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00:00:00Good morning, friends. I hope you're doing well.

00:00:03Stefan Molyneux from Freedom, Maine.

00:00:05Welcome to your Sunday morning philosophy takedown of the forces of anti-reason.

00:00:11And I started my day off.

00:00:15Constantine, someone or other, was debating Andrew Wilson,

00:00:21husband of Rachel Wilson, who has actually a great book

00:00:26on the occult origins of feminism, which you should check out.

00:00:30And Andrew and Rachel show up on the whatever podcast and other areas.

00:00:37And they were debating the draft versus motherhood.

00:00:43The draft versus motherhood.

00:00:46And we'll put a link to the debate below.

00:00:51It was shockingly bad.

00:00:53Okay, Andrew Wilson is a very smart guy and a very good debater.

00:00:58He has that slightly drunken uncle, weary impatience with frivolity and foolishness

00:01:04that is actually quite powerful.

00:01:06And I don't mean that to diminish his rhetorical skills, which are very good.

00:01:10But he has this, yeah, yeah, yeah, I got it.

00:01:12Okay, I understand.

00:01:13Yeah, yeah, I got it, got it.

00:01:14And it's very, very effective.

00:01:17And I certainly applaud that.

00:01:20Debating is in part show and in part reason.

00:01:24And of course, the reason should outshine the show.

00:01:26But you need to have, it doesn't, if you have a great product, you also need a great salesman.

00:01:30In fact, the better the product, the more of a great salesman you need.

00:01:33And the argument was something like this.

00:01:38So Constantine was saying, women have to carry children and raise children.

00:01:46And that is the unique contribution that they provide to society.

00:01:50And Andrew Wilson's argument was that men are subject to the draft.

00:01:58And the draft is compelled and often deadly.

00:02:03And there are worse things that can happen to you in war than to die.

00:02:09Some people go through so much war trauma that they end up committing suicide years later,

00:02:14which is a fate worse than death in some ways.

00:02:19And the argument was interesting because it comes down to compelled versus non-compelled.

00:02:24The draft, you know, that, as Andrew pointed out, they're drafting men in Ukraine at the age of 60.

00:02:34I could be drafted if I was in Ukraine.

00:02:38Although not if I say it that way.

00:02:39I could be drafted.

00:02:41Maybe I could be drafted.

00:02:43Duke Duke voice.

00:02:44I could be drafted.

00:02:47And the compelled nature of it is interesting.

00:02:50And the equivalence was made, Constantine was saying, but women have this great burden of having and raising children,

00:02:58which economically disadvantages them, right?

00:03:02Because they have to take time off from work in order to raise children.

00:03:06And that is a negative.

00:03:08And that, of course, bypasses the fact that when women take time off from work,

00:03:13almost always somebody else pays the bills.

00:03:15The husband, the government, obviously, in a very big way through $100,000 worth of welfare

00:03:22for the average single mother of two children, welfare and other benefits.

00:03:27And so, you have to take the entirety of a woman's income.

00:03:32You don't just look at her salaried income and say, that's her income.

00:03:36That's crazy.

00:03:38I mean, that's just completely deranged.

00:03:40Because then all women without jobs would have to be living under bridges or in tent cities or something like

00:03:48that.

00:03:48And, you know, it's just a while to be.

00:03:51It's a while to be that people get lost in all of these abstract arguments and don't just do the

00:03:56basic work of,

00:03:57oh, I don't know, looking around society.

00:04:00If women are so underpaid, and if a woman's economic consumption is only, only determined by her salaried income,

00:04:12then why are women, you know, a third of women stay home with their kids or more,

00:04:17why are women not living under bridges if they don't have an income?

00:04:21It's because if a woman is raising children, somebody else is paying her income.

00:04:25Again, it could be the taxpayers, it could be usually the husband or someone.

00:04:31I mean, it could be savings and things like that.

00:04:32It could be the parents, her parents could be paying it and so on.

00:04:38But it's just this funny thing where people don't, they get lost in all this data,

00:04:42and they don't just actually look at the world as it is.

00:04:47And Constantine, I mean, midwit personified, I mean, midwit personified,

00:04:54because the argument that men are subject to the draft, and that's their special obligation,

00:04:59was countered, and I wouldn't have countered it this way, but whatever.

00:05:02I mean, everybody has their different style.

00:05:07Now, it's countered by saying men have the special obligation to go to war if they're drafted,

00:05:15women have a special obligation to have children,

00:05:18and Andrew Wilson was pointing out, of course, that women aren't having children.

00:05:22I mean, now, when, this is kind of a good faith debate thing.

00:05:28This is how you know whether you're debating someone because you're both in hot pursuit of the truth,

00:05:32or because you're just trying to score points and win something, right?

00:05:39So, there's a shorthand or a shortcut to language, right?

00:05:45Which is when you say, but women aren't having children.

00:05:48What does that mean?

00:05:49That means that, as a whole, a society is significantly below the replacement rate,

00:05:55in particular for, let's say, the historical population, right?

00:06:00So, women aren't having children.

00:06:02As part of the culture.

00:06:04Now, if you import a bunch of people from some other country,

00:06:06and they have a bunch of kids, that's raising the birth rate, of course, right?

00:06:11But we were talking about sort of the historical or culturally contiguous part of the society.

00:06:18So, you know that meme where the guy is standing in the, looks like the piazza,

00:06:24holding a cup of coffee,

00:06:25and he says to a woman,

00:06:28the average height of women is 5'4".

00:06:31And the woman says,

00:06:33I'm 5'6", though.

00:06:35And the man just takes a weary sip of the cup of coffee.

00:06:42And men deal with abstractions.

00:06:44Women deal with particulars.

00:06:45This is not an IQ thing.

00:06:47Women are brilliant in many ways,

00:06:49but that is the generality.

00:06:51This is why men tend to work with abstract things,

00:06:55principles, engineering, and so on.

00:06:57And women prefer working with people,

00:06:58because men deal with concepts,

00:07:01and women deal with instances.

00:07:03And both, of course, are absolutely essential.

00:07:06You need to have a fence around your house to keep the wolves out,

00:07:10but you need to deal with children as individuals in order to raise them.

00:07:13So, both are essential.

00:07:16So, Andrew Wilson says,

00:07:17but women aren't having children.

00:07:20To which Constantine responds,

00:07:23but my wife is having children,

00:07:25and your wife had children?

00:07:28And it's like,

00:07:29that is such a bad faith argument,

00:07:31and that's so feminized.

00:07:33And listen,

00:07:34I don't mean feminized in any negative way whatsoever.

00:07:37Feminized is beautiful.

00:07:38For women,

00:07:39it's just not so great.

00:07:41For actual men.

00:07:43And,

00:07:44what do you even say to that?

00:07:46That's just such a pathetically bad faith argument.

00:07:50Women as a whole,

00:07:51like,

00:07:52as a whole,

00:07:52is implied,

00:07:53right?

00:07:54And,

00:07:55of course,

00:07:58it's an insult to everyone involved.

00:08:00If you say,

00:08:00women aren't having children,

00:08:02and then you point out two instances

00:08:05out of hundreds of millions of women across the West,

00:08:08or, you know,

00:08:09in South Korea,

00:08:10and Japan,

00:08:12and so on.

00:08:14If you say,

00:08:15women aren't having children,

00:08:16and you say,

00:08:18I know two women who are having children.

00:08:21And,

00:08:22of course,

00:08:22that is implied,

00:08:23like,

00:08:23above the replacement rate.

00:08:26It's such a pathetic response.

00:08:28That,

00:08:30what is implied,

00:08:32I try not to have these things in debates,

00:08:35and you'll see me pushing back when I'm debating with listeners,

00:08:38and I see we've got some callers,

00:08:39so I'll get you in a second.

00:08:40I appreciate your patience.

00:08:42But,

00:08:44if

00:08:45someone was so dumb

00:08:48as

00:08:48to hear the statement,

00:08:50women aren't having children,

00:08:51and then think that the most brilliant rebuttal

00:08:54is to point out that he

00:08:55knows of a woman who is

00:08:57having children,

00:08:58it would be to say

00:09:00that Andrew Wilson

00:09:01is making the argument

00:09:03that absolutely zero women are having children,

00:09:06despite the fact that he's married to

00:09:08Rachel Wilson,

00:09:10who has had a bunch of kids.

00:09:11I mean,

00:09:12what do you even say to that?

00:09:14It drags

00:09:16the conversation down

00:09:17to a level

00:09:19south of IQ 80.

00:09:22And I,

00:09:23I actually get very impatient

00:09:25and angry at people

00:09:26who deliberately dumb down debate

00:09:28in order to score

00:09:29a non-existent point.

00:09:32It'd be like saying,

00:09:34LeBron James is not actually a very good basketball player

00:09:37because he misses some shots.

00:09:41Or if they're two sports announcers,

00:09:43LeBron James

00:09:44takes the shot,

00:09:45he misses.

00:09:46And the other one says,

00:09:48oh,

00:09:48are you saying he misses all his shots?

00:09:52What do you even say?

00:09:55Oh,

00:09:55what do you even say?

00:09:56It's so pathetic.

00:09:58And then you waste time.

00:10:00Right?

00:10:00This is pure sophistry

00:10:01on Constantine's part.

00:10:02Now,

00:10:03the idea,

00:10:05the very idea,

00:10:06and this has been a brilliant psyop,

00:10:08and this is not female nature,

00:10:10I wouldn't say that it's female nature,

00:10:12but it's more common

00:10:14among women

00:10:16to inflate

00:10:18their contributions

00:10:20to attempt

00:10:21to provide

00:10:22equal value.

00:10:23So,

00:10:24I had a friend once

00:10:25many years ago

00:10:27who convinced

00:10:28his girlfriend

00:10:30to move

00:10:31from some

00:10:32distant place.

00:10:33I remember having

00:10:34dealing with them

00:10:35a couple of months

00:10:36after this happened.

00:10:37So,

00:10:37he convinced his girlfriend,

00:10:38who he had a long-distance

00:10:40relationship with,

00:10:40he convinced his girlfriend

00:10:41to come and move

00:10:42in with him.

00:10:44And,

00:10:44for months and months,

00:10:46she never got a job.

00:10:47Didn't even look for a job.

00:10:48They weren't having kids,

00:10:49at least at this point

00:10:50in their lives.

00:10:51They were just,

00:10:51you know,

00:10:52playing house,

00:10:52living together

00:10:53in that foolish way

00:10:54that a lot of people

00:10:55in their twenties do.

00:10:57I say this

00:10:58with all due humility,

00:10:58but,

00:11:00I remember them

00:11:01having this conversation.

00:11:03You know when couples

00:11:03have this

00:11:05buried barb resentment

00:11:07and that you're

00:11:08sitting with them

00:11:09and you can feel

00:11:09these icebergs

00:11:11moving deep

00:11:12below the conversation

00:11:13but only the tips

00:11:14are pointing out.

00:11:16And the evening

00:11:17was drawing to a close

00:11:18and he said,

00:11:19I gotta close things up.

00:11:21I have to,

00:11:22I have to get it

00:11:22for work in the morning.

00:11:24I mean,

00:11:25my girlfriend doesn't,

00:11:26but I do,

00:11:26right?

00:11:26And she's like,

00:11:27oh,

00:11:27what do you mean I don't?

00:11:28And so they had

00:11:28this conversation

00:11:31and she clearly

00:11:32didn't want to get a job

00:11:34which is fine.

00:11:35I mean,

00:11:36jobs in your twenties

00:11:37generally suck

00:11:38because you don't

00:11:39actually get to

00:11:40more skilled jobs

00:11:41and better managers

00:11:43until you get older.

00:11:44Like,

00:11:44this is one of the reasons

00:11:45why people become socialists

00:11:46is they have bad bosses

00:11:48when they're in their teenagers

00:11:49because if you're a

00:11:50good and competent boss,

00:11:52you're not managing teenagers,

00:11:54right?

00:11:54Right?

00:11:55So,

00:11:57she didn't want to get a job.

00:11:58Now,

00:11:59could she say,

00:12:00I don't want to get a job?

00:12:01I'm not going to get a job.

00:12:02I just want you to pay all the bills.

00:12:04She couldn't say that

00:12:06because then,

00:12:07clearly,

00:12:09he would be paying for sex,

00:12:11which is gross,

00:12:12right?

00:12:12Men should not pay for sex.

00:12:14The excess resources

00:12:15that men are able

00:12:16to create and provide

00:12:18have been evolved

00:12:19to take care of a wife

00:12:20and children,

00:12:20to pay for a wife

00:12:21and children.

00:12:22So,

00:12:23she couldn't say,

00:12:24well,

00:12:24I just,

00:12:26I just don't want to get a job.

00:12:27I mean,

00:12:28it's not fun.

00:12:29I'd rather you pay all the bills

00:12:30because then the question is,

00:12:32okay,

00:12:32so why,

00:12:33why would I be paying

00:12:34all the bills?

00:12:35What's the big differentiator?

00:12:36If she was just

00:12:36some male roommate,

00:12:37he wouldn't be paying

00:12:38all the bills

00:12:38so the male roommate

00:12:39could stay home,

00:12:40suck on bonbons

00:12:41and watch some

00:12:43Hispanic soap operas

00:12:44or whatever she was doing

00:12:44during the day.

00:12:46So,

00:12:46the only difference would be

00:12:47that he's paying

00:12:48because she's having

00:12:49sex with him

00:12:51and that's gross.

00:12:52Men don't want to pay

00:12:53for sex

00:12:54if they have even

00:12:54a shred of self-esteem.

00:12:56You pay

00:12:57if you're a man,

00:12:58your wife is home

00:12:59raising kids,

00:13:00you pay

00:13:00for the wife and kids.

00:13:02You don't pay for sex.

00:13:03That's gross.

00:13:05I mean,

00:13:05that is

00:13:06prostitution.

00:13:07It's live-in prostitution

00:13:08if

00:13:08the only reason

00:13:09you're paying

00:13:10the woman's bills

00:13:10is because she's

00:13:11having sex with you

00:13:12rather than

00:13:12you're on your way

00:13:13to,

00:13:14like,

00:13:14you're married

00:13:15and you're

00:13:15planning for kids

00:13:16and so on,

00:13:17that's fine

00:13:17and she's nesting.

00:13:18That's beautiful.

00:13:20So,

00:13:20she couldn't just say

00:13:21to my friend,

00:13:22I don't want to get a job.

00:13:23I just want to pay,

00:13:25I want you to pay the bills

00:13:27when we have no plans,

00:13:28at least in the short run,

00:13:29they had no plans

00:13:30for marriage

00:13:31or they were just

00:13:31playing house.

00:13:33So,

00:13:34she couldn't say that

00:13:35because then he'd say,

00:13:36well,

00:13:37I don't want to pay

00:13:38all the bills

00:13:39because,

00:13:39you know,

00:13:41then I'm paying

00:13:42a lot extra

00:13:42to have you here

00:13:43just in return

00:13:44for having sex.

00:13:45So,

00:13:45that was not a,

00:13:46so she had to,

00:13:47so what did she have to do?

00:13:48She had to create

00:13:49an obligation

00:13:49on his part

00:13:50that he was responsible for

00:13:52that wasn't just sex.

00:13:53So,

00:13:54what did she say?

00:13:55I remember this evening

00:13:56like it was yesterday

00:13:57because it really

00:13:58illuminated a lot for me.

00:14:00She said,

00:14:01she said,

00:14:02look,

00:14:03you have to pay the bills

00:14:04because I moved

00:14:04all the way here

00:14:05to be with you.

00:14:06I gave up my whole life

00:14:08in this other place

00:14:09to come here

00:14:10and live with you.

00:14:12So,

00:14:13you have to pay the bills

00:14:14until I get a job

00:14:15and it's taking me a while

00:14:16to get settled

00:14:16and there's still things

00:14:17that I need to do

00:14:18and I'm still getting used

00:14:19to the neighborhood

00:14:19and figuring out

00:14:21what the bus routes are

00:14:22and all the stuff.

00:14:23But I gave up

00:14:25my whole life

00:14:27to come here

00:14:28and be with you.

00:14:28The least you could do

00:14:29is cover the bills

00:14:30for a little while.

00:14:31Right?

00:14:32So,

00:14:32she created

00:14:33a labor,

00:14:34an obligation,

00:14:35a hole

00:14:37that he just had

00:14:38to fill in for her.

00:14:40I gave up

00:14:41my whole life.

00:14:43I moved

00:14:44all the way here

00:14:45just to be with you

00:14:46and you can't

00:14:47just cover rent

00:14:47for a couple of,

00:14:48right?

00:14:50Brilliant.

00:14:52Honestly,

00:14:52brilliant.

00:14:53I mean,

00:14:54not honest.

00:14:56Not honest.

00:14:57I mean,

00:14:58if I had been

00:15:00in the man's shoes,

00:15:02I would have said,

00:15:03uh,

00:15:03nope,

00:15:04that's not what

00:15:04we talked about ahead.

00:15:05I mean,

00:15:05if you talked about it

00:15:06ahead of time

00:15:06and said,

00:15:07I want at least

00:15:08four to six months

00:15:08of you covering the bills

00:15:09for me to come

00:15:10and move in with you,

00:15:11then we could have

00:15:11had that discussion.

00:15:13But you can't come here,

00:15:15you know,

00:15:16you had a job

00:15:16where you were,

00:15:17you can't just come here

00:15:18and not work

00:15:18and say,

00:15:19well,

00:15:19you owe me

00:15:20because that's something

00:15:21you need to negotiate

00:15:22ahead of time.

00:15:24So,

00:15:24did you,

00:15:24do you think I had

00:15:26the assumption

00:15:26that you would get a job

00:15:28relatively quickly

00:15:29after you came

00:15:29to move in with me?

00:15:30Well,

00:15:30sure.

00:15:31So,

00:15:31you can't change the deal

00:15:32later on,

00:15:33right?

00:15:33I mean,

00:15:34that would be

00:15:34my approach,

00:15:36but he was

00:15:38a little cucked

00:15:39as men are.

00:15:42So,

00:15:42this ability,

00:15:43it doesn't just happen

00:15:45for women,

00:15:46it happens for men

00:15:47in the workplace.

00:15:49You know,

00:15:49the famous movie

00:15:50Office Space

00:15:50where people have

00:15:52to justify their jobs,

00:15:53they just make up

00:15:53all of this amazing,

00:15:54intense,

00:15:55wonderful stuff

00:15:56that they're doing

00:15:56and they hope

00:15:58to keep their jobs.

00:15:59So,

00:15:59they just make up

00:15:59value in order

00:16:00to extract a paycheck.

00:16:02Well,

00:16:03I'm involved in

00:16:05strategizing

00:16:06for the entire

00:16:06product line

00:16:08forward thrust

00:16:09in the marketing arena

00:16:10to raise awareness

00:16:12of our solutions

00:16:14among the relevant

00:16:15sectors of the demographic.

00:16:16Again,

00:16:16just make up

00:16:17a bunch of nonsense,

00:16:19all of which

00:16:19is unmeasurable

00:16:20and just sounds impressive

00:16:21and public sector workers

00:16:23do this

00:16:23all the time

00:16:25and people do it

00:16:26with their

00:16:26business cards,

00:16:28you know,

00:16:28those big fold-out

00:16:28business cards

00:16:29where they just claim

00:16:30to be the masters

00:16:30of the universe,

00:16:32master of time,

00:16:33space and dimension

00:16:34and then I want

00:16:35to go to Paris

00:16:36and women do this.

00:16:38Again,

00:16:38not all,

00:16:39some,

00:16:39and they exaggerate

00:16:41how difficult

00:16:43their jobs are.

00:16:44They exaggerate

00:16:45how difficult

00:16:46their lives are

00:16:46in order to extract

00:16:49resources.

00:16:50I moved here

00:16:51quivering lips,

00:16:52I gave up my life,

00:16:54I moved here

00:16:54just to be with you,

00:16:56right?

00:16:58So,

00:16:59I mean,

00:16:59this is the root

00:17:00of women feeling

00:17:01overwhelmed,

00:17:02feel overwhelmed.

00:17:03Why do they feel

00:17:04overwhelmed?

00:17:05Because if they're

00:17:06straining every fiber

00:17:07of their being

00:17:09to do things

00:17:10for those around them,

00:17:11then that creates

00:17:12an implicit

00:17:13and sometimes explicit

00:17:14obligation.

00:17:17So,

00:17:17some men,

00:17:19some women,

00:17:20maybe a bit more women,

00:17:21exaggerate

00:17:22their contributions

00:17:24in order to extract

00:17:26resources.

00:17:27They exaggerate

00:17:28their contributions

00:17:29in order to

00:17:30extract resources.

00:17:32and it's a

00:17:33tragically common

00:17:34phenomenon

00:17:36and

00:17:36if you look

00:17:38at

00:17:39I remember

00:17:40many years ago

00:17:41reading a book

00:17:41on the Canadian

00:17:42welfare state.

00:17:43I actually

00:17:44had sent out

00:17:45prospectus

00:17:46to publishers

00:17:46to write a book

00:17:47on the Canadian

00:17:48welfare state

00:17:49because I found

00:17:49it quite fascinating.

00:17:51Of course,

00:17:52I got no interest

00:17:52because I didn't

00:17:53realize that it's

00:17:54mostly communists

00:17:54running the publishing

00:17:55industry.

00:17:56That took me a while

00:17:56to figure that one out.

00:17:58freedoman.com

00:17:58slash books.

00:18:00You should check out

00:18:00the books.

00:18:01They're free.

00:18:01They're great.

00:18:03Tony the Tiger style.

00:18:05But I remember

00:18:06this guy

00:18:07who wrote a book

00:18:08on the Canadian

00:18:08welfare state

00:18:09that was very

00:18:09sympathetic

00:18:10and he was talking

00:18:11about how

00:18:11he would wake up

00:18:13as a kid.

00:18:14He was an old guy

00:18:15so this is,

00:18:15I guess,

00:18:16turn of the century,

00:18:17last century,

00:18:18early 1900s.

00:18:19He said that he would

00:18:19wake up at night

00:18:20and his mother

00:18:21would be sobbing

00:18:22as she did

00:18:23the laundry.

00:18:24You know,

00:18:25what do they call them?

00:18:25Washboard abs.

00:18:26Washboard abs

00:18:26because you would

00:18:27scrub your child's

00:18:29clothes,

00:18:29your children's clothes,

00:18:30your family's clothes

00:18:31on this washboard.

00:18:33Her clothes are old

00:18:34but never are they dirty.

00:18:37And his mother

00:18:37would be crying

00:18:38because she'd be

00:18:38having to do the laundry

00:18:39in the middle of the night.

00:18:40She was so tired

00:18:41and all of this,

00:18:42that and the other,

00:18:43right?

00:18:45Now,

00:18:45of course,

00:18:46if you look

00:18:47at the modern woman's

00:18:49child raising,

00:18:50on average,

00:18:51right?

00:18:51On average,

00:18:52what happens?

00:18:53Well,

00:18:54they've got to get up

00:18:55in the morning

00:18:56and they've got to

00:18:57make their kids

00:18:57some food

00:18:58but usually it's not

00:18:58a full-cooked breakfast

00:19:00and some toast,

00:19:02some Pop-Tarts,

00:19:03you know,

00:19:03that kind of crap.

00:19:05Well,

00:19:05toast isn't crap

00:19:05but Pop-Tarts

00:19:06certainly are.

00:19:07She gets up,

00:19:08she makes the kids

00:19:09some food,

00:19:10packs her lunch,

00:19:11maybe,

00:19:12and then puts them

00:19:13on the bus

00:19:14and,

00:19:15you know,

00:19:158 o'clock,

00:19:167.30,

00:19:178 o'clock,

00:19:17they're on the bus

00:19:18and she's a stay-at-home,

00:19:19right?

00:19:20So,

00:19:20what does she do?

00:19:21Well,

00:19:22she's got a dishwasher,

00:19:24she's got a vacuum cleaner.

00:19:26I still remember

00:19:26in my neighborhood

00:19:27growing up,

00:19:28this is before

00:19:28vacuum cleaners

00:19:29were common,

00:19:29I remember a guy

00:19:30coming to sell us

00:19:32a vacuum cleaner

00:19:32in an apartment.

00:19:33Oh,

00:19:33it cleans the carpets

00:19:34and I remember

00:19:35he was like,

00:19:36oh,

00:19:36go and talk to your mother,

00:19:37make her buy it,

00:19:37no real,

00:19:39real cheese bag,

00:19:40sleaze ball

00:19:40of a salesman

00:19:42and I remember

00:19:43when I was a kid,

00:19:44women would take

00:19:45their carpets out

00:19:46and hang them

00:19:46on their clotheslines

00:19:47and beat the dust

00:19:48out of them.

00:19:49That's what you had to do.

00:19:50You don't have to do

00:19:51that anymore.

00:19:53You got fridges,

00:19:54you got clean running water,

00:19:56you got air conditioning

00:19:57and heating in the winter.

00:19:59You don't have to go

00:20:00to the well,

00:20:00you don't have to boil the water,

00:20:01you don't have to build the fire,

00:20:02you don't have to get

00:20:03the firewood.

00:20:04When I was a kid,

00:20:06we used to get the milk

00:20:07delivered every morning,

00:20:08the milkman.

00:20:09Sting's father

00:20:09was a milkman.

00:20:10Sting used to go

00:20:10with his father

00:20:12to deliver the milk

00:20:13in the wee hours.

00:20:15Oh,

00:20:15it was great stuff too,

00:20:16man.

00:20:16You could do a little

00:20:17prick on the top

00:20:18of that foil

00:20:19and you could

00:20:19suck the cream

00:20:20off the top.

00:20:21Oh,

00:20:21so good.

00:20:23And so,

00:20:24yeah,

00:20:24your milk would be delivered

00:20:27and compare it

00:20:28to the Middle Ages.

00:20:30You've got

00:20:31flushing toilets.

00:20:32So you don't have to

00:20:33deal with an outhouse,

00:20:34you don't have to

00:20:35deal with any of that stuff.

00:20:36What did they always do

00:20:37in Dungeons & Dragons?

00:20:38There'd be some

00:20:39place in the castle

00:20:40with the water,

00:20:41with the river

00:20:42running underneath,

00:20:43like an underground river

00:20:44and you'd poop

00:20:44in a hole there

00:20:45in the water.

00:20:46Would take it all the way,

00:20:47Ganges style.

00:20:49And her kids are gone

00:20:51until,

00:20:52like from 7.30

00:20:53or 8 in the morning

00:20:54until 4 o'clock.

00:20:56Depends if they have

00:20:57after-school activities,

00:20:58but they're gone

00:20:59for most of the day.

00:21:00So she's not really

00:21:01raising her children

00:21:01that way,

00:21:02right?

00:21:03And then when the kids

00:21:03come home,

00:21:05you know,

00:21:05they've got homework

00:21:06for half an hour,

00:21:07hour,

00:21:07hour and a half,

00:21:08could be two hours.

00:21:09They've got to study

00:21:09for things,

00:21:10they've got all

00:21:10that kind of stuff.

00:21:12So she's not really

00:21:13doing much

00:21:14raising of the kids.

00:21:15She's not doing

00:21:16a whole lot of housework

00:21:17compared to what

00:21:18needed to be done

00:21:19in the past.

00:21:20I mean,

00:21:20the fact that she has

00:21:24washers and dryers,

00:21:25washers and dryers,

00:21:27amazing ones.

00:21:27They give her a ping

00:21:28on the phone

00:21:29when they're done,

00:21:30washers and dryers.

00:21:31I mean,

00:21:32women who are trying

00:21:33to oversell

00:21:34their sacrifice

00:21:35and service

00:21:36will talk about,

00:21:37well,

00:21:37I do the laundry

00:21:38and it's like,

00:21:38come on, man.

00:21:40You throw stuff in,

00:21:41you push a button

00:21:41and you have to fold it

00:21:42or you often will fold it.

00:21:44But you have to compare

00:21:46women's labor

00:21:47in the present

00:21:48with women's labor

00:21:49in the past

00:21:50and it's night and day.

00:21:52I mean,

00:21:53men are still working,

00:21:54you know,

00:21:54hour commute,

00:21:55eight hours a day,

00:21:56ten hours, right?

00:21:57Men are still working

00:21:58ten hours a day

00:21:59and the jobs

00:22:01have become easier.

00:22:02I get that.

00:22:03The jobs have become easier.

00:22:05But men are still

00:22:06working ten hours a day.

00:22:07Women,

00:22:07with all the labor

00:22:08saving devices,

00:22:09women used to have to do,

00:22:10you know,

00:22:11twelve hours a day,

00:22:12fourteen hours a day

00:22:12of just

00:22:13keeping everyone alive.

00:22:16No running water,

00:22:17no push-button fireplaces,

00:22:20no air conditioning,

00:22:21no laundry,

00:22:23no vacuum cleaners.

00:22:24I mean,

00:22:24the fight against dust

00:22:25and dust brings mites,

00:22:27the fight against rats,

00:22:28rats bring disease,

00:22:29mice.

00:22:30I mean,

00:22:30it was a constant battle.

00:22:32Constant battle.

00:22:33And women's

00:22:34work has shrunk.

00:22:36And it's a funny thing.

00:22:38The more

00:22:39women's work shrinks,

00:22:41the more,

00:22:42on average,

00:22:43women complain.

00:22:44There was a theory

00:22:46back in the day

00:22:46that women would say,

00:22:47well,

00:22:49one of the reasons

00:22:50we're not having kids

00:22:51is because men

00:22:52aren't doing enough

00:22:52housework.

00:22:53And if men did more

00:22:54housework,

00:22:54we'd be able to have

00:22:55more kids.

00:22:56And that turned out

00:22:58to be a lie.

00:22:59I mean,

00:23:00men's share of the

00:23:00housework since the

00:23:0280s and 90s

00:23:03has gone up

00:23:03two to three times.

00:23:05Men are doing much

00:23:05more child raising,

00:23:07men are doing much

00:23:07for my housework

00:23:08and the birth rate

00:23:09has gone down.

00:23:10So,

00:23:11that wasn't a thing.

00:23:13But it's often the case

00:23:14that as the work

00:23:15load goes down,

00:23:17the complaints

00:23:18about work

00:23:19go up.

00:23:20And

00:23:22I've often thought of

00:23:24it would be

00:23:25a fun short story

00:23:26to have a feminist

00:23:27or a woman

00:23:29complaining about

00:23:29her

00:23:30big housework day

00:23:32to awake

00:23:33as a washerwoman

00:23:35in the 14th century

00:23:36and see what that

00:23:37day was like

00:23:37and she would

00:23:38come back

00:23:38and kiss

00:23:39modernity

00:23:40and kiss

00:23:41the appliances

00:23:41and kiss

00:23:42the Roomba

00:23:42and all that

00:23:45kind of stuff.

00:23:46Kiss the washing

00:23:47machines.

00:23:48I mean,

00:23:49just not having

00:23:51dangerous

00:23:52bacteria

00:23:53and virus-laden

00:23:54dirt everywhere

00:23:54around.

00:23:55I mean,

00:23:56women had to

00:23:57beat the carpets

00:23:58because the carpets

00:23:59would get mites

00:23:59or ticks

00:24:00or they would

00:24:01go on the kids

00:24:01and it would

00:24:02be hell.

00:24:03You know,

00:24:04one day

00:24:04in the Middle Ages

00:24:06has you truly

00:24:06love everything

00:24:07about modernity.

00:24:09I say this

00:24:09when I go to

00:24:11the dentist

00:24:11every day.

00:24:12Does that hurt?

00:24:12I'm like,

00:24:12nope,

00:24:13you're just scraping

00:24:14and no,

00:24:14honestly,

00:24:15I love dentists.

00:24:15You guys do

00:24:16what you need

00:24:16to do

00:24:16because in the

00:24:18past,

00:24:18they would

00:24:19have had to,

00:24:20you know,

00:24:20like I had

00:24:21an ankylose tooth

00:24:22which is a tooth

00:24:22that was fused

00:24:23with the bone

00:24:23from when I was a kid.

00:24:25I had to have it

00:24:26removed

00:24:27and in the past,

00:24:29they would have

00:24:29had to try

00:24:30and rip it

00:24:30out of my jaw,

00:24:32break it,

00:24:32no anesthetic.

00:24:33I mean,

00:24:34it probably would

00:24:34have killed me.

00:24:35So,

00:24:37modern medicine,

00:24:38God love you guys.

00:24:39Modern dentistry,

00:24:40God love you all.

00:24:41Go read

00:24:42Angela's Ashes,

00:24:44the novel,

00:24:45Angela's Ashes

00:24:46to figure all

00:24:46that stuff out.

00:24:47So,

00:24:49some women,

00:24:50again,

00:24:50lazy people as a whole

00:24:51will always exaggerate

00:24:53the demands upon them.

00:24:55It's just too much.

00:24:56I'm just overwhelmed.

00:24:57I'm just this.

00:24:58No,

00:24:58it's just,

00:24:59women are very robust.

00:25:01Women hold us

00:25:02through a million years

00:25:03of brutal evolution

00:25:04with half their children

00:25:05dying before the age of five

00:25:07and work from morning

00:25:09until night

00:25:10and they did it

00:25:11and I had aunts like this

00:25:12when I was a kid.

00:25:13They did it with who,

00:25:14I mean,

00:25:15we lived in there

00:25:15or they lived

00:25:16and I lived there sometimes

00:25:19in country cottages

00:25:20in Ireland

00:25:22and it was a huge amount

00:25:24of work.

00:25:25Most of the modern amenities

00:25:26had not reached

00:25:28these country cottages.

00:25:29I also remember

00:25:30when a friend of mine

00:25:31had a cottage

00:25:32when I was a teenager.

00:25:33I posted some pictures

00:25:34of me chopping wood

00:25:35up there

00:25:37and the cottage,

00:25:39I mean,

00:25:40it was rough.

00:25:41No toilets,

00:25:42no air conditioning,

00:25:43heating was a fireplace,

00:25:44we all slept on the floor

00:25:46by the fire.

00:25:47I think there was running water

00:25:48but that was about it

00:25:51and the amount of work

00:25:52it took to maintain

00:25:53that cottage.

00:25:54I mean,

00:25:54I loved it.

00:25:55I always loved physical labor.

00:25:56I absolutely love physical labor.

00:25:59When I was in Africa,

00:26:00I would take the machetes

00:26:02and cut the way

00:26:03through the bush

00:26:03when I was out

00:26:04with my father

00:26:05doing his prospecting

00:26:08and mapping

00:26:08and so on

00:26:09that he was doing

00:26:09as a geologist.

00:26:10I love manual labor.

00:26:12I love digging,

00:26:13I love hacking things,

00:26:14I love chopping wood,

00:26:15that's just great.

00:26:16So I loved going up there

00:26:17and doing the manual labor

00:26:17but half the day

00:26:18was manual labor

00:26:19and half the day was play

00:26:20but for women,

00:26:21it was constant.

00:26:23I mean,

00:26:24the women up there,

00:26:24they had to make

00:26:25all these burgers

00:26:25and these salads

00:26:26and potato salads

00:26:27and then they had to

00:26:29clean and wash

00:26:30and they had to take

00:26:30the carpets out

00:26:32to beat them

00:26:32and this was in the 80s,

00:26:35early 80s.

00:26:37I mean,

00:26:38it was the backwoods

00:26:39of Canada

00:26:40so it's sort of

00:26:41a different planet

00:26:41as far as that goes.

00:26:43So yeah,

00:26:44it was a lot of work.

00:26:45Now it's pretty easy.

00:26:47It's pretty easy.

00:26:49Life in the modern world

00:26:50is easy

00:26:51and there's something funny

00:26:52about the birth rate

00:26:54goes down

00:26:55when life is less harsh

00:26:57and this is for obvious

00:26:58biological reasons.

00:26:59When life is really harsh,

00:27:00a lot of your kids

00:27:01are going to die

00:27:02so you have the urge

00:27:02to have a lot of kids.

00:27:04When life is easy,

00:27:06case-elected organisms

00:27:07generally slow

00:27:08their reproduction

00:27:09or nature slows

00:27:09their reproduction.

00:27:12Stress breeds

00:27:13a very high sex drive

00:27:15and ease lowers,

00:27:17I mean,

00:27:18you could say

00:27:18lowers your sex drive,

00:27:19certainly lowers

00:27:19your reproductive drive.

00:27:22So one of the biggest

00:27:23psyops in the world

00:27:24has been

00:27:25as life has gotten easier

00:27:26and easier

00:27:27and easier for women

00:27:28to the point where,

00:27:29again,

00:27:29you take some woman's

00:27:30great-great-grandmother,

00:27:31take her forward

00:27:32to the average day

00:27:33and they'd be like,

00:27:33it's magical,

00:27:34it's a miracle.

00:27:35They've been transported

00:27:36into the world

00:27:37of the Jetsons.

00:27:38What, you just,

00:27:39you have a freezer?

00:27:41You have a fridge?

00:27:42You have a robot

00:27:43that cleans your carpets?

00:27:44You just push a button

00:27:46and cool air comes out?

00:27:47Are you insane

00:27:48that you should,

00:27:49oh, this is unbelievable.

00:27:52This is Patrick's dishwasher?

00:27:54I can't tell you

00:27:55the amount of fights

00:27:55my brother and I had

00:27:56is whose turn it was

00:27:58to do the dishes

00:27:58of growing up.

00:28:00And I always remember

00:28:00I used to have

00:28:01this business idea

00:28:02when I was a kid,

00:28:03like,

00:28:04because it wasn't too bad

00:28:05doing the plates

00:28:06but all the endless cutlery

00:28:07was a real drag

00:28:07and I thought,

00:28:08well, you know,

00:28:08what if you could just

00:28:09make a dishwasher

00:28:10just for cutlery,

00:28:10just for people in apartments?

00:28:12It'd be pretty nice.

00:28:14But, yeah,

00:28:15just look around.

00:28:17Just look around.

00:28:17You've got food

00:28:18that you can store

00:28:19pretty much forever

00:28:21and you can get food

00:28:23delivered at any time.

00:28:24That wasn't a thing

00:28:25when I was a kid.

00:28:26And they'd say,

00:28:27you live in paradise.

00:28:30You can keep in touch

00:28:31with distant relatives,

00:28:32not with letters

00:28:33that take a month

00:28:33but with instant video calls

00:28:35pretty much for free.

00:28:37It's incredible.

00:28:39And the women

00:28:40from the past

00:28:41who zipped forward

00:28:42through time

00:28:42to the present

00:28:43would look at their

00:28:44great-great-great-granddaughters

00:28:45claiming to be

00:28:46overwhelmed

00:28:47and stressed

00:28:47and burdened

00:28:48and you'd be like,

00:28:50okay, let's switch.

00:28:51Let's do a wife swap

00:28:52through time.

00:28:55And the overburdened women

00:28:56would probably be happier

00:28:57in the past.

00:28:59If you have time

00:28:59to complain,

00:29:01you have too much time.

00:29:05So what women have done,

00:29:07of course,

00:29:07if they've said,

00:29:09because they want

00:29:11political participation,

00:29:12they want the vote,

00:29:13they want all of this,

00:29:14they want welfare,

00:29:15they want,

00:29:15you know,

00:29:16the welfare state

00:29:16is just a way

00:29:17of stripping money

00:29:19from men

00:29:19and in particular

00:29:21responsible men

00:29:21and giving it

00:29:22to irresponsible men

00:29:24and mostly women.

00:29:26And so they want to vote

00:29:27and they want a bunch

00:29:28of government spending

00:29:29on them

00:29:30and they don't want

00:29:31to be drafted,

00:29:31of course.

00:29:33So what do they say?

00:29:35Well, they have to say

00:29:36that their lives

00:29:36are these big,

00:29:37massive burdens,

00:29:38that raising children

00:29:39is this big,

00:29:39giant,

00:29:39massive burden

00:29:41and they're owed

00:29:43everything

00:29:44because

00:29:46they've sacrificed

00:29:46so much

00:29:47and they work so hard

00:29:48and they're so overwhelmed

00:29:49and ha, ha, ha,

00:29:50right?

00:29:51Gimme, gimme, gimme!

00:29:52There's lots

00:29:54of ways

00:29:54to extract resources

00:29:56from people.

00:29:57The tremble-voiced,

00:29:59on-the-edge shakedown

00:30:00is one of the most effective.

00:30:02It doesn't work for men.

00:30:05You know,

00:30:05go to your boss

00:30:06if you're a man

00:30:07on a construction site,

00:30:08go to your boss

00:30:09with a quivering voice

00:30:10and say,

00:30:10I feel overwhelmed

00:30:12by, by,

00:30:13let me just laugh at you.

00:30:14Then they get back to work

00:30:15or get lost.

00:30:16And of course,

00:30:17a man doesn't get

00:30:18to refuse the draft

00:30:18by saying he's just

00:30:20overwhelmed.

00:30:23It's a good shakedown.

00:30:24Now,

00:30:25it comes at a huge cost.

00:30:26So,

00:30:27women have to portray

00:30:28raising children

00:30:28as a big giant burden

00:30:29that's somehow equivalent

00:30:31to getting your

00:30:32face blown off

00:30:33by some Iranian-made

00:30:35draft in Ukraine.

00:30:36Right?

00:30:37They'd have to say

00:30:37that raising children

00:30:38is like going to war.

00:30:40Oh,

00:30:41my God.

00:30:42That is wild.

00:30:44Especially in the modern world

00:30:45where there's not

00:30:46a whole lot of child

00:30:47raising going on.

00:30:48There's school,

00:30:49there's iPads,

00:30:50there's friends,

00:30:51there's videos,

00:30:52there's Chuck E. Cheese,

00:30:53there's arcades,

00:30:54there's like,

00:30:56I mean,

00:30:57there's not a whole lot

00:30:58of child raising going on.

00:31:00I mean,

00:31:00I've asked hundreds of people

00:31:02over the last 21 years

00:31:03and hundreds of thousands

00:31:05online,

00:31:06what are the big moral lessons

00:31:07that your parents gave you

00:31:08that you still find a value

00:31:09to this day?

00:31:10Or any life lessons

00:31:11and nobody's got a thing?

00:31:13Nothing.

00:31:13I mean,

00:31:14it's really not much

00:31:15child raising going on

00:31:16at the moment.

00:31:17Your child's being raised

00:31:18by the internet,

00:31:20which is why women

00:31:21who won't raise their children

00:31:22freak out about

00:31:24misogynistic podcasts.

00:31:25Nah,

00:31:26podcasts are the

00:31:28rebels

00:31:28and

00:31:29the mainstream media

00:31:30is the empire.

00:31:32Pew pew.

00:31:33Well,

00:31:34if you don't raise your kids,

00:31:35someone's going to have

00:31:36to raise them.

00:31:37You know,

00:31:38I just don't feed my children

00:31:39and then I'm concerned

00:31:40that they're getting food

00:31:41from strangers.

00:31:42Well,

00:31:43they've got to eat,

00:31:43right?

00:31:44Kids got to be raised somehow.

00:31:45If you're not raising them,

00:31:47they'll turn online.

00:31:48Somewhere,

00:31:49they've got to get their food

00:31:49from somewhere,

00:31:50right?

00:31:51Can't starve to death.

00:31:52So women

00:31:53have

00:31:54psyoped society

00:31:55into believing

00:31:56that raising children

00:31:57is this big giant burden

00:31:58for which they deserve

00:31:59every consideration,

00:32:01trillions and trillions

00:32:02and trillions of dollars

00:32:03in free stuff,

00:32:05exclusion from the draft

00:32:06because we're raising children.

00:32:09And

00:32:10they get all this free stuff

00:32:11because men

00:32:12are

00:32:13emotionally driven

00:32:14to give resources

00:32:15to women

00:32:15who are on the edge.

00:32:17Because if women

00:32:18are on the edge,

00:32:19they might run away

00:32:21and you have no one

00:32:22to raise your children.

00:32:23They might

00:32:23kill the children.

00:32:24They might

00:32:25make your life hell

00:32:26and destroy your capacity

00:32:27to work

00:32:28and make an income

00:32:29because a man out there

00:32:30battling in the world

00:32:31surely does not want

00:32:32to come home

00:32:32with some bipolar disorder

00:32:33battling woman.

00:32:35Then

00:32:37taking a

00:32:37long walk

00:32:38off a short cliff

00:32:39becomes pretty tempting.

00:32:41So

00:32:41appeasing

00:32:42women who are

00:32:43on the edge

00:32:44is kind of baked

00:32:44into men's

00:32:45DNA.

00:32:46It's a very powerful

00:32:47weapon.

00:32:48And

00:32:49it's an unfair

00:32:50weapon

00:32:50in general.

00:32:51I mean,

00:32:52unless you are

00:32:52in the 12th century

00:32:54with 12 children

00:32:54and even then

00:32:55there's not a lot

00:32:55of complaints

00:32:56from women

00:32:58or men.

00:32:59All life sucked

00:33:00throughout history.

00:33:01Compared to modern standards,

00:33:03all life sucked

00:33:04throughout human history

00:33:06for everyone,

00:33:07even the wealthy.

00:33:08Well,

00:33:09perhaps even

00:33:09especially the wealthy

00:33:10because they were drafted

00:33:10for wars at a higher rate

00:33:12than the average,

00:33:13as my ancestors knew,

00:33:15in Ireland.

00:33:17So women have

00:33:19cranked up

00:33:19how difficult it is.

00:33:20Now,

00:33:21I've been a stay-at-home dad.

00:33:22My daughter's going to be

00:33:2218 this year,

00:33:23so I've been a stay-at-home dad

00:33:25for over 17 years.

00:33:26And people say,

00:33:27ah, yes,

00:33:28well,

00:33:28you only have one child.

00:33:29It's like,

00:33:29well,

00:33:29that's true,

00:33:30but in some ways

00:33:30that's more of a challenge

00:33:32because your child

00:33:33only has you

00:33:34to play with.

00:33:35I'm not complaining

00:33:36about that.

00:33:37It's been a blast,

00:33:38but it's just kind of a fact.

00:33:40But raising children

00:33:40is a blast.

00:33:41Raising children

00:33:42is really enjoyable.

00:33:44Raising children

00:33:46is just about

00:33:47the greatest experience

00:33:48in life.

00:33:49It really is.

00:33:50And,

00:33:51I mean,

00:33:52you've heard this

00:33:52sometimes on shows

00:33:53where my daughter

00:33:54has done a show

00:33:55with me.

00:33:56Sometimes,

00:33:57I mean,

00:33:58at least,

00:33:58at least a couple

00:33:59of times a week

00:34:00we're laughing so hard

00:34:00that the milk

00:34:02comes out our nose.

00:34:03Compare that

00:34:04to being drafted.

00:34:05It's insane.

00:34:06And I

00:34:08have homeschooled

00:34:10and I've been at home

00:34:12so it's a lot of time.

00:34:13And I did work

00:34:14in a daycare for years

00:34:15when I was younger

00:34:16and took kids

00:34:17all over the place.

00:34:19Myself and one other teacher

00:34:20would take 25 to 30 kids

00:34:21all over the place

00:34:23in the summers.

00:34:25The kids were aged

00:34:265 to 10

00:34:26and it was a blast.

00:34:29It was a blast.

00:34:31So,

00:34:32the idea

00:34:34that raising children

00:34:35is somehow equivalent

00:34:37to being forced

00:34:38into war

00:34:40is so far

00:34:41beyond comprehension

00:34:42for anybody

00:34:43with any ounce of sense

00:34:45that it truly

00:34:46staggers the imagination

00:34:47that people would even

00:34:48remotely make this claim.

00:34:50Amazing.

00:34:51And what happens,

00:34:52of course,

00:34:53is that

00:34:54women do get

00:34:55a bunch of stuff

00:34:56because they're

00:34:57overwhelmed

00:34:57and it's so hard

00:34:58and you don't know

00:34:59and rub their temples

00:35:00and,

00:35:01oh,

00:35:01it was really difficult here

00:35:02and they get

00:35:04concessions

00:35:05because they're

00:35:06on the edge.

00:35:06It's a form of

00:35:08soft emotional terrorism

00:35:09in my view

00:35:11and so they get

00:35:12a bunch of resources.

00:35:13The problem is,

00:35:15though,

00:35:16that by constantly

00:35:17broadcasting out

00:35:17into the world

00:35:18how difficult,

00:35:20unpleasant,

00:35:21overwhelming,

00:35:21isolating,

00:35:22problematic,

00:35:23conflict-ridden

00:35:25the parenting is,

00:35:27they're constantly

00:35:28spraying out

00:35:29to the world

00:35:29and to the next generation

00:35:31and to the next generation

00:35:32to their kids

00:35:34that parenting sucks.

00:35:36I mean,

00:35:36come on,

00:35:37it just takes a moment.

00:35:38If parenting sucked,

00:35:40how could we have

00:35:41survived as a species?

00:35:42Say,

00:35:42ah,

00:35:43yes,

00:35:43well,

00:35:43there was no birth control.

00:35:44Yeah,

00:35:44but killing kids

00:35:45was pretty easy

00:35:46in the past.

00:35:48We couldn't have survived.

00:35:49Like,

00:35:50if we had not evolved

00:35:51to enjoy parenting,

00:35:53we could not have survived

00:35:55as a species.

00:35:56We could not,

00:35:57even if the parenting

00:35:58enjoyment is simply

00:35:59biochemically programmed

00:36:00in the way that it is,

00:36:01with birds.

00:36:02But,

00:36:03yeah,

00:36:03all the oxytocin

00:36:04and the happiness

00:36:04and the closeness

00:36:05and the,

00:36:06I mean,

00:36:07in nature,

00:36:08fathers will fight

00:36:09to the death

00:36:10to protect their families.

00:36:11They enjoy sex,

00:36:12of course,

00:36:13they enjoy the companionship,

00:36:14they enjoy play,

00:36:16fighting with their kids

00:36:17and all of that.

00:36:18And there's great affection

00:36:19you can see

00:36:20in animals,

00:36:21particularly,

00:36:22of course,

00:36:22as I mentioned,

00:36:22the case-elected animals,

00:36:23the predators,

00:36:25because they have to bond

00:36:26with and train their children

00:36:27on how to be a predator

00:36:28because being a predator

00:36:30is a whole lot more

00:36:31cognitively challenging

00:36:32than being prey.

00:36:34So,

00:36:34of course,

00:36:34we evolved

00:36:35to enjoy parenting.

00:36:36We could not have evolved

00:36:37in any other way,

00:36:39but we also evolved

00:36:41to whine and complain

00:36:42in order to get

00:36:43additional resources

00:36:44because this is a dual strategy

00:36:46for women,

00:36:48right?

00:36:48Positive incentives,

00:36:49negative incentives,

00:36:51rewards and punishments.

00:36:53The woman encourages the man,

00:36:55supports the man,

00:36:56and he goes out into the world

00:36:57with that support

00:36:58and that encouragement,

00:36:59conquers more,

00:37:00gets more,

00:37:01gets more resources.

00:37:01She's thrilled and happy,

00:37:03praises him,

00:37:03and she gets more resources

00:37:05that way.

00:37:06Of course,

00:37:06the other way

00:37:07that she gets resources

00:37:07is to nag and complain

00:37:09and bitch and moan

00:37:10until he's just like,

00:37:11oh, fine,

00:37:11just take it.

00:37:13And then she smugly smiles

00:37:15and gets her resources.

00:37:16It's a pretty sad strategy,

00:37:17but it certainly is viable.

00:37:20So,

00:37:20women have been getting resources

00:37:22by complaining about parenting

00:37:23and complaining about

00:37:24running a household

00:37:25and complaining about

00:37:26being home

00:37:26and complaining about

00:37:28it cost me money

00:37:29and right?

00:37:31Yeah.

00:37:32Yeah,

00:37:32try raising your kids

00:37:33in the woods

00:37:34in the middle of nowhere.

00:37:36That's what it's like

00:37:37to be without money.

00:37:39Raising kids

00:37:39with a husband

00:37:40who pays the bills

00:37:41or the government

00:37:41that pays the bills

00:37:43with all modern conveniences

00:37:45that can be imagined

00:37:48is not even

00:37:49in the same category.

00:37:50And so,

00:37:51yeah,

00:37:51so some complainy women,

00:37:53again,

00:37:53this is far from all women,

00:37:54but some complainy women

00:37:56have gotten a bunch

00:37:57of resources

00:37:57by exaggerating

00:37:58what a burden it is

00:38:00to be pregnant,

00:38:00to raise children,

00:38:01to have children.

00:38:02Oh,

00:38:02it's so difficult.

00:38:04And they get resources,

00:38:05but it kills the birth rate

00:38:07because the children

00:38:08grow up feeling like a burden

00:38:09and they grow up

00:38:09with the impression,

00:38:11or more than an impression,

00:38:12they grow up

00:38:13with the empirical fat

00:38:14coming from their parents

00:38:16and in particular

00:38:17from their mothers

00:38:18that parenting is a burden.

00:38:20The parenting is negative,

00:38:22the kids are hassle,

00:38:23right?

00:38:24There was a study

00:38:24that came out

00:38:25where it was like,

00:38:27you know,

00:38:29babies take somewhere

00:38:30between 300 and 400 hours

00:38:34of sleep

00:38:35from their parents

00:38:36in the first year.

00:38:37Yeah,

00:38:38that's true.

00:38:39But also,

00:38:40the time that you spend

00:38:41chatting with and playing

00:38:43with your baby

00:38:43in the wee hours

00:38:44is some of my

00:38:46favorite memories in life.

00:38:48Some of my favorite

00:38:49memories in life.

00:38:51Chatting with my daughter

00:38:52when she was

00:38:52very young,

00:38:54just learning language,

00:38:56standing by the window,

00:38:57it was a beautiful,

00:38:58cloudless night,

00:38:59full moon was out.

00:39:01I look at the moon,

00:39:02I look at her eyes,

00:39:03I see the little tiny pinprick

00:39:05of silver light

00:39:06in her eyes

00:39:07as the moon

00:39:08is reflected

00:39:08off her eyeball,

00:39:09and she says moon

00:39:11and points.

00:39:13It's a beautiful memory

00:39:14that the word moon

00:39:16formed in her mind

00:39:17at the same time

00:39:19as I could see

00:39:20as it looked

00:39:21deep into her brain

00:39:22and see the tiny

00:39:24pinprick of moon

00:39:24on her mind.

00:39:26And she got the word moon

00:39:28and said it.

00:39:29Ah,

00:39:30the quiet times at night

00:39:32when you're chatting

00:39:33and playing with the baby

00:39:34in the wee hours,

00:39:35beautiful.

00:39:36I mean,

00:39:36yeah,

00:39:36you're tired the next day,

00:39:37so what?

00:39:38I mean,

00:39:39you've got the rest of eternity

00:39:40to rest after you're dead.

00:39:42It's such a burden,

00:39:44overwhelmed.

00:39:45And the other thing,

00:39:46of course,

00:39:46is that the overwhelmed thing

00:39:48generally becomes

00:39:49even more of a problem

00:39:51because if your mother

00:39:52is stressed

00:39:53and overwhelmed,

00:39:54then it's more likely

00:39:56that you did not get

00:39:58good resources as a child.

00:40:00You didn't get warmth

00:40:01and comfort

00:40:01and connection

00:40:03and closeness

00:40:04and happiness

00:40:04and love,

00:40:05and so then

00:40:06your emotions

00:40:09are stripped bare

00:40:10and stressed

00:40:11and all of that,

00:40:12so it then becomes

00:40:13a self-fulfilling prophecy

00:40:14that if your mother

00:40:15feels that you're

00:40:16some big giant burden

00:40:17that she complains about

00:40:18in order to extract

00:40:19more resources

00:40:20from men

00:40:21either directly

00:40:21or through the state,

00:40:23that you grow up

00:40:23feeling like a burden

00:40:25and then you,

00:40:25when you become a mother,

00:40:27if you become a mother,

00:40:28you feel that children

00:40:28are a burden,

00:40:29you're stressed,

00:40:30so it just becomes

00:40:31a self-fulfilling prophecy.

00:40:33Parenting,

00:40:34art,

00:40:34philosophy,

00:40:35and love

00:40:35are the four corners

00:40:36of the most beautiful

00:40:37experiences of my life.

00:40:39I would trade them

00:40:39for nothing.

00:40:40I gave up writing books

00:40:41for over 10 years.

00:40:42Could have written

00:40:4320 more books.

00:40:43I was writing

00:40:44two books a year.

00:40:45Why do I care

00:40:46about 20 books?

00:40:47I'm not a human being.

00:40:49I'm happy.

00:40:50I'm healthy.

00:40:51I'm a human being.

00:40:53Two out of three

00:40:54ain't bad.

00:40:55So, yeah,

00:40:56pretty sad state of debate.

00:40:58Now, also,

00:40:58last thing I'll say

00:40:59and then I'll get

00:40:59to the call

00:40:59is thank you

00:41:00for your patience.

00:41:00I mean,

00:41:01we know,

00:41:02we know

00:41:02that parenting

00:41:03is way better

00:41:04than going to war.

00:41:06How do we know that?

00:41:07Because,

00:41:08because,

00:41:10because

00:41:12when women

00:41:13are about to be sent

00:41:13to the front,

00:41:14they just get pregnant.

00:41:15I mean,

00:41:16we know this empirically.

00:41:17It's not complicated.

00:41:18Just look at what people do.

00:41:19So, the idea

00:41:20that you would compare

00:41:21parenting

00:41:22to being bombed,

00:41:25shot at,

00:41:26traumatized,

00:41:27holding people's

00:41:28innards,

00:41:29trying to stuff

00:41:29intestines back

00:41:30into somebody's

00:41:31body cavity

00:41:31as you wait

00:41:32for the chopper

00:41:33to airlift them.

00:41:34The idea that you

00:41:35would compare

00:41:36cuddling and playing

00:41:37with babies,

00:41:37toddlers,

00:41:38and children

00:41:39to watching

00:41:40friends with

00:41:41half a face

00:41:41die in your arms

00:41:42takes a kind

00:41:44of sickness

00:41:45that's hard

00:41:45to even comprehend.

00:41:47Women make

00:41:48their sacrifices,

00:41:49they get pregnant.

00:41:50Anyway.

00:41:51All right.

00:41:51Thank you for your patience.

00:41:52Please push back

00:41:53against this propaganda

00:41:54and call out,

00:41:56call out the people

00:41:57who are complaining

00:41:57about parenthood.

00:41:58Call them out.

00:41:59Say no.

00:42:00If you're not

00:42:01enjoying parenting,

00:42:02that's on you.

00:42:03You're like a sour

00:42:04person

00:42:05at a theme park.

00:42:07I,

00:42:08I was,

00:42:08you were talking

00:42:09about modernity

00:42:10earlier and I,

00:42:11I totally

00:42:11agree with you,

00:42:13especially on the

00:42:14feminism point,

00:42:15but with me

00:42:17specifically,

00:42:18I don't know

00:42:18how close you

00:42:19are to this,

00:42:20but I remember

00:42:21dial-up growing

00:42:21up as a kid

00:42:22and sitting in

00:42:24front of the

00:42:24computer waiting

00:42:2545 minutes

00:42:26for internet

00:42:26connection.

00:42:28Oh yeah,

00:42:29the,

00:42:29don't,

00:42:30don't pick up

00:42:30the phone.

00:42:31I'm on the line.

00:42:31I'm on,

00:42:32I'm downloading.

00:42:33Right.

00:42:33Yeah.

00:42:34Yeah.

00:42:35It was,

00:42:36I wouldn't,

00:42:37I wouldn't want

00:42:38to go back

00:42:38to the 90s

00:42:39for anything.

00:42:40Uh,

00:42:41so I imagine

00:42:42the middle

00:42:42ages was,

00:42:43was very

00:42:44difficult.

00:42:45Uh,

00:42:46people dying

00:42:46all the time,

00:42:48childbirth and

00:42:49all that.

00:42:50Yeah.

00:42:50It was a sort

00:42:51of vicious cycle

00:42:51that happened

00:42:52throughout a lot

00:42:53of the ancient

00:42:54world in particular

00:42:55in the dark

00:42:56ages and in

00:42:58the time of

00:42:59plague,

00:43:00which came in

00:43:01successive waves

00:43:02in the early

00:43:03part of the

00:43:04middle ages.

00:43:05And what

00:43:05happened was

00:43:06life was so

00:43:08horrifying that

00:43:09people lived for

00:43:10the afterlife and

00:43:11because they lived

00:43:12for the afterlife,

00:43:13they didn't work

00:43:14that much in

00:43:15investing to make

00:43:15things better.

00:43:16It's kind of a

00:43:16vicious cycle that

00:43:17took down a lot

00:43:18of human history.

00:43:19Life was so

00:43:19appalling.

00:43:20Life was so

00:43:21painful,

00:43:21so difficult,

00:43:23so unpleasant,

00:43:24so,

00:43:24I mean,

00:43:24itchy.

00:43:24I mean,

00:43:25you'd have to

00:43:25kiss women

00:43:26who'd never

00:43:26brushed their

00:43:26teeth and

00:43:27it's not like

00:43:28they didn't

00:43:28know about

00:43:28honey.

00:43:29So it

00:43:29wasn't like,

00:43:29well,

00:43:29no sugar,

00:43:30so no tooth

00:43:30decay.

00:43:31And you would

00:43:31have to make

00:43:32love to a

00:43:32woman who

00:43:33hadn't bathed

00:43:33in six months.

00:43:34I mean,

00:43:34life was pretty

00:43:35unpleasant.

00:43:35So the idea

00:43:36that comes out

00:43:37of a lot of

00:43:37Christianity that

00:43:38the body is

00:43:40hell,

00:43:41that it's run

00:43:41by Satan,

00:43:42that the flesh

00:43:43is weak and

00:43:44corrupt and

00:43:44bad and wrong,

00:43:45it's like,

00:43:45well,

00:43:45yeah,

00:43:45you had constant

00:43:46pustules and

00:43:47infections and

00:43:49toothaches and

00:43:50like your body

00:43:50was like a

00:43:51torture chamber.

00:43:52And so you

00:43:53yearned for

00:43:53release,

00:43:54you learned for

00:43:55the half kiss

00:43:56of easeful death

00:43:57and because you

00:43:58yearned for release

00:43:59and life was so

00:43:59unpleasant,

00:44:00you didn't invest

00:44:00too much in

00:44:01making it better.

00:44:02Life was like

00:44:04a flop house

00:44:05that you were

00:44:06just staying in

00:44:07for a couple

00:44:07of nights.

00:44:08You don't work

00:44:09to improve it,

00:44:09you don't paint

00:44:10it,

00:44:10you don't fix

00:44:11out the

00:44:12furniture,

00:44:12you don't fix

00:44:13the windows,

00:44:13you're just like

00:44:14any more than

00:44:15you change the

00:44:15oil in the car

00:44:16you've rented.

00:44:17So life was

00:44:17short,

00:44:18difficult,

00:44:19ugly,

00:44:20unpleasant and

00:44:21so people lived

00:44:22for the other

00:44:23world,

00:44:23the higher world,

00:44:24the after world

00:44:25and did not

00:44:25invest in

00:44:26improving things

00:44:27in the here

00:44:28and now and

00:44:28life just had

00:44:29to get a

00:44:29little bit

00:44:30better in order

00:44:31for people to

00:44:31recognize that

00:44:32they were going

00:44:32to stay in

00:44:33the flop house

00:44:33and they

00:44:33could fix

00:44:34it and

00:44:34then they

00:44:34started to

00:44:35but that

00:44:35was sort

00:44:36of the

00:44:36beginning

00:44:36of the

00:44:37enlightenment.

00:44:38So is there

00:44:39anything else

00:44:39you wanted

00:44:39to mention?

00:44:41Just with

00:44:41music,

00:44:43music was the

00:44:43same thing

00:44:44for me as

00:44:44well.

00:44:45I mean,

00:44:45we used to

00:44:46have iPods

00:44:47and CD

00:44:48players and

00:44:49then the

00:44:50technocrats

00:44:51got wise

00:44:52and finally

00:44:52just said,

00:44:53we're just

00:44:54going to put

00:44:54everything on

00:44:55a phone.

00:44:58all right.

00:45:00Well, I

00:45:00appreciate that.

00:45:01Thank you

00:45:01very much

00:45:02and I

00:45:03guess you

00:45:03can go

00:45:03back to

00:45:03Aaron's.

00:45:05Vanilla,

00:45:06Vanilla,

00:45:08if you would

00:45:08like to

00:45:08unmute.

00:45:09Hello.

00:45:10Yes,

00:45:11hello.

00:45:11I'm not

00:45:12sure what

00:45:12happened.

00:45:13Did the

00:45:13other guy

00:45:13get disconnected?

00:45:15No, he

00:45:16just didn't

00:45:16have a huge

00:45:16amount to

00:45:17say, so I

00:45:17thought I

00:45:18would move

00:45:18on to you.

00:45:19Oh, all

00:45:20right.

00:45:21Would you

00:45:21mind if I

00:45:22just play

00:45:23devil's advocate

00:45:23regarding the

00:45:25work of

00:45:25women?

00:45:26Yeah.

00:45:27Please do.

00:45:29All right.

00:45:29So what I

00:45:30want to say

00:45:31is women

00:45:33in general

00:45:34don't just

00:45:35do domestic

00:45:36work anymore.

00:45:38And many

00:45:39women also

00:45:39have a

00:45:40nine to

00:45:40five.

00:45:41Go on.

00:45:42I mean, yes,

00:45:43I'm aware, but

00:45:44so go on with

00:45:44your point.

00:45:45So I don't

00:45:46think it is

00:45:48quite appropriate

00:45:49to compare

00:45:51them to

00:45:51earlier times

00:45:52where they

00:45:52only did

00:45:53domestic work.

00:45:54Okay.

00:45:56I understand

00:45:57that a lot

00:45:58of women

00:45:58have jobs.

00:45:59I was

00:45:59talking about

00:45:59the women

00:46:00who were

00:46:00staying home

00:46:01complaining

00:46:02about motherhood,

00:46:03but I'm

00:46:03certainly happy

00:46:04to talk about

00:46:05women who

00:46:05have jobs

00:46:06if you

00:46:06want.

00:46:08All right.

00:46:09We can do

00:46:09that.

00:46:10Okay.

00:46:11So what

00:46:12country are

00:46:13you from?

00:46:13I'm from

00:46:14South Africa.

00:46:15Okay.

00:46:15I've actually

00:46:16talked before.

00:46:17Yes.

00:46:17No, I

00:46:18know.

00:46:18I just

00:46:18couldn't.

00:46:18I mean, I

00:46:19didn't want

00:46:19to guess

00:46:20from the

00:46:20accent.

00:46:21And do you

00:46:22still live

00:46:22there?

00:46:23Yeah.

00:46:23Okay.

00:46:24Yeah.

00:46:25All right.

00:46:25So what

00:46:27percentage of

00:46:28the average

00:46:29women's wages

00:46:31goes towards

00:46:32child care?

00:46:33Let's say if

00:46:34she has two

00:46:34children, what

00:46:36percentage of

00:46:37her wages is

00:46:39going towards

00:46:40child care?

00:46:41I have no

00:46:42idea.

00:46:43I can't believe

00:46:43that.

00:46:43No, I mean,

00:46:44there's no way

00:46:44you would know

00:46:45that.

00:46:45And I've

00:46:45actually done

00:46:46these calculations

00:46:46for some

00:46:48books and

00:46:48it depends

00:46:49on the

00:46:49place and

00:46:50there's a

00:46:50variety of

00:46:50different factors.

00:46:51It depends

00:46:51on the

00:46:52woman's

00:46:52income.

00:46:52If she's a

00:46:53brain surgeon,

00:46:54that's different

00:46:54and if she's

00:46:55a waitress.

00:46:56But in

00:46:56general, most

00:46:58of women's

00:46:59money that

00:47:00they make in

00:47:01the workforce

00:47:01goes towards

00:47:03child care and

00:47:04the costs of

00:47:06working.

00:47:07So if a

00:47:08woman makes,

00:47:10you know,

00:47:10$4,000 a

00:47:11month, you

00:47:12know, that's

00:47:12close to $50,000

00:47:13a year.

00:47:14That's a

00:47:14decent income,

00:47:15but she pays

00:47:16a lot of it

00:47:16in taxes, so

00:47:17she gets much

00:47:18less in take-home

00:47:19pay.

00:47:20And let's

00:47:21say that she

00:47:22is only taxed

00:47:23at, I don't

00:47:24know, 25% or

00:47:25whatever, so

00:47:25she's taking

00:47:26home $3,000.

00:47:28And then she

00:47:29has to pay for,

00:47:32they usually have

00:47:32to have a second

00:47:33car because they're

00:47:35both commuting,

00:47:36and that's

00:47:36expensive.

00:47:37She has to have

00:47:38work outfits,

00:47:38they need dry

00:47:39cleaning, she has

00:47:40to get beauty and

00:47:41hair products, and

00:47:42she has to get

00:47:42stockings, and

00:47:43all of the kind

00:47:44of stuff she

00:47:44has for being a

00:47:45woman in the

00:47:46workforce, and

00:47:47then they have

00:47:48to pay for, you

00:47:50know, maintenance

00:47:50and gas and

00:47:51insurance and all

00:47:52of that on the

00:47:53second car.

00:47:55And she often

00:47:57will buy lunches

00:47:57out, and so

00:47:59that's an

00:48:00additional expense,

00:48:01and so of the

00:48:03$3,000, a lot

00:48:04of it gets

00:48:05consumed by the

00:48:06costs of having

00:48:08a job.

00:48:09And so it gets

00:48:11a little bit

00:48:11closer to $2,000

00:48:13and then for a

00:48:14lot of women

00:48:15having two

00:48:15kids in

00:48:17childcare is

00:48:18about $2,000.

00:48:19Could be $1,500,

00:48:20could be $2,000.

00:48:22But in terms of

00:48:23the actual profit

00:48:25that she's making

00:48:26from working, it's

00:48:27very little.

00:48:28It's usually not

00:48:29more than a few

00:48:30dollars an hour.

00:48:31And so the

00:48:32question is,

00:48:34particularly when

00:48:34the children are

00:48:35young, so if a

00:48:36woman has two

00:48:36children, let's

00:48:37say spaced two

00:48:37years apart, she

00:48:39should at least

00:48:40take them to the

00:48:41age of six.

00:48:42Because, you

00:48:43know, they'll

00:48:43often start

00:48:43school at the

00:48:44age of five, but

00:48:46you don't just

00:48:46want to have

00:48:47your kids go to

00:48:48school and then

00:48:49immediately go to

00:48:50work, because who's

00:48:51going to take care of

00:48:51your kids after

00:48:53school?

00:48:53School ends at

00:48:543.30, you're

00:48:55often not getting

00:48:55home until six

00:48:56o'clock if you work

00:48:57until five and have

00:48:58an hour commute.

00:48:59And also, you don't

00:49:00want to just dump

00:49:01your kids straight

00:49:01into after-school

00:49:04care programs and

00:49:05so on, because

00:49:05they're adjusting to

00:49:06school and you need

00:49:07to talk them through

00:49:08it and ask them

00:49:10what's going on if

00:49:11they're being

00:49:11bullied.

00:49:11You know, you need

00:49:12to stay close to

00:49:12your kids when they

00:49:13go through a big

00:49:13transition, like going

00:49:14from, say, daycare to

00:49:15school.

00:49:17So, if a woman is

00:49:18going to have two

00:49:19children two years

00:49:20apart and take them

00:49:23to at least the age

00:49:24of six, I mean,

00:49:25seven would be

00:49:25better, that's sort

00:49:26of the age of

00:49:26reason in most

00:49:27religions, but let's

00:49:28just say six, I

00:49:28don't want to stuff

00:49:29the case or tip the

00:49:31balance.

00:49:33So, she has the

00:49:33first kid, takes

00:49:34him to six, the

00:49:35second kid two years

00:49:36later, so she's

00:49:37eight years out of

00:49:37the workforce.

00:49:39Now, if she's in

00:49:39the workforce, most

00:49:41of her money is

00:49:41going towards

00:49:42childcare, and she

00:49:44isn't actually making

00:49:44that much money at

00:49:46all.

00:49:46The other thing, of

00:49:47course, she also has

00:49:48to look at is that

00:49:48women spend a lot of

00:49:50money on the home.

00:49:51I'm not complaining

00:49:52about this, it's just

00:49:53a fact.

00:49:54If you go to the

00:49:55mall, most of the

00:49:57stores, in fact,

00:49:58almost all the

00:49:59stores are dedicated

00:50:01to women.

00:50:02I kind of knew this

00:50:03in a way, but, you

00:50:04know, having a wife

00:50:05and a daughter has

00:50:06given me a whole

00:50:07different view of

00:50:08the economy, because

00:50:10women spend, like

00:50:12women control 85 to

00:50:1490% of household

00:50:16spending, and, you

00:50:18know, women spend a

00:50:19lot, and I'm not

00:50:21complaining about

00:50:21that, I'm just

00:50:22saying that it is an

00:50:23optional expense that

00:50:25a lot of women have.

00:50:26You don't need the

00:50:27new fluffy towels, you

00:50:29don't need particular

00:50:30kinds of soaps, you

00:50:32don't need decorative

00:50:34pillows, in terms of

00:50:35things that you

00:50:36actually need.

00:50:38So I would say that

00:50:40for women who work,

00:50:41again, on average, on

00:50:42the mean, most of

00:50:44their money goes

00:50:45towards childcare, and

00:50:47the rest of their

00:50:47money goes towards

00:50:48fairly frivolous things

00:50:49that aren't actually

00:50:50needed in the home,

00:50:51but, you know, make it

00:50:52nice, but they're not

00:50:53nice to have, not

00:50:54have to have.

00:50:55That was my big

00:50:56division in the

00:50:56business world, you

00:50:57know.

00:50:57It's nice to have

00:50:59extra money for R&D,

00:51:01it's a have to

00:51:02have to meet

00:51:03payroll, right, so

00:51:04nice to have versus

00:51:04have to have, you

00:51:05kind of got to

00:51:06differentiate these

00:51:06things in life.

00:51:07So when women say,

00:51:09yes, but I'm

00:51:10working, I'm like,

00:51:11yeah, but not

00:51:12really, because for

00:51:15the most part, your

00:51:16money is just going

00:51:16to daycare workers,

00:51:18and your money is

00:51:19going to aftercare

00:51:21programs, your money

00:51:22is going to a

00:51:22variety of things

00:51:24that aren't

00:51:25actually building

00:51:26that much wealth.

00:51:27It just feels like

00:51:28you're building wealth

00:51:28because you look at

00:51:29$4,000 a month

00:51:31and you say,

00:51:31well, you know,

00:51:31boy, if I didn't

00:51:33work, we'd have

00:51:34$50,000 less a

00:51:36year, and it's

00:51:37like, no, but

00:51:37you've got to do

00:51:39the actual math

00:51:40and you've got to

00:51:42figure out what

00:51:43is your actual

00:51:44take-home pay,

00:51:46and it's usually

00:51:47only a couple of

00:51:47bucks an hour,

00:51:48so, and you're

00:51:50losing out on all

00:51:50that time with

00:51:51your children, and

00:51:51you're stressed, and

00:51:52you're busy, and

00:51:53you've got all this

00:51:54complications, so

00:51:55again, there's

00:51:56exceptions, but the

00:51:58exceptions go both

00:51:58ways, we're just

00:51:59talking about the

00:52:00average.

00:52:00And so, yeah, I'm

00:52:01happy to get your

00:52:01thoughts on that,

00:52:02but that's what I

00:52:03would you say there

00:52:05are more merit to

00:52:06their complaints if

00:52:07they also have to

00:52:08work?

00:52:09I'm sorry, say

00:52:10again?

00:52:11Do you think there

00:52:12is more merit to

00:52:13their complaints if

00:52:14they also work a

00:52:15full job?

00:52:16I'm sorry, did you

00:52:17not hear what I

00:52:18said?

00:52:19Um, because you're

00:52:21just repeating, like,

00:52:22you asked me a

00:52:22question, I gave you

00:52:23a fairly long and

00:52:25sophisticated answer,

00:52:26and now you're just

00:52:26saying, but don't I

00:52:28still get to

00:52:28complain if they

00:52:29have a job?

00:52:29I'm like, don't

00:52:30take the job, stay

00:52:31home with your

00:52:31kids.

00:52:33Okay.

00:52:34And if they stay

00:52:35home with their

00:52:35children, their

00:52:36husband ends up

00:52:37earning more, because

00:52:38the household is

00:52:39taken care of, so

00:52:40the man can

00:52:41concentrate on his

00:52:42career.

00:52:43So, it's a split

00:52:44focus, right?

00:52:46So, if you have a

00:52:48band with a

00:52:50bassist, a singer, a

00:52:51drummer, and a

00:52:52guitarist, and the

00:52:54singer is the best

00:52:54singer, and the

00:52:56bassist says, well, I

00:52:56want half the time up

00:52:58at the microphone, even

00:52:59though he's not a

00:53:00good singer, the band

00:53:01suffers, because they're

00:53:02not efficiently dividing

00:53:03the labor.

00:53:04And so, a man's

00:53:07career generally takes

00:53:08off if his wife is

00:53:10home, raising his

00:53:12kids, supporting

00:53:13him, making sure the

00:53:14household runs well,

00:53:15taking away the

00:53:15paperwork from him, so

00:53:17he can focus on

00:53:19travel, he can focus

00:53:20on business

00:53:20opportunities, he can

00:53:21focus on staying

00:53:22late if he has to, so

00:53:24his income is going

00:53:25to go up considerably

00:53:27if his wife stays

00:53:28home.

00:53:28One of the reasons

00:53:29why women in the

00:53:31workforce tend to

00:53:32promote other women

00:53:33being in the

00:53:33workforce is that

00:53:34women in the

00:53:35workforce cannot

00:53:35compete with men

00:53:37whose wives stay

00:53:38home and run the

00:53:38household and raise

00:53:39the kids, because

00:53:40the men who have

00:53:41that are not

00:53:42have so much

00:53:43extra focus and

00:53:44deliberation of

00:53:45their testosterone

00:53:46based energy for

00:53:47resource creation and

00:53:48acquisition that the

00:53:49women can't compete.

00:53:51So, it's not a, it's

00:53:54simple math, and I'm

00:53:54not calling you

00:53:55simple, I'm just

00:53:56saying it's simple

00:53:56math to say, well,

00:53:58if the woman doesn't

00:53:58work, then the

00:53:59household is down

00:54:00four grand a month.

00:54:01It's much more

00:54:03detailed than that,

00:54:04and once you actually

00:54:04run the numbers, and

00:54:06you know, just

00:54:07generally, why would

00:54:08you want to trade a

00:54:09paycheck for time with

00:54:10your kids, especially

00:54:10when they're young?

00:54:11First five years are

00:54:13absolutely crucial for

00:54:14children's development,

00:54:15like, what do you care

00:54:17about some, maybe even

00:54:18if you do end up with

00:54:19some extra money in the

00:54:20bank, or you end up

00:54:21with some more

00:54:21knick-knacks around the

00:54:22house, or you end up

00:54:23with a nicer car, I

00:54:24mean, that stuff all

00:54:25gets thrown out and

00:54:26trashed and garbaged and

00:54:27binned and boxed and

00:54:28squished into stupid

00:54:29little cubes, like, the

00:54:31time with your children

00:54:31is truly precious, and

00:54:34the time with your

00:54:35children also roots your

00:54:37old age, because if you

00:54:38dump your kids in

00:54:39daycare and you go

00:54:40off to chase

00:54:40PowerPoint dollars,

00:54:43then when you get

00:54:44old and you want to

00:54:44spend time with your

00:54:45children, you don't

00:54:46have the bond, and

00:54:47they don't have the,

00:54:48quote, sacrifice as

00:54:51the basis of the

00:54:53relationship, so this

00:54:53is why people move

00:54:55away from their

00:54:56parents, and they

00:54:56don't have the

00:54:57parents available to

00:54:58help raise their

00:54:59grandchildren.

00:55:01I mean, if you are a

00:55:03woman and you are

00:55:05raising your kids, then

00:55:06you really want

00:55:07relatives around,

00:55:08particularly

00:55:08grandparents who have

00:55:09experience.

00:55:10That's really great, and

00:55:12you can have all of that

00:55:12wonderful stuff, but in

00:55:15order to have that, you

00:55:17just have to take some

00:55:18years off work to raise

00:55:19your kids, and you get

00:55:20all of these massive

00:55:21benefits down the road,

00:55:23because all the money

00:55:24that you spend, sorry,

00:55:26all the money that you

00:55:26create by working, rather

00:55:28than spending time with

00:55:29your kids, you end up

00:55:30spending later on in

00:55:31life on healthcare

00:55:32workers and other care

00:55:34workers and Ubers to

00:55:36drive you around to

00:55:37your medical

00:55:37appointments and all

00:55:38of that, you just end

00:55:39up burning up all that

00:55:40money, because you

00:55:40generally don't have

00:55:41access to those kinds

00:55:43of bonds with your

00:55:43kids where they will

00:55:44help you out with that

00:55:45kind of stuff, and want

00:55:45to, and care about it,

00:55:47so it's just, it's a bad

00:55:48deal economically as a

00:55:50whole, but it's tough to

00:55:53make that case, if that

00:55:54makes sense.

00:55:55No, I think I

00:55:56understand what you're

00:55:57saying.

00:55:58There's actually a law

00:56:00proposal here where

00:56:01they're going to make it

00:56:03compulsory for kids to

00:56:05go to, well, I guess,

00:56:07to preschool at the age

00:56:08of four.

00:56:09Hello?

00:56:10Sorry, you too.

00:56:10Yeah, go ahead.

00:56:11I'm listening.

00:56:12I'm just, I'm not sure

00:56:13when you've had

00:56:13sentences in, so go

00:56:14ahead.

00:56:15Okay, I'm sorry.

00:56:16So, what I said is

00:56:18there's a proposal here

00:56:21for, basically, for

00:56:25four-year-olds to have

00:56:26to start going to

00:56:27school.

00:56:28It's compulsory.

00:56:29What do you think of

00:56:30that?

00:56:31I mean, that's just

00:56:32evil.

00:56:33It's absolutely evil.

00:56:34That is using the

00:56:35guns of the state to

00:56:36rip toddlers from the

00:56:37arms of their mothers

00:56:38and march them out to

00:56:40these dehumanizing

00:56:41institutions of

00:56:42government-run

00:56:45daycare hell.

00:56:46It's absolutely evil.

00:56:47It's beyond stone

00:56:48evil.

00:56:48It is, in many ways,

00:56:50worse than child

00:56:50labor, because at

00:56:51least children who

00:56:52work get paid.

00:56:53They tend to be

00:56:54older, and there's

00:56:55some economics to it,

00:56:56but this, yeah,

00:56:57basically marching

00:56:58into people's

00:57:00households with

00:57:01weaponry, which is

00:57:03effectively what all

00:57:03laws do.

00:57:04All laws are based

00:57:05on force.

00:57:05They are enforced,

00:57:07right?

00:57:07Force is kind of

00:57:08like fiat by

00:57:08command, fiat

00:57:09currency.

00:57:10So, yeah, sending

00:57:13armed state agents

00:57:15into households to

00:57:18rip toddlers out of

00:57:19the arms of their

00:57:20mothers is evil,

00:57:22almost beyond

00:57:23words.

00:57:24So, what the

00:57:25defenders of this

00:57:26would say is that

00:57:28if the children

00:57:29don't go to

00:57:30daycare, they're

00:57:31not ready to go

00:57:32to big school.

00:57:34I'm using that

00:57:35in quotation

00:57:36marks, but what

00:57:38do you think of

00:57:38that?

00:57:39I find all

00:57:41aspects of

00:57:42coercive government

00:57:43involvement in the

00:57:44raising of children

00:57:45to be morally

00:57:46repulsive and evil

00:57:48almost beyond

00:57:49words.

00:57:49It's one of the

00:57:50greatest evils.

00:57:51You know, I have

00:57:52to not dwell upon

00:57:54the 13 fucking

00:57:55years that I was

00:57:56trapped in government

00:57:57education.

00:57:57I have to not

00:57:58dwell on that

00:58:00because if I dwell

00:58:01on that, I am

00:58:02filled with near

00:58:04bottomless rage.

00:58:05I mean, I love

00:58:06learning, I love

00:58:06thinking, I love

00:58:07reasoning, I love

00:58:08debating, I love

00:58:09advancing knowledge,

00:58:11and the fact that I

00:58:12was trapped in

00:58:14these shitholes,

00:58:15these shithole

00:58:16government schools

00:58:17with these

00:58:18incompetent,

00:58:19brain-dead

00:58:20teachers and this

00:58:20retarded curriculum,

00:58:21and that I was

00:58:23forced to do

00:58:24pointless, dig-a-hole

00:58:25and fill-it-it

00:58:26intellectual bullshit

00:58:28busy work for

00:58:2913 years straight

00:58:31and before that I

00:58:32was in daycares,

00:58:33but at least I

00:58:34was allowed to

00:58:34play and draw

00:58:35and so on in

00:58:37daycares and play

00:58:38with friends and

00:58:39at least that was

00:58:40something.

00:58:41But the school

00:58:42stuff was

00:58:44absolutely appalling,

00:58:46especially like now

00:58:47I sort of look

00:58:48forward in my life

00:58:49and I've got, you

00:58:49know, maybe 20,

00:58:5030 years to go

00:58:51because I'm in my

00:58:51late 50s, with

00:58:52luck, right, with

00:58:53luck.

00:58:55And so each

00:58:56year becomes more

00:58:57precious to me

00:58:57and I think about

00:58:58the hellscape

00:59:00and I was in

00:59:01school, I was in

00:59:02private school, I

00:59:02was in public

00:59:03school in a

00:59:05variety of

00:59:06different countries,

00:59:06so I've had some

00:59:07experience in a

00:59:08variety of different

00:59:09educational systems,

00:59:10absolutely terrible,

00:59:12absolutely appalling,

00:59:13it is a

00:59:14flamethrower to

00:59:15the curious mind.

00:59:16Do you know that

00:59:17government schools

00:59:19are foundational to

00:59:20suicides?

00:59:21In other words,

00:59:22children commit

00:59:23suicide at a

00:59:25far lower rate,

00:59:26far lower rate,

00:59:28in the summers

00:59:29when they're not

00:59:30trapped in these

00:59:30bullying, brain-dead

00:59:32hellholes.

00:59:33So, schools are

00:59:35driving children,

00:59:36in not tiny

00:59:38numbers, to

00:59:39psych meds, to

00:59:42being drugged just

00:59:43to get through the

00:59:43day.

00:59:44You know, that's

00:59:45what they did to

00:59:46assassins, that's

00:59:46why it's called

00:59:47hashish, hashashins,

00:59:48right?

00:59:49They would get their

00:59:50murderers high on

00:59:51drugs in order to

00:59:52get them to

00:59:53kill, women take

00:59:55drugs to get

00:59:55through prostitution

00:59:56and other forms of

00:59:58often coerced sex

00:59:59work, and children

01:00:01find schools so

01:00:02hellish they have to

01:00:03be drugged by the

01:00:05tens of millions in

01:00:07order to get through

01:00:07the day.

01:00:08That's how fucking

01:00:09appalling government

01:00:11quote education is.

01:00:12So, yeah, I have no

01:00:14doubt, I have no

01:00:16doubt that governments

01:00:17want to inflict this

01:00:19hell on children

01:00:20earlier to get

01:00:20them more

01:00:21acclimatized to

01:00:22it, but that's

01:00:22not a justification

01:00:23at all.

01:00:24Sorry, go ahead.

01:00:25Yes, I've been

01:00:26meaning to ask,

01:00:27have you ever

01:00:28developed an

01:00:29alternative theory

01:00:30of education?

01:00:32I've been reading

01:00:33through your

01:00:35Peaceful Parenting

01:00:36book recently,

01:00:36maybe you

01:00:37mentioned something

01:00:38about it in

01:00:39there, but I

01:00:40probably haven't

01:00:41gotten to it if

01:00:42it indeed exists,

01:00:43so I'm asking

01:00:44it here just in

01:00:45case.

01:00:47Sorry, asking

01:00:48me what?

01:00:49If you've ever

01:00:50developed a

01:00:51theory of

01:00:51education?

01:00:53Well, my theory

01:00:54of education is

01:00:55let's get the

01:00:56guns out of it,

01:00:57let's get the

01:00:57violence out of

01:00:58it, let's get

01:00:58the coercion out

01:00:59of it, let's get

01:01:01the government

01:01:02enforced teachers

01:01:03unions, the

01:01:03government enforced

01:01:04payment to the

01:01:06school systems that

01:01:06often come from

01:01:07property taxes, the

01:01:08government enforced

01:01:09curriculum.

01:01:10I don't have a

01:01:11solution to

01:01:12anything in the

01:01:13world other than

01:01:14let's stop using

01:01:15violence, or let's

01:01:16stop at least

01:01:16initiating violence,

01:01:17self-defense is

01:01:18fine, blah, blah,

01:01:18blah, usual

01:01:19caveats, but my

01:01:21solution is like

01:01:23if you have an

01:01:25economy based on

01:01:26slavery, which we

01:01:27kind of do, it's

01:01:28just a soft slavery

01:01:29through tax and

01:01:30debt, if you have

01:01:31an economy based on

01:01:32slavery, and I

01:01:34say, well, let's get

01:01:35rid of slavery, and

01:01:36you say, well, what's

01:01:37your solution to

01:01:37things?

01:01:38It's like, I don't

01:01:39have a solution other

01:01:40than slavery is wrong.

01:01:41Slavery is evil,

01:01:42slavery is immoral.

01:01:43We should not be

01:01:44initiating the use of

01:01:45force to transfer

01:01:45property.

01:01:46We should not be

01:01:47herding children

01:01:48around a gunpoint, and

01:01:49we should not be

01:01:49forcing parents to

01:01:51pay for indoctrination,

01:01:53often against their

01:01:54own culture and

01:01:54history, in government

01:01:56schools.

01:01:56We should not be

01:01:57using force and

01:01:58violence and debt

01:02:00and money printing and

01:02:01counterfeiting and

01:02:02enslavement to educate

01:02:03children, because it's

01:02:04not education, it's

01:02:05just pure indoctrination.

01:02:07So, as far as the

01:02:08theory of education

01:02:09goes, I don't really

01:02:10care.

01:02:11I do care that

01:02:12guns are pointed at

01:02:14parents and children

01:02:15to enforce the

01:02:16current mind-shredding

01:02:18bullshit.

01:02:19I don't care what

01:02:20happens when people

01:02:21stop pointing guns at

01:02:22each other.

01:02:23It's like if everyone's

01:02:25forced to get married

01:02:26to each other by the

01:02:26government, and they

01:02:28say, well, what's your

01:02:29theory about how people

01:02:30should get married?

01:02:31It's like, I don't have

01:02:31a theory about how

01:02:32people should get

01:02:33married, I just know

01:02:34that they shouldn't be

01:02:34forced to be married

01:02:36to each other, and

01:02:37whatever they choose

01:02:38free of that force is

01:02:39totally fine with me,

01:02:40and however children

01:02:41get educated, free of

01:02:43force is totally fine

01:02:44with me.

01:02:44I'm a moral philosopher

01:02:45which means I oppose

01:02:47violations of the

01:02:48non-aggression principle

01:02:49as evil.

01:02:50What people do in a

01:02:51state of freedom is

01:02:52their choice.

01:02:53As long as they're not

01:02:54initiating the use of

01:02:54force against each

01:02:56other, I could not

01:02:57care less.

01:02:59Do you think children

01:03:01should be able to

01:03:02choose their own

01:03:04topics that they are

01:03:05interested in and then

01:03:07pursue them?

01:03:09Well, that's a big

01:03:10question.

01:03:11When you say

01:03:11children, are you

01:03:12talking about two-year-olds

01:03:14or seventeen-year-olds?

01:03:16That's a good question.

01:03:20Let's start with, let's

01:03:22say, first grade.

01:03:24Well, I think, I can just

01:03:27talk about my own

01:03:27personal experience here

01:03:28because, you know, what

01:03:29works for me might not

01:03:31work for everyone.

01:03:31So, the one thing my

01:03:33daughter did have to do

01:03:34when she was younger,

01:03:35when she was very

01:03:36little, was I did

01:03:38teach her how to

01:03:38read.

01:03:40And she didn't mind

01:03:41it sometimes, and

01:03:42sometimes she frustrated

01:03:43it and so on, but I

01:03:44was pretty clear that

01:03:46this had to happen.

01:03:46She had to learn how

01:03:47to read.

01:03:48And I also know this

01:03:49is because there's a

01:03:50time when kids are

01:03:51little, when their

01:03:51language acquisition is

01:03:53crazy fast, and it's a

01:03:54developmental window

01:03:55that if you miss it,

01:03:56they will sometimes end

01:03:58up with reading

01:03:59comprehension and

01:04:01language issues for

01:04:02the rest of their

01:04:02lives.

01:04:03And so, I was

01:04:05very keen on having

01:04:07my daughter learn how

01:04:08to read, and it

01:04:08didn't take very long.

01:04:10I remember the first

01:04:11time she recognized

01:04:11the word up.

01:04:12It was very exciting.

01:04:13We were both thrilled

01:04:14about it, and she still

01:04:15remembers it to this

01:04:15day.

01:04:16She was very tiny.

01:04:18And so, I was very

01:04:20keen and pretty

01:04:21insistent that she did

01:04:22have to learn how to

01:04:23read, and I tried to

01:04:24make it as much fun as

01:04:25possible.

01:04:25There were times when

01:04:26she was frustrated,

01:04:27but, you know, it's

01:04:27nothing wrong with kids

01:04:28being frustrated as

01:04:29long as you help them

01:04:30through it in a

01:04:31positive way.

01:04:32And she became a

01:04:33huge reader, and she

01:04:35has read hundreds and

01:04:36hundreds of books, and

01:04:37has had great pleasure

01:04:38out of reading, so

01:04:40she doesn't look back

01:04:42and say, oh, I can't

01:04:43believe you made me.

01:04:44And of course, I

01:04:45didn't use force or

01:04:45punishment or anything

01:04:46like that.

01:04:47I was just pretty

01:04:47insistent that it's

01:04:49very important.

01:04:49And so, there's

01:04:51nothing wrong with, in

01:04:52a sense, making your

01:04:53children do stuff as

01:04:54long as they thank you

01:04:55later, right?

01:04:56Like, I mean, when

01:04:57your kids are little,

01:04:58they want to eat a

01:04:59whole bunch of

01:04:59candy.

01:05:00Of course, right?

01:05:01I mean, I'm 59, and

01:05:02I want to eat a

01:05:03whole bunch of

01:05:03candy.

01:05:04Every time I go past

01:05:05a candy store, I

01:05:06have to make myself

01:05:07keep walking, because

01:05:07if I buy it, I'm

01:05:08probably going to

01:05:09snack on it.

01:05:11So, if your

01:05:12children thank you

01:05:13later, then there's

01:05:15nothing wrong with

01:05:16that, right?

01:05:17So, if you let your

01:05:18kids eat a whole

01:05:18bunch of candy or

01:05:19not learn anything, I

01:05:21mean, maybe they'll

01:05:22be happier in the

01:05:23moment when they're

01:05:23young, but then

01:05:25what they'll do is

01:05:26they'll look back on

01:05:26you when they're

01:05:27older.

01:05:27Let's say you let

01:05:28them eat all this

01:05:29sugar and garbage,

01:05:31then they are

01:05:33overweight, they

01:05:34can't do any

01:05:35sports, they have

01:05:35bad skin, they're

01:05:36unattractive to the

01:05:37opposite sex, their

01:05:39self-esteem is in the

01:05:40toilet, they've got

01:05:41health issues, you

01:05:42know, maybe they've

01:05:42got onset diabetes or

01:05:45maybe even full-blown

01:05:46diabetes, and what

01:05:47they do is if they're

01:05:4917 or 16 and they're

01:05:50obese and have

01:05:52health issues and

01:05:53can't wash

01:05:54themselves properly

01:05:55and have bad teeth,

01:05:56they'll look back and

01:05:57they'll say, I really

01:05:59wish you had not let

01:06:00me eat all that

01:06:00sugar, because now I

01:06:02have lifelong fat

01:06:03cells, like once fat

01:06:04cells develop, they're

01:06:04almost impossible to

01:06:05get rid of, because

01:06:07the Supreme Court,

01:06:08hang on, the Supreme

01:06:09Court intervenes and

01:06:10says they can't leave.

01:06:11So if your children,

01:06:15if you encourage your

01:06:16children in a particular

01:06:17direction for good

01:06:18reasons, and even

01:06:19though they kick and

01:06:20fuss at times, if they

01:06:22look back and say, it

01:06:23was a good thing you

01:06:23taught me how to read

01:06:24at the right time, so it

01:06:26was easiest for me,

01:06:27then that's fine, and

01:06:28if you children cry

01:06:30because they can't

01:06:30have candy, but then

01:06:32when they're in their

01:06:33teens, they say, I'm

01:06:34glad that I have a

01:06:34healthy body, I thank

01:06:36you for not letting me

01:06:36eat all the candy I

01:06:37wanted, that's fine,

01:06:38you can get permission

01:06:39after the fact, and

01:06:40that's totally fine.

01:06:43If I have a little

01:06:45boat down at the

01:06:46marina and somebody's

01:06:47drowning and somebody

01:06:48grabs my boat and

01:06:49uses it, they don't

01:06:50have permission for me

01:06:51ahead of time, and if

01:06:52somebody would say,

01:06:53hey man, someone's

01:06:53taking your boat, I'd

01:06:54be like, oh no, make

01:06:56them stop taking it.

01:06:56But then if they

01:06:57use it to save their

01:06:58child from drowning

01:06:59and then return my

01:07:00boat, I'd be like, oh

01:07:01yeah, you have

01:07:01permission, I'm very

01:07:02glad you did that, I'm

01:07:03very glad you didn't

01:07:04let your child drown.

01:07:05So permission after

01:07:06the fact is totally

01:07:07fine, it's not a

01:07:07violation of any kind

01:07:08of property rights or

01:07:09anything like that.

01:07:10So as far as you

01:07:12should teach your

01:07:13children how to read,

01:07:14hang on, you should

01:07:14teach your children how

01:07:15to read, and then you

01:07:16should try to

01:07:17facilitate that which

01:07:19they enjoy the most.

01:07:22And so you keep

01:07:23wanting to say stuff, I

01:07:24keep trying to answer

01:07:24the question, you keep

01:07:25interrupting me, so go

01:07:26ahead.

01:07:27Okay, I'm sorry, I just

01:07:29wanted to say that I've

01:07:32had many people say that

01:07:33they are thankful that

01:07:34their parents, well not

01:07:36even just their parents,

01:07:37but also their teachers

01:07:38spanked them because it

01:07:39made them better.

01:07:41sure, and that's still

01:07:42immoral, but it wouldn't

01:07:43be something that would

01:07:44ever be pursued legally.

01:07:46I mean, there are some

01:07:47people who pay to get

01:07:49beaten by dominatrixes,

01:07:52right, the sadomasochistic

01:07:54domination, submission,

01:07:56BDSM, and sort of this

01:07:57sort of stuff.

01:07:58I don't think that's

01:07:59healthy, but it's

01:08:00obviously not a crime if

01:08:01it's consensual.

01:08:03So, yeah, I mean, that

01:08:04can happen, I still

01:08:05disagree with the

01:08:06morality of it, but it

01:08:10doesn't really matter

01:08:10what I agree or disagree

01:08:11with because nothing

01:08:12would happen legally with

01:08:13somebody who has

01:08:14approved of the

01:08:15behavior.

01:08:16So, go ahead.

01:08:19Okay, I'm going to have

01:08:21to go now because my

01:08:23phone is about to die,

01:08:25but thanks for the

01:08:26conversation.

01:08:27You are very welcome.

01:08:29I appreciate that, and

01:08:30thank you for calling in.

01:08:34So, yeah, with regards

01:08:36to, and I'm happy to take

01:08:37more callers if you have

01:08:38any questions or comments,

01:08:39with regards to letting

01:08:41children pursue their own

01:08:42interests, my daughter is,

01:08:46as was the case with me,

01:08:47is more interested in

01:08:48language than math.

01:08:52However, it's important

01:08:53to have a basic grasp of

01:08:55mathematics in life.

01:08:57I mean, you need to

01:08:58calculate percentages, you

01:09:00need to do a budget, you

01:09:01need to do your taxes, you

01:09:02need to have some

01:09:04understanding of numbers,

01:09:06and the idea that, well,

01:09:09you can just push a

01:09:11calculator, everyone carries

01:09:13a calculator around, of

01:09:14course, in their pockets

01:09:15these days.

01:09:16Well, but you need to

01:09:18also understand what the

01:09:18calculator is doing so

01:09:20that you can look at the

01:09:21results and know if you

01:09:23think it's something,

01:09:24right?

01:09:24If you meant to do 900

01:09:26times 10, but you did

01:09:27900 times 100, you need

01:09:30to look at that and say,

01:09:31well, that's not quite

01:09:31right.

01:09:31So, you do need to

01:09:32understand, in general,

01:09:35some basic principles of

01:09:36mathematics and numbers and

01:09:37ratios and percentages and

01:09:39all of that.

01:09:39Now, do you need to do long

01:09:41division by hand?

01:09:43No.

01:09:44No, you really don't.

01:09:47So, do you need to do, I

01:09:48remember struggling to learn

01:09:51algebraic division when I

01:09:52was in my early teens and I

01:09:56had a tutor who helped me.

01:09:57That was actually my

01:09:58brother.

01:09:58He did help me and I did

01:10:00manage to get through the

01:10:00test and then I promptly

01:10:01forgot about it all and you

01:10:03couldn't pay me to do it and

01:10:04have me achieve it.

01:10:06So, in general, what your

01:10:08job is, as a parent, is to

01:10:11prepare your children for

01:10:13adulthood.

01:10:15To prepare your children for

01:10:16adulthood.

01:10:17Now, does adulthood require

01:10:19that you do math from time

01:10:20to time?

01:10:21Of course it does.

01:10:22You have to figure out debt

01:10:23payments, you have to figure

01:10:24out mortgages, you have to

01:10:26figure out taxes, as I said,

01:10:27you have to do some

01:10:28budgeting, you have to

01:10:29understand some math to be

01:10:31a functional adult.

01:10:33You have to understand dosage

01:10:35in medicine, if you're

01:10:36taking antibiotics, you have

01:10:37to, if you're reordering, I

01:10:39don't know, let's say you

01:10:40take coenzymes or whatever

01:10:41it is, or some vitamins or

01:10:43supplements, you need to

01:10:44understand milligrams and

01:10:46larger and smaller numbers

01:10:48and so on, right?

01:10:49So, yeah, you need to

01:10:52understand some basic math in

01:10:54order to get through life.

01:10:55So, if you raise your

01:10:56children and let's say they

01:10:57don't like math at all and

01:10:58they love language and all

01:10:59they want to do is language

01:11:00and they hate math, well, when

01:11:02they become adults, will they

01:11:05wish that they knew a bit

01:11:06of math?

01:11:07Of course they will.

01:11:08And will they complain if

01:11:09you didn't teach them any

01:11:10math because they just

01:11:11didn't feel like it or

01:11:11didn't want to in the

01:11:12moment?

01:11:12Yeah, they will, and

01:11:13rightly so, because your

01:11:14job as a parent is to

01:11:15prepare your children for

01:11:16adulthood and adulthood

01:11:17involves math.

01:11:21And is it important to

01:11:23teach your children grammar?

01:11:24Yes, it is.

01:11:25Yes, it is.

01:11:27Because they're going to be

01:11:28judged by the written form.

01:11:30And it's kind of funny

01:11:31because when I was a kid, the

01:11:36written form was dying because

01:11:39it was telephones or in

01:11:42person.

01:11:43Everybody was verbal.

01:11:44Everybody was verbal.

01:11:46Nobody wrote letters, really.

01:11:48And everything was either on

01:11:49the telephone or in person and

01:11:51nobody really wrote.

01:11:52I mean, you'd write some notes

01:11:53here and there.

01:11:54But with emails, with texting,

01:11:56with blogs, with all of this

01:11:58sort of stuff, writing has

01:11:59come back into vogue.

01:12:02And if you don't know how

01:12:04to write, you are at a

01:12:06severe disadvantage in what

01:12:09is often a text-based world.

01:12:12And so, let's say you're some

01:12:14guy and you're texting some

01:12:16girl that you like and you

01:12:19say, I hope you're having a

01:12:20good day.

01:12:20And you say, Y-O-U-R rather

01:12:22than Y-O-U apostrophe R-E,

01:12:24which is the contraction for

01:12:25U-R, of course.

01:12:26And let's say that she's

01:12:27literate, you're going to

01:12:28look like an idiot.

01:12:30Even if you're not an idiot,

01:12:31you're going to look like an

01:12:32idiot and she's going to

01:12:33judge you by your grammar.

01:12:34If you're applying for a

01:12:36job and you misspell

01:12:38things and you get the

01:12:38grammar wrong, they're going

01:12:39to just throw out your

01:12:41resume or your letter.

01:12:43They're not going to take

01:12:44you seriously.

01:12:45If you want to influence

01:12:47people online, but you make

01:12:48basic spelling and grammar

01:12:49errors, people aren't going

01:12:51to listen to the

01:12:51sophistication of your

01:12:52argument.

01:12:53So, yes, even though

01:12:54grammar is not super

01:12:56exciting, to put it

01:12:56mildly, you know, when

01:12:58do you put the

01:13:00apostrophe at the end

01:13:01of others?

01:13:02Is it others no

01:13:03apostrophe, others

01:13:05apostrophe S, or others

01:13:06S apostrophe?

01:13:08Well, you kind of got to

01:13:09know these things.

01:13:09And, of course, you can

01:13:10run them through AI and so

01:13:11on.

01:13:12I get all of that, but

01:13:13it's more efficient to

01:13:16just know it yourself, and

01:13:17you won't always have that

01:13:18opportunity.

01:13:19And, of course, nobody

01:13:20knew that some perfect

01:13:21grammar checker was

01:13:22coming along.

01:13:24Or, it's not perfect, but

01:13:25an easier grammar

01:13:27checker.

01:13:28So, yeah, you've got to

01:13:29teach your kids grammar

01:13:30because in order to be

01:13:32effective as an adult, you

01:13:33need to be able to write

01:13:37in a way that is easiest

01:13:38to understand.

01:13:39The purpose of grammar is

01:13:40to make your thoughts easier

01:13:42to understand.

01:13:44Right?

01:13:45Eat, shoots, and leaves is

01:13:47the name of a grammar book.

01:13:49Like, panda bears eat

01:13:51shoots, and leaves.

01:13:52Eats, shoots, and leaves.

01:13:54If you put the comma in

01:13:55between eats and shoots,

01:13:58then it's a guy who goes

01:14:00to a restaurant, blows

01:14:00everyone away, and then

01:14:02runs away.

01:14:04Eats, comma, shoots, and

01:14:05leaves.

01:14:05Eats, shoots, and leaves

01:14:06means he's snacking on

01:14:09some vegetation.

01:14:10Salad.

01:14:11So, it's important.

01:14:13I mean, the meaning, one

01:14:14comma can change the entire

01:14:15meaning of a sentence.

01:14:18And grammatical errors can

01:14:20be quite hilarious, but they're

01:14:21confusing, and grammatical

01:14:22errors take other people's

01:14:24time.

01:14:25You're kind of stealing time

01:14:27if you write in a

01:14:28grammatically incorrect way

01:14:29because grammar is there to

01:14:31make your thoughts more

01:14:32efficient and more

01:14:32comprehensible.

01:14:34I mean, I'm sure everyone

01:14:35has received a message or

01:14:36an email which you can't

01:14:37really make head or tail of

01:14:38because the grammar is

01:14:40contradictory or confusing.

01:14:42And so, if you don't use

01:14:44good grammar, you are

01:14:45putting the burden of

01:14:46comprehension unjustly and

01:14:48unfairly on other people.

01:14:49They've got to email you back

01:14:50and say, what do you mean

01:14:51by this?

01:14:51I don't understand.

01:14:52And then you've got to email

01:14:52them back and, right, you're

01:14:54just taking their time, and

01:14:56it's kind of annoying to deal

01:14:57with as a whole because,

01:14:58again, especially as I get

01:14:59older, you know, there was a

01:15:00time in the middle of my life

01:15:01when I didn't really care about

01:15:02efficiency and time that much.

01:15:04But now I'm getting older.

01:15:05You know, I'll be 60 in

01:15:07September.

01:15:07So, the end of the tunnel is

01:15:11well within sight, and

01:15:13therefore, time and

01:15:15efficiency has become all the

01:15:17more essential.

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