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00:04i'm nervous i'm going to take it one step at a time i'm absolutely petrified 12 virgins are
00:12traveling to a unique island retreat that could change their lives forever this has made me the
00:19strangest day of my life being a virgin at the age of 22 feels very lonely i've just sort of
00:25given up
00:26all hope in a world saturated with sex more young adults than ever are caught in an intimacy epidemic
00:35the thought of having sex with someone scares me it gives me the ick i don't feel confident i'm
00:40missing out terrified of the thought of it nerve-wracking gut-wrenching embarrassing
00:45all i think about is what i'm going to get wrong can you point to the outer labia nope
00:55now they're getting a crash course in intimacy social media porn dating apps there are so many
01:03negative messages and we can help them blossom use it by stimulating the area guided by a team
01:09of experts you see yourself as proposal they'll confront their insecurities i'm hiding how upset
01:16actually feel exploring intimacy in every form yes yes good and maybe
01:28have sex with a trained therapist desperate times call for desperate measures
01:34or even one another why are you nervous around me i don't know it's so good
01:41i really do need to change my life the question is get a room guys who will finally be ready
01:48just like get a bit anxious to go all the way touching the hook on virgin island
02:01in the first phase of the course shame really interrupts pleasure the group confronted their shame
02:10now you have excellent bertie made small steps forward what do you think let's go but witnessing
02:17intimacy stared up joey's feelings of religious shame i literally thought that god cursed me with
02:24vaginismus to stop me from having sex and alex revealed the extent of his anxiety penny for your
02:31thoughts the main overriding thing is still that worry of not getting an erection the phase ended for me
02:38shame is feeling ugly sorry with the group letting their shame
02:44let it go let it go go up in flames
02:50now things are set to escalate imagine that your cock is going inside my vagina with the second phase of
02:57the course good turn-ons in society a lot of people feel ashamed to talk about sex it can be
03:05very
03:06embarrassing take a moment to look at your vulva but to have a really fulfilling sex life you have to
03:12know what turns you on
03:21good morning morning morning it's the morning of day three on virgin island
03:28oh here we go then and time for the group to discover what's in store over the next two days
03:36the next phase is turn-ons i think turn-ons might involve a lot of dirty talk it is quite
03:42a step up
03:43from hugging and stroking people's arms talking about like what turns you on is a private thing but
03:49i guess nothing is private on this island good morning i'm feeling nervous and tense over this
03:59it's going to be a very big challenge turn-ons guys your aim is to find everyone's turn-ons
04:08thing is i know all my turn-ons but talking about it feels quite daunting if one of the guys
04:14gets a
04:15bono like they're going to be like we're so proud of you we're proud i'm very nervous it just all
04:21feels
04:22like something i'm not allowed to think about like oh my gosh no no no no no you ready to
04:32know your
04:32turn-ons no do you know your turn-ons harry stars the group may be sexual beginners hi
04:42but celeste and danielle want them to imagine they're experts and embrace their turn-ons
04:51people get really confused they're like what turns me on is it positions or do i need to buy a
04:56new toy
04:57but what really turns us on is the feeling that we get during sex we call this our core desires
05:06this is the cornerstone of the whole course everyone should know their core desires if you
05:11want to have an amazing sex life find out what you want to feel during sex and tell your partners
05:16for me in sex it's all about feeling very special i want to feel powerful i want to feel like
05:23they're
05:24lucky to have me and for me i really like to feel like i'm the queen people have many different
05:32feelings that they want to have during sex and all of them are beautiful we don't shame any of them
05:38so you can just lie down relax to get them in the mood danielle begins with a visualization exercise
05:48i wanted to start thinking about a fantasy that you might be having it can be something that you saw
05:56in a movie or some erotics that you read and then start noticing what is the feeling that you want
06:06to
06:06feel in that moment you might want to feel loved or precious might want to feel masterful desired
06:23when ever you're ready come back sit at the edge of your mat
06:29with their core desires in mind thank you
06:33the experts want the group to write them down on a stone and share with each other
06:39could just play knots and crosses
06:55okay so who feel like they're ready to come up
07:00i'm gonna go great wonderful for joy her desires have always been complicated
07:07when i was in year seven and eight i thought it wasn't okay to be gay um
07:13i spoke to a church pastor when he started going on a rant about gay people being really sexual and
07:19slutty and promiscuous and i realized myself that i was bisexual
07:25but sex with a woman is like an undiscovered landscape i do feel a bit guilty for wanting to explore
07:32it
07:35so i put uh cherished um revered uh lost in the moment free and ultimately ravished
07:46yay that's my girl as others step up i'll do it some themes emerge for me i think the most
07:56important thing is to feel wanted feeling wanted i've put wanted i've mainly put wanted and appreciated
08:03are common desires i want to feel loved loved everyone wants to feel loved i've only got pampered on mine
08:09special praised and then we feel like nice and safe space while some want to be dominated i want to
08:17feel on edge and teased dominated i feel like a little bit of a perv telling you this but yeah
08:22we love
08:27so far only 24 year old bertie hasn't stepped up
08:33i do a lot of volunteering work in charity fundraising events i'm the one to try and
08:40get a lot of rich people to give money for charity we're disappointed in it but uh but when it
08:46comes
08:46to discussing you know sexual things i don't see myself as a a confident player uh i think
08:56turn-ons especially from the more sexual aspect should not be shared in front of everybody
09:03uh it should be kept as a secret between you and your partner which is why i wrote i have
09:09turn-ons
09:10but i'm not sharing them in front of everyone it should only be a secret between you and your partner
09:29that's about it really
09:30how are we all feeling i really liked it yeah i was just like oh wow this feels a bit
09:36different felt
09:37something in my nipples like as well you know what i mean oh yeah like it felt a bit
09:44the turn-ons exercise may have worked for some when i go home if i'm never in a relationship
09:48with someone i'm just gonna put it by their bedside table turn on
09:56but bertie is just not feeling it i was the only person in the group to not
10:00do it i didn't want to like say things in front of everybody you know i do kind of feel
10:04like i've been
10:05like the odd one out in the group now i feel like i've just taken a bit of a setback
10:10after that
10:11it certainly wasn't the most enjoyable workshop put it that way i felt a bit of uh uncomfortableness
10:20like everywhere really
10:24to help the group discover their turn-ons who's got the one-to-ones today mate they'll all have one
10:30-on-ones
10:31you've got a little a little okay which one's a little she's a sexological bodyworker
10:36island vibes thank you now i know starting with alex who has struggled to get turned on
10:43under the pressure of intimacy sex has been a sense of anxiety for me growing up my dad was quite
10:51emotionally repressed himself we had sex education in school at year five and i talked to my dad about
10:57it and he said oh that's rude don't talk about that i then became so embarrassed to talk or think
11:04about sex whenever sex or relationships or anything came on tv i used to leave the room
11:12it's estimated that half of modern men have experienced performance anxiety
11:19to help alex sexological body worker illil plans to get physical i want to work with him on receiving
11:26touch for me and recognizing when that performance anxiety kicks in and letting me know what he needs
11:32in order to bring arousal up so hopefully directions will come when he has a lot of pleasure hello
11:44so the idea of today is for us to do full body pleasure mapping you're gonna be guiding the whole
11:51thing
11:51whenever you feel yourself starting to worry about performance you can just say like can we slow down
12:01so take your clothes off i think i'd like to keep my boxes on yeah okay pleasure mapping is an
12:10exercise
12:10where illil touches alex all over his body so we can start laying down including his genitals so alex can
12:19lie back and concentrate on pleasure my sister touched it that feels nice yeah
12:27i've heard three people that i would describe as as a girlfriend but i never had sex with anyone
12:36the first time i tried i had a panic attack i was so nervous i couldn't get an erection and
12:41um
12:42i then convince myself that sex is something i guess scary or or nerve-wracking it's constantly playing on my
12:49mind
12:51is this the right speed yeah that's great
12:57very erotic so touching close to your underwear line it's almost like teasing you yeah all right
13:06what are you noticing getting more turned on really getting like excited
13:14it felt really nice when you're brushing past my genitals would you like me to do that yeah yeah
13:19yeah and i love when you move like that it kind of really lets me know that you're enjoying yourself
13:42amazing amazing amazing amazing amazing i'm gonna take my hand off very slowly
13:51so did you feel me fully aroused yeah could you feel youthfully aroused yeah yeah amazing
14:01have you ever felt aroused like that with someone not like that not to the point where i'm like
14:07moving my hips and feeling tingly you are very very erect yeah you did so good thank you so much
14:15bye bye i don't think i've ever felt that sort of level of eroticism before she's just had such a
14:20calming presence so yeah feeling really good and sort of inspires confidence going forward
14:29hey guys how did your one-on-one go good it went into genital touching and yeah that that felt
14:36really
14:47good it was really windy last night yeah like for a while i think like my tent was gonna blow
14:53away oh my
14:54god do a dorothy go to the yellow brick road celeste and danielle i've turned into a tin man and
14:59a
14:59scarecrow i'd probably be the lion because i'm the cowardly one
15:06it's the afternoon on virgin island how does that feel yeah yeah it feels good as the one-on-one
15:14sessions continue good you seem more open to me just baby steps the turn-on phase of the course is
15:22gathering pace may i direct you in touching my breasts yeah yes and a little more pressure okay
15:33and the group continues to open up to each other when i was at school all the boys like would
15:39walk
15:39past and be like oh you're all lesbians because you go to an all-girls school yeah when i was
15:45um like
15:4512 i remember thinking oh my gosh why has god given me so many gay friends i now have to
15:50convert all of
15:51them took me a couple years to realize that i was in fact one of them
15:57years of sexual anxiety have taken a physical toll on joy i have vaginismus this physical and
16:04psychological problem it causes pain if i can't insert a finger into my vagina you know how can i
16:11physically have sex with guidance from a lil she'll learn how to relax her body around touch we can
16:17actually practice towards penetration in a very slow process creating an alignment between what the
16:25head wants to do and what the body actually feels comfortable with hello beautiful
16:35so our attention for today is if you feel comfortable we can explore the opening of your vagina
16:42sometimes that's been hard because they all like close yeah maybe we can see it today
16:51i want you to just start by maybe putting your hands on your valva
16:57would you like to have a look where you're touching a little encourages joy to explore her body
17:03oh my gosh it's so weird can you see and in doing so change the way she feels about it
17:08take a moment
17:10to look at your valva and connect to her she's beautiful it's weird because i feel like she looks ugly
17:19when i was 12 i had this realization that i had been masturbating i went to christian camp and there
17:26was
17:26this call to come to the front for prayer for sexual sin i felt convicted like oh my gosh they're
17:33speaking about me i've i've sinned and i told my youth pastor and then she staged an intervention
17:41yeah it stuck with me it's been it's been hard to get that out of my head and now i
17:47want to be free to
17:47explore a sexual side to myself i want to enjoy my life and accept myself so what part are you
17:56curious
17:56about i think i want to just touch the outer labia can do like that you can like bring a
18:05little bit of
18:06vibration that's quite nice bit of rousing yeah yeah do you want to try it with oil yeah
18:17put it all over your vulva
18:21it does feel totally different yeah can you see your opening yeah you can see a tiny dot there yeah
18:28so that's your that's your clit oh that's so interesting the clit is like a miniature penis
18:34you will feel there's like a shaft see if you can feel the shaft okay
18:41sexological bodywork includes one-way touch can i yeah here oh allowing a lil with consent to help joy
18:52discover pleasure so how does it feel it feels really good i can feel arousal that's new
19:07awesome thank you very much for giving me this experience it's such a precious feeling
19:12really special it's like it's like she's safe she's safe she's good
19:22you got her yeah and i know what she looks like now as well
19:34hiya how was your thing um it was really good was it yeah it was really good she was like
19:42you
19:42need to focus on what feels good for you i think it's just like really i'm allowed
19:48i feel really good i feel really good yeah i just keep learning all these things about myself
19:53so proud to really connect with my body and so pleased that i felt like we just had this breakthrough
20:00joy has leapt forwards but not everyone is riding high bertie would you like to join us
20:06slash would you like a blanket um go on then what go on yet then to the blanket or go
20:12on then to joining
20:13us i'll see what i'll see i'll see how you feel yeah i think it's quite a chill convert at
20:17the moment
20:18yeah i'll see what i can do lovely lovely lovely to talk to you nice to talk to you yeah
20:21i can socialize
20:23don't worry i know you can i'm just inviting you to i'll see
20:41hey the clipboards it's late afternoon this questionnaire is multiple choice please choose all that apply
20:50to help the group explore the type of person that turns them on i put boobs so far the experts
20:57have
20:57handed out a list of questions body hair i like my girls with a full beard mate face shape i've
21:06never
21:06thought about this what's mine are you calling me a square head i don't think the color of hair or
21:16the color of eyes matter as long as the hair looks presentable great hygiene yeah clean hands clean
21:25nails and they've got to have i'm going to put banter you know you put a banter
21:34for marianne the questionnaire proves revealing ideal first date setting
21:41i just want to go hiking and then have a picnic somewhere but then i don't really necessarily want
21:46to be alone with a guy hiking on the first date yeah it depends on how safe i feel you
21:51know
21:53a lot goes on in my head all the time because i was diagnosed with adhd when i was about
21:59four
22:00and there's just a lot of emotions like i'm never not thinking about safety like when people do one
22:05go to the night stands in my head i'm like xyz could go wrong how are you going to an
22:09unknown
22:09place with this my brain goes sort of into overdrive i don't trust men all right we're done dusted high
22:18five cool yeah i know it is me but i don't know how to move forward
22:28marianne is very much in her head she's trying to manage her boundaries so she won't get hurt
22:37and in that way she's holding herself back from fully experiencing life
22:43good to see you danielle wants to try and help marianne confront her barriers
22:51what do you want for yourself in the retreat when it comes to sort of entity i always just have
22:56i'm just my first thought is just safety so a lot of what you're trying to do now is really
23:02like
23:03keep yourself in check if like it just feels like i'm all alone and i have to put up a
23:11guard
23:11i'm just saying sort of no to everything and i think my yourself feels quite sad that i'm still stuck
23:28that feeling
23:28i i feel like i had a lot of issues growing up in south africa in school i was one
23:33of three
23:33mixed-race girls and we didn't really know how to fit in because we weren't like black enough for the
23:38black guys white enough for the white guys i get viewed as this exotic thing sweetheart it's okay if
23:46put my hand on my hair it has been sort of like a competition of guys they would never be
23:52in a
23:52relationship with us but they just want to like get our clothes off and so it's really really hard for
23:57me to like trust men i just feel yeah that i'm missing out on things and i can't divert differentiate
24:07like what's actual fear and what's just like protection yeah can i please have a hug oh i would love
24:16to
24:20marianne needs to learn to trust that men don't necessarily want to take advantage of her
24:26and working with men to deal with all those issues that's her biggest challenge on the island
24:42thank you so much my pleasure
24:46i knew i was gonna be emotional but everything sort of hit me
24:58it was nice to have this session because like i can just think more clearly about what's to come
25:05but that's quite daunting
25:21morning morning
25:24another day begins on virgin island
25:28oh got hot dog down my boon that'd be a treat for someone later and it's the turn-ons phase
25:36of the
25:37course another knock upon cover this phase is pretty intimidating i always thought myself as dead
25:45playful dead flirty but i started being really sheltered so i do feel like i've got a lot to learn
25:53i personally feel a bit deflated a bit dejected i'm lacking behind i know it's a marathon and not a
26:01sprint
26:02but some people are running i'm trudging the phase is exposing deep-seated fears
26:13when it comes to younger people around intimacy and touch there's just a lot more self-consciousness
26:20a lot of people are afraid you know oh maybe i'm going to get cancelled or cross a boundary
26:24nowadays there is a lot of risk in saying the wrong thing like if i make a weird stupid mistake
26:30talking to a girl that's that's done in it i don't want to do something wrong i don't want to
26:35do things too fast or too slow if i do come across as a creep in any way shape or
26:40form i don't mean to
26:41i'm so scared of the thought of that happening what do you think we're going to do i have no
26:47idea
26:47it having already worked on discovering their turn-ons oh this is so scary
26:55celeste and danielle now want the group to feel it in their bodies this is a really safe place that
27:01we can practice touching all over each other's bodies this exercise can definitely get people aroused
27:07and frankly i hope it does okay one of the things that really gets in the way of us feeling
27:18our turn-ons
27:19is inhibition and today's workshop is all about letting out your inner animal
27:30so we're going to do a little demo and then you'll get a chance to practice with each other
27:35sex doesn't have to be this thing that is very curated it can be animalistic and fun animal game you
27:42don't need much to be good at it it's more about connecting with your own impulses and unleashing your
27:49inner animal
27:52there's another animal just next to you
27:58you can smell
28:08you
28:14you
28:16you
28:29you
28:47I'm looking for a brave volunteer.
28:55Birdie? I've got an injured foot. I know it sounds like a lame excuse, but with, like, my foot and
29:00everything, it's not.
29:02OK. Anyone else? Can I do it with you, Marianne? Yeah. I'm going to go with Marianne. Great. Wonderful.
29:10Joy takes the opportunity to practise with a woman.
29:15So just take some nice, deep breaths in and out. When you feel ready, start exploring each other with your
29:26hands.
29:32Good. I love the way you're staying with the sensation and with your own bodies.
29:52And how was that for you?
29:54Marianne made me feel very safe. Same. It was very fun.
30:00As more of the group step up. Just follow what your body wants to do.
30:06Yeah.
30:07Their animal instincts start to emerge.
30:13Touching and sensing.
30:23Anyone else?
30:27Fuck it.
30:29Yes, Bertie.
30:30Yay!
30:31Up until now, Bertie keeps holding back.
30:35If I don't do it now, I'll regret it later.
30:38I think this is the worst time to be a young adult, because if you're someone like me who struggles
30:46with approaching and talking to women, it's near impossible.
30:50Right.
30:52I constantly think about what I could do wrong rather than what I could do right.
30:58But I have to do this, because I want to improve my life.
31:05Start noticing that there's an animal inside you, and you can rub against them.
31:16You can hold.
31:18Are you okay?
31:19I'm good, yeah.
31:21You sure?
31:21Yeah, I'm fine.
31:23You're getting comfy physically.
31:24Yeah.
31:31That's okay.
31:33Yeah.
31:34Let yourself feel how good it feels.
31:48I think we're done.
31:49Yeah.
31:49Me too.
31:50Yeah.
31:50Yeah.
31:54Amazing.
31:54You want to share a little bit?
31:56I was a bit apprehensive about doing it at first.
31:58I mean, I thought you were doing a good job.
31:59It just all felt natural and not really nice.
32:01You've got nice hair to touch as well.
32:03All that wax has come in handy.
32:04That's what it is.
32:06Nice.
32:10There we go.
32:11Well done to you.
32:19So, how was that?
32:22I was still in that, like, ooh, frisky mood, let's say.
32:26And I was like, okay, so I'm going to just have to calm myself back down and start from Bertie's
32:30level.
32:32All right, Bertie.
32:33Hello.
32:34How did you find it?
32:35Good, good.
32:36You had the right amount of pressure on me that I like.
32:38It felt so natural and I was like, this is...
32:41Yeah.
32:42I think to say this is one of the bravest things I've done would be the understatement of the millennium.
32:48This isn't peer pressure or anything like that.
32:50I just feel like I kind of have to participate because if I am going on this island to be
32:58the same old person that I was for all my life, what am I doing here?
33:05As the course is going on, I can see people learning and changing. Everybody's trying new things. But for some
33:12people, therapy is very slow and totally goes at the pace of the client.
33:22Bertie may be working things out, but discovering turn-ons for some is slow progress.
33:28Guys, do you like hairy vaginas?
33:31I actually don't care.
33:33Yeah.
33:34Each to their own.
33:34And it starts coming out of their nickel line and you're like, oh, God, you need to shave.
33:38Oh, no.
33:40I don't really look after myself very much, but...
33:43No-one's seeing it, so...
33:45After this, that won't be true.
33:50Intimacy is challenging for everyone on the island, but for 21-year-old Callum it's also linked to tragedy.
33:57My dad passed away two years ago.
34:00He was an alcoholic.
34:06I don't really know how to respond to it.
34:10I'm living on my own in his house where he used to live and probably spend, oh, it's probably about
34:1716 hours a day gaming.
34:19Um, I suppose it is a way to escape everything in the world.
34:23I struggle to meet people in person.
34:26It makes me feel...
34:28..alone.
34:33The experts want Callum to tackle his grief.
34:37Hi. Hello.
34:38With clinical therapist, Abby.
34:43Are there times in your life where you felt uncomfortable talking about these things?
34:48Yeah, I think so.
34:50I'm never really honest or open.
34:52I think it was when my dad passed that I really started to notice a lot of the stuff about
34:56myself.
34:56Talk to me a little bit about that.
35:01I really punished myself about everything.
35:04Yeah, he got admitted to hospital because he'd fallen.
35:07He was on the floor for two days and he couldn't get up.
35:10He couldn't reach his phone to tell anyone.
35:12Yeah.
35:13And the next day being told that, you know, he's not got long left to live, so...
35:18He died within two weeks.
35:20Yeah.
35:20He got...
35:22It's okay.
35:24Liver cirrhosis.
35:26Talk about the feeling that comes up around that.
35:28I still feel like I failed him.
35:31That's not...
35:32It's not for you to take on.
35:38Is it reasonable for you to take responsibility of that?
35:41Maybe not.
35:44What are the thoughts running in your head?
35:49Regret.
35:50Yeah.
35:55I just want to make him proud and not flatten his name.
36:02You're making him proud.
36:11It's really emotional because a lot of it is shit, basically, that I'd hate dealing with, but I've never really
36:18had that emotional response.
36:19I spoke properly with someone who understands it and it's kind of a fuzzy feeling.
36:26I just feel...
36:27I feel like I'm a little off steam. I want to run around.
36:36Hello.
36:37Hello.
36:37Hello.
36:38How did it go?
36:39Very emotional.
36:40Looking at shit from a different angle, I suppose.
36:43Do you feel good that it's been, like, off your chest?
36:46Mm.
36:47Tell you what, though, it's so hot in the teepee.
36:49I sweated it all out, so...
36:51It wasn't tears, it was just sweat coming at your eyes.
36:54Yeah, yeah, yeah.
36:55It wasn't tears, no.
37:06Are you going to bomb it in?
37:08Yeah, yeah, yeah.
37:09It's late afternoon.
37:10It just, like, glided in.
37:13And many of the group are embracing island life.
37:17To be a man, eh?
37:18Get your hair wet and just, like, come out and be fine.
37:21Yeah, yeah.
37:21Not need to moisturise her.
37:23Not need to, like, shower.
37:25Well, I think men need showers.
37:27I hope, I hope they shower.
37:30As some take a dip, the experts have decided it's time for others to immerse themselves in the retreat's most
37:37advanced therapy,
37:38undertaken by three specialists.
37:42Surrogate partner therapy works with the surrogate partner and the client,
37:46practising with everything from different kinds of touch,
37:49through genital touching, oral sex, or even intercourse,
37:52so that people can practise the full range of sexual experiences.
37:56First is 35-year-old Ellen.
38:00Hello.
38:01Hello.
38:02While all surrogate partner therapy is supported by clinical therapist Abby.
38:07What I do is therapeutic, emotional discussion.
38:11Kat will be Ellen's surrogate partner therapist.
38:14So I do the relationship side.
38:16Yeah.
38:17Doing touch work and relational works, like, completely led by you.
38:21Okay.
38:22And hands are, like, really important in lesbian sex.
38:25Yeah.
38:26Meanwhile, Tegan will work with surrogate partner therapist Riston.
38:30And notice the sensation of me touching you.
38:38How did that feel?
38:39It felt good. It felt really nice.
38:41Okay, great.
38:42But before Marianne can consider a surrogate relationship,
38:46she first has to learn to trust men.
38:49It gets to a point where I need to feel the energy,
38:52you can feel they want more.
38:53And I can't cross the boundary.
38:55Just can't.
38:56My brain just gets stuck.
38:58I really want to challenge myself.
38:59I want to do it with a guy and see how I feel.
39:06Trust is everything.
39:07Out of all my friends, I'm the only virgin.
39:09And I do feel lonely.
39:12But I do want to be in a relationship with someone.
39:15If I haven't figured it out by 26 years,
39:18then clearly I do need some help.
39:21First step for Marianne...
39:23Hello.
39:25..is simply being comfortable in the same room
39:27as potential surrogate partner Andre.
39:31How are you feeling now?
39:33A little bit anxious in my stomach.
39:34Okay.
39:35And that's just because just of unknowns and things.
39:39Yeah.
39:40Working with Marianne,
39:41it's very important that we start slowly
39:43to build the trust in myself.
39:47I'm going to be moving around the room
39:49and going to be noticing how your body is reacting
39:53to where I am.
39:55The idea is just to learn how someone being close to you
39:58can potentially feel.
40:01Yeah.
40:02Okay, so go ahead and close your eyes.
40:10And so I've moved.
40:12You might feel I'm further away.
40:20See if there's any noticeable change in sensation.
40:27Growing up, I really never saw
40:31how a relationship should be.
40:33My dad just wasn't there.
40:35And seven, eight years ago,
40:37I found out I had a new half-sister.
40:39My dad was sort of collecting mini-families.
40:43Yeah.
40:46Just noticing what's happening in your body.
40:50So anything that reminds me of my dad,
40:52you're instantly vetoed.
40:53Trust-wise, I'm very sceptical.
40:59What was, like, kind of going on in your head?
41:02By the end, I liked it.
41:06Hmm.
41:07It just felt warm by the end.
41:09I felt, if I'm being honest, more sort of turned on
41:13with the second one that was there.
41:14For some reason.
41:15Yeah.
41:16Wonderful.
41:17Okay.
41:17Great.
41:18I feel a lot more relaxed here.
41:21Good.
41:22After the exercise...
41:24I would love a hug.
41:26Marianne is clearly calmer.
41:29It helps that you smell like salted caramel.
41:31Mmm, do I really?
41:32Yeah.
41:33It's very, like...
41:34I like that.
41:36I'm feeling a lot more reassured working with a guy.
41:40He's very lovely and I felt very relaxed.
41:43It has helped my brain not be as fearful.
41:49I'm really proud of myself.
41:55Hi.
41:55Hi, Marianne.
41:56Welcome back.
41:57How did your one-to-one go?
41:59It was...
41:59Good.
42:00Hell yeah.
42:01Nice to meet you.
42:02How many people can actually fit in this bed?
42:04That's a real question.
42:05Bertie, do you want to come join us in the bed?
42:07Um...
42:08Actually, please do.
42:09It's an open invitation.
42:11All right, no worries.
42:14After getting back on track earlier,
42:16the experts don't want Bertie to lose momentum again.
42:20Bertie jumped up.
42:21I thought he was going to use his foot as an excuse,
42:23but he didn't.
42:24And he was so good.
42:26He seemed so sensual.
42:27So, like, um, animalistic.
42:30It's really important that he feels successful.
42:32Yeah.
42:34When it comes to dating and sex,
42:38I just want to be able to be more confident in myself
42:41and know what I'm doing
42:42because the thought of me approaching a woman
42:47and asking them out,
42:48it would make them think,
42:50oh, God, this is embarrassing.
42:52What have I done to deserve being asked out by Bertie?
42:57To help boost his confidence...
42:59Good afternoon.
43:00Good afternoon.
43:01Celeste wants to push Bertie's boundaries.
43:05How was the workshop for you?
43:06I know I got a few things wrong,
43:08but that was the first time I didn't really feel uncomfortable.
43:11I was super proud and impressed,
43:13and I think we can use this session
43:15to just do more kinds of practices that will be helpful for you...
43:19Sounds good.
43:19..to get more technique together.
43:20Good job I brushed my teeth, then.
43:27Celeste starts...
43:28So, try to, like, lay me back.
43:30Like this?
43:31Yeah, exactly.
43:33..simulating the missionary position.
43:35How am I going to do this?
43:36It'll be awkward at first.
43:37Yeah.
43:37So, don't worry about that, OK?
43:39OK.
43:40Teaching Bertie the basics.
43:42And then you want to line up so that your dick is...
43:45..connected to my pussy.
43:47Oh, God. OK.
43:48OK.
43:50Right?
43:50Right?
43:51Like this?
43:52Yeah, exactly.
43:58And you'll need to hold up some of your weight.
44:01Yeah, sorry.
44:01No, it's OK.
44:02And if you want me to show you what I mean,
44:04I'm happy to do that.
44:05That's fine, you can if you want to.
44:06OK.
44:06If you lie down.
44:09OK, so if I'm on top of you...
44:11Yeah.
44:12..see how, like, I'm not all the way down here...
44:15Yeah, no.
44:15There's just a little too much pressure on the chest.
44:17Yeah.
44:18Yes.
44:23When you thrust, I want you to imagine
44:24that your cock is going inside my vagina.
44:27Like...
44:27Put this.
44:28Yes, exactly.
44:29Yes.
44:30Yes.
44:33You don't want to try doggy.
44:34Let's try it.
44:38Then you get between my legs.
44:39Yeah.
44:40Then you pull me up.
44:42Exactly.
44:43You can kind of be all the way up.
44:46Yes.
44:47Yes.
44:47Yes.
44:48Good.
44:50Yeah, like that.
44:55Thank you very much.
44:56I feel lightheaded.
44:57Oh, yes, I bet.
44:59You are an absolute miracle worker.
45:01I ain't leaving.
45:02Thank you very much.
45:03I'm just going to be rooting you on in every moment.
45:06Oh, yeah.
45:07I love you.
45:12Oh, Bertie boy.
45:14Hiya.
45:14Hello.
45:14How was it?
45:15Good.
45:16Celeste has taught me how certain sexual positions work.
45:21Wow.
45:22So, yeah.
45:23I feel very happy at the moment.
45:26It's amazing what a bit of rolling around on the floor doing different sexual positions
45:32can do to one's mentality.
45:34But I've made progress.
45:36And I'm proud of myself for that.
45:38And I'm thankful for everything that Celeste has taught me.
45:42Oh, my God.
45:46All that thrusting has made me hurt my bollocks.
45:51It's because I have to sleep on my back tonight.
45:54Christ almighty.
45:56Next time.
45:57Look at my pussy.
45:59I'm definitely a lesbian.
46:00The dating phase panics Ellen.
46:03I just don't feel like I'm good enough.
46:06Alex ups his game.
46:07Do you want to see how hard you are?
46:09And things heat up.
46:11Cheers.
46:11With island dates.
46:13I'm so nervous still.
46:14Why?
46:15I think it's because it's you.
46:16Yeah.
46:31Love that thing there.
46:33Bye.
46:34Bye.
46:40Bye.
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