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00:02:59but when it comes to history, it will tell me that I'm not a child,

00:03:03but when we dance, when we rise at the birth,

00:03:08we use a child to eat,

00:03:09we use a child to not eat,

00:03:11we have to eat,

00:03:13every time we read our daughter,

00:03:16we use a child to eat,

00:03:18we have to see,

00:03:19we can't eat,

00:03:20we have to eat in a child,

00:03:22we have to eat a good number,

00:03:24we have to eat a good number,

00:03:26we have to eat,

00:03:27what's the truth,

00:03:28How much work I am? How much work I am?

00:03:30I am going to be able to get myself to get my own mother.

00:03:33This is my mother.

00:03:35My mother's problems are not over the past because she is a mother.

00:03:38You say that you have some years later all the people give this wrongly.

00:03:45Hey, six months ago, you have to give it a big.

00:03:48You have to give it a big.

00:03:49Nothing will happen.

00:03:50It's two years ago.

00:03:51You have to give it a big.

00:03:52You have to give it a big.

00:03:53You have to give it a big.

00:03:56You have to give it a big.

00:03:58You have to give it a big.

00:03:59No.

00:04:00Mathes was not at all.

00:04:01She failed.

00:04:02No problem.

00:04:04How much stress is this.

00:04:05Then she was born.

00:04:07Then her sister was born.

00:04:09Then her child is lost.

00:04:10Then her child is lost.

00:04:12Then her child is lost.

00:04:14But her child is lost.

00:04:16So the youth will rip back.

00:04:17In the eye of this.

00:04:21Today we are with mothers.

00:04:23Since the child understands,

00:04:25I was afraid to say that I was not a joke.

00:04:28But I have a mother thinks I have a joke that it will be in my life,

00:04:34that it will be in my life.

00:04:36My child's life.

00:04:37I have a joke.

00:04:39I have a joke about it.

00:04:40I have a joke about it.

00:04:42I have a joke about it.

00:04:44I have a joke about it.

00:04:47We try to change reality.

00:04:50Because by the reason and research,

00:04:52We can handle many things and they look like a demon.

00:04:57So, there are a lot of magic spells that we are going to tell you today.

00:05:02So, you are going to throw them out and be happy.

00:05:05I will keep a little tension in the morning. Good morning Pakistan.

00:05:19Welcome, welcome back. Good morning Pakistan.

00:05:22I have told you that there is a program for our jadugrnians.

00:05:26That jadugrnians, which we call our mother,

00:05:29and all the children understand that the world cannot be my mother.

00:05:34So, you are going to add jadugrnians.

00:05:36You are going to add in your jadugrnians.

00:05:39You are going to learn magic spells.

00:05:41How do you do your children in the bus.

00:05:44This is what happens.

00:05:45They have to do food for eating.

00:05:48They have to do it for studying.

00:05:50They have to do it for the bad things.

00:05:53Therefore, Allah has done it in your bus.

00:05:57But there is a little magic spells.

00:05:59They will give you guidelines.

00:06:01So, come on.

00:06:03Let's begin.

00:06:04Let's begin.

00:06:05Let's begin.

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00:06:07Welcome.

00:06:08How are you?

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00:06:23How are you?

00:06:24In fact, this year is a small child.

00:06:28But now we're going to talk about great advice.

00:06:30We've come to teach us.

00:06:31How are you?

00:06:33How are you?

00:06:34How are you?

00:06:35And with us, Mehvish Rafat, who is an educationalist,

00:06:38from Happy Palace grammar school.

00:06:40And obviously, teachers have more training in our children's lives.

00:06:48As-salamu alaykum, how are you?

00:06:49Wa alaykum as-salamu alaykum.

00:06:50Thank you so much for coming.

00:06:52You may say.

00:06:52So, basically, we are talking about children,

00:06:56and there are little things that we are learning every time.

00:07:02Whether we are at the age of children.

00:07:04And there is a lot of confidence.

00:07:06Absolutely, absolutely.

00:07:06And the thing is, when you are a mother,

00:07:09you are also starting a learning process.

00:07:11Yes.

00:07:12So, you are also learning to teach children.

00:07:15So, there are also some mistakes.

00:07:17But they say that they are the trial and error.

00:07:21For instance, my three children.

00:07:24In the first child, I applied to the second child.

00:07:28And in the third child, I applied to the third child.

00:07:30And there are many things in the leniency.

00:07:33Because at the beginning, my mother said that if the first child is correct,

00:07:37then the other child is left on the track.

00:07:40Where did everyone learn from the track?

00:07:42Yes, it is.

00:07:43So, this has happened to me.

00:07:44I worked very hard on my parents.

00:07:46So, it became a chain automatically.

00:07:48And then the second child is left on the track.

00:07:53Alhamdulillah.

00:07:54So, basically, you don't trust on the third child.

00:07:57But it is that when you are not getting anything in the first child,

00:08:00you are not getting any other things.

00:08:01So, when you are not getting any other things,

00:08:03you feel that you have more effort.

00:08:04In the third child, you are a bit relaxed.

00:08:06I am also three.

00:08:07In the third child, you are chill.

00:08:08You are mature, you are chill.

00:08:10And those who are not getting involved in the first child,

00:08:13you don't have to think that there is any other work.

00:08:15Yes, absolutely.

00:08:17Yes, if I ask you, Sanna, do you tell me that if you have children in different ages,

00:08:25in their 20s, 30s, or in their 40s,

00:08:29so is there a difference between parents and parents?

00:08:33So, you know, as your four children and four children are different personalities.

00:08:38Never, as a child or child, you can't experience the same as the first child has experienced.

00:08:46So, you don't have that parent.

00:08:48It's not that your experience is changing.

00:08:51You are changing as a person.

00:08:53Your body is changing.

00:08:55Your experiences are changing.

00:08:57We are not the person that the other child has experienced or the other child has experienced.

00:09:03So, no two homes are the same.

00:09:05No two parents are the same.

00:09:07Every child has experienced their own experience.

00:09:12If I look pink and you look dark pink,

00:09:15this is our reality, our internal reality.

00:09:18And children also have some unique traits.

00:09:21So, the one that generalizes,

00:09:24oh, this is the right kind of parenting,

00:09:26this is the right kind of parenting.

00:09:28That can't happen.

00:09:29Because parenting doesn't come with a manual.

00:09:31There is no manual for parenting.

00:09:32But having said that, every child is different.

00:09:36So, every child needs different parenting.

00:09:38It's not that there is a standard style of parenting.

00:09:42I also have three kids.

00:09:44And there are many age gaps.

00:09:46If you are 23, then the last one is 38.

00:09:49So, different stages, different life.

00:09:51But my different growth as well.

00:09:53Different personality.

00:09:54What is your perspective?

00:09:55What is your perspective?

00:09:56What are the unmet needs in our childhood?

00:10:00We have to give that to our children.

00:10:02We don't understand.

00:10:03We can't understand it.

00:10:04We can't understand it or see it.

00:10:07Because that is what we have experienced.

00:10:09For example, there is a very common thing.

00:10:12Before we heard that,

00:10:13you will be successful,

00:10:14you will earn money,

00:10:15you will stand on your feet.

00:10:16It's a very common thing.

00:10:17A new parenting is,

00:10:19I want my child to be happy.

00:10:20It's a very common thing.

00:10:22There is nothing like happiness.

00:10:25Because happiness is a by-product of achievements,

00:10:28of emotions.

00:10:29And happiness is not always alive.

00:10:32You know, they can be happy.

00:10:34But many children who are generally happy.

00:10:37That's a very abnormal thing to target.

00:10:42You know, I want my child to be happy.

00:10:44You know, you make your child independent.

00:10:46Make your child help them.

00:10:49And not just make.

00:10:50Just support them.

00:10:51You know, we are civic facilitators.

00:10:53They have come through us.

00:10:54They don't belong to us.

00:10:56And we are just as facilitators,

00:10:58guiding sources,

00:10:59that we will work in our capacity.

00:11:03Why am I going to be triggered?

00:11:05How many times people say,

00:11:06that when we laugh,

00:11:08they are the same words and words

00:11:10that our mother did to us.

00:11:12That's how it is.

00:11:13That's how it is.

00:11:14At that time,

00:11:15I felt like I'm becoming my mother.

00:11:17Yes, I felt like that.

00:11:18This is so natural.

00:11:20That's how my mother would laugh,

00:11:22and I would say,

00:11:23when I laugh,

00:11:24I get into my mouth.

00:11:25Oh my God.

00:11:26Because it's so interesting,

00:11:27that you have stored that word in the body.

00:11:31When a child shows a behavior

00:11:33that you have triggered,

00:11:35automatically you go back,

00:11:37backwards,

00:11:38in the experience you have heard

00:11:40that you have triggered.

00:11:41So, you respond from the disease.

00:11:43Yes.

00:11:44From the disease,

00:11:45you respond from the disease.

00:11:47And there are clashes.

00:11:49That is why,

00:11:50when children become teenagers,

00:11:51we think that you are not engaged

00:11:53with it.

00:11:54It is a rebellious child.

00:11:55It is not.

00:11:56It was like this before,

00:11:57and now it is like this.

00:11:58But the thing is,

00:11:59that the first time,

00:12:00it's got autonomy.

00:12:01Now it's got hormones,

00:12:02and now it's able to practice it.

00:12:04It's a little adult.

00:12:05So,

00:12:06you say,

00:12:070 to 7 are the imprinting years.

00:12:10Most of the personality

00:12:11is designed in the first 7 years.

00:12:13So,

00:12:14whatever you want to do,

00:12:16work on yourself.

00:12:17In your tantrums,

00:12:18in your mood,

00:12:19in your health,

00:12:20in your health.

00:12:21And that's the best gift,

00:12:22you can give to your child.

00:12:24Okay.

00:12:25If you say,

00:12:26Rabia,

00:12:27you say,

00:12:28avoid labels.

00:12:30Avoid labels.

00:12:31Avoid labels.

00:12:32As in,

00:12:33we have a lot of,

00:12:34slow,

00:12:35you are clumsy.

00:12:36They give them a name,

00:12:37they throw away.

00:12:38Yes.

00:12:39So,

00:12:40I think that,

00:12:41it's a bad thing.

00:12:42First of all,

00:12:43the parents start.

00:12:44The parents start.

00:12:45They say,

00:12:46they are active.

00:12:47They are clumsy.

00:12:48Exactly.

00:12:49They are so too.

00:12:50And they are eating.

00:12:51They are eating.

00:12:52So,

00:12:53you define their characteristics

00:12:54and you have a projection.

00:12:56So,

00:12:57one thing is,

00:12:58one thing is that,

00:12:59the child will rebel,

00:13:00that I am not like that.

00:13:01Or,

00:13:02the child will say,

00:13:03okay,

00:13:04I am not like that.

00:13:05If I am clumsy,

00:13:06then,

00:13:07okay,

00:13:08I am clumsy.

00:13:09So,

00:13:10the labelling

00:13:11is very easy.

00:13:12If a child is a high achiever,

00:13:13then,

00:13:14we also have expectations.

00:13:15So,

00:13:16we always take A-plus grades.

00:13:18Now,

00:13:19the child will be scared.

00:13:20If I have A-plus,

00:13:21then,

00:13:22what will happen?

00:13:23Now,

00:13:24how will it happen?

00:13:25I can't do this,

00:13:26because I am a high achiever.

00:13:27So,

00:13:28avoid labels.

00:13:29So,

00:13:30you don't do such a labelling

00:13:31to the child.

00:13:32Give them a little space,

00:13:33give them a breather.

00:13:34Because,

00:13:35their personality is building.

00:13:36They will build.

00:13:37They will build.

00:13:38They will build.

00:13:39They will give them confidence.

00:13:40So,

00:13:41if a child gets a little blow,

00:13:43that's very normal.

00:13:44That's the problem,

00:13:45with learning.

00:13:46If they are growing up,

00:13:47if they can't do it,

00:13:48they will not do it.

00:13:49Maybe they will be able to do it.

00:13:50They will be a very courageous organizer.

00:13:52They will keep their support very well.

00:13:54If they will be able to keep their children,

00:13:55if they are talking,

00:13:56if you will put them in their minds,

00:13:58they will not go too often.

00:13:59So,

00:14:00they may not be able to do this,

00:14:01but they will not do anything better.

00:14:02So,

00:14:03I can't do anything more.

00:14:04There are different mothers who have generic problems with all of them.

00:14:10So, they will come here and ask the problems.

00:14:13Whatever spells you have, they will tell you.

00:14:16So that they can take advantage of it.

00:14:18Our children are with us.

00:14:20Send them to their children.

00:14:22When they have batteries, there is one problem with me.

00:14:25Mashallah, when they are 11 years old, they don't sleep.

00:14:29They still sleep with us.

00:14:31They tried to make a camera.

00:14:33They set their needs.

00:14:36The camera is completely together.

00:14:39But, before, they sleep on the weekend.

00:14:44They sleep on the 2-3 nights.

00:14:47Then, they came to the night.

00:14:49They sleep on the weekend.

00:14:51Then, they sleep on the next day.

00:14:54So, they have children at 11.

00:14:57But, they are very difficult to get them.

00:15:02They don't understand what they are going to do or not.

00:15:05They don't understand what they do.

00:15:06They just do what they do.

00:15:08They sleep in the beach.

00:15:09They sleep in the beach.

00:15:10They sleep on the mattress.

00:15:11They have started to put the mattress.

00:15:12I noticed that when they are sleeping there, they can touch the baby's feet in their hands.

00:15:17I am a big supporter of co-sleeping, I am a big supporter of co-sleeping, I am a big supporter

00:15:30of co-sleeping, I think that specifically before 6-5-7 years, children should sleep with

00:15:39you.

00:15:40The reason is that when in your nervous system, fear or any anxiety or stress is induced, it

00:15:47is very natural that parents with a touch, feel or support, children can regulate.

00:15:53When children are triggered with fear or anything, they start to release cortisol in the brain.

00:16:00Body is designed for perfect health.

00:16:02They try to stop the blood of the cortisol, they try to use their internal mechanism.

00:16:10But if cortisol is released for a long time in the brain, it can have an impact on your

00:16:18body.

00:16:19So, when children are sleeping and they are afraid or they are dreaming, as soon as the child

00:16:26can touch yourself, they can easily regulate and the cortisol rush stops in the body.

00:16:34Now having said that, it is that children know that they can feel safety when they want

00:16:40to be safe.

00:16:42That is a very healthy thing to do.

00:16:46Children are born to attach.

00:16:47Children are born to attach.

00:16:48There is a natural desire to touch, to feel.

00:16:51You know that when children are born, even food and hunger, we feel primal needs are shelter,

00:16:58food and hygiene.

00:16:59That is not true.

00:17:00Before that, children have love, being valued and to belong.

00:17:05There are three basic needs.

00:17:07And that is what they get through love.

00:17:08Touch.

00:17:10And just that one touch, you know, it has like a very strong support.

00:17:18Because you are regulated and all our energetic bodies are made of atoms and cells.

00:17:24So, the moment you touch or they touch you, the child directly regulates.

00:17:29A lot of times, these people have seen prolonged sleeping habits with parents.

00:17:36It is also because of excessive gaming.

00:17:39Excessive screen time.

00:17:41So, the body is overstimulated.

00:17:44The brain is overstimulated.

00:17:45When they sleep alone, they have so many ideas.

00:17:48They have so many extra dreams.

00:17:50Their brain is not getting stuck.

00:17:52And when their brain is not getting stuck, they don't have to regulate.

00:17:56So, what do they do?

00:17:57They take external support to regulate themselves.

00:18:01They will be able to see.

00:18:03So, the brain has made a picture that,

00:18:05I will get that support with my mom and dad.

00:18:07So, they will regulate this.

00:18:09So, if you teach the child, automatically, they will start sleeping.

00:18:13So, how do they teach the child?

00:18:15Sometimes, they have a transition blanket,

00:18:18or a transition toy, or a pillow, or a stuff toy.

00:18:22Anything that they can regulate with.

00:18:25So, if you are 11 years old, you can slightly regulate him.

00:18:31If there is a safe house or something.

00:18:34Or you can put him to sleep there, and then you come back.

00:18:37But don't lie to him.

00:18:38Say, when you go to deep sleep, you will open the door.

00:18:42You can come.

00:18:43It is safe.

00:18:44Nothing is happening.

00:18:45In the mind of the child, it will register that it is okay.

00:18:48You will be safe.

00:18:49And try to sleep one hour before the child's screen.

00:18:53Automatically, you will notice that the child's regulation will come.

00:18:57A little breathing, deep breathing, meditation.

00:18:59Now in three weeks, it is not screen time.

00:19:03The activities have changed.

00:19:05But I don't understand that...

00:19:07Hot shower at night helps a lot.

00:19:08Okay, I have to go to early morning school.

00:19:10So, a lot of times, hot shower at night helps with a lot of regulation.

00:19:14Yeah.

00:19:15It helps with a lot of regulation.

00:19:16Yeah.

00:19:17So, little things.

00:19:18And you know, off the screen, I will guide you.

00:19:20And there are some techniques that you have tweaked.

00:19:23And this is very manageable.

00:19:24So, it is not something that I have done wrong.

00:19:27It is actually something that you have given as a gift to him by co-sleeping.

00:19:30Yes.

00:19:31Okay.

00:19:32Sorry.

00:19:33Yes.

00:19:34What are you asking?

00:19:35Assalamualaikum.

00:19:36Assalamualaikum.

00:19:37Let me tell you a little bit.

00:19:38I have two kids.

00:19:39Okay.

00:19:40One is 6 years old.

00:19:41And one is 3 years old.

00:19:43But my child is 3 years old.

00:19:45She is named Zainam.

00:19:47Until we don't give her mobile, she doesn't eat food.

00:19:52Okay.

00:19:53My own small online business is my own.

00:19:55So, my screen time is more.

00:19:56Because I have to connect with a lady.

00:19:59I have to answer.

00:20:00Because of that, she doesn't eat food.

00:20:03Until I give her mobile, I don't give her mobile.

00:20:07So, my child is 6 years old.

00:20:12She said,

00:20:13If you have given her mobile, I will eat food.

00:20:16Now, you have to give her mobile.

00:20:17And both of them, at the same time,

00:20:19and eat food with their hands,

00:20:21and then I have to see my work,

00:20:23I have to see my home.

00:20:24So, that is a tough time.

00:20:25It is a difficult time.

00:20:26It is a difficult time.

00:20:27It is a difficult time.

00:20:28Now, how many are the 1-6 years old?

00:20:29How many are the 2-6 years old?

00:20:306 years old.

00:20:31No, 1-6 years old.

00:20:322-3 years old.

00:20:333 years old.

00:20:342-3 years old.

00:20:35Now, do 3-3 years old.

00:20:36And, what is the 2-3 years old?

00:20:38These children,

00:20:39they have a lot of mobile times,

00:20:43but the 3-3 years old,

00:20:44so, school is going.

00:20:46The only two 1-6 years old.

00:20:47But, they are just kidding.

00:20:48So, that is the problem.

00:20:49You have also given her little.

00:20:50So, not given me,

00:20:51and then, he is using food for your hands.

00:20:53So, they are using food for your hands.

00:20:55Now,

00:20:56the time of the 2-3 years old,

00:20:58and then on the mobile, where they have to eat food in 10 minutes, they have to eat half an hour.

00:21:04Now in that half an hour, I have to watch a lot of work.

00:21:08And then what is the problem?

00:21:10If I have a lady's message in my mobile, I have to answer them.

00:21:14So that is also irritating.

00:21:16The kids are not giving me mobile, the mobile phone is changing, they have to eat food.

00:21:20It is sometimes irritating to me.

00:21:24I have to manage everything and the kids don't leave the mobile.

00:21:27What do you do?

00:21:29Tell me about this.

00:21:31Now I am telling you the magic spell.

00:21:33One thing I will say is that you have to set your priorities.

00:21:36If you have to eat food for children, you have to keep your phone on the side.

00:21:40No, there is not a client's message.

00:21:42You have to attend 15 minutes later.

00:21:44There are calls for 15 minutes later.

00:21:46One thing is that you don't have to note.

00:21:49You have to eat food and sleep.

00:21:52You have to eat food.

00:21:54You have to do it.

00:21:55You do not cater.

00:21:56You have to set your time to say that I will cater to your clients after the night, then no.

00:22:02Then I will do it next morning.

00:22:03No, but they are giving lunch to the kids.

00:22:06Yes, so at that time you have to do it.

00:22:08You have to do it.

00:22:09Lunch time, dinner time.

00:22:10I have also tried to do it.

00:22:11But they have to do it.

00:22:12Now they are so difficult to get a mobile phone for me.

00:22:16They don't eat food.

00:22:20They will put the mobile phone on the side.

00:22:22They will say that they will not eat food.

00:22:24If I tell you a personal example,

00:22:26In our house, lunch or dinner time is always a connection time.

00:22:31Exactly.

00:22:32If I am on the job or busy,

00:22:34My husband's job was like that most of the time,

00:22:36he was not available at home.

00:22:37So, he would get a meal for the kids.

00:22:39I didn't understand.

00:22:40As you do single-handedly,

00:22:42husband is away for work.

00:22:44So, when we sit and eat food,

00:22:46it is time to connect with each other.

00:22:48We will talk.

00:22:49I will ask them.

00:22:51Because it is lunch,

00:22:52you pick kids from school.

00:22:54I am always working.

00:22:56So, we came together.

00:22:57When we sit at lunch table,

00:22:59we would talk to each other.

00:23:01When was the most happy?

00:23:03When was the most happy?

00:23:04What made you the happiest?

00:23:05Then, he will tell me about the school.

00:23:07I will tell him that it was a very difficult day.

00:23:09A child was crying in my class.

00:23:11Then, you know,

00:23:12Mama, my child was crying in my class.

00:23:14He was very naughty.

00:23:16Then, ma'am told him.

00:23:18Lunch and dinner has always been,

00:23:20you know, building connection.

00:23:21It doesn't mean that,

00:23:22if we are watching something,

00:23:24we have put on TV for example,

00:23:26we have done it together.

00:23:27And we kept on discussing.

00:23:29For example,

00:23:30if we have put an animated movie for kids

00:23:32and we are sitting at lunch,

00:23:33we are also discussing.

00:23:35How does the colors look so good?

00:23:37Why does it look like this?

00:23:38Why does it look like this?

00:23:39Why does it look like this?

00:23:40Why does it look like this?

00:23:41How does it look like this?

00:23:42How does it look like this?

00:23:43How does it look like this?

00:23:44So, you know,

00:23:45it is about building connections also.

00:23:47There are times,

00:23:48food, lunch,

00:23:49and dinners.

00:23:50You have to build connectivity with small children.

00:23:52Even girls are asking them,

00:23:54how does it look like this?

00:23:56Start telling them,

00:23:57how your day went.

00:23:59What is going on?

00:24:00How does it look like this?

00:24:01How does it look like this?

00:24:02How does it look like this?

00:24:03How does it look like this?

00:24:04Because when you ask them,

00:24:05you don't answer them.

00:24:06Yes.

00:24:07That they are just asking me.

00:24:08I am not telling them anything.

00:24:09So,

00:24:10if you start asking them to tell them.

00:24:12I have seen them online.

00:24:13I have seen them.

00:24:14I have seen them.

00:24:15I have seen them.

00:24:16I am thinking that they will do this.

00:24:17We will do this on the weekend.

00:24:18I am thinking that they will do this.

00:24:19If we say that we have liked them for you,

00:24:21then you will show them.

00:24:22That we will show them.

00:24:23Yes,

00:24:24you can't tell them.

00:24:25You will show them.

00:24:26We will do it.

00:24:27I was thinking that we do this and that.

00:24:30Tell them about it.

00:24:31Tell them about it.

00:24:32Tell them about it.

00:24:33My friends have said it.

00:24:34This happened.

00:24:35I thought that today I was thinking about it.

00:24:37I have to ask them.

00:24:38I had to ask them for the kitchen.

00:24:39I have to ask them for the kitchen.

00:24:40I have to ask them.

00:24:41So,

00:24:42if there is a habit that their children have been a habit.

00:24:45Now,

00:24:46this is the connection.

00:24:48It's all about their children.

00:24:49We have to ask them.

00:24:51We ask them.

00:24:52What is the habit of them?

00:24:54Look at them.

00:24:55It is not a child problem.

00:24:58Because

00:25:00I work all the time with parents.

00:25:02Sometimes you have to ask them

00:25:04that is genuinely a child.

00:25:06The child is not able to sleep alone. That's a very child's concern and the parent is concerned for the child.

00:25:14If he doesn't eat food and your time is lost, this is your problem. This is not the child's problem.

00:25:20And the child becomes extremely moldable for 7 years.

00:25:24You want to mold it like that.

00:25:27It takes 40-42 days to develop a habit.

00:25:31You have to set your priorities.

00:25:34We can't do this discipline.

00:25:37No mother-in-law doesn't want to be bad for their children.

00:25:41No mother-in-law doesn't give bad advice.

00:25:44No mother-in-law doesn't say,

00:25:46Don't say, don't talk to me.

00:25:48And no parent doesn't take the second best choice for their children.

00:25:53It's always the best choice.

00:25:55When you called her, that was the best choice that you made.

00:26:00It's not to blame you.

00:26:02That you have to be wrong.

00:26:04You made the best decision for your time.

00:26:07But you are struggling with it.

00:26:09So what you have to do is, you don't do things with your children.

00:26:12You have to role model it.

00:26:13You finish up the anticipation for your children.

00:26:21So you always need to be aware of your children.

00:26:23and what he sees, he does.

00:26:25If you are on a phone every day,

00:26:27a child doesn't understand that you are allowed

00:26:30because you have different rules for your job.

00:26:33But I am not allowed.

00:26:35If you don't give respect for food,

00:26:37he will not give it.

00:26:39And you think that when he is eating,

00:26:41you know that food is something that has a relationship.

00:26:45Our relationship is with food, tea, coffee.

00:26:48If a child is watching the screen

00:26:50and in his body, specifically,

00:26:53a trencher of reels today.

00:26:55A child is watching reels.

00:26:56It is an over-stimulated brain.

00:26:58Excessive adrenaline and everything

00:27:00is released from your brain system.

00:27:02And you are going to eat food in your mouth.

00:27:04You have no idea that your body is short-circuiting.

00:27:07Constant.

00:27:09Because you don't have to fill it

00:27:11the amount of time you will have to fill it

00:27:13until the routine will come.

00:27:15And it will be easy.

00:27:17So it is a hack for you.

00:27:19We all do it.

00:27:20And I am doing it.

00:27:21We all do it.

00:27:22We all do it.

00:27:23We all do it.

00:27:24To support you,

00:27:26this is the way we support them.

00:27:28Rather than,

00:27:29I am also a working mother.

00:27:31I am also a working mother.

00:27:32I go to the morning,

00:27:33I come to the night.

00:27:34I have to navigate my child's life

00:27:37where there is a limited screen time.

00:27:39How will it happen?

00:27:40If I see a child's 2,000

00:27:42I have to play at the time.

00:27:43I have to provide a routine

00:27:44or a system that can be a role model.

00:27:46And tell me that

00:27:47I have to call you

00:27:49that I have to call you

00:27:50that I have to call you

00:27:51that I have to call you

00:27:52that you have to call you

00:27:53that you have to call you

00:27:54that there is no mistake.

00:27:55We are going to blame

00:27:56because we are not going to manage it.

00:27:57So we will project it

00:27:58and blame it.

00:27:59well,

00:28:01you don't need to call me

00:28:02you are not going to eat it.

00:28:03You are not going to eat it.

00:28:04You are not going to eat it.

00:28:05I am not going to enjoy it.

00:28:06I am going to be working a lot of hours.

00:28:07He does not.

00:28:08He does not.

00:28:09He does not need to bring in school

00:28:11or something.

00:28:12This is your need.

00:28:13You want to do this for a child.

00:28:15Take ownership

00:28:16that these are our desires

00:28:17to become teachers

00:28:18they don't have to have food

00:28:20for a school.

00:28:21These are not their desires.

00:28:22The parents and parents

00:28:23need a healthy home

00:28:24and a healthy functional home.

00:28:28That is their need.

00:28:30As a mother, our needs are our needs.

00:28:33If we have made some choices,

00:28:35or extra money,

00:28:37or living with a style,

00:28:39then we will navigate.

00:28:41After a break, we will continue.

00:28:43Good morning Pakistan.

00:28:53Welcome, welcome back.

00:28:55Good morning Pakistan.

00:28:57We are going to teach you magic spells.

00:29:01You will be able to teach your children.

00:29:04In the last segment,

00:29:06the conclusion was that

00:29:08if you are tired of your children's screen time,

00:29:11then you will have to be a role model.

00:29:14When you take the screen,

00:29:17you will have to invest your time on that screen time.

00:29:22And you have told me that

00:29:24in 42 days,

00:29:25habits are developed.

00:29:27So, for 42 days,

00:29:29you will have to change your time.

00:29:31And you will have to change your time.

00:29:33with your parents,

00:29:34and then you will have to change your time.

00:29:37And you will have to change your time to change your time.

00:29:38And you will have to change different activities

00:29:40and different things.

00:29:42And if they are saying that,

00:29:44they are bored,

00:29:45then they will be bored.

00:29:46Because when they are bored,

00:29:48they can't do the same,

00:29:50if they don't think their parents,

00:29:51The parents don't accept it, they don't think they're coloring.

00:29:53It's the one-on-one communication.

00:29:55Talk to them together, the time goes on.

00:29:57With the bodyguard, it's a very interesting thing.

00:29:59I've been with children,

00:30:01when they don't get to age 8-10 years old,

00:30:04there was a rule in the house that you have to be bored for 15 minutes.

00:30:08So when I would come home, I would say,

00:30:10I would say, don't be bored.

00:30:11Okay, let's go outside.

00:30:12I don't have to do anything,

00:30:14I don't have to touch anything,

00:30:15I don't have toys,

00:30:16I don't have to sit in the garden,

00:30:17I don't have to sit in the sofa.

00:30:18You have to be bored for 15 minutes

00:30:19because only when a child is bored,

00:30:21he becomes creative.

00:30:22Yes.

00:30:23Our creative thinking.

00:30:24Imagination.

00:30:25Exactly.

00:30:26So that should be like a game for every house.

00:30:2815 minutes to 20 minutes.

00:30:30I've been 30 minutes,

00:30:31I've been 30 minutes,

00:30:33I've been 30 days,

00:30:34but 12 days are still.

00:30:36Because I've been in the day for today,

00:30:38that the wrong thing happened to me,

00:30:41to give a lot of screen time,

00:30:44that I have to manage myself.

00:30:47And it's really wrong,

00:30:49because the kids didn't give them

00:30:50the screen time,

00:30:51so much.

00:30:52I don't know why they gave them

00:30:53in love and love,

00:30:54or the time was like that.

00:30:56At that time,

00:30:57the kids had to connect too.

00:30:58If they had friends at home,

00:31:00they had to play outside.

00:31:01Now, the kids didn't have to socialize.

00:31:04They had to play Roblox,

00:31:06they had to connect through them.

00:31:08Exactly.

00:31:09Exactly.

00:31:10This is a way of connection.

00:31:11Yes.

00:31:12Absolutely.

00:31:13What is the 7-7 rule?

00:31:15This 7-7 rule applies not only for parenting,

00:31:19but also for other relations.

00:31:21For instance,

00:31:22husband and wife,

00:31:23but I'm talking about parenting.

00:31:25The 7-7 rule,

00:31:26I've learned a lot later.

00:31:29On a daily basis,

00:31:31you spend 7-7 minutes of time with children.

00:31:36Oh, wow.

00:31:37At the morning,

00:31:38or when they send them to school,

00:31:40they're ready to talk to them.

00:31:42Yes.

00:31:43When they come to school,

00:31:44if they have lunch time,

00:31:45they have to talk to them

00:31:46for 7 minutes.

00:31:48Okay.

00:31:49When they wake up,

00:31:50they have to talk to them for 7 minutes.

00:31:52After that,

00:31:53you will manage a lot of time

00:31:54and you will know that.

00:31:55After that,

00:31:56weekly,

00:31:57you will see 7 hours

00:31:58in the whole week

00:31:59that you have 7 hours

00:32:01with your children

00:32:02quality time

00:32:03where they are going.

00:32:04And annually,

00:32:05with the whole family,

00:32:06you have 7 days.

00:32:08How are you going through them?

00:32:10It's just that connection

00:32:12with them.

00:32:13There's no other factor.

00:32:15It's just you.

00:32:16If you go to 7 days,

00:32:17you go to 7 days,

00:32:19then there's nothing else.

00:32:21It's just you,

00:32:22your family,

00:32:23your children,

00:32:24and your children.

00:32:25That's it.

00:32:26There's no social media.

00:32:27You can divide them

00:32:29on weekends.

00:32:30It's not that you have 7 days.

00:32:32In the whole year,

00:32:33you have different things.

00:32:34It's just like that.

00:32:35But you start on a daily basis.

00:32:37In the day,

00:32:38give them 7-7 minutes.

00:32:39After that,

00:32:40you come to week,

00:32:41and then annually,

00:32:42and then yearly.

00:32:44I think this rule

00:32:45I understand.

00:32:46It's good.

00:32:47You are also a time manager.

00:32:48It's a kind of time table type.

00:32:50Exactly.

00:32:51So it's easier to manage it.

00:32:53You have to do it.

00:32:54Absolutely.

00:32:55But even science backs it.

00:32:57Because they say that

00:32:58children have very important times

00:33:00when they wake up,

00:33:01when they come to school,

00:33:03when they wake up,

00:33:04and when they wake up.

00:33:05If you spend a few minutes with them,

00:33:09they are enough.

00:33:10Because there's a myth

00:33:11that you have to be

00:33:13an available parent.

00:33:14You have to be at home.

00:33:15This is the biggest myth

00:33:16that your child's physical presence

00:33:18doesn't need so much

00:33:19as much as your

00:33:20actually

00:33:21available parent

00:33:22doesn't need to be

00:33:23present parent.

00:33:24Present parent.

00:33:25Present parent is

00:33:26who is giving 4,

00:33:275,

00:33:287 minutes.

00:33:29And that's one-on-one connection.

00:33:30That's enough.

00:33:31That's all that a child wants.

00:33:32It doesn't need to be

00:33:33that every time

00:33:34one mom or one dad

00:33:36is on the head.

00:33:37It seems that

00:33:38I leave the child

00:33:39and I leave the mom

00:33:40in guilt.

00:33:41It's a very common thing.

00:33:42But this is something

00:33:43that does not

00:33:44serve the child at all.

00:33:45Okay.

00:33:46Next.

00:33:47Uruj.

00:33:48What are your questions?

00:33:50Assalamualaikum.

00:33:51My question is

00:33:52my daughter's son.

00:33:53She's 4 years old.

00:33:54I don't know

00:33:55why she's saying that.

00:33:56She's 4 years old.

00:33:57My daughter's son.

00:33:58She's 4 years old.

00:33:59She has more screen time

00:34:00because my daughter

00:34:02when they are dating

00:34:03and their children

00:34:04are working with her.

00:34:05She's a baby.

00:34:06And they go out to her.

00:34:07She'll show her

00:34:09and then to her.

00:34:10As she goes back,

00:34:11the mother has

00:34:12to have work at home

00:34:13and work at home.

00:34:14We can't provide quality

00:34:15time.

00:34:16That's why the child

00:34:18is British.

00:34:20Her screen time

00:34:22is in rhymes.

00:34:24Co-co-melon.

00:34:25They don't know

00:34:26the language of Urdu

00:34:27as well.

00:34:28As she doesn't know

00:34:29the British accent

00:34:30It's not in the entire family, it's 4-year-old child.

00:34:33Usually, if the child wants to play or call them,

00:34:37we call them, call them, they don't respond.

00:34:40But as we put on our mobile phone,

00:34:43we put a small sound on the phone,

00:34:46they respond immediately.

00:34:48They don't see the screen, they don't respond.

00:34:51Yes, they don't share their own things.

00:34:54Before, we've neglected that the child is okay,

00:34:57there's no speech delay,

00:34:58there's no speech delay.

00:35:00But when it's admitted to school,

00:35:02there's feedback from teachers,

00:35:04they don't respond,

00:35:06they don't understand our things,

00:35:08they don't mingle with them,

00:35:10they don't share their own things.

00:35:12Yes, they don't eat anything specifically.

00:35:14And junk food or packet food,

00:35:16they're very important.

00:35:18You need to evaluate it,

00:35:20because it can be showing signs of being on the spectrum.

00:35:24It's better to take him to a psychiatrist.

00:35:27On some spectrum.

00:35:28On some spectrum.

00:35:29Okay.

00:35:30Because the signs that I was telling you,

00:35:31that the potty train was very late,

00:35:33they have very specific habits of eating,

00:35:35they don't respond,

00:35:37if they don't respond to their name,

00:35:39they don't respond to their screen,

00:35:40they don't respond to their own.

00:35:41I told you about it.

00:35:43They play.

00:35:44Because these are signs of some kind of,

00:35:46maybe disorder,

00:35:47or on some spectrum.

00:35:48So I think,

00:35:50you need to see a child psychiatrist.

00:35:52Okay.

00:35:53So that he can give you further guidelines.

00:35:56Yes.

00:35:57Because it's not a general problem.

00:35:59Yes.

00:36:00It's very specific.

00:36:01There's a speech delay.

00:36:03There's a food specification.

00:36:05You don't respond.

00:36:06It's very common.

00:36:07I don't know.

00:36:08I don't want to put a label.

00:36:09I don't know.

00:36:10I don't know.

00:36:11I don't know.

00:36:12I haven't seen children.

00:36:13But these signs are very common in the autism spectrum.

00:36:15Okay.

00:36:16So it's better that some child psychiatrist,

00:36:18you can take it.

00:36:19So that it can be a proper evaluation

00:36:21and an early intervention.

00:36:22Okay.

00:36:23There are many children in the school.

00:36:25We were just discussing this.

00:36:27We get this a lot.

00:36:28We have this.

00:36:29It's very common.

00:36:31I mean,

00:36:32if I saw my admissions for 3 years before,

00:36:34it wasn't common.

00:36:35Now,

00:36:36every 10th child comes with the same symptoms.

00:36:39And we face this a lot.

00:36:41At the time of admission,

00:36:44we don't know what the problem is.

00:36:47We don't know what the problem is.

00:36:48We don't know the parents.

00:36:50They come.

00:36:51So they tell us that the child is speech delayed.

00:36:53Or we will talk to the child.

00:36:54If I ask them,

00:36:55what is your name?

00:36:56Then they say,

00:36:57Koko Mahlin,

00:36:58or something like that.

00:36:59It will be a repetitive language.

00:37:01So when we take admission,

00:37:03then the teacher and I will evaluate us.

00:37:05And then,

00:37:06first of all,

00:37:07we refer to the child psychologist.

00:37:10So,

00:37:11the child is better for the child.

00:37:15What is the reason?

00:37:16What is the logic of this?

00:37:17What is the logic of this?

00:37:18Is it a child?

00:37:19Or did we give it a clean time?

00:37:21This is a problem.

00:37:22But in autism,

00:37:23there are a lot of researches.

00:37:24There is no specific reason for autism.

00:37:26There is no specific reason for autism.

00:37:28No one has identified.

00:37:30And is it more common?

00:37:31Yes.

00:37:32Very common now.

00:37:34Did they have to do anything with lockdown?

00:37:37No idea.

00:37:38There are many researchers.

00:37:40I have not heard this before.

00:37:42I have seen it in my face.

00:37:43I have seen it in my face.

00:37:45I have seen it in my face.

00:37:46I have seen it in my face.

00:37:47I am hearing it in my face.

00:37:48I have seen it in my face.

00:37:49I have seen it in my face.

00:37:50I am hearing it in my face.

00:37:51I am hearing it in my face.

00:37:52So,

00:37:53it seems that over the COVID-19.

00:37:54Exactly.

00:37:55The social imbalance in lockdown is happening.

00:37:57Parents too have to go around with new things.

00:38:00Then,

00:38:01children have to understand 24 hours in the house.

00:38:02Parents too have to understand.

00:38:04And children too have to understand.

00:38:05Maybe there is a impact.

00:38:07I don't know.

00:38:09But before COVID, there was an autism spectrum.

00:38:12And the thing is that COVID, or any illness or disease,

00:38:16is the benefit of it and the benefit of it.

00:38:18Many people have made connections at this time.

00:38:22Many people have made good relationships.

00:38:24They have been good. They have been divorced.

00:38:26Many people have better understanding.

00:38:29Survival mode.

00:38:30Look, the whole forum of your online income is bigger than COVID.

00:38:34So, where there are so many problems,

00:38:37there are also a huge support system.

00:38:40That you have to earn money,

00:38:42and earn money.

00:38:43Survival is very easy.

00:38:45From home, it's very difficult.

00:38:47Because those who have been finished,

00:38:49they have found their own places.

00:38:51They have also found their physical work.

00:38:53And they have also on-line.

00:38:54So, they have double-double income.

00:38:56I was teaching at that time.

00:38:58So, in lockdown, we started online classes.

00:39:02We had to learn new techniques.

00:39:04How to engage children.

00:39:05Physically, you can do a lot of things.

00:39:06But if you are online, you need attention.

00:39:07So, that is also a new experience.

00:39:08That is also a new experience.

00:39:09And in this spectrum, I must add,

00:39:10that if you take it to a child psychiatrist,

00:39:11I would recommend you that.

00:39:12If you take it to a child psychiatrist,

00:39:13I would recommend you that.

00:39:14If you take it to a child psychiatrist,

00:39:15I would recommend you that.

00:39:16If you take it to a child psychiatrist,

00:39:17a normal pattern,

00:39:18you know,

00:39:19one autistic child is very different.

00:39:20They don't have exactly the same patterns.

00:39:22They don't have exactly the same patterns.

00:39:23But already, they are already disconnected from reality.

00:39:27And when we give them gadgets or such things,

00:39:29which are already in reality,

00:39:31they are already in reality.

00:39:33they don't have just the same patterns.

00:39:36But they are already disconnected from reality.

00:39:39Now, when we give them gadgets or such things,

00:39:42which are already in reality,

00:39:44and any Of all of them,

00:39:46if you are making them functional,

00:39:48they are disfunctional and all of them.

00:39:51Is there any tips that you provide them?

00:39:53So, look, I say,

00:39:56I will say that this is a common connection.

00:39:58When they are in a sense that there's a British accent

00:40:00There is a way to learn a British accent and a language.

00:40:04It doesn't mean that it doesn't have anything mentally.

00:40:08It has a very amazing thing that you can find.

00:40:12Music is one of the best things for the children on the spectrum.

00:40:17You can teach it on the keyboard or drumming.

00:40:21Music is involved.

00:40:23The fact is that they stimulate the music.

00:40:26As you said, if you play music, they will respond.

00:40:30It can also be healing with sound.

00:40:33You can do a lot of things.

00:40:35Even if you go online or check with AI,

00:40:38there will be thousands of techniques.

00:40:40Of course, you will have to make some effort.

00:40:42You don't have time. You can do it.

00:40:45You can support it.

00:40:47Any activity or habit that you feel like I am being productive.

00:40:52All human contact.

00:40:53Yeah.

00:40:54To talk, play, physically, touch.

00:40:57You know, there are many sensory issues.

00:41:00That's why their taste buds are developed.

00:41:02Either they just eat crunches,

00:41:04or they just eat gooey things.

00:41:05It depends.

00:41:06Every child is different.

00:41:08So, when they understand the child,

00:41:09and when they go to the psychiatrist,

00:41:11they will guide you very well.

00:41:13If you have to do it.

00:41:14If you have to go to the therapies,

00:41:16and then whatever your affordability is.

00:41:19Because now,

00:41:20there are also such parties in Pakistan,

00:41:22which are literally,

00:41:23minimal,

00:41:25or not,

00:41:26in the cost.

00:41:27They also provide therapies.

00:41:28So, in Pakistan,

00:41:29there is a lot of work.

00:41:31So, if you will see,

00:41:32you will find a lot of avenues.

00:41:34There are parents groups.

00:41:36You know,

00:41:37there are such mothers,

00:41:38who have their support groups,

00:41:40who support other mothers.

00:41:42They have to fight with autism.

00:41:43They have to fight with autism.

00:41:45There is a woman,

00:41:46who has come from Dubai.

00:41:47And she has opened up in her house,

00:41:49a very big Phanesia,

00:41:51or Phanosom.

00:41:52This is just for autistic children,

00:41:55who don't get support in the park,

00:41:57or playgrounds.

00:41:58She has made an art lab,

00:42:01and a whole system in her house.

00:42:03in her house.

00:42:04For the spectrum,

00:42:05that these children also socialize.

00:42:07So, there are a lot of things out there.

00:42:08Take professional help.

00:42:10Sure.

00:42:11Okay.

00:42:12Hina is with us.

00:42:14Hina, if they come here,

00:42:15then they can share their children's problems.

00:42:18So,

00:42:19like,

00:42:20many of the things you have done,

00:42:23many of the things you have done,

00:42:24many of the kids who are autistic,

00:42:26can take the guidelines.

00:42:27And parents don't know,

00:42:28they have more evaluation,

00:42:306 years plus.

00:42:32Okay.

00:42:33As long as you take it early,

00:42:34they say that,

00:42:35instead of psychologists,

00:42:36or therapists,

00:42:38you directly take them to the psychiatrist.

00:42:41Okay.

00:42:42So, they will take you best to identify.

00:42:44Then take it.

00:42:45What should they do?

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00:43:29I have seen a lot of difference in the children who have got a lot of help and delayed that you are in denial or you are not able to get a lot of help.

00:43:41And the symptoms are always different. You can't compare 2-4 children.

00:43:47What do you say?

00:43:49My daughter is now 8 years old.

00:43:52My daughter has a lot of problems.

00:43:54But I think it's been a long time ago.

00:43:57It's a habit that it will go anywhere.

00:43:59Or someone will take something and take something.

00:44:02Initially, I had to go with my purse.

00:44:06She said to me, Mom, it's good. I'll take it.

00:44:10She said to me, Mom, it's good.

00:44:12She said to me, Mom, it's good.

00:44:14She said to me, Mom, it's good.

00:44:16She said to me, Mom, it's good.

00:44:18I'm going to take it.

00:44:20I'm going to take it.

00:44:21I think it's good.

00:44:22I'm going to take it with her.

00:44:24She's going to take it with her.

00:44:26I've never checked.

00:44:28I've noticed that the toy bucket,

00:44:31or the stationery boxes,

00:44:34I've never seen it.

00:44:36My father has seen it.

00:44:38I asked her, Mom, I don't know.

00:44:40Mom, I didn't know.

00:44:41I didn't give it.

00:44:42I didn't give it.

00:44:43I didn't give it.

00:44:44I didn't ignore it.

00:44:45I felt like I was going to take it with her.

00:44:48She was definitely different.

00:44:50She couldn't give it.

00:44:52There were little crystal dolls.

00:44:55I saw it myself.

00:44:56I knew that she was there.

00:44:58She looked at her two days later.

00:45:02I asked her.

00:45:04Who gave it?

00:45:05She said to me,

00:45:06my daughter's daughter's name.

00:45:08She gave it to me.

00:45:10She gave it to me.

00:45:11She gave it to me.

00:45:12She gave it to me.

00:45:13So, the fact that she was a woman.

00:45:15I didn't know.

00:45:16I was told that she could do this.

00:45:18She said to me,

00:45:19she She gave it to me.

00:45:20She said to me,

00:45:21You're a child.

00:45:22She told me not to give it.

00:45:23I'm a mom.

00:45:24I told her later.

00:45:25She said,

00:45:26I didn't know anything.

00:45:27You're a kid.

00:45:28You are a kid.

00:45:30I told her a child.

00:45:32Then I called to school and when I called to school, they invited me to discuss some problems.

00:45:39Now they have been over 7,5-7 years.

00:45:41When I went to school, the teacher told me that this is a habit that they can take other things.

00:45:47Then they also deny it, that it was mine, it was a mistake.

00:45:50We said that many times we have solved these cases in school,

00:45:53that let's go, we are together.

00:45:55But you say that this has become more.

00:45:57There is a child who is out there is a lot of expensive stationery and things.

00:46:02He has taken his pens and he has now.

00:46:04He has denied that it is not mine, it is mine.

00:46:07I asked him there and asked him,

00:46:09Mom, I don't know, Dad gave me a gift.

00:46:11Because he had a habit, he knew that Mom will not do that.

00:46:15I said, no.

00:46:16It could not happen.

00:46:17He gave me a lot of expensive things and he didn't tell me.

00:46:19I also had data from him.

00:46:21I also had data from home.

00:46:23He was angry but he didn't accept it.

00:46:25He didn't ask for it, he didn't say that I will ask without asking.

00:46:28I am very much disappointed.

00:46:29I am very addicted to that,

00:46:30therefore I have to avoid the children

00:46:32because he has become more expensive.

00:46:33He can take other things and take a lot of expensive things,

00:46:35then I will get a very embarrassing thing.

00:46:37He is not the wrong thing.

00:46:38He is not the wrong thing.

00:46:39He is towards someone who has asked without asking,

00:46:40if you have to take some of those things,

00:46:42you will definitely tell me that.

00:46:44If you have to take them,

00:46:45tell me to return.

00:46:46Yes.

00:46:47But this is the only thing that he has developed inside.

00:46:52We say that the children are judged, that they see and learn.

00:46:55What is this?

00:46:56This is very interesting.

00:46:58First of all, I would really thank you because many people don't come to these things.

00:47:03This is so brave of you.

00:47:06I am ashamed of that.

00:47:09I am ashamed of that.

00:47:11I am ashamed of that.

00:47:13I am ashamed of that.

00:47:14I am ashamed of that.

00:47:16This is something that people don't come to the media or platforms.

00:47:20Exactly.

00:47:21I am ashamed of that.

00:47:23First of all, when you understand this,

00:47:25you understand that half a job is done.

00:47:27When parents get accepted, they start working on it.

00:47:31These things, this is all impulse control.

00:47:37You see, a lot of people say that this is a shopper.

00:47:41This is not impulse control.

00:47:42You go to grocery and you have a list of things,

00:47:44but you have to take 10 things extra.

00:47:4610,000 is your budget, but you have to take 20,000 things.

00:47:48This is all impulse control.

00:47:50Impulse control is also developed in the early years.

00:47:54For whatever reasons.

00:47:55And the first child is your first daughter?

00:47:58Yes, first.

00:47:59It is a very common thing that first, and I am not saying that this is all.

00:48:02But this is an internal dysregulation of something.

00:48:06You have to think that this is very good.

00:48:09When it is very good, I am very interested.

00:48:12It is very interesting.

00:48:13It is an intense desire.

00:48:15After that, what does the desire take action?

00:48:17To keep it in front of yourself.

00:48:19What is the right or wrong?

00:48:21What is the rational brain that is blocked?

00:48:24Only it is that it is very interesting.

00:48:27It is so strong desire and impulse develop.

00:48:31That it is just that it takes it in front of yourself.

00:48:33This is a thought, emotion, action, and dysregulation.

00:48:36You can manage it in a very easy way.

00:48:39Look, you have seen it.

00:48:41The child says, why is it wrong?

00:48:42Because you have to navigate it.

00:48:43You have to leave it.

00:48:44And you have to see it in front of yourself.

00:48:46It has not done.

00:48:47It has not done.

00:48:48It has not done.

00:48:49But when anything is good, and the child asks you,

00:48:52I will take it away.

00:48:53Talk about it.

00:48:54Tell me, what are you liking it?

00:48:56What's the worst?

00:48:58What is the worst that can happen if you don't get it?

00:49:03If I didn't get it, or if you got it, talk about it rather than hushing it away.

00:49:08I worked with a lot of children who came with lying and impulse control.

00:49:17I used to work as a player therapist and I worked with children.

00:49:21We used to go to clinic space and put toys and toys.

00:49:24But because we are trained for it, we knew that it was going to happen.

00:49:27And there was a great success rate, that this habit will be finished because it's a habit.

00:49:34It's a strategy in life that you are running, which is working for you for today.

00:49:38But when you change your strategy, it's okay.

00:49:41Now he knows that this is also like a queen syndrome.

00:49:44In the old days, a queen who had a habit in grocery stores or a place,

00:49:49you can think that the queen could have more money than the queen.

00:49:52She would go and she would lift the shop.

00:49:55So it's called queen syndrome because she didn't have impulse control.

00:50:00And she did not know how to regulate.

00:50:02So the people who were behind, they would see that the things they would put in their basket.

00:50:10And eventually, they would scan and give them things back.

00:50:12So that the queen could not be able to shame it or treat it.

00:50:18So today, it's called queen syndrome.

00:50:21This is a habit, it's a dysregulation.

00:50:24You can understand that it's a thought, it's an emotion.

00:50:28And it's an action.

00:50:30How can you disrupt it?

00:50:32You can't stop its thoughts.

00:50:34You can't stop its desire and emotions.

00:50:36You can only change from action.

00:50:38You can say that it's a wrong thing, it's a joke, it's a good thing, it's a good thing, it's a good thing, it's a good thing.

00:50:44This is all the logic that the child did not work for.

00:50:46Because it's a logic freeze.

00:50:48It's an emotion that it didn't work.

00:50:50So you will change the action.

00:50:52The emotion will change.

00:50:53And then the thought process will change.

00:50:55You will go back and reverse.

00:50:56After the break, I will understand the truth.

00:50:59The last thing I have a little less understood.

00:51:01I don't know if the public has come.

00:51:03After the break, we will conclude.

00:51:04Good morning Pakistan.

00:51:06Welcome, welcome back.

00:51:17Good morning Pakistan.

00:51:18So, the last segment we have concluded.

00:51:23What is the magic spell?

00:51:25What kind of children, if you have any children,

00:51:30and have a habit of raising the lesson,

00:51:32having a habit of raising theriad,

00:51:35it can develop.

00:51:36And sometimes parents don't know this kind of,

00:51:38that they have to develop.

00:51:40And someone comes to uniform,

00:51:41and gives you hope that some parents become more

00:51:46and have a habit of raising the habit

00:51:48and say how you are allowed and how to show them

00:51:50that your children told me,

00:51:51that you have told me anything,

00:51:53that that I have told them,

00:51:55that they have given me to say the truth.

00:51:56So you help us,

00:51:57that what is the conclusion of that.

00:51:59So, as we were telling them, the best thing is that when the child goes and says that I feel good or I'll take it as they told them that the child is coming with them.

00:52:10So, what do you feel good about it? What do you feel good about it? What do you feel good about it? What do you feel good about it?

00:52:18Talk about it and then say, okay, I know you really want it and I wish we can take it but for now, you keep it back and I will give you a reward.

00:52:28So, every time, when you have your impulse, when you have your heart, naturally, I understand that your heart really wants to take it,

00:52:35if you feel good about it, the time you control yourself.

00:52:39If you have a very small child, you can say that you don't have to understand your hands,

00:52:43you don't have to touch it or you don't have to touch it or you don't have to touch it.

00:52:46So, the child will sometimes understand the truth.

00:52:48And the time you will support your hands, I will give you a reward.

00:52:52That is the same as the reward.

00:52:54You don't have to touch it and that may have to touch the fruit or food or anything like that.

00:53:00This is a reason to navigate the child'sregulation.

00:53:02That is why I am not bad and my behavior is bad.

00:53:04So, basically, if you have the child's name,

00:53:08like the child's name, as you said in the beginning,

00:53:11you have to touch the labels and you have to touch the other.

00:53:13I love you, but I don't love your behavior, I really like you, but I don't like this behavior.

00:53:22So the child understands that I don't have my behavior, I'm much more than that.

00:53:28So the same behavior as your behavior is, which is not right,

00:53:32but I know that you have a good habit that you can control yourself yourself.

00:53:36I don't want anyone to control you or I can control you.

00:53:40Sometimes, when talking to children, there's a big shift.

00:53:42And when you have a reward, we all motivate people with two things.

00:53:48Either pain or pleasure.

00:53:50Like the death and the death.

00:53:53Or if you haven't done it, you will go to death.

00:53:57And if you have a mother or father in our culture,

00:54:04if you will do it, then you will be so happy.

00:54:07It's very rare.

00:54:08So we are more motivated from pain.

00:54:12So our motivation becomes pain.

00:54:14Like if I have to work on my health and all of us say,

00:54:18you will do it and you will be able to do it, you will be able to do it, you will be in a small size.

00:54:22That doesn't motivate me.

00:54:23But if someone says that you will get diabetes, I start to go to the gym next day.

00:54:28That's right.

00:54:29So basically, we need to check ourselves.

00:54:33We also see that my child is motivated by pleasure or pain.

00:54:37That's right.

00:54:38That's right.

00:54:39That's right.

00:54:40That's right.

00:54:41That's right.

00:54:42That's right.

00:54:43That's right.

00:54:44That's right.

00:54:45That's right.

00:54:46That's right.

00:54:47That's right.

00:54:48That's right.

00:54:53That's right.

00:55:00If someone is wrong, they will pick up very quickly.

00:55:04So I have to talk to them about this.

00:55:07That they don't pick up?

00:55:09Yes.

00:55:10Who is that?

00:55:11They will take away from them.

00:55:13At our house, they are afraid.

00:55:15They talk at the phone.

00:55:17They say they say they say they say they say they pick up.

00:55:19At that time, they don't do that.

00:55:21But when they say they say they say they do that.

00:55:24The child is intelligent, you are happy.

00:55:26It's intelligent but it's a problem or it's a blessing.

00:55:29It's a problem.

00:55:30But the wrong words, they pick up.

00:55:32Then they repeat it in front of someone.

00:55:35Oh my God.

00:55:36They say the wrong words to the child.

00:55:39I'm sorry that the child is not a problem.

00:55:41It's a habit.

00:55:42The child has been learning some words.

00:55:44I just want to say that they don't say it in front of someone.

00:55:48They don't say it in front of someone.

00:55:49They don't say it in school.

00:55:51They don't say it in school.

00:55:53I've been trying to say it in school.

00:55:55How do you delete it from the computer?

00:55:57I don't think it's a problem.

00:55:59I don't think it's a problem.

00:56:00This is a problem.

00:56:01It's not a problem.

00:56:02I think it's good that your child's picking power is fast.

00:56:04This is going to help him.

00:56:05in front of your child's picking power is fast.

00:56:08This is going to help him.

00:56:10In front of your child is going to school.

00:56:12Instead of being able to do ABCD,

00:56:14if you don't want to do BBB,

00:56:15then what will happen?

00:56:16I'll tell you an interesting thing.

00:56:17He won't do it in front of someone.

00:56:18He won't do it in front of someone.

00:56:19Yes.

00:56:20He won't do it in front of someone.

00:56:21The environment could ease the problem.

00:56:23Yes, but he's doing it.

00:56:24Yes, sir.

00:56:25You have seen that you're talking about Dadi like Urdu

00:56:27and I'm speaking English with Dad.

00:56:29Yes.

00:56:30Because they have a sensitive period of order, which means that the order of the child is very strong.

00:56:37You see, when the child is very small and keeps something, they go and crawl and go to the cushion.

00:56:44They have a very strong sensitive period of order.

00:56:47That order stays until the age of seven.

00:56:50In different times, there is a sensitive period.

00:56:53When the order is strong, they know that they have to speak in Urdu or house help in Pashto.

00:57:00Or they have to speak in Sindi.

00:57:02My own nephew knows that he will speak in Sindi.

00:57:06He will speak in English.

00:57:08If my mother is going to speak, he will speak in Urdu.

00:57:10They have a very strong order.

00:57:12They know where they are.

00:57:14There is a high chance.

00:57:15When I was in Montessori school, I would say,

00:57:20that he doesn't say anything at home.

00:57:22In the class, the child was always talkative and interactive.

00:57:26And the mother is very frustrated.

00:57:28He doesn't tell anything at home.

00:57:30He doesn't tell anything at home.

00:57:31What is he doing at school?

00:57:32In the school, he is mingling with everyone.

00:57:34But at home, he doesn't do anything at home.

00:57:36There is a high chance that someone is going to go to school.

00:57:38This is their fear.

00:57:41If you see in the language, you feel like,

00:57:44don't go outside.

00:57:46Because it is not about the child anymore.

00:57:49People say, what do I say?

00:57:51You are a good mother.

00:57:53What do you say?

00:57:54I have seen a lot of parents,

00:57:57that if a child has given a big laugh,

00:57:59then everyone is sitting there.

00:58:01They are laughing.

00:58:02They are laughing.

00:58:03They are laughing.

00:58:04They are laughing.

00:58:05They are laughing.

00:58:06They are laughing.

00:58:07I have witnessed it from my eyes.

00:58:08My dad is sitting there.

00:58:10Look, look, look.

00:58:11What is my dad learning?

00:58:12Oh my God.

00:58:13What is this?

00:58:14What is this?

00:58:15That is true.

00:58:16That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:17This is the only way to get attention.

00:58:18That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:19That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:20That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:22That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:23That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:24That is the only way to get attention.

00:58:25That is the only way to notice.

00:58:26That is necessary that the only way to get attention.

00:58:31Yes, it is important to know that the.

00:58:33church of birth is trying to get attention.

00:58:38When the child has much attention.

00:58:39It is important to know that the child is supporting her.

00:58:43If you notice that it may be that you give the most attention to it,

00:58:47whether it has negative attention,

00:58:49but you give the most attention to it when it hurts,

00:58:52or it uses bad words.

00:58:54So, you leave everything, even if you are killing it,

00:58:58or even if you are killing it,

00:58:59then you feel that if you need your mother's attention,

00:59:03this is the best way.

00:59:04You get the most attention to it, right?

00:59:06You get the most attention to it.

00:59:08So, it's a magic hack for the child.

00:59:10He has learned it because he is intelligent.

00:59:12So, what do you want to do with this?

00:59:15What do you want to do with this?

00:59:17Tell us about it.

00:59:19The whole world can't explain it.

00:59:21If you are in a joint family system,

00:59:23you can change it.

00:59:24So, if you have to use it,

00:59:26or whatever you have to use,

00:59:29you will have to take a fight.

00:59:31You will have to take a fight.

00:59:32So, if you are saying,

00:59:35first of all, you will ignore it.

00:59:37And if you don't give a fight,

00:59:39or you don't give a fight,

00:59:41then you leave all your work,

00:59:43and say,

00:59:44you know, I am so proud of you.

00:59:45I was watching you,

00:59:46and I was watching you,

00:59:47and I was watching you,

00:59:48and I was watching you.

00:59:49I was watching you,

00:59:50but you have controlled.

00:59:51How much you control it.

00:59:52Again,

00:59:53that's the motivation and pleasure.

00:59:54You have a little support system.

00:59:56So,

00:59:57you have to take attention at the time,

00:59:58when they do something good.

00:59:59And I didn't know that,

01:00:00I didn't know that,

01:00:01for example,

01:00:02direct tariff,

01:00:03even if you talk about it.

01:00:04Direct tariff.

01:00:05Yes,

01:00:06and you are listening,

01:00:07you know,

01:00:08but you do not listen to it.

01:00:09You say,

01:00:10look,

01:00:11how many words you say.

01:00:12Now,

01:00:13you don't do bad things.

01:00:14So,

01:00:15the child is listening to it.

01:00:17I have told you,

01:00:18I have to take all the children,

01:00:20but you are listening to it.

01:00:21I have to get it first.

01:00:22So,

01:00:23I have to do it.

01:00:24This is a classroom hack.

01:00:25We use a lot.

01:00:26If a child is wrong,

01:00:27or is not doing it,

01:00:28or is struggling,

01:00:29or is struggling.

01:00:30So,

01:00:31when I walk into the class,

01:00:32I go to the teacher's face,

01:00:33and I say,

01:00:34who is writing?

01:00:36Who is writing so good?

01:00:37Who will tell me?

01:00:38Who will tell me?

01:00:39Who will tell me?

01:00:40Who will tell me?

01:00:41Who will tell me?

01:00:42Who will tell me?

01:00:43For example,

01:00:44I will tell you,

01:00:45wow,

01:00:46so much.

01:00:47Well done.

01:00:48Give him a star from my pen also.

01:00:49So,

01:00:50he is listening to it,

01:00:51but I am and the teacher are doing it.

01:00:53So,

01:00:54he will know,

01:00:55that his ego will boost up,

01:00:56that this is not direct appreciation,

01:00:57it is indirect.

01:00:58But this works like magic.

01:00:59I feel like it is more direct.

01:01:01It is more direct.

01:01:02He is sitting there,

01:01:03and now,

01:01:04he is standing on his face.

01:01:05He feels genuine.

01:01:06I am the child,

01:01:07but you know,

01:01:08it works like magic.

01:01:09I am and the teacher are communicating,

01:01:11and he will sit and listen to it,

01:01:13and he feels like,

01:01:14you know,

01:01:15I am talking about it,

01:01:16and it is not.

01:01:17It is not.

01:01:18I am applying all hacks,

01:01:20one person,

01:01:21and one person is fine.

01:01:22I am saying,

01:01:23make it,

01:01:24make it, make it.

01:01:26Yes.

01:01:27Okay, what is this? Provide advance warning.

01:01:31The thing is that, like the first case that the children were doing,

01:01:35the habit of picking up children,

01:01:38there is an action for the children, for instance,

01:01:41if they are not right for them,

01:01:43so let's warn them first, that the consequences will be these.

01:01:46And they will also have a decision-making power.

01:01:49For instance, one example, if you are going to the park,

01:01:51the child has said that I have to wear open shoes or sandals.

01:01:55And you are saying, don't you wear joggers?

01:01:57He is saying, tell them the consequences.

01:02:00Let it be.

01:02:01If you wear joggers, these are the pros.

01:02:03If you wear these, these are the cons.

01:02:05Now, you decide what you have to do.

01:02:07And give him a little breather.

01:02:10Leave him on the decision.

01:02:12Let the child decide.

01:02:14And if he takes a wrong decision,

01:02:17then he has to experience it.

01:02:19If he has to hurt him and he will go through it,

01:02:23then you can say that this decision is not right for you.

01:02:26Next time, switch.

01:02:29Instead of thinking something else,

01:02:31take the other option.

01:02:33So, you are giving confidence.

01:02:36First, you have given the option.

01:02:38You have given the warning.

01:02:39After that, you have given the decision.

01:02:41Then you have given the decision.

01:02:43Now, you have to decide.

01:02:45Now, you have to decide.

01:02:46So, you know that when I was the decision,

01:02:48I can blame someone.

01:02:50Next time, yes, this is not.

01:02:52I will do this.

01:02:53So, he will think that he will think.

01:02:55I think this is long term.

01:02:57This is my son is young.

01:03:00He is 17.

01:03:01So, if he doesn't understand the pros and cons,

01:03:04if he doesn't understand the pros and cons,

01:03:06he is confused,

01:03:07then he makes a list.

01:03:08He makes a list.

01:03:09When he chose his own college,

01:03:12he made the decision,

01:03:13he made the decision.

01:03:14What are the pros and cons?

01:03:15What is the question for me?

01:03:16What is the option better for me?

01:03:18So, he has completely analyzed and decided.

01:03:21Now, he says,

01:03:22yes, it's ok.

01:03:23If there are certain cons,

01:03:26then there are pros and cons.

01:03:27So, I am happy with my decision.

01:03:29Tomorrow, you will not be able to get a problem.

01:03:31Later, you will see a break.

01:03:33Good Morning, Pakistan.

01:03:39Welcome, welcome back. Good morning. Pakistan, today it was supposed to be a jadu

01:03:48party. Sana, you should take them and sit. This is a magic spell. Today, children

01:03:55have not been jadu on us. And we are going to be impressed with our children. They

01:04:00know something in this small age. Let's move on to our next question.

01:04:05Salihah. Yes, my son is five years. And he is in a preparation school. I want to

01:04:14take an admission in a good school. So, he doesn't have to study in preparation school.

01:04:19He doesn't know what it is. So, the teachers have to do slables, tables, all of these things.

01:04:28So, the preparation is going on, but he is in class. And the children. So, the teachers

01:04:33tell me that you cover it in the house. When I cover it in the house, it starts to

01:04:38start. That, my mom, I've written so much, that I'm in my hand, I'm in my hand.

01:04:42And a little bit later, I'm in my face. So, it starts to start. And then, my husband

01:04:47has a pressure that you cover it in the school. So, you cover it in the school. So,

01:04:53if you cover it, it's so much pressure that I get so much pressurized,

01:04:57that I don't understand that I can do what I do, how to do it. And if the school

01:05:02happens, then, she starts to say, Mom, I won't go to school. I won't go to school.

01:05:06I don't want to go to school in the morning, I don't want to go to school in the morning.

01:05:10There is something that needs to be studied, he doesn't want to study.

01:05:14There are problems in class, that he is difficult to study.

01:05:18He is active in the rest of his work, but he is a little bit of studying.

01:05:23How many years?

01:05:24Five years.

01:05:26He is in a preparation school and I want to be admitted to him in a good school.

01:05:31First, he will have to give him a test for admission.

01:05:35He will have to give him a test for admission.

01:05:39The teacher says that I am doing my syllabus, so I can't do it like other children.

01:05:45I can take all the children to go with me.

01:05:47So, you should do it.

01:05:49The teachers, mothers, I would like to ask you.

01:05:53They have learned all the techniques.

01:05:58If the child has not studied, then you should study it.

01:06:02But a normal mother doesn't know these techniques.

01:06:06So, can she help you with Google or YouTube?

01:06:10If I remember my child's tables, or flashcards,

01:06:15such as the techniques.

01:06:16So, can we help you with YouTube?

01:06:20I think that every child has a different way of learning and work.

01:06:28Every child has its own ability.

01:06:30For example, when I was learning a course, studying and everything.

01:06:35So, my teacher told us that there are 13 ways,

01:06:39which you can do one thing to one child.

01:06:41Until you have applied 12 ways,

01:06:43and you don't come to school,

01:06:45until you can't say something is wrong with the child.

01:06:47You apply the 13th method.

01:06:49And then you have to say,

01:06:51let's go, this child will probably not learn from this level.

01:06:53I have to bring it to this level.

01:06:55But then again,

01:06:57every child has a difference.

01:06:58Every child's capacity has a difference.

01:07:00If he doesn't do it,

01:07:02then probably he will be interested in something else.

01:07:04He will be very good.

01:07:06Every child's attention span has a difference.

01:07:08Every child's concentration has a difference.

01:07:11It means that we can't study each child in one way,

01:07:14and not in one line.

01:07:16It means that I cannot judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree.

01:07:21We see each child in different ways,

01:07:23and it means that it is done or it is not done.

01:07:27If it is not done,

01:07:29it will be very good.

01:07:30And by studying it,

01:07:33there will not be any benefit or any benefit.

01:07:35There will not be admission.

01:07:36And then all the mom guilt,

01:07:38the whole family is being studied.

01:07:40As they said before,

01:07:42that this is your need.

01:07:43It is not your need.

01:07:44It is not your need.

01:07:45It is not your need.

01:07:46You will not go to school,

01:07:47or the convent,

01:07:48or anywhere else.

01:07:49It is your need.

01:07:50It is your need.

01:07:51That I want to advise my child here.

01:07:54So,

01:07:55that is better.

01:07:56But,

01:07:57the most important sign is that

01:07:59that child is 5-year-old,

01:08:01as you said,

01:08:02is making a mistake.

01:08:03The pain is the biggest sign of anxiety.

01:08:06Anxiousness.

01:08:07When the child says,

01:08:08that I have pain in my stomach,

01:08:10that is the biggest sign,

01:08:11that the child is scared.

01:08:13The child has anxiety.

01:08:14Anxiousness.

01:08:15You have to tell them that

01:08:16you have to make a mistake.

01:08:17Because,

01:08:18the pressure of your husband,

01:08:19the pressure of your husband,

01:08:20is not going to be handled with you.

01:08:22So,

01:08:23you are putting it on the child.

01:08:24And you think,

01:08:25the child is 5-year-old,

01:08:26you have to tolerate your husband.

01:08:29If you don't tolerate the pressure of your husband,

01:08:31or your in-laws,

01:08:32he doesn't tolerate the pressure of your husband,

01:08:33then the child is in a five-year-old,

01:08:34you have to tolerate the pressure of your husband,

01:08:35and teachers also tolerate the environment.

01:08:40And then,

01:08:41if you have no admission,

01:08:42then he is not good enough.

01:08:43So,

01:08:44understand your life.

01:08:46And then,

01:08:47go through therapy in 30 years,

01:08:48and then you have to make a mistake.

01:08:49I am good enough and all of this, when going to school, if they struggle, I don't know,

01:08:57I don't know, there is no benefit from my opinion. I understand that your intention is good,

01:09:01but successful people don't say that what was successful in this school.

01:09:07I can tell you that they don't succeed in the best schools, but they don't succeed in life.

01:09:11So, try to educate yourself a little bit, try to educate yourself a little bit

01:09:15because your child's well-being is much more important than school.

01:09:19This is the one thing.

01:09:20Wherever you are studying and you are struggling with a struggle,

01:09:24you just notice that my child is an auditory learner, visual learner or an aesthetic learner.

01:09:30This means that he is learning to read,

01:09:35that you are reading and writing it quickly,

01:09:38or walk and walk, or play with a chair, or play with a eraser, or play with a pencil.

01:09:44Either he is learning a little bit,

01:09:47or then he is looking at it, or reading it through yourself,

01:09:50or flash it through.

01:09:51So, as they have told us that 13 strategies,

01:09:53the world's every strategy,

01:09:55which is made to educate children,

01:09:57is made in these three criteria.

01:09:59Either we are all,

01:10:01either we are visual learners,

01:10:03either we are aesthetic or we are auditory learners.

01:10:05Visual means that when you look at it,

01:10:07and remember it,

01:10:09and remember it,

01:10:10and remember it,

01:10:11and remember it,

01:10:12and remember it,

01:10:13and remember it,

01:10:14and remember it,

01:10:15and then it will move and move.

01:10:16So, in school,

01:10:17teachers say,

01:10:18the teacher is taking a lot of things,

01:10:19he is not taking a lot of things,

01:10:20but he is focusing on the focus.

01:10:21He is focusing on the focus of the hands.

01:10:23So,

01:10:24let's educate you,

01:10:25because it is not a mistake.

01:10:27We are not equipped to teach the child.

01:10:31This is not a mistake of teaching children.

01:10:33You don't know how to study children,

01:10:35and how to study children.

01:10:36Because,

01:10:37you see,

01:10:38a child is very happy to study a subject.

01:10:40Maybe he is a very kinesthetic teacher.

01:10:42He is talking about feelings,

01:10:44about examples,

01:10:45about emotions,

01:10:46about emotions.

01:10:47He is taking a lot of things.

01:10:48But,

01:10:49if I am visual,

01:10:50and I am studying Nida in a visual way,

01:10:52Nida will not take a lot of things.

01:10:54But,

01:10:55if I am kinesthetic,

01:10:56I will tell you,

01:10:57look,

01:10:58the child was doing like this,

01:10:59he was doing like this,

01:11:00now do it like this.

01:11:01So,

01:11:02where I am talking about his feelings,

01:11:03and kinesthetic,

01:11:04he will get to understand it.

01:11:05So,

01:11:06first of all,

01:11:07the rep modalities.

01:11:08What is it?

01:11:09It is visual,

01:11:10kinesthetic,

01:11:11and auditory.

01:11:12And then,

01:11:13you can see,

01:11:14that is very easy.

01:11:15My next question is Kashmala.

01:11:17Yes, Kashmala.

01:11:18What is your question?

01:11:19Yes, Kashmala.

01:11:20What is your question?

01:11:21Yes,

01:11:22my question is,

01:11:23that

01:11:24at the beginning,

01:11:25it was a pleasure,

01:11:26for my child.

01:11:27My daughter,

01:11:288 years old.

01:11:29When she was small,

01:11:30it was okay,

01:11:31to sit and eat food.

01:11:33Okay.

01:11:34It was a continuous cycle,

01:11:35that was going on.

01:11:37But,

01:11:38the time period,

01:11:39it will be 8 years old.

01:11:41But,

01:11:42my husband,

01:11:43today,

01:11:44I tell you,

01:11:45that they have to eat food,

01:11:46until the plate is finished.

01:11:48So,

01:11:49I have to eat food from his hands.

01:11:51Now,

01:11:52I have to eat food.

01:11:53My time is so much engaged,

01:11:56and so,

01:11:57I have to eat food.

01:11:58I have to eat food.

01:12:00My dog is very slow.

01:12:02Yes,

01:12:03sits in my head.

01:12:04The dog is so skinny.

01:12:05But,

01:12:06the dog is so active.

01:12:08Every dog is active.

01:12:09Then,

01:12:10I have to eat food in the morning,

01:12:11When the baby is a child, the baby is a child, they have to make a table, they have to make a table, and they have to make a table for the day.

01:12:20If the child is a child, it will have to make a table for the day.

01:12:26After the time, they will give a little space.

01:12:29Is it that the baby is a double?

01:12:32Yes, they see my baby's children, they see how healthy they are, they don't think about their children,

01:12:40when they put pressure on me, why don't you sit on them?

01:12:44I thought, how much is it?

01:12:47Now, what do I do with them?

01:12:51How do I handle the child's time?

01:12:54Why don't you use the habit of eating at home?

01:12:58I told myself that you will sit on them alone.

01:13:02Because my daughter is here and there is a habit of eating at home.

01:13:07So, you are behind her?

01:13:09Yes, I was behind her.

01:13:11But I started to sit and eat and eat.

01:13:14But now, she is sitting in front of me and I sit in front of her.

01:13:19And then she is eating.

01:13:20And then she is eating.

01:13:22And then she is eating.

01:13:24And then she is living in home.

01:13:26And then she is living in home.

01:13:30So, you have to be afraid of eating.

01:13:33So, you will be afraid of eating.

01:13:35And then she is eating.

01:13:37And then she is eating.

01:13:38And then she is eating.

01:13:39And then she is eating.

01:13:40More of a problem.

01:13:41Yes.

01:13:42Exactly.

01:13:43Now, I cannot say anything to anyone.

01:13:45I mean, I said, eat it.

01:13:47Do you like it?

01:13:49Yes, it is.

01:13:50It is.

01:13:51It is.

01:13:52It is.

01:13:53It is.

01:13:54It is.

01:13:55It is.

01:13:56Yes, it is.

01:13:57It is.

01:13:58It is.

01:13:59I don't know.

01:14:00Yes, it is.

01:14:01But my wife is sitting in the morning,

01:14:03the time table.

01:14:04That is the time table.

01:14:05It is.

01:14:06It is.

01:14:07It is.

01:14:08It is.

01:14:09It is.

01:14:10It is.

01:14:11It is.

01:14:12It is.

01:14:13It is.

01:14:14It is.

01:14:15So you need to set boundaries, we can't do it, we can't do it, we can't do it, we can't do it.

01:14:33Humans have the power of choice. It's a choice that you're making of not saying anything.

01:14:41It's a choice that you're making of feeding. It's a choice that is listening to your, and I'm not saying that you don't listen to her.

01:14:48If you look at it, it's a very big privilege. I think when I was young, my life was so easy.

01:14:53She was very specific about food and everything.

01:14:56You don't know how much of a support system is, that no one is concerned for your child's children.

01:15:02How can you navigate in a healthy way?

01:15:05If you say, okay, I'm tired, please give me a meal.

01:15:09Lightly, with love and respect and compassion.

01:15:12How can you navigate that? Because women have super power.

01:15:16Why super power?

01:15:18I'm gonna say magic, magic.

01:15:20Because, where you're talking about, a woman has the capacity that she can go to both feminine and masculine energy.

01:15:28Unlike a man.

01:15:29A man can be aggressive for protecting her child.

01:15:33But at the same time, it's not the same.

01:15:35So, women, mothers, are designed with this capacity of choice,

01:15:40of choice that where children come from, they have the capacity to become share and shiny at the same time.

01:15:46That is your super power. So what are you doing with love and respect?

01:15:49To navigate it so that it is the benefit of it. But having said that, there is also one thing,

01:15:56get her blood tests done. When children have iron deficiency or vitamin D deficiency,

01:16:03these muscles are very weak. They don't have energy in the child so that they can catch it.

01:16:12This is a very normal thing. So now they have iron and ferritin test or CBC test or vitamin D test.

01:16:19These are 3-4 tests which are blood tests so that you know what the problem is. A lot of times,

01:16:24this is a delayed eating, a lot of hours eating. As you can see, it is frustrating for the child.

01:16:32It is hard for the child. It is hard for the child. It is hard for the child. It is hard for her digestive system.

01:16:41So sometimes constipation, diarrhea, there are many things like normal gut issues.

01:16:46Because the body doesn't get the time to relax. So it is better to take ownership of the choice

01:16:54that you are making and then get her blood test done and then set a schedule and take support.

01:16:59If your child is so supportive that she is making a schedule, ask her, please can you support me,

01:17:05that you can open a meal, I will be irritated. Own that.

01:17:08And a little button is good for the child who likes the child.

01:17:11Yes, absolutely.

01:17:12They change the button and take a big dining chair and take a big chair.

01:17:16It is blocked and there is no one sitting there.

01:17:19Because there is no other child that can't be able to go.

01:17:21So you can also do these things after the blood test.

01:17:24You can also do these things after the child.

01:17:40If you do icing on the jaw muscles, it is very different from your jaw regulation and stimulation.

01:17:48If you take an ice cube and stimulate the jaws, sometimes the muscles are weak.

01:17:57When you stimulate the ice cube, only in the jaws, it also stimulates it.

01:18:04Before eating, 2-4 minutes, if you do icing on the ice cube, maybe it will change.

01:18:12Just to see if the muscles are weak, because I am sure they are very annoying for the children.

01:18:18So first, see if the child is not doing it or is not doing it. There is a difference.

01:18:23Thank you so much for all of your magic spells.

01:18:31If you take an ice cube, you have a superpower that Allah has given you.

01:18:36So use it.

01:18:38Use it as good as good children.

01:18:40And then, leave the stars that you have to give them.

01:18:45Those stars you have to give yourself.

01:18:47Good morning Pakistan.

01:18:48Take a break.

01:18:50Welcome.

01:18:51Welcome back.

01:18:52Good morning Pakistan.

01:19:05And now, I am going to take a break from Vajiyah Farooq.

01:19:10Which is a community partner of Senwave.

01:19:14And Vajiyah has told us today how to use Senwave.

01:19:21And what is Senwave basically?

01:19:23Thank you so much for having me.

01:19:24How are you?

01:19:25I am very good.

01:19:26How are you?

01:19:27I am very good.

01:19:28Last time, Sanam Jang was here.

01:19:29And we received so much love after that.

01:19:31Yes.

01:19:32So today, I am very good for US Senders.

01:19:34We have brought a new feature.

01:19:36We have introduced a new feature.

01:19:37In USA, Canada, and Europe,

01:19:40If you want to send money,

01:19:44you can send money through Senwave.

01:19:47This is an app.

01:19:48And for them, we have introduced a new feature.

01:19:52Senwave wallet.

01:19:53Okay.

01:19:54This is a very good feature.

01:19:55You can easily add your funds.

01:19:58And when you transfer it,

01:20:00you will get a better exchange rate.

01:20:02Especially when you send $200 above,

01:20:05through wallet,

01:20:07you will get a very good exchange rate.

01:20:09This is the story of the story.

01:20:10If we start from the beginning,

01:20:12how does Senwave work?

01:20:14What do we do?

01:20:16If you download an app on your mobile,

01:20:18what do we do?

01:20:19Yes.

01:20:20Senwave is a money transfer app.

01:20:22What do you have to do?

01:20:23You have to download the app on your phone.

01:20:25Done.

01:20:26You have to sign up.

01:20:27You have to add your debit card details.

01:20:29And then, you are easy to just transfer money.

01:20:31You don't have to do anything else.

01:20:33You don't have to do anything.

01:20:34Anytime, anywhere,

01:20:35you can just transfer the money from your phone.

01:20:37Okay.

01:20:38So, your bank,

01:20:39will you send it through?

01:20:41Yes.

01:20:42You will send Senwave through the app.

01:20:43Okay.

01:20:44You can also send the bank account.

01:20:46And they have local bank.

01:20:47And they have to find the bank.

01:20:48Faisal Bank, Allied Bank.

01:20:49We have 40 banks.

01:20:50Which we have to do with our partnership.

01:20:52We can have to do cash pick up.

01:20:54Okay.

01:20:55So, what do you have to do with Senwave?

01:20:56Why do you choose the Sendwave?

01:20:59What is the main thing?

01:21:01The main thing is,

01:21:02that we have to transfer fee for us.

01:21:03Okay.

01:21:04We have to transfer fee for us.

01:21:05If there are 200 dollars for example.

01:21:08So, the conversion rate will get the same amount of total.

01:21:14There are no hidden charges on the bridge.

01:21:18And the exchange rate is also very good.

01:21:22One of the competitive exchange rates that you will get.

01:21:27And now tell us about wallet feature.

01:21:30In the wallet feature, I will tell you what to do.

01:21:34You have a wallet.

01:21:42You have to activate it.

01:21:44And you have to add the bank details.

01:21:47You have to add the wallet.

01:21:49So, you have to save your money.

01:21:52You have to save your money.

01:21:55And the recipient list will remain the same.

01:21:59The debit card details will remain the same.

01:22:02You will get the exchange rate amazing.

01:22:05When you use the wallet feature.

01:22:07So, when you use that feature, transfer your money.

01:22:11For example, what I have learned as a viewer.

01:22:14What did you do?

01:22:16First, the exchange rate has increased.

01:22:18But you don't have the money in your bank.

01:22:22You have to send your home to Pakistan.

01:22:24You have to send your money.

01:22:25You have to send your money.

01:22:27And keep your wallet in your bank.

01:22:29Now you have to wait.

01:22:30Where you think the exchange rate is better.

01:22:33You have to send more money.

01:22:35You have to send more money.

01:22:36You have to send more money.

01:22:37So, you have to send your money.

01:22:38Yes.

01:22:39Yes.

01:22:40That's what you want to say.

01:22:41Because when you have to transfer to the app.

01:22:43Normally, you will get a different exchange rate.

01:22:45But when you have to invest through the wallet,

01:22:48you have to send your money from there.

01:22:50You have to send your money from there.

01:22:51Then you have to send more exchange rate.

01:22:53Different exchange rate.

01:22:56Because in exchange rate is more change and less.

01:22:58Yes, I am saying that what I have understood is that if I first started October, I came to my

01:23:08return, I have released all the budget and put it in the wallet, and now Pakistan

01:23:16didn't pay me, I am not going to pay me, but in November, I will understand that the rate

01:23:22foreign

01:23:30foreign

01:23:36foreign

01:23:46foreign

01:23:50online in the world.

01:23:51I would like to tell you that our active users are one million plus, which are actively

01:23:56US, Europe, Canada from Pakistan.

01:23:59Already they are sending money.

01:24:01Besides, for safety, what we have done is we use bank level security.

01:24:06Whatever data is available, everything is protected.

01:24:09Nothing is available from you.

01:24:11Your transfer will be saved.

01:24:14This is a little proof that if we have so many users, then obviously we will not be wrong.

01:24:22Okay.

01:24:23What are our viewers for?

01:24:26Viewers, you can download send wave, use app.

01:24:31In addition, for our first transfer, if they use promo code, ARY20, then they will get credit for $20.

01:24:40They will receive $20 extra.

01:24:44And they will receive $20 extra.

01:24:47This is $40?

01:24:48No.

01:24:49Receiver and sender.

01:24:50You sent me $100, I received $120.

01:24:53And you have $20 in your credit.

01:24:55Oh, great.

01:24:56Oh, great.

01:24:57Oh, great.

01:24:58Besides, follow us on social media.

01:25:00Our Instagram handle is send wave app.

01:25:02Okay.

01:25:03And tell us how to download it.

01:25:05Play store or app store.

01:25:07You can easily download it like you can download it.

01:25:11So, so here

01:25:12We have all the details, send wave cost.

01:25:16As you know, the content of the picture has been given.

01:25:18Thank you so much.

01:25:19This was just a show.

01:25:20Inshallah, we'll see you next tomorrow.

01:25:23Good morning.

01:25:24Thank you so much, this was our show, inshallah we will meet tomorrow.

01:25:35Good morning Pakistaner, Khuda Hafiz.

Good Morning Pakistan | Parenting Magic Tricks Special Show | 30 October 2025 | ARY Digital

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