00:00Unacceptable.
00:01Rude.
00:02No.
00:04Have you ever done it?
00:05Mmm, maybe in a taxi.
00:08Hi, I'm Sandra Bernhardt,
00:10and this is Common Courtesy with Town & Country.
00:16Do I think I have good manners?
00:18I've learned them over the years.
00:21Do I like confrontation?
00:23Only when I know I'm gonna win.
00:26Chronic name droppers.
00:28Well, it's hard to like really call people out on that now
00:31because it's usually on social media.
00:33So I figure, why bother?
00:35You know, I just, everybody knows everybody these days.
00:39Do you like to name drop?
00:41No, I do not like to name drop.
00:44Me?
00:46Unsolicited fashion advice.
00:48I mean, I try not to give it,
00:50and I certainly don't like to get it.
00:53Occasionally, my daughter will tell me
00:54that she doesn't like something,
00:55and I'll listen to her, because why not?
00:58She's young and smart, and she's got good taste.
01:01She just might say,
01:03Mom, wear something tighter.
01:07Being called the wrong name by an A-lister.
01:11No, I don't bother to correct you. I don't care.
01:14Well, you know, I always get Sarah Bernhardt
01:17because of Sarah Bernhardt, who was, you know,
01:20the actress of the turn of the last century.
01:22Although I don't have a T on the end of my name,
01:24so I'm always like, I just let it ride. Who cares?
01:26And having the name Sandra,
01:28often people call me Saundra or Saundra,
01:30but now I just go by Sandy anyway,
01:32so I've alleviated all the potential unhappiness
01:37and discomfort.
01:39Asking a comedian to say something funny
01:43is akin to asking a surgeon to remove a spleen on the street.
01:49Strangers who overshare.
01:50Well, I get that all the time,
01:52because people know that I'm empathetic and open,
01:55and I don't mind it, because a lot of time,
01:57I think people just are right on the edge now more than ever.
02:00And if I can be a little, you know, helpful
02:03in smoothing their emotions,
02:05what's five minutes of my time?
02:08Worst-dressed lists.
02:10I've never been on a worst-dressed list,
02:12and that's, I'm really proud of that.
02:14Of course you talk about what people are wearing to award shows,
02:17but I do it in the comfort of my own home,
02:19and I'm certainly not going to be somebody to weigh in,
02:22you know, on social media. No. Mm-mm.
02:25But I don't think anybody cares anymore,
02:27because anything goes.
02:29Getting served the wrong meal.
02:31I mean, unless I'm on a plane
02:33and they don't bring me my kosher dinner,
02:35I won't say anything.
02:37How could somebody bring you the wrong meal?
02:39Do you send it back?
02:40Well, I mean, if I ordered, like, chicken piccata
02:43and they brought me a pork chop,
02:44I'd probably send it back, yeah.
02:47FaceTiming in public.
02:49Unacceptable.
02:50Rude.
02:51No.
02:52Have you ever done it?
02:55Mm, maybe in a taxi,
02:57but not, not like on the street as I'm walking.
03:00I try not to do that.
03:0199% of the time I'm not on my phone when I'm on the street,
03:05because you've really got to be on your game,
03:06especially in New York City.
03:08Blocking someone on social media.
03:10I do that occasionally when people start responding
03:13to what I believe politically,
03:15but I'm like, why are you following me?
03:17And why do you care?
03:17Why are you interacting with me?
03:19You can do whatever you want.
03:20I'm not going to interact with you,
03:22so occasionally I'll block.
03:24Usually I let it go,
03:25because then they just lose interest anyway.
03:27You never hear from them again.
03:30Getting a solo upgrade when traveling with someone,
03:33ooh, that's tough.
03:36It's happened a couple of times.
03:38You know, once in a while when you're traveling,
03:41you're exhausted and you want to lay in a flat,
03:43you know, chair, you're going to take it.
03:47I just pay for business class seats,
03:48because I can't.
03:49That was a promise I made to myself after COVID.
03:52I will never sit and coach again.
03:55It's the name of my next book.
03:57What's your biggest pet peeve on planes?
03:59Obviously when somebody's sitting next to you
04:00and they're obnoxious,
04:02or like watching a violent movie,
04:04and then of course you immediately start watching
04:06the movie with them,
04:07and you're like, why did you play this horrible movie?
04:11Spotting someone who clearly doesn't want to be seen.
04:14I mean, I don't think that happens very often for me,
04:17because usually if I see somebody,
04:19they want to see me and I want to see them.
04:21So I don't think that's applicable
04:22to anything I've experienced.
04:25Belated birthday messages.
04:27Sometimes it just happens.
04:28I mean, you know, I've had what I thought
04:31was the proper birthday date in my phone,
04:35and it turns out when I put it in,
04:37it was a day or two off,
04:38and it's like better a little belated than not at all.
04:41Is there somebody you always forget?
04:43Yeah, my friend Vicki Lowe over in the UK.
04:46I think I finally got her in the right date.
04:49It's in December.
04:51She's a Sagittarius and she's a doll,
04:53and I promise Vicki I'll never forget it again.
04:57Someone insisting they've met you before.
05:00That's a good one.
05:01Well, of course that happens with me a lot,
05:03because I might have met somebody and I don't remember,
05:07so I kind of go along with it.
05:08All the years I've been performing on the road,
05:10on a movie set, you know, on an airplane,
05:13I go, oh, God, yeah, it's so great to see you again.
05:15I just play along.
05:17I mean, what have I got to lose?
05:19Showing up in the same outfit as someone else.
05:22Well, that usually doesn't happen to me,
05:24but I've seen it for sure at a party or an award show,
05:29and you're like, oh, my God, that's so uncomfortable.
05:31But again, who cares?
05:33If you went to a store and you bought an outfit
05:35or somebody loaned it to you and then somebody else,
05:38that probably wouldn't happen at an award show
05:39because nobody would loan out the same thing.
05:42So it really hasn't happened to me,
05:44although I think when you're wearing jeans
05:46and, you know, a T-shirt,
05:48isn't that sort of a universal outfit that everybody wears?
05:51I mean, I guess we've all been in that situation at some point,
05:55but who really cares?
05:59You don't seem like you're afraid of confrontation.
06:01No, I'm not.
06:02You can't be a performer
06:04and been up in front of the various, you know,
06:08obnoxious people in the audience that I have
06:10and not be able to, like, hold your own.
06:14Nothing fazes me.
06:16Little does in the world we're living in.
06:19Thank you so much for watching
06:21and make sure you check out my fabulous cover
06:24of Town & Country.
06:36I'm not sure you're right.
06:38I'm a big fan the impression I have
06:39and I'm happy to check out my lovely connection.
06:39And I'll see you next time,
06:43Bye-bye.
06:44Bye-bye.
06:45Bye.
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