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00:00The word virgin, people see it as a joke, it's quite obsessing.
00:13In a world where sex is everywhere, the truth is surprising, there are more adult virgins
00:20than ever.
00:21Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult.
00:25Social media.
00:26Dating apps.
00:27TV shows.
00:28Porn.
00:29It's just everywhere.
00:30Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?
00:33Now?
00:34Yeah.
00:35At this radical retreat, intimacy experts are offering a very hands-on solution.
00:40She's a miracle worker.
00:43Woohoo!
00:44Like that?
00:45I like that.
00:46To help Britain's virgins lose the one thing they feel is holding them back.
00:54I want to lose my virginity.
00:56It's now or never.
00:59But when the moment arrives...
01:01Would you like to move to bed?
01:04Who will be ready...
01:05I just don't want anyone to touch me.
01:08To go all... the way.
01:13Yes.
01:15Yes.
01:17Over the last few days on Virgin Island...
01:25I'm definitely gay.
01:27No, thank you.
01:29That felt really good.
01:31Yeah!
01:32Revelations...
01:33This is my pussy.
01:35Led to breakthroughs.
01:36Right now, I feel on top of the world.
01:39Charlotte's bravado...
01:40Why do you have these horrible stretch marks?
01:42I can't say horrible, did you?
01:45Has caused issues for some.
01:47I've always hated my body.
01:48I know it's a little thing, but for me, it's quite big.
01:51And Dave...
01:52How are you feeling?
01:53Good.
01:54Started work with surrogate partner Kat.
01:57It's given me a massive confidence boost.
01:59Now, halfway through the course,
02:01the group will be challenged like never before.
02:05The relationship with the body is very crucial
02:07to dating, intimacy and sex.
02:10How are you feeling about genital touching?
02:13What we bring to sex is our bodies.
02:16If we feel shame about our bodies,
02:18we won't be able to engage in sex.
02:24HE BREATHES HEAVILY
02:33It's day seven of the retreat
02:35and this morning, there's an extra surprise in store.
02:39Oh, fuck's sake.
02:40Well, that's not scary.
02:43Doesn't bode well that there's a robe.
02:46It's the stage of the course they've all been dreading.
02:50This phase of the course is the body.
02:52Please come to this workshop in as few clothes
02:54as you feel comfortable wearing underneath a bathrobe.
02:57Suddenly need the loo.
02:59HE LAUGHS
03:00For about four hours, just until after the workshop's over.
03:04I think this may be one of the scariest workshops
03:07for a lot of people
03:09because it's so intense to expose your body.
03:13I'm not a bathrobe person.
03:15I like clothes. Clothes are a mark of civilisation.
03:20Morning.
03:22Is that what you're going in? Yes.
03:27I've never really looked at my body and not felt sick.
03:31In school, my friendship group, I was the uglier, fatter friend.
03:36So even though, like, I'm not as fat now,
03:40I feel like I just still feel it.
03:42You nervous? Yeah.
03:44I want you guys to know I'm really small and skinny,
03:47so don't be surprised. Mm-hm.
03:49What's your... Is your head cocked?
03:51I don't know. I've just nodded my head.
03:56Oh! Oh!
03:58Am I the only one that's not going to fully take my robe off?
04:01In this morning's workshop,
04:03the experts are keen to see
04:05if anyone has the confidence to bear all.
04:08We get horrible messages about our bodies.
04:11There's so many ways in which we think,
04:13my body isn't right, my body isn't enough.
04:15And then we're supposed to go out and, like,
04:17enjoy pleasure in our body?
04:19It's quite impossible, actually.
04:21Hello, hello! Welcome, welcome!
04:29Our relationship with our body
04:31makes such a huge difference
04:33to how we feel about ourselves.
04:35And social media, where it's, like,
04:37constant images of the Kardashians
04:39with all of their augmentations
04:41and all the influencers,
04:43it just creates these crazy expectations,
04:45which is why it's so important
04:47to start to reclaim our bodies.
04:51And what better way to get comfortable with bodies
04:54than by seeing some first-hand?
05:01Dava, if you feel ready.
05:04Well, Dava, if you feel ready.
05:15So this is my body, everyone.
05:18And though I love my body now,
05:20I struggle with something called body dysmorphia,
05:23which means when I look in the mirror,
05:26I don't see the same thing that everybody else sees.
05:34This is my body.
05:37And I also love my body now,
05:40but it has been years
05:42with poor self-image.
05:44So, yeah, it's a process.
05:46It's a process.
05:48Yeah.
05:50How do you feel
05:52when you look at Joy and Dava?
05:55Sort of far from crossing a boundary.
05:57There's a lot of discomfort
05:59and a lot of feelings of, like,
06:01oh, that's private,
06:03but if you're going to have sex,
06:05it's not private anymore.
06:07I feel like I actively avoid mirrors
06:09and I feel like it can bring me down,
06:11so I don't really have mirrors in my room or in my house.
06:15Thank you for sharing.
06:17Thank you. Thank you so much.
06:20If being exposed to two naked bodies wasn't awkward enough,
06:23what's coming next is the group's worst nightmare.
06:28The biggest thing that we can change
06:30is how we relate to our body.
06:32We're going to invite you one by one
06:35to claim your body.
06:39We're asking the group to take off their robes
06:42and stand in front of the mirror and look at their body.
06:45It's such a way to shift their body confidence.
06:50Who's ready?
06:54Do you know what? YOLO.
06:57First to volunteer is 25-year-old Jason,
07:00who has always had a problem with his self-image.
07:03OK, right, so...
07:07..the front I'm fine with is the butt,
07:09because my stretch marks are really red.
07:11Looking in the mirror feels strange
07:13because I don't see myself as attractive at all.
07:16I don't like my hair, I don't like my face.
07:18I've always been, like, a stick man.
07:20Like, you've heard of cartoon stick man?
07:22That's me.
07:25OK.
07:27Yeah.
07:34CHEERING
07:39Can you come to the mirror with me?
07:41Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll do that.
07:43This is your mirror here, you can check yourself out.
07:45I've seen this every day for 25 years, I'm used to it.
07:48And then when you feel ready, I want you to just say,
07:51this is my body.
07:53This is my body, yeah.
07:55This is my body. Yes!
08:02Who's ready next?
08:06OK. Oh, my God.
08:09Next to face the mirror is 29-year-old Charlotte,
08:12whose relationship with her body has always been a struggle.
08:17I had a massive weight loss.
08:20My highest weight was 120 kilos.
08:24Since losing the weight, I have scars,
08:28I have loose skin.
08:30When I was larger, my self-esteem,
08:32I would definitely say, was lower,
08:34but I act a lot more confident than I am.
08:45APPLAUSE
08:47Ah...
08:51I have scars.
08:53Yeah, I have them too.
08:57You've been on an intense journey around your body.
09:01Remember the queen that you are.
09:06This is my body.
09:08Yes.
09:10Try one more time to really feel it.
09:13Try one more time to really feel it.
09:16It's yours. You earned it.
09:21This is my body.
09:26Oh, my God.
09:34As they each get up...
09:36This is my body.
09:39..to face their reflections...
09:41I'm basically, like, put a dress on and all of you put together.
09:44..how much they're willing to reveal varies.
09:46This is my body.
09:48There we go. Beautiful.
09:50Looking at their bodies, loving their bodies holistically
09:53can be hugely empowering.
09:55This is my body.
09:57That's great. Thank you.
09:59APPLAUSE
10:03Who's ready?
10:05Yeah, fuck it.
10:07So far, 24-year-old Dave is the only one
10:10who has kept a relatively low profile at the retreat.
10:21CHEERING
10:25When I look at you,
10:27I'm going to embarrass you.
10:30I see a sexy,
10:33handsome man.
10:35Yeah, that doesn't embarrass me.
10:37I know. It's OK.
10:40This is my body.
10:42CHEERING
10:46Who else?
10:49So, I think everyone in this room knew I was going to do this today.
10:53I don't actually want to.
10:57CHEERING
11:02This is my body.
11:04APPLAUSE
11:08Who want to go next?
11:23Hey, love. How are you feeling?
11:26I just feel like I could be sick, OK?
11:28What thoughts are coming up?
11:30Does that hurt the way I walk?
11:32What emotions are there?
11:34Like, what emotion are you feeling?
11:36Anxious, sick...
11:38..and disgust.
11:40You can get up there in front of everybody else
11:43and be with your body
11:45and see what comes next.
11:47You're not going to let a fear
11:50or a lack of self-worth
11:52stop you from living your life.
11:58This is my body.
12:01CHEERING
12:06Who else is ready?
12:14This is amazing.
12:16APPLAUSE
12:23I don't want to look.
12:25You don't want to look? Then look at me for a minute.
12:28This is my body.
12:30This is my body.
12:34So proud of you.
12:38APPLAUSE
12:44Go, be proud of yourself,
12:46flaunt your bodies around,
12:48shake them,
12:50remember what they're there for.
12:54Well done, Dave.
12:56Thanks, man.
12:58What you did?
13:00You get a little bit of a high after that.
13:02You do, right?
13:04That's the first time I've been naked in front of anyone,
13:06let alone a room full of people.
13:08I think today was
13:10the biggest thing I've done so far.
13:12Did you feel this?
13:14Mixed.
13:16I thought I had this confidence,
13:18and then it's different when you stare at yourself
13:20while other people are staring at you.
13:22I feel like maybe I've hit a bit of a wall.
13:24The exercise was particularly difficult for Louise.
13:27When you look in the mirror,
13:29I feel like you just instantly look at the things
13:31that you hate the most.
13:33Jiggly legs and stretch marks on my hips.
13:35Like, that's just where your eyes go to.
13:37I just want to feel good in my skin.
13:43I don't know.
13:45I still feel a bit sick, to be honest.
13:47It's a daily slight arc.
13:49I thought you'd be wearing boxers.
13:51Yeah, but no, we saw everything.
13:53Yeah, I bared all.
13:55I realised when I was looking in the mirror
13:57one bollock was so much lower than the other.
13:59I didn't notice.
14:01From what I saw, you all look great.
14:03I feel like it's easier for a girl to be naked.
14:05Really?
14:07If you've got a small dick, it's more embarrassing.
14:09I feel like it's easier for a girl to be naked.
14:11Really?
14:13I feel like it's easier for a girl to be naked.
14:15Really?
14:17If you've got a small dick, it's more embarrassing.
14:19I'd be very happy if we had sausages today.
14:21Of course.
14:23Hi.
14:25It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.
14:29Can you have it in de-wetting if you like?
14:31Of course you can.
14:33Of course you can.
14:35I just want to wear that dress.
14:37While the car seems to be building confidence for some...
14:41Oh, that's so sweet.
14:43It's turning me on a little bit.
14:45Really?
14:47..the body phase is a huge challenge for others.
14:49I was so confident
14:51and then I stood in front of the mirror
14:53and I was like, don't like that, don't like that, don't like that.
14:55I hate my hands.
14:57At least you've not got man hands.
14:59You've got man hands.
15:01Where is your man hand?
15:03I totally don't like my face.
15:07Let's talk about Louise.
15:09Yeah, she was just terrified of being judged
15:11and she felt that her body was disgusting.
15:13So I was wondering, like,
15:15what you feel like the next steps were.
15:17To maybe disrobe the whole way
15:19to find new words to describe her body.
15:23I hurt the way a lot.
15:25I wouldn't say I've ever felt, like, confident.
15:27I started going to the gym.
15:29That helped a lot.
15:31But, yeah, it's a work in progress.
15:33Come and have a seat.
15:35Ayesha hopes that a repeat
15:37of this morning's exercise in private
15:39could help improve Louise's confidence.
15:43So, mirror work, you did that this morning
15:45and I wonder if you'd like to continue
15:47doing a guided tour of your body.
15:49Yeah.
15:59OK.
16:03I don't want to put it down.
16:05If this was a friend's body
16:07and they were like,
16:09hey, look, isn't my body disgusting?
16:11How might you show up differently?
16:13So if it was a friend, I'd just be like,
16:15there's nothing wrong with you, shut up.
16:17But I just feel like
16:19I can't say that and mean it about myself.
16:21Say it like you were to your friend convincing.
16:25There's nothing even wrong with you.
16:27There's nothing even wrong with you.
16:31Next step
16:33is to remove the sheet.
16:37OK.
16:41My boobs, I just hurt my boobs.
16:43One second, lady.
16:45Have you ever had compliments about your boobs?
16:47Yeah.
16:49Tell me about that.
16:51People wish they had these.
16:53It's like the perfect.
16:55I want to invite you
16:57to receive the compliment.
16:59They're perfect.
17:03OK.
17:05Louise is making progress
17:07but Aisha has one final challenge.
17:11So noticing what your body wants to take off next.
17:13And I'm thinking
17:17bra.
17:19Great, when you're ready.
17:21I couldn't say that myself.
17:29What's changed
17:31now that your bra's off?
17:33It's always nice
17:35to take your bra off.
17:37What's the feeling in your body?
17:39The sensation of it?
17:41I do feel more free.
17:43Yeah.
17:45You feel more free?
17:47Louise.
17:49Everyone feels better when they're naked.
17:51Just on their own.
17:53Yeah, OK.
17:55So feeling better when you're naked.
17:57I'm going to bring the robe.
18:00Don't be ashamed.
18:02Don't be ashamed.
18:04Just love yourself.
18:06Just love yourself.
18:08Body image is definitely
18:10a place where Louise struggles.
18:12That strength of feeling
18:14that she has,
18:16it feels like it comes from way, way down
18:18inside of her.
18:20From way, way back in her life.
18:22Louise, look how much you've done.
18:24Thank you for sharing
18:26your body with me.
18:30Thank you for listening.
18:32It felt good to
18:34replace my negative thoughts.
18:36I try to.
18:38I feel like once I change the view
18:40that I have on myself,
18:42then it will be easier to
18:44accept it from other people.
18:50How was your one-to-one?
18:52Basically just re-did
18:54this morning, but properly.
18:56Yeah, cos we properly stood in the mirror
18:58and, like... Possessed.
19:00Yeah, talked for everything.
19:02I think you're gorgeous.
19:04Thanks.
19:06Although Louise struggled with this morning's workshop...
19:08Tuck in the bicep. Yeah.
19:10Bring them out like this. There.
19:12And pull.
19:14Dave shocked everybody by going the full Monty.
19:16Look at your veins.
19:18These popping veins.
19:20I was so impressed.
19:22Three of them got naked.
19:24But, like, Dave was a huge surprise.
19:26Totally.
19:28Yeah, I feel like today he was definitely
19:30sending a message and being like,
19:32OK, I'm ready. We'll just kind of get in
19:34and see if that energy is there
19:36and where he wants to go with it.
19:40There you go. There.
19:42Two more, two more.
19:44I'm an accountant, so
19:46pretty boring.
19:48All of my friends know I'm a virgin.
19:50And actually, pretty embarrassingly,
19:52I think all my co-workers know as well.
19:54Because you tell one person at work
19:56and then everyone knows.
19:58I don't have the confidence
20:00to properly get to know someone
20:02in an intimate moment
20:04when I'm scared about what they're going to think
20:06of my body and what they're going to think
20:08of what I'm like.
20:10And I've got to, like, start living my life properly.
20:14Getting naked in the workshop
20:16was a huge step for Dave.
20:18Hello.
20:20But does it mean he's ready
20:22to take his therapy to the next level?
20:26My suggestion would be
20:28to practice, like, touch and giving feedback.
20:30OK.
20:32I'll have you start with my arm.
20:38I'll try.
20:40Long and stuff.
20:42And can you look at me while you do it?
20:44Yeah.
20:46Building up to sex
20:48with surrogate partner Kat
20:50is a possibility
20:52if Dave can master the basics
20:54and form a connection.
20:56Am I OK to try
20:58to sort of go
21:00on top? Yeah.
21:02Is that what you mean?
21:04Yeah. Yeah.
21:06And you can kiss
21:08to my mouth if you want.
21:10OK.
21:12I feel like this definitely isn't the best position.
21:14I don't like the way my arm is.
21:16Are you self-conscious about our genitals
21:18touching each other?
21:20Cos that's why you're in that position.
21:22It's so obvious
21:24now you've... Yeah. OK.
21:26But does that make you uncomfortable?
21:28Subconsciously, yeah.
21:30Yeah. OK. Do you want to try again with you on top
21:32or do you want to try with me on top?
21:34Can you go on top? Absolutely.
21:36Yeah.
21:44And can you practise
21:46coming alive a little?
21:48Yeah. Yeah.
21:50I'm staying still, aren't I? Yeah.
21:52Yeah.
21:54Try again? Yeah.
21:56Yeah? OK.
22:04That feels good.
22:08As Dave slowly opens up
22:10Go.
22:12Mine won!
22:14Oh, it came back.
22:16the course is encouraging Charlotte
22:18to address her buried emotions.
22:22I was so large for such a long time.
22:24You think everyone is judging you
22:26all the time because you're
22:28so used to being on the defensive
22:30because you feel like you have to protect yourself.
22:32Today, I saw a softer side of Charlotte.
22:34I saw, like, the quivering of the lip
22:36and that was very challenging
22:38for her, like, to look at herself.
22:40It was really hard for her to keep
22:42the inner image that she has of herself
22:44in front of the mirror
22:46and that's something that so many people
22:48are struggling with.
22:50But what inspired you
22:52to do this?
22:54Well, I think it was
22:56the fact that I was able to
22:58be myself
23:00At boarding school
23:02I just wasn't fitting in
23:04and that's been a big
23:06thing for me my whole life
23:08and then everyone says, oh, don't worry
23:10when you go to uni, you'll find your people
23:12and then I went to uni
23:14and then I didn't find my people
23:16so now, at almost 30
23:18it makes you doubt yourself.
23:20The mirror workshop
23:22revealed that Charlotte's issues
23:24are more than skin deep.
23:26Hi. Hi.
23:28How are you? I'm good, thank you.
23:30So the experts suggest
23:32clinical therapist Abby
23:34tries to find out what's really going on.
23:36They kind of want to check in with
23:38you know, the reason that brought
23:40you here.
23:42Sometimes I do still feel
23:44like I'm still this sort of young
23:46you know, sort of teenage girl
23:48because I wasn't really friends with any of the girls
23:50at the boarding school and also because
23:52of my size, I was quite
23:54isolated. Like, here's this
23:56part of you that feels emotionally
23:58trapped in your adolescence
24:00do you feel like no one sees you
24:02for you?
24:04My perception of myself
24:06can be vastly
24:08different to how other people see me
24:10I feel like I'm trying to
24:12really just be as fearless
24:14as possible
24:16putting on what I call the Charlotte show
24:18and it's like I think I'm
24:20giving off this image of me
24:22like, sometimes I have to do it at work
24:25mmhmm
24:27then you're just working here
24:37you don't have to work for people's
24:39love and care
24:41people will love and
24:43care for you without performing
24:45I don't know if you
24:47believe that though
24:49what if you show up as vulnerable
24:51I don't know
24:53I don't know how to kind of
24:55do that
24:57we're gonna get there
24:59yeah
25:01you can't really hurt
25:03something that isn't real
25:05but I've
25:07maybe been putting
25:09on the Charlotte show
25:11too much
25:13I think the whole thing is all about
25:15being seen
25:17and I guess we're gonna
25:19see who sees me
25:23yeah
25:34It's day two of the body phase at the retreat
25:36and there are promising signs
25:38of change
25:40I feel like every session I have
25:42I come out feeling a bit better in some way
25:44and getting undressed that is
25:46a massive thing for me
25:48I think I've achieved a lot
25:50and I know there's things
25:52that I'm more confident about
25:54but I think there's still further for me to go
25:56I'm definitely
25:58seeing the confidence level rise
26:00they're much more likely to try
26:02different tools
26:04they're really growing
26:06but progress for Zach
26:08can't come quick enough
26:10I'm feeling a little bit of frustration
26:12hoping to make some more progress
26:14and eventually
26:16it is the next step
26:18and it's something I
26:20want to do
26:22and I'm not afraid to say that
26:28you can definitely tell they're amping things up
26:30absolutely
26:32we got to half way
26:34I just want to be able to
26:36give people compliments
26:38because I struggle with that
26:40let's try that now
26:42I like your little nose
26:44I love your beard
26:46I wish I could grow a beard like that
26:48brilliant isn't it
26:50let's think of one for the girls
26:54in a bid to improve how he interacts
26:56with women
26:58Zach challenges himself with his own exercise
27:06one thing I am not very good at
27:08is giving sincere compliments
27:10so everyday I'm going to come up
27:12with a new one for everyone
27:14aww sweet
27:16Emma
27:18you have some incredible eyes
27:20thank you very much
27:22it's amazing to stare into them
27:24thank you Zach
27:26Louise
27:28you have a banging body
27:30you're fucking sexy as hell
27:32thanks
27:34Holly
27:36you can be so fucking funny sometimes
27:38and you have the greatest expressions
27:40and it's hilarious
27:42I love your smile
27:44when you're happy it's wonderful
27:46Taylor
27:48you have a brilliant singing voice
27:50and you know the words to all the songs
27:52Charlotte
27:54you're always flirting with me
27:56but I know you'll say you're not
27:58but you're a liar
28:00that's not a compliment
28:02well it is
28:04and you're actually pretty good at it
28:06Zach may be pleased with his compliments session
28:08I feel like mine needed to be reworded a bit
28:10feeling the love
28:12I don't take this personally
28:14but can you take me out of tomorrow's compliment
28:16but for the day I don't want to be in it
28:18thank you though
28:20don't worry about it
28:22I hope you like the one I gave you
28:24I compare myself enough to girls I see on social media
28:26I don't want him to be feeding
28:28different qualities about us all
28:30individually into my ear
28:32on a daily basis
28:34him thinking it's helping me
28:36thankfully for Emma
28:38the girls are splitting up for today's workshop
28:42I'm confused why we're taking the book
28:44I hope it's just like
28:46drawing like a life model
28:48as it's become clear to the experts
28:50when it comes to the body
28:52they need all the help they can get
28:54I've never had any contact with
28:56anything below a woman's waist
28:58with my ex I've you know we've touched up there
29:00but I've never been
29:02I've never got that far
29:04I believe the clitoris is quite out of the top
29:06so admittedly I wasn't
29:08the best at biology in school either
29:10someone asked me
29:12where's the clit? I'm like I don't know
29:14no I need to use google
29:16today
29:18we'll start with a little bit of anatomy
29:20I know a lot of you
29:22really really wanted to learn
29:24how to touch a pussy
29:26are you ready?
29:32okay
29:34we have the vaginal opening
29:36we have the outer lips
29:38or labia majora
29:40I think the biggest
29:42mistake that I see men make is they just think
29:44oh it's all about the clitoris
29:46and so they just you know like do a lot of this
29:48do a lot of this
29:50and it's quite painful actually
29:52when you think of a vulva
29:54think like oh you know
29:56I want to like pet
29:58the whole vulva
30:00but there's only so much
30:02you can learn from a diagram
30:06Kat is generously
30:08willing to take her panties off
30:10and show you how a real
30:12vulva looks like
30:16I think the show and tell
30:18is really important because when you look
30:20at an actual vulva you're gonna see
30:22it does look quite different than those
30:24quite sterile pictures
30:28okay so here you see the outer lips
30:31the outer labia right here
30:33and here
30:35and then here and here are the inner
30:39and there's
30:41the clitoris
30:43and then down here is the vaginal opening
30:47do you have any questions?
30:53I just want to say Kat I really
30:55admire your courage for doing this
30:57because you're basically doing this so we can learn
30:59thank you a lot for doing that
31:01yeah thanks for saying that
31:03okay
31:05that's a lot for one day
31:07I think you deserve some rest
31:09thank you
31:15anyone take notes?
31:17no I'm paying attention
31:19I don't want to whip out a pen
31:21it's good to hear from women
31:23who have had a lot of men make a lot of mistakes
31:25and to hear from that experience
31:27and not fuck up like that
31:29across the island the girls are also
31:31talking privates
31:33what do you think of pubic hair?
31:35I don't really have an opinion on it
31:37Joy for instance had pubic hair
31:39it looked really nice
31:41it wasn't a lot though
31:43she had what was called the landing strip
31:45and I really like that
31:47that's called a landing strip
31:49I might go and get one of them
31:51I think that looked very stylish
31:53embrace a girl yeah
31:55it's not the female body most of the girls
31:57need to get better acquainted with
31:59obviously you have lessons in school
32:01about the way the body works
32:03but it's not really
32:05something that I've dived into
32:07obviously I've kissed a couple of boys
32:09but that's about it
32:11I've had as much
32:13contact with the penis as I would like
32:15which is very very little
32:17hello
32:19okay welcome
32:21now we're going to invite up
32:23Paula and Deva
32:25to give you a little bit of an anatomy lesson
32:27on penises
32:33so
32:35you've got the shaft
32:37of the penis
32:39sometimes a penis when it's erected
32:41it's not like super straight
32:43it can be a bit like this
32:45after yesterday's penis preview
32:47getting used to doing this now
32:49Deva can now give the girls
32:51a proper guided tour
32:53people might think that the penis
32:55is really sensitive and like delicate
32:57or something but it's not
32:59you can really apply a lot of pressure
33:01it doesn't hurt you know
33:03this is obviously the shaft
33:05this is the glands
33:07and this part back here
33:09the frenulum
33:11it's the most sensitive part
33:13and this is the scrum obviously
33:15now that is like play day
33:17that's why Jason always talks about play day skin
33:19does anyone have any questions?
33:23do you think you prefer touch of like hands
33:25or like
33:27someone's tongue
33:29the best combination that I enjoy
33:31is when someone's using their hands
33:33but also their mouth
33:35right
33:37thank you
33:39we'll see you later
33:49you alright?
33:51hello
33:53how's your morning been?
33:55it's been alright, we saw a vagina
33:57really?
33:59did you see a penis?
34:01yeah
34:03speechless
34:07Louise may be learning more about the body
34:09but the experts now want a window
34:11into her mind
34:13Louise is not an easy person to read
34:15in terms of how she feels or what she wants
34:17you can tell there's something big
34:19going on underneath the surface
34:21and that that needs to be dealt with
34:23to do that
34:25they've asked Louise to keep a journal
34:27to help understand herself better
34:29how's the writing going?
34:31good
34:35so my homework from Aisha
34:37was write my emotions down
34:39and things I've felt in the past
34:41and like repressed
34:43I started with what I thought was like
34:45the biggest factor
34:47I know what it is
34:49but I just can't express it
34:51Louise has formed a bond with Aisha
34:53but whether she's ready to open up
34:55remains to be seen
34:57how are you feeling today?
34:59I kind of want to
35:01feel what I've wrote
35:03yum
35:05I felt like maybe reading it to you
35:07I feel like I'd just be able to let it all go
35:09I can move on
35:11so take your breath
35:15and when you're ready
35:19I honestly don't even know where I should start
35:21because I almost feel like
35:23there's just too much
35:25that could be playing a part
35:27in why I am
35:29the way that I am
35:31pause, take a breath
35:33I know I don't like
35:35being or feeling vulnerable
35:37and maybe that stems from
35:39repressing my emotions from quite early
35:41on in life
35:43all thanks to my
35:45dad
35:47who was never really a big part of my life
35:49he just left us for his next wife
35:51and their kids
35:53so close
36:00I always used to think
36:02what's so bad about me
36:04that even my biological father
36:06just doesn't want to know me
36:13if I wasn't even
36:15good enough for my dad
36:17then why would I be good enough for anybody else
36:27my mum used to say
36:29you're not bothered about your dad are you
36:31I'd say no to her
36:33but a little part of me would be like
36:35but I don't
36:37you were taking care of her
36:39and now what are you doing
36:41now you're
36:43taking care of you
36:47I just don't feel
36:49that kind of courage
36:51you're starting to build
36:53up again that sense of
36:55I'm important
36:57I'm worthy
36:59of love and respect
37:01would you like a hug
37:03please
37:05yeah
37:07feel a lot better
37:09a lot lighter
37:11slightly happier
37:13see you later
37:15even though it is what seems like little steps
37:17they're making a big difference
37:23keen for progress
37:25of his own
37:27Zach's attention is still on his compliments list
37:29are you sure you don't want a compliment every day
37:31yeah no just because I've come here
37:33to try and steer myself away
37:35from comparing myself to other girls
37:37but I do that enough at home on Instagram
37:39I think you and Louise are the two best looking girls here
37:41you don't want to be saying like
37:43oh Louise you've got a bang on body and you've got nice eyes
37:45and then you say Pia you've got a nice smile
37:47I don't know what you did say about that
37:49I'm not attracted to Pia
37:51that's what I'm trying to like
37:53just put yourself in the position of
37:55but I'm also not going to lie
37:57I don't like being compared to other people
37:59do you know what I mean
38:05it's late afternoon on Virgin Island
38:07hi hi hi
38:09and Charlotte still has some body issues
38:11to conquer
38:13so why didn't you go naked in front of the mirror
38:15Charlotte
38:17I'm noticing more and more my issue
38:19is that I'm being vulnerable
38:21you can't do it
38:23it's hard
38:25you can't do it
38:27it's hard
38:29you can't do it
38:31it's hard
38:34how about Charlotte
38:36when she feels in control
38:38then she feels powerful
38:40yeah
38:42I think like the next step for her
38:44is she needs to work on her body confidence
38:46and really kind of like
38:48feeling at home in her new body
38:50hi
38:52hi
38:54over a few sessions
38:56Charlotte has built a bond
38:58with surrogate partner Andre
39:00but is she ready for the radical next step
39:02this is an opportunity
39:04to
39:06see my body
39:08naked
39:10and for me
39:12to also see your body
39:14naked
39:16I've never been naked
39:18in front of another person
39:20the intimacy scares me
39:22it's a lot
39:24if everything that I use
39:26such as like clothes
39:28and humour has been sort of stripped away
39:30I guess I could try
39:32going topless first
39:34and then I could kind of see
39:36how I felt
39:38continuing on from there
39:40that sounds great
39:42let's go ahead and do that
39:54your body is your body
39:56if there is ever a desire
39:58if there is ever a desire
40:00to be in an intimate connection
40:02with someone
40:04there's a good chance
40:06that they're going to want to see
40:08your body
40:10yes
40:12I think I feel comfortable
40:14taking off my top
40:16in this space
40:18how does it feel?
40:20it's refreshing
40:22you have beautiful breasts
40:24thank you
40:26how is your energy
40:28if we were to remove
40:30our bottoms
40:32I think I'm feeling
40:34okay to do it
40:36would you like me to turn around?
40:38yes please
40:40okay
40:42just keep breathing
40:44know that you are
40:46safe here
40:48okay
40:50okay
40:52yeah
40:54thank you
40:56thank you
40:58thank you
41:00thank you
41:02thank you
41:04thank you
41:06thank you
41:08thank you
41:10thank you
41:14we did it
41:16we're naked
41:18we're naked
41:24the change in Charlotte
41:26is beyond words
41:28and there's still room
41:30for her to feel comfort
41:32and safety in her body
41:34knowing that she is worthy of pleasure
41:36so proud of you
41:38thank you so much
41:40I built that level of trust with Andre
41:42that I felt that I could be
41:44vulnerable, that I could be naked
41:46with him and that he was going to
41:48embrace all the little parts of myself
41:50that I don't fully love
41:52all the time
41:54how was that?
41:56so we stripped down naked
41:58and it was this moment of like
42:00we did it and I was like we're naked
42:02and I just felt like
42:04Dora the explorer
42:06you can go do whatever you need to do with Dora
42:08and she goes you did it
42:10you've never seen that episode before
42:12where the two get naked in a teepee
42:16while Charlotte is moving on
42:18some of the boys can't stop thinking
42:20about this morning's workshop
42:22you know what
42:24I wanted to know how to properly touch a vagina
42:26and I feel
42:28there were some good tips there
42:30that's important information
42:32the thing is if we gain anything
42:34it's a plus
42:38Dave was very interesting
42:40I did think he took a lot out of it
42:42he's really interested in technique
42:44it was super educational for him
42:46he really wants to know more
42:48he's thirsty for that knowledge
42:50Dave may be interested
42:52in the theory but expert
42:54Pat needs to find out if he's ready
42:56for a practical
42:58how are you feeling about genital touching?
43:00um
43:04okay-ish
43:06say more
43:10I know I need to do things
43:12I'm not 100% comfortable with
43:14but everything that I've done
43:16that I haven't been comfortable with
43:18I've ended up being comfortable with
43:20if that makes sense
43:22to get Dave relaxed
43:24Cat starts with some kissing
43:30but before progressing
43:32to the next stage
43:36he's got to learn one crucial detail
43:38but you have to get naked too
43:40okay sorry
43:42if you want to
43:46do you have a preference for who does what first?
43:48maybe
43:50the one to be touched first
43:52go ahead and lie down
43:54I think touching someone
43:56in an intimate way is
43:58probably more nerve wracking than me
44:00I don't know if I'm going to be doing it right
44:02or if
44:04they're going to be enjoying it
44:10try to just close your eyes
44:12feel into it
44:24if Dave is to eventually lose
44:26his virginity on the island
44:28this stage
44:30he needs to learn to give
44:32as well as receive
44:34it's always weird the first time
44:36so I feel like you just kind of try
44:40get used to what it feels like
44:44it did not feel how I
44:50how did you expect it to feel?
44:52I don't know, not that
44:58I can see where I can't find it
45:00can you find it?
45:04is that it?
45:06yeah
45:08and then down at the bottom
45:10yeah that's like the vaginal opening
45:14yeah that feels good
45:22I feel more mature now
45:24good
45:28Dave's been gone for an hour
45:30hi
45:32do you want one?
45:34I did
45:36was it good?
45:38it was quite good actually
45:40everyone's curious about his session
45:42but a gentleman never tells
45:44how'd that go?
45:46just educational
45:48what way?
45:50he doesn't want to say
45:52I think it was good
45:54we got through a lot
45:56there was so much I didn't know
45:58so I feel like I made a big step
46:04next time
46:06oh yes
46:08lessons take to the bed
46:10I like that
46:12and one on ones
46:14build up a head of steam
46:20I don't know if you find that intimidating
46:22but sex isn't always simple
46:24I think we'll get dressed
46:26and that's enough for today
46:54you