00:00Kung ang iba, mga ka-RSP sa mall, school, o trabaho, nakikita nga nilang true love,
00:05possibly din kayang makita mo siya online?
00:07Ayon sa yougov.com, 71% ng mga Pilipino ay personally nakakakilala ng at least one couple na nakakakilala online.
00:16Karangian din sa mga gumagami nito ay mga Gen Z.
00:19Pero gaano nga pakalaki ang chance na yung nakilala mo online ay siya ngang magiging one true love mo?
00:25Pag-uusapan natin yan kasama ang ating online ate na tambay sa TikTok at Spotify.
00:32So give advice, let's welcome River Aisha Garcia, Rise and Shine.
00:36River, welcome dito sa Rise and Shine, Pilipinas.
00:39Good morning, salamat po atin-invite niyo ako.
00:41Thank you for being with us this morning.
00:44River, para sa mga Gen Z, bakit marami ang mas pinipili na gumamit ng online dating apps?
00:50Nailapan ba sila makahanap na nakadate in real life?
00:52Hindi naman po sa super hirap nakahanap ng someone in real life.
00:56Pero I feel like it's really a residue of what happened during the pandemic.
01:01Because during the pandemic po talaga, there was a store of people using dating apps.
01:05And personally po, I am a product of two years of senior high and my first year in college online.
01:12And back then, a lot of people were really craving for connection, attention even.
01:16And we found that it was really much easier to find that online.
01:20It was very convenient.
01:22It was really easy for us to filter people.
01:25Yung nga po yung swipe right, swipe left.
01:27And through that, we felt like we have more agency over who we choose and how we get to market
01:33ourselves na rin po.
01:35Kaya most of us would really turn to doing it online.
01:38And aside from that, since we're digital nomads as Gen Zs, kumbaga po, parang meron kaming, I would call it,
01:44digital courage to put ourselves out there.
01:48Kasi pag face to face po, nandiyan yung fear na baka maging awkward ka, baka you're sending wrong cues that
01:54they might get in the wrong life.
01:56Mas conscious ka.
01:58But at least, if it's through the screen, parang you get to be more mindful of what you say and
02:03how you portray yourself.
02:04Kaya for us, it's much easier to be an online dater.
02:07Okay.
02:08Well, from your perspective, as an online ate, ano yung pros and cons nitong online dating apps?
02:14Definitely the pros would be you get to have more agency over yourself.
02:19And you get to be more creative in how you curate yourself.
02:22But there's really a lot of cons that comes to it.
02:26Yes.
02:26If you go or if you put yourself online, dapat ready ka talaga for an emotional roller coaster.
02:33Because so many people, parang the moment you get in a dating app, dapat aware ka na na you would
02:40get rejections.
02:42Rejections left and right.
02:43Okay.
02:43And aside from that, just the fact that you know that someone is swiping right or swiping left on you,
02:49parang you get to be more conscious na rin of how you yourself see yourself.
02:54Kasi parang mapapatanong ka, oh, pangit ba ako?
02:57Oh, pangit ba ako?
02:58Oh, ganun po.
02:59But aside from that, another con would be the fact that you are on a dating app means dapat ready
03:06ka to accept na kung sino man po yung kausap niyo online.
03:10Marami rin silang kausap.
03:12So you're not the only person.
03:13Hindi ka special kapag nasa online.
03:15So parang normal lang?
03:17Yes, it's really just normal.
03:18Ako ano, medyo ano ako dito sa swipe, parang medyo takot ako.
03:22Kasi parang feeling ko, what's gonna happen is that there are many other options.
03:27Diba?
03:27Since we're talking about swipe culture, hindi mo mas parang magulo ito.
03:32Kasi you'll have other, maraming choices.
03:35Sa dami ng choices, hindi mo alam kung sino nga gusto mo.
03:39Parang in business na makatulong sa ano or malocalize mo kung sino yung gusto mo.
03:43Eh parang sobrang broad.
03:44Yeah, super broad niya po talaga kapag nasa online ka.
03:48Kasi parang the moment you get in, the algorithm just really feeds you so many people right away.
03:53Pero there are different stages po kasi when you're on a dating app.
03:57Okay, okay.
03:57The first would be definitely the swipe right and left.
04:00Okay.
04:00But the real game begins when you match with someone.
04:04Okay.
04:04So if you match with someone, that means pareho kayong nag-swipe right.
04:08And once you match, nandiyan na po talaga yung labanan of who gives the best first liners.
04:14Yung mga opening lines.
04:15Okay.
04:15Yung mga pick-up lines, dapat papasok yan.
04:18And the fact that you guys match already, number one, you're attracted to them because the pictures work.
04:24May certainty na.
04:25Yes po.
04:26And then number two, nandiyan na yung personality.
04:29Nag-match na.
04:30Alam nyo po yung mga slambok nung araw.
04:32O-o.
04:32Parang ganun po.
04:33Yung na yun.
04:34Opo, kasi nandun po sa dating profile, lahat na po yun.
04:36Yeah.
04:37Favorite color, may moto.
04:38So, pero ito, ano yung mga red flag na dapat bantayan ng Gen Z, pag nakikipagkilala online.
04:44Meron pa bang, uso pa ba yung mga nakaka-catfish ngayon?
04:46Ay, ang dami yun.
04:48Yung mga, pagka nakita mo sa picture, uy, ayos.
04:51Diba?
04:51Number 10.
04:52Ito ba na gano'n?
04:53Nag-ganun ako dati ka.
04:55Hindi, marami nagsat kay Joshua Pogi yan.
04:59Marami akong minita.
05:01Guys, so, uso ba yung catfish ngayon, ha, catfish?
05:03Definitely po.
05:04Kasi po, grabe na mga filters ngayon.
05:06And definitely, there's also AI.
05:08It's so easy to curate yourself however you want.
05:12Pero once you've matched with someone, the red flag would be, the red flags will start showing the moment you
05:19talk to them na.
05:20Okay.
05:20Number 1, nandiyan yung they over-hoard your time.
05:24Na parang bang wala ka ng oras sa self mo, na parang dapat siya lang palagi yung kausap mo.
05:29And number 2, nandiyan yung over-idealization of you.
05:33Okay.
05:34Yung pagkausap ka, oh, you're the most beautiful woman I've met.
05:36At the, oh, you're the most perfect person, gano'n, gano'n.
05:39Ayun na yung opening liner niya.
05:41Ay, dito.
05:41Pag gano'n siyempre kung wong kuha ka na agad.
05:44Opo, mahuhulog ka na agad.
05:46Lalo na po if you're really craving for love.
05:48Online ate, ang problema kasi dito minsan for swipe culture, ako based on experience, people would ask, for example, your
05:55sexual preferences.
05:56Parang, imbis na you're after for the love, many people are also joining to the dating applications, are just after
06:03for a short time kind of relationship.
06:06What are your advice for this?
06:08And also your overall advice for dating apps?
06:10Um, be very vigilant if you get yourself on a dating app.
06:14I have had a lot of friends na parang pinag-isipan po talaga namin if it will work for us
06:19or not.
06:20And if you do put yourself out there, be very particular of what you're looking for.
06:26Okay.
06:26If you match with someone, then just be straight up, tell your boundaries, and say what you want.
06:31Be clean about it.
06:33Because a lot of people, kapag nasa dating app ka, iisipan na nila, okay, it's probably the hookup culture.
06:37Or people are just there to pass time, to just have fun.
06:42But if you straight up tell them that you're looking for something serious and long term, and they're not on
06:47par with that,
06:48then just protect your peace and just go for, or wish for an organic encounter nila.
06:54Yun.
06:54Saan ka namin pwede mapakinggan pa?
06:56Kasi mukhang maraming dapat matutunan ng Gen Z sa'yo as an online ate.
06:59You can listen to me on Spotify, and I'm also on YouTube.
07:03It's Atatips, the podcast, or Atatips.
07:05And I'm also on TikTok, that's ilog.asyasya.
07:09Alright.
07:09Maraming maraming salamat sa iyong oras, our online ate, River Aisha Garcia.
07:14Yes po.
07:15Thank you so much.
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