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Married at First Sight (AU) Season 13 Episode 31
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00:00:00Previously...
00:00:01I want to go put my dad hat on and I would like to leave.
00:00:04Chris wanted to leave the experiment.
00:00:07Stay.
00:00:07Before the experts gave some sound advice for the pair to turn it around.
00:00:12With a weenus can come change.
00:00:15Treat each other in a friendly way.
00:00:18And then...
00:00:19All around Australia...
00:00:22Homestays Week saw our couples take what they've learnt in the experiment into the outside world.
00:00:29Passenger Princess!
00:00:31A successful visit to his hometown saw Stephen give Rachel reassurance for their future.
00:00:37I have caught up in my feelings for you.
00:00:39I can see myself falling in love with you one day.
00:00:42It really reaffirms the feelings are real, the feelings are neutral.
00:00:47You've always told me, like, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:51Well, deal with it.
00:00:53Philip confirmed he would move from Melbourne to live with Stella in Sydney.
00:00:57This is it, like...
00:00:59We are coming out stronger than we came in.
00:01:02It'd be better if that wasn't there.
00:01:04My house is way cleaner.
00:01:05I couldn't live here.
00:01:06It was a tense few days at Scott's home on the Gold Coast.
00:01:10What's that?
00:01:11Why is it pink?
00:01:12Is it your ex?
00:01:13It's not pink.
00:01:14Makes me feel like she doesn't trust me.
00:01:15You're in an experiment right now and you can't even voice how you feel.
00:01:18Scott finally asked Gia the hard questions about their relationship.
00:01:22Do you, like, fully 100% trust me?
00:01:25Do you know what I mean?
00:01:26Yeah, it's God.
00:01:26No, no, no, no.
00:01:27What I'm saying is, like...
00:01:28I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:32Tonight...
00:01:32Yay!
00:01:33So good.
00:01:33...homestays continues.
00:01:35Welcome home!
00:01:37You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it.
00:01:40You're abusing me over a joke.
00:01:42Pisses me off.
00:01:43What comment has Danny made that leaves Bec seeing red?
00:01:47I'm done.
00:01:48In Adelaide...
00:01:49The biological clock is ticking.
00:01:52You want to have a family and you don't want to keep putting it off.
00:01:57Alyssa's mum shares words of wisdom from her own life experience.
00:02:01It's really stressful now.
00:02:03It's a lot online.
00:02:04Alyssa is spiralling.
00:02:10Could this be the most awkward homestay ever?
00:02:19As things for Chris and Sam go from bad...
00:02:22Do you accept full responsibility for your defensiveness and the aggression I felt from you last week?
00:02:26..to worse?
00:02:31Um...
00:02:39With destinations far and wide, our remaining couples are on their way to homestays,
00:02:45where they will road test life together outside the experiment.
00:02:49We're here!
00:02:51We are here!
00:02:52The homestays have always been an essential part of the Married at First Sight experiment.
00:02:57We've just landed. I'm so excited to show David around my hometown.
00:03:02As our couples get a taste of their partner's natural environment, questions will arise.
00:03:07This is their chance to get to those answers before they head to their final vows.
00:03:17Brisbane-based David and wife Alyssa are arriving in her hometown of Adelaide.
00:03:23I can't believe I'm falling here, babe.
00:03:26Oh!
00:03:26Look!
00:03:27And for the nurse and social media businesswoman,
00:03:30the return to home turf is being met with a very special greeting.
00:03:35Look! Look who it is! Look who it is!
00:03:36Look who it is!
00:03:36Oh my gosh!
00:03:38That is nuts!
00:03:40Look who it is!
00:03:41It's me!
00:03:42Wow!
00:03:42It's me!
00:03:43Yeah, well, the pressure of this homestay has just doubled.
00:03:48I didn't realise how big of a deal Alyssa was until I saw a massive poster with her face on
00:03:54it.
00:03:54I was stunned and I'm still trying to take it all in.
00:03:57Like, are we going to walk down the street and get mobbed by a group of teen girls wanting to
00:04:01get Alyssa's autograph?
00:04:03Like, I feel like I'm with a celebrity in Adelaide.
00:04:07This is where I live.
00:04:09Is that it?
00:04:09Yeah, this is it here.
00:04:11I am Queen Adelaide.
00:04:12I live a very busy life.
00:04:15From nursing to all my client meetings, campaigns, deliverables.
00:04:20Welcome home!
00:04:21Wow, look at this!
00:04:23I'm so excited to be able to bring my husband here.
00:04:26Okay, here's our bedroom.
00:04:27And for him to be able to get a taste of, you know, my life.
00:04:31Massive couch.
00:04:33I don't even know where to sit.
00:04:35It's bigger than our apartment in Sydney.
00:04:38Lots of room for extra kids.
00:04:42I'm excited to show you around.
00:04:44I'm excited to go around too.
00:04:47Tell me more about this huge billboard.
00:04:49I was literally stunned.
00:04:51I was like, is that my wife literally the face of Adelaide Airport?
00:04:54Yeah, do you know what?
00:04:55That was a campaign I did like three years ago with this big king-sized bed that we wheeled around
00:05:00on the tarmac and it was just me modelling on this bed.
00:05:02By plane.
00:05:04And it was just such a fun campaign.
00:05:06You know, that's only just one thing that I've done and, you know, a part of like, my career.
00:05:13Seeing that at the airport, it was just like a wild moment.
00:05:16But despite Alyssa's clear connection to her hometown, the couple has no plans to move here after the experiment.
00:05:25I know Alyssa is very close to her mom.
00:05:27She's got her family here.
00:05:29The businesses and everything she does.
00:05:31But me and Alyssa spoke during feedback week of living in Sydney for a few years before we ultimately moved
00:05:38to Adelaide to start a family.
00:05:40I am a big city boy, so I feel way better about the Sydney idea.
00:05:44I'm from Brisbane, so we kind of meet in the middle.
00:05:48But right now, our relationship is hanging on the fact that, you know, Alyssa ultimately wants to raise a family
00:05:55in Adelaide.
00:05:56And, you know, if I can't see myself being here, there's no point leaving everything I've built in Brisbane to
00:06:02go on this journey to Sydney and then to Adelaide.
00:06:06Yeah, you have to get on one knee.
00:06:08When they met at the altar...
00:06:10We're not doing the vows until, until I get down.
00:06:14Alyssa and David found themselves in an unexpected standoff.
00:06:18You know, I gotta, you know, we'll see.
00:06:21But after an intense battle of wills, it was David who caved to pressure to give his wife what she
00:06:28wanted.
00:06:31Are you nervous for the experiment to end, Bode?
00:06:34I mean, look, I definitely don't take it lightly.
00:06:38Now, the plan for the Brisbane-based groom to relocate first to Sydney, then to Adelaide to raise a family,
00:06:45is proving another uncomfortable test.
00:06:49Figuring out where to live, it's not easy.
00:06:52Brisbane is definitely not on the cards for Alyssa.
00:06:55She said no, you know, and I mean, it is a sacrifice.
00:06:59My family and my friends and everything I've built is in Queensland, you know.
00:07:06I hope that, yeah, you can see, potentially see yourself here, you know.
00:07:12And if you can't, then, yeah, that's just something that we're going to have to navigate.
00:07:16I don't know, I hope that you just enjoy it, because long term, you know, I just, I want to
00:07:22have a family.
00:07:22And that is, you know, I want to be back here with my mum.
00:07:27It is, it's a huge deal.
00:07:29If David can't fit his life within my life, like that's going to cause troubles.
00:07:39Also in Adelaide...
00:07:41Oh, oh God.
00:07:43I'm scared.
00:07:44You okay?
00:07:45..Bec and Danny's homestay is already facing its first major test,
00:07:50as the Melbourne-based husband prepares to meet his wife's other great love.
00:07:56You ready to meet Coco?
00:07:58Where is she?
00:07:59Everything I do in life is for Coco.
00:08:01She is my daughter, she's my child, she is the most important thing to me.
00:08:05So if they don't get along...
00:08:06She's right here.
00:08:08..that'll be a huge spanner in the works for me.
00:08:10I need them to love each other.
00:08:15Oh, look at me!
00:08:18Hello?
00:08:19How many are you?
00:08:20Hello?
00:08:21That's Daniel!
00:08:22You want to say hello to me?
00:08:23That's Daniel!
00:08:25Hello?
00:08:26Oh, you're gorgeous, aren't you?
00:08:29She's, she's trying to make them wine, though.
00:08:32Hello?
00:08:33Oh, is that kisses?
00:08:34Oh, that's very nice.
00:08:36Oh!
00:08:37Yay!
00:08:37That's very nice!
00:08:39Here we got him, here we got him!
00:08:40I've got a kiss.
00:08:41Oh!
00:08:42I'm not joking.
00:08:44She's just not like that with men, ever.
00:08:46Yeah, no.
00:08:47It's a really, really good start.
00:08:49Like, I could not have asked for it to go any better.
00:08:52Look at this place.
00:08:53This is my living room.
00:08:54Comfiest couch.
00:08:56Sit on a dinner couch.
00:08:57The comfiest couch in the world.
00:08:58It's such a good feeling, just to see the love that Danny has for Coco.
00:09:03Is that nice?
00:09:04This is my garden, boo.
00:09:06This is so nice.
00:09:07Now he will hopefully fall in love with the idea of what his life could look like here.
00:09:12This is my bedroom.
00:09:13She's the size of this room.
00:09:16This is a nice bedroom, isn't it?
00:09:19Feels good being in Bec's home.
00:09:22She just seems softer, more relaxed.
00:09:26Obviously, some of the experiment has been a bit of drama and stuff like that.
00:09:30We're seeing Bec in her own home.
00:09:31She's very peaceful.
00:09:33It's nice to see Bec like that.
00:09:35I like that I buy my bedsheets to match my dog's colour.
00:09:38The aesthetic of it.
00:09:41I really do want Danny to like Adelaide.
00:09:43She loves a chest rub, don't you?
00:09:45This really is the time where we're going to decide where we're going to live.
00:09:50After the experiment ends, Daniel's been really vocal in telling me that he wants to come and move here.
00:09:58Because my family is here, you know, I've got a big house and, you know, with the dog and stuff
00:10:04like that.
00:10:04Feel comfy here, boo?
00:10:06Yeah, I feel very relaxed.
00:10:08I can picture him being here.
00:10:10I can't picture my life without him now.
00:10:12It's really scary to say, to be honest with you, but I can't imagine a world where he and I
00:10:18aren't together.
00:10:20I told you I was going to go find you a daddy.
00:10:24Thanks for the kiss.
00:10:27As Homestays gets off to a positive start in Adelaide,
00:10:31Sam and Chris are heading to Chris's southern New South Wales farm.
00:10:40In silence.
00:10:53In the city, I run a very successful PT business.
00:10:56Are they my vows?
00:10:57I know, right?
00:10:58I know.
00:10:58In the beginning, Sam and Chris's uncanny compatibility set the course for steady growth in their relationship.
00:11:06You've just, like, made a decision on how this is going.
00:11:08No, actually, no.
00:11:10That's not true.
00:11:11But in the past week, a disagreement about future plans proved impossible to resolve.
00:11:18It wasn't the first time I've witnessed you shutting me down, but it's the first time that I've spoken up
00:11:22about it.
00:11:25I am genuinely sorry that I hurt your feelings.
00:11:29I did not want to put pressure on you.
00:11:31Why are you laughing?
00:11:31Because I asked you to do this this morning and you couldn't.
00:11:34No, I'm doing it again.
00:11:34I'm doing it right now.
00:11:37A communication style has contributed to the real crisis that you're in now.
00:11:43After an intense commitment ceremony, Chris came to an abrupt decision.
00:11:48I actually decided that I need and I want to go put my dad hat on and I would like
00:11:53to leave.
00:11:55Now, with both husbands required to stay in the experiment for one more week, their issues remain as unresolved as
00:12:04ever.
00:12:16Uh, yeah, like it's a bit awkward in the car.
00:12:37How are you feeling about going to the farm?
00:12:40I'm excited to see the animals.
00:12:41Yeah, cool.
00:12:42Yeah.
00:12:51This is the last way I thought we'd be going to homestays.
00:12:54I mean, Chris and I, you know, we had a pretty smooth sailing the first few weeks.
00:12:59And then all of a sudden we had one speed bump and a week later, he wrote leave.
00:13:05And having him show me that he's done with the experiment kind of was a kick in the guts.
00:13:12Have you reflected much on like what the experts said and stuff?
00:13:15Of course.
00:13:16Yeah.
00:13:16Yeah.
00:13:17Yeah.
00:13:17Nice.
00:13:26The energy between us is awkward.
00:13:31Obviously, I understand there was a lot of shit that went down last week.
00:13:34I've had to apologise five times in total after our first little fight.
00:13:38But that's okay.
00:13:39I'm still here in the experiment.
00:13:41I took it on the chin and I've realised that I need to make some growth.
00:13:45We had some fun the next couple of days.
00:13:50It's been a bit heavy, you know what I mean?
00:13:52But it's one of those things that is going to be a process.
00:13:56I need us to not dwell on the past.
00:14:00You know, I've been pummeled enough for it.
00:14:03Probably do need to have some tough conversations at some point.
00:14:07You know, it's just about everything the experts said.
00:14:10Mm-hmm.
00:14:11So, yeah, hopefully we can move forward through home stays and see if we can try and change
00:14:15the energy and go down a positive route.
00:14:18Yeah.
00:14:21And now having arrived at Chris's farm in the southern highlands of New South Wales,
00:14:27the energy is still anything but positive.
00:14:36The car ride was super awkward.
00:14:38I said to Sam that I just want to try and have some fun over the next couple of days.
00:14:46But he did mention that he wants to have some tough conversations about my couch session.
00:14:54So, yeah, it's not great.
00:15:04All right, I'll give you the tour.
00:15:06There's a bathroom in there.
00:15:09Nice.
00:15:13Yeah.
00:15:17Oh, look, I just...
00:15:19Chris and I aren't in the best space, obviously.
00:15:22And then this is the second room.
00:15:24Oh, yes, bump beds.
00:15:26Yeah, yeah.
00:15:27Do you feel like you're going to bump your head on that or is it going to be okay?
00:15:32I'll be fine.
00:15:36Yeah, it looks like we are not sharing a bed.
00:15:39You know, you could tell he didn't want to do that.
00:15:41The main room's in here.
00:15:42So, yeah, I'll be in the spare room.
00:15:45Yeah.
00:15:46Which is good.
00:15:49Nice.
00:15:50Yeah.
00:15:53Great.
00:15:53Yeah.
00:15:54I said in the car that I want to have some big conversations and he didn't seem down for the
00:16:00idea and was like, he just wanted to have fun this weekend.
00:16:04These flowers are for you.
00:16:05And a little welcome to the farm card.
00:16:08Wow.
00:16:09But then I saw some flowers and a thank you card sitting there.
00:16:12And I just had a glimmer of hope.
00:16:14This is why he hasn't said anything yet.
00:16:16He's written it all into this card.
00:16:19Because he told me he's reflected a lot over the last few days.
00:16:26But it just said, welcome to the farm, Sam.
00:16:33What do you want to do first?
00:16:38See that land over there?
00:16:39Yeah.
00:16:40That's where the cows usually are.
00:16:44Yeah.
00:16:45Look, Chris wrote leave.
00:16:46But I think he kind of wants to sweep it under the rug.
00:16:49That'll do.
00:16:50Whatever your plan.
00:16:50This is your place.
00:16:51Yeah.
00:16:52And I can't just float through this weekend and be like, everything's fine when it's not.
00:16:56I'll introduce you to the cows and the horses and then...
00:16:59Yeah, let's do that.
00:17:00Yeah, we can just go for a bit of an adventure.
00:17:01Cool.
00:17:02I need to see him be like, I did f*** up, Sam.
00:17:04And I need to see him, like, suck up to me a bit.
00:17:07Alrighty.
00:17:11Instead was like, anyway, come see my cows.
00:17:16Like...
00:17:23Jesus, the size of this place.
00:17:24Family?
00:17:26It's like a mansion in here.
00:17:28How are you?
00:17:29Good to see you.
00:17:30Good to see you.
00:17:31Good to see you.
00:17:31In Adelaide, Bec has brought husband Danny to meet Aunty Helena and cousin Danielle.
00:17:37Hello.
00:17:37Lovely to meet you.
00:17:38Lovely to meet you.
00:17:40You too.
00:17:40Champion, how are you, mate?
00:17:41How are you?
00:17:42You good?
00:17:42Along with Dad Lee for a family get-together over lunch.
00:17:46He's never met my cousin Danielle before.
00:17:48She's a little bit older than me, but we've grown up together.
00:17:51Isn't it?
00:17:51Thanks so much.
00:17:52There we go.
00:17:54We treat each other like sisters.
00:17:56Cheers, Danny.
00:17:57Cheers.
00:17:57Nice to meet you.
00:17:58You too.
00:17:59Cheers.
00:18:00Cheers, kids.
00:18:01It's one of the most crucial things for me that my family like, love, accept Danny.
00:18:07Let's sit down.
00:18:08But I know that Dad and Aunty Helena like him already.
00:18:12When Bec's family last met Danny, the relationship was in crisis over an allegation made by Gia.
00:18:21One of the other brides here said that she asked Danielle, what is your type?
00:18:26And he said, someone like you that looks like you.
00:18:29Oh.
00:18:30It didn't happen?
00:18:31Never happened.
00:18:32But after accepting Danny's word on the matter, Dad Lee came to his son-in-law's support over concerns about
00:18:39Bec's outbursts during the crisis.
00:18:41I did have a chat with Bec and say, you're swearing and things like that.
00:18:46I said, I feel it's a bad reflection of you.
00:18:50Remember that those words aren't necessary.
00:18:55Last time I saw my family, I said to Dad, I'm just not too sure if Danny's into me.
00:19:00Where's everyone sitting?
00:19:02I know Danny was worried about my behaviour.
00:19:04True.
00:19:04I'll sit there and you two sit there.
00:19:06You're the head of the table.
00:19:07But ever since that moment, we've just come leaps and bounds.
00:19:11We've sort of gone through so much together that I actually have zero worries or doubts in my mind at
00:19:17all now.
00:19:19So Danny, how do you feel about Adelaide?
00:19:22I actually really like Adelaide, to be honest.
00:19:24Yeah?
00:19:24Yeah, it's been nice so far.
00:19:26This is the first time I've ever been to Adelaide.
00:19:28It's only been, how long?
00:19:30Just over 24 hours?
00:19:31Yeah, just over 24 hours.
00:19:33But so far, so good.
00:19:34First time?
00:19:35First time, yeah.
00:19:36Never been?
00:19:36Never been to Adelaide before.
00:19:38Bec gave me a tour of the city and stuff, but I like Adelaide.
00:19:41Yeah, it's nice.
00:19:43Could you see yourself living here?
00:19:48I could, yeah.
00:19:49I'd say so, yeah.
00:19:52We've kind of talked about it, and Daniel says that because my family is here, and my friends are here
00:20:00and stuff, that it would make most sense for him to move here.
00:20:05Big change.
00:20:06Is it though?
00:20:07I don't know.
00:20:08All your friends in Melbourne?
00:20:10And I've got my mates, but I can always fly back.
00:20:12It's only, it's less, how long's the flight?
00:20:14Less than an hour.
00:20:15Less than an hour.
00:20:16Less than an hour.
00:20:17Less than an hour.
00:20:17It doesn't really sit well with me, like, imagine if I was to say to Bec, come to Melbourne, and
00:20:22she leaves her whole family and her life, where I've not got family in Melbourne.
00:20:27Yeah.
00:20:27Do you know what you mean?
00:20:29You do have family.
00:20:30They're here.
00:20:32Absolutely.
00:20:33He's definitely moving to Adelaide.
00:20:36Very important.
00:20:37We have a big family, and we have a great time.
00:20:40So there's no way she's moving to Melbourne.
00:20:42He's definitely moving here if they're going to work out.
00:20:45Because we've talked about long distance, and it's not really an option, is it?
00:20:49I'd never do long distance, to be honest with you.
00:20:52I don't see the point.
00:20:53No, I tend to agree.
00:20:55You know?
00:20:56Like, it's not really something I'd want to do.
00:20:59At the commitment ceremony, I told him I loved him.
00:21:04Right.
00:21:05Dad's dying.
00:21:06Right.
00:21:07Yeah, that's okay.
00:21:09And now he calls himself Black Caviar.
00:21:10Do you know why?
00:21:11No.
00:21:11Because every single woman he's ever been with has told him that they love him first,
00:21:16and that's like, Black Caviar never missed.
00:21:19Never lost a race.
00:21:20No, but it was...
00:21:2425 group one wins in a row.
00:21:26I love it.
00:21:26I love it.
00:21:28I love it.
00:21:29It's a nice horse though, isn't it?
00:21:30Yeah.
00:21:33And then?
00:21:35Danny doesn't love me back.
00:21:39Yeah, well, I'm not going to sit there and lie.
00:21:42I'm not in love with you back yet.
00:21:45You can't say to someone you love them if you don't.
00:21:48Yeah.
00:21:48I think that's very rude and not a good thing to do.
00:21:55Danny, let's go, boy.
00:21:57Come out here, son.
00:21:58Let's go.
00:22:00Here we go.
00:22:02Are we going for a drink, Lee?
00:22:03Come out, because it's not that far for me to fall.
00:22:06Yeah.
00:22:08Honestly, I'll be honest with you, I hope it works.
00:22:11She's a great girl.
00:22:12She's a good girl, yeah.
00:22:13Yeah, she's good.
00:22:13She's a bloody good wife, to be honest with you.
00:22:16She's a...
00:22:17She dopes on me.
00:22:18A couple of weeks ago, she's like, what's your favourite pie?
00:22:22I said, oh, I love a chicken and mushroom pie.
00:22:24The next day, she's made it.
00:22:25And, like, she dopes on me, like, almost...
00:22:28Sometimes it's almost too much, to be honest with you.
00:22:34You told Danny that you loved him.
00:22:38Oh, here we go, yeah.
00:22:39And Danny didn't say it back.
00:22:41Yes.
00:22:42How do you feel about that?
00:22:44I'm okay with it.
00:22:46We had a...
00:22:47I'm okay with it.
00:22:48I'm okay with it.
00:22:50He shows me that he loves me in so many different ways.
00:22:55They'll tell you that he asked me to be his girlfriend the other day.
00:22:58It's like, it was just that little level of security.
00:23:02Danny asking me to be his girlfriend, it's really important.
00:23:06Is it important to you or not?
00:23:08I'm not gonna lie, not that important.
00:23:10Because, like, in the experiment, it means you're really...
00:23:13Like, this is really, really serious.
00:23:16What inspired you to ask Beck that question?
00:23:19Uh, I'm trying to think.
00:23:23He is so attentive.
00:23:25All my previous partners have said I've been really hard to, like, live with and deal with.
00:23:30Not him.
00:23:31You know, sometimes you do get into the back of your mind, shit, is he genuine?
00:23:35Not anymore.
00:23:36I don't think that anymore.
00:23:38No.
00:23:38But I was.
00:23:39It's very hard to go into this and think, is he genuine?
00:23:44Yeah.
00:23:44But I know the type of person he is and he would not be here right now if he wasn't.
00:23:52Look, I think she probably likes him more.
00:23:57But he's charismatic, he's warm, he likes to have a good time.
00:24:01We're a family of, you know, fun, warmth and closeness.
00:24:06He seems to bring all those elements.
00:24:08We like him, right?
00:24:10Yeah.
00:24:10He seems lovely.
00:24:12It's the first time I've met him and I really like him.
00:24:14Of course Danny's charmed that he's chucked on his maroon dinner jacket and popped his black caviar brooch on and
00:24:23he's on his way.
00:24:24I would love him and his friends to be in our family.
00:24:27I would too.
00:24:29He's one of them already.
00:24:30Like, I didn't think that I could feel stronger but now it's like, oh no, like, I really, really, really,
00:24:39really want this.
00:24:40And I think he wants it too.
00:24:41I don't know, I just feel like this is it.
00:24:50Also in Adelaide, Alyssa is bringing David to mum Belinda's and the home where she grew up.
00:24:56Hello.
00:24:57Hello.
00:25:01Despite being close, it's the first time Belinda's seen Alyssa since the wedding.
00:25:05Good to see you.
00:25:06Nice to see you.
00:25:07Hi Belinda, good to see you again.
00:25:10Thank you for having me at your home.
00:25:12I'm looking forward to having an opportunity to speak to Alyssa and David about how their relationship is going and
00:25:19what tomorrow might look like.
00:25:22Oh babe, do you want to get the platter?
00:25:23Yeah, of course.
00:25:24Because it's all coming into an end.
00:25:26And I would be very disappointed to not have my daughter here.
00:25:32Honestly, I'm so like, glad we can catch up again because on the wedding day, we didn't get a chance
00:25:38to talk.
00:25:38Yeah.
00:25:39The wedding.
00:25:40Oh my gosh.
00:25:42Couldn't believe that you both were at a standoff.
00:25:46I'm a shit stirrer.
00:25:48I'm just reckless.
00:25:50Couldn't believe she was digging her heels in and that you were digging your heels in.
00:25:55What was going through your mind?
00:25:57Oh, honestly, when she told me to get down on the knee, I didn't want to do it because I
00:26:01didn't want to show her that I was a pushover on the first day.
00:26:04Yeah.
00:26:05So yeah, I was like, no, surely she's joking.
00:26:07And then I looked at her and she wasn't flinching.
00:26:09No, she, I couldn't believe it.
00:26:11I love her dearly, but she can be too much for me.
00:26:16I'm happy to admit that I'm now my husband's pain in the ass.
00:26:20You know, he's having to put up with me now.
00:26:24It's actually amazing to be here.
00:26:28I get a good vibe from Alyssa's mum, which is very important to me because family is important.
00:26:33Is she too much?
00:26:34I don't think she is too much.
00:26:36I think she's, for me, it feels like someone that, you know, that I can see so much potential in.
00:26:43You know, I know she, she has a hard days, but that's why I've got two hands so I can
00:26:48carry her on those days.
00:26:50And I feel like the fact that we're still here, it just, it's a testimony to the connection we had.
00:26:55We have been through a lot.
00:26:56But yeah, I am excited for the future, but it's scary too.
00:27:00I am 33 years old.
00:27:02Obviously I want to settle down in Adelaide, but what are your thoughts about me moving to Sydney just for
00:27:08a couple of years?
00:27:13I would hate that.
00:27:17There you go, you asked, I said.
00:27:23Yes, I have concerns about having a plan to move for a year or two.
00:27:32You know, that has its risks.
00:27:35I worry about the fact that, you know, you want to have a family and you don't want to keep
00:27:42putting it off.
00:27:44You know, the goal is to find a forever partner and one day have a family.
00:27:52Unfortunately, the biological clock is ticking and we can't wait forever.
00:27:59A couple of years, you can say that just a couple of years, the next thing you know, it's five.
00:28:05I like David.
00:28:07He seems really nice.
00:28:08He's very respectful, but we don't want to be wasting time.
00:28:11We don't want to be playing games because that could possibly take away the opportunities you'll have of having a
00:28:22family one day.
00:28:27Coming up.
00:28:28You know, people sometimes take 10 years to fall pregnant.
00:28:31That's the truth.
00:28:32Yeah, I know.
00:28:32Alyssa's mum doubles down.
00:28:34I just feel torn and pulled and pushed.
00:28:37And Alyssa finds herself spiralling.
00:28:40It's really stressful.
00:28:41I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now.
00:28:45It's all just hit me.
00:28:55That doesn't make sense to me.
00:28:57It does.
00:28:58In Adelaide, Belinda has taken Alyssa aside for a one-on-one after hearing about her daughter's plan to move
00:29:04to Sydney and delay settling in her hometown to raise a family.
00:29:09Now, people sometimes take 10 years to fall pregnant.
00:29:12That's the truth.
00:29:13Yeah, I know.
00:29:14But, well, I don't know that yet.
00:29:15I've never tried.
00:29:15That's right.
00:29:16But you don't know that.
00:29:18So you don't have a couple of years to just take it easy and see how you go.
00:29:23I just see that year or two turning into five years or 10.
00:29:29Because I've seen it.
00:29:30I've seen it before.
00:29:32Not with Alyssa, but I've seen it with other people.
00:29:35You know, time goes quickly for us all.
00:29:39A couple of years?
00:29:40A couple of years.
00:29:41I think you've got a couple of years to wait.
00:29:44She's very honest.
00:29:45She's down the line.
00:29:46Like, she's very direct.
00:29:47She's like me in a lot of ways.
00:29:49And she knows me and my core.
00:29:53And also, if you start somewhere else for a little while, you could lose what you have
00:29:57here.
00:29:58And that is the catch-22.
00:30:00This is where I'm at.
00:30:01And then I'm having a mini mental breakdown, thinking this is getting really real.
00:30:04And there's a lot on the line.
00:30:06Like, I know there's, I just feel torn and pulled and pushed.
00:30:10Ultimately, I want to start a family here.
00:30:12So, this, it's a lot.
00:30:16There's just, I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now.
00:30:19And because it's getting so close to the end, it's all just hit me.
00:30:26He's so calm and so kind.
00:30:29You know, so calm and so kind.
00:30:31They're pretty good attributes.
00:30:32I know.
00:30:33And like, as much as I've been maybe a little bit of a pain in the arse, like, I can't
00:30:36shake
00:30:37him off.
00:30:38He just, he's like, I know that I'm good for you.
00:30:42And he stands by me and I'm like, ugh.
00:30:46I am definitely getting drunk feelings towards him.
00:30:48Like, I'm definitely falling for David.
00:30:50Like, falling in love with this person.
00:30:52And I might have to pack up, move to Sydney, and make that sacrifice.
00:31:03It's really stressful now on the line.
00:31:08Okay.
00:31:27Yeah, this is the cows.
00:31:39In the southern highlands of New South Wales, following an underwhelming welcome to the
00:31:46farm, the vibe between Sam and Chris is as awkward as ever.
00:32:08Come on.
00:32:10Come on.
00:32:12Come on, guys.
00:32:13Come on.
00:32:18Yeah, it's not what I wanted.
00:32:19You know, I didn't want to come out to the farm and have this awkward energy.
00:32:25So how are you liking the farm so far?
00:32:27Yeah, it's a beautiful place.
00:32:28Yeah.
00:32:29Beautiful part of the world.
00:32:31Stunning.
00:32:32Hey.
00:32:37I've also got, like, added pressure from outside the experiment.
00:32:40Like, the kids are coming and, you know, the farm.
00:32:42Yeah, it's very heavy.
00:32:44But, um, I want to take accountability and I want to make growth.
00:32:53So, that's what I'm doing.
00:32:58I know we had a rough week last week, so I just wanted to make sure that you feel at
00:33:02home
00:33:03as much as you can and, you know.
00:33:07I think we're a long way from you feeling at home here.
00:33:12I can't just float through this and be like, everything's fine.
00:33:15I'm pretty hurt.
00:33:17Like, last week, like, seeing your right leg so quickly, like, it's going to take a lot to come back
00:33:26from that.
00:33:26Um, yeah, it's, like, left me in a really, really tough place and it really sucks because coming out of
00:33:33the retreat,
00:33:34I thought we were in an awesome place.
00:33:36Yeah.
00:33:37Well, you said you've done some reflecting and stuff.
00:33:40What have you worked out?
00:33:43I mean, I heard the experts loud and clear and I've taken on board what they've said.
00:33:49Yeah, I realised that I probably could have been a bit calmer and not got as defensive and they did
00:33:55hold a mirror up in my face.
00:33:57And they actually made me realise as well, like, I've got a lot of work to do.
00:34:04And my reservation is whether, you know, whether it is going to be too much pressure for me.
00:34:11But I just, I just try to, without putting too much pressure on it, I just want to try and
00:34:16see if you and I can clear the energy over the next couple of days.
00:34:18I'm working as hard as I can to make you feel welcome.
00:34:21I mean, I'm trying my best.
00:34:23Yeah, awesome.
00:34:23That's awesome to hear.
00:34:26I'm proud of you.
00:34:27Yeah, thanks.
00:34:28Like, well done.
00:34:29Thank you.
00:34:30Yeah, it was really nice to see Chris actually has really had some time to reflect and really think about
00:34:35what the experts said and is starting to take that on board, which is great.
00:34:40I actually can be heard by Chris.
00:34:42And he does have the ability to listen and to take in and look at another person's perspective because I
00:34:50hadn't seen that side of him until now.
00:34:54Should we have a hug through the horses?
00:34:55We should shake that out.
00:34:56Yeah.
00:34:57Groove hug.
00:34:59That was really amazing.
00:35:01Sam and I just had a little cute little therapy moment.
00:35:04And, you know, I could feel his guard come down a little bit.
00:35:07It's the horses.
00:35:08They calm my energy.
00:35:10Yeah.
00:35:10Good to know.
00:35:12Obviously, I love the farm so much.
00:35:13This is my happy place and I just want to have a bit of fun now and see that playful
00:35:17side of him.
00:35:18If I'm bringing you out to the horses, you know what's coming.
00:35:20Yeah.
00:35:20If you need to chat with me, just take me to the horses.
00:35:22Yeah.
00:35:23We've got some fresh air.
00:35:24We're surrounded by animals and good vibes.
00:35:25So, yeah, maybe tomorrow we'll wake up in a better space.
00:35:28Thank you guys for mediating.
00:35:30Thank you.
00:35:31Yes.
00:35:33Better than the experts.
00:35:34I know.
00:35:36While Sam and Chris are enjoying the benefits of time in nature.
00:35:40So far so good, hey?
00:35:41You happy boo?
00:35:43So far so good.
00:35:44Bec and Danny are settling into city life and all that it has to offer.
00:35:48Here's to Adelaide.
00:35:51Yeah.
00:35:52I don't know why you're laughing.
00:35:54Here's that.
00:35:55Yeah, obviously seeing family.
00:35:56We've had a really good day today.
00:35:58Um, Adelaide's been nice so far.
00:36:00Her auntie lives three minutes away.
00:36:02Her dad lives three minutes away.
00:36:03Her cousin lives five minutes away.
00:36:05But they're all so close.
00:36:07It's like a family, close-knit family here in Adelaide.
00:36:12Is Coco allowed a bit of, um...
00:36:14Cabana?
00:36:15Cabana.
00:36:15Yeah, she loves a piece of salami as well though.
00:36:18Coco, she's a sweetheart.
00:36:20So, um, yeah, I'm just, uh, I'm just enjoying it.
00:36:23Do you feel like there's a lot of pressure?
00:36:26I don't really feel like there is.
00:36:28Because if you don't want to live in Adelaide, I'll move, I'll live in Melbourne.
00:36:32I don't really feel like there's pressure.
00:36:36Do I look like a man who feels pressure?
00:36:39I am an animal.
00:36:45Like, sometimes you're...
00:36:46Because we're still in this experiment.
00:36:48No, sometimes your brain can block out pressure.
00:36:54Nice and peaceful here though, ain't it?
00:37:03F***ing hell, is there another flame?
00:37:06It's a flight path.
00:37:10i feel like i'm like seriously i actually feel like we've worked so hard
00:37:16to get to this point
00:37:21get good and i'll say the least though aren't you
00:37:26you wouldn't want to be a night shift worker living here would you
00:37:36point of contention in mine and danny's relationship is that in some serious situations he will
00:37:43crack a joke but i know that it's a defense mechanism you think he's just plainly cool
00:37:49hundred percent definitely why do boys do that and look at us in comparison with some
00:37:57other couples honestly you know i'm proud of us too because like the the patience i've
00:38:04had to have to stick with you do you know what you mean i've got the patience of a saint
00:38:11boys are just annoying and they mess with your head but for me i definitely feel like danny's
00:38:17probably holding off on telling me he loves me i think he's very much hoping to find the
00:38:22right time i mean i know he loves me already i know he does
00:38:40as the sun sets on another day of homestays it was a lot yeah i can imagine alissa is still
00:38:49reeling following an emotional lunch with mum belinda
00:38:53yeah it was a lot today but i'm glad that you got got along with my mom and she had
00:38:57nothing
00:38:57but like praise you know she she really likes you i can see a lot of uh positive like traits
00:39:04she's she's giving you for sure and that's that's definitely one of them just she's just
00:39:09a straight shooter she knows who i am and and what i need yeah there's definitely things
00:39:15that mum's brought up today that i know that i need to you know really consider yeah like it's
00:39:23it's huge yeah it's a lot like i i just forgot i forgot how much i have here and like
00:39:31i can't
00:39:31just pack up and go i think i'm just getting very overwhelmed with what you know what i have
00:39:41at stake here and what i could potentially be walking away from so i'm at a bit of a catch
00:39:46-22
00:39:47right now and i've got to mentally take it one day at a time right now because otherwise i'm gonna
00:39:51overwhelm my brain alissa is literally spiraling she's already freaking out about having to move
00:40:00to sydney i don't take it lightly i've got a lot to consider as well i know alissa doesn't have
00:40:05much
00:40:06time you know she wants to be a mom but i feel like this marriage could work if we both
00:40:13just
00:40:14stop stressing and just keep doing what we're doing i know that the clock is ticking and all that
00:40:20you know but all i can do is say like you know day by day i'll show like that i
00:40:27am here for long
00:40:28and we're just gonna have to take it as it comes i know it's just like it's just everything it's
00:40:33it's just the way our relationship works you know i have to normally be the one to emotionally anchor
00:40:39alissa a lot of times and that's what's happening here again
00:40:50across town at the end of a long night beck and danny are still reflecting
00:40:55on the success of time spent with beck's loved ones
00:41:00you appreciate the family dynamic of course because i haven't got no family out here so of
00:41:06course i appreciate it on that note i wanted to obviously say thank you for showing me adelaide
00:41:15and letting me into your world obviously you've took me into your house and that's not an easy
00:41:20thing to do um it was easy for me
00:41:25well some some people might have found it harder but oh yeah i wanted to thank you for showing me
00:41:30your city and welcome welcome me into open arms with your family my thing i've never told you in
00:41:37in the past is like with because i haven't got no family out here when i'm with a partner i
00:41:43take
00:41:44their family on as like my own yeah so honestly it means the world to me and i really want
00:41:49to thank
00:41:50you for that
00:41:54really what do you mean really of course thank you and cheers
00:42:21when danny opens up to me and tells me how he feels about his time in adelaide i love it
00:42:25it's beautiful it's what i want to hear it's how i feel it's how he feels it's amazing
00:42:32i
00:42:35like i relish in those moments
00:42:37the way your family have been welcome to me with open arms they've been very respectful and
00:42:43really like generous
00:42:45i feel like probably the luckiest girl in the world at the moment to have homestays going as well as
00:42:51they
00:42:51are going danny loves my family and my family loves him so so now all i need is for danny
00:43:01to tell me he
00:43:01loves me that would be the most amazing thing ever
00:43:12but like if my family felt the need to
00:43:16have hard conversations with you they would but you give them a sense of comfort and stability that
00:43:25you give me and they can see that
00:43:35i think obviously because danielle fancied me she didn't want to
00:43:42i'm joking i'm joking it's like a serious moment
00:43:48oh my god it's gone down like a lead balloon
00:43:53sometimes we need like a moment where like it's not all a joke you know
00:44:02we've talked about it over and over it's a defense mechanism of danny's
00:44:06he he feels really strongly and then all of a sudden he wants to throw in a joke and make
00:44:13a
00:44:13mockery of the situation and it pisses me off i cracked the joke i always crack jokes
00:44:20i crack jokes 24 7. you're acting like i'm mr serious i'm mr albert einstein and then i
00:44:26cracked an out-of-pocket joke it wasn't like that big who's going to get it but like
00:44:31he's going to get to his home yeah thanks big yeah really thanks for that every joke
00:44:50i think obviously because danielle fancied me she didn't want to like
00:44:57i'm joking i'm joking it's like a serious moment oh my god it's gone down like a lead balloon
00:45:08sometimes we need like a moment where like it's not all a joke you know i crack the joke i
00:45:17always
00:45:18crack jokes who's going to get but like if you say something nice thanks yeah ready thanks for that
00:45:25every trade in the edit what are you talking about this is real life
00:45:31he's more worried about how he looks on camera now because he knows he made a mistake
00:45:35he says you and me there's a camera in my face and you're abusing me over a joke dude there's
00:45:40a camera in my face and you're making a joke of what i'm saying it's serious for me this relationship
00:45:45is serious for me so when he is making a mockery of the situation that we're in it pisses me
00:45:53off and
00:45:54it's those moments where he doesn't take things seriously that makes me second guess and go oh god like
00:46:01what if he's not into me i might be looking like a fool who's just like grasping onto those tiny
00:46:10bits
00:46:10of seriousness i'm danny i always crack jokes 24 7 and i cracked another joke it diminishes it
00:46:19don't do that to me don't do it if you feel that it's good say it's good and then don't
00:46:27talk about
00:46:27it i just said it was i know but you joked about it yeah but beg it doesn't matter i
00:46:32don't care
00:46:32there's a time for serious and there's a time for joking
00:46:39and i tried to open up and show my more vulnerable side which i'm not good at
00:46:44i find it a bit cringe but i wanted to do it for her because i know it'd be special
00:46:47for her and so i cracked the joke to sort of lighten my mood you can say something really
00:46:54nice just listen let's talk about it later no and then the joke was just met by her just coming
00:47:02at me
00:47:04you say something really nice and then i go to respond and you make a joke about what i'm saying
00:47:09diminishes the whole situation the joke is the joke but like the moment was maybe we're both bad
00:47:16at cracking jokes no you crack jokes when you shouldn't be there's a time and a place and you
00:47:21haven't done that yeah um i'm actually with them mind playing can i have you guys over here please
00:47:29at the retreat she cracked a bad joke we've had i love you's and we've had finger bangs so like
00:47:38it landed wrong in front of the whole group no no no i think it wasn't appropriate i backed her
00:47:46wholeheartedly i went against the whole group for days we had it moving forward we can't go back
00:47:52but moving forward let's try and be better and then for her to do the exact same to me
00:47:58to like go at me over a joke is so frustrating
00:48:05you should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say oh your cousin
00:48:10wants to me like i never said that don't put words in my mouth i never said your cousin wants
00:48:18to f you
00:48:19name it when she's in that mode i can't speak to her i just feel lost like i can't speak
00:48:26to her
00:48:26and i thought that side of her had left because we spoke about it she's put so much work into
00:48:31herself
00:48:32but to see it just come out it's obviously still there still fully alive it's a poorly time joke
00:48:40dude like just take on board and i'm taking it on and take take what i'm saying thank you don't
00:48:49say
00:48:49thank you it's not saying thank you but take what i'm saying as seriously stop saying saying thank you
00:49:05yeah i'm done that's fine this is what i mean yeah good luck for me for the rest of the
00:49:15night getting
00:49:16crucified i don't want to be here right now i don't want to be here with her right now i
00:49:23feel very
00:49:24uncomfortable being here because i'm in her realm her house i'm just here by myself i've got none of
00:49:32my friends here none of my family here and if she can just turn on me like that i'm not
00:49:37sure if i'd
00:49:37want to move here and i was very open to the idea but i don't know about that now
00:49:51in adelaide i just like miss her so much she's been bridesmaids beck and adriana are on their
00:49:57way to meet a still spiraling alissa and husband david for drinks oh i'm terrified everything's just
00:50:07too much on my head last night alissa started literally spiraling
00:50:17hello how are you how are you how gorgeous wow so good to see you it would be good to
00:50:22talk to
00:50:22alissa's closest and nearest um adriana and beck are you even well i've been well yeah i'm good we are
00:50:28both putting on a brave face but right now the vibes are not vibing and you know i'm hoping that
00:50:34today
00:50:35will will change that tell me what's been going on uh it's all been going like really well for us
00:50:42but now we're getting to the end of the experiment and i feel like you know we've been living in
00:50:48our
00:50:48little bubble in sydney and now it's yeah it's hitting you guys a little bit more yeah yeah big time
00:50:55i will be honest with you like i i started to spiral
00:51:02because you know we said we'd move to sydney if it was going well
00:51:08what the did she just say yeah sorry i haven't don't get sydney i haven't even spoken to your
00:51:12girls about it like softened up and that's something we've discussed but the thing is
00:51:19landing in adelaide it's hit home i have so much here yeah it's so much that i'm putting on the
00:51:23line
00:51:24um you know i have a career that i've built a business that i've built the other thing that i've
00:51:30got like i want to have a family don't want to miss out on being mum and if we're going
00:51:36to make this
00:51:37thing work after the experiment david might have to move to adelaide like you know at the moment like
00:51:46could you see yourself living here to be honest yeah i'm not gonna lie i feel like i i'm at
00:51:58the
00:51:58point where you know if i had to you know take that risk i'm ready to do it right now
00:52:03i feel like she's
00:52:04the one i'm ready to go all in it is slightly overwhelming you know moving to adelaide is not a
00:52:10small feat but i have sacrificed so much to come on to this experiment and i want to see it
00:52:18through
00:52:19i'm scared and i even said that to him today like the big question for me now is is that
00:52:24enough for
00:52:25alyssa i've laid all my cards out but i can only meet her as far as she's willing to meet
00:52:31me
00:52:35i know that you're willing to move here which is great but i don't know i feel like i'm getting
00:52:41overwhelmed with it you're like literally overwhelmed i am i am i am because it's like
00:52:47a lot because a lot i'm spiraling because i'm scared yeah and i'm spiraling in my head because
00:52:54it's becoming very real and i want to make sure david's like the right person
00:52:58i want to make sure that you know i guess we'll just time will tell
00:53:04alyssa i'm really sorry babe i have to ask this to you you sat here and you've talked a lot
00:53:09about
00:53:09what your wants and needs are and you've talked a lot around your career progression
00:53:18what about yeah david what about david and that's the other thing because like that is the other
00:53:22thing right now this is too good to be true like and that is also another reason why i'm scared
00:53:28too
00:53:29alyssa is definitely self-sabotaging i think and i think david is a very patient person
00:53:34but everyone has their limitations i don't i just just i'm overthinking everything 100 alissa's friends
00:53:45pointed out very honestly that you know alissa has made it all about her when you've put all your cards
00:53:53on the table for someone and they're still unsure and they need more confirmation it's sort of like
00:53:59wait a minute you know i have sacrificed a lot already just by telling alyssa that i'm ready to
00:54:05come to adelaide i'm ready to do this i'm ready to do that and if alyssa still questions my intentions
00:54:11at this point in the experiment then we're just not for each other it's like just take it down a
00:54:17notch
00:54:17for yourself for a second right but i think what he's proven to you is he is stable he is
00:54:22calm and
00:54:23he's here and he's showing up for you which are three things yeah that you had not had i know
00:54:29in
00:54:29a really long time so first of all take that win okay second it's a win it's a big it's
00:54:35a massive
00:54:35it's a big win obviously there's a bit of like you know this and that going on bit of bit
00:54:40of sort
00:54:40of like we're unsure but i think there's actually they're falling for each other i think you need to
00:54:46stop putting the pressure on right now you just have to keep the spark going between the two of
00:54:51you see how your lives integrate and time and remember that if you have something special this
00:54:58is the point of life i think he's handling it all really well and i think they could go all
00:55:04the way but
00:55:04i think there's got to be some give and take from like probably elisa to make that happen david
00:55:11actually is everything that you've asked i know you will be loved and supported that's going to be
00:55:17the test for both of them
00:55:26as elisa and david navigate a crisis of confidence
00:55:32back at the farm sam too has found himself spiraling following a difficult start to the day
00:55:39um i'm not i'm not feeling great i woke up and like chris wasn't here like he went to the
00:55:47gym
00:55:47and didn't even message my phone yeah i guess just being here and knowing how beautiful this place is
00:55:54and how much i would love to live here but then not feeling that i'm really a priority it's a
00:56:00bit of a
00:56:01concern i don't know like i find that very selfish behavior coming up to accept full responsibility
00:56:09for your defensiveness and the aggression i felt from you last week chris's misdemeanors resurface
00:56:15yeah in the form of a book do you see that breaking this behavior means letting go of ego i
00:56:21honestly
00:56:21felt like i was um 15 getting in trouble by a teacher or something yeah you can take the list
00:56:26to someone else it's not my vibe
00:56:34a controversial sign while filming here's where people are upset now the sign says quote you may
00:56:41be captured on film and if you think you are fit and or attractive enough to feature in the background
00:56:46please make yourself known to our production team justin is it just a joke are they just sort of you
00:56:51no it's a very bad one the public's response to the sign i mean i was not expecting that they
00:56:58don't
00:56:59want to have an instagram clip with someone of a normal size in the background right the amount of
00:57:04response the amount of articles the level of um anger people got to i thought it was kind of funny
00:57:09the last thing we want in this world is reality tv producers sort of picking who's good looking and
00:57:16who's not good looking i honestly laughed when we were filming the part with the sign i didn't really
00:57:20think anything of it does anyone think this is just a joke no it's not a joke they mean it
00:57:24i'll do that
00:57:25oh absolutely
00:57:47the last thing we want in this world is reality tv picking who's good looking and who's not
00:58:03what a day already set up yeah and has set aside the afternoon for some quality time with husband sam
00:58:11chin chin chin um yes we're about to have a scotch by the fire um two of my favorite things
00:58:18i'm so
00:58:19excited it's been such a big day today you can probably tell i'm a little bit happier it's just my
00:58:24vibe i love it out here so much i'm not a city boy and this really helps my mental health
00:58:29it gives
00:58:29me clarity you know last night i was making sam dinner and i kind of had a reminder of what
00:58:35those
00:58:36feelings were like in the beginning looking at his face and just you know wanting to like kiss it so
00:58:41yeah it's been great for me there's a glimmer but i mean i'm having the best time and i love
00:58:46having
00:58:46you're here and everything so yeah but while life on the farm appears to be working its magic on chris
00:58:53sam is still struggling with doubts after being left to fend for himself all morning
00:58:59all day um yeah no it's cool here yeah i'm glad you like it not for everybody but um yeah
00:59:18yeah it's a nice life
00:59:27it's the last night of homestays right um i think we need to like really i don't know if it's
00:59:32like cut the bullshit and just make sure we're being super super honest with each other yeah
00:59:36obviously like last week i think both of us were pretty checked out from each other um for obvious
00:59:41reasons with the whole commitment ceremony and stuff like that so i mean i don't think i checked out i
00:59:46think the reason i was so hurt is because i was very checked in yeah um so i wrote some
00:59:55questions
00:59:55down and maybe we could just be like really raw and honest with each other about all the answers
01:00:04um would you mind if we went through the questions yeah cool okay okay get him yeah
01:00:10sam loves to really dig deep
01:00:13um whereas i was actually just looking forward to kicking back and relaxing i don't know what's
01:00:17coming oh my glasses okay you ready um yeah so the first question is do you accept full responsibility
01:00:32for your defensiveness and the aggression i felt from you last week
01:00:37um what are you referring to uh like the way you treated me at the dinner party the rolling your
01:00:43eyes the like i guess sass you were giving me about what happened even on the couch before yeah
01:00:52do you think it was fair what the experts said to you on the couch because for me their feedback
01:00:57felt
01:00:57accurate yes do you realize my awkwardness and silence towards you was a direct result of your
01:01:06behavior not me being cold for no reason yes do you understand why i raised that issues at the dinner
01:01:14party i was scared to bring them up with just the two of us because of the way you've been
01:01:17reacting
01:01:18i do now yes um do you see that breaking this behavior means letting go of ego and actually
01:01:26unpacking why you react like that uh yes and we've i feel like we've gone through this yeah yeah
01:01:32i'm so over it like honestly i'm so over it like you've seen how hard i worked on a daily
01:01:37basis
01:01:38i've got so much going on um i'm so over it can you promise me that if i bring up
01:01:44my feelings and
01:01:44give you feedback you won't speak to me like that again yes i promise you don't have to agree yeah
01:01:50no i agree i just i feel like we've just i've already suffered enough from this um it's not good
01:01:57no i hate i hate that and i and i hate that it was written down i honestly felt like
01:02:03i was um 15
01:02:04getting in trouble by a teacher or something i mean we can stop this no keep let's let's go through
01:02:09it okay
01:02:14do you um do you have feelings for me um okay okay um you know um
01:02:28well i don't want to dwell on the the negatives of the past and i just want to put my
01:02:33dad hat on
01:02:34and i just want to focus on the positives um yeah i mean i i feel like with you saying
01:02:42i want to put my
01:02:42dad hat on like i i kind of want to be someone's number one priority yeah i think i've realized
01:02:47i
01:02:48understand i think i've realized that being here
01:02:53i think my feelings are like like they're pretty gone i
01:03:03i can't see this working
01:03:16i think my feelings are like they're pretty gone
01:03:26i can't see this working
01:03:32um sam and i have just broken up
01:03:35yeah um i appreciate you being honest i think this is what we needed i feel like um
01:03:40yeah i wasn't expecting that but also i'm actually kind of glad it's all good i'm not used to someone
01:03:48bringing out a book with like a list of um questions for me it's not how i roll
01:03:53i've apologized seven times in total for that now yeah it's probably the answer that we both knew was
01:04:00you know we both knew it in the back of our mind it's it's bittersweet and you know the sweet
01:04:05part
01:04:05is a i think we learn a lot about ourselves so yeah it's sad but it's also it's also a
01:04:10touch of sweet
01:04:11yeah i'm letting it go as well just to be clear yeah but it's like you know it's all good
01:04:19yeah it's not how i envisioned it would end i'm a little annoyed to be honest
01:04:28yeah i really thought chris would fight for me a bit yeah anyway look it is what it is
01:04:42you want a hand packing no i should be fine
01:04:49um yeah it kind of sucks
01:04:53and i still wonder what the real reason is that he didn't fight for it at all
01:05:00um do you want my honest opinion uh i've tried my hardest um i have made growth
01:05:07but yeah that wasn't good enough so yeah there is a part of me that's looking forward to the next
01:05:14journey and my next love and that's my children but um yeah you can take the list to someone else
01:05:28tomorrow night throughout this experiment i have been patient but when you're dealing with the mom the
01:05:34family friends they all said that i'm a great guy for her and she still sees negatives there's nothing
01:05:41else i can do as david reached his limit that's the first time i've ever heard you say that you
01:05:46need
01:05:46space you never say space it's the second last dinner party of the experiment i can see we can do
01:05:55life together i feel a lot more confident now that we can take this out onto the outside had rachel
01:06:00and steven become this year's new power couple who would have thought who would have thought
01:06:07the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him but babe you've been
01:06:12aggressive too at the dinner parties tensions rise when sam and chris air their concerns you're
01:06:17in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behavior honey and i've never been aggressive
01:06:22to you and then i think like for me as a man i feel like oh god oh my god
01:06:31what are you on now
01:06:33it's the shock debate that will divide the table that was not what i was getting at are we serious
01:06:40for this
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