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00:00the word virgin people see it as a joke it's quite obsessing in a world where sex is everywhere
00:15my god the truth is surprising there are more adult virgins than ever being a young adult in
00:22this day and age it's difficult social media dating apps TV shows porn porn porn porn porn
00:29is everywhere are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other now yeah at this
00:35radical retreat intimacy experts are offering a very hands-on solution she's a miracle worker
00:43I like that to help Britain's virgins lose the one thing they feel is holding them back I want to lose
00:55my virginity it's now or never but when the moment arrives would you like to move to bed who will be
01:04ready I just don't want anyone to touch me to go all the way over the last few days on virgin island
01:24I'm definitely gay oh no thank you I felt really good yeah revelations this is my body led to
01:35breakthroughs right now I feel on top of the world Charlotte's bravado why use these horrible stretch
01:42marks hold it yeah has caused issues for some I've always hated my body you know it's a little thing
01:49but it's for me it's quite big and Dave how are you feeling good started to work with surrogate
01:56partner Kat it's given me a massive confidence boost now halfway through the course the group will be
02:02challenged like never before the relationship with the body is very crucial to dating intimacy and sex
02:10how are you feeling about general touching what we bring to sex is our bodies if we feel shame about
02:17our bodies we won't be able to engage in sex it's day seven of the retreat and this morning there's an extra
02:37surprising star oh well that's not scary doesn't bode well that there's a room it's the stage of the
02:48cost they've all been dreading this phase of the course is the body please come to this workshop in
02:54as few clothes as you feel comfortable wearing underneath a bathrobe suddenly need the loo for
03:01about four hours just until after the workshops over I think this may be one of the scariest workshops
03:08for a lot of people because it's so intense to expose your body I'm not a bathrobe person I like
03:16clothes clothes are a mark of civilization good morning is that what you're going in yes
03:24never really looked at my body and not felt sick in school my friendship group I was the uglier
03:35far friend so even though like I'm not as fat now I feel like I just still feel it you're nervous
03:44yeah oh wouldn't you guys know I'm really small and skinny so don't be surprised hmm what's your
03:51is the only about cock I don't know I was just nodding my head
03:53am I the only one that's not going to fully turn the robot in this morning's workshop the experts are
04:06keen to see if anyone has the confidence to bear all we get horrible messages about our bodies there's
04:13so many ways in which we think my body isn't right my body isn't enough and then we're supposed to go
04:18out and like enjoy pleasure in our body it's quite impossible actually hello hello welcome welcome
04:24our relationship with our body makes such a huge difference to how we feel about ourselves and social
04:38media where it's like constant images of the Kardashians with all of their augmentations and
04:43all the influencers it just creates these crazy expectations which is why it's so important to
04:49start to reclaim our bodies and what better way to get comfortable with bodies than by seeing some
04:58first-hand
04:59so this is my body everyone and though I love my body now I struggle with something called body dysmorphia
05:21dysmorphia which means when I look in the mirror I don't see the same thing that everybody else sees
05:28this is my body this is my body and I also love my body now but it has been years with poor self-image
05:47so yeah it's a process it's a process yeah how do you feel when you look at joy and deva
05:57sort of far from crossing a boundary there's a lot of discomfort and a lot of feelings of like oh that's
06:02private but if you're gonna have sex it's not private anymore I feel like I actively avoid mirrors
06:09and I feel like it can bring me down so I don't really have mirrors in my room or in my house
06:14thank you for sharing thank you thank you so much thank you if being exposed to two naked bodies wasn't
06:22awkward enough what's coming next is the group's worst nightmare the biggest thing that we can change
06:30is how we relate to our body we're gonna invite you one by one to claim your body
06:37we're asking the group to take off their robes and stand in front of the mirror and look at their
06:45body it's such a way to shift their body confidence
06:49who's ready
06:52do you know what yolo
06:57first to volunteer is 25 year old jason who has always had a problem with his self-image
07:04okay right so
07:06the front I'm fine with is the butt because my stretch marks are really red looking in the mirror
07:14feels strange because I don't see myself as attractive at all I don't like my hair
07:19don't like my face I've always been like a stick man like you had a cartoon stick man that's me
07:25okay
07:27can you come to the mirror with me yeah yeah I'll do that this is your mirror here you can check
07:44yourself out I've seen this every day for 25 years I'm used to it and then when you feel ready I want
07:49you to just say this is my body this is my body yeah one more time this is my body
07:56what's ready next
08:04okay oh my god
08:07next to face the mirror is 29 year old charlotte whose relationship with her body has always been a
08:15struggle I had a massive weight loss my highest weight was 120 kilos since losing the weight I have scars I have
08:29loose skin when I was larger my self-esteem I would definitely say was lower but I acted a lot more confident than I am
08:37I have scars I have them too
08:59you've been on an intense journey around your body I remember the queen that you are
09:08this is my body yes I tried one more time to really feel it it's yours you earned it
09:20this is my body oh my god as they each get up this is my body to face their reflections I'm
09:43basically like pretty dressable and all of you put together how much they're willing to reveal
09:47there is this is my body there looking at their bodies loving their bodies holistically can be
09:55hugely empowering this is my body that's great thank you who's ready yeah fuck it so far 24 year old
10:11Dave has kept a relatively low profile at the retreat but I look at you I'm gonna embarrass you
10:29see a sexy handsome man yeah that doesn't embarrass me I know it's okay this is my body
10:41who else so I think everyone in this room news I was going to do this today
10:52this is my body I don't actually want to
10:55this is my body
11:04I want to go next
11:10hey love how are you feeling
11:26I just feel like I could be sick okay what thoughts are coming up
11:30should I hurt the way I walk what emotions are there like what emotion are you feeling
11:36anxious sick and disgust you can get up there in front of everybody else and be with your body
11:45and see what comes next you're not gonna let a fear or a lack of self-worth stop you from living your life
11:54this is my body
12:00who else is ready
12:07this is amazing
12:15you don't want to look then look at me for a minute
12:26this is my body
12:29this is my body
12:31so proud of you
12:35go be proud of yourself
12:46flaunt your bodies around shake them
12:49remember what they're there for
12:51well done Dave
12:55thanks man
12:56I commend you both for what you did
12:58I got yeah you get a little bit of a high off
13:01you do right
13:02that's the first time I've been naked in front of anyone
13:05let alone a room full of people
13:07I think today was
13:09the biggest thing I've done so far
13:11did you feel this?
13:14mixed
13:15I thought I had this confidence and then it's different when you stare at yourself
13:18while other people are staring at you
13:20I feel like maybe I've hit a bit of a wall
13:22the exercise was particularly difficult for Louise
13:29when you look in the mirror I feel like you just instantly look at the things that you hate the most
13:34jiggly legs and stretch marks on my hips
13:37like that's just where your eyes go to
13:39I just want to feel good in my skin
13:42I still feel a bit sick to be honest
13:48today you sly dog I thought you were wearing boxers
14:03yeah but no we saw everything
14:04yeah I bared all
14:05I realised when I was looking in the mirror one bollock was so much lower than the other
14:09I didn't notice
14:10what I saw you all look great
14:12I feel like it's easier for a girl to be naked
14:14really?
14:15I feel if you've got a small dick it's more embarrassing
14:18I'm going to be very happy if we had sausages today
14:20of course
14:21hi
14:25it's the afternoon on Virgin Island
14:27can you have it in your wedding if you're white?
14:31of course you can
14:32of course you can
14:33do you have it?
14:34I just want to wear that dress
14:35while the car seems to be building confidence for some
14:38oh that's so sweet
14:42turning me on a little bit
14:43really?
14:44mmm
14:45the body phase is a huge challenge for others
14:48I was so confident and then I stood in front of the mirror and I was like
14:52don't like that, don't like that, don't like that
14:53I hate my hands
14:55at least you've not got man hands
14:56you've got man hands
14:57you've got man hands
14:58where's your man hands?
15:00I totally don't like my face
15:01take that
15:06let's talk about Louise
15:07yeah
15:08she was just terrified of being judged
15:11and she felt that her body was disgusting
15:14so I was wondering like what you feel like the next steps were
15:16to maybe disrobe the whole way to find new words to describe her body
15:21I hate the way I look
15:24I wouldn't say I've ever felt like confident
15:27I started going to the gym, that helped a lot
15:30but yeah, it's a work in progress
15:33come and have a seat
15:35Ayesha hopes that a repeat of this morning's exercise in private
15:39could help improve Louise's confidence
15:42so mirror work, you did that this morning
15:45and I wonder if you'd like to continue doing a guided tour of your body
15:49yeah
15:50yeah
15:59okay
16:03I don't want to put it down
16:06if this was a friend's body
16:08and they were like
16:09hey look
16:10isn't my body disgusting
16:12how might you show up differently?
16:14because if it was a friend I'd just be like
16:16there's nothing wrong with you, shut up
16:17but I just feel like I can't say that and mean it about myself
16:22say it like you would to your friend convincing
16:24there's nothing even wrong with you
16:26there's nothing even wrong with you
16:29there's nothing even wrong with you
16:31me
16:32next step
16:33is to remove the PET
16:59They're perfect.
17:02Mm.
17:04OK.
17:06Louise is making progress, but Aisha has one final challenge.
17:11So noticing what your body wants to take off next.
17:15And I'm thinking...
17:18..bra.
17:19Great.
17:21When you're ready.
17:23I'm going to do that myself.
17:29What's changed now that your bra's off?
17:35It's always nice to take your bra off.
17:38What's the feeling in your body, the sensation of it?
17:40Obviously, I do feel more free and just...
17:44..yeah.
17:45You feel more free?
17:46Yeah.
17:47Louise!
17:48Everyone feels better when they're naked, just on their own.
17:52Yeah, OK.
17:54So feeling better when you're naked.
17:56I'm going to bring the robe.
17:59Don't be ashamed.
18:03Don't be ashamed.
18:05Just love yourself.
18:08Just love yourself.
18:11Body image is definitely a place where Louise struggles.
18:14That strength of feeling that she has,
18:17it feels like it comes from way, way down inside of her,
18:20from way, way back in her life.
18:23Louise, look how much you've done.
18:26Thank you for sharing your body with me.
18:28Thank you for listening.
18:31It felt good to replace my negative thoughts, but I try to.
18:36I feel like once I change the view that I have on myself,
18:39then it will be easier to accept it from other people.
18:42How was your one-to-one?
18:50Basically, just redid this morning, but properly.
18:54Do you feel better now, having done it?
18:56Yeah, cos, like, we properly stood in the mirror and, like...
18:59Assessed.
19:00Yeah, talked for everything.
19:02I think you're gorgeous.
19:04Thanks.
19:04Although Louise struggled with this morning's workshop...
19:07Tuck in the bicep.
19:08Yeah.
19:09Bring him out like this.
19:11There.
19:11And pull.
19:12Dave shocked everybody by going the full Monty.
19:16Look at your veins.
19:17These popping veins.
19:20I was so impressed.
19:21Three of them got naked.
19:23Three?
19:24Yeah.
19:24But, like, Dave was a huge surprise.
19:27Totally.
19:28Yeah, I feel like today he was definitely sending a message
19:30and being like, OK, I'm ready.
19:32But we'll just kind of get in and see, like,
19:34if that energy is there and where he wants to go with it.
19:40There you go.
19:41There.
19:41Four.
19:42Two more, two more.
19:43I'm an accountant, so pretty boring.
19:47All of my friends know I'm a virgin.
19:49And actually, pretty embarrassingly,
19:51I think all my co-workers know as well.
19:53Because you tell one person at work
19:55and then everyone knows.
19:59I don't have the confidence to properly get to know someone.
20:02In an intimate moment, I'm scared about
20:04what they're going to think of my body
20:06and what they're going to think of what I'm like.
20:08And I've got to, like, start living my life properly.
20:14Getting naked in the workshop was a huge step for Dave.
20:19Hello.
20:19Hey.
20:20But does it mean he's ready to take his therapy
20:22to the next level?
20:25My suggestion would be to practice, like,
20:28touch and giving feedback.
20:30Okay.
20:30Yeah, sure.
20:32Okay.
20:32I'll have you start with my arm.
20:38I'll try long and stuff.
20:41And can you look at me while you do it?
20:43Building up to sex with surrogate partner Kat is a possibility
20:52if Dave can master the basics and form a connection.
20:58Am I okay to try to sort of go on top?
21:02Yeah.
21:04Is that what you mean?
21:05Yeah.
21:06Yeah.
21:06Yeah.
21:08And you can kiss, too, my mouth, if you want.
21:11Okay.
21:13I feel like this definitely isn't the best position.
21:15I don't like the way my arm is.
21:16Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?
21:19Because that's why you're in that position.
21:24It's so obvious now.
21:25Yeah.
21:26Okay.
21:26But does that make you uncomfortable?
21:28Um, subconsciously, yeah.
21:30Yeah.
21:30Okay.
21:31Do you want to try again with you on top
21:32or do you want to try with me on top?
21:33Can you go on top?
21:34Absolutely.
21:35Yeah.
21:35Okay.
21:36And can you practice coming alive a little?
21:54Yeah.
21:54Yeah.
21:55Yeah, I'm staying still, aren't I?
21:56Yeah.
21:57Yeah.
21:58Try again?
21:59Yeah.
22:00Yeah.
22:00Okay.
22:06That feels good.
22:11As Dave slowly opens up...
22:14Go.
22:19Mine won!
22:20Oh, it came back.
22:22The course is encouraging Charlotte to address her buried emotions.
22:28I was so large for such a long time.
22:30You think everyone is judging you all the time
22:33because you're so used to being on the defensive
22:35because you feel like you have to protect yourself.
22:41Today, I saw a softer side of Charlotte.
22:44I saw, like, the quivering of the lip
22:46and that was very challenging for her,
22:49like, to look at herself.
22:51It was really hard for her to keep the inner image
22:54that she has of herself in front of the mirror
22:57and that's something that so many people are struggling with.
23:01At boarding school, I just wasn't fitting in
23:04and that's been a big thing for me my whole life.
23:08And then everyone says,
23:09oh, don't worry, when you go to uni, you'll find your people.
23:13Then I went to uni and then I didn't find my people.
23:16So now, at almost 30, it makes you doubt yourself.
23:22The mirror workshop revealed that Charlotte's issues
23:24are more than skin deep.
23:26So the experts suggest clinical therapist Abby
23:34tries to find out what's really going on.
23:37They kind of want to check in with, you know,
23:39the reasons that brought you here.
23:41Um, sometimes I do still feel like I'm still this sort of young,
23:47you know, sort of teenage girl
23:48because I wasn't really friends with any one of the girls
23:50at the boarding school
23:51and also because of my size, I was quite isolated.
23:56Like, here's this part of you
23:57that feels emotionally trapped in your adolescence.
24:01Do you feel like no one sees you for you?
24:05My perception of myself
24:07can be vastly different to how other people see me.
24:11I feel like I'm trying to really just
24:13be as fearless as possible,
24:16putting on what I call the Charlotte show.
24:18Ooh.
24:19And it's like I think I'm giving off this image of me.
24:22Like, sometimes I have to do it at work.
24:25Mm-hmm.
24:26Then you're just working here.
24:36You don't have to work for people's love and care.
24:41People will love and care for you without performing.
24:46I don't know if you believe that, though.
24:48What if you show up as vulnerable?
24:52I don't know how to kind of do that.
24:55We're going to get there.
24:57We're going to get there.
24:58Yeah.
25:00You can't really hurt something that isn't real.
25:06But I've maybe been putting on the Charlotte show too much.
25:12I think the whole thing is all about being seen.
25:17And I guess we're going to see who sees me.
25:23Yeah.
25:23It's day two of the body phase at the retreat and there are promising signs of change.
25:38I feel like every session I have, I come out feeling a bit better in somewhere.
25:44Getting undressed, that is a massive thing for me.
25:47I think I've achieved a lot.
25:49I know there's things that I'm more confident about, but I think there's still further for
25:54me to go.
25:55I'm definitely seeing the confidence level rise.
26:00They're much more likely to try different tools.
26:03They're really growing.
26:06But progress for Zach can't come quick enough.
26:09I'm feeling a little bit of frustration.
26:12I'm hoping to make some more progress.
26:14And eventually, Zach's.
26:16It is the next step and it's something I want to do and, you know, I'm not afraid to say that.
26:28You can definitely tell though they're definitely amping things up.
26:30Absolutely.
26:31And like, again, we've got to halfway.
26:34I just want to be able to give people compliments because I struggle with that.
26:39Let's try that now.
26:40Yeah.
26:40Okay.
26:42I like your little nose.
26:43It's kind of cute.
26:44Oh, thank you.
26:44I love your beard.
26:46I wish I could grow a beard like that.
26:47It's phenomenal.
26:48Brilliant, isn't it?
26:49It is.
26:51Let's think of one for the girls.
26:54In a bid to improve how he interacts with women, Zach challenges himself with his own exercise.
27:06One thing I am not very good at is giving sincere compliments.
27:09So, every day, I'm going to come up with a new one for everyone.
27:14Aw, sweet.
27:14Aw, sweet.
27:16Emma.
27:17You have some incredible eyes.
27:20Thank you very much.
27:20It's amazing to stare into them.
27:22Thank you, Zach.
27:23I really appreciate that.
27:25Louise.
27:26You have a banging body, mate.
27:29You're fucking sexy as hell.
27:32Thanks.
27:33Holly.
27:34Holly.
27:35You can be so fucking funny sometimes and you have the greatest expressions and it's hilarious.
27:39Pia, you have the greatest smile, honestly.
27:43When you're happy, it's wonderful.
27:45I love it.
27:47Taylor, you have a brilliant singing voice and you know the words to all the songs.
27:50It's fucking amazing.
27:51Charlotte, you're always flirting with me, but I know you'll say you're not, but you're a liar.
27:55That's not a compliment.
27:58Well, it is.
27:58And you're actually pretty good at it.
28:00Okay.
28:00There we go.
28:01Woo.
28:02Zach may be pleased with his compliment session.
28:05Thanks, Zach.
28:06I feel like mine needed to be reworded a bit, but okay.
28:09But not everyone is feeling the love.
28:12Don't take this personally, but can you take me out of somewhere as a compliment, but for
28:16the day, I don't want to be in it.
28:17Okay.
28:17Thank you, though.
28:17I appreciate it, but thank you.
28:18Don't worry about it.
28:19It's okay.
28:20I hope you like the one I gave you.
28:22I compare myself enough to girls I see on social media.
28:26I don't want him to be feeling different qualities about us all individually into my ear on a daily
28:32basis, him thinking it's helping me.
28:34Thankfully for Emma, the boys and the girls are splitting up for today's workshop.
28:42I'm confused why we're taking the book.
28:44I hope it's just like drawing a life model.
28:48As it's become clear to the experts, when it comes to the body, they need all the help they can get.
28:54I've never had any contact with anything below a woman's waist.
28:58With my ex, we've touched up there, but I've never been, I've never got that far.
29:02I believe the clitoris is quite out of the top.
29:07So, admittedly, I wasn't the best at biology in school either.
29:11Someone asked me, where's the clit?
29:13I'm like, I don't know.
29:14No, I need to use Google.
29:18Today, we'll start with a little bit of anatomy.
29:21I know a lot of you really, really wanted to learn how to touch a pussy.
29:26Are you ready?
29:32Okay.
29:33This is the vaginal opening.
29:36We have the outer lips, or labia majora.
29:41I think the biggest mistake that I see men make is they just think, oh, it's all about the clitoris.
29:46And so they just, you know, like do a lot of this, do a lot of this.
29:50And it's quite painful, actually.
29:53When you think of a vulva, you think like, oh, you know, I want to like pet the whole vulva.
30:00But there's only so much you can learn from a diagram.
30:03Kat is generously willing to take her panties off and show you how a real vulva looks like.
30:17I think the show and tell is really important because when you look at an actual vulva,
30:21you're going to see it does look quite different than those quite sterile pictures.
30:28Okay.
30:28So, here you see the outer lips, the outer labia, right here and here.
30:33And then here and here are the inner.
30:39And there's the clitoris.
30:42And then down here is the vaginal opening.
30:46Do you have any questions?
30:52I was going to say, Kat, I really admire your courage for doing this because you're basically doing this so we can learn.
30:58So, thank you a lot for doing that.
31:00Yeah, thanks for saying that.
31:02Okay.
31:04That's a lot for one day.
31:06I think you deserve some rest.
31:15Anyone take notes?
31:16No.
31:17I'm paying attention.
31:18I'm like, I've got time for notes.
31:20I don't want to whip out a pen.
31:21It's good to hear from women who have had a lot of men make a lot of mistakes and to hear from that experience and to hear how to not fuck up like that.
31:28Across the island, the girls are also talking privates.
31:32What do you think of pubic hair?
31:35I don't really have an opinion on it.
31:36Like, Joy, for instance, had pubic hair.
31:39It looked really nice.
31:40It wasn't a lot, though.
31:41It was a very...
31:42She had what was called the landing strip.
31:44It was shaped, and I really like that.
31:46Yeah.
31:46Yeah, that's called a landing strip.
31:47A landing strip.
31:48I might go and get one of them.
31:50Yeah.
31:50I think that looked very stylish.
31:52Embrace a girl, yeah.
31:53But it's not the female body most of the girls need to get better acquainted with.
31:59Obviously, you have lessons in school about the way the body works, but it's not really something that I've dived into.
32:07Obviously, I've kissed a couple of boys, but that's about it.
32:12I've had as much contact with the penis as I would like, which is very, very little.
32:17Hello.
32:19Okay, welcome.
32:20Now we're going to invite up Dama and Deva to give you a little bit of an anatomy lesson on penises.
32:33So, you've got the shaft of the penis.
32:38Sometimes a penis, when it's erected, is not, like, super straight.
32:42It can be a bit like this, like this.
32:44After yesterday's penis preview...
32:47Getting used to doing this now.
32:48Deva can now give the girls a proper guided tour.
32:53People might think that the penis is really sensitive and, like, delicate or something, but it's not.
32:58You can really apply a lot of pressure.
33:00It doesn't hurt, you know.
33:01There's obviously the shaft here.
33:05This is the glands.
33:07And this part back here, the frenulum.
33:10But on me, anyway, it's the most sensitive part, don't we?
33:12Yeah.
33:12And this is the scrub, obviously.
33:14Now, that is like Play-Doh.
33:16That's why Jason always talks about Play-Doh skin.
33:19Yeah.
33:20Does anyone have any questions?
33:21Do you think you prefer a touch of, like, hands or, like, someone's tongue?
33:28The best combination that I enjoy is when someone's using their hands, but also their mouth.
33:33Right.
33:37I'll see you later.
33:51You all right?
33:52Hello.
33:53How's your morning been?
33:54It's been all right.
33:55What's your vagina?
33:57Really?
33:58Did you see a penis?
33:59Yeah.
34:00Yeah.
34:02Speechless.
34:03It's not my breath away.
34:03What can I say?
34:04Louise may be learning more about the body, but the experts now want a window into her mind.
34:13Louise is not an easy person to read in terms of how she feels or what she wants, but you
34:17can tell there's something big going on underneath the surface and that that needs to be dealt with.
34:24To do that, they've asked Louise to keep a journal to help understand herself better.
34:29How's the writing going?
34:31Good.
34:31I feel like it's kind of got quite a bit off.
34:35So my homework from Aisha was write my emotions down and things I've felt in the past and,
34:41like, repressed.
34:42I started with what I thought was, like, maybe the biggest factor.
34:46I know what it is, but I just can't express it.
34:51Louise has formed a bond with Aisha, but whether she's ready to open up remains to be seen.
34:56How are you feeling today?
34:58I kind of want to feel what I've wrote.
35:03Yum.
35:03I don't know, I felt like maybe reading it to you.
35:06Yeah.
35:06I feel like I'd just be able to let it all go.
35:09I can move on.
35:11So taking a breath.
35:11And when you're ready?
35:18I honestly don't even know where I should start because I almost feel like there's just too much that could be playing a part.
35:27in why I am the way that I am.
35:31Pause.
35:32Take a breath.
35:34I know I don't like being or feeling vulnerable, and maybe that stems from repressing my emotions from quite early on in life.
35:42All thanks to my dad, who was never really a big part of my life.
35:49He just left us for his next wife and their kids.
35:54It's a poor thing.
36:00He always used to think, what's so bad about me?
36:03That even my biological father just doesn't want to know me.
36:12If I wasn't even good enough for my dad, then why would I be good enough for anybody else?
36:28My mum used to say, you're not bothered about your dad, are you?
36:31And stuff like, I'd say no to her.
36:33But a little part of me would be like, but I do.
36:37You were taking care of her.
36:39And now what are you doing?
36:42Now you're taking care of you.
36:47I just don't feel better.
36:49I'm kind of crying.
36:50Yeah.
36:52You're starting to build up again.
36:54That sense of, I'm important.
36:59I'm worthy of love and respect.
37:02Would you like a hug?
37:05Please.
37:06Yeah.
37:06Yeah.
37:06I feel a lot better, a lot lighter, slightly happier.
37:14I'll see you later.
37:15Even though it is what seems like little steps, they're making a big difference.
37:20Keen for progress of his own, Zach's attention is still on his compliments list.
37:30Are you sure you don't want a compliment every day?
37:32Yeah, no, just because I've come here to try and steer myself away from comparing myself to other girls.
37:37Well, I do that enough at home on Instagram.
37:39I think you and Louise are the two best-looking girls here.
37:42You don't want to be saying, like, oh, Louise, you've got a bang on your body and you've got nice eyes.
37:45And then you say, Pia, you've got a nice smile.
37:47I don't know what you did say about that.
37:48I'm not attracted to Pia.
37:50That's what I'm trying to like.
37:53Right.
37:53Just put yourself in the position of...
37:55I'm not going to lie.
37:57I don't like being compared to other people, do you know what I mean?
38:13It's late afternoon on Virgin Island.
38:17Hi, hi, hi.
38:18And Charlotte still has some body issues to conquer.
38:22So why didn't you go naked in front of a mirror?
38:26Charlotte, Charlotte.
38:28I'm noticing more and more my issue is being vulnerable.
38:31You can't do it.
38:32It's hard.
38:33You can't do it.
38:38How about Charlotte?
38:39When she feels in control, then she feels powerful.
38:43Yeah.
38:44I think, like, the next step for her is she needs to work on her body confidence
38:48and really kind of, like, feeling at home in her new body.
38:55Hi.
38:56Hi.
38:56Over a few sessions, Charlotte has built a bond with surrogate partner Andre.
39:01But is she ready for the radical next step?
39:03This is an opportunity to see my body naked and for me to also see your body naked.
39:15I've never been naked in front of another person.
39:21The intimacy scares me.
39:23It's a lot if everything that I use, such as, like, clothes and humor, has been sort of stripped away.
39:30I guess I could try going topless first, and then I could kind of see how I felt continuing on from there.
39:40That sounds great.
39:41Let's go ahead and do that.
39:43Your body is your body.
39:57If there is ever a desire to be in an intimate connection with someone,
40:02there's a good chance that they're going to want to see your body.
40:08Yes.
40:10I think I feel comfortable taking off my top in this space.
40:26How does it feel?
40:27It's refreshing.
40:28Oh, my God.
40:29You have beautiful breasts.
40:31How is your energy if we were to remove our bottoms?
40:39I think I'm feeling okay to do it.
40:42Would you like me to turn around?
40:43Yes, please.
40:43Okay.
40:44You know, just keep breathing.
41:03Know that you are safe here.
41:06Okay.
41:07Okay.
41:08Yeah.
41:08We did it.
41:16We're naked.
41:17We're naked.
41:18Oh, my God.
41:18Oh, my God.
41:18We're naked.
41:23The change in Charlotte is beyond words, and there's still room for her to feel comfort and safety in her body,
41:33knowing that she is worthy of pleasure.
41:36So proud of you.
41:37Oh, thank you so much.
41:39I built that level of trust with Andre that I felt that I could be vulnerable, that I could be naked with him,
41:46and that he was going to sort of embrace all the little parts of myself that I don't fully love all the time.
41:55How was that?
41:56So we stripped down naked, and it was this moment of, like, we did it, and I was like, we're naked!
42:00Yay!
42:01Yay!
42:01Yay!
42:01Yay!
42:02Yay!
42:02And I just felt like, you know, the door of the Explorer, when you've, like, conquered whatever you need to do with Dora, and she goes, you did it!
42:09You did it!
42:09I've never seen that episode before, where the two get naked in a TV.
42:12I think she was like, oh!
42:13cheering
42:14While Charlotte is moving on, some of the boys can't stop thinking about this morning's workshop.
42:21You know what? I wanted to know how to properly touch your vagina.
42:26And I feel there were some good tips there.
42:29Like I said, that's important information.
42:31The thing is, if we gain anything, it's a plus.
42:34It's a plus.
42:38Dave was very interesting.
42:39I did think he took a lot out of it.
42:41I think so, too. He's really interesting in technique.
42:43It was super educational for him.
42:45He really wants to know more. He's thirsty for that knowledge.
42:49Dave may be interested in the theory,
42:53but expert Pat needs to find out if he's ready for a practical.
42:57How are you feeling about genital touching?
43:04OK-ish.
43:06Say more.
43:09I know I need to do things I'm not 100% comfortable with.
43:13But everything that I've done that I haven't been comfortable with,
43:16I've ended up being comfortable with, if that makes sense.
43:19Yeah.
43:22To get Dave relaxed, Kat starts with some kissing.
43:30But before progressing to the next stage,
43:34he's got to learn one crucial detail.
43:37But you have to get naked, too.
43:39OK, that's all right.
43:40If you want to.
43:41Yeah.
43:42Do you have a preference for who does what first?
43:48Maybe the one to touch those.
43:50Yeah, OK.
43:51Go ahead and lie down.
43:54I think touching someone in an intimate way
43:56is probably more nerve-wracking than me being touched,
44:00because I don't know if I'm going to be doing it right
44:02or if they're going to be enjoying it.
44:05Try to just close your eyes, feel into it.
44:24If Dave is to eventually lose his virginity on the island...
44:27This switch.
44:29Yeah.
44:30..he needs to learn to give as well as receive.
44:33It's always weird the first time,
44:35so I feel like you should just come try.
44:40Get used to what it feels like.
44:44It did not feel high.
44:51How did you expect it to feel?
44:53I don't know.
44:54Not that.
44:54I think it's always hard to find it.
44:59Can you find it?
45:04Is that it?
45:05Yeah.
45:07And then down at the bottom,
45:09yeah, that's like the vaginal opening.
45:14Yeah, that feels good.
45:15I feel more mature now.
45:23Good.
45:29Dave's been gone for an hour.
45:31Hi.
45:33Do you want to walk?
45:34I did.
45:35Was it good?
45:36It was quite good, actually.
45:38Everyone's curious about his session.
45:40Who?
45:41A cat.
45:41But a gentleman never tells.
45:44Okay, how'd that go?
45:45Just educational.
45:47What way?
45:49He doesn't want to say.
45:51I think it was good.
45:53We got through a lot.
45:54So I think this is the most progress I've made in the session.
45:56There was so much I didn't know,
45:58so I feel like I made a big step.
46:00I think it was so much I've made in the session.
46:01I think it was so much I've made in the session.
46:03I think it was so much I've made in the session.
46:05Next time...
46:06Oh, yes.
46:07...lessons take to the bed.
46:09I like that.
46:10And one-on-ones...
46:11I'm going to look on your g-spot area.
46:14Mm.
46:15...build up a head of steam.
46:17That's my head.
46:19I don't know if you find that intimidating.
46:22But sex isn't always simple.
46:25I think we'll get dressed and that's enough for it to be.
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