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Philosopher Stefan Molyneux shreds "Call Her Daddy"'s hedonistic child-woman chaos, femininity traps and vulnerability commodification to forge restraint integrity over gratification lies.
0:00:00 Introducing "Call Her Daddy"
0:01:48 The Childlike Sexuality Phenomenon
0:06:38 Hedonism and Arrested Development
0:09:27 The Dangers of Promiscuity
0:15:31 Balancing Pleasure and Consequences
0:18:40 The Dilemma of Immediate Gratification
0:23:12 Attractive Women and Social Privilege
0:28:41 The Impact of Beauty on Behavior
0:33:54 The Consequences of Lack of Boundaries
0:38:41 Monetizing Insecurities in Media
0:40:21 The Cost of Moral Decisions
0:00:00 Introducing "Call Her Daddy"
0:01:48 The Childlike Sexuality Phenomenon
0:06:38 Hedonism and Arrested Development
0:09:27 The Dangers of Promiscuity
0:15:31 Balancing Pleasure and Consequences
0:18:40 The Dilemma of Immediate Gratification
0:23:12 Attractive Women and Social Privilege
0:28:41 The Impact of Beauty on Behavior
0:33:54 The Consequences of Lack of Boundaries
0:38:41 Monetizing Insecurities in Media
0:40:21 The Cost of Moral Decisions
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00:00All right. Good morning, everybody. Hope you're doing well. Stephen Molyneux from
00:04Free Domain, freedomain.com slash donate to please, to please, to please help out philosophy,
00:11help out the show, help out the conversation. Now, there is a podcast called Call Her Daddy.
00:22And it is hosted by a woman named Alex. I don't know if there's anyone else. I've just seen her.
00:28And she is a skinny, pretty girl. She does a girl thing where they have their sleeves kind of hop
00:38up
00:38over their hands. It's a kind of funny little thing that women do is they try to appear like
00:45children. Children, of course, parents will buy clothes that are too big for them, right? Obviously,
00:54because they have to grow into them. And therefore, if the sleeves are going over the hands,
00:59that is kind of a marker for childlike behavior. And childlike plus sexuality is sinister as a whole.
01:11It's sinister as a whole. Children speak without thought of consequences. And children speak
01:19without a filter and children speak without a sense of empathy, right? So, little kids,
01:27you go to the mall, little kids will say, when regarding an overweight person, they will say,
01:33why is she so big? Or why is she so fat? They just say, right? And then there's a phase
01:40with little
01:41kids where they say something that would be considered kind of rude or abrasive or outrageous or
01:48whatever. They say something. And then what they do is they laugh at themselves because they're young
01:57enough to still get away with it. The sort of truth, so to speak, or bluntness or directness
02:04and sometimes rudeness kind of erupts out of them. And then they laugh about it. And they laugh about it
02:10because they know that they're still young enough to get away with it. And you see this with little
02:18boys where they talk about, you know, poops and farts and things like that. And when they're very
02:25young, then they just talk about these things. When they get older, they talk about these things and
02:31then laugh about it because it's taboo-breaking, but they're still young enough to get away with it.
02:39And they find that funny. It's when children begin to get an understanding of the limits of reasonably
02:47polite social conversation. That, you know, when you're five, you can talk about peas and poops and
02:54farts. And it's funny, but you can't do that when you're 15 or, you know, sort of puberty, maybe even
03:02a little younger. And so on this podcast, you see the same kind of behavior. So in one recent podcast,
03:14the host, Alex, I think her name is, the host, well, her name is Alex. I call her Alex for
03:20this,
03:20for this show. The host is talking about how you can sleep with a man on the first date if
03:29that's
03:29what you feel like, if that's what feels right to you and your body. And then she makes fun
03:38of a woman, and she imitates the woman who's counseling some form of sexual restraint.
03:45And she's like, you shouldn't do that. You're going to be sick. You're going to be looked like
03:49a whore. You know, you're going to be looked bad. It's like, yeah, maybe for you, Cassandra,
03:52or whatever, some Christian name, obviously. And she says that you can kiss him, you cannot kiss him.
04:00And you can, and she's very coarse, right? She uses the F-bombs for sexuality, which, you know,
04:07obviously, I swear from time to time, but there's just a coarseness in this as a whole. I will do
04:13it
04:13sometimes to shock people out of complacency, or if I'm really frustrated, but she just does it in a
04:18sort of casual way, talking about coitus as effing, which it's kind of animalistic in a way. And so
04:26she says that if you, you can let him hit it from the back, and I don't think she's talking
04:32doggy,
04:33I think she was meaning A-N-A-L. And, and then, right after she says that, she giggles and
04:43laughs
04:43as if shocked at her own bluntness. And again, with the hands half covering, and there are even little
04:51sleeves, right, that they go over the thumb and keep the sleeves covering, half covering the hands.
04:57So she's sitting in a sort of cross-legged position in a very big couch. She's a very
05:02slender woman, and so on. And she also has a youthful voice. I don't know how old she is.
05:12But the oversized couches are there to make her look like a little kid. Again, I'm not saying this
05:18is conscious, right? The way she sits kind of cross-legged on the couch is kind of how kids sit
05:24on little kids sit on couches. The fact that she has these big baggy clothing makes her look smaller
05:28and younger. The fact that she has her sleeves half covering her hands makes her look more like
05:34a child. And the fact that she says, you know, I mean, some truly shocking and outrageous things.
05:41The fact that she says them, and then giggles and widens her eyes and laughs at her own daring audacity,
05:49is, again, just imitating the guilelessness of a child. But of course, the horrifying nature of a
06:01childlike woman, who's saying, do what feels right to you, do what feels right to your body,
06:08that is also how a child behaves. A child behaves in a way that feels good for the body. If
06:17you want
06:19your M&Ms, you eat your M&Ms. If you want your big slice of cake, you eat your big
06:24slice of cake.
06:25No theory, no thought of consequences, no thought of long-term effects, no thought of cavities or
06:32weight gain or diabetes. Like, do what feels right for you in the moment is a child's philosophy.
06:39Hedonism is arrested development. Hedonism is a toddler plus sex and adult addictions, like
06:48sex and drinking and drugs and so on. So, when you have this woman-girl-child babbling on and giggling
06:59about in through the outdoor sexual activity, and then wide-eyed laughing at her own audacity,
07:06and then using a childlike voice to imitate another female and saying, do what feels right for you,
07:15do what feels good for you and your body, that is. So, the demonic, in a way, and I, of
07:22course,
07:23use this allegorically, but the demonic is simply toddlerhood plus adult consequences and adult
07:33freedoms. Toddlerhood, which is hedonism plus adulthood, is promoted because toddlers need
07:42authority. Toddlers need others to teach them that they can't just live by hedonism, or to put it another
07:50way, toddlers need externalized consequences. In other words, the toddler will want to eat the
07:58whole jar of cookies. I remember my brother and I, one night, we had a, they had these trays of
08:05little flat chocolate mints called after-eights. I'm sure they still have them around. And we were
08:14giggling and chatting when we were very little. And, again, I don't know why we were alone so much.
08:20But, you know, I mean, my mom was out there trying to secure a date and a mate. And we
08:25were giggling
08:26and chatting. And we kept reaching in and finding, they came in these little, little plastic pouches,
08:34sorry, these little paper pouches, little sort of vertical. There were tiny little envelopes with the
08:39chocolates in them. And we would take a chocolate out, and we would eat it, and we would giggle.
08:42And then we would not take out the wafer paper, like the little envelope that the chocolate mints
08:50came in, the sort of flat chocolate mints. And we just kept reaching around until there were like no
08:56more chocolates in there. And that's what you do when you're little kids. You need someone external
09:02to put limits upon you, right? So, promoting toddlerhood is, dare I say it, it's backdoor
09:10statism. Because if you promote toddlerhood with adult responsibilities and consequences,
09:17then people who act in a hedonistic, which is to say, toddler plus adult desires way,
09:24they need external limits. They need external control. So, when you tell people to be hedonistic,
09:34you are promoting totalitarianism. Because hedonistic people end up with disastrous lives.
09:40I mean, truly disastrous lives. So, if you're a hedonist, and you drink too much, you eat too much,
09:49you have too much sex, you get fat, you get liver disease, you get, you have maybe kids outside of
09:57wedlock, or you get STDs, you burn out your capacity to pair bonds, so you're isolated. And in particular,
10:03isolated women always look for authority that's kind of baked into the genetics. And so, when you
10:09promote mindless toddler plus adult desires hedonism, then you are creating an endless stream of human
10:18disasters that require or demand freedom from consequences. So, you know, do what feels right
10:27for your body. And this, of course, by a woman who is obviously very hardworking, and obviously diets
10:34pretty ferociously to remain her very slender frame. So, of course, we'll get to sort of how this works
10:40with intersexual competition. Looked at Anne Hathaway saying that she's promoting overweight
10:47actresses while remaining very slender herself. Of course, that's just, it's kind of inevitable that
10:53way that attractive women, particularly as they age, will promote unattractive habits or standards
11:00for other women in the way of, right? The entrepreneur wants to promote laziness to his competition,
11:07so he has a monopoly on the hard work that is most likely to lead to success. Ah, you work
11:12too hard.
11:13Ah, you should take it easy. When was the last time you had a vacation? You know, you should see
11:16your
11:17kids more. Life isn't all about work, right? I mean, and goes back and does his 80-hour weeks,
11:21right? It's kind of natural. It's a very, I mean, it's direct form of sabotage in a way, right? It's
11:28very
11:28obvious. So, yeah, her promoting hedonism while looking anorexic is, of course, sabotage. It is not
11:37but it's tempting, right? It's tempting to get off the fence, right? And just go one way or the other,
11:45right? So, everyone to some degree or another, I shouldn't say everyone. I know that I do. I
11:52battle with food. I mean, it's not a huge, grim battle, but I have to constantly remind myself
11:57to not eat as much. I mean, it's partly because I have a big appetite. I work out. And it's
12:03also
12:03growing up hungry. I constantly wanted to overeat because I was never quite sure where my next
12:07calories were coming from. And look, I get that's a pathetic excuse. I mean, this is all like
12:1340, 50 years ago. But, you know, it's kind of hardwired. And I've done a pretty good job
12:19of battling food. I am neither an ascetic who, you know, doesn't eat too much. And neither am I
12:27overweight. So, I'm sort of got a balance. And I've had to scale down my eating over the years just
12:31because as you age, and I weigh the same now as I did when I was 18. Although, it could
12:38be argued
12:38that the distribution is a little bit different. What's that old line from the British comedy this
12:45woman talks about? Like, yes, my butt, I can feel it back there, snacking. It's kind of funny. So,
12:55everybody wants to fall with regards to the question of hedonism versus self-restraint.
13:02It's a battle, right? I mean, you want to have your body enjoy things. And you also want your body
13:07to be healthy. And if you punish your body, that's like the anorexics and so on, or the bulimics.
13:14If you punish your body by depriving it, that's kind of unhealthy. If you indulge your body by following
13:21its every whim and pleasure, that tends to be unhealthy as well. So, in the, you know,
13:28reasonable battle between long-term desires, we could say, and short-term desires and long-term
13:35desires, right, it is important to balance these things. But it's a challenge to balance these
13:42things. We are a multiplicity of preferences, right? You know, the old thing that you're tired
13:50of the morning, you want to sleep in, but you've got to get up and go to work because
13:53you need an income, right? So, it's just this sort of battle. If you've had a really busy day,
13:59maybe you want to read or scroll late at night because maybe it feels like it's the only time
14:05you've had for yourself. But you know it's going to shave away your sleep and all of that, right?
14:12If you're having a great time, like I was at a party recently, a very fun party, and the
14:21hors d'oeuvres kept coming, and they were good, man. They were good. And yeah, I will admit to have
14:27snacked a little bit too much. And I remember I was at the party, there was hors d'oeuvres,
14:35there was a main course, I had a little bit of dessert. And then it's funny, like I went
14:40for an after party, and there were more snacks there. And I was like, I could eat. And I'm
14:46like, man, what are you doing? You don't need to eat. You are officially full. Your guest deck
14:52is overflowing, and you're still pumping. So, these kinds of shows, what they do is they
14:58offer people an answer. And the answer is, you should do what your body dictates.
15:09And demands. All requests. The body doesn't really demand stuff except maybe air and pooping.
15:13But you should do what your body wants. Do what feels right for your body. Do what feels right
15:18for you. Which is a sort of witchy, candlelight, Ouija board, self-affirming kind of witchery. I
15:26mean, it's just being a witch, right? Satanism, do what they will. It shall be the whole of the law,
15:31right? Do what feels good for you. Do what feels right. Do what you want. Do what you like. You
15:36know,
15:36all that kind of nonsense, right? And of course, because there is a grain of truth in it,
15:40that you do have to please your body as well as you have to please your body in the now
15:44and in the
15:44future, right? What's that line from dieting women, right? But they're looking at a snack.
15:50Once on the lips, forever on the hips. Nothing tastes as good as thin feels kind of thing,
15:54right? But of course, people who are very skinny tend to be kind of neurotic and a little out of
16:01their body because they're too dictatorial and dominant to their body's needs and requests.
16:06I mean, obviously, there's exceptions, but that's sort of what I've noticed.
16:11So, this promotion of toddlerhood is giving people an answer to one of the natural tensions
16:16in life, which is what your body wants now and what you need in the future.
16:20I was reading, you sort of notice that, you know, people like Clint Eastwood and so on,
16:24like the people who are, who make it to significant old age are skinny, right? And you think, oh,
16:30you know, okay, so if I'm skinny, maybe that gives me a couple of years extra of life. And,
16:35you know, like, am I going to look back and say, I'm really glad I had those hors d'oeuvres
16:38at the
16:39party if it cost me a couple of years of life. And then I was reading that the people who
16:42tend to
16:42live the longest have a little bit of fat around the middle and, you know, whatever. I don't know.
16:47I don't know. I mean, I think everybody fantasizes about getting really thin. And I've, uh, I've
16:55thought about it. And I mean, my problem is that if I go to bed hungry, I can't sleep.
17:00So it's a, it's a challenge. And again, we're just trying to sort of be on these balance beams,
17:06right? And these balance beams that, you know, people are dialing up and down the gravity and
17:09shaking the beams because, you know, you have different requirements over different courses
17:14of your life. I do sometimes think, though, because I eat a lot and I do sometimes think
17:19like, I mean, again, I exercise like four times a week and I walk at least 10,000 steps a
17:25day.
17:25So, I mean, that's not like a big calorie thing, but, you know, it burns off some.
17:29And I do sometimes wonder, like, holy crap, for people who really gain weight, like,
17:35how much are you eating? It's really wild. And sometimes you see these sort of secret eaters shows
17:41where they follow people who say, you know, I'm dieting, but I just can't seem to lose weight.
17:44Like, they're defying the laws of physics. And then they follow them around and they find that
17:48they are actually eating, you know, five, six, seven thousand calories a day. And that's why
17:52they can't, that's why they can't lose weight. It's just math. So there's a relief, you know,
17:59in the tension of, you know, women want sex, of course, and it's a natural human desire and a
18:10commitment and they want security and a lot of them want children and so on, right? And,
18:15you know, do I put out or not is a big challenging question for women, especially, I mean, it used
18:21to
18:21be better when women didn't break ranks all the time and sleep with other guys on the first date.
18:25But the question of should I put out or not is tough. And it has to do with, you know,
18:30if you end
18:31up with a good marriage and you end up with a happy partnership and so on, then you get a
18:39lifetime
18:39of great sex, you know, assuming no major medical issues, you end up with a lifetime of great sex.
18:45So that's cool. We, we like that, right? And so again, it's, do I, do I give up my flower
18:55to a
18:55backdoor man on the first date or, or do I hold out and then end up with great sex for
19:02my whole life
19:03with a wonderful, loving partner with whom I am pair bonded and trust. And, you know, we know what each
19:08other like, and, you know, all of that kind of stuff, right? So it's, you know, now versus later,
19:12right? Do I have happiness in eating a lot of calories now? Let's say sugar now. Well, that
19:19makes me happy, but that means that down the road, I have the unhappiness of being overweight and
19:25the shame and the ill health and the potential diabetes and the shortened lifespan, all that kind
19:30of stuff, right? At the same time, you know, there are people who are thin and miserable and neurotic
19:35contents. And they also have a terrible relationship with food. A lot of times they view food as the
19:39enemy and they're all complicated and wrapped up and stressed and all that kind of stuff, right?
19:46So yeah, she's, she's offering, you know, look, here's the answer. Just do what you want.
19:51And anyone who gives you restraint is like a stuck up prude Christian, Cassandra, who's, uh,
19:58you know, can't, can't enjoy things in life, right? So she's just offering this sort of demonic
20:04solution to the problem, which is, yeah, you know what? And the tension between now and
20:08later and the tension between food and slenderness and the tension between sex now and sex later,
20:15you know, just choose, choose it in the now. And anyone who tells you otherwise is a stuck up
20:20prude. So this offering up this relief or release from tension, oh, you can just do whatever you want.
20:27You can just do whatever you feel like. You do what is right for you. You do what is good
20:33for you. Uh, it's a great relief, of course, for a lot of people, right? This is a great relief
20:41that it's like, oh, okay, finally, finally, I have the answer. Oh, thank goodness. And the answer is
20:49just do what I want, right? Just do what I want and all will be well. Do what feels right.
20:57Now,
20:58of course, that is not much of a rational answer because if, say, for instance, somebody said,
21:06I feel like I hate women, right? They say, oh, I feel like I hate women or minorities or white.
21:11Well,
21:12I guess whites is okay, right? But if they say, oh, I feel like I dislike this particular group. Of
21:18course,
21:18nobody would say, oh, well, then, no problem. Then what you should do is you should indulge in
21:28that feeling, right? Act on your passions is only for that which captures voters for the left,
21:40right? Got to understand that, right? You know, I mean, this is this sort of old joke that every
21:45ethnicity can have pride except whites because that makes you a Nazi, you know, that kind of
21:49racist stuff. And so you are allowed to indulge in every passion that captures you for leftist
22:00voting. If you allow men to hit every orifice on the first date, then it's depressing. I mean,
22:10it's sad just from the point of view of men. And I've talked to a lot of men about this
22:15over the
22:15years, of course. It's just sad. A woman who engages in sexual activity on the first date
22:25is a tragic, tragic figure because obviously she's not vetting. She's not safe. She's not testing for
22:33STDs. She's not testing for compatibility. She's not testing for basic safety. It's desperate.
22:41And it indicates a very depressed and negative self-image. And this, to me, comes back to
22:50the whole question of corruption, which is corruption, is it driven by demand or by supply?
23:01In other words, is it supply creates its own demand like people didn't know they needed an iPad until
23:07there was such a thing as an iPad? Does supply create its own demand? In other words, women
23:15listen to this hellish witch and they say, oh, okay, well, I guess I can just go and indulge my
23:26lust.
23:26So, Sheryl Sandberg said the same kind of thing, you know, go sleep in this book, Leaning In.
23:32And she was at Facebook. Her husband died, young-ish. And Sheryl Sandberg was like, yeah,
23:39yeah, yeah, go sleep with everybody. Go sleep with everybody. And then when you're settled down,
23:43you know, you can change your standards and blah, blah, blah. And the people who sell you the upside
23:50with no downside are demonic, right? And that's sort of what I'm talking about foundationally.
23:56So, people who say, well, of course, you should just sleep around, right? And there's no downside
24:06to it. It's all upside. It's all you being empowered, baby, and getting what you want and
24:11doing what you need and resisting that very stuck-up prude Cassandra. You know, like,
24:17there's no downside. Like, why would you not just go and F anybody with a pulse who you find
24:25interesting or exciting? Why wouldn't you just follow your lusts? And would she say that about
24:31food? Just eat whatever tastes good, eat whatever you like, indulge in every appetite when it comes
24:38to food? I mean, she sure is not doing that. Because if she was 200 pounds, she would not have
24:42a successful podcast. Because the alpha females, as she would be, date the alpha males, or date an
24:51alpha male, or marry an alpha male. And the alpha male has friends and brothers and so on, cousins,
24:57who are also probably very high status. And for women, you cannot speak out against
25:06the alpha female. Otherwise, she will cut and mark and restrict your access to who you perceive to
25:14be higher quality people, or at least like higher status people. And of course, for most of our
25:19evolution, higher status was the same as higher quality. Moral considerations are relatively new.
25:23In the sort of million plus year of human evolution, moral considerations have been only the last maybe
25:30few thousand years at best for a small minority. So it's a pretty new phenomenon. So she obviously
25:38doesn't indulge in her lust, she stays slender, she has a skincare routine that I'm sure is quite boring.
25:44And she takes good care for hair and her teeth and, and all of that. And so yeah, promoting this
25:51sort
25:51of lazy, lax hedonism to others is this intrasexual competition, wherein, if you again, this isn't
26:01counting if you are very pretty, right? She's very pretty, and very slender, and so on. And so this
26:07doesn't sort of count that those women always land on their feet, so to speak. I mean, like cats,
26:10right? They'll always land on their feet. I mean, even somebody who has had an OnlyFans career
26:15can find a man to marry her and give her a baby. So we're not sort of talking about that.
26:21What she's saying is that I'm pretty enough that I can sleep around and still get a man
26:28to commit to me. Now, whether you have a good marriage, and a healthy marriage, and a happy
26:32marriage, I don't think so. I don't think so. But she's saying, I can do these things that are
26:40negative. I can be an armpit shaved, woo-woo, hands above the head party girl, and I can still
26:47get a man to marry me. But if you're an average looking woman, then your options are significantly
26:53diminished. Because she's saying, I'm so pretty that I don't have to be a moral person. But if
27:03you're not super pretty, I mean, I recommend judging on the qualities of character no matter
27:08what. But if you're not super pretty, then you're going to be chosen based on the qualities
27:15of your character, right? And so she is wrecking most women's chances. Again, you know, I wish it
27:24wasn't this way. You know, this is descriptive, not prescriptive. But in the world, it is. Very
27:30pretty girls will always have simps to marry them. I mean, it's evolution, right? 40% of
27:36men, sometimes more, didn't reproduce, and so beggars can't be choosers. And so the very
27:45attractive women will always have some simp to take care of them. I mean, unless they go
27:51super mad like Zelda Fitzgerald. F. Scott Fitzgerald's wife ended up spending 12 years in an asylum
27:57after obsessively measuring her thighs in her youth, and then ended up being burned to
28:02death in a terrible fire. Just a horrible, horrible exit. I mean, they both had horrible
28:07exits. And in a sense, deservedly so. So when she says to women, just act, either it's aggressive
28:19intersexual competition based on, I don't know, really cruel and horrible metrics, or it's a genuine
28:28blindness to what life is like for less attractive people. What is life like for less attractive? I mean,
28:35she's charming, she's got some charisma, she's attractive, she's got a nice voice, she's obviously
28:40intelligent, she's very verbal, podcast host of a very successful podcaster. So she has a lot of,
28:47how would say, she has a lot of positive qualities from a neutral standpoint, right? And because she
28:57has a lot of positives from a neutral standpoint, she has a lot of strengths, cynicism, intelligence,
29:04some wit, some charm, attractiveness, obviously self-disciplined. And so she has a lot of positive
29:12attributes. And so she can make mistakes. She can sleep around. I don't know if she did or didn't. Maybe
29:20she
29:20did. I don't know. But she can do all of these things. And a guy will date and marry her.
29:27Because
29:28she's pretty. But that's not the case. That's decidedly not the case for average looking women.
29:35But average looking women are going to be chosen more so based on the qualities of their character.
29:43You know, like the fat guy has to be funny. And if you're not very attractive, physically, I mean,
29:50average, right? It's nothing wrong with average. It is, of course, the middle of the road. But if you are
29:57not very attractive, then the quality of your character is what matters. You know, your kindness,
30:04consideration, caring, thoughtfulness, pair bonding. And that is going to be the most wrecked
30:10by promiscuity. So a woman, in a sense, who's attractive and promiscuous, is saying, I'm so
30:17attractive that I can ruin my character and men will still want me. And, you know, again, sadly,
30:24that's true. That's true. Men will still want her because she's pretty and slim. But she's
30:32racking chances for average women. And I don't know if that's conscious, you know, that the real
30:39privilege is not even being conscious of your privilege. So if she's saying, look, I can do
30:44these wild things, I can do these crazy things, I can do these dangerous things, I can do these,
30:50you know, kind of gross and self-loathing things, and men will still want me.
30:54That's how pretty I am. Well, and again, I don't know if that's conscious or unconscious or the
31:00motive behind it. But it is absolutely destructive to the odds of success for the average person.
31:09And another example would be if some guy wins the lottery or inherits out of nowhere $10 million,
31:18right? I used to be able to say $1 million, but inflation, man. So someone gets through no
31:25particular earning, gets $10 million, then that person is going to say, you know, you shouldn't
31:32be in a hurry to choose your career, you should really figure things out over time, don't jump into
31:37things that you're not ready for, don't work at a job you hate, you know, these kinds of things,
31:41right? And he's going to have all of this advice. And all of this advice works fairly well for people
31:48who have $10 million in the bank. It doesn't work so well for people who are poor. Now, it's one
31:56thing
31:56to suddenly get $10 million, at least you grew up without the money. But people who are born attractive,
32:04people who are born very pretty, or very handsome, they do not understand their privilege. It's really
32:13hard for them to understand their privilege. You know, like all the tall guys, you know, with great
32:18hair and the, you know, Dan Bilzerian, macho Norse beards and things like that. Although he's got a
32:26kind of Middle Eastern vibe, I don't know where he's from. But those guys are like, you know, just
32:30approach women with confidence and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And it's like, but that doesn't
32:35work well for the high forehead, chinless wonders of the world. You know, Melania Trump can have that
32:42steely eyed, narrow, lidded, slightly feral gaze that she has probably out of her modeling career.
32:50And that works well for her. It does not work well for average looking women to do the model phase.
32:58You know, that vaguely angry, impatient, just hopped off the haunches of a Siberian tiger gaze,
33:06right? I mean, it works for a very attractive woman. It does not work for less attractive women.
33:12I mean, you see these videos of like, to do your model face, do sort of X, Y, and Z.
33:17And then people
33:18who are average looking try to do the model phase, and they just look ridiculous, right?
33:23So, people who are born that attractive, and I don't know if she was born wealthy or comes from
33:27a wealthy family, and so on. I think her mother was Catholic, her father was Jewish.
33:35So, what do I know, right? But if she's born that attractive, and that vivacious,
33:41and vivacity comes with attractiveness, then she's going to have privileges that she may not even be
33:47particularly aware of. I mean, heck, even coming from a relatively stable and loving family gives
33:51you privileges that are hard to be aware of. So, if she says, well, look, I can make all these
33:59kinds
33:59of mistakes. Like, if your father is the chief of police, and you're never going to go to jail,
34:03then yeah, you can go out and do goofy, stupid, illegal stuff. And you say, oh, you know, you should
34:09have your wild years. You should push the envelope. You should test the limits of society,
34:13blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, well, yeah, but your dad is the chief of police,
34:16so you're never going to jail, right? Assuming that's a setup. So, maybe you're just not aware
34:21of it. Maybe you're not aware, because you lack empathy, that you're giving bad advice
34:26to people that works for you because of your privileges, your high status, your protection
34:33from consequences. You know, if you've got $10 million in the bank, you're largely protected
34:38from bad financial decisions. I mean, assuming they're not $10 million and $1. And if you have
34:44beauty as a female, then you are protected from bad decisions. If an unattractive woman brags to a
34:54man about having done Mrs. Clooney, that's not the real Mrs. Clooney, just the first name,
35:01on the first date, then it's kind of gross. If an attractive, a really hot woman talks about it,
35:07then it's actually exciting for men. Again, I'm not saying this is good or right, it just is what
35:13is, right? We are animals first, humans second, and rational third, if we're lucky, or if we work
35:19at it. Now, the other thing, of course, is that she keeps having these celebrities on who say the
35:25most appalling things. She had Gwyneth Paltrow on, who dated Brad Pitt, was Coldplay guy's wife
35:36for a while, and I can't remember, dated a bunch of other famous people. Oh, Ben Affleck, I think
35:44she was Ben Affleck's girlfriend. And I think, yeah, yeah, so the Alex character, sorry, not the
35:51character, the Alex host, she asked Gwyneth Paltrow, who's better in bed, Brad Pitt or Ben Affleck? I think
35:59it was those two. And she was like, oh, Brad Pitt was the love of my life, there was lots
36:03of passion,
36:04but, you know, Ben Affleck was technically proficient, I don't know what that means.
36:11He's good at fidget spinners, I don't know. But, and the woman is sort of leaning in, the host,
36:19and then giggling and laughing and just encouraging her to spill her guts. And Gwyneth Paltrow is like,
36:25oh my god, my daughter's watching this and blah, blah, blah, right? But she can't resist.
36:28Because she can't say, I mean, she's a rich and famous and talented and attractive movie star,
36:35and so she should be able to have boundaries, right? But if she goes on the Call Her Daddy
36:41podcast, boy, it would be fun to have Camille Paglia on there. But if she goes on the Call
36:46Her Daddy podcast, and if the host says, who's a better lover, this movie star or that movie star,
36:55and if she would say, look, I'm not talking about my private life on this podcast, that's private.
37:01And I'm sure that the men don't want me talking about it. I mean, I sure wouldn't want the men
37:06talking about how good or bad I was in bed, whether I was an acrobat or a starfish.
37:11So I'm not going to do that to them. And it's, you know, kind of a little inappropriate for you
37:15to
37:15ask those questions. Well, what would happen? Well, there might be some, okay, you know, okay,
37:20well, I'll concede to your Cassandriness, your prudery. And then there would be this mockery
37:26of her, and she would be excluded from the cool girl's lunch table, which I guess is still pretty
37:32important to a lot of people. And there would be this rejection and this hostility and this mockery.
37:39I mean, if you try to set boundaries, you'll be mocked by dysfunctional people. And so you can't,
37:47I mean, can you imagine if I'm on some podcast and somebody asks me about my sex life? Like,
37:55oh my gosh, I'm not talking about that. Like, and I would, I would probably leave. And then of course,
38:01the baying hounds of people without boundaries are summoned and they mock and roll their eyes.
38:08What a prude. And it's just natural, man. It's all human. It's like, so there is that aspect as well,
38:14that she is encouraging and laughing. And of course, she's looking for her viral clips,
38:21right? So she's looking for shocking, gossipy, sexual, dysfunctional, whatever. She had,
38:28was it Hilary Duff on who was talking about how she didn't want a good guy and just wanted a
38:36bad boy
38:37after her divorce and so on and didn't like the guy who wooed her because he was too nice.
38:41And then she had some other woman on, again, I can't remember her name, Zoe or something like
38:46that, who was talking about when she was 16 and she made out with her best friend's boyfriend and
38:54it was filmed and sent to her best friend before she could explain it. And then she said she was
38:58just a piece of floating trash in the universe that nobody would talk to. And that's your viral
39:02clip, right? So she's aiming for that viral clip. She's aiming for that success. And she's monetizing
39:08people's insecurities. Because if you're asked inappropriate questions, then you should,
39:12of course, say, I'm not answering that. And in a sense, how dare you ask it? And these celebrities,
39:20they want to go viral too. I guess everybody just wants to trade privacy and decorum and so on for
39:27money and fame. And it's kind of sad. And this opening up, I mean, can you imagine? Imagine.
39:37Wretched. Someone you sleep with becomes famous and then talks about your sex life to
39:41tens of millions of people. Wretched. A horrifying and horrible invasion of privacy.
39:49It's like a verbal sex tape. And that is not good at all. That is not good at all.
39:57So, yeah, I find the whole phenomenon interesting. Of course, I don't imagine I'll ever spend time
40:03listening to a full show. Somebody was commenting, I don't know if it's true, that girls in high school
40:09were listening to this Call Her Daddy podcast in order to learn how to give BJs and so on.
40:16And, you know, there's a price to be paid. And anybody who says to you, the answer is just X.
40:22You know, like, I've always said, look, it's, I think it's important to be more moral than rational,
40:26but recognize it's going to come at what feels like sometimes an almost unbearable cost. And it does.
40:32It is. So I'm giving you the downside. Like, being rational, being moral will give you love,
40:39it will give you a good relationship with your own conscience, but it will also summon the demons
40:43of the self-destroyed to howl and berate you at every opportunity.
40:49And all of that is demonic. To say, well, we're just going to help the poor and not talk about
40:59any
40:59downsides of that or any risks or potential problems. Or just do this, just do that.
41:04Or you just follow your body, do what your body likes, do what your body wants. And there's no
41:08downside. And anybody who tells you that there might be a downside to rampant promiscuity is just
41:17a Cassandra and a prude. And maybe that's fine to you, you stuck up church lady. You know,
41:22that kind of stuff, right? That's kind of demonic. There are costs and benefits to almost every
41:27decision in life. And people who hide that from you are kind of destroying you. I hope this makes
41:32sense. I'd love to hear what you think. Freedemand.com slash donate. Thank you, friends. Bye.
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