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Love and Marriage Huntsville S11E04 Oops I DMd Again H 264
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00:00Previously on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
00:03Ken and I are still working on things.
00:05It's been very rocky.
00:06One of the ladies came back to me,
00:08and she was like, you need to go tell Trish that Ken
00:10be in these girls' DM.
00:13Mm, OK.
00:14How you and Trish doing?
00:16We definitely in a space now to where it got bad,
00:19because I ended up going and getting a whole other apartment.
00:24The kids love you.
00:25I love you.
00:27It's just, it's a safe, it's a hurdle we gotta get past.
00:31I love you enough to be better with how I communicate with you.
00:35All right.
00:36And we're going to move along from there, OK,
00:38to make sure that this relationship works well.
00:41I love you, and I just want you to know that.
00:44You got a funny way to show it.
00:46I can only show it the way I know how.
00:48Hey, have a blessed day.
00:49The biggest issue that we have right now,
00:51we have guys who are applying to the academy at 59.
00:54Mm-hmm.
00:55What is life like at 40 with no skill set?
00:58And they're learning from the best, man.
01:03I asked my kids, well, why did you write me?
01:06And Marceau said, I didn't know, we didn't know you.
01:10I couldn't get mad at him or get upset,
01:14because he told me the truth.
01:16Mm-hmm.
01:19We keep it moving.
01:21All day, all night.
01:23Yeah.
01:24Ain't no stopping, I drop that.
01:27Ain't no stopping.
01:29You know, you know.
01:32We keep it moving.
01:37All day, all night.
01:39Yeah.
01:42All day, all night.
01:45Yeah.
01:46Yeah.
01:46All day, all night.
01:46Ain't no stopping us.
01:49Yeah.
01:49Yeah.
02:05Notice the ramp up on every one of these roads right here?
02:09Uh-huh.
02:09These are perfect for riding bikes.
02:10But this world always is busy.
02:13Ooh, this the main street.
02:15Oh, yeah, this is it.
02:15Your mama let you walk on this street?
02:18No, we used to ride bikes.
02:19You wouldn't let me be on this street.
02:23So my pops, whenever we do plumbing,
02:25we go work with pops.
02:26Then we come here.
02:27This will be our tree.
02:29That's pretty.
02:29So what do we get?
02:30What's the good stuff?
02:31King-sized cherry slush.
02:33What is it?
02:34Yeah.
02:34It's a icy?
02:35King-sized cherry slush.
02:37So every week, they have like a special.
02:40I remember my first trip to Pontiac when Marcel
02:42and I was dating.
02:43He brought me here.
02:44And so it's just really cool that this place is still here.
02:48And we're able to continue to share the memories
02:51Oh, yay.
02:52This is King-sized.
02:53This is going to get weird a little bit.
02:55That's huge.
02:56King-sized to be bigger than this.
02:57Right.
02:58This is yummy.
02:59It's good?
03:00Mm-hmm.
03:01Just like home.
03:02Me and Richie get this despite the fact
03:04that we get halfway through it and have the worst brain freeze
03:06in the world.
03:07Oh, yeah.
03:07I'm waiting for it.
03:08Mm-mm.
03:09Mm-mm.
03:11Mm-mm.
03:12Mm-mm.
03:14Mm-mm.
03:14We can both of them.
03:15No, she won't.
03:16She said, go ahead.
03:17Let's go.
03:18Ready, guys?
03:19Oh.
03:20Why?
03:21You're slowing down.
03:21This is how it always happens.
03:23Right.
03:24I thought Daddy was going to come with us.
03:26He's not coming.
03:27I hope he does.
03:28Is he OK?
03:29He's cool?
03:30I believe so.
03:31He didn't seem like it.
03:32He seemed kind of quiet.
03:33Yeah.
03:34Sometimes when Daddy gets, like, emotional, nostalgic,
03:37he gets quiet.
03:38Is that what it was?
03:39You sure it's nothing else?
03:40You know, sometimes when you talk about how you were raised,
03:44parents, when they look back, do they always look at it
03:48with smiles like y'all do?
03:50I think I'm sure that he's experienced some stuff
03:52that he'd want to do again.
03:54You know your dad better than me.
03:56And I feel that I can tell at times that, you know,
04:01he's trying to build better, stronger relationships.
04:05Have y'all ever had a conversation about maybe some of this stuff
04:09growing up?
04:10I had a conversation with him.
04:11You did?
04:12I said, Dad, I feel like there were some times
04:14in growing up that I feel like you weren't there.
04:16I feel like you weren't too much.
04:17You know, you weren't there around us.
04:21And he was like, oh, well, I was a man with a wife
04:24and eight kids at 26.
04:26And I carried many refrigerators up the stairs by myself
04:29to make sure mine's eight.
04:30And Dad was doing this to feed us.
04:32His family.
04:32Like, he did a lot.
04:34But at the end of the day, it's like what you have to realize
04:36as a man, as a son, and as a father,
04:40the best time to build a relationship with your child
04:43is while he's in your household as your son.
04:46After he gets older and he has his kids,
04:48his priority is not building his relationship with his dad.
04:51His priority is building a relationship with his son.
04:53And that goes back to that whole work-life balance.
04:57Like, balancing not working all the time
04:59where you're missing out on those moments
05:00with your family, your kids.
05:01You're still working, but you're also still making sure
05:05you have that time with your kids and with your spouse
05:08and with your family.
05:09I definitely think my dad had some regrets.
05:11And I think that time that you could miss
05:14from the things that are most important,
05:16your children, your family, yeah,
05:18you definitely could have a sense of regret.
05:20It is what it is.
05:22I think he did a good job.
05:24And the times he wasn't there, the times he wasn't there.
05:26Right.
05:27So do you, like, tell him sometimes, you know,
05:29that you're proud of a lot of this stuff?
05:33Because we talk a lot about the missteps is what I'm getting at.
05:36Oh, yeah.
05:37I don't know if we talk as much about, I'm really proud of you.
05:40I'm happy for you. I'm glad you did that for us.
05:42From a child to a parent.
05:43I think guys often have a hard time just sharing their emotions.
05:48Maurice and Marceau are quick to say how much they admire their dad
05:52and think he's Superman.
05:53It's time for you to tell him.
05:55He needs to hear it from you.
05:56He needs to hear you say how much you admire what he did for his family.
06:03People want to have their roses now.
06:06This is what I was thinking.
06:07Like, we came here and we were talking about Uncle Rick
06:09and what Uncle Rick's doing, and we talked about Uncle Rick, Uncle Rick,
06:12and Daddy's here.
06:13You know what I'm saying?
06:14And he played a huge role.
06:17Well, because we came to Uncle Rick's spot.
06:20This is Uncle Rick's time.
06:21What I heard from what Kim has said is that do you guys take out the time
06:24to just acknowledge him and let him know that?
06:26That's basically, it sounds like...
06:28I think we have several times.
06:29I think today he wasn't the main focus.
06:32It wasn't about him.
06:33Right.
06:33Okay.
06:34I think that's okay, though.
06:36You know?
06:37If he's talked to you guys and has shared that he feels like there's chasms there,
06:42there's not a chasm there for me.
06:43I can tell you this.
06:44For me, I don't think that my admiration can go up for my pops.
06:48Yeah, me neither.
06:48No matter what happened.
06:49Me neither.
06:50I think that it's...
06:52I look up to him like, you know what?
06:54You are a superhero.
06:55For real.
06:56I don't know.
06:57I think maybe P.C. and Kimmy got a point.
06:59On one hand, we want to make sure we recognize Uncle Rick and people that have been there.
07:02I don't want my dad to think we have a chip on our shoulders about, you know,
07:05sometimes when maybe he wouldn't be able to get there.
07:07So we got to figure out a way we can do both.
07:10I think Dad feels that he was lacking in some of his things, and that's his personal guilt.
07:16I don't feel like he was lacking.
07:18And the truth is, where I'm at right now, I wouldn't change a goddamn thing.
07:22I love it.
07:22Right, right.
07:23I love it.
07:24That's fair.
07:24If I found out I was going to wind up somewhere else, if I did, no.
07:28Keep me where I'm at.
07:29I love life.
07:30I love everything about it.
07:31I'll take a few less whoopings.
07:33Just a couple?
07:34I'll take a few less whoopings.
07:37I didn't deserve it.
07:38It was my rinse pop.
07:40That's a good job.
07:42That's a good job.
08:05Hey, Big Guy.
08:06What are you doing?
08:09Man, trying to get these rusted-ass boats over there.
08:13I told you you need to trash the whole truck.
08:14Nope.
08:15I can make some money with this truck.
08:17So after a heated therapy session with Dr. Francis,
08:21Ken and I, we're still working on things as far as communication.
08:24He's back at the house right now,
08:26and we're just trying to take Dr. Francis' advice
08:28and see what we need to do to move forward.
08:31So how did you feel about the therapy session?
08:34Going into it, I was already kind of frustrated,
08:36but it kind of went left when he got to talking about the kids and arguing.
08:40Did that irritate you, or was it just me?
08:43Yeah, that blew me for a moment.
08:45I was like, I lost all interest once he said that.
08:48He did have some great points, though, about arguing,
08:51and I think we tend to hit below the belt a lot,
08:54especially when we argue.
08:55We tend to say some crazy things.
08:58Nothing is ever going to be perfect.
09:00We're going to have moments where we have disagreements.
09:03Those disagreements shouldn't allow us to mistreat each other,
09:05and that's one thing that you kind of, you turn into a whole other person.
09:09When Dr. Francis said that, I was like,
09:10that was one thing that really stuck with me with that.
09:13I've been working.
09:14I've actually apologized to you, which is so unlike me.
09:17Right.
09:18So I think I'm getting there, but still it need work.
09:24Here's the thing.
09:24It's not like we argue every single day, or even a lot.
09:29It's just when we do, we blow up.
09:31I think it's been spiraling backwards.
09:34I don't think we've made really any progress getting us back in line.
09:39I mean, there are definitely some things we have to fix.
09:44And also, I was talking to Tisha the other day.
09:50And Tisha was like, somebody told me you need to tell Trisha to get Ken out of these girls' DMs
09:56or something.
09:59And I was like, oh, okay.
10:04What made the conversation come up?
10:06We were talking about relationships, and she was talking about how we need to work things out or whatever.
10:13It's a little messy.
10:13I don't know what Tisha is saying you're waiting.
10:17I don't either.
10:17That's why I was like, hmm, okay.
10:19Well, I'll ask him about that.
10:20Somebody said that I was in their DMs.
10:24I guess.
10:28A couple DMs here and there.
10:30Yeah, but I have done it.
10:31I am not going to lie to you.
10:34It's not that big of a deal to me.
10:38Coming up on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
10:40I used to mask my pain and, like, guard myself just like she does.
10:45And what I learned in therapy is that when you mask your pain, you can't feel anything.
10:49Is that why you're so feisty?
10:50Me? Feisty?
10:51Yes.
10:52Aggressive.
10:53Wrong A. Assertive.
10:56These last few months, though, I'm tired of it.
10:58Yeah.
10:59I want a reason to go back home.
11:01Man, you want your woman to do right.
11:02Yeah, yeah.
11:03Make you happy, make you want to come home.
11:04Yep.
11:07A couple DMs here and there.
11:08Yeah, but I have done it.
11:09I am not going to lie to you.
11:13It's not that big of a deal to me.
11:15I'm not saying that it shouldn't be to you, but whoever is saying these things, I'm just
11:19trying to stir a pot because there's nothing.
11:23Like, I know my intentions behind everything I do.
11:26Why did you respond?
11:27Mm-hmm?
11:27Why did you respond?
11:30Like, in the last few months, like, bruh, we would go days and days without talking
11:36to each other.
11:37Days.
11:38When I was out of town a couple times, like, I didn't hear from you the entire time I was
11:42gone.
11:44No checkups, no, hey, how you doing?
11:47You know?
11:49Like, when we bad, like, you get this order, like, you just don't give a about me, so.
11:53And maybe in the moments, yeah.
11:56When we had these conversations before.
11:59What?
12:01About responding.
12:03Yeah, we did, but I just felt like we were in a space where we were so far out of
12:08touch,
12:08like, I mean.
12:12I don't know.
12:12I guess it's kind of weird that when things is not going right, it's okay to respond to
12:19people.
12:20I mean, I can't make up no excuse about it.
12:25But, like, it hasn't made it past a DM or past a messenger, though.
12:30I'm just not jumping at people's DMs like that without it being a mutual interest or
12:35a mutual conversation.
12:36What was the mutual interest?
12:38When I say interest, I don't mean, like, hey, I'm trying to get to know you and start
12:41a relationship.
12:42If I don't marry you, probably never getting married, so.
12:45So I don't get where Ken is going with this mutual interest.
12:48That does not excuse Ken from being someone's DMs, because I could have clearly done the
12:53same.
12:54I really do.
12:55I miss our daily interactions.
12:59I miss, you know, having the family time, the family.
13:02I miss all that.
13:03You know, I'm a family guy.
13:04Like, I don't really care to be outside.
13:06Like, that's exhausting.
13:08You know what I mean?
13:09We definitely need to try to focus on maybe getting this back on track.
13:14It's real lonely over there in that apartment, for sure.
13:17I'm glad to know that.
13:19I've been wondering, like, okay, that's kind of weird.
13:23It's just, I don't know.
13:24It's like here sometimes and then there sometimes.
13:27It's back and forth.
13:28I think it's the confusion and it confuses the whole house.
13:32You know, I don't like coming in the house and feeling a certain energy.
13:36I'll turn around and walk right back out.
13:38Like, I just don't like feeling it.
13:40Like, it's just, it sucks.
13:42Yeah.
13:45You know, I don't need much, you know.
13:49I just need you to be consistent.
13:51I'm up for the work, because I want us to work.
13:56Like, I really, really want us to work.
13:58So I'm up for it all.
14:00And I know we have been in a bad spot.
14:02Um, but responding to DMs, kind of, like, threw my trust off a little.
14:10I don't know.
14:10It's just messy to me.
14:12Especially coming from Tisha, with Marceau being who they say he is.
14:16I might need to be the last one.
14:18She needs to be worried about being in DMs, but it is what it is.
14:22I'm pretty sure me and him will have that conversation.
14:30Bro.
14:34Hey, hey, hey, Pop, Pop, you good, man?
14:37What you mean about good?
14:38No, I was asking, because they said, um, Kimmy and Tisha had some concerns.
14:42I was like, no.
14:44I was trying to make sure everything was good.
14:45Oh, okay.
14:46How you doing?
14:47I feel great.
14:49We came to Pontiac to help support Uncle Rick's academy, which helps train people in construction.
14:54But before we have the ceremony, I want to check in with my dad.
14:57Kimmy seems a little concerned, and I have noticed a little bit of energy with him on this trip.
15:02Before I even understand that, I was going to say that I know that we came up here for Uncle
15:06Rick's thing.
15:06I don't want to make sure I didn't.
15:09I don't care.
15:10I don't care anything about that.
15:11Okay, I didn't think so.
15:12No, thanks.
15:12So they're way off base.
15:14Well, yes.
15:15What I have to say to him is that you're going to do anything.
15:18You know, at first, I wanted you guys to do plumbing and HVAC, but you made your own mark.
15:24Mm-hmm.
15:24And you did your own thing.
15:26You know, there's a lot of things I didn't understand because I had a skewed vision.
15:30I didn't know and didn't know I didn't know.
15:32Mm-hmm.
15:32But I've watched the things that you do, and I just come back and sit back and...
15:38Yep.
15:39You know, Pop, let me tell you something.
15:41There's been so many times that we as Scots looked at the 98% and we say, well, what two
15:46did you get wrong?
15:47And you may be doing that about your life.
15:49Let me tell you something, Pop.
15:50You may have missed one or two questions.
15:53Pop, you did a hell of a job.
15:56When I look back at everything, I mean, I brag on my childhood.
16:01It's fun.
16:02And I'm telling you as a father, all right?
16:05I'm telling you as a father, you did a hell of a job.
16:10Man, I wouldn't trade nothing for it, bro.
16:13Not a day.
16:14Hey, hunger and everything.
16:16In my heart, I know that my dad raised us with love.
16:19He's a 26-year-old man with eight kids trying to figure it out.
16:23Yeah.
16:24And I'm 45, and my wife has three kids.
16:28And I'm trying to help her do the best she can to raise them.
16:32Yeah.
16:33You know, it's good to hear, especially 40 years later.
16:36You said 40 years?
16:3740 years later.
16:38But I was going to tell you when I was two.
16:39Being a father, I can only imagine how many emotions he's having at this moment.
16:46I think that everybody wants to hear it, but it's different hearing it from your adult kids with kids.
16:53Love you, too.
17:21Love you, too.
17:24That's what it did.
17:25And what I'm saying right now is Pontiac actually has the perfect place to invest.
17:31It's the perfect place for someone like you to make people love their neighborhood.
17:35The best thing about this is that it's building people, not just construction.
17:40So we want to be as supportive as we possibly can for this.
17:44Me and Marcio are going to donate materials for you guys to go ahead and build and then be able
17:48to sell this.
17:51Words cannot express how proud I am of Marcel and Maurice.
17:55It is good to see that they're in a position that they're able to give back
18:00to the people and to the community that made them who they are today.
18:04I met Maurice's good friend and mentor, Ricky Sherrill.
18:12I used to get so pissed off at Maurice.
18:15Rick would tell him to go jump on one leg and he'd do it.
18:19But then I came to realization that many times there's some things
18:23that we won't be able to tell our kids,
18:27but there is someone that we could trust that could point to them
18:30and let them know something.
18:32And I appreciate that from you. Thank you.
18:34This is a village.
18:35No one person could raise, you know, us to be who we are.
18:40And it takes everybody.
18:42Every single person that's in this room is meaningful.
18:45And they've done something that's been meaningful to our lives.
18:48Over the years, we done fell out.
18:50We done came back together and fell out.
18:51But like they said, it was like two butt shakes.
18:55As much stuffing came between us.
19:03Coming up on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
19:05Tisha told Tricia that I've been in somebody DMs.
19:10Hold on, hold on.
19:11Oh, you talking about Marcel?
19:12Yes.
19:12Yes.
19:14Yes.
19:14When people say you may not have been transparent, you weren't.
19:19You were not.
19:20I'm not going to volunteer on information.
19:21But I'm going to be honest if you ask a question.
19:23So there you go.
19:23How old are you?
19:24How old are you?
19:50How old are you?
19:51I'm finding this spot.
19:53Goddamn.
19:54What is this?
19:55This a barber shop?
19:56Boy, you be talking like you a freak.
19:58You a damn freak for real.
20:00You a damn freak for real.
20:02You ready?
20:03No.
20:03Most of the crew back in Detroit can't hit me up.
20:06Wanted me to come by Will's Barbershop and kick it for a little bit.
20:08I should have known it was going to be something different considering the name Wicked.
20:13It's a barber shop and there's only one chair, so I don't know how much actual hair cutting
20:18is taking place up in here.
20:20Something else that kind of sets itself apart, I would definitely say the stripper pole.
20:24Come over here, man.
20:24Let's talk business.
20:25Hold on, dog.
20:25What the hell?
20:26I thought you just had a barber shop.
20:28All right, so you like the place.
20:29I appreciate it.
20:30I said I like it.
20:31You like it.
20:33What inspired this?
20:34I don't know.
20:34It got started as a barbering thing and I wanted to do something different.
20:38Barbershop we can do stuff at.
20:40So like you have like little outings or innings or what?
20:43Yeah, yeah, yeah.
20:44So it's a private lounge, so I do have members.
20:46Oh, yeah.
20:46Yeah, okay.
20:48While I was back, I reached out to Will about cutting my son's hair.
20:51I thank God that I did not bring him up here.
20:54I will not bring him up here.
20:55I will bring my girl.
20:57And matter of fact, I won't be coming back up here because I think it's a little too much.
21:02So that's Trish and everybody, y'all good?
21:05I mean, we doing better.
21:06Of course, I have been back and forth between the house, my apartment and stuff like that.
21:10Does she ever come to the apartment?
21:11No.
21:12Because it's like for me, it's like peace.
21:13A place to get away, yeah.
21:14It's my getaway.
21:15Like, I don't want you to come in here and bring that energy in here now.
21:19I definitely think that when I'm at the apartment, I'm able to, you know, breathe a little bit,
21:23think a little bit.
21:24I don't think Trisha truly likes us being apart like that.
21:28I think it creates some more frustration with her.
21:32But everything doesn't have to be geared towards me trying to sneak around.
21:35And I'm really over there trying to get some peace, man.
21:38I need it.
21:40Tisha told Trisha that I've been in somebody's DMs.
21:44So...
21:45Hold on, hold on.
21:46Oh, you see my mark sold you?
21:47Yes.
21:47Yes.
21:49Yes.
21:50And you know, I don't get in nobody's business.
21:52But I'm like, man, do you not know?
21:54What?
21:55Come on.
21:55In this closed setting, women gonna talk, right?
21:57And if that's something that she knows, she gonna let that out.
21:59So I'm not...
22:00But I feel like it was something that could have just been left unsaid if you didn't know for sure.
22:04Right.
22:05See, I like her.
22:06I mean, she cool, but women gonna be women.
22:09But that's some bull though.
22:10She trying to start some .
22:11There Tisha go again, putting her nose in everybody's business and being messy.
22:14Don't be talking about nobody .
22:16That's what I told her and Marceau all along.
22:18Because trust me, your husband got way much more going on than what can be in somebody's DMs.
22:26Did you show her the DMs?
22:27I don't know who she's talking about.
22:29I can't show her a DM.
22:30Yes, you can.
22:31I can go to my DMs right now and show you every goddamn DM.
22:34I mean, if she say a name, I'll be able to be like, boom.
22:37You know what I mean?
22:38Hey, if you can't open your DM and see who she talking about, that means you got a lot of
22:41DMs, bro.
22:42No.
22:43I just don't want to put a name on it and I be wrong.
22:46Bro, that was in a time where we weren't talking.
22:49We were like, literally, and it's the same thing.
22:52It's like, I don't know what the hell you been doing the whole time when you ain't been talking.
22:55Ain't nobody gonna come and tell me what your ass is doing.
22:56Exactly.
22:57Ain't none of the old people gonna come tell me, oh, Trish was at such and such and such.
23:01Because somebody told me Trish was at Lemon Drop with another swole dude.
23:04Now I don't know how true it was.
23:06Like, okay.
23:06Did you ask her?
23:07I asked her and she was like, I didn't even go to Lemon Drop.
23:10Though Ken got a lot of love for Trish, hopefully Ken is really seeing through all the bull
23:15the DMs, the whatever else she's doing.
23:19Because if a person lie to you about something small, they go lie about something big.
23:22Didn't you get in her DMs and know how that started?
23:24Who, Trisha?
23:25I didn't get in her DMs.
23:27Me and Trisha started off, like I said, it was a mutual thing.
23:31Here we go.
23:31She was liking my and I was liking her .
23:34That's probably what she might be thinking is going on.
23:36You might be repeating some patterns.
23:39I don't think I've crossed any lines with just like regular communication.
23:44Like, it was just like with Trisha.
23:45Like, when we first started, it was like nothing.
23:47Yeah.
23:47Like, we didn't talk anything sexual.
23:50Nothing inappropriate.
23:50We didn't say anything inappropriate.
23:51Like, it was like, you motivate me.
23:53I motivate you.
23:54Hey, I love your fitness.
23:55Boom.
23:56But that's how it always starts.
23:57Like, if I literally see a chick and I'm like, damn, that's nice.
24:01I want to smash.
24:03I'm going to find something and I'm going to reply to them and say, hey, this motivates me.
24:07Keep up good work.
24:09Right.
24:09The first time, right?
24:10Then it's going to turn into a little bit of a conversation the next time.
24:13And that's how it works.
24:14Oh, yeah.
24:14So it's not completely innocent.
24:16Because I promise you this.
24:17If you had no interest, you probably wouldn't even reply to this .
24:21You see what I'm saying?
24:21Not responding at all.
24:23That's why I keep reiterating.
24:24Mutual interest.
24:26Oh, you ain't learning about nothing.
24:29And it's like, when I say interest, it's not like, hey, I'm looking for something.
24:33Yeah.
24:33It's just like, okay, you look good.
24:35Boom, boom, boom, boom.
24:35And I probably done seen you out somewhere and you done probably like, you know, found
24:40me.
24:41Because that's how a lot of this happens.
24:42I'll go out somewhere and be like, oh, you can.
24:44Yeah.
24:45It's not that deep.
24:46Yeah.
24:46These last few months though, I'm tired of it.
24:48Yeah.
24:49I want a reason to go back home.
24:51Man, you want your woman to do right.
24:52Yeah, yeah.
24:53Make you happy, make you want to come home.
24:55That's why you guys are getting counseling.
24:56That's what that's for.
24:57Because there's nothing you can really do.
24:58Nothing I can do.
25:00I think that was the hardest thing that I, uh...
25:02That the girls with?
25:03Yeah.
25:03I can't fix this.
25:04I can't fix this .
25:05And it's so hard for men.
25:07Like, we so used to somebody giving us the task and we get it done.
25:10It seems so easy, like, at anything, right?
25:12Like, this is the problem.
25:13Okay, let me fix it.
25:14But with women, it ain't like that.
25:16It's not like that.
25:16Yeah.
25:16Yeah.
25:18Coming up on Love & Huntsville.
25:21You in the Trish?
25:22Yeah.
25:22Oh, yeah.
25:22I don't know all the story, but...
25:24It ain't too much to it, but...
25:26Trish, yeah, she be lying about .
25:27Bro, you so tough.
25:29For real, she be lying like a mom?
25:30He got his own apartment.
25:33Yeah, so...
25:34What?
25:34Oh, yeah, dawg.
25:37Yeah.
25:38Yeah.
25:381998, I got the paper.
25:40What's your industry?
25:41Thinking that under the family.
25:42Need this rush, you hope you kept your way.
25:43Blinds on me, you kept your feet.
25:45I'm Wesley.
25:45Hi.
25:46How you doing?
25:47Hey, what's up?
25:48Hey, what's up?
25:50I am happy to see the Scots.
25:53I feel like my relationship with the Scots has developed,
25:56and we have a good friendship.
25:59And it's cool to have them here, you know?
26:01My brother called me this morning on Baytime, and he was like,
26:03I never thought that this would be my life.
26:06Like, I never thought I would be able to walk through, like,
26:09my grandma's house.
26:10Like, I would be able to, like, say this.
26:12Like, be in a house where people look like me.
26:15Aw.
26:15Like, these are, like, really my family.
26:17And so...
26:18And they do look like me.
26:20Right.
26:22And the good thing is, y'all family are, like, so proud of y'all.
26:26I'm just happy to have, like, the experiences with my new siblings,
26:30and my brother called me today, and he was like,
26:32I want to come visit you now.
26:33From this trip back home to the D, you know,
26:37I gained, like, completeness.
26:40I feel more complete now.
26:41I got all my siblings in one room.
26:43Mine is one, the baby.
26:44We still got to meet Peyton.
26:47And, you know, my grandmother, you know,
26:49she feels whole and complete now that she knows
26:51and has met all of her grandchildren.
26:54You know, having that moment with my mom is not abnormal.
26:58So just seeing her and giving her the love that she was able to receive in that moment was enough
27:03for me.
27:04And just being with my family and then having, you know, some friends there to support was cool, too.
27:08How did it go today?
27:10Like, is, like, the euphoria settling in?
27:14Yeah.
27:14Watching my siblings have their moments because I just, I don't understand if they're adopted,
27:18so they're like, I got family now.
27:20Mm-hmm.
27:20And it's, they're like, my brother called me and my sister, she's been crying.
27:24Like, I really was walking through my aunt's house today.
27:26And I'm like...
27:27Wow.
27:27Which sister?
27:28Paula.
27:29Okay.
27:30Yeah.
27:30You talked to your mom?
27:32Yeah.
27:33After it all, I just, I left without, you know, I love you no matter what.
27:36And...
27:36Mm-hmm.
27:38She, like, got a funny way of throwing it, but...
27:40Sorry to hear that.
27:42It is what it is.
27:43What I've learned about myself through her is that I used to mask my pain and, like, guard myself just
27:50like she does.
27:51And what I learned in therapy is that when you mask your pain, you can't feel anything, including love.
27:56I think that in life, you can't move forward until you deal with some of your trauma.
28:01And that's sometimes your childhood trauma.
28:04So I think that this part was important for Destiny to deal with in order for her to continue to
28:11move forward in the direction and the path that God has for her.
28:16Is that why you're so feisty?
28:18You had that whole, you know, fight first.
28:21Me? Fight me?
28:21Yes, because you're tender on the inside. You're like...
28:23Aggressive.
28:25Wrong A. Assertive.
28:27No, I wasn't talking about you. I was saying...
28:29You can be direct. Don't be... Let's be transparent.
28:31Uh, no. I'm not transparent. And sometimes, for the most part, I'm honest.
28:36But sometimes...
28:37For the most part.
28:37...I'm actually dishonest.
28:40We know.
28:43Very aware.
28:44He said, misleading.
28:45Yeah, misleading.
28:46Yeah.
28:47But I realize that if you are saying things and the truth is something that you don't want to really
28:52get into, you can take an alternate route, which is lie, and it's more comfortable.
28:57I see.
28:59You mastered it.
29:00That's your comfortable zone?
29:01Sometimes.
29:01Lying.
29:02A liar.
29:03Yeah.
29:03So, how transparent has this trip to Pontiac been?
29:06I think, overall, what we learned most about was you.
29:10Really?
29:10Yeah.
29:10Yes. For real.
29:12Absolutely. Yeah.
29:13That's not you, a warrior.
29:14Yeah.
29:14You can do some stuff, girl.
29:15My trip to Detroit was definitely an emotional rollercoaster.
29:20Didn't really know what to expect.
29:23Heard a lot of new things about my mom.
29:26Met my siblings.
29:28Brought some closure to my family.
29:31And to me.
29:32And, no, I'm really happy about this trip.
29:35It's so crazy that we were, like, 35 minutes from each other growing up.
29:40Yeah.
29:41Thanks for pulling up, too, here, man.
29:42Yeah.
29:43Have you ever been to Pontiac before?
29:44Yes.
29:45My grandmother's a Jehovah's Witness.
29:47Oh, really?
29:47Oh.
29:48Oh, so y'all used to come to the Silver Dome every year, goddamn it.
29:52Listen.
29:53Yeah.
29:53They used to come to the Silver Dome every year.
29:55Destiny, I've got to be honest with you.
29:56What?
29:57When people say you may not have been transparent, you weren't.
30:01You were not.
30:03Like, every time we sit down, I find out something more about you.
30:07Like, no, buddy, you weren't.
30:08Ask questions.
30:08No, no, that's...
30:09I'm not gonna volunteer for information.
30:11But I'm gonna be honest if you ask a question.
30:13There you go.
30:13So there you go.
30:14How old are you, Destiny?
30:17Destiny, Destiny!
30:19Let's get out of here.
30:20Let's get out of here.
30:22Destiny's like, hey, Batman in the corner.
30:23Yeah.
30:24I know.
30:26Batman in the corner.
30:27You know.
30:28You don't ask a lady that.
30:30Coming up on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
30:33Tisha tell Trish that supposedly somebody came to her and I was in their DMs.
30:37Tisha just told Trish that?
30:39Yes.
30:40He needs to check his wife and check her on what she's doing because she's really kind
30:44of driving a wedge on our relationship.
30:46Why was that something that came?
30:48Yeah, I'm kind of wondering that, too.
30:49That's a little embarrassing for me.
30:52That's the L.C.
30:53That's the L.C.
30:53That's the L.C.
30:53Tisha.
30:53That's the L.C.
30:53Tisha.
30:57Oh, yeah, I'm only plotting on the long one.
31:01You want my spot, just know you plotting on the wrong one.
31:04Think you want tan to go against me, you look on one.
31:07Big game changer on the move, you just talk one.
31:10And I'll go for more than just my fortune, because I want it all.
31:13Nobody nearing my pace, guess I'm the only one that hurt a cop.
31:16What's up, what's up, Noob?
31:17How you doing?
31:18All right.
31:19What up, Racer?
31:20What up?
31:21Oh, man, I'm good.
31:21You doing all right?
31:22Yeah, man.
31:23Good to see you.
31:23Been a minute?
31:24Yeah, I know, bro.
31:25Yeah?
31:26I invited Martell out, man.
31:28I haven't seen Martell since the 80s party.
31:30And I wanted to know if he's still wearing his hair.
31:35How's the kids, man?
31:37Oh, they doing good, man.
31:38Yeah, they doing good.
31:39But how are everybody in your family?
31:41Everybody's good, man.
31:42Monster's good.
31:43Monster's good.
31:43We just came back from Michigan.
31:47Yeah, yeah.
31:48All your family up there?
31:48Yeah.
31:49OK, OK, OK.
31:50So was it like an event or something y'all attended?
31:52Um, no, no.
31:53Really, it was just like we was going up there for Destiny.
31:55Yeah, seeing her mom and stuff like that.
31:57She was telling me about that.
31:58And then we went down to Detroit.
32:00You ever thought about investing back there?
32:02Um, I was thinking about investing in Pontiac.
32:05Yeah.
32:05Just once you got the way, you know, show the way.
32:08Yeah.
32:09Yeah, you leading by example.
32:10That's real good.
32:11So you hallowed anybody?
32:13Yeah, I talked to Will, Ken.
32:15Mm-hmm.
32:16They got a lot going on.
32:18Listen, a lot.
32:20Ken and Trish?
32:21Yeah.
32:21I don't know all the story, but.
32:23Oh, .
32:23It ain't too much to it, but he got his own apartment.
32:27Yeah, so.
32:28What?
32:28Oh, yeah, dawg.
32:30He moved out?
32:32Really?
32:33Yeah, yeah.
32:34Why?
32:35He might just be getting fed up with all the stuff
32:36that they go through, you know?
32:38And you know, he don't trust Trish.
32:39She be lying about .
32:41Bro, he's so tough.
32:42For real, she be lying like a mom?
32:43Oh, .
32:44I can tell you one thing's for sure.
32:46He be posting.
32:47Oh, you do?
32:48He killing it.
32:49Thirst trapping these.
32:53So, oh, so.
32:54Wait.
32:55Your sister-in-law.
32:56Tisha?
32:57Yes.
32:57Okay, I'll go.
32:58So, Tisha told Trish that Ken was, like, DMing some girls
33:02or something like that.
33:03God dang it.
33:04And then, you know, Ken said he owned up to it.
33:06Like, yeah, it was a mutual thing.
33:07What?
33:10What the hell is Ken doing, bro?
33:12I don't give a type attitude.
33:14That's really where he's at?
33:15It's true.
33:15So, he got a foot out the door.
33:16He got, like, two feet out the door.
33:17I don't know.
33:18But you know him like he's still a lover, though.
33:19You know what I'm saying?
33:20He just want her to get right.
33:22So, if she got right, then he'd get out the DM?
33:25Oh.
33:27Yeah.
33:29Hey.
33:29Hey.
33:29He ain't getting nothing but attention, bro.
33:31I think Ken's forcing Trisha's hand
33:33because he's setting a line in the sand.
33:35Basically, hey, listen, I could be gone.
33:39You know?
33:40The days that I'm at my apartment,
33:42you can see that it's cold in there.
33:44It's lonely.
33:46I don't believe that this is healthy for a relationship,
33:48but there has to be some type of boundaries.
33:51Are you building anything?
33:52The new business I'm in, I need to get a house.
33:54So, I just put a bid in to get a house in Tony.
33:57Mm-hmm.
33:58So, this is what we're going through right now.
33:59It's a nice house with 15 acres on it, too.
34:02Oh, nice.
34:02Yeah, man.
34:03That's really nice.
34:04And I need it.
34:05Y'all still got that restaurant right across the street, too, right?
34:07Did y'all?
34:07You didn't tell me Marceau doing that?
34:09Mm-hmm.
34:10I should've known this ,
34:11like it's two years in the making already.
34:14I'm just saying, dawg.
34:16Hey, goddamn, everything he touch and take forever.
34:19I'm like, bruh, this is little.
34:22Hey, hey, you already know Kimmy's all over him, dawg.
34:26Is it material?
34:27Is it?
34:27What is it?
34:28There's a couple things.
34:29First of all, our plan should've been better.
34:31Okay.
34:31Just in general.
34:33But ultimately, it's a small project.
34:35Yeah, that's right.
34:36Yeah.
34:37So, when you have bigger projects, like, for real, you put it to the back.
34:41Yeah.
34:41The lady that's looking to lease it, what is she?
34:44Is she okay?
34:44That's tearing me up, bro.
34:45Because my word is my bond, bro.
34:48When I passed by the other day, I'm like, oh, man, I can imagine how you guys are feeling when
34:52it comes to the lady who's looking to lease it.
34:54Absolutely.
34:55And she stuck it out.
34:56Over the years, I've been witness to Marceau taking forever and ever on projects.
35:01You know?
35:02It's timing.
35:02Get the job done.
35:03And get it done in a timely fashion.
35:05So, I'm pretty sure, you know, Maurice, Kimmy, they knew it ahead of time.
35:09So, if I tell them, you can't be mad, because you guys already knew what it was.
35:15He hasn't given me a firm time turn.
35:18Really?
35:18Yeah.
35:19Kimmy's pissed right now with Jordan Lane.
35:22And I share her pain.
35:24I share her sentiments, because at this point, we just need to get this done.
35:28I'm putting my trust in Marceau.
35:30The other side is that somebody's trusting me.
35:32Will y'all be that much more excited when it's done?
35:34Yeah.
35:35Definitely.
35:36Definitely.
35:37Yeah.
35:37Yeah.
35:54Big Spin Ken, what up, though?
35:56What up, what up, what up?
35:57Tell me something good, baby.
35:58What's happening, man?
35:59Going over here to kick it with Marceau for a little bit.
36:01It's been a minute since I've seen him.
36:04I typically go over there and hang out with him for karaoke night, but I ain't been in a few
36:07weeks.
36:08So, I'm anxious to see what he has to say about this whole situation with Tisha telling Trish about the
36:13DMs.
36:14And I would like to believe that Tish wasn't really being messy, but it kind of seemed a little messy.
36:19I was talking to Tisha.
36:20She was like, Trish and Ken don't be coming up here, dog.
36:22I ain't seen y'all in a minute.
36:24Will even came up before.
36:26Karaoke, that used to be me and Tisha and you and Trish's thing.
36:29Y'all just fell off the face of the earth, dog.
36:31No, no.
36:32I mean, I've just been doing a whole bunch of different stuff, so.
36:35Trish's been doing a lot of stuff, too, so it's like, it's just the timing.
36:38Okay, okay.
36:39Gym and training and...
36:40What's y'all training for?
36:41Oh, you're training other people?
36:42Yeah, well, Trish does.
36:43But not at their house.
36:44Hey, I stay out of it, bro.
36:46That's her gig.
36:49Chill out, bro.
36:50I'm not about to listen to this.
36:51This is mister.
36:52I know my lady.
36:54I know everything she does.
36:55Me and her tied together at the hip.
36:57I've been staying outside the home more than I've been staying at home.
37:02We got a whole other apartment and everything.
37:07Yeah, man.
37:08It's getting a little hot.
37:10Hey, let's go inside.
37:13I don't know why the hell.
37:14I wanted to be out here, but it's getting too hot.
37:16The idea of getting a separate living space this early on doesn't suggest that we're building
37:22a strong foundation to work things out.
37:25Let me tell you, though.
37:27This ain't no...
37:27I told you something.
37:28Right, right.
37:29I'm not that kind of guy.
37:30But the truth is, man, I think that you're real focused.
37:34And you're a guy that says, you know, if I put the effort in, I'm going to get this result.
37:38I'm going to tell you something.
37:39The one thing my, um, Tisha's friend told me back in college.
37:43I was like, man, love is so hard.
37:45She's like, that's because it takes two people.
37:47And it's not just based on your effort.
37:49You can give all your effort and lose.
37:51We just came back from Detroit, right?
37:53We went up there because Destiny was reuniting with her family.
37:56And she had her mom that kind of, they raised her, but they gave other kids up for adoption.
38:02I understand how hard it is on the mother to have to get her kids taken away.
38:08And the whole time, Destiny was like, well, I tried to help her get off.
38:11But they see real life and stuff.
38:13Like, at what point are we going to realize that broken people are actually broken?
38:17If I break this cup, and if even when I put it back together, it's still a broken cup.
38:23And if I choose to love this woman that's broken, you can't get mad and say, well, I gave all
38:28my time.
38:29My devotion is broken.
38:32I think Marceau looks at me and Trisha's relationship like a marriage.
38:38So I kind of understand what he's saying, but then at the same time, we're not married.
38:43So at the end of the day, if I feel like it makes more sense for me to step outside
38:48of the house and try to, you know, figure things out, I don't see the problem in it.
38:53I think that the way you are, the person you are,
38:58Y'all playing games, you need to stop.
39:01This whole moving out and hoping she chases me behind me.
39:04No, I don't want that.
39:05That's weird to me.
39:06Well, hoping she loves me.
39:08Hopefully she's chasing me.
39:09Y'all playing games, bro.
39:11Tim, what are you doing?
39:13Marceau definitely has a lot to say about my relationship and what I should and shouldn't be doing.
39:18But at the end of the day, he needs to check his wife and check her on what she's doing,
39:22because she's really kind of driving a wedge in our relationship.
39:25Why?
39:25Tisha tell Trish that supposedly somebody came to her and I was in their DMs.
39:32Wait, wait, wait.
39:33Tisha told Trish that?
39:34Tisha told Trish.
39:35Trish came and told me.
39:36Wait, no.
39:37So I was like, what?
39:39Tisha just told Trish that?
39:40Yes.
39:42Wait, wait.
39:42How was the conversation?
39:44That Tisha told her that I supposedly been in somebody's DMs.
39:47I just was wondering, like, why was that something that came?
39:51Yeah, I'm kind of wondering that, too.
39:52That's a little embarrassing for me.
39:54This revelation that Ken said is very, very disturbing.
39:57That's not the kind of household that we have.
40:01That's not us.
40:02That ain't the Scots.
40:04No, we don't do that.
40:05We hear stuff about everybody and anybody up and down.
40:08And I don't got no room to be sitting out here telling, hey, girl, check your man or nothing like
40:12that right there.
40:13That's not something I wanted to come from our household.
40:14That stuff normally happens to us.
40:17So that's concerning.
40:21I want to find out the context of that conversation.
40:28Next on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
40:31If there's anybody that shouldn't carry bones, it's us.
40:35We're the same ones that have been saying, don't come from my marriage or relationship.
40:39And we're the same ones that shouldn't be hearing stuff and going and telling people stuff.
40:45I think you probably done enough partying.
40:47No, the Fortress Law right around the corner.
40:49What you mean?
40:50Take your ass inside.
40:51Come from outside.
40:52Go inside.
40:53You got beautiful children.
40:54Mama, it's cold at home.
40:56Are y'all exclusive or are y'all not?
40:58It's been told to me you entertain other men.
41:01As you entertain other women, correct?
41:02Well, I certainly do.
41:03What the ?
41:04I do.
41:04I don't understand that.
41:05Seriously, guys, how would you go about it if a lady in this group heart eyes my picture that I
41:11post,
41:16it was heart, heart, heart, licky tongue.
41:25That's your cousin.
41:26Like, why the you put a...
41:27Girl, don't.
41:27What the hell?
41:29Girl, don't.
41:29Girl, don't.
41:30Girl, don't.
41:31Girl, don't.
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