The Brutal Truth About Duty, Parents, and Society || Acharya Prashant (2025)

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00:00it's possible to be free it's possible to be happy but what if i have people who are dependent on me

00:05if i'm not making enough money for them i will be guilty when lies come to you do they first

00:12of all introduce themselves i'm a liar now i'll convince you lies always come posing as truth

00:19and bondages often come carrying the name of responsibilities how do you know what is your

00:25responsibility please tell me who told you there is an action arising out of love and that is beautiful

00:31that is real responsibility on the other hand there is the tutored kind of responsibility you

00:37know we have to live to our parents expectations how do you know what your real responsibility

00:44is please tell me go for something that has totality

00:51you can't allow yourself to be handcuffed right in the beginning

00:54how will you fly then you're young you're just stepping into it don't you want to enjoy life

01:01really that requires boldness and that requires deep love

01:05i do agree with that it it makes sense it's possible to be free it's possible to be happy

01:15but um you're talking in a very um individualistic sense like not that i have any right to speak of

01:23this but like you said it's not that we're just um we're not just asked to drop our dreams we are

01:30terrorized into dropping them saying we'll starve or whatever and fine maybe i don't care about money

01:36i don't all right i don't care about money i don't care about maybe i don't care whether i starve or not

01:42all right but hypothetically again not that i have any right but what if i have people who are dependent

01:48on me like if i'm not making enough money for them i will be guilty and secondly you mentioned that it is

01:56not exactly natural to want to follow society rules it's normal again my entire question is about this

02:03so i agree with you but but but there is a but but it is to some extent also natural because humans are

02:13herd animals if we are herd animals that means to fit into society to fit into why do we fit into society

02:20to propagate our generation animals don't hold mics do they

02:25we still want to call ourselves animals yes of course we have this biology

02:31but we left the jungle behind didn't we or do we want to still live as animals

02:38animals don't comb their hair don't brush their teeth and they don't wear any clothes

02:46yes yes you are very right i i agree with that just as you agree with me but

02:53it is to transcend your animal nature that you get educated what else is education for

03:11what else is this college for if we were to remain just animals from the jungle walking around in herds

03:18why do you need an institution like this why do you need a conversation like this

03:25the institution is about teaching you in material in outer things how the world functions

03:32this discussion is about teaching you in how you function inwardly all of this is education

03:39all education is so that you don't have to remain an animal anymore the animal does not have much of

03:47consciousness you have animals don't love all they have is instincts motherly instincts yes they have

03:54that lustful instincts yes they have that but they can't really know what we are talking of here

04:00not because they lack intellect we are not talking of intellect here we are talking of consciousness here

04:10getting it okay so you said nobody comes and really terrorizes us see

04:18if the terrorizer

04:22comes with terrorist tattooed on his forehead you will no more be terrorized

04:31because now it is out in the open that the terrorizer is the terrorizer terror will often

04:39come to you in the name of love care responsibility concern such things

04:46and if you don't see through it you won't see how there is threat in the name of care

04:53how there is just threat masquerading as care how there is just ownership

05:05masquerading as love

05:06just possessiveness masquerading as concern for security

05:16when lies come to you do they first of all introduce themselves i'm a liar now i'll convince you

05:24lies always come posing as truth terror often comes posing as love care and concern

05:33and bondages often come carrying the name of responsibilities

05:42how do you know what is your responsibility please tell me who told you

05:44how do you know what your real responsibility is please tell me

05:52and people in different cultures at different places different times

05:55have had very very different notions of responsibility what do you think your responsibility

06:01is do you think it is an innate sense of responsibility that you carry no

06:06you have been told you are responsible for such things how do you know you really are

06:14from where have you accumulated this concept called responsibility please tell me

06:23please tell me and often it is those

06:26those who want to keep you in certain grooves in certain patterns they will tell you such and such

06:36are your responsibilities

06:40and in your innocence which i should rather call as ignorance

06:46or childish unconsciousness you accept all those things

06:55you see you you look at your gender please just till a few decades back women

07:04in our country in our culture were told that it is a part of their responsibility to eat

07:10only after everybody else has eaten and india had the highest

07:21rate of anemia and so many other kinds of deficiencies

07:30in the entire world and if you go and tell a woman you need to take care of your diet first

07:36she'll say no but it is my responsibility to first take care of the household

07:43who told her of that responsibility don't you see that this is just conditioning and propaganda

07:50to keep you enslaved have you realized where responsibility is coming from again asking you

07:56had you not been told that a b and c is your responsibility would this have occurred to you on your

08:02own please tell me real responsibility is love real responsibility is not that as a wife you have to

08:11get up and serve tto husband every day every morning 7am if you do that that's a problem but yes if in love

08:21you make tea and you say come on here is tea let's both sip together and that's wonderful

08:28there is an action arising out of love and that is beautiful that is real responsibility on the other

08:37hand there is the tutored kind of responsibility all of you know feel the weight of that the crushing

08:46weight of those responsibilities don't you you know we have to live to our parents expectations how

08:52many of you wrote the j for example oh seems i have touched a raw nerve huh

09:09doesn't feel good right i'm responsible to

09:13clear this exam because that will bring happiness to all and sundry come on please

09:22please you will be parents soon would you want to crush your kids

09:31like another five years 10 years down the line or 20 years would you want to put so much weight on

09:36them that they just crack

09:41yes and then you'll you'll tell them listen son listen daughter that's your responsibility to please us

09:47would that be extremely selfish of you and extremely irresponsible too

09:56but you would be the ones who would have taught your kids we are gods we are gods

10:05parents are bhagwan you worship us so if we tell you something then that has to be taken as the gospel truth

10:18are you gods but you would be let's say in five years in a decade in 15 years you would be

10:27mothers and fathers many of you

10:32if you're not gods then how would you suddenly turn gods on becoming parents

10:36and why should you then suddenly be vested with the authority to inflict commandments on your kids

10:47and tell them this is what you definitely have to do you're responsible for this for that

10:55and then come

10:58the genuine financial responsibilities yes somebody could come

11:02from a family with a very ordinary financial background let's say there are six or seven

11:10siblings and one is the eldest one and there is not enough money in the household to even educate

11:18the entire line and then yes you do want to have some money with you so that the genuine financial

11:27needs can be taken care of but how much money is that do you really have to sell yourself away

11:36for the sake of that much money please tell me

11:41is that really so big and ask that you can't meet it without

11:49without without keeping yourself on mortgage

11:57yeah

11:59what gauging is the last resort is it not

12:04when an extreme responsibility arises people often go and sell their kidneys off

12:09but that's the rarest of rare case and probably illegal too

12:16we can't talk of that as something natural

12:25are you getting it

12:28please be very very careful before accepting something as your responsibility

12:33and once you do some accept something as a responsibility live up to it be fully committed to it

12:41otherwise you will be carrying a thousand responsibilities

12:47and just tolerating them somehow

12:52a thousand responsibility and commitment to none

12:55and always wishing in your heart that somehow those responsibilities could reduce

13:03have you not seen such people they carry so much load and they're always cribbing

13:10this i have to do i'm responsible for this i have to responsible for that like that like that the

13:14quintessential housewife from the morning till evening i'm only cooking this that i'm responsible for

13:20for the kids for for the in-laws for the husband and for that entire extended field of relatives oh

13:31always cribbing committed to no single task

13:35and in spite of all this never able to boldly and bravely drop even a single responsibility

13:46she will do everything

13:47and keep cribbing

13:53and then everything will be done in a lukewarm way

13:57right or the or the unwilling employee think of the unwilling employee

14:06she has accepted a job just because she was told that you need to have this job

14:11to take care of your personal responsibilities so she goes ahead and accepts a job a job

14:22having no heart a job to which she is not committed at all a job to which she cannot relate at all

14:28every day she shows up at the office one hour late and the boss screams at her

14:38the entire day she is dreaming of this that something because because just she's just not in the work

14:44continuously she is looking at the calendar and the clock when would it turn six and when would we have

14:54the 30th of the month and i'll get the salary check you want that kind of life

15:00this is what happens when you take up fake responsibilities

15:12being responsible is wonderful but all responsibility must be chosen with great care and once it is

15:20chosen we said remain put then there has to be total love total commitment

15:31go for something that has totality ifs and buts

15:37they bring in a lot of conditionality a lot of relativity

15:41and all that is not good to live with

15:46you will not enjoy it don't you want to enjoy life really that requires boldness

15:52and that requires deep love yeah you're you're young you're you're just stepping into it

16:01you can't allow yourself to be handcuffed right in the beginning how will you fly then

16:11you

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