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00:16I like pickleball so far.
00:17You like it?
00:22Woo, you like that one, don't you think?
00:36Do you know what these muds are even doing to me?
00:37I have no clue.
00:39I've never mudded before.
00:40What are you doing?
00:42It's just a picture.
00:43Simba.
00:44Picture.
00:46Lower time.
00:48Yes, happy, yeah.
00:49Happy as it can be covering a bun.
00:54It's like one, two, three, four.
00:57Are there any seasonings you want me to bring from the house?
01:00I can't think about seasoning right now.
01:02Only talk about gym stuff right now.
01:05Worried about seasoning during your rest.
01:08I think about everything that I'm working on.
01:10Clearly.
01:20I'm so excited.
01:22Let's see what Chibi's doing.
01:24You ready?
01:24All right.
01:25Oh, this is so pretty.
01:27It's so bright.
01:29There's Chibi.
01:30Hi, baby girl.
01:32Oh, God.
01:33Yeah, see my place?
01:34The cold plunge.
01:36Yeah.
01:36Wish I should just do that right now.
01:38Absolutely not.
01:39I said I would do it.
01:40I didn't say when.
01:41Yeah.
01:42I love it.
01:43It's so nice.
01:44It's just crazy like you're here.
01:45I know.
01:46I can't wait to see your place, too.
01:48I know.
01:48I'm so excited.
01:49Obviously, this isn't a four-bedroom place.
01:53Logistically, it would make more sense for me to be in a space.
01:57I mean, that's what I want.
01:59Yeah.
01:59But you did say you would try the ice plunge.
02:01Oh, I promise.
02:03Yeah.
02:03I just don't know when.
02:05Maybe in like five years.
02:06Sorry.
02:06I'll put it in the calendar and I'll get a notification.
02:11And then I'll be like, ugh, I'm too old.
02:13I can't do this.
02:13No.
02:14I told you about my mom.
02:17I forget.
02:18She stuck her foot in it and literally went out.
02:20My dad sent me a video, and I was like, oh, my God.
02:24I love the idea.
02:25My parents asked me, like, how old is Jess?
02:26And I told them, they're like, does she want kids?
02:27And I was like, no.
02:28Were they sad?
02:29No.
02:29They were like, good.
02:30They know me.
02:31Oh, good.
02:32That makes me so happy, Chris.
02:33I was so scared that, like, your family would be like, oh, my God.
02:37We're never going to have, like, his babies.
02:40Like, you know what I mean?
02:42Yeah.
02:42That was one of the things, like, that I really liked.
02:44The pots.
02:45You were like, yeah, I don't want kids.
02:46Yeah.
02:47And I was like, I'm okay if I never have kids ever.
02:50Mm-hmm.
02:51But at the same time, it's like, if I was with someone,
02:53and that's really what they wanted, I wouldn't be, like, totally against it.
02:57But I don't, like, that's not, like, in my near, near future.
03:00I love you so much, and I know you'd be an amazing dad.
03:04Like, if there was a moment where, like, you and I were just like, fuck, we want this.
03:07Yeah.
03:07Like, it's not like I would say, like, oh, I would never even consider it.
03:11But, like, that's not what I see for us.
03:15Yeah.
03:16It wasn't a thing for Becky.
03:16I'm just so excited.
03:18I know I've said this repeatedly, but I'm so excited to come home to you.
03:21Like, that is one of the things I'm most excited about.
03:24I'll be there.
03:31Chris's place is gorgeous, and it's, like, the most incredible location.
03:35But, like, because of our three animals, I think it makes more sense for us to be at my house.
03:40Are you ready?
03:42I'm ready.
03:43I'm gonna wipe my feet off here.
03:45Oh!
03:48It doesn't smell like dog too bad, right?
03:52No, you can't.
03:53It doesn't smell like dog, no.
03:54I created a life that I loved on my own.
03:57And I kind of was in the mindset of, like, if I find someone, great.
04:01And when I walked in today with my fiancé, I felt, like, very at peace.
04:05Oh, my Lord.
04:07Isn't it so fun?
04:08Yeah.
04:09You don't even know what time of day it is in here.
04:11That's the goal.
04:12Yeah.
04:12Keep it real cold, put on the heating pad.
04:14Yeah.
04:15This is gonna need to be a door, because that's gonna be my closet.
04:20Oh.
04:21This could just be a closet.
04:21Pretty perfect.
04:22So this will be your closet.
04:25It's a good hat.
04:26It's good.
04:27Literally, I was gonna bring it to the pods.
04:29Were you?
04:32This room's crazy.
04:33Oh, my Lord.
04:34You have so many clothes.
04:36You can see some of the wild dresses.
04:40I kind of like this.
04:42That's the house.
04:44Isn't it nice?
04:45It looks great.
04:46You weren't lying.
04:46Is it what you thought?
04:48Um, yeah.
04:49I mean, there's a lot of, like, gold.
04:51Can you tell me that?
04:52There's a lot of gold.
04:53A lot of snakes.
04:54A lot of snakes.
04:57The bedroom.
04:58It's like a cave.
05:00What a...
05:00I love it.
05:01A forest cave with heating pads.
05:06I have multiple heating pads.
05:08It just feels nice.
05:10I know.
05:10Yeah.
05:11And if it makes your muscle feel better, your back, your neck, it's like...
05:14Right.
05:14I feel like it's very much a grandma thing, but I don't care.
05:17Is it a grandma thing?
05:20How many...
05:21I don't even want to use the word young.
05:23But how many not-old people, do you know this, use a heating pad every day?
05:29One.
05:31Exactly.
05:32Yeah.
05:33So do you feel like you could, like, see us living here together?
05:36It's just different to, like, be out in a suburb, that's all.
05:42It's very different.
05:43Mm-hmm.
05:43But it's...
05:45It's...
05:45I feel like it's...
05:47At least in Columbus, it's so close to everything.
05:50That's true.
05:50Not that it really does matter, but it's like...
05:52No, I think it does.
05:53Lifestyle-wise.
05:53It's like a total, like, total, like, change, too.
05:56A hundred percent.
05:57It's a total lifestyle change.
05:58Yeah.
05:59Like, you're able to just walk wherever you want and, like, get to everything.
06:02Mm-hmm.
06:02To get in the car.
06:04It is close, though.
06:04I mean, it's nice that you're so close to everything.
06:06I'm probably 12 minutes from your place.
06:09I know.
06:09It's not a big deal.
06:10My biggest thing was, like, my mom and dad host everything.
06:15Mm-hmm.
06:15And, like, my biggest goal was I wanted to have a big enough space so that if I wanted to,
06:20like, host our immediate family Christmas,
06:22everyone could come and everyone could just stay the night.
06:24So I wanted three bedrooms, and this one just happened to have four.
06:27Yeah.
06:28It is nice to be, like, just fucking peace and quiet sometimes.
06:32I'm just so happy you're here.
06:33I love it here.
06:34I mean, it's nice.
06:35I know there's people I talk to in there, and I was like, yeah, this will never work.
06:39Yeah.
06:39It's like, you know, literally, like, use the, like, analogy of, like, you know, freaking training for anything in life,
06:46right?
06:46That's going to take, like, a lot of hard work.
06:47You get to this point where it's like, fuck, if we would have met seven years ago or eight years
06:51ago, it just wouldn't have.
06:53Mm-mm.
06:54Maybe if we would have met six years from now, maybe it just wouldn't have matched up either.
06:56Right.
06:57Even a year ago, I was like, I didn't know if I would ever want to get married again.
07:01Yeah, I remember you saying that.
07:02Like, I didn't want to be in a serious relationship.
07:04It's just bizarre to me in both our lives how many things had to, like, fall into place for this
07:09to happen.
07:10And I'm so grateful for, like, what I have with you.
07:13Yeah, I said the same thing to you.
07:14I feel like every day at this point.
07:16I know.
07:16So.
07:19I love you.
07:20Love you.
07:23Love you.
07:26Love you.
07:28Love you.
07:34Love you.
07:35Love you.
07:36Love you.
07:36Love you.
07:37Love you.
07:40Love you.
07:41Love you.
07:41Love you.
07:42Love you.
07:42Love you.
07:49Love you.
07:50Powell the head of the Fed he speaks on things and those things cause ripples in
07:55the market that I trade in how do you know like the meetings going on oh I
07:59check like all the time this is like my job at this point so I'm like half
08:05listening to that because I kind of understand where it's headed I have a
08:08meeting with my boss tomorrow and he's very aware that I like want to move up
08:12mm-hmm in the company like when do you want to guess I guess get out of
08:15Cleveland just depends on what he says I feel like I've been like very upfront
08:19of like me being more like I'm a nomad I'm just like very concerned they're
08:22like getting stuck in Cleveland yeah I know I just want to make sure we're on
08:25the same page I'm not trying to trap you in Cleveland I've been very open that I
08:29love warm weather yeah I want to move somewhere warm I did just get like the
08:35soccer coach this basically sending me a contract today okay to kind of take a
08:38look at for Florida I just don't have any ties to Florida I guess I also don't in
08:42Arizona but I love Arizona like I could be swayed either way and Arizona is
08:47definitely still in the conversation and I can definitely get a soccer job there
08:50as well as financial services I've just had the contract kind of come my way
08:55for for soccer in Florida already said politically it does align with where I
08:58think we're both at where we both stand great weather great golf it seems to be
09:02obviously great education as well for kids so it does seem to kind of hit all of
09:06my boxes that I look for what are your thoughts I'm just like I don't know what
09:10else to say like I'm I'm gonna talk to my boss tomorrow it's been like we've been
09:15back for five minutes and I'm and I've got a job like in that time period like
09:20that's kind of my point like it's one of those like I reach out and can do that
09:23very quickly I'm just more worried on my like my end of not being able to like
09:29make that move happen if it's not something you're really able to do because I
09:34like similar to you do like to plan but I am very fluid and I'm not fully
09:39certain like I guess I'm having concerns that you're not able to be as
09:42fluid can I let you know more tomorrow absolutely I feel like you're saying a
09:48lot with your eyes right now but not really saying it with your words I'm
09:51just listening I'm asking you what your thoughts are I'm just listening to you
09:54I'm I've said what I can say at this point I would like to talk to my boss for
09:59sure if there's any different opportunities if there's opportunities in
10:01those states I can take those as well but like it just depends on like what's
10:06open for sure I mean that makes sense I just want to like you feel like I've
10:10been as open with you as well like nomadically correct yeah okay I just
10:14wanted to make sure another thing I kind of wanted to bring up as well I want to
10:19say off-putting it's like if I put stuff in the fridge in a way that I feel is
10:23neat and it does get rearranged I feel like I'm have I done that since the
10:27water we haven't put anything in the fridge since the water okay so it was one
10:31time and we've already had this conversation where I told you not to be
10:33offended by that and you said okay I get it and I'm starting to think about it
10:36more when I like fold clothes I am basically wondering if I'm doing it
10:42right you can fold your clothes however you want to fold them but I don't want
10:45to be failing in the home life if that's happening now where is that gonna head
10:50later on into a marriage I guess if we're airing out some things last night we
10:55had a very intimate date in the spa we have our hands all over each other we're
10:58literally rubbing mud on each other in the shower for sure and then we come
11:02home and you're like I have to run out I did not love that I feel like I've
11:07initiated it enough especially in Cabo no we didn't last night but you're I mean
11:12are you being serious did I not come out of the bathroom in a certain way and
11:16just yeah because I said I was horny okay I've also done the same thing here we
11:21haven't been intimate and you know physical touch is like very important to
11:25me then grab me and push me on the bed and let's go you walked out the door I
11:30mean at night you like had a plan at night you get into bed and you're on
11:34your phone as are you who are you doing the exact same exact same thing and if
11:40it's a problem then let me know at night and we will absolutely have a great time
11:45I mean I'm not gonna like force you to if you don't want to I would love to have
11:49I've said that I love it when you just initiate like that I just know like you
11:53said something in Cabo like the physical connection wasn't there so I'm like no
11:58what I said I mean I am attracted to you I think what I was saying is you're not
12:04the type of girl that I normally go after but I'm very attracted to you like I
12:09mean I think that's been made clear I'm also being aware of your period
12:15realistically and I don't want a kid right now I kind of expected you to
12:21tell me that tell you what that it's kind of passed like I'm not gonna track
12:25it I'm not gonna get pregnant on my period I know it's the time right after it
12:33is what I understood but I'm it's not the smartest when it comes to it and it's
12:37okay it would be I guess nice to know when you're off of it I'm not trying to
12:41trap you I feel like you think I'm trying to trap you in Cleveland and with a
12:44child like I don't want to have a kid either right now okay I don't know what
12:47the tracking is that I don't know how long population is usually like two
12:51weeks after my period okay I will let you know it's like and I'm happy to have a
12:56shared tracker if that makes you feel better but I don't know I will let you
13:00know it's when it starts when it's done that would okay okay now I feel like
13:06you're like just pissed I'm not it's just like it's frustrating because clearly I'm
13:12sexually frustrated why didn't you fuck me last night like because you just left
13:16me I was turned on and then when we were in bed why didn't you why didn't you fuck
13:19me last night because I was just like meh you like walked out so I was like okay
13:23okay you can't just put that on me and then be like whoa whoa it's my fault it's not
13:27yours it's probably equal at this point but you can't just be like oh it's your
13:30fault that you didn't initiate again like I don't really see how that's my fault
13:37I'm just letting you know I need a little bit more okay I'm happy to provide it I mean are
13:42you
13:43satisfied when we do yeah but we haven't since Mexico well it's okay why are you off your period
13:55yeah okay then we can definitely do that if I'm on my period I'm plagued no but it's you sleep
14:01with
14:01a pillow in between us no I don't I have one pillow I've initiated plenty throughout this whole
14:06process I'm happy to continue to do so but don't come at me now it's like I didn't notice the
14:11problem
14:11no I'm not I came at you up about the move and the cleaning thing I've talked to you have
14:16we not
14:16talked about that before yeah you've been joking about it but now it's like eating you alive
14:20apparently it's not just that it's the clothes as well I don't want to feel like I'm walking around
14:26I get it like I feel like I'm walking around on eggshells okay fold your towel however you want
14:33okay but then you're gonna go back and fold it no I didn't even change it with I mean it's
14:37really
14:37just the water bottles realistically but it's oh my god I feel like I'm not meeting I just need to
14:42like get away for a sec because okay we're fighting over water bottles
14:47we're caught in the crossfire
14:57we're caught in the crossfire
15:09we're caught in the crossfire
15:32I will work on things on my end trying not to be such a crazy person with cleaning trying to
15:38be
15:40more open about where I'm at in the month initiating more I will see what I can do with my
15:47job and apply
15:49out to different companies but I do love the company that I work for and they are normally
15:55very accommodating so I would like to stay with them even if it causes like a small delay in our
16:00plans and I hope you understand that I actually understand that when it comes to intimacy I don't
16:07want a kid right now I don't want a kid either and I think I've made that very clear I
16:11want to make
16:11sure that we have our adventures we have our life together and we have kids for the right reasons I
16:16like when you touch me I like your hands all over me and like I feel like I'm always touching
16:19you and
16:22I don't want to like seem needy I guess when we are intimate it is fantastic I will do more
16:27to
16:27initiate as well but I think we're I honestly think we're good in that category other than the four or
16:35five days that we haven't because of your period and still touch me on my period just so you know
16:40I
16:40don't know that necessarily I was an accident which changed my mom's life I'm very good about tracking
16:47my cycle I take it very seriously I hope that you want this to work out yeah I don't want
16:57you to just
16:58like run from me because you do have that lifestyle where you're constantly on the run and I don't
17:05want you to get bored with me I don't want you to be okay just like losing me either I
17:10do want this to
17:11work and I'm willing to do the work I'm not running away I have a lot of self-confidence I'm
17:16going to be
17:16okay at the same time I can understand how that comes off is like numb when it isn't I'm ready
17:24to be in
17:24one spot and be in this type of relationship so yeah I mean we we're both freaked out like it's
17:30it's remember when you weren't nervous yeah I mean I'm nervous about this for sure for sure
17:37I'm still confident you want to have some fun I meant you want to go spend some time together
17:56hard knock you're the dog so tonight Jordan is meeting my brother hey man thank you he wants
18:02what's best for me for sure and he wants to make sure it's genuine remember tell you what she cooks
18:08uh waffles we had some last weekend that you made homemade dude you have not seen this thing yet did
18:14you see my badass waffle maker that is pretty badass Emma loves waffles they're amazing are you are
18:20you do you cook a lot so you consider yourself a good cook then like you top I think I
18:24think so
18:24yeah so what do you think that you cook the best I think I make really good burgers okay burgers
18:30gotcha I just started doing homemade fries as well we did chicken and waffles the other morning yeah
18:35we do a little tag team a little tag team action she made some waffles did some like fried chicken
18:39tenders you did the chicken they're good okay is this your notebook from the pods yeah this is crazy
18:44man I thought for a long time that it would be good for you to find someone to be with
18:49um I was always
18:51rooting for that and you know your last few relationships two were like shitty so with shitty
18:56boys so you know Jacob and I both don't sugarcoat anything I like that as your brother it's my duty
19:03to make sure that this was all serious you know and that the feelings were there I'm like crazy about
19:11her
19:15getting to know Amber she's the only person I've ever met where I'm like maybe I do want to have
19:19kids I've never felt that about anybody like until we really connected and I was like damn like I could
19:26actually see that for my life which is pretty wild man okay Emma's amazing of course I love Emma to
19:33death she's a little spitfire just like Amber is what did you think of Matt by the way he was
19:38cool
19:39to me but I really appreciated him coming and meeting me did you guys meet off camera yeah off
19:43camera we had like productive conversation like I felt good leaving the conversation I'm all for it
19:48to support it I hope this works out that's all I'm saying like I genuinely do and I want um
19:53you
19:53the best for both of you guys thanks man we want a family yeah come on I'm looking for that
20:00family we
20:01never had what can you point out and what you see here I don't know is that a cat
20:23that's Jill yeah that's Jill the cat so we got a man and a woman top hat in a pipe
20:27he's in deep
20:28thought oh she's reading or she's reading mm-hmm is this you in the pods yeah me sitting with my
20:36blanket I don't know what's happening here we're a leg it looks inappropriate actually
20:42the leg he's seducing you cover your eyes it's a little sailboat you ever went kayaking or anything
20:50like that yeah mm-hmm we're gonna teach you how to swim before we do all that I just throw
20:55in a
20:55life vest what you mean oh you come save me my sisters make fun of me about that sometimes what
21:00nothing about the swims yeah yeah we could work on that yeah we gotta learn before we have kids yeah
21:05we're kind of set on to a year window before what family looking at house and family yeah yeah what
21:13point would be too late for you because you know you're you're older than me yeah I know a little
21:19bit
21:19a little bit yeah only a little bit I just want to be able to run around with with the
21:23kids you
21:24know both of our moms are aging you know like I do kind of have like a fear yeah I
21:30guess of what
21:31if my mom's not able to to meet my kids but it's not something that's making me have kids now
21:36yeah
21:37we'd have a biracial child essentially is there yeah any thoughts you may have had around that or
21:44you know I grew up very rural and I love my hometown and I love my experience but I don't
21:49want them to
21:51necessarily be in that small fishbowl like that I grew up with in high school okay you know and I
21:56want them to see other people that look like them and yeah I could see us like raising a family
22:01here
22:02and finding those communities where our kids are exposed to like different foods and just a range
22:07of kids from different walks of life sort of things yeah I'm thinking of my own upbringing in some ways
22:11growing up in Brooklyn and I think it's similar to other cities in some ways as a black young man
22:17and
22:17just understanding that everything isn't always um what's the word set up fairly I remember back in
22:26the pods telling you about like the cops and pulling up the guns on us as kids and the whole
22:30nine and
22:31it's like oh yeah because they sometimes can see black bodies as more like adult-like or threatening and
22:37things like that in certain interactions so I think some candid conversations about like the history of
22:42our country um and just kind of educating our kids not from a place of like victimhood per se but
22:48more
22:48so just understanding that the world yeah isn't colorblind and I think it'll just help them to be
22:54prepared to just navigate life a lot easier in some ways yeah so any like direct fear with me like
23:02having a white woman as the mother of your children no no there's no direct fear there I have a
23:09lot to
23:10learn from you and vice versa yeah it's funny when you talk about like biracial children you'll hear
23:16narratives of them never feeling like they have a home especially black white interracial kids like
23:21I don't fit this but I don't really fit this and I'm kind of in this gray yeah yeah that
23:26I think will
23:27be some like learning we both have to do it's gonna be something new for both of us yeah yeah
23:31yeah I
23:32think we'll come at it as a team I know we will I think the only thing that I have
23:36and it's not a fear I
23:37don't know what the right word would be but yeah like that reminder that I'm not going to be able
23:44to understand or to relate a hundred percent with my own kid with something is a big deal yeah you
23:52know and I just want to make sure that we're able to move her that right and it's a love
23:57for your kid
23:57thing it's a it's not necessarily a racial thing you know it's like a bonding love for your kid thing
24:02and yeah yeah I know you're a well of love so I have no doubt yeah yeah no doubt at
24:08all yeah yeah
24:09and your families too yeah yeah yeah I like my view right now yeah you got all the flowers behind
24:19your head see up your nose oh yeah let me just throw it away
24:32the geese right on cue they're gonna protect somebody
24:44let's do it do we take the shoes off um you don't have to today Devonte is meeting my parents
24:56my younger brother and his wife I haven't brought somebody home in 10 years
25:04and I'm feeling very excited to show them the man that I fell in love with
25:15hello sheesh he picked it out all by myself I need some sunglasses I feel like when you showed me
25:24like your inspiration picture yeah you're a loan officer right yeah getting back in town were you just
25:33like inundated yeah I had like 900 texts 1,000 emails when I came back and had over 700 text
25:41messages that gave me a lot of anxiety you have that many friends I did the same thing how many
25:50siblings do you have I have five five yeah house my mom had five boys and one girl wow
25:55where are you and I have an older brother than myself then my younger brother and I have twin
26:01brothers and my sister's the youngest I know we have a chance for twins yeah yeah are you saying
26:10you want twins yeah that's a lot of diapers and crying all at once that's okay he's gonna help me
26:15so are you hungry always hungry how's the apartment it's really nice like the way that we keep the
26:28apartment I don't even have to like tell him things like he's just naturally does things like even
26:34something stupid like yeah he pulled something out of the microwave before the time was up but he
26:41cleared it to make sure the clock was on and I was like what yes like did the laundry folded
26:50it and
26:50put it away cooks from like I'm telling you he's yeah because listen number one prayer request Jesus
26:57please because we can't starve she's been saying that for years she said my husband needs to cook or
27:02we're both gonna starve I believe it okay so how was the reveal you're just sitting there like oh my
27:14god am I gonna die am I gonna pass out like is he gonna be cute is he gonna think
27:18I'm cute what is
27:19about to happen right now I was sweating for sure I was like amazed because his eyes and then the
27:28freckles like I was not and I wasn't expecting him to be like such a big like man your eyes
27:38were
27:38like this like glassy blue it was like okay I'm gonna have really pretty babies one day distracted
27:45you from the sweat can't miss that when did you realize wow she's touching my heart my grandfather
27:55was a reverend he had his own church so I've always said like you know that's the person that I
28:00want to
28:01like model my life after I just want to be able to give back and that's really where we like
28:05connected
28:05deep on like she's really a giver yeah she wants to take care of her people he's very intentional with
28:12his words with how he carries himself does that make you feel secure my father like wasn't in my
28:19life so I want to you know do the opposite that's why I want to be a father that's why
28:23I want to be a
28:24husband I was like I you know had a broken household like growing up so when I'm making this a
28:29life
28:29decision I need to make sure it's like right the right decision yeah I'm only getting married once
28:34so it's like I am so glad to hear you say that you know with us the word divorce like
28:42we literally
28:43early on said you can never ever use that word yeah it's it's not an option we're going to grow
28:50right we're going to learn and we're going to love each other and we're going to champion each other
28:54yeah and this is it so and like okay
29:03my mom died last year
29:08and at the funeral my dad said I promised her till death do us part and I kept my vow
29:17he meant that and he did that and I'm going to do that and my boys are going to do
29:24that that is the
29:25richest life you'll have you know absolutely and so many people just cast it away and I'm sorry I'm
29:33being emotional no I'm sorry about for your loss too it's my baby can I just say though you guys
29:39probably agree with me I have never seen this girl so she's glowing she's so giddy the seven
29:45years that I've been with Seth I've like I've never seen you this way and I was like I know
29:50if
29:50Brittany said yes to an engagement I'm like this man had to have been like he had to have been
29:56something special so I'm just I'm so happy for both of you thank you yeah it's been good do you
30:02guys
30:02want to move to the family room yeah let's do it actually I want to go upstairs if we can
30:13so I wanted to show you this picture this is at my uncle Keith's wedding Brittany and Kayla
30:20oh she was born two weeks early and my life was forever changed she was itty bitty I have spent
30:28more than half of my life caring for her yeah and to hand over those reins
30:37to you is major do you feel like you're pretty smitten yeah you feel like when you get to that
30:45altar is are there any reservations that would make you go hmm I don't think so you've covered ground
30:53that most people don't get to I mean even some people they are married 10 15 years any questions
30:59that are unanswered are and this is obvious the ones that you don't face right and you don't ask
31:05yep so ask the questions yeah and have clarity yep I know her I've never seen her more moved
31:15by any person on earth than I've seen her with you I trust you to the point I'm almost about
31:23to ask
31:24you will you marry my daughter get ready for a wedding we love strong we love hard and uh welcome
31:38brother I'm glad to be here it feels feels normal like it doesn't feel like we missed the beat so
31:44I'm excited honestly I wish the wedding was tomorrow because if you made the decision
31:49and you said she's the one or he's the one you've made the decision I mean that's really what this
31:55comes down to I want to be with you forever and if there's any hesitation it would be here now
32:01you will be my son yeah we we don't call in-laws we call it in loves yeah
32:09do you still love me
32:16are you mean mugging right it got difficult oh you're so full of it
32:26what are you acting like you see you guys had the whole thing planned did we get you
32:35I was like wait a second he's walking outside it didn't work
32:51okay are you ready yeah
32:59I gotta get in the door
33:03wait is this coming off
33:05okay sorry okay not breezy
33:11oh my gosh welcome to my house I forget we're saying hello to my mom
33:15yeah this isn't my pad
33:16it is definitely a bachelorette pad so yeah we just came from a frat house so
33:23oh I can't wait to hear all of that
33:25oh mother you'll hear about it it was it was uh it was fun
33:32okay so talk to me about this process
33:35I met Connor and I was like hi I'm breezy and I was like I'm 33 years old I'm from
33:39Grand Rapids Michigan and immediately just went I was like stop it
33:42it's like out of control chaos
33:44and then I was like my mom's from Grand Rapids and then my dad's from Minneapolis
33:48she's like from the fact she lived in Minneapolis too
33:50right like it was just kind of like crazy how many connections
33:53like with Michigan
33:54and the whole Wolverine thing is like huge
33:57I know mom I was like that's it folks like pack her bag she's out of here she
34:01found her husband it gave me a sense of like I'm right where I'm supposed to be
34:05it started just turning in from coincidence to kind of like fate
34:08everything we talked about when it comes to like deeper emotional stuff I
34:12haven't always been like as vulnerable as
34:14okay well that's a big piece of this whole process
34:16if you let me be me like I'm gonna like go to the end of the earth for you
34:21I can honestly say like he knows everything
34:25everything you've seen all the sides he's seen a lot of sides to me
34:28and you're not scared you're not running away
34:29that's the thing I'm gonna be here no matter what
34:31I've been pausing to appreciate the way Connor's been showing up because I don't
34:35think I give you enough credit
34:37but like I have to teach him some things around like I was like he threw all this
34:41stuff in a suitcase I said can I refold that for you
34:44can I repack that
34:45do you even have a dirty clothes bag
34:47mom we're baby stepping
34:48he said he's malleable so I said okay we'll see how flexible this man is
34:54if if one of your gripes with me is that my shirts are inside out after I wash them
34:58you can handle I'm good with that
35:00this is true
35:01okay can I just talk to her for just a few minutes
35:04of course
35:06okay so talk to me
35:07he's so cute like he's just the way he like
35:10loves me
35:11I can see that
35:12I can see that
35:13he loves me
35:14he's into you
35:15he loves me
35:16and I like makes me like love him even more
35:19I think he's a great guy
35:21trust your judgment
35:23I know
35:23dad will probably question more things
35:25yes
35:26but it's ultimately your decision
35:28even today when we go and see each other's faces
35:30it's like we are
35:31okay wait without him being here
35:32disaster zone
35:34frat house
35:35there was a keg
35:35there was a Christmas tree
35:36what
35:37I said Connor
35:38yikes
35:39this is not happening at my house
35:41and I was like
35:41how was he receptive to that
35:43I mean he had to come here and go
35:44no but that's why he's like Bree
35:46like I wouldn't do this
35:47like I
35:48if I was with you
35:49like I just
35:50don't have anyone to push me
35:51or like motivate me
35:53I'm a self-motivated person
35:54he does push me
35:55and expand me
35:56like emotionally
35:57and then I'm like
35:58but I've always
35:59it's crazy
35:59like you know
36:00like I've always been like
36:02very like go-getter
36:03100 miles an hour
36:04doing all the things
36:05and it's like
36:07do you feel that he will
36:09have the same drive as you
36:11do you feel he has
36:12and is that important
36:12like I don't know
36:13do I need someone to match me
36:14do I need someone
36:15that's even more than me
36:17like or does he support me
36:19in other ways
36:19that are also important
36:20that makes this all work
36:22right
36:22it's really insane
36:23I don't know how to say it
36:25like this man knows me
36:27just like you know me
36:28okay
36:28and you're my mother
36:29I don't need
36:30the validation
36:31but like
36:32you guys are my life
36:34and I think I need
36:35a little bit more confidence
36:36before I bring in dad
36:39yeah
36:39dad's gonna be a tough one
36:41he's back folks
36:43wait I heard there was
36:44a keg in the house
36:45yeah there was
36:46that's from New Year's
36:47excuse me
36:48okay then
36:48what
36:49how many months ago was that
36:50let me see
36:50mom the Christmas tree was up
36:52he said I was waiting
36:53for you to come
36:54to take it down with me
36:55I said
36:55I thought it was gonna be
36:56depressing taking it down
36:57my son
36:57it was
36:57what
36:58you're saying
36:59aww
37:00he was waiting for me
37:01to take it down
37:02it's Easter
37:03no I'm saying
37:04JC's about to rise
37:05we also thought it was
37:06depressing taking it down
37:07alone
37:07so grandma dying
37:08used to keep the tree up
37:09till valentine's day
37:10just saying
37:11so I guess you're taking
37:12him home
37:13you're taking after
37:14yeah
37:14coincidence
37:16BS there was a keg
37:17he's such a boy
37:18he's just a boy
37:19just a normal guy
37:20everything about him
37:21how about a man
37:22oh yeah he's a man
37:23I'm just a normal guy
37:24from Ohio
37:25he's a man
37:26also he I actually
37:28like weirdly attracted
37:29to mustaches
37:29and he's like
37:30Brie I can like
37:30shave this into a mustache
37:31I wasn't gonna do it
37:33before meeting you though
37:33isn't that tickly and prickly
37:36Jamie
37:36I'm sure you smooched
37:38come on
37:48hi
37:49hi
37:50nice to meet you
37:51Emma nice to meet you
37:53it's so nice to meet you
37:54hi Emma
37:55hi
37:56nice to meet you
37:58I know how my family is
37:59they can be
38:00a little sporadic
38:02a little
38:02you know
38:03spontaneous
38:03I hope Emma fits in well
38:06with the family
38:06I'm a little nervous on that
38:09when you told us
38:10you got
38:11had gotten engaged
38:12of course your mother cried
38:14for like two days
38:15I cried
38:16I was very upset
38:17and I was upset
38:18because I didn't get to meet you
38:19and this isn't
38:20this isn't the way I wanted it
38:22for my son
38:22to be honest
38:23with any of my children
38:24it's not the way I wanted it
38:24to be honest with you
38:25I don't understand how
38:27you came to this point
38:29that
38:31you just love each other
38:32you say you love each other
38:32have you said
38:34we have said
38:35so in such a short time
38:38we talk about a lot
38:40this is very hard
38:42for people on the outside
38:43to understand
38:43how much crap
38:45we talked about
38:46in terms of religion
38:48in terms of just
38:49trust
38:51sex
38:52finances
38:54everything
38:54I feel like she knows
38:55everything about me
38:56shit you guys don't
38:58know
38:58okay
38:58your past boyfriends
39:00were they like
39:01Italian
39:03okay so actually
39:05well listen me
39:06you have to know
39:07what you're getting into
39:07you gotta know
39:08what you're getting into
39:09there's different cultures
39:10that's what I'm saying
39:11I mean
39:11my ex was actually Italian
39:13so he had a really big family
39:14so
39:15well you were growing up
39:15with Sunday dinners
39:17and you know
39:17I know
39:18yeah
39:18do you like to cook
39:20I love to cook
39:21and right now
39:22it's just me
39:23so I'm like literally
39:24cooking a recipe
39:25of eight people
39:26for myself
39:27so I'm excited
39:28to have someone
39:29to eat with me
39:30but yeah
39:30I love to like
39:32cook
39:33spaghetti sauce
39:34I'm really nervous
39:35to cook that
39:36in front of him
39:36but
39:36she said sauce
39:38it's gravy
39:38but
39:39no but there is
39:40and sauce to us
39:41is marinara sauce
39:42yeah
39:42so
39:42and gravy is with meat
39:44oh
39:44and we don't say calamari
39:46we say galamad
39:48you want to see
39:49what I told her
39:49go ahead and say
39:51what
39:52he's trying to
39:53he's trying to train me
39:54into saying coafee
39:55coafee
39:55coafee
39:56coafee
39:56coafee
39:57go ahead
39:57say coafee
39:58coafee
39:59coafee
39:59coafee
40:00like can I get
40:00that like we're
40:01out of coffee
40:01for us
40:02it's coafee
40:02yeah
40:03yeah coafee
40:03so going
40:04so going forward
40:06have you guys
40:07discussed
40:08grandchildren
40:08and stuff like that
40:10yeah
40:11you both
40:12want children
40:12right
40:12so for me
40:14I am on the fence
40:21okay
40:21I am not 100%
40:22yes
40:23but I'm not 100%
40:24no
40:25and
40:25I knew that
40:26in the pods
40:26yes
40:26we talked about that
40:27for me
40:28for me
40:28I want to find
40:30that stability
40:31that security
40:31and that partnership
40:32and the communication
40:33to be able to
40:35confidently say yes
40:36I personally
40:37just need more time
40:38but I know
40:39he really
40:39really wants kids
40:40and I am
40:41being open minded
40:43about that
40:43but I told him
40:45in the end
40:45I was like
40:45I want it to be
40:46at the end of the aisle
40:47I see you
40:49out of this experiment
40:50like
40:50but if you see that
40:51how could you say
40:52you're not sure
40:53about having children
40:56that I'm having a hard time
40:57with to be honest
40:57with you right now
40:58just be open minded
40:59okay
40:59because you don't know
41:00yeah but what happens
41:00if you just get married
41:01and all of a sudden
41:02six months from now
41:03she says okay
41:04yes
41:04I don't want to have kids
41:05and you're already married
41:06I understand
41:07no offense honey
41:08no no no
41:09I'm just speaking out
41:10I'm sorry
41:11I don't want you to feel
41:12like I'm attacking you
41:13no my family
41:14has all these questions
41:14and these are important questions
41:16like I knew coming in here
41:17that this was going to be
41:18a point of conversation
41:19I know you guys
41:20want grandchildren
41:22but I can't sit here
41:23and be like
41:25yes
41:25I am going to have
41:26kids with you
41:27I don't want you to
41:28yes
41:29so again
41:29so but like
41:30all of your questions
41:31are so valid
41:32and I do not feel attacked
41:34yeah
41:34obviously it's up to you guys
41:36and you have to work out
41:37your own issues
41:37but like we grew up
41:38where we went on
41:39vacations with our cousins
41:40I know
41:41we had sleepovers
41:42and you know
41:42and I personally want that
41:44for when we have kids
41:45yeah
41:46and both your parents
41:47are Asian
41:48so no I'm actually adopted
41:49oh so you're
41:50so my family is white
41:53my parents are white
41:54my sisters are white
41:57I'm the only adopted one
41:58in the family
41:59you were adopted
42:00when you were baby
42:01I was three years old
42:02when I was adopted
42:03oh
42:03okay
42:04so I spent the three years
42:05in an orphanage
42:06and then they
42:08they chose me
42:09where were you adopted from
42:10China
42:11oh from China
42:12okay
42:12very nice
42:13so you're Chinese
42:13you have a Chinese ancestry
42:15okay
42:15yeah
42:16okay
42:16I don't know really anything
42:18about like my family
42:19my background
42:19that's something
42:20we've been talking to you
42:21about kids
42:22it's like I
42:22oh that's yeah
42:23that's important
42:24I don't know
42:25medical history
42:26I actually had huge birthmarks
42:28all over my body
42:28that were pre-cancerous
42:31so I had about
42:33eight surgeries
42:34before I was nine years old
42:35to get them removed
42:36so I don't know
42:38if my parents had that
42:39I don't know
42:40if my child's gonna
42:40pass that down
42:41so there's a lot
42:42of fears of
42:44so that's why
42:44you're on the fence
42:4550-50
42:46yes
42:46part of the reason
42:47yeah
42:48selfishly I don't
42:49want my children
42:50to have to go through that
42:52absolutely
42:53we talked about that
42:54in the pods
42:54and something that
42:55stuck out to me
42:55that Mike said
42:56was like your burdens
42:57are our burdens
42:58and like we can get
42:59through this together
43:00and that really
43:01stuck out to me
43:02that like I can tell
43:03him anything
43:04and I can tell
43:04him these fears
43:05and like I know
43:06he will be with me
43:07marriage is serious
43:09you can't break up
43:10six months from now
43:11after you get married
43:12that's my concern
43:14there is no divorce
43:15I
43:15we've talked about that
43:17it's your life
43:18what we
43:19what me and mommy
43:20and your brothers
43:22and sisters
43:22want is
43:23for you to be happy
43:24in life
43:25I know
43:26this is the one
43:27then this is the one
43:30we'll accept her
43:31into the family
43:32like she's one
43:33of our own
43:33I know
43:34when you
43:35together with someone
43:36for a long time
43:37and you work things
43:39through
43:41that's what makes
43:42a family
43:43yeah
43:47so I just hope
43:48you two
43:48understand that
43:49coming forward
43:50yeah
43:52I'm hopeful
43:53and I'm excited
43:54about Mike
43:55I'm excited
43:55about our future
43:56um
43:57and I wouldn't be
43:58I wouldn't be doing
43:59this and putting
44:00anyone through this
44:01if I was someone
44:02that was not this
44:02okay
44:04I appreciate you
44:05telling us
44:05and being honest
44:06thank you
44:07Emma I think
44:08is absolutely beautiful
44:09she would blend
44:10beautifully
44:11with our family
44:12I see the
44:13commonality
44:14in both of them
44:15and why they
44:16attracted to each other
44:18she'd be a good
44:18addition to the family
44:20you know
44:21we go open up
44:22our arms to her
44:22you seem like
44:23a lovely girl
44:25beautiful
44:25and beautiful
44:27keep working at it
44:28and you guys
44:30will find your way
44:30you know
44:31I guess
44:31meeting someone
44:32through a blind
44:33door
44:34yeah
44:59hello
45:05how's your day
45:10it's productive
45:11yeah
45:12how so
45:14just a lot of stuff
45:14going on
45:15just being back
45:15and
45:16trying to get my life
45:17back
45:19on track
45:20with scheduling
45:21and everything
45:22where'd you go
45:22last night
45:23where'd I go
45:24last night
45:26Cranville
45:27if you had
45:28called for two minutes
45:30and been like
45:30hey like
45:31I just really feel
45:31like I need to
45:32like see my friend
45:32and like
45:33fucking decompress
45:34and talk
45:35and I'm
45:35gonna stay at my
45:36place tonight
45:37I wouldn't have felt
45:39nearly as bad
45:40as I felt today
45:42instead of getting
45:42a text being like
45:43I'm getting a drink
45:44with your friend
45:44I'm staying down here
45:45and like
45:46that was it
45:47like I don't need
45:48to be in constant
45:48communication
45:49nor do I
45:50but I'm your fiance
45:51I understand
45:52it's only been
45:5348 hours
45:54if you need time
45:54to like decompress
45:55and think
45:56and whatever
45:56I think that
45:58it's important
45:58to communicate that
46:00I told you that
46:01when we
46:01when I left
46:03yeah you said
46:04it would be great
46:05if we could have
46:05like a 13 hour break
46:07I never said 13 hours
46:08I wouldn't make that up
46:09I just thought
46:10I said 13 hours
46:11yes
46:11okay
46:13I only remember it
46:14because it was weird
46:15I don't remember
46:15saying 13 hours
46:16but okay
46:18when I communicate
46:20it doesn't need
46:21to be like this thing
46:22where it's like
46:22constant lately going
46:24I guess
46:25really for the two days
46:26not for me either
46:27okay
46:28but if I say
46:30what's the way
46:30you're making it sound
46:30I felt like
46:31I sent you one text
46:33today saying that
46:34and saying that
46:34I love you
46:35and you didn't say
46:36anything back
46:37all day
46:39that's a very vast
46:40difference from being
46:41in constant communication
46:42with someone
46:46I feel like a lot
46:47of my life
46:47I wasn't as direct
46:48as I need to be
46:53do you think
46:54we have a good
46:55physical connection
46:56I do
46:56do you not
46:57I feel like
46:58it's super important
46:59like to have that
47:00mm-hmm
47:01I just like
47:03I want to like
47:04try
47:04and like give it
47:05everything I can
47:10I don't know
47:11I'm trying to like
47:11pick my words carefully
47:13mm-hmm
47:14I want to
47:14just let's start off
47:15with this
47:15I do want to like
47:16see this whole thing
47:17through
47:18okay
47:20because
47:21like we got engaged
47:22for a reason
47:23we had such a great
47:24connection
47:25mm-hmm
47:27and like
47:28it was real
47:28mm-hmm
47:32didn't know
47:32what you looked like
47:33and
47:34like for me
47:35like just to be
47:37totally honest
47:37and like without
47:38sounding like a
47:39fucking dickhead
47:39I don't know
47:40how to say it
47:41like in the normal
47:42world like
47:43I date people
47:43who like fucking
47:44do like fucking
47:45crossfit and shit
47:45mm-hmm
47:47so like I'm trying
47:48to like
47:50I don't know
47:52somebody who like
47:52works out all the time
47:53and like has like
47:54a different type of
47:58I don't know
47:58a different type
48:00of like body
48:02it's just like
48:03somebody who
48:04does fucking
48:05like Pilates
48:05every day
48:06or like someone
48:06who's like
48:07working out
48:07every day
48:09in those situations
48:10it's hard for me
48:12to
48:13be like
48:16physically
48:17like when we're
48:18in that moment
48:19like
48:20into it
48:24I just don't know
48:25if it's like
48:26there for me
48:38no matter what you do
48:44here comes the night
48:46and it's coming for you
48:49it's coming for you
48:52it's coming
48:54here comes the night
48:56here comes the night
49:00and it's coming
49:02for you
49:03it's coming
49:05for you
49:05it's coming
49:07here comes the night
49:10you
49:10are
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