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Trong cuộc sống, một khi vướng vào kiện tụng, ai cũng tìm cách thắng kiện — nhưng thường chỉ để hả giận. Kinh Dịch dành hẳn một quẻ để bàn về chuyện kiện tụng: quẻ Tụng. Tập này phân tích nguyên nhân dẫn đến kiện tụng, hậu quả của việc tranh chấp, và quan trọng nhất là bài học "tác sự mưu thủy" (làm việc gì cũng phải mưu tính kỹ từ lúc khởi đầu) — phòng ngừa tranh chấp ngay từ trước khi nó xảy ra.
Trong cuộc sống, một khi vướng vào kiện tụng, ai cũng tìm cách thắng kiện — nhưng thường chỉ để hả giận. Kinh Dịch dành hẳn một quẻ để bàn về chuyện kiện tụng: quẻ Tụng. Tập này phân tích nguyên nhân dẫn đến kiện tụng, hậu quả của việc tranh chấp, và quan trọng nhất là bài học "tác sự mưu thủy" (làm việc gì cũng phải mưu tính kỹ từ lúc khởi đầu) — phòng ngừa tranh chấp ngay từ trước khi nó xảy ra.
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00:00In real life, when people encounter a lawsuit, they will try every means to win.
00:05Lawsuits, however, are often just a way to save face and get a pretext for a claim.
00:10However, even within the I Ching, which embodies ancient Chinese wisdom, there are also related...
00:14The divination result for a lawsuit is presented as a divination.
00:18So what mysterious secrets are contained in sending a divination?
00:22Does mastering divination techniques guarantee victory in a lawsuit?
00:27Professor Tseng Shih-Chiang from National Taiwan Normal University will guide us in exploring the I Ching.
00:32The wisdom of.
00:34Please stay tuned; we are competitive.
00:40If we reverse the hexagram, it becomes the hexagram of sending.
00:46The two hexagrams that are sent to the center are called the Fuwei Zhong hexagram.
00:53Looking from this side, it's a virtual hexagram.
00:56Looking from that side, it's like receiving a divination.
01:02It's called "two sides of the same coin".
01:06Any matter will be viewed differently depending on one's perspective.
01:14So when we think that two people have different opinions, it's not actually that they have different positions.
01:21We can't help but stand on our own ground, so it's hard to avoid the saying that each side has its own perspective and reason.
01:28My mother-in-law always has a good point.
01:30What will be the outcome when both sides have their own reasons and arguments?
01:34It's about using violence instead of civility, and resorting to force when reasoning fails, but that's ultimately uncivilized.
01:42So we invented a word, which means "to send".
01:46On one side, "speech" means speaking out, and on the other side, "public" means speaking to everyone.
01:52listen.
01:53What's the point of telling everyone?
01:55It used to be useful; everyone used to work hard to clean it, especially the uncles and elders in the neighborhood.
02:01Old man, come and listen to this.
02:04Which of us is right?
02:06Then he came to relieve himself, and that's how he got it resolved.
02:10That won't work now.
02:14Now let me tell you, let's take it a step further, what is it called?
02:24Would the strong sue the weak? Probably not.
02:29You are the strong one; you don't need to sue him at all.
02:32You scare him, you threaten him, you have people attack him, isn't that enough?
02:39Those who are good at filing lawsuits are the weak; they sue the strong.
02:45Therefore, the chances of winning a lawsuit are slim.
02:48This is the first principle we understand very well.
02:51A strong person, if he can take care of the weak, can share—not necessarily equally.
03:01Sharing is not the same as dividing equally.
03:03It's about taking care of him and easing his resentment a little.
03:10They won't sue.
03:13Regardless of who sued whom or what the reason was, we can find out by looking at the inscription on Song's hanging.
03:22Song was just a figurehead.
03:24The very first sentence that appears is called You Fuzhi.
03:30Youfu means credit and integrity.
03:34Intelligence is suffocating.
03:40Between people, once the truth of trust is known, the relationship is broken; the father does not...
03:46trust.
03:48When neither party trusts the other, there's nothing that can be done but rely on...
03:53Digital court.
03:55Furthermore, we must understand that relationships between people don't remain static; they exist throughout the world.
04:00Nothing stays still; it either grows more trusting or more...
04:06The more you doubt, the less you trust. He's either outwardly blatant or inwardly manipulative. Look at these two people.
04:13You're getting closer and closer, but you still need to maintain safety and discipline. You're getting too close.
04:19In the end, they still broke up. Just when you're incredibly close to your best friend, things start to turn sour.
04:23My face.
04:26That's why people need to have a sense of proportion.
04:54What should you be aware of?
04:59When trust is compromised and distrust between people diminishes, what should you do?
05:08You must replace him.
05:09"Substitute" means police substitute.
05:12The character "替" (tì) is the key to the entire hexagram, representing the act of sending off the divination.
05:17First, should we go to court? Once it goes to court, it can drag on endlessly.
05:24Look at him, in the first trial, no one was satisfied; in the second trial, it went on for three to five years, he was exhausted.
05:30Exhausted, but still no result.
05:34So, my vigilance stems from a high degree of alertness regarding whether or not to pursue legal action, and what consequences might arise from such a lawsuit.
05:40How about it? Can I handle it?
05:43Secondly, can I win?
05:47Everyone said, "Of course I won."
05:49Because the lawyer said you were sure to win, but then said you wouldn't, there's nothing that can be done at that point.
05:55The officials are unjust; they just dumped everything on the ground. It's not like I was the one judging them. I did my best.
06:01I was absolutely certain, but I never expected this outcome.
06:05Do you want to accept this disastrous situation? Even if you win, will the other side accept it?
06:13A Japanese professor once told me during a meal that he would never...
06:19If I forget, he said the highest wisdom of you Chinese is summed up in one word. I asked, "Which word?"
06:26He said it was that painting: big things are painted small, and small things are painted well.
06:33Today, we'll call this a reconciliation outside the courtroom.
06:38Look at the laws of the whole world, only we have a strange system for rewarding judges.
06:46The more cases a judge settles through external mediation, the higher their performance rating.
06:51If someone tells you you absolutely have to sentence someone, why would you sentence them?
06:55You ruled against two families, which created enmity. That's why many people who filed lawsuits complained about this judge.
07:00Why isn't a verdict being handed down?
07:00A good judge is one who doesn't issue a ruling.
07:02The judge looked at it and said, "What's the point of your lawsuit?"
07:05These kinds of things can be resolved by talking about them.
07:08Why are you getting so angry?
07:10Whenever I have free time in the United States, I go to their courthouse to take a look.
07:14Because the United States is a country ruled by law.
07:18The things inside are all kinds of strange and wonderful.
07:21There was a son who didn't invite his father to his wedding, so his father went to court to sue.
07:29His son said he was getting married, but he didn't invite me.
07:33I found it hilarious at the time; how could this happen?
07:37Then the judge asked the son, "Why didn't you invite your father to your wedding?"
07:42The son spoke with great conviction.
07:45He said I only invited a few close friends to my wedding, and that my father and I rarely came.
07:50Past.
07:51Why did I invite him here?
07:54As a result, the court ruled in favor of the son and against the father.
08:00My American friend asked me, "What's China like?"
08:04I asked, "What about China?"
08:05This kind of thing never happens in China.
08:07He asked why?
08:08I said in China, a son's marriage is the father's business.
08:12Look, my son is getting married, and I'm kissing you.
08:15You say I don't know your son? Then why do you know him?
08:17It's enough to just know me.
08:19Americans simply cannot accept this fact.
08:23This is because different cultures and systems lead to our different national characteristics.
08:30There was a student who studied in Chicago until his sophomore year at a prestigious university; he was a top student.
08:38This time it's the son suing the father. How will he sue?
08:43He said my grandfather was very rich.
08:46So when my grandfather passed away, most of his estate went to my father.
08:51But part of it was for me.
08:54I was very young at the time, so according to the law, I asked my father to handle the matter on my behalf.
09:01I'm a sophomore in college now, and I've only just realized that my dad has been shortchanging me on interest; he's been embezzling...
09:08He seized my property; I have no choice but to sue him.
09:11Yes, such things do happen.
09:14Friends, what are your thoughts if this happened in China?
09:18Chinese people would say you're crazy.
09:20The American mindset is that I'd spend a thousand dollars for a dollar.
09:25I'm telling you.
09:27We can now see that Song Gua tells us about the Middle Pole.
09:34That is to say, you should be vigilant, and eventually you will find a reasonable point.
09:41However, his summary was just two words: "Brother Zhong".
09:48What my brother means is that when you fight a lawsuit, losing is certainly a loss, but winning is...
09:53They will definitely lose.
09:56We might lose even more badly because the other side won't stop.
10:00You already said I won and it was all over, and that's when he started.
10:03He's in the shadows, you're populist, you're doomed.
10:07I think we've seen far too many cases like this in our history.
10:13The basic principle of mediation is to avoid litigation; ideally, the case should be settled midway through.
10:18Only by doing so can we achieve a win-win and auspicious result.
10:22If both sides are determined to win and lose, then resentment will ultimately build up between them, which will only harm each other.
10:28You won't get any benefits.
10:30However, modern society is highly competitive, and lawsuits are becoming increasingly common. How can we...
10:35How can we avoid this situation and achieve a win-win outcome?
10:42Let's look at the last two lines of the poem, which are quite interesting.
10:51A sharp sword is not suitable for crossing great rivers.
10:56What does "Lord Sharp Sword" mean?
10:58Let me ask you all first, what does it mean to be an adult?
11:01We are well aware of the petty nature of the Chinese mindset.
11:05People who lack self-cultivation and do not follow the right path are called petty people.
11:10We also know that sages are very good at lecturing others, and they can speak eloquently and logically.
11:16If someone acts like a saint, then they are called a saint.
11:19What does it mean to be an adult?
11:21The definition of an adult is simple: an adult is someone who can save your life.
11:27What kind of adult is he if he can't save your life?
11:31You see, when we are wronged by an official, we cry out, "Your Honor! I've been wronged! Your Honor! Help me!"
11:36ah.
11:36No one ever says, "Sage! Help!" You're a fool, a sage will save you.
11:40If that's fate, then he's no longer a saint.
11:42The issues that are most deeply felt by ordinary people, the issues that are most closely related to their lives, and the issues that are most intimately connected to them.
11:49"的" means "adult".
11:53What does "adult" refer to here?
11:55Refers to an impartial judge.
11:58You need to hurry, high-ranking official! Pray to Heaven and Earth, protect us, and appoint a just and impartial person!
12:06Judge.
12:07If you encounter an unjust judge, nothing you do will help.
12:13Frankly speaking, if the law is too strict, it cannot be enforced.
12:20Therefore, the law must be flexible in order to adapt to various different situations.
12:27So don't assume that as long as the law is followed, everything will be fine, or that the law will be established.
12:31If it's going to be meticulous, that's all just empty talk.
12:33Only inexperienced people would have such fantasies.
12:37If the law is strictly defined, you can't even talk about it, and you'll find it difficult to respect yourself.
12:44Which school dares to say that anyone caught cheating on an exam will be retired? You try it and see.
12:49Let's see how the parents react.
12:51If that's the case, many teachers won't bother with it. If it's so serious, why would I bother?
12:55I caught it, so it's fine as long as I didn't see it.
12:58You see, some teachers who are proctoring exams are just reading newspapers too much.
13:03There are two kinds of teachers who read newspapers while proctoring exams, one with a subtle, unpretentious quality, the other with a more subtle, understated feel.
13:07If you really read the newspaper, I won't; I don't care what you do.
13:11Then Meiqimin said, "Student self-governance, student self-discipline, and good student performance are not necessary."
13:17It's captivating, and it sounds great too.
13:19There's one type that isn't; another type is like a steamed bun, with a small hole cut in it, then you pretend to read the newspaper and use that...
13:25He arched his head and grabbed himself.
13:27And that student hated that kind of teacher for the rest of their life.
13:31You pretended to read the newspaper, and I fell for it, that's why I took out that cheat sheet. Wait for me...
13:38See, do you think I'd use a cheat sheet?
13:42Throughout history, I've seen that in the end, we still have to rely on people.
13:47No matter how good the law is, as long as those who enforce the law do not have a clear conscience, as long as those who administer justice do not act in accordance with the law...
13:55Conscience is meaningless if those who enforce the law do not act with conscience.
14:00Why do I, as an ordinary person, still lack confidence?
14:03Throughout history, there have been too few great men.
14:07Now you all know that Bao Gong was actually quite ugly; he was short, fat, and had a rather...
14:13It's not good-looking, so how could it be so famous?
14:16But remember this: do not establish a community by a large river, for a large river is dangerous.
14:23Any lawsuit is fraught with danger, so what can be done? It's not in our best interest.
14:29Don't assume I'm guaranteed to win. There's no such thing as a guaranteed win in a lawsuit.
14:34Because there are too many variables involved, how could you possibly know that Chen Xiaojin would suddenly appear out of nowhere? Actually...
14:40It's very simple. If a bigger case comes out, your case will be immediately suppressed.
14:45Ignore it completely.
14:46Because he doesn't handle that case, the whole world is watching, the whole society is watching.
14:50What are these compared to what you've got?
14:52trivial matters?
14:54You've been hiding it for two or three years because that case isn't closed yet?
14:57In reality, things are constantly changing, and no one can predict them.
15:02Finding a reasonable balance between loyalty and wickedness is quite difficult.
15:09The general hexagram tells us that only judicial fairness is the best way to reduce litigation.
15:15However, going to court, regardless of winning or losing, is never a good thing.
15:19So, can studying the I Ching help us reduce disputes in our daily lives and minimize conflicts?
15:25How to avoid going to court?
15:29Therefore, the elephant hanging in the Song Dynasty tells us that heaven and water move in harmony, and the superior man follows this principle.
15:39The family seeks food.
15:41The character "Song Gua" is composed of "sky" above and "water" below, hence the name "Tian Shui Song" (Heaven and Water Sending).
15:51How could the sky and water be delivered?
15:54Look, what does the sky represent? It's the sun.
15:57The sun rises in the east and moves westward.
16:02In China, water flows from west to east.
16:08The spring waters of the Yi River flow eastward.
16:12Water flows from west to east, and the sun moves from east to west.
16:16These two are exactly opposite directions, and they disagree.
16:20Therefore, they will fight each other to the death, and then it will lead to litigation.
16:29That's how it came about. You see, to our east is the ocean, and to our west are mountains.
16:37After the seawater comes in, it turns back to nourish the entire land.
16:43Therefore, he especially returned to Jiangnan.
16:47Therefore, people from Jiangnan who have returned to Wozhou should thank the mountains of the Northwest.
16:51Upon seeing this, a wise person deeply felt, "What should we do?"
16:57Four words.
16:58Be pragmatic in your work.
17:01No matter what you do, you must make thorough preparations before you begin.
17:08First, you need to consider whether the people I've found share the same goals and interests.
17:15If we don't share the same ideals, we'll disagree sooner or later.
17:20They'll have to separate sooner or later.
17:22Even divorce involves going to court.
17:25How did things come to this point where back then, you loved me, I loved you, and we were practically inseparable like proud scholars?
17:30Will those who are angry end up in court first?
17:32Is that so strange?
17:33How could it have changed so quickly?
17:34It means there's no action or planning involved.
17:38A few people are working together; you should go and check it out.
17:41Nobody goes to court when they're not making money.
17:44Because he thought to himself, if he didn't make any money, he wouldn't get any money even if he won the lawsuit.
17:48As soon as they make money, they start causing trouble.
17:50Why are all the people inside your relatives?
17:53How is it your responsibility to manage the money?
17:55I can manage that too.
17:57Then they started withdrawing their shares.
18:00Then some people would kick him out and give him a little money.
18:06It depends on whether you want to keep it or not; you won't get a single penny.
18:08I'm not keeping any more; this is all the money I have. Do you want it?
18:10He then sued me.
18:12He couldn't stand it, he couldn't take the anger out on me, so he sued me.
18:17A person should think long-term from the beginning.
18:21Chinese people are very concerned about saving face, so you really have to be careful.
18:27Once, three people wanted to start a business together and asked me to be their notary.
18:34The four of us ate, chatted, and got along incredibly well.
18:38Then the three of them signed the contract with a lot of laughter.
18:42The three of us went into business together.
18:44When I saw it, I thought, "Great!" and I was very happy.
18:48I got home, just as I pulled down my tie and before I even took off my clothes, the phone rang.
18:54Three of them, one of whom called me.
18:58Teacher Zeng, I only agreed to this today because of you.
19:04That's simply impossible.
19:06So you call those two and tell them, "It's a discretionary fee, it's a discretionary fee."
19:12You see, such things do happen.
19:15Chinese people are too smart, which is why many people are angry.
19:18Then why do you use anger?
19:20He was born that smart.
19:23Although many partners initially worked together with one heart and one mind, sharing both joys and hardships.
19:28But in the end, they still couldn't avoid the awkward situation of being betrayed by their colleagues and dying together.
19:33The Song hexagram tells us that we should think thrice before doing anything.
19:39This helps avoid unnecessary legal disputes.
19:42But we still have doubts.
19:45Why is it that when a lawsuit arises, there are always unclear and ambiguous situations?
19:52First, Chinese characters are very flexible.
19:57I have discussed this issue with many senior figures in the Dharma community.
20:01That's why they say one thing to another, and then the other says something completely different.
20:04The same word "离" can be interpreted in different ways.
20:07Who can explain that?
20:09The second one is even worse.
20:12It's like Chinese law—it's always missing one article.
20:17Which one is missing? It's very interesting; it's the one you're looking for that's missing.
20:21You see, when we need to get things done, we always pull out the law.
20:24Every single one is there, but the one I'm looking for isn't.
20:27Many people don't understand why.
20:30It's actually very simple: Chinese people never break the law.
20:33He never breaks the law, so why would I break the law?
20:35An upright Chinese citizen is breaking the law.
20:38What are you doing? What am I doing?
20:39I'm doing something that's not prohibited by law.
20:42I'm already so busy, how can I still find time to break the law?
20:46Then you've made a good decision; he definitely won't do it.
20:48Since you didn't order it, I did it anyway.
20:51If you arrest me, I'll say it's not covered by law.
20:54You're making a law specifically for me.
20:58You can never solve it; don't be so naive.
21:03What are we walking on?
21:04To act with a clear conscience and follow reason—that reason is the most important thing to Confucius.
21:13Our system is always flexible.
21:17Because Chinese people are inherently very flexible.
21:21Think about it carefully, everyone. Once any law is established, you can't always follow it.
21:29This is how you all know that when Westerners write, once they've written 12345, that's it.
21:34After the Chinese man finishes writing 12345, he will definitely talk about other matters, and he will definitely add other things.
21:39Matters.
21:41He must leave some loopholes, otherwise, your law is no law at all.
21:47Unless you completely overthrow the Chinese system, which is impossible.
21:53Made in China, Chinese people, and the Chinese language make us the most flexible people in the world.
21:59It's called "One Wisdom, One Tai Chi".
22:14It seems like the phrase I say most often at the airport is, "Why can't we do this?"
22:18That person said it was against the rules.
22:20He heard people talking big, and the rules were his family's rules.
22:23What's it to me?
22:25You still want to use your family rules to control me?
22:28That would be wonderful.
22:30So when we talk about giving gifts, we must remember that the hardest part is being reasonable.
22:38I've made it very clear.
22:40Westerners believe that whatever the law stipulates, that's how I'll do it.
22:45This is part of their national character.
22:46It's impossible for a Chinese person.
22:48Chinese people have high expectations.
22:50I only accept reasonable laws; I absolutely will not accept unreasonable laws.
22:55Is this wrong?
22:59Actually, when the United States mandated that drivers wear seat belts while driving,
23:07Americans are against it.
23:11But after this law was passed, all the Americans were outraged.
23:16We Chinese are not used to this, so the Chinese are used to the idea that if the government wants to make a law, you should...
23:21It's settled then. Anyway, I can't interfere with you. You go ahead and make the decision. I'll just be thinking about how to avoid upsetting you later.
23:27It's good that you caught him.
23:28Chinese people think differently from Westerners; Westerners never think about this.
23:32I won't get caught by you, because it's impossible for him not to. It's strange, the Chinese...
23:37They just can't catch them, so everyone who gets arrested by the police claims they're innocent, and nobody talks about me.
23:43That's illegal.
23:45He didn't have an answer either, and he didn't poop, so he's fine. I didn't poop, so I'm in trouble. You guys find out...
23:50It's too troublesome; it's like this everywhere.
23:54The flexible thinking of Chinese people makes it difficult in many litigation processes.
23:58To achieve a reasonable outcome that is mutually agreed upon.
24:01Injustice, inequality, and unreasonableness are the reasons that lead to litigation.
24:06Whether the judiciary is fair determines the success or failure of people's lawsuits.
24:10However, during the pandemic, some advocated for people to be exempt from litigation. So, if we are in Japan...
24:16In daily life, what should we do when we encounter unfair, unequal, or unreasonable situations?
24:23If you truly understand the challenges posed by the pandemic, you'll realize that anyone should think things through before starting anything.
24:32Will this lead to a lawsuit? Will it?
24:35If possible, I will try to avoid it. I will communicate beforehand, and I can find someone to go.
24:41greet.
24:43Now let me give you a very specific example. If you do medical work and make a diagnosis, will people interview you?
24:50What will you do?
24:52If you arrest them, they'll only stop visiting less; once you start arresting, they'll become much bigger.
24:58We'll stop the mass visits; we'll keep cracking down on them anyway.
25:01Since I'm going to be sued anyway, I'll do this batch, you sue me, I'll do more batches.
25:06You're just suing me, and you're in big trouble.
25:09He was initially embarrassed to be so blatant; he only secretly visited a little bit.
25:14I'll only have the money to sue you if he launches a large-scale petition and comes here.
25:18By the time the judge issues a verdict, your company may have already gone bankrupt. That's why Chinese people say...
25:24You're absolutely not going to get caught.
25:27But after they arrest you, you won't send you to court; you'll find someone influential to step in.
25:32Mediation between the two sides.
25:35You've already visited before, so that's it; you don't need to anymore.
25:41He thought, "I've made so much money already, so I might as well stop being so busy."
25:45This is called an out-of-court settlement, turning a big problem into a small one, and a small problem into nothing.
25:53So Song Gua tells us that kicking means you need to be vigilant about yourself, because you need to be vigilant.
25:58I can't help others.
26:00I am law-abiding and disciplined; I also need to prevent others from using improper methods to harass me.
26:08trouble.
26:09I also need to be careful not to provoke people too much, or they won't be able to handle it.
26:15He'll mess things up tomorrow.
26:19Being a person is difficult.
26:22Therefore, after reading Song Gua, we should understand that life is a constant series of hardships.
26:31Self-growth amidst adversity.
26:37We've always wanted a simple life: the government sets the laws, everyone follows them, and five thousand...
26:45It's something we can't do even in a year.
26:48You say you can't do it, I guarantee I can.
26:52We'll train traffic police officers in batches, teaching them where to find long guns and where to go on the road.
26:59There are many bridges, where are they? Red window spirit, slap, on-site law enforcement, red window spirit, slap, super
27:09Loop, snap.
27:11I guarantee everyone will behave, but what kind of country is this? What kind of society is this?
27:18When the Japanese were in Taiwan, if they caught a thief, their first thought would be to pin his leg down and chop him off.
27:23They can be killed because these are not their compatriots; of course, they can be cut down.
27:26Nobody dares to be a thief, but we can be here too. Anyone who is caught stealing will be beheaded.
27:33You should come. I promise there won't be any thieves, but would you want that kind of society?
27:41It's terrifying to even talk about, so what are you going to do? I'm asking you, what are you going to do?
27:48So, in the end, it all comes down to everyone talking about positive things, about everyone taking care of themselves, and about...
27:55These things may seem like nonsense, but they end up being the most useful.
27:59This is the best inspiration we can get from reading the Yogācāra.
28:15Because Yoshitsune tells us that humanity has no other way to go.
28:21We've even said before that when ordinary people aren't afraid to break the law or die,
28:26What use is your law?
28:28You say if you grab a wall, it's a wall; I'm thinking of a bank, what about you?
28:37A lawsuit that fails to convince the people is dishonorable, even to a holy ancestor; but the people...
28:42Once a lawsuit begins, people often overlook the essence of the matter and instead try to find ways to resolve it.
28:46They tried every means to prove themselves and get an explanation.
28:51However, the Book of Righteousness tells us that we must act with conscience and take care of ourselves.
28:57So, can learning from pandemic experiences help people reduce litigation?
29:04He was taught from a young age that you must rely on your conscience; otherwise, what you gain will be the least.
29:10He gradually learned that he couldn't keep what he had, and he became very careful not to steal from others.
29:19Don't take things that don't belong to you.
29:23However, we must say that when a child takes money from home and spends it, you...
29:28Don't assume that because a child is investing your money, you shouldn't.
29:32Because he had no concept of stealing, many children were wronged; he had no right to steal.
29:37What is the concept of stealing?
29:38He didn't say that property has a qualitative concept; he didn't, he didn't understand.
29:44He thinks that if the money is there, and you, as an adult, are spending it, then you are spending it too; there's nothing wrong with that.
29:47Isn't that wrong?
29:50So when a child takes money out, don't immediately say it's money meant for the family.
29:54That's the adults' fault.
29:57You need to tell him that if he wants to use the family's money, that's fine, because he's part of our family, and Dad can spend it.
30:03Money, Mom can spend money, so of course you can spend money too.
30:05But you need to tell Mom and Dad so we can know that it wasn't outsiders who came to invest; it was one of our own.
30:11I took it.
30:12"How much do you want? Discuss it with Dad." Dad said, "No, no, no, you talk to Mom."
30:16After discussing it, he realized that both sides needed to be consulted.
30:20This is what education should be like.
30:24Then the parents said, "Oh no, this child is so young and already knows how to steal. That's terrible."
30:30The child said, "If you think I'm a thief, then I'll show you how I am."
30:34What did you do to me?
30:36Then he has inappropriate needs, and you don't know how to guide him.
30:41If it ultimately leads to litigation, the entire population will disobey you, and the judge...
30:49The more full a place is, the more chaotic society becomes.
30:54This is relative; we'd rather judges receive a salary without doing any work—that's what Confucius meant.
31:02What is said will certainly not be sent away.
31:07I'm trying to find a way to prevent everyone from going to court. I'm not forbidding you from going to court, that won't work.
31:12I have ways to resolve and mitigate the issues, take preventative measures, raise everyone's awareness, and then let...
31:21Everyone knows that lawsuits usually end up being a lose-lose situation for both sides.
31:25Everyone is very cautious; whatever they do, to put it bluntly, they all see the bad side.
31:32Let me preface this by saying that I shouldn't just keep saying "good things."
31:35When someone wants to invest, you should tell them that there are risks involved.
31:39Of course it's not big, it's about five percent, you can't measure it very much.
31:44We're not like that now. There's absolutely no wishful thinking; we're 100% guaranteed to make money. If you don't invest today...
31:49You'll regret it tomorrow.
31:51Then, out of necessity, he started suing you.
31:57You made such nice promises back then, that's why I invested.
32:00You're luring me into a trap, then you just push me away and ignore everything else. Brilliant!
32:06There was no result regarding Gao.
32:09An honest, helpful person would have long since emptied his pockets and moved all his money elsewhere.
32:12go.
32:14Come on, the court has seized it, but there isn't any.
32:17A final check revealed nothing.
32:20Nobody's that stupid as to stay here and wait for you to come and seize it, wait for you to come and investigate.
32:26True happiness comes from taking precautions beforehand and avoiding regrets afterward.
32:32This is the true definition of happiness.
32:34Happiness isn't about laughing and joking; laughing and joking means not using your brain.
32:39Not using your brain is a recipe for disaster, and you don't even realize it.
32:43That's called naivety, that's called being a clueless girl, that's because even the Meng hexagram doesn't understand it, the Song hexagram, its middle...
32:51The core idea is to study how to avoid litigation.
32:57So next time we'll talk about how to resolve litigation, because litigation is very tiring, and how to handle it.
33:06Eliminate and remove the negative categories, making things easier for everyone.
33:10Thanks.
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