriage.
00:18:29But, Nidha, we have to make a marriage
00:18:31so much difficult.
00:18:33A marriage is an easy,
00:18:34a loving relationship.
00:18:37It is always possible to get married.
00:18:39It is always possible to get married.
00:18:42It is always possible to get married.
00:18:46We have to make a marriage
00:18:46for a family.
00:18:48They are saying that
00:18:51we are going to make a marriage with family.
00:18:53If they have a choice,
00:18:55they will make a marriage.
00:18:57They are very sad.
00:18:59They are talking about marriage.
00:19:29So, we have to do it.
00:19:30They say that we don't have a reason to marry our children.
00:19:35They are the parents who say that we are going to marry them.
00:19:37But the result of this is that all the responsibility of parents
00:19:40and parents also want to take care of their own lives.
00:19:45We understand that when our children are born,
00:19:49this is our property.
00:19:50And now every decision is our purpose.
00:19:54We also want to live their own life.
00:19:57Which is very sad.
00:19:58Although the children are an individual.
00:20:01You know, the truth is right.
00:20:04But when you have the truth,
00:20:06then it is his life.
00:20:08It is his own way.
00:20:10I think that there is a place in which you have to put it.
00:20:13So you need to know the water, the depth of water,
00:20:17how warm it is, how warm it is, how cold it is.
00:20:20At least we have a marriage.
00:20:22We have to go to marriage.
00:20:24We have to go to marriage.
00:20:30So we have to go to marriage.
00:20:36We do not know the truth.
00:20:41We don't know the truth.
00:20:43So we know all that.
00:20:46We will know the truth.
00:20:49We know all that.
00:20:53And we know the truth.
00:20:58We are talking about our experiences, what is your education?
00:21:05Because we belong to a collectivist society, in such societies it is the most important part of the society.
00:21:14People glorify the sacrifices, compromises and adjustments in society.
00:21:23In the beginning of the majority of families, you have small and big decisions.
00:21:30Parents take their decisions automatically.
00:21:33Because there is a culture that the decisions will be better for parents.
00:21:38They are making decisions.
00:21:40They are making responsibility, but it is secondary point.
00:21:46Primary point is that it is so control in parents' lives.
00:21:51That is control in marriage.
00:21:53After marriage, I saw that they are saying that the children should be able to make their own decisions.
00:21:59Parents should not be able to make them.
00:22:02Tell me, parents should not be able to make them.
00:22:05When you have a whole life, parents should be able to make them.
00:22:08Every thing, every thing, every subject, every school, every college, every friend should be able to make them.
00:22:15We have to say that in marriage.
00:22:17We have to say that they are emotionally stable.
00:22:20If we have done it, then fine.
00:22:24We have not done it.
00:22:25We have not done it.
00:22:26We have not done it.
00:22:34We have to say that it is the shyness.
00:22:36The shyness, the shyness, it is the joy.
00:22:38It is the appreciate.
00:22:39We have to say that it is a good and better person.
00:22:42It is the best woman who makes them less.
00:22:44The people who do not express their own mistakes.
00:22:47This is why the love marriage was also about her.
00:22:49The women gave a shame for their own shame.
00:22:53Your just cannot express their own mistakes.
00:22:56So no one says how can it.
00:23:01I am in love with someone or I like someone.
00:23:04This is a shame and guilt.
00:23:08I will judge me.
00:23:10And not only judge me, but my mother.
00:23:14My family will judge me.
00:23:17But now it is reduced.
00:23:19And when talking about gold and job,
00:23:24there was also shame.
00:23:25When talking about money,
00:23:29there was no money.
00:23:31How can we talk about money?
00:23:37Because the generation of assertiveness is very easy to keep on the needs.
00:23:43The needs are very easy to keep on the needs.
00:23:45The financial needs are very easy to keep on the needs.
00:23:49this is why the older generations are more than I will say
00:23:52that there is no such thing that they don't have to do it
00:23:54and this is said that they are going to run, they are not going to run
00:23:58in their clarity is very much, which was not in our
00:24:02Absolutely, this is a difference, we are taking a little break
00:24:04and then we will continue the discussion, I don't know
00:24:07in which phase you are in life, but perhaps
00:24:09in that phase, we will help you in that phase
00:24:14Good morning Pakistan
00:24:25Welcome, welcome back
00:24:26Good morning Pakistan, so we will talk about different stages of life
00:24:30about a married couple's life
00:24:32how can we live in the end, basically we will talk about it
00:24:36because this partnership is a long-term
00:24:40your children are growing, your parents are growing
00:24:43your parents are growing, your parents are growing
00:24:45your children are growing, their children are growing
00:24:47so this is a relationship, it is going to be a part of it
00:24:50to be a part of it, because people leave it at a certain time
00:24:55to leave them. So, you have the first time in their lives. We have heard the stories
00:25:01many times. We have learned a lot of things. So, you had the first wife's death and then
00:25:09you had the second marriage. So, tell us about that. You have two different experiences.
00:25:14Absolutely. My first marriage life lasted for 37 years.
00:25:24That is my opinion. My opinion is that we will probably be a golden jubilee type,
00:25:28but it is not. What it is written, it is like this. So, that was your
00:25:35marriage of love? Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. I had a little bit of a
00:25:44moment in this situation because it was a poet. Exactly. Poet, painter, poet.
00:25:50Artistic. That's why it is now in foreign. It is now in love.
00:25:57Yes. And when there was a commitment, I said that I have to go through with it no matter what.
00:26:06Yes. So, it was a great experience. In the sense that in the beginning, of course,
00:26:15it is a love and a love and a love. It is a love. It is a love. It is
00:26:21a love. It is a love. It is a love.
00:26:35It is a love story. So, there is also a fear. But there is a love for
00:26:46love.ровour, people must know that there were different things from God. It was a
00:27:05I was not in the mood of this, because they thought that I had a good selection and this is
00:27:10not a specific career.
00:27:12Although I was teaching in the university, I was very young.
00:27:17When I got married, I was 14 years old.
00:27:20That was early for a young man.
00:27:24My family was a liberal, so there was no doubt about it.
00:27:28But I was looking for a little bit, I was very early.
00:27:37But I never said that.
00:27:38He said, just as you want, just as you want.
00:27:42After a lot of conflict, I got married.
00:27:48Okay.
00:27:49And we didn't get a lot of time.
00:27:53He was alone in his family.
00:27:58He was the only daughter.
00:28:00Okay.
00:28:01And he wasn't a brother.
00:28:04So, he wanted to be a child.
00:28:09All her life she felt that loneliness.
00:28:12Okay.
00:28:13I was alone.
00:28:15We did a lot of time.
00:28:18How many children?
00:28:20Our children were 4.
00:28:22Okay.
00:28:27But incidentally, it was a strange fact that after a marriage, he called me.
00:28:36He wanted to do a job.
00:28:37He wanted to do some health care tests, right?
00:28:40Yes.
00:28:41It was a test for you.
00:28:43Chalassemia, I guess.
00:28:44No.
00:28:45It was a general check-up.
00:28:47It was a medical test.
00:28:48Okay.
00:28:48It was a government job.
00:28:50So, she called me and said, I'm diabetic.
00:28:55Okay.
00:28:57And mother was also diabetic and very sorely diabetic.
00:29:00And she died young because of the diabetes.
00:29:02At that time, there was no good treatment.
00:29:04Okay.
00:29:05Okay.
00:29:07So, her mother died early.
00:29:10So, she had a lot of fear.
00:29:12And then, she had a lot of fear.
00:29:14She called me and said, I have diabetes.
00:29:17Now, let me think about it.
00:29:19What do you want to do with me?
00:29:21Yes.
00:29:22I said, of course.
00:29:23I want to do it.
00:29:25If she had a new job, she had to do it.
00:29:28Yes.
00:29:30Yes.
00:29:33I'm telling you that, our first two children had died.
00:29:40One was premature, the other was normal.
00:29:45Yes.
00:29:47Yes.
00:29:48Yes.
00:29:49Yes.
00:29:50I'm talking about early.
00:29:51I'm talking about the older 1,000-1,000 years old.
00:29:53So, at that time, she had so much awareness.
00:29:56Awareness.
00:29:57Yes.
00:29:58She had a lot of pain.
00:29:59She had diabetes.
00:30:00Yes.
00:30:01Yes.
00:30:02She had to do it.
00:30:05She had to do it.
00:30:07She had to do it.
00:30:08She had to do it.
00:30:08So, the children, they didn't survive.
00:30:12Yes.
00:30:12We lost two children.
00:30:14Yes.
00:30:15Yes.
00:30:15And this was very traumatic.
00:30:17Yes.
00:30:17Yes.
00:30:32Yes.
00:30:32Yes.
00:30:33Yes.
00:30:33Yes.
00:30:45Yes.
00:30:46Yes.
00:30:46Yes.
00:30:47Yes.
00:30:48Yes.
00:30:49Yes.
00:30:49Yes.
00:30:50Yes.
00:30:52Oh, sorry.
00:30:53No, I asked to talk about it.
00:30:56I was also interacting in Punjab University at that time.
00:31:00Of course, I got an offer at a New York University.
00:31:05It stayed at a senior lab.
00:31:08I applied that job and I got that job.
00:31:13We went there for 2 years.
00:31:16But there was such a beautiful weather.
00:31:19I think it's the best weather in Nairobi.
00:31:24So, there is no heat in any house, no AC, no heater.
00:31:29There is no pollution.
00:31:32There is no pollution.
00:31:32There is no pollution.
00:31:36There is no pollution.
00:31:37There is no pollution.
00:31:38There is no pollution.
00:31:40There is no pollution.
00:31:42There is no pollution.
00:31:45It is unbelievable.
00:31:47So, if we went there for 2 years,
00:31:49I lived there for 8 years.
00:31:52My kids were born there.
00:31:55Medical care was far better.
00:31:57Oh yes.
00:31:59That's why God takes it.
00:32:00That's why God takes it.
00:32:02When he has something in the world,
00:32:04then you can see all the time.
00:32:07All the time went through.
00:32:09I mean, when I saw the children,
00:32:15all the time went through.
00:32:30You have to go to school.
00:32:33You have to go to school.
00:32:33The time went to school.
00:32:36That was not the time.
00:32:42You have to go to school.
00:33:00Yes, that's not that.
00:33:00Then there were different societies, such as Natak Groups,
00:33:06which used to do drama, stage plays.
00:33:12I started to do that as an actor.
00:33:16Your life is a whole book.
00:33:19My daughter is not a common life.
00:33:23It's not a common life.
00:33:24To give one another, in a difficult time.
00:33:27Then a diabetic patient,
00:33:28he was diagnosed before the marriage.
00:33:32We feel like a normal couple's story is not a normal couple.
00:33:37When they are hospitalized,
00:33:39you have to remember the rest of the children.
00:33:42You have to remember them as father and mother,
00:33:44you have to remember them.
00:33:46They were hands-on father.
00:33:48You would help raising the children.
00:33:51Yes, of course.
00:33:53Because I had seen the children,
00:33:54it was different.
00:33:56It was different times.
00:33:59I had never seen my father
00:34:01that he was shaking his hand.
00:34:03How are you?
00:34:04No, you didn't have to remember them.
00:34:07It was a good thing for you.
00:34:09We've always seen them.
00:34:11When they came,
00:34:12we were scared of them.
00:34:13My mother was scared of them.
00:34:16We were scared of them.
00:34:18We were scared of them.
00:34:19We were scared of them.
00:34:21That the way we were forwarded,
00:34:23we were scared of them.
00:34:26We were scared of them.
00:34:27We were scared of them.
00:34:27They were a good kid.
00:34:30We were scared of them.
00:34:30He was not at all the type.
00:34:33We were scared of them.
00:34:35But they thought
00:34:37about how many children
00:34:37What was the way to do it?
00:34:42She was tired of herself.
00:34:46She was tired of doing something.
00:34:49She said, this is what happened.
00:34:52She was tired of herself.
00:34:54She was tired of herself.
00:34:55She was tired of herself.
00:34:56She couldn't imagine her.
00:34:59She was tired of herself.
00:35:00She was able to survive with diabetes.
00:35:05She was diagnosed at such early age.
00:35:07How did you manage your situation to go to her?
00:35:14It was a really difficult phase.
00:35:19I never thought that I would do a divorce.
00:35:22I don't want to do it.
00:35:24But when I remember it, I was like,
00:35:26what is the time?
00:35:28What is wrong?
00:35:30And I was completely wrong with it.
00:35:34Then it happened that
00:35:35a few years later
00:35:36I started a strange
00:35:39disorientation
00:35:40about things.
00:35:42For example, I'm sitting here
00:35:43and I don't know who I am
00:35:46or who I am
00:35:48or who I am
00:35:48I was a detachment of some very
00:35:51strange kind of detachment
00:35:53I felt like
00:35:54that I didn't like it
00:35:57because it was a link
00:35:59That being a link
00:36:00I'm in reality
00:36:03and perhaps I'm a little bit
00:36:05I'm watching someone
00:36:06and watching others
00:36:09and that was a Period
00:36:12and I sort of thought
00:36:14I'm losing my mind
00:36:16or something, you know, because although I was busy in doing so many things,
00:36:20there is a painting or something else, sculpture, writing,
00:36:24but that was a strange detachment that I felt.
00:36:32And the fact is that one day, Sadi Akhtar Sahib,
00:36:35who is our colleague and assistant,
00:36:38who is a senior from the National College,
00:36:41who is a senior from the National College.
00:36:45He was not so much friends with me,
00:36:50but he has a colleague,
00:36:52because he was a second institution.
00:36:56One day, he called me out of the blue.
00:37:00And he said,
00:37:02I said,
00:37:04I'm going to marry you.
00:37:06I said,
00:37:08why, why should I marry you?
00:37:12I thought,
00:37:13I said,
00:37:16I want to be able to be able to be a firm,
00:37:20but that way,
00:37:22he can't make it a lot of money.
00:37:24Exactly.
00:37:25Empanionship.
00:37:26Empanionship.
00:37:27I didn't realize that I was a late,
00:37:32but I was very young.
00:37:35I was not very young,
00:37:36but you were very young.
00:37:40my goal is that,
00:37:41if there is anything else,
00:37:42you should marry me.
00:37:44Because,
00:37:44I learned this from my experience,
00:37:46that I have failed.
00:37:48I have waited,
00:37:48and it has become too long.
00:37:50Yes.
00:37:52I was very young.
00:37:53I was very young,
00:37:54but,
00:37:54but I was very young.
00:37:57I was very young.
00:37:57I was very young.
00:37:59I think that,
00:38:00I should think about it.
00:38:03But,
00:38:03it was not like this.
00:38:05It was not like this.
00:38:07The difference is that,
00:38:10I was working on the other days,
00:38:11I was working on the university of Punjab.
00:38:15and I was a working of Cumset University.
00:38:18In that place,
00:38:18I was working on the other side as an advisor.
00:38:20Hmm.
00:38:22so it's my interest of Sharia,
00:38:27my wife's name was in Iran.
00:38:29Right.
00:38:29She is from Iran.
00:38:30Hmm.
00:38:33I was very young.
00:38:34She was very younger than me.
00:38:37I liked it,
00:38:39but,
00:38:39I did not think about it.
00:38:42I think that's not possible.
00:38:49But then somehow, it became a situation that we developed a love and then we got married.
00:39:00How long did you get married from that?
00:39:02It was 10 years ago.
00:39:0310 years ago.
00:39:05So, you are happy?
00:39:06Very happy.
00:39:07I can ask you, you are happy.
00:39:11I am really happy, in the sense that someone does a mistake in a first time in your childhood.
00:39:20And then you are listening to him.
00:39:22You are trying to ask yourself.
00:39:23What did you do this time?
00:39:27We are trying to tell you.
00:39:30action?
00:39:34Do you want to think about it?
00:39:35No, I don't have to think about it.
00:39:38It's a pen and paper.
00:39:41My wife, Shahi Naangad, had a lot of regret.
00:39:48In the sense that she was in love with me.
00:39:53It's the norm of the time.
00:39:54Yes, I don't have to think about it.
00:39:59It's the same thing.
00:40:02It's the same thing.
00:40:04My mind was going to go to the kitchen.
00:40:06I said, no, I'll do it.
00:40:08You've done something.
00:40:09And my family told me,
00:40:15you're not doing this.
00:40:17It's wrong.
00:40:18It's wrong.
00:40:20Don't do that.
00:40:22It's wrong.
00:40:23I don't cooperate.
00:40:27Then, I felt that
00:40:32that the person is different.
00:40:34Yes.
00:40:35It's different.
00:40:37I'm a person who is another person.
00:40:40But then,
00:40:42I feel like an idealist,
00:40:43it's probably my mind,
00:40:46I do not want to agree with you.
00:40:49I want to agree with you.
00:40:51And I am the way to agree with you.
00:40:55Yes, I know.
00:40:56It's a pretty good answer.
00:40:59I just want to agree with you.
00:41:01Here I do.
00:41:14Exactly.
00:41:14You are brave to admit this, because it's a common thing.
00:41:19It's very difficult.
00:41:20And it's a very dangerous thing.
00:41:22It's a very bad thing.
00:41:24It's a very bad thing.
00:41:24It's a good thing.
00:41:25You don't give space to others.
00:41:28They exist as an individual and live as an individual.
00:41:34I wanted to...
00:41:36Because she was also a painter.
00:41:40When she was married, she was a painter.
00:41:42She was a painter.
00:41:43She was a painter.
00:41:44She was a painter.
00:41:47Which was fine.
00:41:49But I didn't realize that.
00:41:50I was saying that you don't paint.
00:41:53You don't learn anything.
00:41:55What is this?
00:41:57You don't think like a logical way.
00:42:02I wanted to think like that.
00:42:07That's what I wanted.
00:42:10Because later on, I realized that it was very wrong.
00:42:13Yes, you wanted to think like that.
00:42:16When you both loved each other, it was like that.
00:42:21But she changed to a housewife.
00:42:23Which is a lot of women.
00:42:25Because they changed their ideas.
00:42:27Because they changed their ideas.
00:42:28Because they changed their ideas.
00:42:29That's why I was saying that...
00:42:32As a housewife, you don't get that admiration.
00:42:37That's what you need to get.
00:42:39Every person.
00:42:40Exactly.
00:42:40You know.
00:42:41In this situation, we are very confused.
00:42:45Yet, we take things for granted.
00:42:47If someone is working, we don't do it every time.
00:42:50They don't say that I love you.
00:42:52You know.
00:42:53Explain that.
00:42:53That's right.
00:42:55As a nation.
00:43:19This is what we do.
00:43:21Exactly.
00:43:21As a nation.
00:43:23This is what we do.
00:43:24Exactly.
00:43:24And in this situation, we can think of it as often.
00:43:28Maybe we don't think of it.
00:43:29Because it's not a difference.
00:43:31Besides, it is a difference.
00:43:32You also consider it a difference.
00:43:33You can also give that difference.
00:43:33You can also give that difference,
00:43:33It makes sense to you so much!
00:43:35If you give classes,
00:43:36they are doing it as a thing.
00:43:39Yes, of course.
00:43:41I didn't say that.
00:43:41Yes.
00:43:42No, that's not a difference.
00:43:43However, when you do some job,
00:43:47for example, I am working on the university
00:43:48there were hundreds of opportunities
00:43:51that made me a suggestion.
00:43:52I am doing something good and people are happy with me and all that.
00:43:56It's self-satisfaction.
00:43:58I didn't realize that.
00:44:01I am doing two jobs at one time because
00:44:06university jobs, you can know how much it was.
00:44:11I am doing double jobs.
00:44:13I am going home at night.
00:44:15Then I am looking at things like this.
00:44:19I know.
00:44:20Why is it?
00:44:22That's most men.
00:44:23Or sometimes we don't know about the experience of a man.
00:44:29I am doing it usually.
00:44:31But a woman says that to me,
00:44:34she doesn't say that anything.
00:44:35She doesn't say that.
00:44:36She does not say that.
00:44:39She doesn't say that.
00:44:40And how do you say it?
00:44:42Or that a person who is trained to do this.
00:44:45Her ego is so much.
00:44:47So, this is a big issue.
00:44:49Please, keep this here.
00:44:50We need to talk about the egos that men have.
00:44:54After a break,
00:44:55this is a huge issue.
00:44:58You don't know what it is.
00:45:00But this is a big issue.
00:45:03Good morning Pakistan.
00:45:05Good morning Pakistan.
00:45:15Good morning Pakistan.
00:45:16Good morning Pakistan.
00:45:16Good morning Pakistan.
00:45:17Good morning Pakistan.
00:45:18How I'm going to talk about vino?
00:45:21I'm going to ask one question.
00:45:24you will have a response andilizate there is better there to go.
00:45:31We can wait for the immune system.
00:45:37That's why,
00:45:37the body is so tired of you.
00:45:37Which is very Scorpspring leader in the stalwart.
00:45:39So previously,
00:45:40the digestive system is on medication.
00:45:41answer to your help, anti-oxidant, which is a big deal, it's a big deal, it's a big deal.
00:45:47So, there are so many benefits of Tepal Green Tea.
00:45:49I will share this with you.
00:45:51Let's go to our topic.
00:45:53Our topic is this.
00:45:55I'll give you a moment again.
00:45:57If you've put a TV on a wedding, you can work on different stages of life.
00:46:11You can work on a good partner, to the end of this relationship.
00:46:16So, let's talk about different stages.
00:46:23If you get married, you have 4 stages.
00:46:27The first stage is the discovery stage.
00:46:30It lasts for 1 to 3 years.
00:46:32You discover it, right?
00:46:33Yes, exactly.
00:46:35To understand each other.
00:46:37That stage is happening.
00:46:38So, you feel like you have to understand in 3 years?
00:46:41No, you don't understand.
00:46:42But, there is a lot of curiosity to understand.
00:46:45Actually, that's the thing.
00:46:46Whatever you don't tell, you know it will go out.
00:46:49Then you can't hide it.
00:46:50The first stage is the discovery stage.
00:46:54The second stage is the expansion stage.
00:46:58The third stage is the re-calibration.
00:47:01When you get teenagers or adults,
00:47:05or 16, 18, 20 years old,
00:47:08then you get to the last stage.
00:47:09The last stage is the companionship stage.
00:47:11When you get to the big age.
00:47:14The four stages that people don't know about it.
00:47:18They feel like marriage is one stage.
00:47:20And all the problems are starting here.
00:47:22Because every stage is the needs, expectations, requirements and responsibilities are different.
00:47:30The first stage is the third stage.
00:47:32The third stage is the third stage.
00:47:42The second stage is the second stage.
00:48:17The second stage is the expansion stage.
00:48:20There is a problem.
00:48:32So is the first stage.
00:48:33wirklich the game is the third stage.
00:48:33You can make the problem.
00:48:35You choose the second stage,
00:48:37the second stage documentary.
00:48:40The second stage is the second stage is the fourth stage.
00:48:44physical intimacy, which is very low.
00:48:47I always say that people don't have time to go with time.
00:48:52So you should take time.
00:48:53Mindfully, if you understand responsibility,
00:48:56if you don't have uninterrupted, 15-20 minutes,
00:49:00you can sit with tea and eat,
00:49:04you can see a movie,
00:49:06you can discuss that.
00:49:09That connection you can end,
00:49:11you don't have time to be weak.
00:49:13Because in that period, the connection is weak,
00:49:16the repercussions of the rest of the stages,
00:49:18you have to worry about it.
00:49:21This is the problem.
00:49:22How many stages are, for me?
00:49:24Yes.
00:49:25One stage comes before marriage.
00:49:28It's a stage where either you are arranged,
00:49:30you have to ask.
00:49:31Basically, marriage life.
00:49:32It starts from there.
00:49:34Before marriage.
00:49:36Because if you have a court shape,
00:49:38it's called golden period.
00:49:40Now, if you take that state of mind,
00:49:42if you have the first stage,
00:49:45and I say the other,
00:49:46then every girl complains,
00:49:49that she is not a human.
00:49:51Because it is a different place.
00:49:56It is a different place.
00:49:57It is a different place.
00:49:57As you said,
00:49:58after that,
00:49:59there will be another place.
00:49:59you have to be able to adjust the contract,
00:50:00to make every place.
00:50:02That will be a place.
00:50:03And there will be a place to do it.
00:50:08But,
00:50:09there is no marriage.
00:50:13Just you cannot do it.
00:50:15But,
00:50:15there is no marriage.
00:50:15There is no marriage.
00:50:24It will be a marriage in a way.
00:50:27There will be a marriage to do it.
00:50:29Yeah, if a girl is here, she's thinking that I'm doing everything right now, I'm working at night.
00:50:36You said that I was doing two jobs and I didn't have any brain.
00:50:40And I'm doing it for you?
00:50:41I'm doing it for you and I'm going to take this money.
00:50:44And if I come and I'm not listening to you or asking you,
00:50:51I'm sorry, I want to take care at that time.
00:50:57Which is slightly off, right?
00:51:00This is a very good thing.
00:51:04You don't have to do it for yourself, but you have to do it for yourself.
00:51:07Every stage.
00:51:09The love that doesn't change the day, stays the day.
00:51:12What?
00:51:13It's a great thing.
00:51:15The love that doesn't change the day, stays the day.
00:51:20So you have to do it for yourself.
00:51:21You have to sit in your head and go all the way.
00:51:51You have to do it for yourself.
00:51:53A little bit of time.
00:51:54Look, the important thing is communication.
00:51:58As in any and every relationship.
00:52:01The important thing is that it is just your husband, your father, your son, your son, your son.
00:52:08Communication is not to the verb.
00:52:11And both sides?
00:52:12Both sides.
00:52:13You have to listen to this.
00:52:16Exactly.
00:52:18To revive each stage.
00:52:21To understand the protocol and change it.
00:52:24To make a strategy for it.
00:52:26To make a together time.
00:52:27This is what we all have to do.
00:52:29If one didn't do it,
00:52:31then the other one had to remember it.
00:52:33We had to leave our time.
00:52:36So,
00:52:38I forgot what I said.
00:52:40No, you said that
00:52:41when you have to work on a wedding,
00:52:44you have to do it.
00:52:44You have to do it.
00:52:47What are your tips?
00:52:49Communication.
00:52:52Always talk to each other.
00:52:54This is how the marriage is so important.
00:52:56And it is.
00:52:57Because here,
00:52:58I'm sorry I'm talking about people.
00:53:00We need to do it.
00:53:02Here, people go to the fourth stage
00:53:05and figure it out.
00:53:07You go to the zombie state.
00:53:09So, we can call it that.
00:53:11I have to tell you that I need a companion.
00:53:14At the same state,
00:53:15we go to the whole people
00:53:16that I need companionship.
00:53:19Whether they have to be with them.
00:53:21Whether they have to be with them.
00:53:22Or maybe they have to be with them.
00:53:24Before they have to go down
00:53:26two people on their life.
00:53:29So, they have to go down to a divorce life.
00:53:31They have to go down to a divorce life.
00:53:32They have to go down to many people.
00:53:32I have seen a lot of times when people realize that I need something to do with this woman.
00:53:40My life will become a lot of difficult because who will go home?
00:53:45It's a bit selfish but still, who will see the children?
00:53:49What will happen to them?
00:53:50What will happen to my life?
00:53:52What will happen to them?
00:53:53What will happen to them?
00:53:53What will happen to them?
00:53:54What will happen to them?
00:53:56They also want to go back to companionship.
00:53:59Coming back to my question.
00:54:01What will happen to them?
00:54:05I will tell you.
00:54:06That companionship that you realize in the fourth stage,
00:54:10that I need to realize that this woman is the first time.
00:54:14We will go back a little earlier.
00:54:16When I was married, my husband was a philosopher or a scientist.
00:54:22Galilow, I guess his name was probably.
00:54:24He said to me, take a chilled glass of water.
00:54:29He said to you, take a chilled glass of water.
00:54:31He said to you, take a very warm glass of water.
00:54:34And one, the room temperature of water.
00:54:36Chilled, room temperature and warm.
00:54:39He said to you both, one will put a chilled water in the water.
00:54:41One will put warm water in the water.
00:54:45After you put two hands out, put your room temperature of water in the water.
00:54:51The water will feel warm from the water, the water will feel warm from the water, the water will feel
00:54:57warm from the water, the water will feel warm from the water.
00:55:01So, first of all, we have to try this, which we talked about earlier, that we are prejudiced.
00:55:06First of all, we have thought that this will come from there, or this will happen.
00:55:11First of all, we have to think that one individual has been in a different environment.
00:55:15I have been in a different environment, in a different environment, and in a different environment.
00:55:21If I can react to my husband, I can't react to that.
00:55:28His research, his exposure, everything is different.
00:55:31We don't want to be in a relationship with two individuals.
00:55:34But we have all come from different places.
00:55:36We have all come from different ways and learn from different things.
00:55:41So, we have to think about the next space.
00:55:44We need to have space.
00:55:45For the next step, a very good tip is that we have to have space.
00:55:53We have to have to react and react directly to any other.
00:55:57If you have thought that there are many other things,
00:56:01I have to think that my language is different to my husband.
00:56:04When I talk to someone, I say,
00:56:06I want to say that I drink water.
00:56:08I like it that you told me four times and I don't drink water.
00:56:12You say drink water.
00:56:14It's my way to drink water.
00:56:17I will say that first one.
00:56:19In understanding, we will give space in understanding.
00:56:24Then there are many things easy.
00:56:26We think that no, just like my mother gave me.
00:56:28Just like I react, I should say it like that.
00:56:32What do you say?
00:56:33Okay, Nida, look, it's very important to understand this thing first of all, that communication is necessary and not to
00:56:41mix different stages of expectations and needs, this is also very important.
00:56:46I think that love is not so important and that love is not so important.
00:56:53I think that love evolves, its shape changes.
00:56:58People say that they change, but they change and change.
00:57:06When you are married or two or one year old, it doesn't have the same intensity.
00:57:13It doesn't have the same intensity of any emotion.
00:57:18Emotions keep on changing.
00:57:21I want to give a tip for the connection.
00:57:24If you are interested in the same way, you are having shared goals.
00:57:26You are having an active goal, you are having shared goals.
00:57:29It is something that you are having to play, like gym's activities or any hobby.
00:57:33Any other common friends.
00:57:37Shared goals are also having a poor child's.
00:57:39No, it is, but it is also having a poor child's, again, responsibility.
00:57:42responsibility think.
00:57:44That is the responsibility.
00:57:45You can find a shared goal from a shared goal.
00:57:48For example, I will give you a example
00:57:51so that people will understand.
00:57:52For example, if you buy a house in the place,
00:57:55we have to buy an immigration
00:57:57or we have to buy a car.
00:58:01Okay?
00:58:02If you are not doing it,
00:58:05you will say that
00:58:06you will build a finishing line
00:58:09to your life.
00:58:11You will be connected.
00:58:13Look, there is a lot of communication
00:58:15gap.
00:58:16You will ask and talk.
00:58:19If you don't have any goals,
00:58:21small goals, small activities
00:58:23where there is a child.
00:58:25Again, there is a responsibility.
00:58:28You will go away.
00:58:29You will become a parent.
00:58:32You will not be a husband or wife.
00:58:33There is a parenting.
00:58:34But you will understand
00:58:35that you will keep different goals.
00:58:38and keep those goals.
00:58:39And these are the things that you will practically help.
00:58:43Yes.
00:58:43It is very necessary.
00:58:44Yes.
00:58:46Now you have thought about something?
00:58:48I have given a lot of time.
00:58:50Look,
00:58:52there are many things in my mind.
00:58:54Some.
00:58:56One is the thing that
00:58:57is,
00:58:59the person's love
00:59:00is the human.
00:59:02I am.
00:59:03I am.
00:59:05I am.
00:59:05becomes more.
00:59:09It becomes more.
00:59:10It becomes more.
00:59:12Exactly.
00:59:13It becomes more.
00:59:15It becomes more.
00:59:20It is not only in marriage cases, but in every case, I understand.
00:59:25So, try to keep this and keep this and keep this and keep this and keep this.
00:59:34But how do you know that I am an egoist?
00:59:37I don't know.
00:59:38I know.
00:59:38But if you reflect on your actions, if you think about your actions,
00:59:42which every person should think about it,
00:59:45I think that people think about it.
00:59:48Exactly.
00:59:48People think that I...
00:59:49I am justified in my mind.
00:59:51Right, exactly.
00:59:51I'm in the middle of it.
00:59:51I don't think, I'm going to look for it.
00:59:54They don't look for it.
00:59:56They don't think, I don't think,
00:59:58what I'm doing.
01:00:00Or what I'm doing.
01:00:04What was I doing?
01:00:05What were I doing?
01:00:06What was I doing?
01:00:06Surcunches.
01:00:06So, if you think about the work of reflecting and how you should be,
01:00:12At least in every person should happen.
01:00:14Then it becomes easier in life and in every situation.
01:00:22The most difficult thing is to stay with two people.
01:00:26I think this is the toughest possible situation.
01:00:31And to stay with one another.
01:00:36It's an unnatural kind of an act.
01:00:40This is why we have said that you have to try to keep it in mind.
01:00:45And to understand different stages.
01:00:49Because if you leave it alone.
01:00:52If you leave it alone.
01:00:53That's what you can do.
01:00:56Because you have a trust.
01:00:58For example, your wife is a child.
01:01:03She is working at home.
01:01:03And she is working at home.
01:01:04It's not so much time that she thinks about it.
01:01:09And she doesn't have time for it.
01:01:22And she doesn't have time for it.
01:01:26But you can see that we only have to go outside.
01:01:29And to show others.
01:01:31And to show others.
01:01:33And that doesn't happen.
01:01:34You have to have to go outside.
01:01:42You have to go outside.
01:01:45And to show others for you.
01:01:51You do not have to take away the same kinds of people.
01:01:54You have to continue to accomplish your life.
01:01:59And to make friends like this.
01:02:03All of them.
01:02:04That is the same thing.
01:02:09If you want to be a little bit more,
01:02:10I will continue to give you a little bit of a break.
01:02:12If you want to be a little bit more,
01:02:16if you want to be a little bit more,
01:02:18you will be the same as they were before.
01:02:20The women also want to keep themselves fit,
01:02:24and feel happy,
01:02:26and give them a little bit of a break.
01:02:27You will be very comfortable.
01:02:31Good morning Pakistan.
01:02:46Welcome, welcome back, good morning.
01:02:47Pakistan, now we are giving you the opportunity to become a part of this discussion.
01:02:53Nida, I have just left the discussion, we will do a little bit of an addition to that.
01:02:56I have just left the discussion, that I have left the discussion, that I have left the discussion in a
01:02:58bad way.
01:02:58If you live in a bad way, women expect me to get clean and clean.
01:03:03As you said that we don't want to break the communication, we don't do the communication with our words.
01:03:11We communicate in our body language, the smell from our body, they communicate.
01:03:21It's a fact.
01:03:23It's a fact.
01:03:25Absolutely.
01:03:25We communicate through it.
01:03:27If your wife or husband has a little bit of a smell from her husband,
01:03:32then it will be a bit difficult.
01:03:34Or there will be a little bit of a bed breath in.
01:03:37Or there will be a smell from the ceiling.
01:03:40These are also facts.
01:03:41Why don't we talk about these things?
01:03:43They also have a lot of difference between our marriage and relationships.
01:03:50Everyone's priorities are different.
01:03:52If your wife is such a way that it will be a flower,
01:03:56then all the breath and everything will be left behind.
01:04:00Whether you have a lot of happiness or a lot of perfume,
01:04:02but if your wife will come out from the house,
01:04:07then it will go to the house.
01:04:08And when we get married,
01:04:11we have more beauty in beauty.
01:04:15No doubt.
01:04:16But only beauty cannot be married.
01:04:18When you open the house after marriage,
01:04:23the beautiful girl will open the house.
01:04:25Then you will know how much it will last.
01:04:28How beautiful.
01:04:29Basically, how beautiful.
01:04:30That's why,
01:04:31when it comes to companionship,
01:04:33when a girl or a girl has a love,
01:04:35this is not just a beautiful place.
01:04:37But why a girl is open the house?
01:04:40Well, I don't know.
01:04:41I don't know.
01:04:42Both of them.
01:04:43Our colleagues are sing with us,
01:04:45and we will be giving us the law of our friends.
01:04:47Yes.
01:04:48Yes.
01:04:50Yes, yes.
01:04:52Yes, yes.
01:04:53Yes.
01:04:55Yes.
01:04:57Yes, I have a very strong voice.
01:04:59Yes, yes.
01:05:11My wife has been six months and I've been driving my mother.
01:05:15She has always taken me off my knees.
01:05:17But since six months I've taken me off my knees and I've been gone.
01:05:21I don't know what happens when it comes to me and I don't even know.
01:05:25When you ask, you say that you don't give me water, it comes to me.
01:05:30Why did you say that it came to me? It comes to me.
01:05:32Why did you say that it came to me?
01:05:35But if you ask, then you don't talk to me.
01:05:38Then you see the knees and it goes to me.
01:05:40I have no idea.
01:05:42I have no idea.
01:05:44There are many knees.
01:05:46She has been six months since the wedding.
01:05:50You say that they would take the first knees to her,
01:05:53but they have to take the next knees to her husband.
01:05:56So you should take the knees to the next stage?
01:05:59The first knees are done.
01:06:01For now they've been six months since the wedding.
01:06:04This is a discovery period.
01:06:08in which you give one another space and try to understand each other's story.
01:06:14Now, this is their version.
01:06:16It's possible that their version is something else.
01:06:20It's a one-sided story.
01:06:22However, this is definitely a wrong behavior.
01:06:27I can't defend it.
01:06:29But I will say that if you think about it,
01:06:33you also think that in your behavior,
01:06:36there's no such thing that you've got to be in the beginning of the story.
01:06:43You've got to be in the beginning of the story.
01:06:45Or what happened to them?
01:06:46What happened to them?
01:06:47And what happened to them?
01:06:49Or what happened to them?
01:06:56What happened to them?
01:06:58What happened to them?
01:07:02What happened to them?
01:07:03That's the same thing, Zaid Saab,
01:07:05that when we're here,
01:07:07our lives are frozen.
01:07:09And when we're criticizing,
01:07:11we're in a big flow.
01:07:12And I think that our goal of life is
01:07:15that if I'm working from the morning,
01:07:18as you said before,
01:07:20I've imagined a certain way.
01:07:22I've imagined a certain way.
01:07:24I've imagined a certain way.
01:07:26If it doesn't come,
01:07:28I'll be upset.
01:07:29So communication again,
01:07:32it's necessary.
01:07:33And these two people need to know this.
01:07:37Like we said before,
01:07:39that this marriage and this wrong behavior,
01:07:41they have to correct themselves.
01:07:42They have to talk about this child.
01:07:45This is what I'm surprised,
01:07:47that I'm doing everything for you.
01:07:50But if you're not happy,
01:07:51you're not happy with me,
01:07:52then talk to me.
01:07:54And sit down and talk to me.
01:07:55Talk to me,
01:07:57I don't have to worry about it.
01:07:59I don't have to worry about it.
01:07:59Because I feel like
01:08:00it's not working out.
01:08:03It's not working out.
01:08:05Although,
01:08:05there's no need to worry about it.
01:08:08There's no need to worry about it.
01:08:10There's no need to worry about it.
01:08:14Like all of us,
01:08:15we have to worry about it.
01:08:18We have to worry about it.
01:08:19We have to worry about it.
01:08:20Thinking that
01:08:20there's no need to worry about it.
01:08:22So,
01:08:23don't do it in our home.
01:08:24When the child goes to the other house,
01:08:26everything comes to responsibility.
01:08:30I've never seen such a person,
01:08:33who was alone,
01:08:35who were eating their food
01:08:36and drinking their water
01:08:38and drinking their water.
01:08:39After that,
01:08:39they just say,
01:08:40let's give them water.
01:08:41They have their hands.
01:08:42So, the child probably
01:08:43is tired.
01:08:44Because,
01:08:44it's a lot of effort.
01:08:48And then,
01:08:49it's a lot of effort.
01:08:51But,
01:08:51I don't have to worry about it.
01:08:59There's no need to be a person.
01:09:01There's a lot of difference in both things.
01:09:02Okay?
01:09:04It's something to take a look.
01:09:05We can identify ourselves.
01:09:06We'll try to understand.
01:09:08We'll talk about it.
01:09:10We'll talk about our husband.
01:09:11Let's discuss situations.
01:09:11We'll talk about it.
01:09:13We'll not think about it.
01:09:14I'm going to prove it.
01:09:16I'm so good.
01:09:17You'll talk about it.
01:09:19And you'll be so bad.
01:09:20It's so bad.
01:09:20We'll talk about it.
01:09:23let's talk about it.
01:09:26We'll talk about it.
01:09:26We'll talk about it.
01:09:27We'll talk about it.
01:09:28कि ये situation थी, ऐसा हुआ था, अब आप मुझे बताएं, आप क्या expect कर रहे थे मुझसे, उनसे पूछो
01:09:34तो सही, because there are people जिनके पास कोई जवाब नहीं होता, मगर simply जो आप कर रहे होते हैं,
01:09:41वो ये कहते हैं कि गलत किया है, just because उनका brain इस तरीके से काम करता है, कि कोई
01:09:46जो भी कर रह
01:09:57करते हैं, stand, अपना stance देते हैं, कि मैं चाहता हूँ कि तुम ऐसा करती वैसा करती, फिर आप बताएं,
01:10:03आपने जो भी इस situation में किया था, कि आपने क्यों किया था, understanding develop करें, और जब आप बात
01:10:10करने के लिए बैठेंगी ना, तो उनको काफी चीज़ों की clarity मिलेगी, कि वो इनसा
01:10:14communicate करना चाहता है, या नहीं चाहता, वहां से पता चल जाएगा, नखरा है, या फिर यह क्या है, लेकिन
01:10:21देखे, बात करने का मतलब बहस करना नहीं होता है, जी, exactly, वही कहा ना, दूसरे की बात समझना होता
01:10:27है, बहस में होता है, कि आप अपने आपको सही साबित कर रहे होते ह
01:10:33तो दोनों में से कोई एक ऐसा होता है, जो उसको लड़ाई में तबदील कर देता है, बजाए इसके कि
01:10:39वह communication हो, और वह गुतियां सुलजाए, वह दोनों में से एक, चाहे वह औरत हो, या वह मर्द हो,
01:10:46उसका end हमेशा जगडे पे, शो शराबे पे हो, उसका end हमेशा जगडे
01:11:03पॉपल्स कहते हैं, सकून में जिन्दगी चल रही है, चीखम बोकार नहीं हो रही है, चलते जो, अलाइदा हो जाओ,
01:11:08अलाइदा हो जाओ, या वो चलते रहो, निदा लड़ाई की भी स्टेजिस हैं, ठीक है ना, पहले स्टेज ये है
01:11:14कि आप बात करने के लिए बैटे, ठी
01:11:19है, सेकिन्द स्टेज, अक्सर ये होता है, दोनों में से कोई एक, यौऀन पर दोनो पार्टनर, ये चालेंज ले लेते
01:11:25हैं, कि मैं थापित नए हैं, कि मैं कितना सही हूँ, तूँ कितना गलत हो, या मर दोा उर्ब. और
01:11:31जो आपने का, कि प्रूब को उपने लिदा है, गाल
01:11:47just because that you can suppress other people.
01:11:51But they also admit that they have a lot of words
01:11:55that I have a lot of love.
01:11:59They have not qualified for a normal way,
01:12:05but they have more pampered.
01:12:07If someone has a lot of love,
01:12:11why doesn't he have a lot of love?
01:12:14I have said,
01:12:34exactly.
01:12:34so that you don't want to be a pampering, you still need to be a pampering. Exactly, this is not
01:12:39a vice versa.
01:12:40Because I know how to pamper, I will keep your attention, but now there is no one for me.
01:12:46So when you go back to your mother to get that affection, attention,
01:12:52which is the right and the right and the right is the right,
01:12:55then there will also be a resentment.
01:12:57That you go there and go there.
01:12:59So this needs to be a balance.
01:13:02You need to be a pamper.
01:13:03I want to give my attention to one point.
01:13:07My understanding is that it's not a pampering.
01:13:11It's the same thing that the husband's husband rejects.
01:13:17This is a different situation from pampering to the next stage.
01:13:21But they don't understand that they reject.
01:13:25Because the mood is off.
01:13:26It's not that they reject every thing.
01:13:28For example, two or three examples.
01:13:31I want to make a glass of water.
01:13:35I want to make a glass of water.
01:13:36If I wear a dress, they can say that the color is not the same.
01:13:40So it can be a genuine view of that person.
01:13:45And maybe they are taking more people.
01:13:48They are more over-sensitive.
01:13:50They are more over-sensitive.
01:13:51And for their life.
01:13:56But they don't have to negate their work.
01:13:57There's nothing to pampering.
01:13:58There are two different people at a time.
01:14:01There are very important people.
01:14:04Okay, yes.
01:14:05The next caller.
01:14:10Hello, Assalamualaikum.
01:14:12Yes, welcome.
01:14:13My name is Aisha.
01:14:15I'm from Karachi.
01:14:16My wife has been married for 6 months.
01:14:20I'm in a joint family.
01:14:23I'm in a joint family.
01:14:24The problem is that my wife and her wife
01:14:28didn't get me from her.
01:14:29My wife started giving me
01:14:32two months ago.
01:14:34But then they started giving me
01:14:36and I tried to eat them.
01:14:39But we're not getting the exception.
01:14:41We don't have to be the exception.
01:14:44We often ask them to do this.
01:14:45They ask me to do this and do this.
01:14:48My wife can do this.
01:14:49She can do this.
01:14:50If I tell my husband to my husband
01:14:52to get more and more,
01:14:54she says,
01:14:55I can't do anything.
01:14:56I have to go and get married to you.
01:14:59I have to go and get married to you.
01:15:00I don't want to know them.
01:15:02But you do not want to know them.
01:15:04You can do the same way.
01:15:06We can do them.
01:15:07I try to do the same thing.
01:15:09I try to do the same thing.
01:15:11I don't want to know them.
01:15:14But then,
01:15:19I don't want to know them.
01:15:21I don't want to know them.
01:15:25I have to wait for them.
01:15:29I have to wait for them.
01:15:44I'm not allowed to keep my mind.
01:15:46I don't need to get it.
01:15:49I'm prepared to keep my mind and keep my mind,
01:15:53I'm doing my mind.
01:15:54But I don't want to keep my mind,
01:15:58it's always possible to keep my mind that I don't understand.
01:16:01I don't understand what I'm going to do.
01:16:02I've got my mind and my mind.
01:16:31welcome welcome back good morning
01:16:34welcome back
01:17:04We also prepare them for the wedding during the period of time.
01:17:07They know who they want to go to the house,
01:17:09if they want to stay in the house,
01:17:11they also want to stay in the house,
01:17:12some of the responsibilities of women,
01:17:14cooking, food, entertainment.
01:17:19We don't prepare them.
01:17:22We don't know that when I have to go to the wedding
01:17:26after a marriage,
01:17:27what will my roles be?
01:17:29Where will they come from?
01:17:31What will they come from?
01:17:33They will take me to the wedding.
01:17:34The most important element is to handle my home.
01:17:40My home,
01:17:41if they want to marry me,
01:17:44they have so much fun to me.
01:17:48I will die.
01:17:50I will die.
01:17:50I will die.
01:17:54But they will not get the chance.
01:17:56Because they will not get the chance.
01:17:57They have said,
01:17:59I will die.
01:18:02They will not say anything.
01:18:05They will do whatever they will do.
01:18:08I will do it.
01:18:08I will do it.
01:18:10It is like a curse,
01:18:11which has been taken for us.
01:18:13We will do it.
01:18:16No, no.
01:18:17No, no.
01:18:18The marriage.
01:18:19The marriage.
01:18:20The marriage.
01:18:21The marriage.
01:18:27dance practices , if we go through the past few times , if we go through the past few times,
01:18:33if we go through the past few times , we can handle the conflicts
01:18:36what are the responsibilities ?
01:18:38You need to make counseling , you need to do the process , you need to know your responsibilities and
01:18:46duties
01:18:48please.
01:18:49Sorry.
01:18:50You should start a class.
01:18:55Exactly.
01:18:57Because every mother-in-law wants to be good.
01:19:01I should say that before the child is good.
01:19:03I should say that before the child is good.
01:19:03After the marriage, it should be good.
01:19:05It should be necessary.
01:19:07Now, look at this,
01:19:08I don't know what I'm doing.
01:19:13What I'm doing here is that you sit properly
01:19:16with confidence and understand that you are right.
01:19:20You talk about three columns.
01:19:23If you are in mind,
01:19:25which is what you are doing.
01:19:27Which is what you are doing.
01:19:29Which is what you are doing.
01:19:29Which is what you are doing.
01:19:32Clarity.
01:19:33You have no clarity.
01:19:37Because you have already suppressed.
01:19:39That you have to do something.
01:19:41You have to have to prove to your family,
01:19:45that your son's choice is wrong.
01:19:48Actually, to prove to them,
01:19:51the children's choice for the child's children.
01:19:53What do you say?
01:19:54Just sacrifices, adjusts, compromises,
01:19:58This is a right choice.
01:19:59But it is a right choice.
01:20:01And how much there is no end to it.
01:20:03It is a right choice.
01:20:05So, it's a male-dominating society.
01:20:06Our women have a little bit.
01:20:10It is a right choice.
01:20:13It's very big.
01:20:14So, it's a very big role in this scenario
01:20:15that the husband's husband's son
01:20:17is the most important part of the husband's husband
01:20:19that he can solve this problem.
01:20:22What do they do?
01:20:23They can solve it.
01:20:24They can't take them.
01:20:25They can take them off.
01:20:27They can take them off.
01:20:34How easy is that you can get married and get married?
01:20:37In Iran, even in Saudi Arabia, I am sure there are other countries,
01:20:43I know that the girl can't get married until she doesn't have her own house.
01:20:53No, there is no joint family system.
01:20:56No, absolutely not.
01:20:56No, absolutely not.
01:20:59If she has a house of house or she has bought herself,
01:21:02it is not necessary that she has a house of house.
01:21:04But she has a house of house.
01:21:05But she has a house of house.
01:21:07Then she can get married,
01:21:08or if she doesn't give her daughter to her.
01:21:12That's the first thing.
01:21:13My ideal is that it should be like this.
01:21:16But this is not the case of house of house.
01:21:17It will probably take a long time to reach here.
01:21:21Exactly.
01:21:21So, I am going to say something about my children
01:21:27when I talk about their children.
01:21:31I think that they can also live with love.
01:21:38When I say this to my children,
01:21:41they say,
01:21:41I don't know who they are living in the world.
01:21:44I don't know what they are talking about.
01:21:46This is a flop.
01:21:47This is not a flop.
01:21:48This is not a problem.
01:21:49We have seen it.
01:21:50But I still stick to it.
01:21:53I think that with love,
01:22:25I am not pretending,
01:22:25It was popular in Sussral?
01:22:27Yes, it was popular in Sussral.
01:22:29My wife had asked her, she was a friend.
01:22:32She said,
01:22:33You are so hard and hard.
01:22:38How are you doing this?
01:22:42She realized that she said,
01:22:44Yes, this is not ideal.
01:22:48But I had this in the beginning.
01:22:52If I had to love my husband,
01:22:53I had to love them.
01:22:54I had to love them.
01:22:57And I had to love them.
01:22:59I would love them.
01:23:01I would love them.
01:23:02I would love them.
01:23:04If I would love them,
01:23:05I would love them.
01:23:08That was a clever approach.
01:23:10Yes, she was so clever.
01:23:12She was not at all convinced
01:23:14that she was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:23:18There was no such thing.
01:23:19She was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:23:20But she was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:23:23But she was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:23:25She was a solution.
01:23:28I would love them.
01:23:30She was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:24:20She was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:24:23she was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:24:23She was not in love with the mother-in-law.
01:24:24they're all the way they might not let go
01:24:27do problem
01:24:27I don't want to let go
01:24:30financially stable
01:24:32depend
01:24:33job
01:24:35social security
01:24:36job
01:24:37job
01:24:37person
01:24:38job
01:24:39job
01:24:40job
01:24:40job
01:24:42It is possible that the people of the people who are looking at it or talking about the love of
01:24:47love.
01:24:48The love of love and the love of love is different than exploiting this way.
01:24:55The meaning of the whole conversation is that love can change something.
01:25:04It is not that the love of love is becoming a traitor and it is being used.
01:25:21It is love that makes the world go round.
01:25:24It is love that makes the world go round.
01:25:59It is love that makes the world go round.
01:26:07Love yourself does not happen. Love does not happen. Love does not happen. This love does not happen. This love
01:26:15does not happen. This true is true. every heart. Love does not happen. but if you do it, you will
01:26:25love it.
01:26:50What the hell?
01:26:55It's a better conclusion of this show's.
01:26:58So, we don't know what we've talked about.
01:27:01If you've understood something,
01:27:02then implement it in your life and love.
01:27:06After marriage, love is not finished.
01:27:08It's different.
01:27:09It's different.
01:27:10It's different.
01:27:12So, good morning Pakistan.
01:27:14Thank you so much for all of you,
01:27:15so much for all of your love tips.
01:27:17God bless.