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00:0012 virgins have travelled to a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment the word
00:14virgin people see it as a joke it's quite obsessing i'm 23 still a virgin i feel like
00:22there's something wrong with me in a world where sex is everywhere my god terrified
00:29absolutely terrified the truth is surprising there are more adult virgins than ever being a young
00:36adult in this day and age it's difficult social media dating apps influencers tv shows porn porn
00:44porn is everywhere are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other now yeah this
00:51radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution oh yeah she's a miracle worker woohoo
00:59oh god yes overseen by a group of experts yeah like that i like that ready to do anything
01:06to help britain's virgins there's the clitters do you have any questions lose the one thing
01:16don't make you nervous they feel is holding them back i would love to have sex with you i do feel
01:21like there's a barrier between me and sex i want to lose my virginity it's now or never but when the
01:29moment arrives would you like to move to bed who will be ready i just don't want anyone to touch me to go all
01:39the way in the first phase of the course the virgins tried to overcome the shame of sexual failure
01:56i didn't handle the rejection too well and started to express their sexual desires she pushed me down
02:03and i'd probably do something for a sex i don't know what i'm doing jason arrived on the island barely
02:09able to shake hands oh hello welcome thank you he panicked when things got touchy-feely feels too
02:16intimate a little overwhelming yeah yeah but zach leapt ahead i would like to go all the way i would
02:25love to have sex with you and there were early signs of attraction i uh i think you're really
02:31pretty thank you do you think ben likes me now things are set to escalate with the next phase of
02:38the course erotic touch nothing happens if you're not good at touching that's what creates all of the
02:47pleasure and sensation in our body and that's eventually what gets us to orgasm hello hello hello
03:11how's the sunburn it's the morning of day three on virgin island
03:16have you guys read your letters no okay what is this and time for the group to discover what's
03:23in store for them over the next two days oh god the next phase of the course is all about touch
03:35great i mean i'm fine with like friendly touch but as soon as it becomes like an intimate touch i
03:42think it'll be more much more difficult for me i feel sick biggest fear of touch sexual and touching
03:51i've never done it like no that's not me
03:58god touch yeah that's really hard for me yeah nervous
04:04god knows what they have planned i have no idea probably just outright sex to start off with won't it
04:16for this group the idea of intimate touch is terrifying oh here we go
04:22but now it's time to face their fears hello welcome good morning oh my god what are we doing
04:30why is there a bed in this room i imagine all of them will be quite anxious but you can't learn how
04:35to give and receive pleasure by just talking about it you have to practice
04:42so this first exercise today is called touching for your own pleasure
04:47one of the problems is if you touch being worried about the other person and thinking oh are they okay
04:52am i doing it right then you get all performance anxiety in your head until you actually feel the
04:58sensation of touching for your own pleasure you can't get to that next level it's like the first
05:03step right who's ready to touch for your own pleasure
05:19in my childhood with my family we were never huggers i hated being hugged i just never liked it never have
05:25i'm not an intimate person at all in my adult life never kissed anyone but i'd like to be the
05:29opposite i'll pop on there okay the end goal is to actually try and lose my virginity and find a
05:37girlfriend be more intimate can i put it off can i do this see if you can take a deep breath down
05:43into your belly and connect your body with your hands think of your hands as like i'm gonna get
05:51pleasure out of her arms you know what i mean yeah for yourself i wank off your i'm sorry i was like
05:56i woke up your arm sorry but do you know what i mean like i'm sorry i'm sorry see if you can breathe
06:03a little bit while you do it so that you actually feel the sensations
06:21for jason just a few seconds of touch is all he can handle
06:26but celeste isn't finished with him yet when i'm touching you i just want you to see like
06:31let yourself take it yeah just feel it
06:47that's good yeah good work
06:49good on you mate honestly yeah that's great one cloud nine okay who's next
07:01encouraged by jason's example the others get touchy too
07:05just explore the sensations in your hands
07:15and see if you can take a deep breath down into your belly and connect your body with your hands
07:21hands
07:25did you feel the difference there yes that was amazing good work
07:32the session seems to be going well so celeste and danielle decide to turn up the heat
07:38something that helps touch get even better is sexual energy
07:44i want to invite ben and holly to demonstrate oh god
07:4930 year old ben is the oldest in the group and has had more opportunities to get intimate than any of
07:54the others over the last 10 years i've been on dates of about 40 different women mostly when i've
08:00met on on just dating apps some it's just been one day uh up to and including an ex-girlfriend of mine
08:07who was probably about you know 15 plus dates we we did sort of try making it a couple of times
08:12but i wasn't comfortable doing stuff so it was we hit we hit a brick wall you know what i really
08:16needed someone to teach me this stuff i'm not very um not very good with the energy mumbo jumbo so you
08:21have to you have to guide me through i'll help you okay just remember a moment that you felt kind of
08:26excited about someone or excited about an experience yeah you are holding a lot of tension in your
08:34mouth can you like open your mouth a little bit and then relax it yeah it's okay play with it you need
08:43to play with it it's okay let yourself feel it like oh here you go did you feel the squiver
08:51no okay i think it's just lack of experience and lack of success
08:56at reading sort of social signals you know there's probably been occasions where i probably could
08:59have got physical or just kissed and they'd be they'd be absolutely fine in fact they may have even
09:03wanted it but i didn't because i can't read the signs i don't want a woman to think i'm a creeper
09:07or that i'm handsy because that's just not me just let yourself enjoy holly
09:15fantastic you have very sexy energy right feels good okay you did it see if you wanna
09:25ask you what so tom taylor last up is taylor who after coming out as bisexual at university
09:38has always found the idea of intimacy with anyone agonizing anytime i've had something near in a
09:44sexual experience it's been so overwhelmingly negative that when it comes to it i freak out and
09:50i really don't want to do it and i get that feeling in the pit in my stomach that makes me stop
09:54that's why i'm here is to like trying to work out what it is that's holding me back and how to move
10:00forward with it because it would be really nice to just be able to have what everyone else has
10:04okay so i'm gonna invite you to feel into your desire tom
10:15this is really good keep it steady it's really good really good you keep it steady i'm gonna check
10:22what's with her okay if she can receive it great that's great let it look i'm gonna touch your belly
10:29okay just to help you out sweetie okay good let it shake it's let it cry you're safe now okay
10:36you know you're safe but your body forgot okay yeah so i'm here despite danielle's reassurance
10:45the exercise still proves too much for taylor yes you're doing great taylor yeah let it cry
11:06really proud of you good work we love you taylor i don't know what's wrong with me
11:15for the group the workshop has thrown up very mixed emotions
11:28ted why was looking things so hard for you i think as soon as it becomes uh intimate sexual thing
11:35yeah it's shut down sounds ridiculous because we're only looking at each other but that's something i
11:39clearly need to work on i usually run the opposite way if anyone looks at me like that but if you're not
11:44crying you're not doing it right louise did you catch his blanking comment yeah i just walked around
11:52i didn't do you know what i mean i didn't think okay i love that you haven't got a filter
11:58i feel absolutely fantastic i understand now where people like touch i'm not just saying that
12:03actually it genuinely does i can't really convey how good it feels now how did you find the whole
12:09thing as a whole um quite intense well i had i had lots of fun yeah when i was doing it i did feel
12:16like you could feel the connection couldn't you really yeah yeah i asked that new age mumbo jumbo
12:21slow nonsense i'm quite a logical person and it's just a lot of some of that stuff it just doesn't
12:27doesn't connect to me all right do you want me to like try it and see if you can feel me yeah all right
12:32despite his skepticism there are some things ben is open to trying hi see you guys a little bit
12:38especially if it's with charlotte you're open to receiving my energy
12:46yeah see you can feel it now what does it feel like to you
12:51the witching yeah many of the women here i find attractive you know physically but there's
13:01something about charlotte i really like her and it's just i i like how we connect i mean i don't
13:06know if it's mutual or not but she's a very confident person and she's just got that thing about
13:11her i feel like i'm doing voyeurism just watching you enjoying that no i'm gonna walk away right
13:21okay sorry yeah
13:33they're jumping in all right you don't have much respect to have for you right now
13:40right you do
13:45it's day one of the touch phase of the course and after an intense morning a chance for the group
13:50to unwind who's your celebrity crush i like quite a lot of like female celebrities like charlie
13:56theron she's just stunning i like henry cavill but not as superman i like him as the witcher
14:02i really like henry cavill because he's really nerdy as well
14:08what do you think when you hear virgin because for me shame failure undesirable weird yes definitely
14:19mostly negative connotations yeah i've had people call me a virgin and it does feel like an insult i
14:27know it's not it's it's a matter of it's a matter of fact but it does feel like an insult when someone
14:32says it to you it makes me feel weird i'm like a lot of people younger than me know more about sex than
14:39i do but um i'm hoping to change that jason's feelings about his lack of sexual experience
14:48haven't gone unnoticed by the experts anytime there was an increase in intensity he would resort to
14:55humor so that he could distract himself from what he was feeling we're going to work on that today
15:00actually staying with the breath as sensations rise yeah receiving is a huge thing for him
15:07now the experts want to build jason's confidence and joy has a plan to help him with his horror of
15:14hugging hello again hey come on in thank you and have a seat oh excellent
15:24oh what is it that happens when you're in a hug what do you just goes weird like alien to me when
15:33i see people hugging it just freaks me out yeah i don't know why so we want to work towards
15:38a hug that feels really good yeah so let's let's stand here because it's a little more even
15:45i'm gonna touch your arm first okay you want it yes go ahead
15:55and you feel me and you can put your hand on my arm yeah if you'd like yeah
16:05i feel sick no no no bad way i feel like in a good way like british slang yeah
16:09that's sick yeah as usual jason tries to mask his awkwardness with humor i'm quite robotic i feel
16:17like you're moving at your hands but i'm like yeah i just want you to receive okay so i can get a
16:23sense of what it feels like to be in this moment but joy perseveres yeah it's really nice
16:32before escalating intimacy can i come even closer if you want to yeah like like that yeah you can move
16:43like that by just staying connected with your breath so you don't lose that sense of the moment
16:51yeah can i come even closer still okay you can get closer yeah okay i can touch your neck
17:15feels good
17:22would you like to do a hug why not let's do it yeah let's do it
17:36how is this yeah awesome yeah cool yeah
17:42thank you thank you see you
17:53that was great after the session jason's confidence is sky high
18:00and that's not the only thing that's up what happened so i was standing like this
18:04because as much as i was like that i had a bonus i was like
18:10that's really good dude i'm getting there i'm getting there
18:15i'm in a really great mood i feel like i'm glowing i didn't think i'd do this i'm really proud of
18:19myself on this page obvious sex god i mean yeah yeah we're gonna leave here absolutely professionally
18:26trained sex demon while jason's conquering new heights i haven't really gotten much out of
18:34mind yet i just feel like i'm letting the team down taylor's still struggling after crying in this
18:40morning's workshop the experts feel there may be more to taylor's tears than meets the eye
18:45even though she was being emotional she wasn't actually letting go and going into her emotion
18:51i feel like she's hiding and that's probably been a survival tactic that has worked really
18:57well for her yeah she is so scared
19:03danielle wants to discover what makes taylor so anxious about intimacy
19:08so how do you feel with guys as opposed to women or girls they're a lot scarier do you ever see
19:19someone very chiseled and you're like i just want to touch the muscle i don't know i don't know i don't
19:24think i like hair like i'm always like i want to touch people's hair like that interests me because
19:29it's soft but i'm not like i don't want to touch muscle i don't i don't prefer it when i was in
19:36secondary school i felt the shift into realizing that maybe i wasn't exactly the same as all the
19:42girls but being gay was like the worst thing so while i'm still in the process of like working out
19:49what i want all of these opportunities are passing me by it just makes me feel a bit a bit rubbish
19:58do you have women lovers or i had one really negative experience she got annoyed at me that i
20:05wasn't enjoying myself she did stop but she seemed really disappointed and she was like upset with
20:09me and it kind of ruined that friendship yeah i don't see myself as desirable right because i am a
20:20lot what are you oh now we're getting there my love okay so there's a part of you that feels that
20:28people wouldn't want to be with you yeah yeah i get told a lot the time that i'm loud
20:38and i'm tall and i'm i take up a lot of space and yeah and that's what makes you so special and
20:46beautiful your feelings are so great sweetheart
21:04just talking about my experiences always makes me upset but i've had quite a few negative experiences
21:10and of course those are the ones i need to talk about for this to work thank you yeah but i've had
21:17i've had a breakthrough i think thank you very much bye i left happier then i went in
21:25and forward is always good isn't it so as long as i'm going forward i'm happy
21:31you're nervous no no i mean other than falling off the cliff yes
21:42it's late afternoon on virgin island jesus yeah this is quite steep and celeste and danielle have
21:49hatched a plan to push the group further all right let's get a mat down we want them to start just
21:54getting comfortable with any kind of touch massage is something that a lot of people have experienced
22:00i'm hoping maybe they'll take off a piece of clothing to start to feel more relaxed around
22:04touch and maybe you know eventually nudity are you taking your top off or go on i'll like lift
22:10it up for you through massage the experts can assess how comfortable the group are with exposing their
22:16bodies a little bit yeah and touching each other for pleasure you're very good at this thank you
22:26i have my skills all of them end with a z what's that my family does them we grew up giving each
22:36other massages you're shaking a bit you sure it's all right no no i'm fine no i'm fine okay
22:39i mean you're like this relax relax yeah i need to be more loosey-goosey while uptight ben struggles to
22:47relax rock this off the experts are keen for jason to build on his growing confidence around touch with
22:55the island's most outspoken virgin charlotte how's this it's fine yeah it just feels i don't know
23:04weird but in a nice way why do you use these horrible stretch marks i don't know all right
23:10well it's just it looks painful it looks like you just see my ass it's more on my ass okay
23:15okay i'm bored now yeah i'm bored now all right which arm first this one this one yes okay okay why
23:29are you focused on one area you need to go up see okay do you want me to show you no no no no let's go
23:35i'll put more oil on back it on for jason intimacy with another member of the group is proving tougher than
23:42with an expert see more thumb more movement you need to be doing the whole like like that how about
23:49that like that like that i think it's all of it jesus christ what are you doing it's like wanking
23:54up your arm like that like that's how you do it what's slower okay now i definitely want you to stop
24:00how was the monsieur oh so did you not like it that was a disaster i looked off my shirt and everything
24:18you go stretch mark all right looking nightmare maybe not being berated a lot would have felt nice
24:31i've always hated my body my especially my back and the stretch marks i know it's a little thing but
24:36it's for me it's quite big
24:37although jason's suffering from over exposure to charlotte is yours yes
24:47basically you've already tried them on ben can't get enough of her
24:54i always find i end up getting very steep in the summer because of the hay fever tablets i take
24:59i'm sorry i always get very steep in the summer so the hay fever tablets
25:02how good because they're drowsy ones the big question now is is the feeling mutual
25:10how many songs you can get there anyway oh like i have like a i have a thousand and seventy
25:14pretty good yeah
25:19i mean it's so great that we've like gotten to know each other and that we can you know we feel
25:24comfortable around each other but i'm not interested
25:28and so it's going to be tricky you know this is my friend this is someone i'm going to have breakfast
25:36with tomorrow and i'm going to have to be cruel to be kind and tell him that i'm not interested
25:58it's day two of the touch phase and the sessions are about to intensify
26:15really in order to have amazing sex you need to touch you won't be able to make any moves you won't
26:21be able to seduce someone if you're feeling anxious and worried that everything that you're doing is
26:25wrong a lot of people they're holding back all of those animal instincts they just need to open up
26:33i think it's one of those things where you've got to just keep on going and try and get yourself
26:38to the next step ideally without crying but we'll see i'm dreading the group activity it's just getting
26:45more intimate with touch i feel nervous after yesterday's massage catastrophe
26:52yeah i'm not sure what would happen next for me um just being desired that's a key thing for me that's
26:57one of my sort of issues is you know being wanted and desired and i don't think i've had that a lot
27:01but um just you know see what happens and uh go with it i guess
27:04it's getting first on the background yes my plan exactly hello welcome back welcome back hello hi
27:17hi oh god here's our therapist
27:19so today we're going to go much deeper into touch and work on disinhibition and that means letting
27:34out a little bit more of your wildness a little bit more of your inner animal oh god we are wired for
27:41sex right we're wired to go after it and yet society says shame shame shame it was you know and we shut
27:47down and the animal game helps people feel the passion and desire in their body
27:54so i know tom that you've taken some acting classes so i'm wondering if you would be willing
28:00to demo with me yeah sure yes so let's get on our hands and knees why don't you just start to feel
28:09your senses we close our eyes and we start to feel this animal inside of us and we let that animal go
28:16after the other person actually letting it move letting it out in our body
28:31so tom may be finding his wild side
28:44but for the rest of the group
28:45it's too much to bear
28:58it was very jungle book and i was feeling very downton abbey
29:24and i was like it's lovely like they're really enjoying it but also
29:31so someone want to try it
29:40someone wants maybe 80 to try it
29:43yeah i'll do it amazing
30:05you can change your mind yeah i won't yeah i won't do it yeah okay
30:15do you want to do it do you want me to do it okay
30:19okay yeah
30:24i've just always felt like i'm ugly and repulsive in some way and i know that objectively i'm not
30:28but i was bullied in school and i think the dating experience sort of just saying reinforce that i'm
30:34just not like good looking why would any girl be interested in me so i struggle to to sort of
30:40initiate uh you know contact or intimacy and i find a place on the rug your life is awkward
30:49unfortunately and you simply you know you just move on you know that's that's how that's how it goes
30:54and i'm just not very good at that start to notice that there's another animal here with you
31:04uh
31:10uh
31:16oh
31:23uh
31:26men are expected to make that first move and i think for guys like me who just struggle with that
31:31making the move and reading the signs it's very hard
31:36uh
31:45oh
31:48that's my happy heart
31:50this is so hot
31:51did you feel any arousal i'm curious yeah i think some yeah yes
32:07acting like a zoo animal that was not for me oh god that was just it was a bit rough that was cringe
32:13i found interesting it was bringing up saying oh you've done drama so you've done this sort of
32:17stuff like i'm not sure i've gone quite that far in drama to be fair
32:22how did you feel a bit at all i flipped our instructor
32:27i noticed like i could hear people like talking and giggling that's oh you know and i had to kind of
32:32try to block that out yeah it was like watching a porno i felt like a proper pervert were you
32:38getting turned on no i was like i thought you'd be one of the first ones up jason no i absolutely
32:42hated that in the back of my head i had a bit of trepidation about a bit of fear about it so i
32:49didn't want to do that jason's massage experience has set him back and the experts have sense that
32:56something's changed jason he's been so gung-ho and i thought he would be gung-ho today but he was
33:02way more reserved we did in our session uh have very close body on body but he wasn't able to then
33:10move the energy into something more sexual okay so maybe i can build on that yeah celeste decides
33:18jason needs to put his massage fiasco behind him in a one-on-one session to boost his sexual
33:24self-belief the only person if i had sexual experience with my right hand i'd love to have
33:30more confidence i'd love to be able to be intimate yeah that's my goal to reach his goal celeste wants
33:36to try a different approach to unleash his inner animal so we had the animal game and the touching we
33:43did yeah seemed like the animal game was not doing my cup of tea no so i was thinking maybe trying
33:50some different connection positions to build confidence yeah maybe you like lying down and us
33:56like touching each other i'm here to try new things try yeah well let's try it so you can lie
34:01down like here on my back yeah lie down on your back like with your head down there i'm gonna like
34:07move in here maybe i'll take off my glasses see if you can like just connect with your sexy energy
34:16and you if you feel an urge to touch back feel free okay and there's like a little bit of intensity
34:23that we're gonna kind of try to build yeah let me know
34:37hmm
34:49and you can touch i can't touch you back you can
34:58yeah as his confidence builds
35:02oh he's like i'm doing good
35:07celeste makes things harder now i want you to see if you can take your energy seriously now
35:12and look at me like i want to you kind of
35:15i want to see if you can take your energy
35:17okay
35:27oh
35:27yes
35:29oh
35:31oh
35:33oh
35:35oh
35:37oh
35:39oh
35:41oh
35:43Do you need a little break for your turn?
35:58Do you need a little break?
35:59Okay.
36:00It's amazing.
36:04It's a lot different than hugging.
36:09A lot different than hugging.
36:11That is your inner animal.
36:18When you take your desire seriously, it's very compelling.
36:25Whoa.
36:26Whoa.
36:27Okay.
36:28I'll see you soon.
36:29Yeah.
36:30See you soon.
36:31Have a lovely day.
36:32You too.
36:33Bye.
36:38I'm feeling incredible.
36:40Absolutely incredible.
36:41She's a miracle worker.
36:43I was a virgin.
36:44Well, I am a virgin still, but I'm like a different virgin now.
36:47I'm closer to losing him.
36:49Ben.
36:50How did it go?
36:51A kiss there?
36:52On the cheeks.
36:53You're a cloud nine, are you?
36:56I'm lying down, yeah?
36:57And I'm there, cupping a breast, squeezing over.
37:00How did that feel?
37:02Great.
37:03I feel like I'm glowing.
37:04I'm like, woo-hoo!
37:05I feel like Jason is a superstar.
37:08I can't believe how much he has blossomed today.
37:13It is insane.
37:15He brought his sexual energy, eye contact.
37:18He really got what sex is all about.
37:21Who dances him?
37:26Da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
37:28We like the top part, everybody.
37:30Oh, yeah.
37:37Oh, it's my banana.
37:39The touch phase of the course is drawing to a close.
37:42Ooh, whipped cream, chocolate.
37:44Oh, there's strawberry laces. Do you like strawberry laces?
37:46I do like strawberry laces, yeah.
37:47OK.
37:48And the group have been served up a tasty exercise.
37:51Smallish bite. I'm not going to put it in too much.
37:53There's something very sensual about feeding each other.
37:57You know, the experience of putting food into someone's mouth,
38:00especially if you do it with, like, a little bit of flirtatiousness.
38:04When you laugh, I know where your face is, and I can slap it.
38:09Technically, this will be the first act of penetration,
38:12so I'm very curious how they put objects inside one another.
38:18So you put the whole strawberry in.
38:21Open wide.
38:22I'm not opening my mouth wide.
38:24You can trust me. You can trust me.
38:26Many of the group are throwing themselves in.
38:29You dropped it, man.
38:31Have you ever fed someone before?
38:33No.
38:34No.
38:34You're the first person.
38:35But not everyone is feeling fruity.
38:38I feel like this is probably not the most romantic.
38:43No.
38:44No.
38:44So far on the course, it's Ben and Taylor who are holding back the most.
38:52So the experts want to see if they can help, starting with Ben.
38:56The animal game was really hard for Ben.
38:58When he volunteered to help out Charlotte, and she said no, that she didn't want that, he was very sad.
39:06He needs to understand rejection and how you survive that as a man dating women.
39:12After Celeste's breakthrough with Jason, she wants to help Ben find his sexy side.
39:18But spontaneity is not his strong point.
39:21I'm quite a logical person.
39:22I like to think things, I like to plan for things.
39:24Probably the best example, and this is going to sound quite sad, but it's true.
39:28I've got a spreadsheet on my PC at home of just like every date I've been on.
39:31I see dating in the same way a football manager would see their team.
39:35I like to analyse things and see what I can do better.
39:40So can Ben Ditchie's spreadsheet approach to sex with some hands-on practice?
39:45I think if you learn how to hold a little bit more flirtatious energy, like, I'm going to do it now with you for a second, okay, and show you what I mean, like, I'm really enjoying being here with you.
40:02So that's what I would do to them.
40:03Yeah, so as you talk to me, just at some point when you're talking, give me a touch while you're talking.
40:10I mean, this is quite crude, but you are sort of my type, so it's sort of like, yeah.
40:14That's not crude, that's a compliment.
40:16I mean, you're quite attractive, so I mean, you know.
40:18I usually go for the hair, actually, sometimes.
40:20Yeah?
40:21Yeah, so it's sort of like, sort of do that, and yeah, it's, um...
40:24That's actually my total weakness.
40:27Oh, really?
40:27Yeah, but I like it really, really slow, like...
40:37And I feel, like, very precious.
40:39Yeah.
40:40Yeah.
40:41So, like...
40:42And I think even if you go a little bit slower, so then it feels more, like, sensual.
40:55Mm-hmm.
40:57Mm-hmm.
40:59I do feel tingly when you do that.
41:03Well, um, well, maybe I'm better than I thought I was, but...
41:05Mm-hmm.
41:06Uh, you know, it's not something I have sort of conscious control over, just sort of, you know.
41:11That's what's good about it, is I feel like you're touching me just because you desire me,
41:15and you want to touch me, not like you're thinking about it, and that's hot.
41:20Yeah.
41:20By losing himself in the moment, Ben's gaining a flair for the physical.
41:27If you just want to, like, come in and, like, kiss me on the cheek, you don't have to.
41:31Mm-hmm.
41:31But you can.
41:34Yeah.
41:38Oh, my goodness.
41:39What?
41:40Look at you.
41:41Mm-hmm.
41:45Makes me want to touch you back.
41:47Mm-hmm.
41:57Wow.
42:00You don't realise how much of a confidence booster this is.
42:02So now I'm doing it good.
42:05It's really great.
42:07You're getting better every time.
42:13Mm.
42:17It's baby steps, but Ben's session has been a success.
42:22Now the experts want to get to the bottom of what's troubling Taylor.
42:26The furthest I've ever gone with a boy is met a nice guy.
42:33He was very attractive and very lovely.
42:35Invited him back, and I was like, right, you can do this.
42:38I'd convinced myself I was going to lose my virginity.
42:42But I freaked out.
42:44I hit that invisible barrier, and I was just like, nope, I can't do it.
42:47That's it.
42:48I can.
42:48And he left.
42:49And then I just felt so bad and disappointed in myself, and, like, I'd let him down, because
42:54I couldn't follow through.
42:57To clarify her thinking, the experts want to pair her with male surrogate partner therapist,
43:03Andre.
43:03So my role in this is to basically stand in as what could be a potential partner or a
43:14potential lover.
43:15And I'm here to support you through the emotion, the communication, transparency.
43:20Surrogate partners help by forming a therapeutic relationship, supported by a clinical therapist.
43:26I will leave the two of you to enjoy your time together.
43:30All right?
43:30Thank you very much.
43:31I'll see you soon.
43:32Take care.
43:33I'm just scared.
43:44You're sorry?
43:46It's okay.
43:47I've got a lot of emotions about this whole thing, and they're kind of trickling into everything.
43:51There's nothing to be sorry about in displaying emotion.
43:58So what could potentially be, like, a desired, like, goal or outcome?
44:03Less of this.
44:04Less of this.
44:04Okay.
44:04Then we're on the right track.
44:07Step on less of this.
44:08And just feeling more comfortable, like, in a situation where I feel like any time it comes
44:14to a situation, sorry, where, like, sex is on the table.
44:19I freeze up and I just don't want anyone to touch me or anything like that because I just feel wrong.
44:26Mm-hmm.
44:27Okay.
44:28Okay.
44:29Well, that is exactly why I am here, and we can practice with one another.
44:35We can explore the things that you came here to explore.
44:43Oh, God.
44:51Just want to see how you're feeling.
44:54It feels like there's, like, a knot in my throat.
44:58So it's generally, like, uncomfortable kind of a feeling.
45:02Okay.
45:03Is there anything I can provide for you?
45:05Do you like a hug?
45:07Oh, thank you.
45:08Okay.
45:13The therapy that was explained to me terrifies me down to the very depths of my cot.
45:18Well, then, if you'd like, you're welcome to head on out whenever you're ready.
45:22Okay, thank you very much.
45:24You're very welcome.
45:26I don't know if I've made any actual progress because I just kind of get a bit weepy.
45:31I really liked Andre and he was really lovely and I'd love to be his friend, but I'm trying
45:35to work out why I'm so panicked.
45:38I think it scares me, the fact that he's a man.
45:47Sorry.
45:49I just have one minute.
45:54I think I'm upset about more things than I've had on.
46:00Next time...
46:01Ah!
46:02...Jason gets back in the groove.
46:04I just feel the pleasure.
46:06Yeah.
46:06I've got a bone.
46:08Taylor tries a fresh approach.
46:10I used to feel such a relief to not feel scared at all.
46:13This is my body.
46:15And Emma reveals a secret.
46:17Because you're so stronger than you think and wiser than you know.
46:21As Ireland dates...
46:24Does that make you nervous?
46:25A little bit.
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