Good Morning Pakistan | Jo Hum Mein Nahi Rahay Special Show | 23 June 2026

21 minutes ago

Host: Nida Yasir
Guests: Sarwat Gilani, Omair Rana, Naveen Naqvi

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Watch today’s show as celebrities share the funny childhood mischiefs that used to trouble their mothers and the little things their own children do today that keep them on their toes. 😊❤️

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Transcript

00:00:05This is coming from the US

00:01:12Oh

00:01:16Assalamu alaikum good morning good morning Pakistan

00:01:20क्या हाल है कैसे आप लोग ठीक ठाक हैं आज एक बहुत ही प्यारा और दिल को टच करने माला

00:01:28टापिक है कहते हैं ना के

00:01:30जिन्दगी एक सफर है और इस सफर में हमारे साथ कुछ लोग कहीं न कहीं से आते हैं और फिर

00:01:39उसके बाद चले जाते हैं अब यह जो हमारे एड़केड जो कभी कबार हमारे बहुत जादा घदल के करीब होते

00:01:46हैं

00:01:47यह हमसे बिच्छड जाते हैं बिच्छड ना in the sense कभी कबार हमारे इनसे लड़ाई हो जाती है कभी कबार

00:01:54हमारे इनसे जगड़ा हो जाता है और यह हमसे दूर चले जाते हैं कभी कोई हमारा प्यारा अपनी कमाई की

00:02:00खातिर अपनी पेट की खातिर साथ सबंदर पार शिफ्

00:02:17It was so close to you that it felt like you would be close to your life.

00:02:22But the place is small, friends are small, school is small, friends are small.

00:02:28Some people live in your life and go to college and university.

00:02:34So, people come to their lives with different values.

00:02:40But one exit is like this.

00:02:42There is no way to entry.

00:02:48That is the exit.

00:02:50You will meet with your love.

00:02:53You love your love.

00:02:58You love your soul.

00:03:00When they are close to you,

00:03:03when you have such a distance,

00:03:06when they get exit.

00:03:08They get exit.

00:03:09And they get such a place where no entry is not.

00:03:14If they are gone, they are gone.

00:03:17Their stories, their love, their feelings, their struggles...

00:03:21Their struggle, their struggle...

00:03:22So, there will come all the way.

00:03:25But these are the people who don't go from your heart from your heart.

00:03:30They go from this world from their existence.

00:03:34But what are their places in your heart?

00:03:36They stay in the same way.

00:03:38And how are they?

00:03:40Sometimes there's a joy, sometimes there's a shame.

00:03:42Remember them.

00:03:44Remember the album open and sit down.

00:03:46Remember them.

00:03:47Remember them.

00:03:48Remember them.

00:03:52Remember them.

00:03:53Remember them.

00:03:54Whenever someone's made of their food,

00:03:58they always enjoy them.

00:04:03Because their memories are reaches and reaches.

00:04:12Whether they are your parents.

00:04:14Or you are your children.

00:04:16Or you are your neighbor.

00:04:17or a partner about your friend,

00:04:19or someone who has a friend,

00:04:21when they talk to you,

00:04:24they feel a peace.

00:04:26And it's like this.

00:04:29It's like that.

00:04:32For example, if you ask me,

00:04:33who is my近est person in this world,

00:04:36who is my mother,

00:04:38and my mother has no day

00:04:41that I don't remember,

00:04:43or I don't remember,

00:04:45I don't do that.

00:04:46I feel that until I reach my mind,

00:04:49until I move to my mind,

00:04:52I remember,

00:04:52and remember each time,

00:04:52and remember,

00:04:55if that happens,

00:04:58or not,

00:05:00then they taught me how to do this thing.

00:05:05So, there's little memories.

00:05:07Sometimes, there's no message,

00:05:09or sometimes,

00:05:12so these little memories are

00:05:16sometimes you give a lot of appreciation

00:05:20you give a lot of excitement

00:05:24but sometimes you give a lot of applause

00:05:29and life is the name of these emotions

00:05:33we know that this is our brain

00:05:37a sense of awareness

00:05:39we are born

00:05:40who has taken entry in this world

00:05:43who has taken exit

00:05:44okay

00:05:47I'm taking exit on the break

00:05:49when I'm going to the show

00:05:51then there will be some celebrities

00:05:53and they will remember their love

00:05:55in the pictures

00:05:57if you want to remember your love

00:05:59then go

00:06:01after this show

00:06:02you get out of your album

00:06:05in this series

00:06:06good morning Pakistan

00:06:13welcome back

00:06:14good morning Pakistan

00:06:15and today we have a guest list

00:06:18that you have a little bit of a list

00:06:20that you have a little bit of a show

00:06:21with a lot of different people

00:06:23will be different

00:06:25different memories

00:06:26so we have a good name

00:06:46that's right

00:06:55that's right

00:07:26change

00:07:28and we can remember

00:07:28so we start

00:07:31remembering

00:07:32that's right

00:07:33sometimes

00:07:33I sit with my daughter

00:07:35and remember my mother

00:07:39and we are always laughing

00:07:42sometimes

00:07:44we get our emotions

00:07:47sometimes we get happy

00:07:48sometimes we remember

00:07:50sometimes we laugh

00:07:52sometimes we laugh

00:07:52so

00:07:53sometimes we 15ers

00:07:55Do you remember your love in your parents?

00:07:58Our tradition is that the children, like my aunt,

00:08:03they were always sitting there and all the children were sitting there.

00:08:07They were listening to the people who had passed their time.

00:08:12It's an oral history, which is a tradition.

00:08:15That's why our children,

00:08:20their story-telling techniques are great.

00:08:24Wow!

00:08:26Actually, my family has a lot of shades.

00:08:32I have two shades in Nanihal.

00:08:34My mother is Nanihal and my mother is Nanihal.

00:08:36Nanihal is a very traditional, typical,

00:08:41how to deal with loss.

00:08:44Just move on.

00:08:46But the Nanihal is the other spectrum.

00:08:49I have seen them in such dramatic situations.

00:08:55I realized, as a child, that it is catharsis.

00:08:59Then we were all sitting there.

00:09:01There was a lot of patience.

00:09:03Because when people come out,

00:09:05they think that this is a very unusual thing.

00:09:07And they are saying,

00:09:09what is their son's son's son's son's son?

00:09:12What is it?

00:09:12And sometimes, especially when there is a death,

00:09:16everyone is gathered.

00:09:18Absolutely.

00:09:18So, there is one day,

00:09:20everyone is very sad.

00:09:23But a few days later,

00:09:24or a few days later,

00:09:26you see all cousins,

00:09:28they are coming out of their voice.

00:09:29I've seen that in a very practical situation.

00:09:32Totally.

00:09:33I have seen that in a very practical situation.

00:09:34Allah Taala,

00:09:35when she takes something,

00:09:36she gives her loss.

00:09:39Yes.

00:09:40Now,

00:09:41the father's father's death,

00:09:44our dear doctor.

00:09:46So I remember, my mother was very comfortably numb.

00:09:54And they were cousins and we were drinking.

00:09:56And the next day, you know, we're all sitting.

00:09:59And she was just thinking that this is the place.

00:10:03But you have to move on.

00:10:06You have to...

00:10:07And Allah gave you courage to yourself.

00:10:09That's right.

00:10:10That's right.

00:10:11That's right.

00:10:12That's right.

00:10:14And then we thought, like Fahad said,

00:10:16that they have lived their whole life.

00:10:19And they have seen their children's lives.

00:10:23So what do you want a man to do?

00:10:26That's right.

00:10:27That's right.

00:10:28That's right.

00:10:30That's right.

00:10:33So Fahad was so satisfying in that mode.

00:10:37I think that my father has seen everything professionally.

00:10:40Family-wise.

00:10:42He has seen everything.

00:10:43He has seen everything.

00:10:44He has seen everything.

00:10:44He has had a great strength for that perspective.

00:10:47For now.

00:10:48I remember when he was in the graveyard,

00:10:50he also talked about this.

00:10:52That's right.

00:10:53That's right.

00:10:55That's right.

00:10:56That's right.

00:10:57That's right.

00:10:58That was viral.

00:10:59That's right.

00:11:02So it's how you deal with loss.

00:11:05And God gives courage also at that time.

00:11:07You may think.

00:11:08I remember when my father had a difference,

00:11:10I thought,

00:11:11like someone dropped on us.

00:11:14You were very small.

00:11:15He passed away about 12 years ago.

00:11:18He didn't get married?

00:11:20Yes, he didn't get married.

00:11:21So yesterday, in fact, it was Father's Day.

00:11:25And I remembered Fahad's day.

00:11:28So at the morning Fahad would cry.

00:11:29Look how much we are in our world's lives.

00:11:34And at night, because I was here at the morning,

00:11:37I was remembering what to do.

00:11:39So I'm crying tomorrow night.

00:11:41So Fahad eventually said,

00:11:42I'm saying, look, your eyes will be red.

00:11:45Aww.

00:11:46Dr. Mia.

00:11:48Dr. Mia.

00:11:49The doctor.

00:11:50Beauty-related doctor.

00:11:52The eyes will be red.

00:11:54Good.

00:11:56You cry as well as laugh.

00:11:58And there are some lives you celebrate.

00:12:00You say, your father, Fahad's father.

00:12:02My mother.

00:12:04I remember that Abu tells me that

00:12:06I have a very long age in my dad.

00:12:09The young man who was a son,

00:12:11the young man who was a son,

00:12:12the young man who was a son.

00:12:13The young man who was a son.

00:12:14Imagine that.

00:12:14And these are the people who have seen

00:12:16that every little bit of a baby,

00:12:17no one is a baby,

00:12:19And they say, celebrate.

00:12:21They've had a nice life.

00:12:22And they say, we embrace death.

00:12:25We embrace death.

00:12:26Our people have a fear of mortality.

00:12:29Every time they keep fear of death.

00:12:32Our people are not so much.

00:12:34We know that it's better from this.

00:12:40It's true.

00:12:41Yes, that is our faith.

00:12:43That is our religious culture.

00:12:45That is our Islamic culture.

00:12:47That is the same.

00:12:48You know another place I noticed

00:12:50and we have been in Mexico.

00:12:53We have been in Mexico City.

00:12:55And they have become a week.

00:12:57The day of the dead.

00:12:58And it was literally like Eid.

00:13:00And I have seen and we have seen and admired

00:13:03what kind of death they embrace and celebrate.

00:13:06They all remember.

00:13:07Is it a week in a year or a week?

00:13:09Once in a year.

00:13:10It is the first day for all those pets.

00:13:14One day for all those pets.

00:13:17One day for all those pets.

00:13:17One of the newborns.

00:13:19One of your immediate siblings.

00:13:21So every day is dedicated to them.

00:13:25Different information.

00:13:26I am Punjabi.

00:13:28They will make their food.

00:13:30They will come from the food.

00:13:31Then you celebrate.

00:13:33The oral history.

00:13:35Keep remembering the people.

00:13:39The truth.

00:13:40You embrace it more comfortably.

00:13:43Exactly.

00:13:45But some things you lose

00:13:47that there is no death.

00:13:49Like if someone has ever loved.

00:13:52Or a feeling.

00:13:54That is also a loss.

00:13:55Yes.

00:13:57And it is intangible.

00:14:00There is no doubt.

00:14:02There is no place.

00:14:04There is no place.

00:14:06There is no place.

00:14:07Any aspects.

00:14:10There is no place.

00:14:11Any of those friends.

00:14:14There are no intentions.

00:14:16They have never spoken.

00:14:18They will have misunderstood.

00:14:20It is intangible.

00:14:22You cannot mourn it.

00:14:23You cannot go away from a place.

00:14:26Physically, they don't care about it.

00:14:28They are alive, but they are not with you.

00:14:30Sometimes they are alive in anger, sometimes they are alive in love.

00:14:34Absolutely.

00:14:35Sometimes they are alive in anger.

00:14:37You know, that loss, Joanna Nida, is a very difficult loss.

00:14:42Because it is a world-like.

00:14:44It is a place to live, but it is not a place to live.

00:14:47Exactly.

00:14:48It is a very difficult loss.

00:14:51I feel that is the most heaviest loss.

00:14:53You are right.

00:14:54You are right.

00:14:54Because the rest of the loss, you can mourn.

00:14:58You can cry.

00:15:00When your heart wants you.

00:15:03But there are some losses that there is no expression.

00:15:07There is no expression.

00:15:08There is no vocabulary for them.

00:15:10There is no place for them.

00:15:13There is no place for them.

00:15:13You can come here and do it.

00:15:15It is in your heart.

00:15:18You have to deal with that loss all your life.

00:15:21Sometimes you sit in your house, open your albums, and watch your love.

00:15:27There is no memory.

00:15:28If you are looking at something like that, you will feel great.

00:15:31Yes.

00:15:31Do you ever do this?

00:15:33Yes.

00:15:33Like my mother was a mother.

00:15:37She was a mother.

00:15:39She was a mother.

00:15:40She was a mother.

00:15:41Her name was Neely.

00:15:42Okay.

00:15:43Then she separated.

00:15:45Then she was separated.

00:15:47She was different.

00:15:48There were four or five daughters.

00:15:50I miss her because she is not in touch with us.

00:15:53I miss her very much.

00:15:55I miss her.

00:15:56And I really hope that you know,

00:15:58I have to say that she will see the drama.

00:16:01Because I was very close to her.

00:16:03She will see that she is now a child.

00:16:06Where will she be now?

00:16:07Wow.

00:16:09That loss is very big for me.

00:16:11That loss is such a loss that I cannot reach out.

00:16:15There is a decision of big and big decisions.

00:16:18You know, that is kind of untangible.

00:16:20You can't touch it.

00:16:21That's lovely.

00:16:23Yeah, absolutely.

00:16:24You are right.

00:16:25Like my mother said to me,

00:16:27I have six years.

00:16:28Now she is six years old,

00:16:29but it feels like...

00:16:30Fresh.

00:16:32I can go to their house.

00:16:35There is a day.

00:16:38There is a specific day.

00:16:39Yes.

00:16:40You do a day.

00:16:41But there is a specific day

00:16:43which commemorates them.

00:16:44You are like,

00:16:45it is just totally open-ended.

00:16:47It can trigger you anytime.

00:16:48Anytime.

00:16:49Yes.

00:16:49It can bring back those memories of the time.

00:16:51Because these are memories of your childhood.

00:16:53They are very important for you.

00:16:55And it is not that you are close to your relatives of your blood.

00:16:58There are many people.

00:17:00You have never thought that

00:17:02I will be older

00:17:03or I will be older.

00:17:05I will be older.

00:17:05It will not be older.

00:17:07Yes.

00:17:08Like my best friend.

00:17:09Yes.

00:17:10Yes.

00:17:10I would call me maishan time.

00:17:11Yes.

00:17:12It's called Zishan Mámud.

00:17:14It's been like this young girl,

00:17:15when so 47 years and 51 years old,

00:17:17he died asleep.

00:17:18He was such an amazing human.

00:17:20The reason he went up to sleep.

00:17:23Yes.

00:17:24And since period when he was sexually married,

00:17:27every person was crying right in that room,

00:17:28that he said he was smiling.

00:17:31Wow.

00:17:35This is before I got married to Fahad.

00:17:57Like when I lost my father.

00:18:01Abba was a dictionary.

00:18:03Whether it's an Urdu dictionary,

00:18:05whether it's an English or Punjabi,

00:18:07or an Ashto.

00:18:09I would say,

00:18:12Abba, what does this mean?

00:18:14He would know it.

00:18:15So when he died,

00:18:17the first thing that came to my mind

00:18:19was,

00:18:20Who will I ask?

00:18:22In the meaning of this word,

00:18:25which will be my dictionary?

00:18:27So it's a big problem.

00:18:29It's a loss.

00:18:30And it's a big demand for you.

00:18:35Strength demands.

00:18:37Exactly.

00:18:38Unspoken strength.

00:18:39Unseen strength.

00:18:40So Allah to Allah,

00:18:42give us all this strength.

00:18:44Amen.

00:18:48If I ask your life,

00:18:51some people are strong,

00:18:53but they don't have such a point.

00:18:57Weak point.

00:18:59Or anger.

00:19:02That's all the strength.

00:19:06And it's a loss.

00:19:08It's a loss.

00:19:09I think I've been told

00:19:10that if any child

00:19:13will happen,

00:19:15I'm a razor razor.

00:19:17I just can't take it anymore.

00:19:19In Palestine,

00:19:20as it happened,

00:19:21whatever happened,

00:19:23Father's Day was

00:19:24and people have left a post

00:19:25that they're doing what they're doing.

00:19:27But they have to go through.

00:19:30I can't get it out of my mind.

00:19:31I just can't.

00:19:33It's a loss.

00:19:34And I think I realized it also

00:19:36because

00:19:37my father.

00:19:38And

00:19:39How many children?

00:19:40My two children.

00:19:41And

00:19:42there were two daughters

00:19:43who were not living.

00:19:45And that loss

00:19:46that was the most triggering thing.

00:19:49They were little?

00:19:50They were still born.

00:19:52They were literally.

00:19:53And this is a very interesting

00:19:55moment.

00:19:56Because in our society,

00:19:57and generally also not just

00:19:58in a society,

00:20:00and in the people

00:20:00they don't have birth.

00:20:03They're not born.

00:20:05And this is a big issue

00:20:07if we forego this.

00:20:10I mean,

00:20:10it's not a gender issue in such,

00:20:12but

00:20:12it's very important

00:20:14to talk about it

00:20:14about men.

00:20:17Because

00:20:18I learned a lot from this.

00:20:20I learned a lot from this.

00:20:21I learned a lot from this.

00:20:21And I'm literally between

00:20:22women.

00:20:24I learned a few things

00:20:25and I learned that

00:20:26that

00:20:27women

00:20:30can be born

00:20:31the moment

00:20:32she knows

00:20:32she's carrying a child.

00:20:33Yes.

00:20:35To earn

00:20:35or witness

00:20:36I was talking to her,

00:20:38her movement

00:20:38and etc.

00:20:50So we are really looking forward to that.

00:21:07When you learn that, hold on.

00:21:09Women's loss is a moment's loss the moment it has happened.

00:21:12You need to respect that.

00:21:13I think that I had to bury them.

00:21:19And that closure that you are talking about.

00:21:21I realized another thing.

00:21:23I think women can benefit to be at the graveyard.

00:21:26They generally can.

00:21:27Closure is not.

00:21:28Our rituals were very bad.

00:21:32I started to look at them with wisdom.

00:21:34For example, to tell them what will happen.

00:21:39We are saying, why is he enjoying this pain?

00:21:43But repetition helps you accept it.

00:21:45It is.

00:21:46It is.

00:21:47It is.

00:21:47It is good to have our point because we didn't understand.

00:21:51If someone comes back to your home,

00:21:55I would not have to worry about it.

00:21:58Because I was thinking that I was not hurting them.

00:22:02It would be a shame.

00:22:04And the other thing is to show the face.

00:22:06It is just so logical.

00:22:07Because my Begum said that I am not hurting them.

00:22:10And she went through clinical depression.

00:22:13Because she couldn't find closure.

00:22:15Duffnana.

00:22:16Like you say, if it is intangible,

00:22:17then I am going to duffnana.

00:22:18Who will duffnana?

00:22:19Because when you are duffnana or witness,

00:22:22at least you find some sort of closure that starts.

00:22:25Another major lesson I learnt was,

00:22:28what my husband said on the phone,

00:22:30I remember,

00:22:31Umair, the only way through is the way through.

00:22:34Yes.

00:22:34So, you experience things in a great way.

00:22:38Again, men don't do this well.

00:22:40I think June is mental health month as well.

00:22:44So, men need to do it.

00:22:45They need to do it.

00:22:46They need to do it.

00:22:46And they don't cry.

00:22:47They need to do it.

00:22:50I do not know.

00:22:51They say that,

00:22:52They say that I can cry.

00:22:54Because I did not cry.

00:22:57In my childhood,

00:22:59I learned that they don't cry.

00:23:10I don't cry.

00:23:11You get to hear it.

00:23:12You get to hear it.

00:23:13They will get hurt.

00:23:13Yes.

00:23:14My mother is in front of me.

00:23:16I will not cry.

00:23:18Why do I cry?

00:23:20This is a very pet joke.

00:23:22They will get hurt.

00:23:23Yes.

00:23:24They will get hurt.

00:23:25Don't cry.

00:23:26But if you don't cry,

00:23:27then everything is inside.

00:23:28You will stay inside.

00:23:30The pain,

00:23:30the pain.

00:23:32If you are inside,

00:23:34there will be a lot of diseases.

00:23:36You don't need to get hurt.

00:23:37My mother,

00:23:38I know them.

00:23:40They will want them to remember them.

00:23:45They will get hurt.

00:23:46They will get great attention.

00:23:48They will get sympathy.

00:23:50She must be very happy right now.

00:23:52Very happy right now.

00:23:54I sent her pictures.

00:23:55I said,

00:23:56Oh,

00:23:56she will be delighted.

00:23:59After the break,

00:24:01share your mother's pictures.

00:24:03Good morning Pakistan.

00:24:06Welcome,

00:24:06Welcome back.

00:24:07Good morning Pakistan.

00:24:09Today,

00:24:10we remember our love.

00:24:11Or,

00:24:11you can understand this.

00:24:13We remember our losses.

00:24:15We remember our losses.

00:24:16What we have lost in our lives.

00:24:18There are some losses,

00:24:20that we can't get hurt.

00:24:22But,

00:24:22we remember them.

00:24:24And,

00:24:25we remember them.

00:24:26we remember them.

00:24:27We remember them.

00:24:29We remember them.

00:24:32We remember them.

00:24:33your mother's picture.

00:24:34Oh,

00:24:35look at that.

00:24:37Oh.

00:24:37My mother is smiling.

00:24:39She's smiling.

00:24:40She's smiling.

00:24:41She's smiling.

00:24:41Look at that.

00:24:41My daughter,

00:24:42I knew that she will only do my name.

00:24:45Oh,

00:24:46sweet.

00:24:47That's how,

00:24:48before she got married.

00:24:49You know that.

00:24:50She got married at 16.

00:24:52Oh,

00:24:52wow.

00:24:52So,

00:24:53yeah.

00:24:53So,

00:24:54the story is that,

00:24:55with her friends,

00:24:57I don't know what to say.

00:24:58I don't know what to say.

00:24:59Pelduj.

00:24:59Yes.

00:25:00So,

00:25:00she was playing.

00:25:01So,

00:25:02my mother said,

00:25:03Najma,

00:25:04what happened?

00:25:06She said,

00:25:07this is her picture.

00:25:09So,

00:25:10Najma said,

00:25:11okay.

00:25:11And,

00:25:11she went right back to it.

00:25:16But,

00:25:16Riddha,

00:25:17as I mentioned,

00:25:18you said,

00:25:18some losses are not tangible.

00:25:23So,

00:25:25when I was 3 years old,

00:25:27we went to Saudi Arabia.

00:25:28That was the immigrant exodus.

00:25:30Middle East.

00:25:32Which you also met.

00:25:34So,

00:25:36after 12 years,

00:25:37we came here.

00:25:38So,

00:25:38those who were uprooted.

00:25:40So,

00:25:40all the people were there.

00:25:42all the good friends.

00:25:44Yes.

00:25:44It was a mahal,

00:25:46everything changed.

00:25:48It was good.

00:25:49It was good.

00:25:50And,

00:25:51after that,

00:25:53I lived in New York,

00:25:54some years,

00:25:55I lived in Islamabad.

00:25:56So,

00:25:57I had a lot of relationships,

00:26:00and places.

00:26:01And,

00:26:03I had a sense of place.

00:26:05it was so,

00:26:05I always felt like I had a lot of that.

00:26:05I had a lot of the benefits.

00:26:06there was a lot of the management,

00:26:07the environment is very very affected.

00:26:12Like you are here,

00:26:13Yes.

00:26:14Like I was in Morocco,

00:26:16I think that is a dynamic,

00:26:18of the energy,

00:26:19and it is a hustle.

00:26:21I have a place that I am.

00:26:24People who live in New York, they are on the go kind of thing.

00:26:29Fast life.

00:26:30Yes, that's what I am doing.

00:26:33Like I go in the car, I go in New York.

00:26:36And when I go in Islamabad, I go in the ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring.

00:26:42So, this is a loss, this kind of thing.

00:26:45Yes, exactly, exactly.

00:26:47And those are relations you lose as well.

00:26:49I mean, there are parts of your life.

00:26:50Yes, absolutely.

00:26:50Look, government servants, army kids, they keep moving station to station.

00:26:54This is a very difficult life.

00:26:57It's so tough.

00:26:58Make or not make, how to invest emotionally, then how to lose them, it's not easy.

00:27:04Yes, you have to live in different places, you have to get different people, you have to do good friends

00:27:09or not.

00:27:11Because you are the only thing, you have to invest so much.

00:27:14You have to go further.

00:27:14I have to go further.

00:27:16As I have a child, my too, very important life in class 3, 4, 5, 6, that chunk has been

00:27:25in Germany.

00:27:26You have to study there.

00:27:27So, I have always done my job and got some friends.

00:27:30and then we came here and started from zero to zero

00:27:36is a very difficult thing for each person

00:27:39which is a change sometimes is very good

00:27:42but it gives a lot of difficulty

00:27:45it gives a lot of difficulty in the beginning

00:27:46and after that you are more comfortable

00:27:50but the change sometimes gives a lot of difficulty

00:27:54because people are worried

00:27:55you will read that book

00:27:57who moved my cheese

00:27:58who moved my cheese

00:28:01it's about two mice

00:28:02we are stuck in a maze

00:28:04Rana would know that

00:28:05Rana would know

00:28:07that is about the change

00:28:09the way you accept the change

00:28:11the way you accept the change

00:28:13it's a very amazing book

00:28:17I think everyone should read it

00:28:19there is one mouse

00:28:21which does not accept the change

00:28:23and there is one mouse

00:28:24which accepts it quickly

00:28:26so they are both

00:28:29who wins?

00:28:31the one who accepts it

00:28:32that there is a change

00:28:33and you have to accept the change

00:28:35and you have to change

00:28:36that will win

00:28:37that is the same

00:28:39as soon as you accept the change

00:28:41that will move on

00:28:44they say forgive and forget

00:28:47it is because

00:28:48if you let go

00:28:50then you will forget

00:28:51if you are stuck

00:28:53then you will be in your heart

00:28:54in your heart

00:28:55I gotta say

00:28:56I can forgive

00:28:57but I cannot forget

00:28:58I don't forget

00:28:59I don't forget

00:29:01that is it

00:29:01that is why

00:29:01this is the two words

00:29:03forgive and forget

00:29:04because it's tough

00:29:06to forget

00:29:07because that pain

00:29:09the

00:29:10what happened with you

00:29:12how can you forget

00:29:13I can't forget

00:29:14you can't forget

00:29:14body-wise

00:29:16you can't forget

00:29:18mentally

00:29:19we are talking about loss

00:29:21some of those people

00:29:22who go away

00:29:24but

00:29:24they are also

00:29:27who are very good friends

00:29:29or any relative

00:29:31who has a bit

00:29:32who has lost

00:29:33and he has lost

00:29:35because of that

00:29:36wrong

00:29:36and

00:29:37because of

00:29:39someone's

00:29:40because of

00:29:41that if someone else has your own or other person's face

00:29:45that is a loss, that is a memory that is created

00:29:49by someone who has a friend or someone else.

00:29:52And in that sense, he will lose that person.

00:29:57So, has that ever happened in your life?

00:29:59I am sure, of course.

00:30:01In our lives, I am very happy.

00:30:03That we have not done in the dark.

00:30:05In the dark.

00:30:06And this is just because of those relationships.

00:30:09All the stresses.

00:30:10All that stresses the aim of us.

00:30:12But, I mean, yeah.

00:30:13I mean, like I said, two wives,

00:30:14they can call them a young girl.

00:30:17Young girls.

00:30:18Young girls.

00:30:20I mean, absolutely.

00:30:21I think that one thing,

00:30:22I think, is how you lose some relationships.

00:30:27Meir and Azik, this is my experience.

00:30:30There is a lot of anger, a lot of anger.

00:30:32And when it is anger,

00:30:34you can't forget at all.

00:30:36And then, when it comes to mind,

00:30:37you don't hide it.

00:30:39So, I have then looked, again,

00:30:40because of my Ustad,

00:30:41I looked inwards and said,

00:30:42okay, fine.

00:30:43Mere ikhtiar mein woh nahi.

00:30:44Mere ikhtiar mein mein woh nahi.

00:30:45What am I supposed to do?

00:30:47What contribution am I supposed to make?

00:30:49I mean, that's the part of the book also.

00:30:51Change for change,

00:30:52what am I supposed to do?

00:30:53What am I supposed to do?

00:30:54And if it happens,

00:30:55my ikhtiar mein woh nahi.

00:30:56So then,

00:30:58I need to live with my clear conscience.

00:30:59I have done 100% of it.

00:31:01I have done it.

00:31:03I have done it.

00:31:04I have done it.

00:31:05I have done it.

00:31:06I have done it.

00:31:07I have done it.

00:31:07If needed.

00:31:10And then,

00:31:11if it happens,

00:31:11if it doesn't happen,

00:31:12okay.

00:31:13I mean,

00:31:14I am going to taste mine,

00:31:18you taste yours.

00:31:19and you be happy,

00:31:21and I be happy.

00:31:22And when they come,

00:31:24it's at least the human level,

00:31:26we are connected.

00:31:27Basic human level,

00:31:28we are connected.

00:31:29And that's how you move on.

00:31:30And I think,

00:31:31a very strong thing,

00:31:33what you are saying,

00:31:33forgive and forget,

00:31:34or this is what you are saying.

00:31:35Sometimes,

00:31:36there are some relatives,

00:31:36some relatives,

00:31:37some relatives,

00:31:38some relatives,

00:31:39some relatives.

00:31:40And they pass away.

00:31:42They die.

00:31:43Now,

00:31:44you will get angry.

00:31:45Now,

00:31:45you will get angry.

00:31:48You have to come to peace.

00:31:50You have to come to peace.

00:31:51You have to address it.

00:31:52Some sense,

00:31:53you go to therapy.

00:31:54Fine.

00:31:55Some sense,

00:31:56you talk to friends.

00:31:57Siblings,

00:31:57come and play.

00:31:58And talk to brothers.

00:32:00Because sometimes,

00:32:01parents,

00:32:01shared,

00:32:02you know,

00:32:03common.

00:32:04And then,

00:32:04you have to find peace.

00:32:06Peace,

00:32:06rest in peace.

00:32:07In English,

00:32:08you have to rest in peace.

00:32:10Exactly.

00:32:11You have to rest in peace.

00:32:12Exactly.

00:32:12Absolutely.

00:32:12There is another loss,

00:32:14Nidab,

00:32:14which is being with you.

00:32:16Yes.

00:32:17Because at every stage of life,

00:32:18you are a very different person.

00:32:21Yes.

00:32:22Yes.

00:32:23Some days,

00:32:24you have a lot of hope

00:32:25for others.

00:32:27Yes.

00:32:28As Rana,

00:32:29Umair,

00:32:30you know,

00:32:31then you go inward.

00:32:33Yeah.

00:32:34And then,

00:32:35when you go inward,

00:32:36you mourn that loss.

00:32:40Like,

00:32:41I think,

00:32:41one year ago,

00:32:42when I was feeling,

00:32:44that,

00:32:45as I was one year ago,

00:32:47I am not the same.

00:32:49Yes.

00:32:49A part of me,

00:32:51I have lost.

00:32:53And it will never come back.

00:32:55Ever.

00:32:56And that,

00:32:57again,

00:32:58they are not tangible.

00:32:59When I look inward,

00:33:01I look inward,

00:33:02or I look up,

00:33:03I remember that.

00:33:04So,

00:33:04you miss that,

00:33:05that old person,

00:33:07that sometimes,

00:33:08in the teenage age,

00:33:09or in different places.

00:33:11Because,

00:33:11I miss that,

00:33:12I miss that,

00:33:13that chunk.

00:33:18I miss that,

00:33:23I miss that,

00:33:25I miss that.

00:33:26I miss that.

00:33:27I miss that.

00:33:29I miss that.

00:33:30I miss that I miss now.

00:33:31Because,

00:33:32people will not change.

00:33:33They will change themselves.

00:33:36Same.

00:33:36I couldn't agree more.

00:33:38Yes.

00:33:38So,

00:33:39you can't.

00:33:40That loss is inward.

00:33:42And that loss is such that you can't write a date or talk to someone.

00:33:48That conversation is only inside.

00:33:51Between you and your other two selves.

00:33:54We talk about that loss.

00:33:56Sometimes you miss some phases of life.

00:34:00For example, to play with cousins.

00:34:03Absolutely.

00:34:04To stay at her mom's house.

00:34:06Or to stay at her house.

00:34:08Or those phases of life.

00:34:10There are many phases.

00:34:10They miss a lot.

00:34:12It means that it was every year.

00:34:16It was made a ritual.

00:34:18And that's how it goes to life.

00:34:21That's how it goes to life.

00:34:22Sometimes it happens to be missed.

00:34:25Most people are like, I'm in my 50s now.

00:34:29So, I remember my 20s and my 30s.

00:34:34What kind of age?

00:34:3540s, not so much.

00:34:4140s are the best.

00:34:43Yes.

00:34:43Oh my god.

00:34:4450s are the best.

00:34:45Oh really?

00:34:46They are the best.

00:34:48Something to look forward to.

00:34:50Yes.

00:34:51Yeah.

00:34:51So, I don't think of the 20s and 30s.

00:34:5420s was completely lost.

00:34:55I mean, I don't know.

00:34:57Totally.

00:34:5830s was better.

00:34:59Because you felt like.

00:35:00Yes.

00:35:00A little bit of knowledge.

00:35:02I'm looking at the pictures.

00:35:03I'm looking at the pictures.

00:35:04God, my skin is so good.

00:35:06God, my skin is so good.

00:35:08The loss of a great skin.

00:35:10I don't really have to be black.

00:35:12I'm getting white at 18.

00:35:13So, I can't even use my black hair.

00:35:16So, I don't even remember that.

00:35:17I can't even miss that.

00:35:19Today people say that I'm genuine.

00:35:21Yes.

00:35:21Yes, that's right.

00:35:22I mean, in my memory, it's a great thing.

00:35:25Always, always.

00:35:27Akshar, you don't always ask this.

00:35:29You are from Anwar Maksud's family.

00:35:31That would be a compliment.

00:35:33Yes, absolutely.

00:35:34But it's funny you say that because, I mean, Guptu, I remember,

00:35:38you know, there are certain points when you're a child

00:35:41and you have some relationships with your feelings.

00:35:46Obviously, you're too small to understand.

00:35:47I was my brother, my brother, Bashir.

00:35:51So, all the brothers, my father, are the youngest.

00:35:54So, Bashir was the oldest.

00:35:56In his age of 30, he was all white.

00:36:00So, all I remember him was white.

00:36:01But the greatest thing I remember,

00:36:03I don't remember his voice.

00:36:05I don't remember what to do with him.

00:36:07I remember when he came to our house.

00:36:10I remember that in his presence,

00:36:13there was so quiet,

00:36:15so much love.

00:36:16That feeling.

00:36:17That feeling.

00:36:18That I just wanted to go to him.

00:36:21Then, I knew that I was learning to go there.

00:36:23Oh!

00:36:24But I remember that when he died,

00:36:27we were in an island.

00:36:28At school,

00:36:29there was a song in a music class.

00:36:33The Grey Goose Dies.

00:36:35He taught us.

00:36:36And I was crying.

00:36:36I was crying.

00:36:37I was crying.

00:36:38He was crying.

00:36:40He was crying.

00:36:41He was crying.

00:36:42And I remember that when he was taking it,

00:36:44the traffic was running.

00:36:45It was just a genuine,

00:36:47to any literature image,

00:36:48as we say,

00:36:49a pathetic fallacy.

00:36:49He was crying.

00:36:51He was crying.

00:36:52So, his loss was the first loss as a child,

00:36:54I felt.

00:36:55He was crying.

00:36:56He was crying.

00:36:56My father himself is wonderfully amazing.

00:36:59He was also the presence of Abu.

00:37:01So, I felt that Abu,

00:37:03I felt that,

00:37:04I felt that,

00:37:05I felt that,

00:37:06I felt that,

00:37:07I felt that,

00:37:08he left.

00:37:09It's just the feeling of loss of that,

00:37:12feeling of around.

00:37:13Ah.

00:37:13Which reminds me,

00:37:15which scares me,

00:37:16frankly.

00:37:16Because,

00:37:17I have seen,

00:37:18friends who have lost parents.

00:37:20Yeah.

00:37:20A wife who has lost her father.

00:37:22So, Abu,

00:37:23Abubi,

00:37:23Alain,

00:37:23when I was at night,

00:37:24a phone came,

00:37:25message came,

00:37:25I said,

00:37:28I need to address it.

00:37:30MashaAllah,

00:37:30it's a good age also.

00:37:32But,

00:37:33I remember that,

00:37:34because,

00:37:34the first one of my friends,

00:37:36the first one of my friends,

00:37:38I was growing up.

00:37:39When my friend was growing up,

00:37:41I was growing up,

00:37:42I said,

00:37:43Rashid,

00:37:44Rashid,

00:37:44I still remember,

00:37:46he said,

00:37:47I think,

00:37:49I feel like,

00:37:49I am a young man,

00:37:51that feeling remained with me.

00:37:53Oh my God,

00:37:54that's the feeling.

00:37:55It's true.

00:37:56The only way through,

00:37:58is the way through.

00:37:59You have to embrace it.

00:38:01But,

00:38:01you still ask,

00:38:03Allah,

00:38:03it's not,

00:38:05it's not,

00:38:06it's not,

00:38:06you know,

00:38:07your parents are so big,

00:38:10too,

00:38:12but,

00:38:12you still ask,

00:38:14Allah,

00:38:15the thing is,

00:38:16with cancer,

00:38:16especially since you mentioned it,

00:38:18my mother passed with cancer,

00:38:19so,

00:38:21at the same time,

00:38:22when they say,

00:38:23they say,

00:38:25they say,

00:38:254-5 years,

00:38:27when it's a deadline,

00:38:29so,

00:38:30I feel like,

00:38:30the grieving process,

00:38:31begins right then.

00:38:33Yes, yes.

00:38:37and after that,

00:38:39obviously,

00:38:39what happens,

00:38:40then it feels like,

00:38:41you know,

00:38:42it just broke down,

00:38:43and then it happens,

00:38:45so,

00:38:45cancer is really the worst.

00:38:48Cancer is really the worst.

00:38:48or there is a disease,

00:38:49like Yasir,

00:38:50a little brother,

00:38:52for seven months,

00:38:53he has been hospitalized,

00:38:55and the doctors have told us,

00:38:58to the whole family,

00:39:00that they will not survive,

00:39:02in the situation,

00:39:03they are passing,

00:39:04so,

00:39:05they actually get ready mentally,

00:39:07then at that moment,

00:39:08when they are mentally prepared,

00:39:09the planning starts at the next,

00:39:11what will let the child go,

00:39:12what will the family go,

00:39:14what will the family go,

00:39:15so,

00:39:15the family starts in that mind,

00:39:17so,

00:39:18when it happens,

00:39:20the other people out there,

00:39:21like,

00:39:22Yasser's brother,

00:39:23who will be happy,

00:39:26maybe they will be happy,

00:39:27I will be happy,

00:39:27but how much they will be happy,

00:39:29they can not even lose their feelings,

00:39:29so,

00:39:30I can't even think about it.

00:39:31So, when there are so many months,

00:39:33there is no disease in your home

00:39:35and then there is no disease.

00:39:37So, as you are a little composed

00:39:40in the disease,

00:39:42you don't feel a shock.

00:39:45You are preparing yourself,

00:39:46as they said.

00:39:47As you said,

00:39:48you are a cancer patient

00:39:50or any other disease.

00:39:54There is also a loss

00:39:55in which we are sitting in a month.

00:39:58Yes, exactly.

00:40:00Exactly.

00:40:01The people we didn't know,

00:40:03we have only read about them.

00:40:05We have only heard their stories,

00:40:07their stories.

00:40:09We remember that loss every year.

00:40:12We remember that loss.

00:40:14It is a strange kind of loss.

00:40:15Or like Umair said,

00:40:17they are children from Gaza.

00:40:19Look, there is no relationship with them.

00:40:22But then,

00:40:23it is a loss.

00:40:25It is a loss that is a very strange and strange loss.

00:40:28Let me just quickly correct that.

00:40:29My opinion,

00:40:31because it is related to us.

00:40:32It is related to our religion.

00:40:33Exactly.

00:40:34We are human,

00:40:35we are human,

00:40:36we are human,

00:40:36we are human.

00:40:38We are human.

00:40:39We are human.

00:40:40We are human.

00:40:41And they are human.

00:40:42And in the 1970s the truth is that it is wrong.

00:40:43The truth lies from the Lord.

00:40:43We remember the academics

00:40:46Yes.

00:40:47That what was a wrong thing.

00:40:49But there is nothing wrong with them.

00:40:50That they are both celebrating.

00:40:52Yes.

00:40:55So many layers it all.

00:40:56Yes.

00:41:06Any layers to this loss.

00:41:09It is important for each one, for example, for brothers, because one thing happens when you prepare for the elder,

00:41:15one thing happens when you prepare for the un-natural one.

00:41:16My son will be better, my little brother will be better, whatever. So are you valuing that time? Are you

00:41:22valuing, are you behaving the way you should behave?

00:41:24I am going a little, it is recalling to me, it is a matter of time. It is a matter

00:41:34of time. If God has said that we need to respect the time, because life is nothing but time.

00:41:40You know, are you respecting that or not? Which, which again, I am sorry, I am going a bit of

00:41:45a tangent.

00:41:46Please, Jhenjiz, please understand the power of time.

00:41:49It is a matter of time. This is a South Asian lesson. All the brown people should remember.

00:41:56Yes, that is right. It is right.

00:41:59It is right. There is another loss, Nida. I feel as actors, that loss, I feel very much.

00:42:06As a character, the director cuts, the light burn, the director cuts, everyone goes on.

00:42:13But that character doesn't go inside. It is a loss.

00:42:21It is very necessary after a break.

00:42:23Because this is all actors. And these are different actors.

00:42:28So there is no bulb that is on and off.

00:42:39We will talk about this.

00:42:40Welcome. Welcome back. Good morning, Pakistan.

00:42:42Before I go to my topic, I will go back to my topic.

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00:43:12And we will give a prayer.

00:43:14So today we are discussing the topic of the losses that we have beared in our lives.

00:43:19Which is not a burden.

00:43:21And we also know that this will happen.

00:43:26This loss will be hard for us.

00:43:28And when we are born,

00:43:30we will be able to do that.

00:43:33The one who has come to this world,

00:43:34will also be able to go.

00:43:36But then,

00:43:37when the ones who are not in our lives

00:43:40or are going to go,

00:43:42we don't know why there is so much pain.

00:43:43We are prepared mentally.

00:43:44We are prepared from childhood.

00:43:47We also have to go.

00:43:49They also have to go.

00:43:51Right?

00:43:52So before we go to break,

00:43:53before we go,

00:43:54there is a loss,

00:43:56which may not be able to relate to it.

00:44:01But they also play characters in life.

00:44:04Sometimes they play mother's character.

00:44:07Sometimes they play mother's character.

00:44:09Sometimes they play daughter's character.

00:44:12So in real life,

00:44:14basically,

00:44:14like Shakespeare said,

00:44:16that life is a stage.

00:44:17And we are leading our roles.

00:44:20So the loss of your people,

00:44:22you play one character in the drama.

00:44:27And after that,

00:44:28you also play those characters.

00:44:30That's very difficult.

00:44:31Yes.

00:44:31Sometimes they stay with us.

00:44:33I remember,

00:44:35I was playing a play,

00:44:36you are a mother's mother's mother.

00:44:39And there was a scene,

00:44:41when Kawiyah is a neighbor,

00:44:44and he is watching America.

00:44:47And he is sitting,

00:44:49and he is talking,

00:44:50that my children are not meeting me.

00:44:54And my two children are,

00:44:56and they are not meeting me.

00:44:57and I am waiting for them.

00:44:59And I was,

00:45:00and Adil Hussain

00:45:01were doing this scene.

00:45:03And that was the last scene,

00:45:04that play.

00:45:06You will believe,

00:45:08that there was no dialogue in me.

00:45:10But his sense of loss,

00:45:13I carry till today.

00:45:15I carry till today.

00:45:16I'm at home.

00:45:16I'm crying.

00:45:18I'm crying.

00:45:19I'm crying.

00:45:20I'm crying.

00:45:20I called Adil.

00:45:21And I said,

00:45:22who are these people,

00:45:23who are their parents?

00:45:25How do they leave?

00:45:26How do they leave?

00:45:27How do they leave?

00:45:27How do they leave in the world?

00:45:31There's no tangible thing.

00:45:34that loss,

00:45:36that character,

00:45:37that feeling,

00:45:39like we were saying,

00:45:41the director would say,

00:45:43cut.

00:45:43Now they leave.

00:45:45But it's not cut in your life.

00:45:48You can't slice it and keep it away.

00:45:51That is a different sort of loss.

00:45:52One other thing,

00:45:54I can feel,

00:45:55because I was acting.

00:45:58People might think,

00:45:59it's a glamorous job.

00:46:00Yes.

00:46:01And you get to get VIP treatment.

00:46:04You don't have to do so much work.

00:46:05But when you play an emotional character,

00:46:09and when you reach the whole day,

00:46:13you get drained.

00:46:16Absolutely.

00:46:16Because the whole day,

00:46:18when you have an emotional,

00:46:21like acting,

00:46:22or you are crying,

00:46:24or you feel the pain,

00:46:27you get drained from that energy.

00:46:28and it's very tight.

00:46:31There are some practices,

00:46:33that you have,

00:46:34like for instance,

00:46:35you have made love from Meem.

00:46:37I have changed my mouth,

00:46:38I changed my mouth,

00:46:41I have changed my mouth,

00:46:42I have been told by myself,

00:46:43I have been told by myself,

00:46:44I have been told by myself.

00:46:44I have not made the hand.

00:46:45I have said,

00:46:47I have said that.

00:46:47My eyes,

00:46:48like,

00:46:48you know,

00:46:49when you change your mouth,

00:46:53you have to change your mouth,

00:46:54then there is loss

00:46:56and also when you bring back,

00:46:59you will immediately snap out of it.

00:47:02This case,

00:47:02when you said,

00:47:03that the bulg is off.

00:47:04Exactly.

00:47:05So you are carrying something like that?

00:47:09I've seen many actors who are crying in the scene

00:47:13and when they cut the scene,

00:47:16they don't stop crying.

00:47:18I've never seen it.

00:47:19How many people have seen it?

00:47:21They are sitting alone in the dark.

00:47:25They are so quiet.

00:47:27Absolutely.

00:47:29Sanya taught me how to get out of it.

00:47:32How?

00:47:32Please, tell me.

00:47:34So, breathing.

00:47:36Slow breathing and fast breathing.

00:47:39When you have to get out of depression

00:47:41or down time,

00:47:44you do fast breathing.

00:47:46So your prana comes up.

00:47:49And when you are very hyper and energetic

00:47:52and you have to come back to your zone,

00:47:54you do slow breathing.

00:47:55You do slow breathing.

00:47:56You do slow breathing.

00:47:58Yes.

00:47:59And slow breathing.

00:48:00Like when I'm late,

00:48:02I'm running and running.

00:48:04After that,

00:48:05my breathing is broken.

00:48:06I can't do it.

00:48:07So it's slow breathing.

00:48:10I can't do it.

00:48:12So I'm capable of saying it.

00:48:13Absolutely.

00:48:14This was a very big anchor for me as an actor.

00:48:18Because from that,

00:48:19I was crying every day.

00:48:21Every character.

00:48:22Because it's a human being.

00:48:24Listen, but Chudail.

00:48:27But after doing the character of Chudail,

00:48:29you are very fun.

00:48:30We have just called people.

00:48:34We were on the other side.

00:48:37Listen, everything has affected.

00:48:39When the character came to play,

00:48:41you didn't say Chudail.

00:48:42I wasn't talking to you.

00:48:44I wasn't talking to you.

00:48:45The actual Chudail was this, right?

00:48:46Yes.

00:48:48Spoiler alert.

00:48:49I haven't seen it.

00:48:50I haven't seen it.

00:48:51The actual Chudail was there.

00:48:52Did you cry?

00:48:53I was crying.

00:48:55No, no.

00:48:56No, no.

00:48:57There's a cutaway scene.

00:48:59There was a scene.

00:49:01When Dimra comes to her,

00:49:03and she's being stabbed.

00:49:04And she's saying,

00:49:05I want to go.

00:49:07I remember that as a character,

00:49:09in that moment,

00:49:11I thought,

00:49:11what will the motivation of this Satan

00:49:13to get out?

00:49:14What will the pain come from it?

00:49:15Not control.

00:49:16Not dominance.

00:49:18My child is there.

00:49:19I thought,

00:49:20they're my three children.

00:49:21and they're adorable.

00:49:23Really adorable kids.

00:49:24It was natural.

00:49:25So I used that.

00:49:26In fact,

00:49:27you know,

00:49:27come to think of it,

00:49:28another thing that comes about.

00:49:30I remember that

00:49:31we were talking about

00:49:33and Uzma Asan

00:49:34is a phenomenal actress.

00:49:36And that's how

00:49:36she is a woman.

00:49:38She is crying.

00:49:40She is crying.

00:49:41And she was inconsolable.

00:49:42And Sanya, God bless her.

00:49:43She was there to hold her.

00:49:45Sometimes,

00:49:47there are certain characters

00:49:48we hold on.

00:49:48And I always talk about some characters.

00:49:51In fact,

00:49:53Sanya's mother,

00:49:54Mastan Singh,

00:49:55I have to keep physically

00:49:55two or three things

00:49:56that I have to keep physically

00:49:57because she is living with me.

00:49:59That's how she is.

00:50:00But in a few moments,

00:50:01we use our emotional memories.

00:50:05That's how the father

00:50:06was recently passed away.

00:50:07And then she used that,

00:50:09which is a very dangerous thing to me.

00:50:11And then it was inconsolable.

00:50:12And I have to keep

00:50:15God has a weird sense of humor.

00:50:17I remember when my son lost me

00:50:20later I came back in my life.

00:50:22And I was back in my life.

00:50:24I was a movie.

00:50:25I was two years old.

00:50:26I was in Samia Mumtaz

00:50:28and I was dancing.

00:50:28And my character was playing around.

00:50:30And he's damaged.

00:50:32And he gets away from hospital.

00:50:34So many years later

00:50:35things were coming back.

00:50:36And when one came back

00:50:37and the character says

00:50:39He said, I'm a big burden, I'm going to go to my wife, I'll take it.

00:50:42He said, I'll take it.

00:50:44He's waiting on the road, he's waiting on the road.

00:50:45He's waiting on the road, he's waiting on the road,

00:50:46he's waiting on the road, he's waiting on the road,

00:50:47he's waiting on the road, he's waiting on the road.

00:50:48He said, she left your daughter as a baby, she's gone.

00:50:51And my character had to cry.

00:50:53Oh, shoot.

00:50:54It was a very dangerous, and I was inconsolable.

00:50:57I just couldn't stop,

00:50:58because I got a chance to get it out.

00:51:02Unfortunately, this is a double-edged sword for our actors.

00:51:04Absolutely.

00:51:05We get a chance to have catharsis.

00:51:08And then a dangerous thing, we carry on that catharsis.

00:51:10You know, when I was acting,

00:51:12because I was looking at the lens,

00:51:14and my eyes were weak,

00:51:15so I could have glycerin,

00:51:16or anything else in my eyes.

00:51:18So, at that time,

00:51:20at that time,

00:51:21I needed a little time,

00:51:23for this character,

00:51:25to give me a little time.

00:51:27So, I needed to give a little time,

00:51:28and at that time,

00:51:29I was the same,

00:51:30that I had the griefs,

00:51:31that went away,

00:51:32that was the reason.

00:51:34And then,

00:51:35at that time,

00:51:36you had to cry.

00:51:36It was not a pain.

00:51:38It was a pain.

00:51:39You said that,

00:51:39when you remember your pain,

00:51:40you remember a pain,

00:51:42and it was a trigger,

00:51:43then you start to do it.

00:51:46It's a pain.

00:51:47It's a pain.

00:51:48It's a pain.

00:52:03But,

00:52:03it's a pain.

00:52:04You are going through this.

00:52:05So,

00:52:05you feel the loss.

00:52:08Yeah.

00:52:09That's also the effect.

00:52:10Your mic is broken.

00:52:11Give me a hand mic quickly.

00:52:13I'm going to leave.

00:52:13I have two parts.

00:52:18One is you can immerse yourself in the character.

00:52:21One is you can immerse yourself in the character.

00:52:21One is you can cry.

00:52:23I do not cry.

00:52:26And sometimes,

00:52:26I do not cry.

00:52:27I do not cry.

00:52:28Yes.

00:52:29I do not cry.

00:52:32Yes.

00:52:33And the other thing is that,

00:52:34you go into yourself,

00:52:36and immerse yourself,

00:52:37the loss and grief.

00:52:42That's a big problem.

00:52:44But,

00:52:44it's a big problem.

00:52:46It's a big problem.

00:52:47It's a big problem.

00:52:48It's a big problem.

00:52:49Yes.

00:52:50Again.

00:52:50And again.

00:52:51At that point,

00:52:53we need to respect some people.

00:52:56It's something else.

00:52:58But,

00:52:58when you're acting in an emotional scene,

00:53:01it can't be repeated.

00:53:03Yeah.

00:53:03I would like to repeat what you said before.

00:53:05It's very smart for people to understand.

00:53:07because it's not easy.

00:53:08So,

00:53:08you don't do acting.

00:53:09You don't understand.

00:53:10Why are you so tired?

00:53:11Or,

00:53:12what kind of things are you doing?

00:53:14As we talk about,

00:53:16when you're talking about

00:53:16social media,

00:53:17etc.

00:53:18When you're breathing,

00:53:19or you're laughing,

00:53:21or you're breathing,

00:53:23you're really tired.

00:53:24It's emotionally draining.

00:53:25But,

00:53:26the other aspect was,

00:53:27what you said earlier,

00:53:28imagine that,

00:53:29that your life's a part,

00:53:31a relationship,

00:53:32that's finished.

00:53:34Are you missing it now?

00:53:36for example,

00:53:37my son went to university.

00:53:39And,

00:53:39I had to,

00:53:41remind myself,

00:53:41how do I do this?

00:53:43Because,

00:53:43I've never been in our house.

00:53:45I told you,

00:53:45it's selfish.

00:53:46You know?

00:53:48So,

00:53:48it's a very important thing.

00:53:49It's a very important thing.

00:53:50It's a very important thing.

00:53:51You have a relationship,

00:53:52but,

00:53:52it's completely changed.

00:53:54Physically,

00:53:55that's not the thing.

00:53:57That's not what the thing is,

00:53:57that's not the thing.

00:53:58It's not the thing.

00:53:59It's not the thing.

00:54:00It's only the thing.

00:54:01It's only the thing.

00:54:02Because,

00:54:02my kids,

00:54:03they can wear it.

00:54:04So,

00:54:05I can wear it.

00:54:07Because,

00:54:08especially,

00:54:10you're emotionally strong,

00:54:11as women.

00:54:12Do people.

00:54:13When the women are strong,

00:54:14I'm going to contest that.

00:54:15Let's talk about it.

00:54:16I knew that.

00:54:17I'm going to contest this.

00:54:18Yeah.

00:54:19I'll tell you what?

00:54:20You can tell it.

00:54:20You can't tell.

00:54:22A person is emotionally very weak.

00:54:25And the reason is that we have

00:54:28I'm representing all men nationally

00:54:31We don't have emotional language.

00:54:34Vocabulary.

00:54:35We don't know how to do what.

00:54:37I do coaching.

00:54:38And I am so happy when I'm coaching females

00:54:41because they understand their emotion.

00:54:43Even with men,

00:54:45I tell them that I'm a middle-aged man

00:54:46and I'm a Pakistani man.

00:54:48So I'd say you have to be vulnerable.

00:54:50At least, to Shakespeare,

00:54:52to thine own self be true.

00:54:55We don't even know how to do that.

00:54:58What is the easiest goal?

00:54:59Anger.

00:55:01But anger is a manifestation of suppressed emotion.

00:55:03Indeed.

00:55:04If you don't feel the pain,

00:55:06you don't cry.

00:55:07Like you say,

00:55:09Mom, how can you not cry?

00:55:11Because this is a stone.

00:55:13And then the manifestation is wrong.

00:55:15Women, alhamdulillah, have that space

00:55:18and have been accepted and expected to do so.

00:55:21Men now need to do the same.

00:55:24And you do make...

00:55:25Sorry.

00:55:26But to make yourself vulnerable

00:55:28takes great strength.

00:55:31So I think

00:55:32it is greater strength to be vulnerable

00:55:34and hold back tears.

00:55:36Absolutely.

00:55:37It is not that long.

00:55:39It is not that long.

00:55:40It is long.

00:55:42It is long.

00:55:46It is hard to be vulnerable.

00:56:01that my child is long from us or that you have a big horse coming from me or left my

00:56:08horse

00:56:10but you are seeing it from your eyes that it is not my need

00:56:15you have two emotions, one of the emotions is that it is not my need

00:56:21and one of the emotions that you can't remember and feel that it is not my need

00:56:29these are two ways

00:56:30absolutely

00:56:32I will second the story of Umair

00:56:35my two sons are 11 and 9 years old

00:56:39we talk about what emotions we feel

00:56:43there is a board which is written on how I am feeling today

00:56:48because we are our generation who didn't get the vocabulary of emotions

00:56:52what is emotional intelligence when you are in the age of 40

00:56:55in the age of 40

00:56:57exactly

00:56:57tender age of 40

00:57:00so it is so pertinent, it is so important

00:57:04that we, fear, anger, disappointment, anxiety

00:57:11if you start vocabulary, you have a lot of vocabulary

00:57:15emotions

00:57:16we understand one thing

00:57:17we understand one thing

00:57:19we understand one thing

00:57:19anger, disappointment, fear, you know, this kind of thing

00:57:23so it is very important that we have that vocabulary

00:57:26whether it is a child or a child

00:57:30we must do it with that

00:57:32it is a loss that has been left

00:57:34I am talking about the loss of pets

00:57:38yes

00:57:39after one break

00:57:40yes

00:57:41I love how you are giving all the breaks here

00:57:43you know, good morning

00:57:44good morning Pakistan

00:57:49welcome, welcome back

00:57:50good morning Pakistan

00:57:52so today we are talking about losses

00:57:53in the past

00:57:54and the people who are are pets

00:57:58because

00:57:59they will know what it's feeling

00:58:02when we say this

00:58:03that's the person who is being born

00:58:05and the person who is being born

00:58:09and that person's being born

00:58:09and to live, to eat, to eat

00:58:11so that person who is the love

00:58:15and love

00:58:15this someone who knows who has come

00:58:26I think pet lovers take this thing very seriously, the loss of their pets, because they are babies.

00:58:35They are babies who can never tell you, but they can show you.

00:58:42A lot of times, I have grown up around pets.

00:58:46When I was married, the pet category is very far from my home.

00:58:51But I had a dog, his name was Koko.

00:58:54And whenever I was sad, I would cry with my mother.

00:58:58I would just go and sit with Koko.

00:59:01And Koko knew that I was a girl.

00:59:04And the amount of love he gave me.

00:59:05And I think, when my children took a dog, I heard Koko's story.

00:59:13My son is emotional.

00:59:17He said, we will keep Koko's name so that you will remember.

00:59:21You know?

00:59:23And that loss was never a loss again.

00:59:27I remember Koko's day.

00:59:28I remember.

00:59:29Wow!

00:59:30I had two children.

00:59:32They were different because I went to New York.

00:59:37So that loss was so great.

00:59:42And he's looking at me like, what are you doing?

00:59:46Why are you letting me go?

00:59:47So I thought that I will never have any pets with me

00:59:52Recently, I gave a kitten on my birthday

00:59:57Himalayan Persian

00:59:58Beautiful

00:59:59His name was Balushahi

01:00:04So Balushahi was with me for 2 months

01:00:07When I separated

01:00:08Because I didn't get home

01:00:10I didn't feel good

01:00:11It was so small

01:00:14So for 2 days, I did not leave my house

01:00:17I didn't leave my house

01:00:22That's a serious loss also

01:00:24Exactly

01:00:25I didn't leave my house in my house

01:00:27Balushahi

01:00:30Okay, there is another loss

01:00:34Sometimes you are in a profession

01:00:37Then you leave that profession

01:00:38Absolutely

01:00:39You go to another profession

01:00:40For example, you are doing 9 to 5 jobs

01:00:43And there is a place

01:00:44And there is a place

01:00:45And you have to leave the country

01:00:49And you have to leave the country

01:00:50Then you go to another profession

01:00:52For example, when I was acting

01:00:54And I was acting

01:00:54And then I left my acting

01:00:56And now I am in the hosting profession

01:00:58So I miss my profession

01:01:01I miss my profession

01:01:02Especially when I am watching a good play

01:01:04Or I am watching a good character

01:01:07I am in my heart

01:01:09And I am watching a good play

01:01:12And I am watching a good play

01:01:13So you are in the teaching profession

01:01:15I am not teaching

01:01:16For me

01:01:18For me

01:01:19For me

01:01:34For me

01:01:35For me

01:01:36For me

01:01:36That is true

01:01:41But theatre has always been that

01:01:43And from Allah

01:01:43For me

01:01:45I went to Houston

01:01:46Ayesha Alam Khan

01:01:47She was doing this theatre

01:01:49She said

01:01:49Help me

01:01:50My actor

01:01:51So I am in a week

01:01:53And I said

01:02:05Okay

01:02:35I think that is the universal thing

01:02:35which is combining all of it

01:02:35The loss has

01:02:35I thought that I was very typical of

01:02:39an economic management degree from LSE.

01:02:41Then I would buy some of them

01:02:42or buy some tea tea.

01:02:45Then I would like to study.

01:02:48I always wanted to study.

01:02:49Because I was a teacher, Kelvin Gates,

01:02:51in class 4.

01:02:52He inspired me, you should teach.

01:02:54He never said it, but I felt that it was a very noble call.

01:02:59It was God's work.

01:03:00I was doing this back and forth.

01:03:01What do you do?

01:03:03I was teaching theatre production, I introduced all-level drama.

01:03:07That was your love in your life?

01:03:11Absolutely.

01:03:11Basically.

01:03:12And then theatre eventually left us to come to celluloid, television and what not.

01:03:21So how did you get a break on TV?

01:03:23TV is very simple.

01:03:24I was doing it in the theatre.

01:03:26Adil Hashmi has seen it and put it on the bed.

01:03:27I told them that you have to do three times and then I will turn on your car.

01:03:32I was compelled.

01:03:34I have comedies.

01:03:36Absolutely.

01:03:37All sitcoms of Lahore.

01:03:38Really?

01:03:40I couldn't see that.

01:03:41And people take me very seriously.

01:03:45And I take comedy very seriously.

01:03:46Comedy is more difficult.

01:03:47Absolutely.

01:03:48I love comedy.

01:03:49It's easy.

01:03:50Now it's Father's Day.

01:03:52We were four.

01:03:54My daughter is 11.

01:03:55I'm 18.

01:03:57I'm 18.

01:03:58I'll tell her.

01:03:59And I.

01:04:00And we said, what do we do?

01:04:02I said, man, there was a script.

01:04:03It runs in the family.

01:04:04Afiya, two days ago, I had the last production.

01:04:08If you look at the script, I'll give you $5,000.

01:04:12And I got it.

01:04:14I said, let's read all of them.

01:04:15So we put it on television.

01:04:17And we all read this extremely funny script.

01:04:20It runs in the family.

01:04:21We're enjoying it.

01:04:24Sweet.

01:04:24Wow.

01:04:24I just want to say one thing about Balushahi.

01:04:27He's gone to a very happy home.

01:04:29If you have children, he's getting good attention.

01:04:33I just want to say that.

01:04:34I'm glad that.

01:04:36That's right.

01:04:36He stopped.

01:04:38Oh my.

01:04:39Have you ever changed a profession?

01:04:41Or something like that?

01:04:42No.

01:04:42That you miss.

01:04:44You were in modeling.

01:04:45I was in modeling.

01:04:46I didn't miss modeling.

01:04:47Why?

01:04:48I was in journalism.

01:04:49And I was in VJ.

01:04:50And VJ too.

01:04:51VJ too.

01:04:52That I miss.

01:04:53That.

01:04:55In fact, you know, Deepak is a very good friend of mine.

01:04:59Yes.

01:04:59So he was telling me that I should do a show like that again.

01:05:03You know, like on YouTube or something.

01:05:07Yes.

01:05:08You don't need anything.

01:05:09Yes.

01:05:10Many people know from now until now.

01:05:13Because he was the first of all.

01:05:16And he was playing on NTM.

01:05:17Exactly.

01:05:18So I have your hair in my mind.

01:05:20Yes.

01:05:21I have my hair in my mind.

01:05:25Yes.

01:05:26So there's a importance for it.

01:05:28Yes.

01:05:29Yes.

01:05:29I remember your drama.

01:05:31You also had an acting in a drama.

01:05:33Yes.

01:05:34I was also in a drama.

01:05:36Yes.

01:05:36But journalism I remember a little bit.

01:05:38Yes.

01:05:39Yes.

01:05:40That the rush is unparalleled.

01:05:44Yes.

01:05:45It's unparalleled.

01:05:46Yes.

01:05:47So did you practice it?

01:05:48Did you write it here?

01:05:49What do you say?

01:05:50I also wrote it.

01:05:52And besides that, I worked for NBC News.

01:05:55Oh yes.

01:05:55And then I worked for Dawn News.

01:05:56I worked for Dawn News.

01:05:57Before you read the news.

01:06:00Before you do modeling.

01:06:01I was doing the morning news for breakfast at dawn.

01:06:05Yes.

01:06:05On Dawn News.

01:06:06But it's about modeling.

01:06:07Yes.

01:06:08It's about 9-11.

01:06:10Exactly.

01:06:11Exactly.

01:06:12So.

01:06:23So.

01:06:26So.

01:06:28So.

01:06:30So.

01:06:33So.

01:06:34So.

01:06:37So.

01:06:39So.

01:06:41So.

01:06:46So.

01:06:47So.

01:06:48So.

01:06:50So.

01:06:51So.

01:06:56So.

01:06:59So.

01:07:00So.

01:07:01So great.

01:07:02So great.

01:07:02I miss acting too.

01:07:03Because I'm playing mommy these days.

01:07:06I know.

01:07:07And I love it.

01:07:10I love it.

01:07:11I wish I could do this and that.

01:07:13a great deal,

01:07:14But I miss,

01:07:15I Illerriani who ever made several years after Legacy her farm.

01:07:19I remember that this was my love that I always knew.

01:07:23It's my love that am gay and the like, acting.

01:07:24So.

01:07:24It's another sort of now.

01:07:25Although.

01:07:25you're lucky that you get a little relief.

01:07:28You get a chance to take ever since you two years or months only on the last one.

01:07:36that is absolutely right.

01:07:40that's your right hope will come home after you when one seeotherap ting.

01:07:41Totally.

01:07:41It's a blessing.

01:07:42that you are the best of both worlds and that's the same thing. Nida said that when you are not

01:07:49doing acting

01:07:50and you are watching good acting, you are like, I am, I am saying that. Exactly. That's a loss also.

01:07:58Exactly. Yeah, I do this.

01:08:00I've never seen a lot of things, but I didn't see it. I said, I will. I can't do it

01:08:06now.

01:08:07I was thinking, I got taught that Talca's acting too. And when I started seeing it, I was like,

01:08:12Oh, oh. I got scared. I thought, oh, oooh.

01:08:16I got a a tooth in my head, Allah, this character has got so good.

01:08:19He has got a good character.

01:08:21An opportunity gone.

01:08:23But then, on whom you see some people, that are so good.

01:08:27Yes.

01:08:28So, you like lived through them.

01:08:29That's why he is. As if he has an opportunity for my her.

01:08:33He represents me.

01:08:34I present it.

01:08:35So do a very good job.

01:08:36It's a good job.

01:08:38So this is also a loss.

01:08:39So tell me about it.

01:08:41Because you have changed many professions.

01:08:45Characters.

01:08:46Characters.

01:08:47No, there's any other profession.

01:08:48Morning show you were anchoring.

01:08:50I was doing a morning show a few years ago.

01:08:53Current Affair Morning Show.

01:08:54I thought this was necessary to do that.

01:08:57Let's go.

01:08:58We are kids.

01:08:59And that morning show came in a very good time.

01:09:01When Ella Noor's play group started,

01:09:07I had 6 months of recovery from my postpartum to now this.

01:09:16So I enjoyed that 6 months.

01:09:19Because I'm a part of all causes.

01:09:21So I know the number of fields and on-ground statistics.

01:09:25They all know.

01:09:26They all know.

01:09:27So I could ask all those people who wanted to ask a lot of questions.

01:09:33As an activist.

01:09:34Yes.

01:09:35So I got the opportunity.

01:09:36Now I miss it.

01:09:38IB here.

01:09:39Director here.

01:09:40Anchor here.

01:09:41And this is the thing that you can do with children.

01:09:46You can do it.

01:09:48This is a great advantage.

01:09:50And then I was sitting here.

01:09:51Absolutely.

01:09:52Like Favikol.

01:09:53You mean how many years are you doing?

01:09:5618 years.

01:09:57Wow.

01:09:58Like almost two decades.

01:10:00The kids have been born.

01:10:02There are big morning shows and big morning shows.

01:10:05This is a morning show.

01:10:07That's the reason.

01:10:08That's the reason.

01:10:08That's not the guilt of mom.

01:10:09Children from school to school.

01:10:10By the time you were home.

01:10:12That's a great thing.

01:10:14Especially for women.

01:10:16That when they don't have mom guilt.

01:10:17That they are taking their profession.

01:10:20And the actual thing is that children are being focused on their children.

01:10:25So that's a great thing.

01:10:27I'm in that phase.

01:10:29I know.

01:10:30And when you are a walking lady.

01:10:33There are many women who are a doctor.

01:10:37They can't do full-time job.

01:10:39Because they can't leave their children.

01:10:40That's all.

01:10:41So they have to say,

01:10:42I can become such a good doctor.

01:10:45Or I can practice so well.

01:10:48So it's a very difficult thing for women.

01:10:49Even for women.

01:10:50Like Dr. Vahri.

01:10:52When we are sitting there.

01:10:53They say,

01:10:54I have my children so long.

01:10:56Yes.

01:10:56Because every time he would go.

01:10:58He would be sleeping.

01:10:59Every time he would leave.

01:11:00They would be sleeping.

01:11:01My brother says that.

01:11:03That because of my profession.

01:11:05I have seen you.

01:11:06I have seen you.

01:11:07And I regret that time.

01:11:08I have missed it.

01:11:10Boomers.

01:11:10That was all this.

01:11:12Right?

01:11:12Absent fathers.

01:11:14Absent fathers.

01:11:14All the generation of fathers.

01:11:19They didn't exist.

01:11:21His reaction.

01:11:22I mean.

01:11:23My reaction.

01:11:24As much as.

01:11:24I have to stay away.

01:11:27But the guilty mother.

01:11:28I was a guilty dad.

01:11:30I was a guilty mother.

01:11:31My faith was.

01:11:31I have to go back.

01:11:32I have to go back.

01:11:33I have to go back.

01:11:33I need to be around.

01:11:34To see what I want to do.

01:11:35This is a loss.

01:11:36We have missed time for children.

01:11:39Yes.

01:11:39This is a loss.

01:11:40After we understand.

01:11:41Why have we missed it.

01:11:42This is the time again.

01:11:43It will not be.

01:11:46That is a loss.

01:11:47I am saying.

01:11:48because this is also a loss, a time loss

01:11:50you regret a lot, why don't we live with our parents at that time

01:11:54why don't we give them a lot of time, when they leave

01:11:56we regret it, that time is also a loss

01:12:00a loss

01:12:03unintended

01:12:04exactly

01:12:05exactly

01:12:06so that is when you have a feeling in your life

01:12:09then you sometimes sit and do those things

01:12:11then there is a very hard loss that can't come back

01:12:18my father once said

01:12:21life will present you with a bill one day

01:12:25one day life will present you with a bill

01:12:28make sure you are able to pay it

01:12:32that's a loss, that's a layered loss

01:12:36there are so many things that we don't think at that time

01:12:40but we need to do this

01:12:42I was going to say that

01:12:44I was going to say that

01:12:46I was looking at a loss last night

01:12:50what do you say?

01:12:51Rishad?

01:12:52Rishad

01:12:54Rishad

01:13:13Rishad

01:13:14Rishad

01:13:15Rishad

01:13:23Rishad

01:13:37Rishad

01:13:43Y Yad

01:13:46Rishad

01:14:03Rishad

01:14:04What's that?

01:14:06These are losses that help us be us.

01:14:10If we don't have any losses, then maybe we don't have any losses.

01:14:14Yes, absolutely.

01:14:15Exactly.

01:14:16I wouldn't change a thing in my life.

01:14:19Because if that hadn't happened and that hadn't happened,

01:14:22then it doesn't have a domino effect.

01:14:24Which is interesting because

01:14:27the only way through is the way through.

01:14:32We were going through a very tough time.

01:14:34Begum and Mary said,

01:14:35either it's a time of gratitude or patience.

01:14:38I learned that when you take patience,

01:14:41then you can look back.

01:14:44Then you have choices.

01:14:45You have to have a goal or ranker.

01:14:47Then you have to have a gratitude,

01:14:49that you are the one who will come.

01:14:53In the long run,

01:14:55patience is also a time of gratitude.

01:14:56in the long run.

01:14:57So now I understand why you need to be grateful to Allah.

01:15:01Alhamdulillah, that it's all.

01:15:02I'm glad that I've gone through it.

01:15:04You know what has helped me, Umair?

01:15:06It's shukar for all that I got

01:15:11and shukar for all that I didn't get.

01:15:13Didn't get.

01:15:14So those things that didn't come to me,

01:15:16it's more than shukar.

01:15:17Yeah, yeah.

01:15:17Because it doesn't have any time.

01:15:18It doesn't have any time.

01:15:19A little break.

01:15:20We'll see you later.

01:15:21Good morning, Pakistan.

01:15:26Welcome.

01:15:27Welcome back.

01:15:28Good morning, Pakistan.

01:15:30We're talking about different losses in the show today.

01:15:35And one big loss has been.

01:15:38That's why we always sit with a heart.

01:15:40Financial loss.

01:15:42That happens.

01:15:43Sometimes you buy a property,

01:15:45you lose money.

01:15:47Sometimes you get scammed.

01:15:50You get a lot of money.

01:15:52Sometimes you get a lot of money.

01:15:56Sometimes it doesn't hurt your close-up.

01:16:01To open up the phone's.

01:16:02And there are a lot of losses.

01:16:04Right loss?

01:16:05Right loss.

01:16:06Right loss, right?

01:16:07You don't get right.

01:16:08You don't get right in God.

01:16:10You don't get right in God…

01:16:11That the Vorteil.

01:16:12Well, that's a weird loss.

01:16:13The loss of Nida,

01:16:15you can do it in the court,

01:16:17with God,

01:16:18but it can't get hurt,

01:16:20the loss.

01:16:23Like Umair said.

01:16:24I keep calling you Rane.

01:16:26Sorry about that.

01:16:28But you said very good,

01:16:30that that place is hopeless.

01:16:32Yeah.

01:16:33It's a very...

01:16:35One thing that we overlook here,

01:16:40is that when you get married,

01:16:42the girl who gets married,

01:16:44will cross out.

01:16:48Exactly.

01:16:48That's a huge problem.

01:16:52I didn't know when I got married,

01:16:53but I didn't know that this is my right.

01:16:56In the time of my marriage,

01:16:57I was 24 years old.

01:17:00I didn't know that.

01:17:01But my second daughter,

01:17:03when she married,

01:17:05she was 26 years old.

01:17:07She had awareness.

01:17:09She gave her a paper back to her.

01:17:12She said that I need a new name.

01:17:15She wanted the new name.

01:17:16She didn't have a TV.

01:17:17I said, you're not a good person.

01:17:19I can't tell her in my life.

01:17:20Yes.

01:17:21So, she wanted her to know that

01:17:25she is the right.

01:17:27And when she was given the law,

01:17:31she was given the law.

01:17:32Yes.

01:17:32In religion.

01:17:33In religion.

01:17:34So, why are you cutting?

01:17:37So, when she sent her back,

01:17:39she had a lot of eyes like that.

01:17:40She gave her tears.

01:17:43What is this?

01:17:44She was grateful.

01:17:46I have said that she was the right.

01:17:48But, she was the right.

01:17:51She said that she was the right.

01:17:51She said, no.

01:17:52This is my right.

01:17:53So, nobody can't do that.

01:17:55So, our children should have a little awareness.

01:17:58Absolutely.

01:17:58That this is their right.

01:18:00That this is not their right.

01:18:00That this is not the right.

01:18:02I think that a lot of feelings came to the girls,

01:18:05because there was a lot of stuff.

01:18:06Because there was a lot of feelings.

01:18:07Yeah.

01:18:08Before, I felt bad about this.

01:18:10I'm thinking,

01:18:11some people came up to her.

01:18:12What is that?

01:18:13What is that?

01:18:15What is that?

01:18:16The law of justice or the coming or the money,

01:18:19I mean,

01:18:20What is the law of justice?

01:18:20You also do the law of justice that you feel through the law?

01:18:21every law of justice in God,

01:18:23you do the law of juarez,

01:18:24or the law of justice.

01:18:26When you have rights,

01:18:28it feels right on the mind.

01:18:30And you're a right.

01:18:32harmony.

01:18:32And you're right,

01:18:33Because after their mother's death, their share doesn't get their share in their property.

01:18:38They eat their brothers.

01:18:41Before dying, it's not the right way to get a study.

01:18:45Exactly.

01:18:46It's not the right way to eat it.

01:18:49It's the right way to get the right.

01:18:53It's our child who works.

01:18:56It's a loss.

01:18:58There's a loss of entitlement.

01:19:00A loss of a son.

01:19:04But I think that the balance, when you get all of it, you will be able to get all of

01:19:13it.

01:19:13Because of this pain, you are alive.

01:19:15Absolutely.

01:19:16We keep the pain.

01:19:18I see that many children who are studying drugs have everything.

01:19:24There is always a problem.

01:19:25So now, who will come to the fun?

01:19:26What will happen?

01:19:28Now, what will happen?

01:19:29It will get the pain in the lust of the pain.

01:19:34So, it is very important to live in life.

01:19:39You have to have a joy in little things.

01:19:43So, the loss of the pain is also the constant.

01:19:51The suffering is also the strong.

01:19:51The moral fiber is clear.

01:19:55the strength of character comes from the strength of character

01:19:58so if you don't have any losses

01:19:59you don't have any losses in your life

01:20:01if you think that everything doesn't happen

01:20:06then the strength of character comes from the strength of character

01:20:10and experiential knowledge

01:20:13which is not parallel

01:20:14you go to college or university

01:20:18and gain knowledge

01:20:20but the experiential knowledge

01:20:22which is called wisdom eventually

01:20:25no one doesn't know

01:20:27but this wisdom also tells you

01:20:29that the one that you were crying for 10 years

01:20:31and that loss

01:20:34was for you

01:20:36absolutely

01:20:37this wisdom tells you

01:20:39it's only when you look at the hindsight

01:20:41you can feel it

01:20:43but when you are in that moment

01:20:45you feel everything is done

01:20:47yes

01:21:14thanks to you

01:21:17which I think is crucial for everyone to learn.

01:21:19Some of us have protected children so that they don't have a challenge

01:21:23that they are not ready to deal with those challenges.

01:21:25On the contrary, a human being is an antifragile.

01:21:31Some of them are strong and not toot.

01:21:36Some of them will give a challenge.

01:21:39So give them that challenge.

01:21:41The psyche of human is that.

01:21:42So we need to learn how to embrace it for boys and girls.

01:21:47How do you go through these losses?

01:21:50How do you become better out of these losses?

01:21:52Healthy, unhealthy now.

01:21:55As you said, some people go for denial.

01:21:58People are saying that they go to drugs.

01:22:00They are busy in their work.

01:22:02No, no, see it, accept it.

01:22:04Sit with it.

01:22:05Absolutely, sit with it.

01:22:08A lot of times when Rohan comes home saying

01:22:11that I have lost a match of football.

01:22:14And he is very done.

01:22:15I go and say,

01:22:18let's celebrate the match.

01:22:20Celebrate failure.

01:22:22It's so important.

01:22:24We did not do it.

01:22:25Look at how good marks came from childhood.

01:22:29He did it.

01:22:30He did it.

01:22:35He did it.

01:22:36He did it.

01:22:37He was always hiding.

01:22:40But the generation of our generation

01:22:42is very important to embrace failure.

01:22:45I am so sorry to blame others.

01:22:48It's an external thing.

01:22:49Yes, yes.

01:22:50It's because of that.

01:22:53Myra always says that

01:22:55when Allah has told me that

01:22:56that your responsibility is this.

01:22:58Allah has told me that this is a big issue.

01:22:59It's the biggest task that you have given me.

01:23:03It's the biggest task that you have given me.

01:23:05So we find excuses

01:23:06that this has happened.

01:23:08That has happened.

01:23:09But we have to sit and accept

01:23:11that it has happened.

01:23:12Ownership.

01:23:13Own it.

01:23:13Sit with it.

01:23:14I think one of the worst words

01:23:16of our times is

01:23:18loser.

01:23:19Oh, yeah.

01:23:20I really can't stand it.

01:23:21What you say is that

01:23:23you are a loser.

01:23:25You are a loser.

01:23:27What does it mean?

01:23:28What does it mean?

01:23:29Because at the time

01:23:30this is the winning

01:23:31which is so important.

01:23:35I would prefer to be a loser.

01:23:38Than to be constantly struggling.

01:23:40I feel as a mother

01:23:41I struggle with that a lot.

01:23:43In school and especially

01:23:45in these things

01:23:46it happens that

01:23:47I don't have good marks

01:23:48and I'm bullied.

01:23:52Bullying is a lot of time.

01:23:53What is the problem?

01:23:54Yeah

01:23:54That is another sort of

01:23:57self loss

01:23:58that you are experiencing

01:23:58by being your child,

01:23:59the same thing

01:24:02that has happened

01:24:04that you have

01:24:05you had then

01:24:05I've passed away

01:24:10but now

01:24:11you will deal with it

01:24:17I have done a lot

01:24:19trying

01:24:20Trying to marks. Winning to marks not. Winning to gift not. Trying to gift.

01:24:26So he knows that approach basically his best.

01:24:31Yeah. Best to be not.

01:24:34Your best.

01:24:36What a beautiful word. Thank you.

01:24:38Thank you very much for your thoughts, your losses, sharing with us.

01:24:44So, listen to these things, I don't know why you get a peace.

01:24:51We have talked about losses today, but we have gained a lot.

01:24:55Exactly. Exactly.

01:24:58This is the conclusion of my story.

01:25:00Besides that, no matter what happens.

01:25:02We have gained a lot of losses today.

01:25:06Good morning Pakistan.

01:25:07Good morning.

01:25:15Bye-bye.

01:25:15Her Sabah Lしょps.

01:25:15April 29th

01:25:15Bye.

01:25:15Good morning.

Good Morning Pakistan | Jo Hum Mein Nahi Rahay Special Show | 23 June 2026 | ARY Digital

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