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00:00the word virgin people see it as a joke it's quite obsessing in a world where
00:13sex is everywhere my god the truth is surprising there are more adult virgins
00:20than ever being a young adult in this day and age it's difficult social media
00:25dating apps tv shows porn porn porn porn porn is everywhere are you self-conscious about our
00:31genitals touching each other now yeah at this radical retreat intimacy experts are offering
00:38a very hands-on solution she's a miracle worker i like that to help britain's virgins
00:49lose the one thing don't make you nervous they feel is holding them back i want
00:55to lose my virginity it's now or never but when the moment arrives would you like to move to bed
01:03who will be ready i just don't want anyone to touch me to go all the way
01:11the last few days on virgin island have brought firsts for many i think i managed to achieve my
01:30first orgasm ever while charlotte bear doll how's it feel it's refreshing ben has been held back by his
01:38fear of nudity i'm basically like pretty dressing all the movie put together i like clothes clothes
01:43clothes are a mark of civilization zach's impatience led to a rift there's something i desire from you
01:53but reconciliation led him to opening up like never before i want to be more vulnerable
01:59i want to share that with you dave continued to progress
02:07i had a little orgasm and his aim is clear i would like to be virginia yay
02:15as the final phase begins watch at me time is running out for the group to get the most out of the
02:21cars we invited 12 virgins onto this island to help them explore the concept of virginity they found
02:27out who they are what they want don't be intimidated even though there's a bed uh now it's an opportunity
02:35to self-reflect about what they want to do sexually at the retreat
02:50good morning another beautiful day at virgin camp it's a penultimate day on virgin island
02:57you're gonna miss me you're gonna sob jason i miss you i will miss i will miss your jokes
03:04oh obviously this is the last two days so we're gonna be getting into the really the big stuff
03:09aren't we i can't even guess what they're gonna do oh god this final phase it's a way for them to
03:16kind of celebrate their sexual power and all the learning they've done so far
03:22for each member of the group to achieve their individual goals celeste and danielle want to
03:29keep up the intensity escalation what's that mean means taking it to the next level scary yeah
03:39let's go cool let's escalate things the final group workshop
03:45welcome hi everybody we'll test exactly how far the virgins have come
03:52and how far they're willing to go
03:57this is it our final workshop and this phase is all about escalation
04:04and you're just like what didn't we escalate enough
04:07so on the first day that we came in andre demonstrated on danielle
04:15an exercise called up against the wall
04:20in the first workshop they were terrified
04:27we were actually worried that we overwhelmed them so much that they won't be able to continue
04:31now celeste and danielle want them to finally conquer their fears it's your turn to bring all of these
04:42tools together who wants to try it
04:49oh i saw that
04:51i'm quite scared around sex and what it really is i want to be more comfortable in my skin so i
05:02can live my life to the fullest you know ah just when you're ready nod and i'll come to you he arrived
05:09as one of the quietest in the group but now it's time for dave to show how far he's come ready yeah
05:21oh yeah oh yes
05:28i feel like between my legs
05:33oh
05:36oh
05:39oh
05:42it's so good
05:47inspired by dave
05:49yeah we're doing it together some of the others show off their sexy skills
06:00oh yeah
06:05but ben needs a little warm-up
06:10yeah nice and hard
06:11get harder yeah
06:12yeah get harder
06:15hmm great
06:24last door are you pushing or being pushed i'll push sweet
06:3023 year old dog groomer holly
06:32a lot of different experiences in my life have knocked me down a little bit
06:43now i pretty much got bullied throughout most of high school because i was the quiet kid so i became
06:50quite withdrawn i wish i could just leave the house and not care what people think and just be the real me
06:57that feels good
07:02so good
07:03Yes.
07:10Can you take a moment to believe yourselves?
07:14Talking about before and after.
07:16What is happening here?
07:23Feeling like doing the pushing?
07:24Yeah.
07:25Shall we do that in the hangout?
07:27Can I push you, Ben?
07:28You're all right, then.
07:29After the final workshop, some of the students...
07:32Ben's going to walk to you, you put your hand on him, push him up.
07:35Yeah. OK, that's it, yeah.
07:36Pull him close, pull him close with that hand.
07:38There we go.
07:40..have become the teachers.
07:41Do you want to do an advanced wall push?
07:43Go on.
07:45Whoa!
07:49Hey, Dave.
07:50Hello.
07:51How was yours?
07:52I think it was good, yeah.
07:54The neck bit, that was great.
07:56But it's Dave who's probably transformed the most within the group.
08:00I'm more confident.
08:01Like, I'm not going to approach random people and start pushing up against walls,
08:04but, like, I'm going to try and speak to him a little bit.
08:08Dave, when I think about how he arrived just totally inside of himself, you know?
08:14For him to come out to the level that he has is just, like...
08:17Meteoric.
08:18Yeah.
08:19We've been escalating quite a bit, and so we're going to do oral today, but also practicing, like, staying connected, because I think that's something he still struggles with a little bit.
08:29OK.
08:30OK.
08:31OK.
08:32OK.
08:33OK.
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08:41OK.
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08:43OK.
08:44OK.
08:45To test Dave's ability to connect...
08:48OK.
08:49OK.
08:50..and escalate into the bedroom for the first time.
08:52OK.
08:53OK.
08:54Don't be intimidated, even though there's a bed.
08:58Uh...
09:01It's OK.
09:02I'm...
09:04OK.
09:05Losing my virginity.
09:07I want to be ready for it, you know?
09:10I've just got to go in and just see what happens.
09:15I just want to return to all my friends and family and just be a completely different person.
09:20Yeah.
09:22Throughout the course, Dave has shown an interest in oral sex.
09:27You know, I pick her up, take her down on the bed, and I'd probably do something with oral sex. I don't know what I'm doing.
09:38OK.
09:40I want to work on staying in connection through transitions and then practicing oral.
09:46How are you feeling about that?
09:49I feel...
09:51I feel excited about it.
09:53I'm overthinking it.
09:54Yeah.
09:55Yeah.
09:56Just trust yourself.
09:58Surrogate partner therapy is working really well for Dave.
10:03And practice moving when you want to.
10:06You want to come closer.
10:08And practice staying in connection.
10:10It's nice.
10:11But he still worries too much about getting it wrong and can get really in his head.
10:23One of the biggest things to do is normalizing the experience of sex.
10:32When you feel your body being loved and then you feel pleasure from that, it makes all of the external things just not matter as much.
10:40Is it OK for you to give and receive oral?
10:54Yeah.
10:55All right.
10:56So you can just lie down.
11:00And be gentle at first.
11:06Yeah, that's good.
11:07Are you able to go faster?
11:25I feel so good.
11:26How are you feeling?
11:27I feel good.
11:28Thank you for all this.
11:29You're welcome.
11:30Yeah, it's the first time I've been involved in like a proper sexual act.
11:46It feels good.
11:47It's like a weight off my shoulders.
11:48See you tomorrow.
11:49But I feel like there's still further for me to go.
11:52I do think I'm ready now to lose my journey.
11:53Give a squeeze.
11:54Act like it's my cock.
11:55Yeah.
11:56I feel like it's my cock.
11:57Yeah.
11:58I feel like it's my cock.
11:59Yeah.
12:00I feel like it's my cock.
12:01Yeah, it's the first time I've been involved in like a proper sexual act.
12:02It feels good.
12:03It's like a weight off my shoulders.
12:04See you tomorrow.
12:05But I feel like there's still further for me to go.
12:08I do think I'm ready now to lose my journey.
12:20Give a squeeze.
12:21Act like it's my cock.
12:26What's the worst possible option?
12:28Continuing the theme of escalation.
12:31I think lick bum is pretty good.
12:33Lick bum is pretty good.
12:35The group are playing a game of sexy dice.
12:38Kiss arm.
12:39You're your victim.
12:44Beautiful.
12:45Beautiful.
12:48As the virgins get touchy-feely with each other.
12:51Lick bum.
12:52Oh, yes.
12:53Yes.
12:54Even Holly, one of the quieter members of the group, is throwing herself in.
12:58We've been working two weeks for this.
13:00Come on.
13:01All right.
13:02Okay.
13:03Go.
13:04One, two, three, four, five.
13:07Yay!
13:08Well done.
13:09There's something about Holly that has a lot of potential, but she's still kind of, yeah, hiding.
13:17We need to really understand what's holding her back in order to help her, like, move forward.
13:23And I'm so happy.
13:26We're gonna spend some time with you.
13:29It can feel lonely, just, when you see, like, all your friends are getting relationships and, like, like, a big worry of mine is that, like, I'm always gonna be alone.
13:38Like, I'll never have a family and have that perfect life that, I guess, I'm, like, dreaming of.
13:46Let's shake it.
13:48Before Holly leaves the island.
13:49Just soak it in.
13:52Just enjoy the sun.
13:54Danielle wants to encourage her to feel more confident and finally come to terms with her true self.
14:02How are you doing?
14:03Do you like the activities?
14:05I think they've been tough.
14:06It's bringing up a lot of feelings I didn't know I had.
14:09Mm-hm.
14:10So it's kind of tough learning that side of myself.
14:12Do you want to share with me a little bit more, like?
14:15I'm not sure I fully understand it myself yet.
14:18Yeah.
14:19And it's just lots of big emotions.
14:20Yeah.
14:21In your chest?
14:22Yeah.
14:23In your belly?
14:24Kind of both.
14:30After her talk with Danielle...
14:33I'm gonna be sad going home, opening my curtains and seeing the local pub.
14:36Is that what it is when you open your curtains?
14:40Holly seems ready to share her innermost feelings with Viraj.
14:44I don't know.
14:46It's just been intense.
14:48Are you not grateful for it?
14:50Yeah.
14:52Just a lot of things going on in my head.
14:57What do you feel like you've learned from this?
15:01That I might like girls.
15:03I do.
15:04Yeah?
15:06That's a really big thing though.
15:07That's a big change.
15:08Like...
15:10Is that how you feel?
15:11Sometimes I don't know if it's just like I connect to people just like on a friendship thing or if it's anything more.
15:17Mmm.
15:19I feel like I find it hard to distinguish between the two.
15:23Yeah.
15:25I'm unsure.
15:28Why is it so difficult?
15:32Why can't it just be simple?
15:34Mmm.
15:36Feeling a bit overwhelmed.
15:38All these feelings are emerging that I'm unfamiliar with, so...
15:43I think it's just trying to deal with them.
15:45And it's...
15:46Yeah, a lot to process.
15:48Do you want to do some yoga?
15:50Yeah, but what kind of yoga?
15:51Trip yoga.
15:52I'm already wearing a bikini. I don't know how much more I could strip.
16:00While Holly ponders...
16:02I want you to practice reading my body.
16:05Across the island...
16:08You can touch my ass. It feels really good to me if you touch my ass.
16:12Zach is learning how to stay attuned to Kat.
16:16Maybe... I think you might like more...
16:20Kissing?
16:21Yeah.
16:22..and he's finally getting the results he craves.
16:25MUSIC
16:27MUSIC
16:28Zach has learned a lot about how to show up in relationship,
16:31how to attune to people.
16:32I feel like that's really important for him.
16:33So, I feel really confident for Zach going out into the real world.
16:43He's going to enjoy this.
16:44That felt really good. Could you tell in my body? Yeah.
16:46Definitely.
16:47Yeah.
16:48Yeah.
16:49It's been the time of my life being here. Kat. She has helped me a lot. And, you know, I'll forever be grateful for that.
16:56It was nice. I feel close.
16:57I just feel far more prepared for it. And I feel ready to hopefully be the confident player when I get back with any luck.
17:11It can't even anyone's around. I don't know whatever it is.
17:12Where's Tom? He's at the water. Is he still there?
17:18Is he still there?
17:19He's still there, look.
17:20Yeah, he's a good fish.
17:21Whilst at the retreat, Ben has learned to let his guard down.
17:25But there is one fundamental obstacle standing in the way of losing his virginity.
17:40Oh God, the foot of me making fun of something absolutely terrifies me. I've never been in like shower
17:55where everyone's naked and that was just, absolutely not.
17:59Even when it's just me in the house, I will not be naked at all.
18:01I'm just that kind of person.
18:03The experts believe that Ben must overcome his fear of nudity
18:06for relationships to flourish back home.
18:09Hello. Hey.
18:10Do you want to take your shoes off? Yeah, sure.
18:12Ben needs to relax into his body, into the moment
18:16and, yeah, come out of his head.
18:19Society makes it very difficult.
18:22He has some ideas about how he should look
18:25and I think that scares him.
18:28Let's first start. I just want you to put your hands on my hips.
18:31Mm-hmm.
18:31And I'm going to just move your body a little bit.
18:34Mm-hmm.
18:35Joy gets him in the mood to loosen up.
18:38That's really good.
18:40Do you feel how connected we are in that?
18:43Quite fluid and sort of less stiff.
18:46Before escalating...
18:47Why don't you take your shirt off?
18:50Well, this shirt or the T-shirt as well.
18:52What do you feel comfortable with?
18:58I would love to feel more confident in myself and how I look.
19:00I don't smile in pictures a lot of the time.
19:02I think actually that's left over from school
19:04because I got, you know, teased about having chubby cheeks or something.
19:07But ultimately, yeah, it'd be nice just to be more confident in myself and how I look.
19:11But unfortunately, that's hard to change.
19:13What I'm going to be doing is touching in a way that feels connecting.
19:33Do you want to try it with me?
19:34Yeah, sure.
19:39Where do you like to be touched?
19:41I kind of want you to just explore.
19:47But exploring is leading to overthinking.
19:52I don't have a little position to go in.
19:53Yeah, it's hard, right?
19:55I don't want to crush you.
19:57It's OK. You won't crush me.
19:59Ben's becoming increasingly awkward.
20:05Can I move you?
20:06Yeah.
20:10I'm going to switch over again, sorry.
20:12And it's stalling his progress.
20:20How do you feel?
20:21Um, I don't know, it's just...
20:23If I had eight arms, it would be easier.
20:24But Joy wants to challenge Ben before time on the island runs out.
20:30So next time, um, think about whether you feel comfortable being naked together.
20:40I think, you know, nakedness is, to me, it's a private thing.
20:43Yeah.
20:49I mean, obviously, I know the experts, that they're not sort of judging you in that same sort of way,
20:54anyway, but it really makes me uncomfortable.
20:57I don't think I'll ever be able to go through with it and not be so afraid.
21:20How do you feel about being the last day?
21:21I'm quite emotional, to be honest.
21:23Are you?
21:24Yeah, I actually am, yeah.
21:26I'm going to miss everyone.
21:29It may be the final morning on Virgin Island, but for some, there's unfinished business.
21:35I think I would like to maybe get naked in front of Joy, because if I can break that barrier,
21:41then it'd be easier when I'm with somebody. I just want to see where it goes.
21:44I feel like if I do need my virginity today, it will be a huge step forward.
21:51But I think everyone's nervous about it the first time.
21:57Morning.
21:57How are you?
21:58Yeah, I'm grand. How are you?
21:59I'm all up, thanks.
22:01But all good things come to an end?
22:03I'll work every single day.
22:04It's been a big process. It's hard to kind of share, like, your deepest secrets and struggles with people.
22:12Oh, this might be the last time.
22:19The last day. Let's take the alcohol. It can't kick us off.
22:23Overnight, Holly has been doing some thinking.
22:27Hi.
22:28Hi.
22:29Before coming here, I'd always just say, like, oh, I'm straight.
22:34But, like, coming here, I feel like it's been more clear that I am bisexual.
22:42And, yeah, I'm proud.
22:44And she's asked Celeste to help her open up to the rest of the group.
22:48Holly has something that she wants to share with all of you.
22:53Something I've struggled with a lot and coming here,
22:56I've kind of had time to think about it and have the confidence to speak out about my sexuality.
23:04And I'm bisexual.
23:14Welcome to the club.
23:17Well done, queen. Smashed it.
23:19Proud of you.
23:20Thank you, guys. That was terrifying.
23:22I definitely would have suppressed it for longer if I hadn't come here.
23:29So proud for you.
23:31It's yours.
23:32Having all the support in the group, it gave me that confidence to tell it to the world.
23:38And I couldn't have done it without them.
23:40I just thought I'd be a great dominatrix.
23:48I feel that for you.
23:50You're the whipping one.
23:52I'd like to whip people.
23:53As she's progressed through the course...
24:02Hi, hi.
24:02Hi, hi.
24:04Charlotte has overcome her body issues.
24:07What would feel comfortable for you?
24:08Maybe some body caress?
24:11And now she knows exactly what she wants.
24:14I have an idea.
24:16I want to take my top off and I want to straddle you.
24:18OK, you want me laying down?
24:20Yes.
24:20Knees down.
24:26Yes, ma'am.
24:27Almost further.
24:29OK.
24:30OK, grip my hips.
24:34Oh, that's nice.
24:36Wash at me.
24:38You are so beautiful.
24:42Having you straddle me is almost overwhelming for my body.
24:47You are a fucking goddess.
24:50I want to grip your chest.
25:06You have full permission.
25:07Yay.
25:08I love feeling your body on mine.
25:24Feeling your touch feels really good on me, goddess.
25:26Thank you for this gift.
25:43I want to say how proud I am.
25:45That was a big leap.
25:47To ask for what you needed.
25:48Oof.
25:49I adore Andre.
25:53I adore him completely.
25:55It was through him that I was really able to be like, OK, this is what I want.
26:02I went into this with the mindset of he is a tool, a very enjoyable tool for me to kind of get what I want out of it.
26:10Oh, I just had so much fun.
26:13I feel so ready for everything now.
26:22While many are finding their body confidence.
26:25I like being naked by myself.
26:26I don't.
26:27Ben still has work to do.
26:28Me and my ex, I don't even know if we were together and, you know, I was saying over.
26:32I've got change in the bathroom.
26:33It's like, it's weird.
26:34It's just a big step for me.
26:40In a final bid to overcome his fear of nudity.
26:45Hey.
26:45Hello.
26:47Joy has a new plan.
26:48I know it's a stretch, but I would love to practice the animal game with you.
26:55In our, maybe our underwear.
26:59In an early group workshop, Ben couldn't bear to even watch the animal game.
27:05So can we stay connected while we undress?
27:12With most clothes removed.
27:14Even as we get down, we can keep that connection.
27:23Ben tries to let animal instinct take over.
27:35How does that feel to you?
27:36Yeah, it's a food connection.
27:38He's kissing on your...
27:43Yeah.
27:49Losing himself in the moment, Ben seems to have let go of his inhibitions.
27:56Would you like to move to bed?
27:58Yeah.
27:59But will it be enough to finally bear all?
28:02That was fun.
28:09Do you think we should just roam?
28:14Yeah, let's do it.
28:15I have to break this barrier.
28:17Let me put up this.
28:19Joy puts up a screen so Ben's body is for hair eyes only.
28:24Are you ready?
28:24Yeah, let's go.
28:25Okay.
28:32Is my body normal?
28:33My body is beautiful.
28:35Yeah.
28:36I'm normal down there.
28:37I look better than with clothes on.
28:40Really?
28:41Yes.
28:42I've broken the barrier.
28:45I'm doubting you.
28:51Do you feel complete?
28:52Yeah, I think that's a good way to end it.
28:54Yeah.
28:54Yeah.
28:55Great.
28:55I'm so incredibly proud of him.
29:01He's opened in ways that I can't even believe.
29:04And I feel honoured he allowed me to be the one to accompany him on that journey.
29:12Hello.
29:13Hello.
29:14Are you all right?
29:16So, I just saw Joy.
29:18Ooh la la.
29:19My journey is complete.
29:22I didn't really want to do anything, but did you...
29:25Fuck.
29:28Joy, is the only person who lives to see me naked?
29:30So, did you see her fully naked?
29:34It's nice to break that barrier and hopefully more in the real world.
29:37And I get to that stage again, it will be a lot easier.
29:40I won't be in my head all the time.
29:42I have changed and that's all I needed really.
29:44It's just that confidence.
29:46I haven't had a fully naked one to one.
29:47He did more than me.
29:48Yeah, but you climaxed.
29:49I didn't.
29:49Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.
29:54Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.
29:56Don't, yes.
29:57Bye, sexual.
29:58I'll show you.
29:59My family.
30:01I'm not the only gay in the village.
30:05This evening, there'll be a graduation ceremony to end the course.
30:09What are you wearing tonight?
30:11I got, like, a full-on suit.
30:12Really?
30:13Yeah.
30:14Does anyone want to swap outfits?
30:16I'll wear your dress.
30:17And the group has been set a final exercise,
30:20to write a letter to a future lover.
30:23I don't like writing letters.
30:25Can I write a text instead?
30:26Would shagging by the Tesco bins be a bit too graphic?
30:30Yeah.
30:32I know how to start mine.
30:34Dear Emma.
30:35Oh, my God.
30:38Me and Viraj are very good friends, a friendship with a good connection.
30:43So, I think, get back to the UK, and if it works, then it works.
30:48I don't think I will close myself off any more.
30:56For Dave, a lover could be more imminent.
30:59After two weeks of intense treatment and years of longing,
31:03he could be on the verge of achieving what he came here for.
31:07Go on, big doll. Enjoy.
31:08Have fun.
31:13Being a virgin at 24, I hate it.
31:16My biggest fear is that I'll find someone that I genuinely care about
31:20and I won't be ready to have a proper relationship with him.
31:23You know, it could be so... It could be love my life and I could just
31:26be too awkward and I could blow it.
31:34Hello.
31:34Hey.
31:35How are you doing?
31:36Are you still feeling good about intercourse?
31:45Yeah.
31:46Yeah.
31:46Yeah.
31:47Cool.
31:50Lie down.
31:54So, we'll just start in a way that we've been starting,
31:58just letting it be organic, staying in connection and kissing.
32:01Yeah, I think that sounds good.
32:02Yeah, I think that sounds good.
32:03Okay.
32:05Okay, close.
32:28Okay, close.
32:29I'll just pop.
32:36Grab that condo.
32:39You know how...
32:43Yeah, you just pinch the top.
32:45And you want to roll it all the way.
32:49Okay.
32:50Just start slow.
32:59I think I'm putting a bit too much pressure on myself.
33:22Has everyone written their letters?
33:24No.
33:25Got writer's block.
33:27While most of the group are preparing letters for tonight's graduation ceremony...
33:31Just go with the flow.
33:32Write what comes to mind.
33:34In the zen den...
33:36So, just relax.
33:38Dave is trying to get back on track with Kat.
33:42Do you think it might be easier for you if I'm on top?
33:45Yeah.
33:46Yeah, so let's switch.
33:49Just breathe.
33:53How does that feel?
34:00Okay.
34:00Yeah.
34:01Just move the way that feels good for you.
34:23You're so sick.
34:25You're so sick.
34:27It feels so good.
34:45Did you remember?
34:45Yeah.
34:46Yeah.
34:46Yeah.
34:50How are you feeling?
34:51I feel good about being the person that I've been doing?
34:54Yeah.
34:54Yeah.
34:54Yeah.
34:54Yeah.
34:57After 12 days...
35:00Dave has completed his course of therapy on Virgin Island.
35:04Thank you for that.
35:07And how does it feel now?
35:09I'm not a virgin.
35:14I feel really good.
35:16Well, how do you feel?
35:16I feel good about being the person with him in that important moment.
35:24And I think he has changed so much.
35:27He knows a lot more about what he wants.
35:30And it's a lot easier if you've done it once.
35:34So I think that will help.
35:35Yeah.
35:38Yeah.
35:39I think you've done a really good job.
35:45I'm proud that I can finally say I'm not a virgin anymore.
35:49I've still got a lot of catching up to do.
35:51But I feel like I'm on the board now.
35:56Take care.
35:57See you later.
36:00Now I can go and actually properly progress with some sort of idea of what I'm doing.
36:05The fact that I'm no longer a virgin is great.
36:07It's just...
36:08It's relief.
36:14You have a session?
36:16Yeah.
36:17How did it go?
36:18I think it went well.
36:19Yeah.
36:20You cool?
36:21Yeah.
36:22I'm just really tired.
36:24Exhaust in day.
36:26You know what? It's the last one, mate.
36:30I'm going to miss it.
36:32Let's go.
36:34End of an era.
36:36The end of a chapter.
36:39As the sun starts to set for the final time on Virgin Island,
36:44the group are getting ready for graduation.
36:49It's really sad.
36:50Yeah, I'm going to miss everyone so much, so...
36:52I am going to miss the island.
36:54And the routine, I think, I miss a lot as well.
36:59Very lovely.
37:02You look gorgeous, darling.
37:06It would be funny if we're in there and they're all naked.
37:08Yeah.
37:09Do you think we get a certificate?
37:11Look at them all down there.
37:13Oh, my God!
37:20Wow!
37:26Graduation is a time for you to gather up all of your newfound confidence and skills
37:32and get ready to take them out into the world.
37:35So we're going to invite you up one by one because we did ask you to write a letter to a future lover.
37:41The retreat was emotional for Taylor, but she discovered her true sexuality.
37:51Dear future lover, I've spent so long being scared of who I was, what people thought,
37:58who I was supposed to be and what I wanted.
38:00You hear this, I'm not scared anymore.
38:02I'm terrified.
38:04Being terrified means I've found something that I don't want to lose.
38:06If I'm terrified of losing you, then maybe you'll be terrified of losing me.
38:15If it all gets too real, remember, sing loudly, not well, laugh at everything that you can and lick bomb.
38:26Taylor wasn't the only one to find their true identity.
38:31Dear future lover, we haven't met yet, but I have been on one hell of a self-discovery journey.
38:36I feel like I am able to be my true-filled self and show you all of me.
38:41I used to think hiding my feelings was my superpower.
38:43It really is my biggest weakness.
38:45It took me a long time to be happy with who I am as a person,
38:48and there's no way I can go back to hiding.
38:54Look at you.
38:56Exactly.
38:58Tom, that you are, is just gorgeous.
39:01For Ben, the islanders meant overcoming rejection head on.
39:09Dear lover, this man you see before you is not the man I once was.
39:14I thought I was repulsive, undesirable and that I can never be loved.
39:20I now know that I was wrong.
39:23I went to an intimacy retreat.
39:25It was a bold step, but one that changed my life forever.
39:29It was here that I learned of my sexual self and it was here that I learned how to be wanted.
39:35This journey has been tough, but I wouldn't change a thing because it ultimately led me to you.
39:41Thank you for loving me and showing me that I can love myself.
39:52For many, discovering self-confidence has been key.
39:57Dear future lover, I want to thank you for taking my hand and coming with me on an amazing adventure.
40:05Thank you for having all the love for me that I once struggled to have for myself.
40:08Being my true self is when I can excel.
40:12You are a woman now.
40:14Thank you so much.
40:15And I'm so freaking proud of you.
40:20Dear future lover slash lovers, I want you to be patient with me while I continue to learn,
40:26grow and inevitably make mistakes.
40:29I want us to worship one another.
40:32I want everyone to see our love.
40:33I wasn't sure if I would ever get to a point in my life where I truly believed that I was worthy of being loved.
40:41I don't expect anything from you, except you must ride the elephant with me on our wedding day.
40:46Sorry for only lasting 20 seconds and was overwhelmed by your beauty.
40:57I promise tomorrow will be better because I'm going to use the skills I learned from the intimacy retreat.
41:02Dave.
41:12He arrived on the island as one of the quietest in the group, but slowly he's found his voice.
41:18Dear my future lover, despite all my continued flaws, like my constant awkwardness, you've always loved me.
41:28I can't put into words how much I appreciate that.
41:30You're everything I've ever wanted and you complete me.
41:33I know that you're going to go out there and break many hearts.
41:45Um, sorry.
41:48After weeks of being surprised by the experts, the group now have a surprise for them.
41:54We've all been through so much with you and we all want to give our thanks.
41:59I personally want to thank you for your patience and understanding.
42:04You helped me feel confident and see who I am and see myself in a place beyond here.
42:10And I really, really appreciate everything that you've done for me and thank you all.
42:14This group are some of the bravest, wisest, most engaged and loving people that I have ever worked with.
42:26And seeing their transformation, yeah, I can't even, I can't even.
42:34I want to thank you for the most unforgettable experience of my entire life.
42:38Nothing's going to ever come close to this and it's been incredible.
42:40Thank you so much to my lovely Andre for creating that beautiful space for me to feel vulnerable
42:51and like if I was going to fall, you would catch me.
42:56Wrong way to wear makeup.
42:58I can say confidently, you've changed my life.
43:02Changed all these people's lives and I always remember that.
43:06Before I came here, I was at the lowest point in my life.
43:11I had no idea how to love myself and how to love others.
43:16At least you and every one of you has inspired me.
43:20And I don't know how I'd ever be able to repay what you've given us.
43:32Congratulations!
43:35From the people who came off of that boat to the people who I'm looking at now,
43:39it's unrecognizable and I have only hope for them to have the most amazing sex and relationship
43:46lives going out into the world.
43:49So we want to invite you to a closing but beginning circle.
43:54Join us.
43:55Join us.
43:55Join us.
43:56Even though I didn't lose my virginity on the island, I've learned so much more about myself.
44:00And I feel like now when I go into the outside world, I'll be so ready for my new intimate journey.
44:06Your courage is going to inspire so many people out there.
44:09You're going to take the world by storm. I can feel it.
44:15It's all about kind of reaching out and be like, hey, maybe I would like some help.
44:19Congratulations!
44:22I'm so honoured and proud to be a part of this project.
44:37This place, I'd recommend it to anyone.
44:40The intimacy journey from here, I'm going to go back to Rochdale,
44:44take it by storm and yeah, lock up your summers.
44:50We've graduated from sex camp!
45:14This place has been a few places, but just have to be quiet!
45:23Close the tip, so the areas you've been attending.
45:27We've worked different places down in your room, but we want to do for a moment.
46:30If you're satisfied with the issues raised in Virgin Ireland and would like to be part of a possible new series, visit Channel4.com forward slash take part.
47:00Thanks tonight on Channel 4. We're off for some Gogglebox.
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