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Kirsten Dunst admits she’s nonconfrontational when it comes to handling delicate situations—but that doesn’t mean she’s short on opinions. In this episode of “Common Courtesy,” Town & Country’s September cover star weighs in on the etiquette of modern life, from her unapologetic embrace of sweatpants to her preference for a text over a handwritten thank-you note (who has the time?). The Academy Award–nominee also shares why she rarely sits through her own films, how she handles unintentionally matching outfits with her husband Jesse Plemons, and where she stands on micro-trends, small talk on a flight, and the surprisingly resourceful art of regifting.

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Transcript
00:00Rude gifting, resourceful or rude?
00:02I think it's resourceful.
00:05They don't have to know.
00:06Hi, I'm Kirsten Dunst, and this is Common Courtesy
00:10for Town & Country.
00:12How do I handle delicate situations?
00:16I am definitely a non-confrontational person, yes.
00:19It takes me a few days, and then I'll come to the person
00:21with the thoughtful, you know, I've taken the time,
00:25and I come with my issues.
00:28Attending the carpet and leaving before the screening.
00:31That's funny.
00:32I often do the carpet and then go to dinner
00:35while everyone's watching the movie and then come back.
00:37Because I can see a movie I'm in once, maybe twice
00:42if you have to sit through it, like at a festival.
00:44But I would much rather go to dinner.
00:47Matching couple outfits.
00:49We unconsciously do this a lot.
00:51One of us changes, though.
00:53I'm not going to roll out of this thing like,
00:55oh, you're wearing a blue plaid shirt,
00:56I'm wearing a blue plaid shirt, you're wearing jeans,
00:58I don't want to match with my husband.
01:03Showing up perpetually 10 minutes late to set.
01:05I think 10 minutes is fine.
01:07And no one ever waits for me.
01:09So I wake up like five minutes before I get picked up
01:13and brush my teeth on set, and I do everything on set,
01:15because I hate waking up early, so I just, I do it all there.
01:19As long as it's not affecting everybody, then we're good.
01:23Taking off your shoes on a plane, if it's a long flight, yeah, of course.
01:27Yeah.
01:28What?
01:29No issues.
01:30I don't think so.
01:31Put some socks on.
01:32I put on my shoes to walk to the bathroom.
01:35I'm not going to have weird sock situations in the bathroom.
01:38Failing to send a thank you note, I'm terrible at this.
01:43I'm a texter.
01:44I would, I'm not writing a card.
01:46Sorry.
01:47You have a lot of time on your hands if you can send a thank you note.
01:50But it's a nice gesture.
01:51It's lovely.
01:53But like for a kid's birthday party,
01:55like sending out a thank you note to everybody,
01:58it's very nice of you, but I don't have time for that.
02:02Showing up to the airport four hours early, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
02:08I am not that person.
02:09My husband actually has made me a, he's a like fly by the seat of your pants,
02:14get there just in time.
02:16Now I'm kind of in between.
02:18An hour and change I think is perfect.
02:20Showing up with an uninvited plus one.
02:23Well, it depends to what, but I don't think that's a good idea.
02:26I wouldn't do that.
02:28What about a wedding?
02:30That's a really bad idea.
02:31That's like actually really thoughtless, I think, unless it's a great surprise.
02:36Correcting someone on the pronunciation of your name.
02:39I mean, everyone messes up my name, so I give up, I don't care.
02:42I'm like, I'll answer to Kristin, Kirsten, Kirsten, which is how you say my name, but I don't blame people.
02:48Like, in England, they don't really say my name right.
02:51Like, on the last set, everyone was saying my name wrong.
02:54But there was like Swedish people and people from Hungary and like, you just give up.
02:58And it is, for the record, Kirsten.
02:59It's Kirsten, yeah.
03:01But again, who cares?
03:03It's fine.
03:04Re-gifting, resourceful or rude?
03:07I think it's resourceful.
03:08They don't have to know.
03:11Someone gives you some nice, like, I don't know, like, if you don't, you know, I think that's, it depends the gift.
03:17Like, if it's a really nice candle and you're like, but we have to go to this thing, I'm going to give them this nice candle.
03:22I wouldn't re-gift something that was not nice.
03:26Have you ever caught someone re-gifting something you've given them?
03:29No, my friends aren't that dumb.
03:32Sweatpants at the office.
03:33I mean, yes.
03:35Sweatpants always, if you can.
03:37Like, I don't know, as soon as I get home, I'm like, sweatpants.
03:41I've done many Zoom interviews where I'm like, hair and makeup top and cozies on the bottom.
03:44So, sweatpants at the office, it depends where you work, but then wear fancy sweats, you know?
03:50Okay, talking to your seatmate when they're trying to read.
03:53No way.
03:54No way.
03:55Who would do that?
03:56That's so rude.
03:57I sat on a plane.
03:58Oh, my God, this guy chat.
03:59He talked so much that I was like, I put on my head.
04:02I was like, pretending I had my headphones and they put them on just to be like, he was right next to me.
04:08And, yeah, we had a long, a lot of hours to spend next to each other.
04:13Microtrends.
04:13I mean, when I was growing up, I followed the trends and everything.
04:17I mean, if I followed the trends now, I would look terrible, probably.
04:21There comes a certain age where, like, the trends go away, I think.
04:26Is there a trend you participated in that you might regret?
04:29Yes, those little clippies that, like, you know those butterfly clippies?
04:32Ugh, I know they've come back, but, like, I did one of the, oh, no, I don't like them.
04:38We're stressless.
04:39I mean, even if there weren't, we're stressless, we all have our opinions on, like, who looked good and who didn't look good.
04:47You know what I mean?
04:48They do it.
04:49Is it nice?
04:49No, but I wouldn't do it to people.
04:52But in my mind, I would.
04:53Thank you so much for watching.
04:57Be sure to check out my Town and Country cover.
05:23Thank you so much for watching.
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