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00:00:00I'm so excited to show David around. My hometown!
00:00:03They're here!
00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,
00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.
00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.
00:00:17And for Stephen...
00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed
00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.
00:00:26What I see is a wife outside the experiment.
00:00:30It really reaffirms the feelings are real,
00:00:32the feelings are neutral.
00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.
00:00:39Emotions ran high for some.
00:00:41You should be able to say something nice
00:00:43and be genuine about it.
00:00:44And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...
00:00:47David is everything that you've asked for.
00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.
00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm
00:00:55to Alyssa's storm.
00:00:57She still sees negatives.
00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.
00:01:00What's that?
00:01:01Why is it pink?
00:01:02Is it your exes or something?
00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...
00:01:05I see you being pressured.
00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.
00:01:07Like, are you scared about her reaction?
00:01:09Pretty much.
00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.
00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking with eggshells.
00:01:15You know what I mean?
00:01:15No, no, no.
00:01:16What I'm saying is, like...
00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:20Tonight...
00:01:22In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions
00:01:25that you're going to have to make.
00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship
00:01:30into the real world
00:01:31and make it a success.
00:01:34Welcome.
00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.
00:01:41And after two months of marriage,
00:01:44uncomfortable truths will be exposed.
00:01:46I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation
00:01:50with me about an issue.
00:01:51I can't mind-reading.
00:01:53It's not mind-reading.
00:01:53It's not mind-reading.
00:01:53Oh, my gosh. I can't.
00:01:54See?
00:01:55David reveals what's really going on
00:01:57in his relationship with Alyssa.
00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.
00:02:01She called you a weak man?
00:02:02Yeah.
00:02:03So that's a problem.
00:02:05No, no, no.
00:02:06Do not blame me.
00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...
00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:02:12with someone that's a maybe about me.
00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?
00:02:18I'm not doing it.
00:02:20I'm not.
00:02:21And then...
00:02:23What I'm seeing here is fake.
00:02:25I'm going to call you out.
00:02:26I've seen it the entire experiment.
00:02:29If you don't let us in,
00:02:30you're not going to last.
00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.
00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.
00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is
00:02:42I don't want you to be upset.
00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings
00:02:47where...
00:02:49I...
00:02:49Take a breath.
00:02:52Breathe.
00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.
00:03:14Yummy.
00:03:16Get some caffeine.
00:03:17Cheers.
00:03:18Yeah.
00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,
00:03:21tonight marks the last time the couples will come face to face
00:03:25with the experts.
00:03:27How did you sleep?
00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.
00:03:29Really, really well.
00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.
00:03:33Some people have chats.
00:03:34We have make-out sessions.
00:03:35We have make-out sessions.
00:03:36Yeah.
00:03:37I love it.
00:03:38This week, during homestays, the couples were tested
00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.
00:03:45It was good.
00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks.
00:03:48Stella and Phillip continue to evolve as a couple,
00:03:51having said, I love you.
00:03:55Rachel and Steven have been slower to open their hearts.
00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.
00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays
00:04:05and even reflecting on it, like, after last night's dinner party.
00:04:09Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?
00:04:15Dare to say it, babes, because I've been saying it.
00:04:22For Alyssa and David, homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.
00:04:30I feel like David and I have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.
00:04:35I still believe we are because we have each other's backs.
00:04:37It's just hard.
00:04:38Be careful.
00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other about a lot of things.
00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.
00:04:45We have had deep conversations, big conversations,
00:04:48and David's maybe held back from saying what he really felt in that moment
00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.
00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment, it's all coming out.
00:04:59How are you feeling?
00:05:01Um, I'm feeling like we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.
00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12I feel like we have a lot to unpack and a lot to, you know, break down.
00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.
00:05:19And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,
00:05:22it's definitely taken its toll on me.
00:05:27I felt in homestay that I'm like,
00:05:29OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.
00:05:31Wait, I haven't met his family.
00:05:32Wait, I haven't met his friends.
00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.
00:05:35Like, I don't know if he's stable.
00:05:37I want to have family.
00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling because I'm like, this is too good to be true.
00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,
00:05:43but it's brought up a lot of other things that we should have dealt with a long time ago.
00:05:47Like, have the conversations if you don't agree with something
00:05:51or have the conversation or ask the questions when you don't understand something that I've said.
00:05:54Well, all I'm going to say is...
00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't.
00:05:58And I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.
00:06:02I'm with you on that.
00:06:02You need to break through that softness and be strong with me
00:06:05because I want to be a team with you and talk things through and, um, you know, like...
00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here trying to express my side of the story,
00:06:15and I can hardly get a word in.
00:06:17I feel like there are holes.
00:06:18I think there was a... All I'll say is...
00:06:20There are cracks.
00:06:20There was a bit of, uh, like...
00:06:23The last couple of days what I've been struggling with
00:06:26is I haven't been as, like, willing to have those...
00:06:30Hard conversations.
00:06:31Hard conversations with you about how I was feeling.
00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me about your reservations,
00:06:36that's not healthy, babe.
00:06:38Yeah.
00:06:39Talk to me.
00:06:40Well...
00:06:40We need to voice.
00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship,
00:06:44and that's you're not fulfilling that need for me.
00:06:46And I believe that it's right to put it all out of the table.
00:06:50I think...
00:06:51I don't ever want to have to hold back.
00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,
00:06:54but I think one thing about you is you hold on too much,
00:06:57and then...
00:06:57Babe, I know, but...
00:06:58Babe, you still...
00:06:58Babe.
00:07:02You're spiralling within yourself.
00:07:03No, I'm not.
00:07:04Are you done?
00:07:05You know what I mean?
00:07:05I can't even get a word in.
00:07:08I feel like it's a slap in the face.
00:07:11Alyssa says she wants a hard, challenging conversation,
00:07:14and she's wanted this for a long time,
00:07:15but it's not just like that with Alyssa.
00:07:18It's not.
00:07:18Respect is only on her terms,
00:07:20and the relationship only goes her way or the highway.
00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.
00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like
00:07:28both of us are very disconnected
00:07:31a lot more than we ever have
00:07:34going into a commitment ceremony.
00:07:35And tonight, I'm just gonna be completely honest,
00:07:38because I've hit my limit,
00:07:40and I'm not gonna, like, hold back.
00:07:43I'm just gonna put it all on the table.
00:07:49As for Danny,
00:07:51his controversial views
00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec
00:07:55at last night's dinner party.
00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch
00:08:00moving in with a woman.
00:08:02What are you on about?
00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated
00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.
00:08:10F*** me!
00:08:14And this morning,
00:08:15they are still struggling to resolve the issue.
00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel.
00:08:20You know what you mean?
00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,
00:08:23like, it's not up to them.
00:08:25This is how I feel.
00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman.
00:08:28It just doesn't feel very manly of me.
00:08:31You know?
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:33You don't understand.
00:08:34I do understand.
00:08:35I get what you're saying.
00:08:36But I suppose,
00:08:39if we're talking about
00:08:41creating a life together
00:08:42after this experiment,
00:08:44then
00:08:45you're gonna have to get over that.
00:08:48Am I right?
00:08:49Or am I right?
00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,
00:08:53when she feels a kind way,
00:08:54it's a completely valid feeling.
00:08:56That's how she feels.
00:08:58But when I say,
00:08:59it makes me feel this way,
00:09:01oh, nah, but nah,
00:09:02but that's not right.
00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.
00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone
00:09:06and just, like, freeload often.
00:09:09You pay the bills,
00:09:09I'll pay the mortgage,
00:09:10we're done.
00:09:10Easy.
00:09:12Finito.
00:09:14Other than that,
00:09:14we had a great night.
00:09:16It's, uh, yeah.
00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny
00:09:20continue to disagree,
00:09:22our other couples are preparing
00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony
00:09:26of the experiment.
00:09:28You look great.
00:09:30You too.
00:09:31Yep.
00:09:32Yeah.
00:09:33Very pure.
00:09:34You know?
00:09:35Yeah.
00:09:36Very appropriate.
00:09:37Very appropriate.
00:09:39As our couples face the experts
00:09:41for the last time,
00:09:44a defining choice awaits.
00:09:47Tonight,
00:09:48they must decide.
00:09:50Stay in the experiment
00:09:52through to final vows
00:09:54or walk away from their marriages for good.
00:10:01For Scott,
00:10:02the pressure is mounting.
00:10:04He feels it is now or never
00:10:06to reveal his true feelings
00:10:08to his bride, Gia.
00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.
00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?
00:10:15Yeah.
00:10:16Can you believe that we've made it this far?
00:10:19I...
00:10:20Yeah, I definitely didn't imagine it.
00:10:25I do think we had a great week.
00:10:27I don't think we're gonna have too much feedback tonight.
00:10:30I think...
00:10:31It was great.
00:10:32Like, I can't fault homestays.
00:10:34It went really well.
00:10:35Positive.
00:10:36Good vibes.
00:10:37You know?
00:10:37So, hopefully not getting grilled hard tonight.
00:10:41I feel like I've been hit a bit
00:10:43throughout this experiment
00:10:44from the experts.
00:10:46Yeah.
00:10:47Yeah.
00:10:51What else?
00:10:55I get nervous going to the
00:10:57commitment ceremony
00:10:59because I still can't be 100% myself
00:11:02and I feel like I just can't have a voice sometimes
00:11:06because she thinks we're gonna have an argument
00:11:07and I want her to be able to understand
00:11:08that we need to speak anecdotally
00:11:09knowing that if I have a concern
00:11:11or she has a concern, we can talk
00:11:12and it's not gonna lead to a disaster.
00:11:14You gotta be able to communicate.
00:11:16So, you ready for tonight?
00:11:19I don't like commitment ceremonies.
00:11:20You know that.
00:11:21Yeah.
00:11:22I feel like we're at the point where, you know,
00:11:25we're almost falling in love.
00:11:26Yeah.
00:11:27Then I feel like if she feels more than me
00:11:30and she doesn't get anything back from me,
00:11:32she'll start spiralling
00:11:32and start saying harshful things to me.
00:11:36Very harshful things.
00:11:39And so then I feel like I can't talk
00:11:42and I go quiet
00:11:44and I go flat.
00:11:46But that retracts me every time
00:11:48and that's what pushes me away from falling in love
00:11:50and I don't think she understands that.
00:11:52So you just gotta look at the positives, you know?
00:11:57Personally, I'd love to speak up and share everything
00:12:00because it's good to get feedback.
00:12:02But there's another side of me where I feel like
00:12:04I wanna protect my wife.
00:12:06I don't wanna feel unstable, upset or, you know,
00:12:08get nervous or have a breakdown.
00:12:10So, you know, I think,
00:12:12how is she gonna react if I say these things?
00:12:14Alright.
00:12:15See you in there.
00:12:17Bye.
00:12:18Sometimes I'm like,
00:12:19well, I'm just not gonna talk about it.
00:12:22I'm just in the air.
00:12:23I don't know what to do.
00:12:24Bye.
00:12:25Bye.
00:12:46Hello.
00:12:47Hi.
00:12:48How are you guys?
00:12:49Very well.
00:12:50Welcome.
00:12:50Hello, guys.
00:12:52Hi.
00:12:53Hello.
00:12:53How are you?
00:12:54Welcome.
00:12:54Hi.
00:13:17Hello, ladies.
00:13:18Hello.
00:13:18And Chris.
00:13:19Hi.
00:13:27You okay?
00:13:29Yeah.
00:13:30Welcome, everybody,
00:13:31to the very final commitment ceremony of this experiment.
00:13:36Now, this is a very, very pivotal night
00:13:40because it is the very last time
00:13:42that you get to sit in front of the experts
00:13:45and to hear the feedback that we have for you.
00:13:50Now, in just a short time,
00:13:51you have one of the biggest decisions that you're gonna have to make.
00:13:54Whether or not you can take this relationship in the experiment
00:13:58into the real world and make it a success.
00:14:02And as we know as experts,
00:14:04if you are not completely vulnerable with your partner at this stage of the experiment,
00:14:10then your relationship will crumble on the outside.
00:14:14It will not last.
00:14:18Now, with that being said, let's get our first couple up.
00:14:43So, how are things?
00:14:45Um, you know what?
00:14:47Last time we were on the couch, things were moving in the right direction.
00:14:52There still are.
00:14:53But we do have some hiccups that we're trying to work through at the moment.
00:14:58Okay.
00:14:59Um, obviously, I'll start by saying, you know,
00:15:03Alyssa is an amazing girl.
00:15:05But personally, I feel like I have, you know, carried a lot of the emotional weight
00:15:11in the relationship.
00:15:12This is just how I feel.
00:15:15What do you mean when you say carried most of the emotional weight?
00:15:19I feel like there has been times where I personally put my emotions aside
00:15:24just to make sure that there was just peace.
00:15:29And this is a thing where, like, I have tried to bring something up
00:15:33at the start of the relationship to Alyssa,
00:15:35and I felt like she was not receptive to it.
00:15:38So, what that ended up doing for me was making me be more cautious
00:15:42of bringing stuff up to her.
00:15:44Mm-hmm.
00:15:48It was more the reaction of, is it going to become an argument
00:15:51that was going to go out of hand.
00:15:54So, what happened with all of that emotion as you describe it?
00:15:58If you weren't expressing that to Alyssa, what were you doing with it?
00:16:07Well, anything little that I didn't really care about,
00:16:10it didn't really affect me, so I'd brush over it.
00:16:12But, um, what happened in Homestays was I feel like it triggered me.
00:16:16Okay.
00:16:17I was saying Adelaide is a livable place,
00:16:19but I felt like Alyssa was being a bit negative about the move.
00:16:25I feel like she was pointing out all of the reasons why it won't work,
00:16:28which are all valid.
00:16:29We all know that there is things to work out in the real world.
00:16:32But it felt like, for me, she was too in her head about it,
00:16:36that it's affecting me right now.
00:16:42Do you know why?
00:16:43Because I'm feeling very frustrated at this part of the experiment.
00:16:47This is our last couch session,
00:16:49and I'm feeling like there has been some hold back,
00:16:52and some of our couch sessions could have been things
00:16:54that we could be working through if we had more open conversations.
00:16:58I feel like he doesn't want to have, like, conflict.
00:17:01But I feel like there is healthy conflict resolution.
00:17:04Otherwise, my relationship, in my eyes, this is too good to be true.
00:17:07Can I just stay?
00:17:10I want a partner who can have
00:17:12a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:17:16But a partner that shuts you down
00:17:18and tells you what they're saying is Bible,
00:17:21it is an issue.
00:17:22Why haven't I actually spoken down on you in a bad way?
00:17:24Like, I don't...
00:17:25Well, there's things you've said.
00:17:26You...
00:17:27I don't want to...
00:17:28I don't want to, like...
00:17:29Well, an example could be helpful for Alyssa here.
00:17:32Well, she has...
00:17:34You did mention I was a weak man at one point.
00:17:37She called you a weak man?
00:17:39Yeah.
00:17:42So that's a problem.
00:17:58Well, she has...
00:17:59You did mention I was a weak man at one point.
00:18:02She called you a weak man?
00:18:05Yeah.
00:18:08So that's a problem.
00:18:14What was the context around that?
00:18:18It was in one of our talks about, like,
00:18:20she's got assets, she's ahead in life,
00:18:23and she wants a guy that can match that.
00:18:25So financially weak.
00:18:26Yeah.
00:18:27How did it feel when she said that?
00:18:29Well, I just thought, where's this coming from?
00:18:31And the thing about me is, like,
00:18:33I pick what I want to, like, get upset about,
00:18:36and I didn't.
00:18:37Maybe I should have combated that at the time.
00:18:44Alyssa, what was going on for you?
00:18:45What did you want to achieve from saying that to him?
00:18:49I was getting frustrated,
00:18:50because I'm wanting more from David.
00:18:52I'm wanting to see more from him.
00:18:54And I feel like I want to be strong together as a couple.
00:18:58I think where I'm struggling is, it's...
00:19:00She wants me to be strong on her timeline.
00:19:03And that's where it feels like it is your way,
00:19:07or you're not happy.
00:19:09David, do you feel like you're enough for Alyssa?
00:19:12I feel like I'm 100% enough.
00:19:17Do you think she thinks you're enough?
00:19:19I think she does,
00:19:20but the questions that I'm getting are, like,
00:19:23they are confusing me.
00:19:24So what are these questions that are confusing you?
00:19:27Well, the first thing is,
00:19:29she's wondering, like, you know, energy,
00:19:31like, in five years or whatever,
00:19:33is that going to be enough to sustain her?
00:19:34And she has said to me,
00:19:35if I'm not getting the fix I need,
00:19:39I'll go look elsewhere, essentially.
00:19:41No, I didn't say that.
00:19:42She said, I'm hungry. You need to feed me.
00:19:44You need to feed me.
00:19:45I've taught you more in this relationship than you've taught me.
00:19:47I'm wanting to, like, open-ended conversations and stuff.
00:19:51I'm wanting to go deep.
00:19:52Like, I'm putting all my cards on the table.
00:19:54I'm very direct.
00:19:55Like, I'll talk about stuff.
00:19:57I need some sort of fuel.
00:19:58Like, it's just, it's what I like.
00:20:00But I don't know if our relationship
00:20:03is going to last in the real world,
00:20:05if this is the gap.
00:20:10I don't know if we're going to be a good match long-term,
00:20:12if this is the energy,
00:20:14because I need to see David in his element.
00:20:16I need to see David with his family.
00:20:17I need to see David with his friends.
00:20:19I need to see what he does.
00:20:20Like, I want to have a family in the next few years.
00:20:28And, like, if we want to talk about me seeing things work
00:20:31in the real world,
00:20:32what I need to see as well is,
00:20:33if someone says they want to have open-ended conversations,
00:20:36that has to be it.
00:20:37What's happened in this relationship
00:20:38is I've done a lot of listening.
00:20:40Alyssa has done a lot of talking.
00:20:43That's the fact.
00:20:44You need to speak up.
00:20:45No, no, no.
00:20:46But, like, it's, I don't...
00:20:47One thing about me is I think we're both adults,
00:20:50and I want to see that in her,
00:20:52that she has the ability to listen.
00:20:53But the thing is, I can't mind-read.
00:20:54I can't mind-read.
00:20:55It's not mind-reading.
00:20:55Oh, my gosh, I can't.
00:20:56See? Boom.
00:20:58No, I can't mind-read, babe.
00:20:59You're frustrating me because...
00:21:00I can't read your mind.
00:21:01When something...
00:21:02When she...
00:21:02When I start saying something that she's not getting,
00:21:05I'm frustrated.
00:21:06I don't want to deal with this anymore.
00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with it.
00:21:08I'm just saying...
00:21:08You're now talking in circles.
00:21:10So I'm going to...
00:21:11I'm going to pull you up there.
00:21:13I mean, this has been very enlightening, I think,
00:21:16for us to get a glimpse inside
00:21:18what's really going on.
00:21:20in the relationship.
00:21:22So an observation from...
00:21:23from us here is that
00:21:26you've both
00:21:28made missteps, I think,
00:21:30in terms of your communication
00:21:31and what you've brought to the couch here.
00:21:34Because, Alyssa,
00:21:35you were aware that he was withholding.
00:21:37You knew he was not being up front with you.
00:21:39So you could have brought that up.
00:21:41And so, David, for you,
00:21:43you were choosing not to speak up.
00:21:47You haven't arrived at an outcome.
00:21:49No.
00:21:50But you've helped us see
00:21:51what's going on inside.
00:21:53So thank you for that
00:21:54to this point.
00:21:56So now let's look forward.
00:21:58Because, as you know,
00:21:59this is the last commitment ceremony.
00:22:01this is almost the end of the experiment for you two.
00:22:05Where to from here?
00:22:14Well, I'm sitting here because I want that help.
00:22:18I guess what we need to do is look beneath the arguments here,
00:22:22because there's a reason that you have been avoiding bringing these issues up.
00:22:28Yeah.
00:22:29Here's an opportunity to now say,
00:22:31OK, we're going to come at this as equals.
00:22:33Not one putting the other down.
00:22:35Not one avoiding and running away.
00:22:36We are coming here together to have this open, honest, mature conversation
00:22:42about what you both want post-experiment.
00:22:45Because otherwise, the last couple of months has been a waste of time.
00:22:50You've got that opportunity now.
00:22:52It's not too late.
00:22:55Can you do that?
00:22:57Yeah.
00:22:58Alyssa?
00:23:00Yeah.
00:23:04You OK?
00:23:06I do believe that the things we have gone through are significant
00:23:13and I believe that there are genuine feelings here.
00:23:16I do feel strong feelings towards Alyssa.
00:23:18That's why I'm still here.
00:23:20OK.
00:23:22All right.
00:23:22Well, on that note, we're going to go to a decision.
00:23:25Alyssa, we'll start with you.
00:23:27I didn't come here for three months to waste it.
00:23:31And, like, I came here to find my person.
00:23:35I want to settle down.
00:23:36I want to have a family.
00:23:37I want the happy ending.
00:23:39And that is why I want to move forward as a team and no holding back.
00:23:46And because there's so many feelings involved and, like, I really care about this relationship
00:23:52so much, I have decided to stay.
00:23:55OK.
00:23:57And to you, David.
00:24:00Yeah.
00:24:02Um...
00:24:07I'll take your advice on board and, yeah, I wrote to stay.
00:24:15Pleased to see that.
00:24:17This could be make or break for you guys.
00:24:20You're about to make the decision of this experiment.
00:24:24The thing that is going to determine which way you go in your future.
00:24:28Good luck, guys.
00:24:40Good luck, guys.
00:24:43Good luck.
00:24:43Good luck, guys.
00:24:45Good luck.
00:24:47Good luck.
00:24:57I'm not...
00:24:57You do not have to tell me you love me.
00:24:59But I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe.
00:25:05Bec hits her limit.
00:25:06I'm not doing it.
00:25:08And
00:25:10I
00:25:14Breathe will Scott speak up
00:25:18When I care about someone so much I feel like I can't speak my voice when I have a concern
00:25:23it's a weakness of mine
00:25:35All right, let's have our next couple up
00:25:40Rachel and Steven
00:25:49How are you? I love this energy can I just say Steve oh you got a bit of a swagger
00:25:55Oh
00:25:57Don't flatter me John
00:26:00Especially coming from you
00:26:04Where do you two want to begin homestays I guess I mean it seems like it's had a big impact
00:26:10on the two of you
00:26:13Homestays was a big success for me and I believe Rachel as well um it's
00:26:19Sort of changed the relationship in many ways oh in what way
00:26:24For me Rachel is fantastic
00:26:26She I showed her my passions and
00:26:29She went out on the boat and she enjoyed herself a smile ear to ear and we had lots of
00:26:33banter laughing
00:26:34It was a really super sweet time
00:26:37But it's not that she's in the fishing
00:26:39It's the independence I can go
00:26:42I feel like I can rely on Rachel if something happens in the world where I'm like geez can you
00:26:46you know help me out with this
00:26:48Rachel's gonna go got your back
00:26:49Yeah
00:26:49And she's just gonna get it done
00:26:51So as a result of that how do you feel about it
00:26:56Well
00:26:58I feel like I can't see myself falling in love with Rachel
00:27:02Woohoo
00:27:04That's massive
00:27:07Hmm
00:27:09Rachel
00:27:11Yeah
00:27:12He's a tease of happiness I swear
00:27:14Let's just take a moment shall we
00:27:15Just a little bit overwhelmed
00:27:17In a good way
00:27:21So
00:27:21I feel the same
00:27:23You know I can definitely see myself falling in love with you too
00:27:27There's something going on for you right now Rachel what is it
00:27:30This is a very significant moment for you
00:27:33Yeah
00:27:33Um
00:27:35I think I shared with you John before I came in here the last time
00:27:39Someone told me that they loved me
00:27:41The very next day they told me that I don't remember saying it
00:27:47Um that was after seven years of a
00:27:51A toxic situation
00:27:53And so um
00:27:56It's it's a hard thing my barriers go up
00:28:01And so having this journey with Stephen and knowing you know
00:28:07How he feels about vulnerability and when he says something he means it
00:28:11So for him to be sitting here and saying that to me
00:28:15It yeah
00:28:17Bam right in the fields in a really beautiful way because I'm like yeah
00:28:21I believe him
00:28:24And I don't think that I thought that I would believe
00:28:29A man again in that one
00:28:31Thank you
00:28:32You're welcome
00:28:34And you know what he said that holding your hand sitting next to you
00:28:38Yeah
00:28:39And showing you his family
00:28:42Yeah
00:28:42All the things that signal
00:28:45Yep
00:28:45He's not going anywhere
00:28:47Yeah
00:28:49It's different
00:28:50It is very different
00:28:52Is it scary?
00:28:53It's petrifying
00:28:58What are you scared of the most?
00:29:02I'm scared that Stephen will go back to his life in Sydney
00:29:06And it's just going to be easier for him to let me go
00:29:10Because he is high and poor and he has his business
00:29:14And so it might be a burden
00:29:18To try and maintain our relationship with me
00:29:21So he might just let me go
00:29:25So yeah
00:29:28That's that's my fear
00:29:31I feel like I'm hurt
00:29:33Well how does that land for you Stephen when you hear her say that?
00:29:37Um yeah it makes me feel helpless at times
00:29:39And I just don't know what to say because I when I see Rachel in these states
00:29:44The first thing I want to do is try and comfort her and try to fix the situation or reassure
00:29:49At least at least take the edge off a bit
00:29:53So if you don't have to fix it and you just sit with it and validate it
00:29:57Can you do that?
00:29:58I can do that I can't say I'm happy with that but I mean it's it is what it makes
00:30:03you feel a bit uncomfortable
00:30:05It does
00:30:05Yeah
00:30:06Good
00:30:06It does
00:30:07Good
00:30:07It does
00:30:08And the only thing I can say to her is is that the only thing that I feel like that's
00:30:11going to fix this
00:30:12Is actually go out there in the real world and put it into practice and yeah prove it wrong pretty
00:30:17much
00:30:18Why haven't you changed?
00:30:21You know all the both of you sitting in front of us today
00:30:24This was all all done at homestays it was amazing what homestays did for us
00:30:28We love it we love it
00:30:30All right, let's go to the decision start with you first
00:30:35Stephen
00:30:36There was a big question mark with me before homestays i'm like this could make or break us
00:30:41But it's just only brought me closer to rachel
00:30:45So i'm going to uh
00:30:47Yes, stay beautiful brilliant
00:30:50And what about you rachel? What do you got stay or leave? I know this is going to shock everyone
00:30:57But I wrote stay and that's us on a boat fishing
00:31:02Beautiful
00:31:04We have loved watching you through this experiment you've had some difficult moments along the way
00:31:12But you've grown you know and uh the way in which you're together now
00:31:17Really it's on display everyone sees it
00:31:20You're a unified couple. It's fantastic. What I would say to you in this final week
00:31:25Uh is don't get inside your head too much
00:31:29You need to be enjoying
00:31:32This this final week rather than thinking too far ahead
00:31:37Because that's something that I think in the past you've you've been a bit guilty of doing
00:31:43And on that you can go back to your group
00:31:45Thank you
00:31:46You make me cry
00:32:01Oh, you're welcome
00:32:16Let's get our next couple up on the couch
00:32:21Bec and danny
00:32:25Hey guys hello, how are you?
00:32:28Good home
00:32:28Good good good
00:32:31Homestays let's start with you bec. What were they like?
00:32:35They were great
00:32:37I was in my own estate. I was in my own home with my dog
00:32:42We saw my family at my auntie's beach house and that was great
00:32:47Um dad and daniel get along really well, which is great
00:32:51So good start great start
00:32:56What else happened at the homestay?
00:32:59We met becs friends that went pretty good didn't it like just like the tough questions
00:33:04And then that night we went back to to becs
00:33:08And we were sitting around like having a having a fire
00:33:12And then I cracked a joke like about her cousin fancying me
00:33:19And it landed poorly
00:33:24What did he say with the joke can you just tell us?
00:33:28We were having a bit of an emotional moment with one another talking about our feelings and
00:33:32How it's been on homestays and daniel said if all else fails at least daniel fancies me type thing
00:33:42And I lost it
00:33:46And why because
00:33:49It makes me feel like when we're having this conversation that means so much to me
00:33:55That it diminishes it and it makes it a joke
00:33:59I get it. I shouldn't have said it but I feel like our fight styles don't really match too well
00:34:06What scared me was we couldn't rectify it too quickly and where i'm sort of holding back a little bit
00:34:14Is I don't I wouldn't want to move and then we have an argument like that and I feel really
00:34:20isolated and alone
00:34:21I don't want to do that. So arguing is something that scares you when it comes to bec. Why?
00:34:27I think for both of us it just doesn't work
00:34:34Wow okay what am I saying wrong?
00:34:37Just to use the words for both of us it doesn't work
00:34:44I'm not saying we don't work i'm saying our fight style doesn't work oh yeah that no okay
00:34:50So that this is what happens sometimes I try and say something and bec takes it in completely the wrong
00:34:55way
00:34:58Bec what's going on inside of you right now
00:35:01Um i suppose i'm fearful because i've let every wall down
00:35:06So what happens to you when he says that just
00:35:10Kills my soul a little bit to be honest with you
00:35:16Because i'm like well why haven't you said this to me because because i've been fearful to say it because
00:35:24i don't want to upset you
00:35:28No no no do not blame me i'm not blaming you don't say you're fearful to tell me because you're
00:35:33going to upset me
00:35:35I'm here in love with you we're at the end of this experiment
00:35:42You're making it seem like i've been holding on to this for six months honestly
00:35:45I noticed it in adelaide when i felt isolated up until then i haven't noticed it
00:35:53Bec i look at your face you seem very concerned
00:36:02I think he's got more reservations than he lets on oh really i do yeah i do i do i
00:36:10do
00:36:15Danny Danny look at me there really is no time for you to make light of the situation
00:36:22Because when you add things up danny
00:36:25It's not making her feel secure you know you haven't said your feelings back to her
00:36:30You've gone to the family and they've validated you and then you're not bringing up issues because you're afraid of
00:36:37the fight style
00:36:38It starts to add up and it makes her feel what beck
00:36:47Like he's just not that into me
00:36:54So that's a problem because this far into the experiment you don't want your partner to be thinking
00:37:02I mean he's just not that into me
00:37:07Yeah but i am i've told you that i am you know i am
00:37:14So why is she not believing it
00:37:17I don't know i can't speak for beck
00:37:22I'm asking for you to sit there and say to me beck this is how i feel about you just
00:37:30once
00:37:33You know how i feel about you you know i care about you so much
00:37:37i do know you care about me but where is the passion
00:37:42i see tiny glimpses of it
00:37:44but
00:37:46i feel like you are holding back
00:37:49you said to me once at the beginning of this experiment and i'll never forget it and it's probably ruined
00:37:54me
00:37:56daniel's like well
00:37:58when you are obsessed with each other you're all over each other and i don't have that
00:38:02i just don't get it from him at all
00:38:05he doesn't want to hold my hand walking down the street that's not your style no worries
00:38:09whenever we have a kiss i'm the one going to kiss you you never ever ever go to kiss me
00:38:13you don't compliment me hardly ever
00:38:18so for me it's like well i'm this fool that's allowed my heart to get to this point
00:38:23and he's not there and he's not going to feel that way
00:38:28i don't think that's a fair assumption
00:38:38the thing that's important here danny is that she's just told you in a very clear-cut way
00:38:44why she doesn't feel like you're interested
00:38:52your reaction is well that's not fair no but like yes that's exactly what we just heard
00:39:01even like all of the husbands walk past us sitting at the commitment ceremony and they
00:39:05all acknowledge their wives and you never do you ignore me
00:39:11and i don't know how i've gotten to this point of these feelings with that
00:39:19i'm so worried
00:39:24i'm actually so worried
00:39:30i just don't feel you have like you have any desire and i just yeah i'm just nervous
00:39:37the reality is is that how can you move to adelaide and how can we live this life together
00:39:44if this is how it's going to be i can't be the one going to kiss you
00:39:51just so that there's a level of affection i can't
00:39:56i'm not doing it i've done it i did it i nearly married it i'm not doing it
00:40:02i'm not i'm not doing it you're either into me you have had enough time to know if i am
00:40:09the type
00:40:10of person you would want to be with you do not have to tell me you love me but i'm
00:40:13not going to
00:40:14walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe about me i'm not doing it i'd rather be
00:40:20heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months time
00:40:37you have had enough time to know if i am the type of person you would want to be with
00:40:42you do not have
00:40:42to tell me you love me but i'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone that's
00:40:47a maybe about me i'm not doing it i'd rather be heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months time
00:41:15how does that land for you danny
00:41:22well obviously it hurts to it hurts to see beck like that what is she saying to you
00:41:28that you've done to get her to this point well just not not be passionate and not not be the
00:41:37man
00:41:37she needs me to be i've had my guard up essentially that's that's what yeah
00:41:52she lays this out on the table no compliments very few lack of intimacy not making her a priority
00:42:03not saying how you feel about her what do you think that does to her
00:42:11what do you think it does to the relationship destroys the relationship as well
00:42:22why because you can't have you can't build a relationship on like sand foundations do you know
00:42:28what you mean so help us understand why you're not doing these things to bring her close
00:42:40just obviously we've talked about the five star that's the bit where i've been holding back
00:42:47but i guess after my last relationship i haven't felt this strongly towards a woman
00:42:51or been this close with a woman in years but of course i still have a bit of a guard
00:42:58up because
00:42:59last time when it didn't work out it destroyed my life
00:43:05how nice would it be to have heard that well you just did i know but why do i have
00:43:09to go to this
00:43:10length to hear that because i'm not no good at this shit well i've been begging you for this level
00:43:17of
00:43:17openness for nearly three months and so hearing that makes me feel like there's hope you know
00:43:31why does that make you feel hopeful because if he hasn't felt like this in years then that means that
00:43:40it's real and you might be into me but you need to open yourself to me yeah i guess like
00:43:49this has
00:43:49been a problem in the past that i am just a boyfriends to be honest i am well i don't
00:43:56believe that to be
00:43:57honest but that is a very easy way of getting out of it don't hold me accountable i'm just a
00:44:03boyfriend
00:44:03no i'm not saying it like that but but you are and that's what she's hearing
00:44:11what she wants right now from you danny is for you to step into this and go you know what
00:44:16yeah i've
00:44:17dropped the ball and i've sent you the wrong signals and i'm accountable and i'm going to do
00:44:24different but i'm not getting that from you no i bet i want to say i am and i'm sorry
00:44:31if like
00:44:31it's for making you feel like that genuine from the bottom of my heart you know i'd never want to
00:44:36upset you you mean the world to me
00:44:41and i'm sorry if if i've dropped the ball it was never my intention
00:44:49i like hearing it but i need to see it yeah an old old time i can't keep on hearing
00:44:53it
00:44:54and then nothing changes well let me show you that
00:44:59okay
00:45:03let me show you
00:45:08now with that we're going to go to the decision
00:45:13beck what do you got for us stay or leave well you you have my heart
00:45:19and like you are the most special person i've never met anyone like you right and i feel really
00:45:26really lucky that we were matched and we get to go on this journey together um but i need you
00:45:36to give me half of what i'm giving you at least
00:45:49we have overcome so many hurdles together and we've made it this far so
00:45:57i said stay and then i said proud of us
00:46:03love it love it and danny yeah obviously i want to apologize again i'm so sorry
00:46:10you know you mean the world to me and all this week i'll try and prove that to you
00:46:16i'm here for love and i think i can find that with you so that's why i wrote stay good
00:46:28that's it
00:46:32danny from where we're sitting this week is on you you have to do the heavy lifting
00:46:39you've got a partner here with you who's put her heart out there and said i'm in love i want
00:46:46this
00:46:46you need to step up
00:46:50and if you are feeling these strong emotions for her then you've got to start showing it
00:46:57with that you can go back to the group thanks well done guys
00:47:08thanks for all your support thanks good work you too
00:47:15oh battered
00:47:21communicate with me my wife hates me and so do all experts as well
00:47:27i don't hate you boo i just can't keep on asking for the minimum it's either there or it's not
00:47:34and if it's not they've got to walk away now all right okay
00:47:43still to come i haven't been able to address her concern without gia and i having an argument
00:47:49or her spiraling what kind of things could she say in a moment that demands honesty
00:47:56things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down such as um scott hesitates
00:48:05if you can't speak honestly in front of gia then i'm really concerned about the possibility of this
00:48:12relationship surviving outside the experiment
00:48:24next on the couch
00:48:28chris and sam
00:48:33hello hello hi
00:48:41body language says a lot yeah it's been tough yeah
00:48:50um what happened last time we sat here i wrote leave in the moment and then i kind of regretted
00:48:58it
00:48:58um we decided to go to home stays and i thought okay i'm really going to try and turn this
00:49:03around and
00:49:04i bought him some flowers i got him a card and made him went to the shop and got groceries
00:49:07and
00:49:08made dinner and then we had a day with my cattle you know we were outside and that's i thought
00:49:13that
00:49:13was really fun and then we had a bonfire
00:49:20sam pulled out a journal with some questions in it hand on heart i was answering them the best that
00:49:25i could
00:49:26and then sam decided to leave the farm and i thought look i've really tried to turn this around i
00:49:35really
00:49:35took on all of your guys feedback and yeah i just feel like i've shut down now
00:49:43yeah i just felt like he was saving face especially like the flowers and dinner thing
00:49:50just it felt very like i need to do these things to show that i put in effort for me
00:49:55it was genuine
00:49:55i was trying to be as genuine as i could and i thought that was a way to try and
00:49:59make you feel
00:50:00welcome at the farm i feel like your effort was like to push forward and there was effort for you
00:50:05to grow but it was never like i need to grow for us and i want to grow to be
00:50:08better partner for you
00:50:16where did the relationship go wrong for you both
00:50:23um i feel like chris never really fully forgave me for calling him out on like behaviors
00:50:31from then on especially after you guys gave him feedback it was like it was like a no return point
00:50:40from there where did it go wrong for you um i feel like like after the retreat that chemistry or
00:50:47it was lacking for me we were intimate a second time and i just felt like that wasn't there for
00:50:52me
00:50:55was it the quality of the interaction was it was it him as a person was what was it that
00:51:01felt off for
00:51:02you if i'm being honest it was just the quality of the interaction i just i don't know it just
00:51:07wasn't
00:51:07there for me is that something that you spoke to sam about no i didn't want to hurt his feelings
00:51:24how are you feeling about that sam to hear this
00:51:27oh yeah like i guess i'm surprised um and like i guess what really sucks is that i was out
00:51:35on the
00:51:35farm and i was like hurting cows and i was like this is so good and the kids thing never
00:51:40bothered
00:51:40me like it's always something that i wanted in my life then i was just like it was so annoying
00:51:45that
00:51:45everything else would have worked
00:51:52this is really disappointing for us because we had so much hope for the two of you it's just so
00:52:00unfortunate that along the way with all of the pressure that the experiment brings that the wheels
00:52:05have fallen off it is disappointing i came here to find love and you know i know that i'm a
00:52:13slow burn and
00:52:14you know i know that i get anxious once i do get feelings for someone because it takes me so
00:52:18long
00:52:18to build feelings for someone um and yeah it's just really disappointing that it all ended up like
00:52:24this but you know high hopes for the future yeah what about you chris yeah and i said to sam
00:52:34that i
00:52:34want to be really good friends with him we've been on this journey for eight weeks so yeah i hope
00:52:40that
00:52:40we can stay in each other's lives outside of here yeah all right well we're gonna go to a decision
00:52:48chris we'll start with you i've obviously learned a lot about myself and i hope you have too
00:52:54and um you know i'm sorry that it didn't work out for us my time has unfortunately run out so
00:53:01um yeah i have to leave okay thank you and to you sam it's been a journey i've learned a
00:53:10lot
00:53:1090 of our time together was awesome yeah but you know it's come to the time to pack it up
00:53:16and leave
00:53:22i'm sorry you've both landed here but hopefully you have learned some lessons along the way
00:53:29that you can take into your next relationships and parenthood you know this is all about that
00:53:35self-development as well as couple development thank you both thank you so much well done you two
00:53:43good work lads well done guys we're gonna miss you
00:53:57our next couple up on the couch stella and philip hello hello there
00:54:09how we doing well we're more interested in how you're doing yeah coming into home stables was
00:54:16very very important for me i was always open to moving so it was a really big deal to go
00:54:21into
00:54:21stella's space you know i was just really keen to see what it would look like i just tried to
00:54:27envisage everything like how i'd live there the vibe the energy and all that kind of stuff
00:54:33after the experiment uh stella's going to come back for my mum's birthday celebrate that uh we're
00:54:40going to spend a few days in melbourne and then i'll pick my car up and drive up to crinola
00:54:45just move
00:54:47again yeah yeah straight in yeah oh moving in that's a plan yeah so it is a plan we got
00:54:58there
00:54:59here's the thing when i first met you you loved control yeah you uh mapped out you know what you
00:55:07wanted to do during the day your fitness your health your sleep everything on point
00:55:12and you without a plan there was a part of you that wasn't committing and now you've come up with
00:55:21a plan you've got certainty and now you're on the same track because i want this relationship to work
00:55:29yeah yeah and i i feel like um every woman can uh agree with that when you don't understand your
00:55:38man's
00:55:38intentions that's when you get frazzled that's when you overthink that's when you're in your head
00:55:43when you know that the man is like okay let's do this i think you really settle in to get
00:55:49that
00:55:49heart you really do philip i want you to turn to stella and tell her how you feel make me
00:55:56cry
00:56:04you know
00:56:05oh you know
00:56:10we can't cope
00:56:19I
00:56:23You you hundred percent know that I am I am in love with you
00:56:28And that you shouldn't doubt anything
00:56:30There's a lot of unknown and stuff like that. It's okay. We've got this you know, we're a team. Yeah,
00:56:36so I love you, too
00:56:42So Stella, how does that feel?
00:56:45When he says that knowing that he's got a plan and he's moving in
00:56:51Again, like I really could go from the two weeks the conversation like this man makes me feel safe. I
00:56:57Don't think I have experienced love before meeting him because oh
00:57:03He shows up for me
00:57:05Yeah
00:57:07Yeah, can I just ask you Stella what what's getting you upset right now?
00:57:11Why is this so important?
00:57:13Yeah, I feel quite like key in the sense that
00:57:18If this works out it means that everything that
00:57:21Was in the past all those learning curves all those relationships all all was worth for this moment, you know
00:57:29Because I do I think
00:57:31At the stage of my life where I do truly want this to be my forever person and I do
00:57:37see I
00:57:38Do see that
00:57:41Thank you
00:57:46Well, you got real on this couch tonight
00:57:49It's great
00:57:51And on that night, we're gonna go to a decision stay or leave you're up first Stella
00:57:57Obviously not a surprise and I think I drew a love heart from very early on
00:58:03Nice and what about you philip?
00:58:06I'm not going anywhere just started wish that's what we like
00:58:11Yeah
00:58:14Thanks for being here
00:58:15Thanks for being here
00:58:16Thanks for being here
00:58:16Yeah
00:58:16You are a team
00:58:18Yeah
00:58:18And you've got this
00:58:19Yeah, thank you guys
00:58:20I really appreciate it all the way through
00:58:22I really appreciate it all the way through
00:58:23Thank you guys
00:58:24Well done you two
00:58:25Here you go
00:58:25Thank you
00:58:29Great work
00:58:29Hi, thanks
00:58:31Hi, thanks
00:58:33Hi, thanks
00:58:59Hi, thanks
00:59:02Hi, thanks
00:59:14Hi, thanks
00:59:16Hi, thanks
00:59:27Hi, thanks
00:59:30Hi, thanks
00:59:31Hi, thanks
00:59:33Hi, thanks
00:59:58Here you are
01:00:03Great
01:00:05It's a weakness of mine
01:00:08When I care about someone so much I feel like I, can't speak my voice whenever concerned
01:00:14It's a weakness of mine
01:00:16What I find so far is I haven't been able to address a concern without Gia and I having an
01:00:22argument or her spiraling
01:00:25Let's say that you want to bring something up and Gia is not in the mood to hear for whatever
01:00:29reason
01:00:31You find yourself simply cowering away from that and not returning to that topic
01:00:38Pretty much
01:00:40What have you observed about Gia's behavior that leads you to have that reaction?
01:00:46What kind of things could she say?
01:00:55Can I please just say things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down
01:01:01It's not Chas
01:01:07Honestly
01:01:09If you can't speak honestly in front of Gia about the things that she does and say that hurt you
01:01:14or scare you or make you feel off
01:01:16Well he has
01:01:21Then I'm really really really concerned about the possibility of this relationship surviving outside the experiment
01:01:42Scott
01:01:42Yeah
01:01:44We've got all night
01:01:45I know we're not going anywhere
01:01:47We're going to sit here and ask you uncomfortable questions until you come clean
01:01:52Okay
01:01:53I just so
01:01:54I care about it so much
01:01:55If you don't let us in
01:01:56I know
01:01:57You're not going to last
01:02:00What I'm seeing here is fake
01:02:03I'm going to call you out
01:02:04I've seen it the entire experiment
01:02:07You talk about things in a way where you don't give us any of the information
01:02:13You skirt around the issues
01:02:15I get it
01:02:16You're trying to fly under the radar
01:02:18But what we're saying tonight is that ends
01:02:21Yeah
01:02:21Okay
01:02:23You sat down here
01:02:24You're petrified of Gia
01:02:26And you're not answering the questions
01:02:32So I'm going to ask you again, Scott
01:02:34What kind of things could Gia say that would make you feel fearful of speaking up?
01:02:42So this is probably the most magic concern
01:02:46It could happen probably on average once a week
01:02:48But I feel like there's a bit of pressure of me to say I'm in love
01:02:50And when I don't say it
01:02:52Gia will tend to spiral and say things like
01:02:55You're a crime, you're not a man, you're not a provider
01:02:58You don't give me reassurance
01:03:02It's pretty much every name under the sun, right?
01:03:05I think being under the sun is wild
01:03:07Gia
01:03:08Babe, the reason why I'm here is because I know she doesn't intentionally mean it
01:03:13It's because it comes from a place of hurt
01:03:14I'll explain that you talk for yourself
01:03:16And I just will explain, babe, like, listen to what you're saying
01:03:22I know you don't mean it
01:03:23Like, where's this coming from?
01:03:24And, like, I don't know what it is
01:03:25I just don't know
01:03:28When you're having that situation
01:03:30And there are things that are being said
01:03:31How do you feel in that moment?
01:03:34In these moments that you're describing now
01:03:36That where she's coming at you personally
01:03:39I just feel like
01:03:41When it's her, I just feel completely destroyed
01:03:43Like I'm worthless
01:03:45That's pretty major
01:03:47But I just want Gia to know that I care so much about her
01:03:51My feelings are strong
01:03:52I'm falling for her
01:03:53But when these things happen
01:03:54It pulls me back
01:03:55And it holds me back
01:03:58And so, Gia
01:04:00What do you think
01:04:01When you're feeling threatened
01:04:04Or not happy with what Scott says
01:04:07That you attack him?
01:04:09What is that about for you?
01:04:11This is a man that you're falling in love with
01:04:14From every indication I've had
01:04:17Well, I'll just say it out loud
01:04:22If this wasn't on camera
01:04:23I told him I'm in love with him yesterday
01:04:27So this is a man you love
01:04:30So where does that come from?
01:04:31So for me
01:04:35I've felt this way for Scott
01:04:37For the last few weeks
01:04:39And there's been so many moments
01:04:41Where like I've wanted to say it
01:04:43And I'm like
01:04:44You can't be the girl who says it first
01:04:45Usually it's been the guy who said it first
01:04:48So this is weird for me
01:04:49And I've wanted him to know
01:04:50Why I've been spiraling
01:04:52It's because of this
01:04:53Like I've been wanting to say it
01:04:54And I know he's not there
01:04:55And it's frustrating for me
01:04:56Because I feel rejected
01:04:57To be honest
01:04:59The leading up to where
01:05:00You're having these big feelings
01:05:02And that's what's making you feel like
01:05:03Oh my god, he's gonna reject me
01:05:05Why go hurt him?
01:05:08Because I felt hurt
01:05:10And I was like
01:05:11Let me hurt him
01:05:13That's the truth
01:05:18That's a pretty big revelation
01:05:21And also a hurdle for Scott
01:05:24To have to handle
01:05:25And walk around eggshells
01:05:27Trying to not have you
01:05:29Have this reaction
01:05:30I just think this is very new for me
01:05:32I haven't ever been in this situation before
01:05:35But in the situation of saying
01:05:37That you're hurt
01:05:38And therefore you're choosing to hurt back
01:05:40Is that the way that you normally are?
01:05:45No
01:05:48I'm gonna insist
01:05:49And underline this
01:05:50Because I really want you to
01:05:52Take in Gia
01:05:54That we can absolutely see
01:05:56How strong your relationship with Scott is
01:05:58But it is a pattern
01:05:59That you're bringing to the table
01:06:00That you need to break
01:06:02Because it will be the thing
01:06:04That makes him run the other way
01:06:19The leading up to
01:06:19Where you're having these big feelings
01:06:21And that's what's making you feel like
01:06:22Oh my god
01:06:23He's gonna reject me
01:06:25Why go hurt him?
01:06:28Because I felt hurt
01:06:30And I was like
01:06:31Let me hurt him
01:06:34That's the truth
01:06:37I'm gonna insist
01:06:38And underline this
01:06:39Because I really want you to
01:06:41Take in Gia
01:06:43It is a pattern
01:06:44That you're bringing to the table
01:06:45That you need to break
01:06:47Because it will be the thing
01:06:48That makes him run the other way
01:06:57Do you feel secure
01:06:58In your relationship with Scott?
01:07:02Um
01:07:07Like yes and no
01:07:10Why no?
01:07:13I don't know
01:07:14Because like
01:07:15Sometimes I can't bring something up
01:07:17Because I'm argumentative
01:07:18Or so I don't feel like
01:07:19I'm secure with him
01:07:21And I can be myself
01:07:22So that
01:07:23And like he doesn't feel
01:07:24As strong as I feel
01:07:26Like well
01:07:27He could just leave
01:07:29Am I gonna move for like?
01:07:31Am I gonna take my daughter
01:07:32Out of her school in Melbourne
01:07:33And move to the Gold Coast
01:07:34If he just likes me?
01:07:38Just don't feel as secure
01:07:39As maybe I could
01:07:41In the relationship
01:07:43So there's still room there
01:07:44For you to grow
01:07:45In terms of security
01:07:46In the relationship
01:07:49How does it make you feel
01:07:50To hear
01:07:52Gia say that
01:07:53She doesn't feel secure
01:07:54In the relationship?
01:07:58I'm confused
01:07:58Because Gia tells me
01:07:59That she feels secure
01:08:01I try and
01:08:03Tick all the boxes
01:08:04To make a note
01:08:05And reassure her
01:08:06That I'm all in on this
01:08:07And like
01:08:07When we have tough times
01:08:09Like I just keep telling you
01:08:10I'm here for you
01:08:11I want you to be
01:08:11The shoulder to cry on
01:08:12And like
01:08:12You know
01:08:13Whenever there is bad things
01:08:15Maybe sometimes I say
01:08:16Or like
01:08:17I don't want to hear it
01:08:18Or something like that
01:08:19But you know
01:08:20Well that's why I don't feel secure
01:08:23Because I'm like
01:08:24Well I can't bring that up
01:08:26So like how do I
01:08:27How can I be vulnerable
01:08:28And feel safe
01:08:29Because it's swept under the rug
01:08:31You know
01:08:32Do you shut down my feelings
01:08:34A lot of the time?
01:08:35Or are you?
01:08:35So myself
01:08:35I've never shut down your feelings
01:08:37Gia
01:08:37Never
01:08:37Okay well
01:08:38That's my perception
01:08:39And I feel like sometimes
01:08:40We'll talk about something
01:08:42And you just
01:08:43Don't listen
01:08:44And so then I just
01:08:45Stopped talking about it
01:08:46Because he says
01:08:47I'm arguing
01:08:48And I'm like
01:08:48Okay well I just like
01:08:49I'll just forget my feelings
01:08:50Let's just leave it
01:08:52Because then my brain is like
01:08:53Oh my god
01:08:54You're arguing again
01:08:55He's not going to fall in love with you
01:08:56And it's like
01:08:58It's like I can't win
01:08:59To be honest
01:09:00That's how I feel
01:09:06Well at last
01:09:08We've got the real
01:09:09Scott and Gia
01:09:11Sitting in front of us
01:09:12And isn't it interesting
01:09:14That
01:09:15Week after week
01:09:16You guys have sat here
01:09:17And said everything's fine
01:09:18We're a great couple
01:09:21Tonight
01:09:23You're exposing yourselves
01:09:26And everything isn't
01:09:27Great between the two of you
01:09:30Scott nearly
01:09:31Couldn't breathe tonight
01:09:33Because he was so scared
01:09:34About bringing
01:09:34An issue up with you Gia
01:09:37That's not healthy
01:09:40So
01:09:41It comes down
01:09:42To the two of you
01:09:43Are you prepared
01:09:44To do the work
01:09:45Hear things
01:09:47You might not like
01:09:48But know that
01:09:49When you hear those feelings
01:09:50You get closer
01:09:51Not further away
01:09:54But you've got to be real
01:09:56Over this next week
01:09:58Otherwise
01:09:58It is going to slip
01:10:00Through your fingers
01:10:04We're going to go
01:10:05To the decision
01:10:06Stay or leave
01:10:07And we'll go with you first
01:10:10Gia
01:10:11Um
01:10:13Yeah
01:10:14I think we needed
01:10:15To have this conversation
01:10:16Tonight
01:10:16Because
01:10:17We're at the end
01:10:18I don't want to
01:10:18Have any questions
01:10:20Unanswered
01:10:20And that's
01:10:21The same with
01:10:22Me saying
01:10:23That I love him
01:10:24And I just wanted to
01:10:25Just be
01:10:26Fully in
01:10:27So
01:10:28Anyways
01:10:29With that
01:10:30We'll take on
01:10:31Your advice
01:10:32This week
01:10:32And I'm going to
01:10:34Stay
01:10:35Love that
01:10:37What have you got
01:10:38Scott
01:10:38Stay or leave
01:10:40Obviously we've come
01:10:40So far
01:10:41This experiment
01:10:42And I honestly
01:10:42Appreciate the three of you
01:10:44For what you've done
01:10:45For us
01:10:45And how you've paired us
01:10:46And
01:10:47I was nervous
01:10:48Walking here tonight
01:10:48And I don't get nervous
01:10:50And I feel so light
01:10:51Right now
01:10:52Because
01:10:53We can both
01:10:54Have our say
01:10:56And I can
01:10:56I can tell you right now
01:10:58This is going to
01:10:58Help us so much
01:11:00So
01:11:00I'm excited for this week
01:11:02Because I just feel so happy
01:11:03Just after this conversation
01:11:05So I'm staying
01:11:05In the sun
01:11:06Because we're going
01:11:07To sunny Gold Coast
01:11:13So it's a big week
01:11:14Coming up for the two of you
01:11:15And I know it's hard
01:11:17For you as a couple
01:11:17But when issues
01:11:19Get brought up this week
01:11:20When you talk about
01:11:21The big stuff
01:11:22Try and be curious
01:11:25As opposed to defensive
01:11:28Alright
01:11:29Good luck
01:11:30Thank you
01:11:30Good luck
01:11:36Come on here
01:11:41Okay
01:11:42Okay
01:11:43Okay
01:12:06Tomorrow night
01:12:08What is going on here
01:12:10Chanel
01:12:10Shannon
01:12:11Oh no
01:12:13What
01:12:14James
01:12:15Antoni
01:12:16Oh my god
01:12:17What
01:12:17During the matchmaking process
01:12:19There was more than one person
01:12:21That our participants
01:12:22Were compatible with
01:12:24The unforgettable final test
01:12:26Is back
01:12:27Oh my god
01:12:28It is the ultimate test
01:12:29Of trust and security
01:12:31And this season
01:12:33The experts have upped the ante
01:12:35Like never before
01:12:36We are removing the element of choice
01:12:38From the final test
01:12:40Over two incredible nights
01:12:42I feel sick
01:12:43I feel like I'm going to pass out
01:12:47All our participants
01:12:48Will make their alternative matches
01:12:51I only date men
01:12:52That pay for money
01:12:53Let's get married
01:12:55Some will more than enjoy
01:12:56The fresh perspective
01:12:58Why do I always get the young ones
01:12:59I like it
01:13:01You've got to stop touching me
01:13:02Because if my wife sees this
01:13:03She's going to go
01:13:04No
01:13:05Before
01:13:07The biggest twist
01:13:11The experiment's ever seen
01:13:14Instagram screener
01:13:16Are you serious?
01:13:19That is disgusting
01:13:21Oh
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