00:00You cannot reconcile with someone who's not willing to be honest about how they mishandled you.
00:09There's a big difference between taking responsibility and trying to skip over what actually happened.
00:16Real accountability sounds like naming the behavior, acknowledging the impact, and having an uncomfortable conversation about it.
00:24Avoidance looks like silence, distance, letting time pass, then reappearing like nothing ever happened.
00:34That doesn't repair anything.
00:36That just protects egos.
00:38Time alone does not heal wounds.
00:41Honesty does.
00:42If communication broke down, if trust was damaged, if lines were crossed, pretending it's all water under the bridge isn't maturity.
00:53It's denial.
00:55We can talk things through.
00:56We can clear the air.
00:58We can be respectful, but we are not moving forward without the truth.
01:02I'm cordial where it's necessary.
01:04I'm polite where it's appropriate, but access requires accountability.
01:09If you're not willing to be honest about your part, there's nothing left to rebuild.
01:15Because reconciliation without honesty is just pretending, and I don't do that anymore.
