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00:00hello hello hello welcome back to another sunday session of call her daddy guys i i feel like a
00:09different person okay because i have been so consumed i have been so just not focused on
00:17anything in my life other than reading this one goddamn book series and i have turned into a
00:23monster matt at night is like i know i'm like still working but like like to put your book down
00:30like pretend you're paying attention to me and i'm like but you're working he's like i know but
00:33like you never look at me anymore this book is consuming your life and i'm like it's amazing
00:37it's everything i need right now let me just tell you it's called fourth wing i am so late to
00:43the
00:43party for all the fourth wingers that are like babe like this has been out for so long i know
00:48but to
00:49anyone that is has not read this book i just want you to know that like it has changed my
00:55life and i
00:56was okay i love akatar i had sarah j mass on the podcast you guys know that but i had
01:01never read
01:01fourth wing for some reason and lauren had told me like you need to read it you need to read
01:05it it's
01:05one of my favorite series and dumbly i could not sleep one night it's like 12 30 matt's dead asleep
01:14annoying as fuck snoring in my ear i'm like i will ruin your life and i'm trying to not scroll
01:20on
01:20social media and i'm like maybe i just need to open a book and so i'm going through to look
01:25at
01:25downloading like what can i download and i see fourth wing on the list i'm like you know what
01:29that's probably like a really long book it's like romanticy but it probably will take a while
01:33to get into probably bore me to sleep perfect guys eight chapters 3 a.m eyes wide open i literally
01:43went into work the next day like hello everyone i looked so tired i was obsessed the first sentence
01:49had me hooked and that has been consuming my life so um it just ended i read the third book
01:54and now
01:54the next one doesn't come out for like a year so i'm kind of like tweaking out i'm going through
01:59withdrawals i feel a little bit like unsure of myself i'm weary i don't know who i am but let
02:04me just
02:04say having a good book in your life i am someone who goes through spurts of reading and then i
02:10will
02:10stop reading and i will just go through like a couple months where i just don't read anything
02:14but when you have a good book in your life your mood is up your vibe is up you're glowing
02:21you look
02:22more gorgeous you sound more gorgeous everything in life is less annoying no one's annoying me that
02:29much because i'm like i'm just like i'm barely listening to you because i'm just focused on when
02:34is the next time i'm gonna go pick up my book and read and so there's just this happiness
02:38happiness that i find whenever i have a really good book so this is your sign if you've been in
02:44a book rut if you want to get back to it pick up fourth wing or if you're not into
02:50like romanticity
02:51although let me tell you girl it's steamy it'll it'll impact your sex life it'll impact your life
03:00like you'll be good to go if you read it so enjoy violet and zayden are the main characters and
03:05i'm
03:05obsessed with them and i don't care if i'm coming off like a dork right now i don't care i
03:09need a
03:09new book guys comment down below what romanticy book should i read next and it needs to be romanticy
03:16i don't want something that has like human beings that are don't have any type of like power i want
03:23dragons i want fairies i want smut bitch okay so comment down below what is the next book i need
03:29to
03:30read i love that you guys are loving the sunday sessions lately and a lot of the times i open
03:33with
03:34kind of just a topic but i felt like today was important to just fully pour me into you and
03:42just
03:43give you guys as much wisdom as i can good advice maybe bad advice i don't know i just want
03:49to talk
03:49through what you guys are going through and do a full episode of questions of the motherfucking week
03:56so let's get into it call her daddy is brought to you by starbucks last week i had one of
04:02those days
04:02where everything was stacked back to back an early morning interview then a photo shoot and then
04:07meetings all afternoon and by the time it was 3 p.m i was crashing so hard but thankfully there's
04:13a
04:13starbucks right down the street from the office getting in a little coffee walk to starbucks has
04:18really it just helps me reset my afternoons maybe if you need to recharge you know great maybe you need
04:24a minute just to like stop scrolling your inbox whatever it is your favorite handmade starbucks drink is
04:30right there giving you an excuse to escape just for a second whether it's work school or literally
04:36whatever you're getting bugged out with i think we deserve to all make a little afternoon starbucks
04:40break part of the daily routine personally i have been loving going to get their iced brown sugar
04:47oat milk shaken espresso hello it's a little espresso some sweet brown sugar and cinnamon and then creamy
04:54oat milk to top it off it has truly become the thing i look forward to every single afternoon my
05:00office knows now that my starbucks walk is it's a bit of me time okay i have my routine now
05:07hit my slump
05:09work zoom out of the office walk to starbucks call my mom text my group chat and i'm ready to
05:15go for the
05:15back half of the day daddy gang we all deserve a little pause turn your afternoon into a reset moment
05:21with
05:21starbucks question number one i feel like this is so relatable to probably everyone watching
05:28depending on the side you're on but here we go hi alex i feel like i'm in a weird stage
05:33with my
05:33friends right now i don't know if i'm the problem i'm 25 and honestly still having my fun era i
05:38like
05:38going out traveling meeting new people and not taking myself too seriously but a lot of my friends have
05:43started to move to a more serious phase of life they're settling down with long-term partners focusing
05:47heavily on their careers talking about buying houses getting engaged all of that and lately when
05:52we hang out i can feel this subtle judgment from them about the way that i'm living my life i
05:57love my
05:57friends and we've been close for years but lately we've been in completely different wavelengths is it
06:02just a normal phase that will pass or are these friendships at the end of their course um this is
06:09such
06:10a huge topic that i feel like you could do a million different episodes on just because it is the
06:17most
06:18i just feel like honest and um relatable topic to probably everyone in their 30s and their 20s and
06:28even their 40s so i don't think that you are insane for feeling this way i do think my first
06:35bit of
06:36advice is like when friends start to all go in different directions because someone's like
06:41yes getting married and buying the house and they're doing that part doesn't mean they're ahead
06:45in life that's just where they're at and then you're still like enjoying your single life and
06:49you're partying that is going to obviously cause a little bit of division within a friendship just
06:55because you guys are on such different pages that the relatability of like topical conversation when
07:01you see each other it's just not there and so if anything it's more just like listening and
07:07trying to understand and be supportive rather than being able to relate which friendship most of our
07:14friendships are built on being able to relate oh my god we're in high school together we're going
07:18through this or oh my god we're in college together we're going through this or we're at the same job
07:21i think sometimes people even experience it if you meet a friend that you're at a job with and they
07:26leave or you leave it kind of can disrupt the friendship because so much of your relationship
07:32was built on being at work together and then when that is not the case anymore you're like
07:37what is our friendship based off of if not what it was originally started off of right and so i
07:44think
07:44you saying that these friends are phasing into this clearly you guys were at one point on the same page
07:50and so i want to validate you that like this is a huge separation to some capacity of your genuine
07:59honest start to the relationship of what you guys related on and now it has completely diverted
08:04what i will say is to give my personal um little anecdote i am relating to this because i have
08:13two
08:14friend groups essentially and in one of my friend groups i am the kind of like oldest
08:21ish and in terms of like life i'm the more like serious settled down i guess you would call it
08:27like you just referred to like i got the house i got married i am very serious about my career
08:33matt and i have been talking about kids like these are all things that we're working towards and then
08:38i all my other friends in that kind of friend group are a little bit on different pages whether
08:43they're not married yet but some of them have boyfriends or some of them are fully single enjoying
08:47clubbing life all the good things or some of them are kind of getting more serious thinking about
08:54marriage but like i'm the one that has kind of gotten all of those um pieces of my life that
09:00i i
09:00don't even i don't even want to call it more established because it's just not like it's all
09:03subjective right but in that category i'm there then in my other friend group i am the youngest i am
09:09the
09:10person that is like every one of my friends in this group has kids and i'm just constantly sitting
09:16there where they're talking about oh my god and i have to bring him here and i have to get
09:20my daughter
09:20here and this and this was a disaster and this and oh my god and the babysitter and i constantly
09:26am
09:26like trying to remind myself that my problems do matter i'm like whenever i'm around them sometimes
09:32i'm like oh my god i don't even want to complain because they have so much going on with these
09:36kids
09:36and i don't have kids so i'm like uh yeah they're like what's going on in your life i'm like
09:40oh yeah
09:40bruce and henry were really stressing me out last night like no it's not even comparable but i recognize
09:46that i still can exist as me and still share things with that group of people and i do but
09:54i do get it
09:55like i'm a little bit like oh like you guys are so much more ahead of me in that department
09:58and i kind
09:59of like it's not that i don't matter but it's just a thing that we go through right my advice
10:04to you is
10:05with that group of friends who is more like established and has kids around me
10:08they have never made me feel like i am less than because i don't have kids yet or because i'm
10:16not
10:16in that preschool phase of life if anything what i love about them is they're so not threatened and
10:23in their life and they're happy with their life that they always ask me like okay wait what's going
10:28on what's happening like tell me the hot gossip like tell us everything and they enjoy almost like
10:33sinking their teeth into my part of life because they're not jealous they're excited to find out
10:39about what's going on in my life and i feel for you that you can differentiate pretty quickly are
10:44your friends making subtle jabs or are you insecure that you feel distanced from them so you're taking
10:49them talking about their situation as them being insensitive which is so fair because you're
10:54internalizing it but maybe they're not being actually assholes you're just getting insecure
10:59or are they actually making comments like god krista like you got to get it together like how many more
11:04club floors can you like throw up on and you're like i plan a couple more i think like i'm
11:11having a good
11:12time um that i think you have to decipher and really try to get objective but the overall i guess
11:19advice in
11:20the situation is i think sometimes with friendships we have this really intense need to hold on to
11:29the best parts of the friendship that sometimes evolve and change and we want to get back to that
11:36place that it started and it's sometimes just not possible sometimes people grow people change
11:42circumstances change and it's okay if you are not as close to someone as you were and maybe it will
11:50swing back around like i've had so many friends where we started so close then we had a little
11:55bit of distance because similar to what you're going through she ended up getting married i was
12:00still on the streets in new york doing my thing like we kind of didn't have much in common anymore
12:04we'd catch up lightly but it wasn't the same and then when i met matt and i got married like
12:10we had so much more to bond over and then we got closer again not that we weren't friends but
12:16just the
12:16actual closeness and the relatability was there i also think we have to remember that in your 20s
12:23and your 30s everyone is like having to be a little selfish right everyone has to be focused on their
12:30own life be focused on their careers and their romantic relationships and if they want kids or
12:35don't they want kids or if they're struggling to have kids like there's so much and family shit
12:40don't even get me started so i think the weight of life really comes at us in our 20s and
12:4630s
12:46and i think friendship is something that has to kind of ebb and flow because it is inevitable that so
12:54many people are going to be on different pages and if you are not willing to just like lightly adjust
13:00as it hurts it sucks if you're not as close with someone but if you're not willing to recognize like
13:05oh we're just not as close right now because like we're on different pages it stings a little bit
13:10but it's worse when you try to like fit the peg in the round hole or whatever the fuck it's
13:15called
13:15and you keep trying to force something that just right now maybe it needs a little bit of space so
13:21i'm sorry you're going through that but just know i feel like that's literally every one of my friends
13:26and i talk about this and we have so many different friend groups that you can kind of put yourself
13:31into a different scenario for like the fact that i'm you and one of my friend groups and then i'm
13:36the women you're talking about in another friend group it's all it's life like that's what's going
13:41to happen and you just have to not be too hard on yourself and maybe find some more friends who
13:47are
13:47in that phase of life with you and how beautiful like that will be a fun new group that you
13:52can hang
13:52out with doesn't mean you have to get rid of your old friends okay next hi alex i'm a 42
13:57year old
13:58woman living in north carolina the dating scene is pretty bad here but i was at the gym last weekend
14:03and this guy was checking me out i didn't think anything of it until he asked for my number when
14:08i was leaving okay just pausing there like so proud of a man actually fucking approaching a woman
14:14don't love that it's at the gym but i love that you specify that it's when you're leaving not when
14:18you're like mid-rep and he's like hi janice wanna wanna bang in the bathroom um maybe that would have
14:25been hot i don't know um you said as we were texting to set a date i found out he
14:29is only 25
14:30years old i don't get hit on by hot guys often anymore so i don't want to pass up the
14:34opportunity
14:34but is it insane to still go on a date with this guy girl no are you kidding me this
14:41is what this is
14:42what life is about i mean listen i don't know if i'm 42 and single like what i'll be looking
14:48for
14:49but i'm sure it would be like a hot fuck like if matt and i got divorced and i was
14:5242 and single
14:54like maybe you're looking for something like that you just said you haven't been hit on like you
14:58want to explore you're not making this man your husband please for the love of god don't make this
15:03man your husband but have fun i think that sometimes when you are single no matter the age
15:08we sometimes need to get outside of our comfort zone like you probably go for the same man
15:14you probably always go for the same type and this will make you maybe this will make you come alive
15:21like maybe you can teach this boy something right i also just think like men do it all the time
15:26like
15:27why can't women he's of age this is not creepy um it's a hookup he approached you you were looking
15:34hot at the gym imagine how hot you're gonna look on a date i think we bang him and i
15:39yeah i mean we i
15:40think we bang him and you let us know how it goes and you're in your milf era like there
15:45could be a
15:45world where this reignites something in you like maybe you squirt on his face i don't know you never
15:51know until you try so janice that's not your name but you know what i mean get out there i
15:57love that
15:57for you guys remember the other sunday session i did where i was like nobody is approaching anyone
16:03in person anymore i used to say a man approaching a woman at the gym was a cardinal sin and
16:10it is
16:10but you were leaving and there's something that we're gonna take men approaching women
16:16we're gonna take it we're gonna take it if you're not creepy and you did it in a right way
16:21i am gonna
16:22say go on a date with a man if he ever approaches you and you're not repulsed by him and
16:25he doesn't
16:26come off as creepy and you're like huh go on the date next question hi daddy i have been dating
16:33someone for about three years and he is obsessed with his morning routine he has a 5 a.m alarm
16:39every
16:39morning followed by a meditation app cold shower 30 minutes of journaling and a green juice there are
16:44no off days when we first started dating i pretended i was into it i'd wake up early drink the
16:49juice do
16:49the meditating oh girl you're strong but now that we're actually in a relationship i'm exhausted it
16:56makes me dread sleeping over at his place how do i admit i'm not into this without disappointing him
17:01oh my god oh my god this is my fucking nightmare oh my god okay um you should never dread
17:10sleeping
17:11over your boyfriend's house this should be a fun activity this should be a oh i'm taking an
17:16everything shower kind of night you know i'm gonna shave my legs for this man i'm gonna shave my underarms
17:23for this man and the bush canush like this is supposed to be fairy tales rainbows butterflies
17:32and sex and instead you are like sleeping at night literally so stiff praying to god you're like is it
17:425 a.m yet you're like tweaking out because you're so anxious about his 10 alarms that he fucking sets
17:47and then he literally wakes up at 5 and he's like let's get after it baby and you want to
17:51cry
17:52but you've committed to the lie oh my god that's the worst it's like when i lied about like liking
17:56edm to this one guy in college and i was like oh my god me edm ah he's like have
18:00you ever been to
18:00firefly festival i was like obviously and he's like wait who's your favorite performer and i was literally
18:05like everyone how could i pick who was yours and then he named some edm or that i don't even
18:16know
18:16and i was like no wait that was 100 percent my favorite you're so right and i kept on this
18:22lie
18:22to the point where he invited me to a concert and i was like hey hey i didn't know a
18:26thing about edm
18:27okay i didn't even know i don't even know what edm sounds like and i went so far so far
18:32down this
18:33i changed my facebook settings to be like edm girl music i was like stalking him putting some
18:40of the songs that he had that he liked on his facebook into my likes like i was deep in
18:45the
18:45trenches thankfully um i never made this man my boyfriend so i wasn't like in that car listening
18:51to edm on our way to church in the morning i never went to church in college but you know
18:56what i'm saying
18:58but this is your boyfriend like you committed to this man you're sleeping at this man's house
19:02and you are green juicing it up wellness hitting hard left right smacking it harder than ever in
19:11the morning you want to die you literally want to die you want cheetos and a bagel and you want
19:18to
19:18be hung over in bed watching sex in the city on your sunday and instead you're doing burpees
19:23like this is my this is my personal hell here's my advice oh what would i do what would i
19:30do because
19:31to his credit he is thinking you're you're you're one with him like he's thinking like we're both
19:39getting swole together bro so the problem is how far you've taken the lie what i do think you can
19:45just say is like hey babe hey babe um i am so always the sandwich right i'm so inspired by
19:56how
19:58serious you commit to and take your morning routine and i love how healthy you are but i think i
20:06got on
20:07that flow with you and i really have enjoyed a lot of the moments you start crying you're like no
20:14i
20:14really have enjoyed it i was like it's stop um you're like i really enjoyed it but i think i'm
20:20realizing that i have just like a different need and want for my mornings and for the way that i
20:29approach
20:30my wellness journey let's say and i think sometimes it's getting to the point where like there are some
20:36mornings where i want to lay in bed and relax and enjoy myself after like a long week of work
20:40and i feel like i have to get up and go go go with you and i was wondering if
20:45it would be no don't even
20:47ask this man for permission so i think i'm going to do some mornings where i don't participate and if
20:52you don't mind just like being a little quiet in the morning and just like sneaking out and going
20:56and do your thing of course i don't want to tell you not to do it but i think i'm
20:58gonna like
20:59i think i'm gonna chill a little bit here i'm getting a little burnt out if this man is like
21:05wait so you're not coming to the gym with me at five what do you mean what do you mean
21:09we just
21:09went to lululemon together we bought new we bought new spanks like we got matching outfits like what
21:14do you mean babe what do you fucking mean as he's like doing another ginger shot this may be not
21:21your
21:21guy but i do believe that like because you've gone along with it for so long maybe you just need
21:26to
21:26break the fucking and and start eating like a bagel in front of his face and be like i'm not
21:30going
21:31okay okay fuck off i think you can do that i don't imagine a world where this man would be
21:38like
21:38what the fuck is wrong with you i think if anything like i said girl i've been there uh you
21:44just built
21:45the lie out a little too long and a little too hard you committed so hard to the lie you're
21:51now reaping
21:52the repercussions this man's kind of done nothing to you and thank god he's not the opposite end where
22:00it's like big belly beer bob who's just like 18 cases deep watching the fucking sporting event
22:09never gets off the couch literally is pounding beers his whole body is just like desiccating before
22:16your eyes and you're like oh my god this man is so unhealthy and he like never does anything like
22:22at least this man's like taking care of his body like this is someone that will have longevity
22:26potentially in life and cares about well let's make sure he doesn't care about his appearance too
22:31much like are there like mirror selfies that are going along with these 5 a.m jaunts because if there
22:35are oh oh sarah i fear i fear this for you maybe let's reel it in look at him look
22:45at the actions and
22:47look if you just ended up basically getting involved with like a soul cycle instructor and you're literally
22:52like i think i got a little too carried away i think a little too carried away i got hooked
22:57i feel
22:58like i'm living with goop and i gotta go um that's for you to decide but damn because there's nothing
23:06better than like hitting them with like a little one-two punch of like a little white lie a little
23:11white lie in the beginning and you're just like oh my god that white lie just made us actually go
23:16to
23:16the next level and like it's so white lie like it doesn't matter and then they like fully commit and
23:21they're like oh my god you do like that and you're like yeah i love that and they're like
23:27oh my god do i have plans for us and you're like oh my god no way and then you
23:36actually are four years
23:39in and you're doing something you fucking hate but then it's like you can't blame them because
23:44you're the liar oh my god i'm actually crying that is so funny oh my god i used to do
23:48that all the time
23:51it's such an easy thing like men are so stupid too so like you can like white lie to pretend
23:57like
23:57you like something with them and like there's obviously like the innocent one like oh my god you
24:01like the cowboys i love the cowboys easy you buy a fucking jersey you shake your tits every sunday
24:06and you watch peyton manning or who who's the that's not you whatever whatever fucking quarterback
24:12he's retired um whatever quarterback and you're fine you're fine but when those lies baby girl
24:19impact your life to the point where it takes over your life to the point where you're trying to run
24:24so far in the other direction like you're like like i wanted to listen to heavy metal by the time
24:29i was
24:29done with that man okay edm was so taking over my life i was like i want screamo music how
24:34about that
24:35i want to fucking bash my head into the wall and i want to go listen to metallica it really
24:40can drive
24:41you somewhere where you didn't necessarily intend to be but you're kind of fucked so take care of
24:46yourself girl and honestly like get a sleep mask some earplugs set the alarm for your normal time
24:52and let's see if this man can respect your fucking boundaries oh that was a good one please comment
24:59down below what are some embarrassing lies that you said to a man that like seemed like so innocent at
25:04the time like oh this will just make this a little easier and then you were so far down in
25:08the lie
25:08train that you're like oh my god why did i ever lie to this man now i have to pretend
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28:01listing today next hey father i have been no contact with my mom for almost a year after realizing in
28:10therapy that my anxiety came from being her emotional support growing up my brother is also
28:15no contact but my sister still has a close relationship with her my sister understands why
28:20we stepped away and even acknowledges the unhealthy dynamics but she refuses to set boundaries or be
28:24honest with our mom it's starting to strain our relationship because i don't understand how
28:28she can see the issue and still stay so close do i confront her about it and try to convince
28:33her
28:33to go no contact or just let her have her own relationship with our mom okay um whoa that is
28:44damn going no contact with a parent is from what i understand i've never done it but i've talked to
28:50friends who have done it i've talked to therapists like it seems like one of the most painful decisions
28:57that you really have to make in your life because that means that you're at one point primary care
29:03or lack thereof should have been um has pushed you so far to a point that you have essentially had
29:11to cut them off in a way that like literally feels like death like it feel and it's almost harder
29:17than
29:17that because you're like they're still out there but i am actively choosing to not engage in a
29:21relationship with them and the strength that it takes to do that i commend anyone who has been able
29:26to do it because from what i've talked with therapists and everything like it is one of the hardest
29:30decisions you'll ever make in your life not because like it's hard to not give in to a parent right
29:38who
29:38raised you no matter how toxic they are what i feel like with your sister and i had a situation
29:45in my
29:46life recently that's not fully applicable but like when it came to grief we were talking about it and
29:51like i was watching two people grieve so so differently and so it was just such a significant
29:58difference and they were just as close to the same person and it was a whole thing and you're watching
30:02these two people and you're like wow how can two people grieve so differently but that's life right
30:07like their relationship to the person clearly was different in their eyes and their reactions are
30:12different and their emotions are different and that's you and your sister like this doesn't mean that
30:17your sister is not so wounded on the inside and in so much pain and wanting your mom to get
30:22healthy
30:22and to not do what she's doing but your sister has not been able to go no contact for a
30:29reason that i
30:30almost think you can empathize with her while still maintaining boundaries um i think you going no contact
30:38is your decision but to try to like pull your sister into that i actually think it will only make
30:44you
30:46feel like you could she will feel resentment almost towards you if she decided to do that
30:51for you and not for herself i also think what's probably really painful for you is like
30:57this is your mother and in some way you had you made the hard decision to go no contact but
31:02your sister
31:03is still speaking to her and so i don't want to speak for you but i'm trying to put myself
31:08in your
31:08shoes like there also could be some subconscious thing where you're also feeling guilty like she
31:15hasn't abandoned mom even though we all should abandon this woman but i have and like the only tie i
31:22still have to my mother is through my sister and so you're seeing still the dysfunction through your
31:27sister and that's understandably so triggering to you and so you want your sister to get removed from it
31:32so you are fully removed from it and i think the answer to this is you need to just set
31:38boundaries
31:38with your sister i never want to tell you what to do with mom i know we all have such
31:43different
31:44situations with her and i know it is beyond complicated but i have made such a painful
31:49decision for myself that i knew i needed to go no contact and in order to maintain a relationship
31:54with you i need you to respect my no contact with mom which means i don't want to hear about
32:01her
32:01like when we're together i need us to talk about our relationship and what's going on in your life
32:06and my life and i do not want to know or talk about mom because you're the only thing in
32:10my life
32:11that's threading me to her and i have actively made the decision to remove her from my life
32:17overall i just will say like and i i talk about this all the time with my mom and my
32:22therapist and
32:23my friends like family shit when it comes to parents who are dysfunctional and immature
32:31um toxic abusive it is one of the biggest mind fucks you will ever experience in your life
32:39and i have so much empathy for i've watched so many of my friends go through this and it is
32:45it is it ruins families it ruins um parts of your life until you're able to be like oh my
32:53god i
32:54can't let this fucking person control my life anymore yes you were my mother or my father growing
32:58up but like this is my life and i need to take ownership of it and get away from you
33:03because
33:03you're so fucking toxic but saying that about a parent it like it's close to impossible right
33:10especially a mother like you came out of this woman like this woman is a part of you you are
33:16a part of
33:16her like there's so much complexity there if you guys would ever want me to have like a therapist on
33:22to talk about like the specifics of dysfunction in families when it is stemming from one of the
33:30parental figures i would be more than happy to do that um and even if you guys write in like
33:35really
33:36specific scenarios because i bet a therapist would be so helpful in breaking that down of how to handle
33:41those situations i remember back back in the day one of my episodes i did was cutting off a parent
33:46who
33:47is narcissistic and i had a therapist on and so many of you really related and it broke my heart
33:53because i think it's more common to have a parent like that than to have a healthy parent and that
33:59is
33:59so unfair to the child who is now an adult and you know experiencing the repercussions um but i i
34:08believe
34:08you can do this and i really i i think that your sister will understand i think it's just going
34:13to
34:13take a couple of hard conversations okay next um hi alex i need some help i've been dating my
34:19boyfriend for a little over a year i love him and he's my best friend but i feel like i'm
34:23not
34:23sexually fulfilled by him in the past i've been with toxic men and the sex was really good i can't
34:29tell
34:29if i'm just settling now or maybe i'm not recognizing a healthy connection i feel like i need a dominant
34:35man
34:36and i can't communicate that to my partner without killing the vibe help oh
34:45fuck it's so hard when you go from like toxic men to like a healthy man and you're like
34:49all right you're like cracking your neck you're like this is good for us and your brain is like
34:56toxic and you're like no this is stable and they're like let's go back to johnny and you're like
35:03shut the fuck up johnny was horrible to us and it's like but the sex was fun and we were
35:07on the
35:08edge and you're like stop it your brain does such crazy things to you when you've been in these like
35:13toxic push and pull relationships they're toxic and they're toxic for a reason but when you get
35:18out of them there's a romantic a romanticization i don't know if i just said that right and a
35:25glamorization that happens in our brains where it's like we lose all of the negativity and then we
35:31just like remember the good and then all of a sudden we're like that was such a thrill hey and
35:36then we turn on like a movie and like the bad guy and the girl fall in love and you're
35:40like hey maybe
35:41johnny wasn't so bad and it's like he was just as bad if not worse than you remember and going
35:46back
35:46to him will only ruin your self-worth even more but we remember those things and i think sex when
35:53you
35:53have a toxic partner that is the one thing that becomes really really fucked up when you get out of
35:59a
36:00toxic situation is the memory of the push and pull and your literal brain going from oh my god i'm
36:09in
36:10fight or flight and i think i'm gonna lose this person and we just had a fight and then we
36:13got
36:13back together and then we had crazy good sex that's not normal to constantly be going up and down and
36:19up
36:19and down in a relationship but it is then normal for your brain to get a high when you guys
36:26get back
36:26together and have that makeup sex so then when you find a normal partner that's stable and sweet
36:32and kind and is not going to fuck with your emotions and scream at you for what you're wearing
36:36and get in a fight and then you don't go out with your friends and then you make up and
36:39then you have
36:39sex and you're all over the place emotionally your dysregulated emotions cause sex to feel so heightened
36:47with a toxic partner that that just doesn't exist with a normal partner and what i know is like
36:54you have to retrain your brain you guys because you also can't survive forever on that toxic partner
36:59you're going to literally self just deplete yourself and then you're going to self-abandon you're not
37:05going to be an individual anymore so like you also have to go through okay is this partner actually
37:11someone you love pause on sex for a minute because you caught you obviously have such a negative
37:16connotation towards it even though you think it's positive do you love this partner they're stable
37:20you're saying what did you say you said like i can't tell if the like i'm sexually fully fulfilled
37:27by him i want a dominant man do you want a dominant man or a toxic man don't lie to
37:31my face do you want
37:32a toxic man a dominant man i mean sure you could ask him to throw you up against the wall
37:37and like
37:38he can still be a nice man that treats you nicely right i think that if you genuinely have this
37:43healthy
37:43connection the first part is you should feel safe enough to express this to your partner babe i love
37:50you i you know i was thinking about our sex life and i'm like i want to spice things up
37:55i want to try
37:55some things new and like i really want to do xyz i think there's more times than not a partner's
38:02always gonna be like oh okay i'm down if you position it like i was thinking about you i don't
38:06know i was
38:06like at work i don't know what the fuck i was doing i was bored and i literally just started
38:10thinking
38:10about our sex life and i was like i really want to try this like where you're more dominant and
38:14i'm
38:14kind of submissive and blah blah the guy he's gonna be like whoa like okay like where did this come
38:20from
38:20you're like i don't know like i just i want to try something new together great but if you feel
38:25like
38:26you can't tell that to him or if you actually think no he'll do that it's just you're missing the
38:31toxicity then you need to get into therapy because poor garrett is gonna be like i just flung you over
38:39my shoulder i walked us up the stairs i threw you against the bed i handcuffed your arms to the
38:45headboard i spread your legs i did it all i brought the toys i brought it and and and you
38:52still were
38:53like thinking about johnny therapy or have the conversation with him and let him tie you up let's
39:01see what happens let's see what happens um sex can always be improved i genuinely believe the last
39:07statement though is there is a chance that you're just not physically connected to this man and it
39:11has nothing to do with that he's a good guy like he could be toxic for all you no i'm
39:16not even gonna
39:17go there there's a chance there's just no physical connection and you don't physically enjoy him
39:23that's fair you have to figure that out for yourself is it because you want him to be toxic or
39:28is it
39:28because you literally don't have a connection with him i unfortunately can't get in bed with you
39:33and answer that for you so you are gonna have to do the hard hitting on the ground research and
39:37then
39:37get back to me daddy gang you guys know i love a good sweat set right but when it comes
39:44to the met
39:44gala i am locked in okay i am watching every single rival i'm texting my friends about which looks i'm
39:52obsessed with which i love which i don't love the style of like i'm clocking every couple that just
39:57like hard launch on the carpet like i'm in it okay since anna wintour has stepped down from vogue's
40:02editor-in-chief i feel like there's so much anticipation for this year in particular we're
40:07like what is gonna happen all of us are like what's going down and the theme this year is costume
40:12art
40:12so i personally can't wait to see how creative everyone is gonna get everyone has an opinion on
40:18this night obviously and i will be using polymarket to see which ones are actually right this is my
40:23favorite thing you guys polymarket is the world's largest prediction market where you can see what
40:28people are thinking and what they think is going to happen before it actually does with polymarket
40:33you'll see real questions about what's going on in pop culture and the prices basically show what
40:38people think is most likely so example before the mat gala i can go on and check okay who's going
40:45to
40:45wear chanel who's going to show up together and who didn't make the list this year and because
40:50people actually have a stake in their predictions they tend to be more accurate it basically gives
40:56you a really clear idea of what people are noticing before it becomes the obvious take all over tiktok
41:02and it's not just the mat gala maybe you're predicting who's going to walk the victoria's secret
41:06fashion show which love island couple hello will actually stay together after the show or who's going
41:12to win or who's headlining coachella next year okay basically anything that you're already paying
41:16attention to in pop culture there is now a place to predict it so if you're always calling things
41:22early and sharing hot takes with your boyfriend on date night or your best friends those opinions
41:27actually have somewhere they can now go it's free to sign up and just easy to use download polymarket
41:34now available in the united states have fun okay next oh god okay hi daddy i need help because i
41:44think
41:44i'm jealous of a dog okay let's listen i've been in a situation ship for a while where i'm constantly
41:50wanting more attention and reassurance from this guy and barely getting it he's emotionally distant
41:55from me but with his dog he's obsessed baby voice cuddling instagram stories constant affection the dog
42:03is treated like royalty so i know this guy is capable of what i'm looking for but i'm just not
42:08getting it
42:08how do i stop feeling insecure over a literal terrier first of all you guys know i'm a dog mom
42:15i love oh he takes instagram stories constant affection cuddling i love this man with his dog
42:20yet this isn't about the dog though put the dog aside let's pretend there is no dog you just sadly
42:26have something to compare it to and unfortunately it's a four-legged creature which is even more
42:31sad this man unfortunately you're watching him give attention to a dog being like i wish i could
42:37get that cuddle that's really that's really this we're we're bottom of the barrel right now we are low
42:43we are low britney we are lower than the bar is low it's one thing if you see him like
42:48with his mom
42:49and you're like oh that's weird or the sister or a friend we're talking about a terrier okay a little
42:56terrier who has no ill will towards you okay that he shits and he pees and he eats his dinner
43:02and he
43:02cuddles his dad what you're upset about is he's not giving you any reassurance because there's nothing
43:09to reassure you about it's a situationship he's coming and going as he pleases and he doesn't
43:15clearly like you enough to actually give you the energy that you are looking that his dog is even
43:20getting i just think you have to always look at yourself when you're yearning for more from a man
43:25when you're like oh i want more i wish he would give it stop don't ever wish a man would
43:31give you
43:32more if he's not that's your answer if you're like but i just feel like if he could just i
43:37want to
43:40no if he wanted to cuddle you and take instagram stories with you like he's doing with his dog
43:45he would you'd be right in between the terrier would be right in between you and him okay frank
43:51terrier britney boom a fucking sandwich it'd be a heavenly sunday you're all just cuddling together
43:58you're not there you're not even getting the invite like i don't think that this is the dog's problem i
44:05think that this man is fully showing you where his allegiance lies and it's not to his dog it's just
44:11not to you it's not fun it's not fun i know and i know some people be like god that's
44:21so harsh
44:21this is the harsh reality we need to when whenever we write in saying i feel this and i feel
44:27like i
44:28wish he would do this and i wish he would do that wish when you wish upon a star
44:36i don't know what the rest of the song is and if it's dreams come true well cut that okay
44:41because
44:41dreams don't come true when you wish for anything with a man if he wants you you will know whoa
44:49let's get a load of this one help all caps i accidentally hooked up with my building's doorman
44:56after a holiday party i'm so obsessed with you okay we haven't addressed it since but i have to
45:06see him basically every day and it's so awkward knowing i have to face him when i go down to
45:10get
45:10my hungover breakfast burrito delivery in the is the bane of my existence right now i'm attracted to
45:15him and down to hook up again but the vibe is really awkward right now and i don't know how
45:19to move
45:19forward oh my god first of all you lucky dog i have never in the history of ever had a
45:26hot doorman
45:27there has never been in a doorman in my life that i was like bert you want to bang like
45:32never oh my god
45:35and also the best part for you is you didn't wake up and be like oh my god look at
45:40jerry he's like 65
45:42but when i was hammered he looked 35 and i thought his cane was like his baseball bat from baseball
45:48practice i was so fucked up i fucked i fucked this old man like no you woke up and you
45:55said
45:56i would again and now it's just about finding that rhythm i kind of love this there's something
46:03really hot that could go down here because oh what if he goes on his little break but his break
46:08is to
46:08go up to the sixth floor and go into 602 and do you imagine the things that you could do
46:14now the
46:15problem is if this doesn't work out then it's just going to continue to be awkward so i think that
46:20this is what you're going to do take the risk you know take a risk take a chance and break
46:25away i think
46:27you're going to go down next time you're going down because it's you gotta go outside um and i think
46:35if
46:35he's there you could either get your food delivery so it's a little bit more of like a pause so
46:40you have
46:40a reason to like stay there for a second or if there's like the males near him and like make
46:45sure
46:45you like wear those yoga pants um but i think you just be like hey how have you been i
46:50think it's
46:51that fucking chill this man think about this from his perspective
46:57doorman manny let's call him manny oh manny you sexy little thing doorman manny is not trying to get
47:05fired bro doorman manny is like damn i fucked that bitch in 602 and she's hot as fuck and i
47:11can't
47:11believe that i fucked that bitch in 602 that's hot as fuck and manny's not trying to get his job
47:17whacked from him okay so manny's just trying to man the desk and manny's trying to keep his eyes
47:21above you know the neck level he's not trying to look at your cleavage when you're coming down he's
47:26not trying to make eye contact with you because you got to be the one to initiate right not that
47:30there's an hr i wonder if there's hr issues when it comes to doorman and residents regardless yeah
47:37he could make you like feel unsafe in your home you know so you could like whatever but you're not
47:42unsafe you want more from manny so i think you just have to approach him because he's not going to
47:48approach you because that think about it he's being so respectful doorman manny is like i'll wait for my
47:54queen to come back to me i'll wait for my princess to get up from her slumber she must had
47:58a hard night
47:59last night and i think you have to be the one and i think it's going to be as easy
48:03as a hey how have
48:04you been and it may take a second he may be so thrown off he may be like not knowing
48:10if it's a
48:11trap so he may be like yeah i've been good how are you and then you're like good and then
48:16you can like
48:16walk by or you can have the balls and you can be like good like what are you doing this
48:21weekend
48:21like do you have any um like i don't know what their times are called like do you have any
48:26time off like from from the building do you have any time off like want to hang literally go for
48:33it
48:33manny man what is that song manny doesn't know that's not a song that's not a song you are so
48:42in
48:42it's crazy it's now just fully on you and i think that it's more awkward to skirt around man dog
48:49than
48:49to just get in there and fuck his bones again and you can also establish i know that this is
48:55awkward
48:55you're literally in my building like this could go wrong but like let's have fun while it lasts
49:00and don't they rotate like doormen rotate okay so like while you're fucking him get his schedule
49:06so if things do go south girl you know his every fucking move and you will beep bop boop around
49:13whenever he's down there you're taking the south exit or you know you're crawling on the floor to
49:18get past manny or you're just not leaving your home for four days so you don't have to see manny
49:22it's a classic i love that for you so much everyone world of the story this week is fuck
49:27your doorman and get in there where you need to get in there um what else did we talk about
49:33really good stuff today really good important stuff i am feeling so inspired i hope you guys
49:40enjoyed this episode i wanted to just be a light fun bright episode um with a little sprinkle of
49:46family trauma it's a classic on call her daddy um i love you guys so much i hope you have
49:51a wonderful
49:52wonderful upcoming week i know you're probably sitting there thinking oh god tomorrow's monday
49:58no no it's not it's only a monday if you make it pretend it's friday tomorrow and then after you
50:04realize it's not friday then you can tell yourself but don't let yourself get the anxiety and the stress
50:09of the sunday scaries we're not doing it here on call our daddy today okay um love you guys so
50:15much
50:15i will see you fuckers on wednesday goodbye
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