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00:00I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan, in the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
00:09Praise be to Allah, Lord of all worlds.
00:11Assalatu vesselamu ala rasulina Muhammedin ve ala alihi ve eshabihi ecmain.
00:16Indeed, Allah and His angels send blessings upon the Prophet.
00:19Therefore, O people of faith, send blessings and peace upon the Messenger of Allah with complete submission.
00:23My dear believing brothers and sisters, one of the stars shining in the sky of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)
00:31God willing, we will strive together today to turn the pages of the life story of our mother, Khadija al-Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her).
00:39My brothers, every man can be a male, but not every male is a man.
00:45Because manhood is a matter of character, not gender.
00:50Or perhaps, manhood is a matter of character, not womanhood.
00:55Therefore, when we say "man," we shouldn't only think of males, my brothers and sisters.
01:02When we say "man," we might think of humans who, by the grace of God, possess X and Y chromosomes.
01:10But when we say "man," we should think of people with big hearts.
01:15We need people from the mountain region to come here.
01:17We need to think of people who are competent in their cause.
01:21When we say "man," we should think of people with a conscience and compassion.
01:28When we read Islamic history or listen to the message of God, we often get the impression that this cause was primarily carried forward by men.
01:39Therefore, we fall into the misconception that masculinity is synonymous with being a man.
01:44However, as we have said, manhood is not related to gender, but to character and personality, and this is something that should be attributed to our mother, Khadija Tul Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her).
01:59Because she was a woman who could teach even many of us who consider ourselves men what manhood truly means.
02:06Even though she was female, even though she had XX chromosomes instead of XY chromosomes, she was a woman who could teach many men what manhood was.
02:17Therefore, today we will try to understand and comprehend our mother Khadija Tul Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her), a woman who will teach us what true manhood is.
02:28My brothers, look, when you open the books of the Prophet's biography, when you open the books of the battles, you'll find that they are divided into two categories.
02:37There is the Meccan period, and then there is the Medinan period.
02:40There are so many historical accounts related to the Medina period that perhaps there are a hundred times more related to the Mecca period.
02:48However, there are not many accounts related to the Meccan period.
02:52This describes the years of the Prophet Muhammad's (peace and blessings be upon him) دعوت (invitation to Islam).
02:56The siege of Shibli Abi Talib is described.
02:58The days in Taif are described.
03:00But scholars say that even during the Meccan period, among the matters related to the life of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), the story of Khadija al-Kubra was narrated the most.
03:12Allahu Akbar.
03:12When our scholars of biography investigated why this was the case, they said it was because our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was such a loyal prophet, such a faithful messenger, that he never betrayed those who had helped him when he first started this cause.
03:29Hatice Tül, a man with a big heart and a true gentleman, never stopped talking about Kübra, never forgetting her.
03:37Wherever he went, he never stopped talking about Hatice, who had helped him in his first case.
03:45Why would he give up?
03:47The first believer was not a man, that's why.
03:50The first believer was a woman, my brothers and sisters.
03:52There was disagreement regarding the first man to believe.
03:55There was disagreement about whether Abu Bakr or Ali was the first among the men to embrace Islam, but there was no dispute whatsoever regarding the first woman to believe.
04:04There was even no dispute regarding the faith of Khadija al-Kubra, who was the first person to embrace Islam after the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
04:16So that's what being a man is all about.
04:18When our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) received the revelation, the first person to believe in him, and indeed the woman to whom Allah said, "Send greetings to him, O Muhammad," was Khadija Tulkubra.
04:31So much so that when Allah commanded our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) to pray, my dear brothers and sisters...
04:38Abu Bakr was not the first to stand in prayer behind our Prophet Ali (peace and blessings be upon him).
04:44It wasn't Ali, it wasn't Zeyd.
04:46Who was it again?
04:47It was Hatice Tül Kübra who would teach us what it means to be a man.
04:51This is our mother, Khadija Tul Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her).
04:56He was so close to our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) that...
05:00She became a kind of madrasa mother, nurturing the believers who were by her side.
05:05Who was it that enabled his freed slave, Zayd ibn Haritha, to become Zayd ibn Haritha?
05:12Their mentor in the madrasa was Hatice Tül Kübra, my brothers and sisters.
05:16Who was it that acted as a mother to our Prophet (peace be upon him) when he took him in at the age of 10, and taught him the art of striving for God's cause?
05:24She was Hatice Tül Kübra, the head of that madrasa.
05:28In other words, she was a woman who tirelessly supported the cause of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and was not a neutral woman.
05:37So, rather than saying "you don't have to go to the gathering today," it's more like, "no, you don't have to go to the gathering today."
05:43The one who says, "There's no dinner for you tonight," or "If you don't go to the chat today, I won't let you in tonight,"
05:50Our mother Hatice Tül Kübra (may Allah be pleased with her), being an active woman, was always on the lips of our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
06:00Here, my dear brothers and sisters, are the most frequently cited and narrated accounts in the books of biography that speak of the Meccan period:
06:08This has been narrated to our mother, Khadija Tul Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her).
06:12Look, my dear brothers and sisters, our mother Khadija was born in Mecca in the year 555 AD.
06:20So, he was born 15 years older than our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
06:26His father, Huwaylida, was one of the richest people in Mecca.
06:31So, Hatice, our mother Kübra, was born into a very wealthy family.
06:37Her father named her Hatice.
06:39Our scholars say that the name Khadija meant "prematurely born."
06:44So, she was expected to be born at 9 months, but was born at 7 months.
06:48Because she was born a little earlier than average, her father named her Hatice, meaning "early arrival."
06:58And that's how this name reached us.
07:01Doesn't his early birth hold a certain wisdom in it?
07:06He was born 15 years earlier than our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
07:11And it is as if Allah, with some wisdom, created an environment and conditions for Khadija, who would aid the cause of Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), by bringing her into the world before him, isn't it?
07:26How wonderful is Allah, who prepared this environment for His Prophet, and how wonderful is He who shows this to the believers, saying, "If you believe in Me as My Prophet did, I will send you Khadijahs who will prepare environments for you in the cause of Islam," my brothers and sisters, who are grateful to Allah.
07:44Look, God made our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wealthy so that he could create a pleasant environment for his wife Khadija before she arrived.
07:55He made her the richest woman in Mecca, and she donated all her wealth and possessions to the cause of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
08:02My brothers, our scholars have said that our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) had two nicknames in Mecca.
08:09One was named Tahire and the other Tacire.
08:13What does Tahire mean?
08:15In a time when immorality was rampant, when adultery was commonplace, she never compromised her chastity.
08:25So, our mother Khadija radiyallahu anh was the beginning of the cause of women who never gave up on wearing the headscarf in pursuit of their diplomas.
08:36He never compromised.
08:37Therefore, the polytheists of Mecca gave her the name Tahira.
08:42In other words, a woman who is completely pure.
08:45That's why, because she is Tahira, as our Lord says, good men are suitable for good women.
08:51It is said that good women are suitable for good men, and since only a woman whose name and title is Tahira (the Pure One) could marry a Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), who is an embodiment of chastity, our Lord made her so chaste.
09:10But today, in this environment where we believers who want to declare ourselves as Khadija, who say that we follow the path of Khadija, or who say that she was the only wife of Muhammad (peace be upon him), we unfortunately witness the immorality of people named Khadija or Muhammad, don't we?
09:32So, such an ignorant perception has formed in this society that even they say, "Teacher, haven't you ever been with a woman? Haven't you ever been with a woman without marriage? It seems you haven't even had your first sexual experience yet."
09:46So, there are people among us, some named Muhammad, who use the term "chastity" as an insult, saying you haven't been able to be nationalistic by degrading chastity, right?
09:58Or, my dear brothers and sisters, this man leaves no girl untouched, no woman in society unflirted with, and then perhaps he says, "When I perform a marriage ceremony in the name of God, I will marry someone who hasn't spoken to any man before."
10:13He says he wants a girl who has never had a flirtatious relationship with any man, but unfortunately, he's talked to so many girls out there – you could say he's practically left no girl untouched – so we also have this kind of shamelessness.
10:28Let us pray, my brothers and sisters, that Allah may grant us the same faith that preserved the chastity of Khadija al-Kubra, the pure one.
10:38Look, my dear brothers and sisters, they say his second nickname was that of a merchant, meaning he was involved in trade with the inheritance he received from a wealthy father, and he was making a lot of money in that trade.
10:52Unfortunately, are there television presenters today who exploit our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her)? Yes, there are. Are there television show hosts who exploit her? Yes, there are. Are there immoral women who offer themselves to men for supplication and then shout slogans about freedom using Khadija's name?
11:10By God, yes, my brothers. What does it say? It says that our mother Khadija also engaged in trade, so why should it be forbidden for a woman to work? Or why shouldn't it be permissible for a woman to interact with men in social life?
11:26Yes, my brothers and sisters, it is true. A woman can work within official and legitimate limits, but why do the women who bring this up never mention the truth about Khadija having six children with Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)?
11:41Why do those who only embrace the commercial aspect of it see having only one or two children at home, or even having children at all, as a burden?
11:50Allahu Akbar. Those who bring up Khadija's role as a merchant, why don't they also mention the Zayds, Alis, and even Zubayr ibn al-Awam, whom she raised as mujahids in her home?
12:04I suppose it doesn't suit their purposes, does it? But what else can these same women exploit, especially when they're married?
12:13Those who bring up the fact that Allah, in His book, has permitted believing women to ask for as much gold as they want as a dowry from the men they marry, when it suits them, unfortunately, they don't bring up the story of Khadija raising mujahids at home when it doesn't suit them, my brothers.
12:34It's as if, rather than saying "I'm working to gain some social status," those who can't express it openly—"I want to work so I can have some economic independence and not be dependent on my husband"—are unfortunately using our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) as a tool for exploitation, aren't they, my dear brothers and sisters?
12:58May Allah protect us, both men and women, from exploiting Khadija al-Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her). May He grant each of us the ability to be among the believers who live and die with the faith of Khadija al-Kubra.
13:17Look, my dear brothers and sisters, our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) had two marriages before our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and both of her husbands passed away. From these two marriages, she had two daughters and one son.
13:36This boy's name is Haris bin Abu Hale, meaning our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) gave birth to a child named Haris from her husband, Hale.
13:48I'd like to digress for a moment here.
13:50There's a misconception we're aware of; let's correct it.
13:53The people we refer to as the first martyrs of Islam are not Sumeyye, my brothers and sisters.
13:58It is not Yasir.
13:59Therefore, Ammar bin Yasir's family is the first martyr family in Islam.
14:03But they were not the first martyrs of Islam.
14:06The first martyr of Islam was Harith ibn Abu Hala, the son of Khalid, who was the first to believe in our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and the first to pray behind him. He was the first person to be martyred in Mecca during an incident where polytheists attacked Muslims.
14:28Allahu Akbar.
14:29So, my brothers and sisters, our mother, Hazrat Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her), did not only sacrifice her life for this cause.
14:37He sacrificed his family, his children, and even his life for this cause.
14:40Those who cannot sacrifice their lives for this cause can never sacrifice their children or their own lives for this cause.
14:49He sacrificed that man too.
14:51And so, the first martyr of Islam, a child, was brought into this world by him as Harith ibn Abu Hala, and this is how we see it.
15:00My brothers and sisters, when our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her)'s second husband passed away, she was 37 years old.
15:09And although she received many marriage proposals in Mecca between the ages of 37 and 40, she never accepted any of them.
15:19Allahu Akbar.
15:21He didn't accept anyone.
15:23In fact, my sisters even had a case where Abu Jahl proposed marriage to them, but they refused.
15:27The Prophet Muhammad's uncle, Abu Leheb, proposed marriage to Khadija, but she refused.
15:34How could a pure and chaste woman accept a marriage proposal from such a polytheist? Of course not, right?
15:44And so, the reason why those like Abu Lahab, Abu Jahl, and Walid ibn Mughra became enemies of our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), even after he married at the age of 40, was not solely because he said "La Ilaha Illallah" (There is no god but Allah).
16:00It's not because God said "let God's will be done" in God's world, but because Khadija didn't accept our marriage proposal, but she accepted Muhammad's, and they are jealous of that, and my dear brothers and sisters have become enemies because of this.
16:19So, some of the misfortunes that befell him were partly due to his love for Hatice, and partly because Hatice loved him; these misfortunes happened to him because of that love.
16:32And perhaps it's the same today, my brothers and sisters, isn't it?
16:35Today, when two people, a husband and wife, are happy and deeply in love, and this is heard by others, what can someone do immediately? They can become jealous, right?
16:45People get jealous of whatever others do, right?
16:48Or perhaps the mother-in-law, or father-in-law, or sister-in-law, or brother-in-law, are jealous because they heard that they are getting along well and immediately want to ruin their relationship, right?
16:58So sometimes, even when we have a good relationship with our spouse, others can plot against us, my brothers and sisters.
17:05Sometimes it's because we treat our spouse well, isn't it?
17:10We sometimes face negative reactions, don't we?
17:13Come on, would a woman be jealous of her daughter?
17:15Does a mother-in-law get jealous of her daughter, my brothers and sisters?
17:19The mother-in-law is jealous of her daughter because her husband loves her very much.
17:22Why?
17:23My husband didn't love me very much, so how can my son-in-law love my daughter so much? That's how they start stirring up trouble and gossip, isn't it?
17:33Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
17:35So, things that may have happened to our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) may not be happening to us as seriously right now, but know that if we love our spouses very much, someone will be jealous of us.
17:46If we become a good example of an Islamic family, know that some people will be envious of us, my brothers and sisters.
17:52That's why we always say, my brothers and sisters, being brothers and sisters isn't enough.
17:57Are you Abel or Cain? Tell me.
18:00We're all brothers and sisters, that's for sure.
18:02We are all brothers and sisters, but we need to determine whether you are my brother Abel or my brother Cain, don't we?
18:09Therefore, let us pray, my dear brothers and sisters, that Allah may increase the number of our brothers and sisters who do not envy us, who rejoice in our happiness when they hear that we are happy in our marriages, and that He may purify our brothers and sisters from us.
18:27Look, my brothers, in those days, our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her), who was a merchant, would send trade caravans from Mecca to Damascus, Busra, and Yemen, and she would appoint someone as the leader of these trade caravans.
18:44Abu Talib, the uncle of our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), said, "O Muhammad, if you wish, I can tell Khadija, the greatest merchant of Mecca, about you."
18:54Let him appoint you as the leader of their caravans, and you shall go as the leader of their caravans, and Hatice shall oversee their trade.
19:03Our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) accepted this offer, and Abu Talib came to Khadija, spoke about Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), and she told him about Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
19:15To put it in today's terms, he hired my brothers as accountants and placed Muhammad (peace be upon him) in charge of their caravans.
19:23And so, since our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) was a very clever merchant, she said to her servant, a man named Maysar,
19:33Wherever you go, follow Muhammad and bring me information about him.
19:38Our scholars say that our biography scholars say that the heart of our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) was filled with love, affection, and fondness for the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).
19:47The trade had fallen through before it even began. He had given Meyser this order so he could get to know him better, to gather information about him.
19:57And look, my brothers, when he goes to Meyser with our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) to Damascus, he captures every detail, just like a photographer would take pictures of everything around him.
20:09He is aware that he has been assigned to take her photograph.
20:13They never leave the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) for even a moment, and what do we understand from this?
20:19So, if you want to get to know a person, you'll either have to do business with them or travel with them.
20:26This could be a trip between cities, it could be a trip for a foundation, a trip for an association, or a trip out of friendship.
20:34That's the only way you can get to know people, my brothers.
20:36Will he sell you or not?
20:39What should he/she do and what shouldn't he/she do in times of trouble?
20:42Or, when you enter into a business, will he cheat you or not?
20:47But you only understand when money is involved, and that's why our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) assigned the task to Maysar.
20:56And my brothers are telling the story of Meyser.
20:58He says, "We went towards Damascus," and Muhammad (peace be upon him) began to trade.
21:03He met a Jew, and that Jew said that in order to get the trade approved,
21:10Muhammad said, "If you are telling the truth, swear by Lat and Manat."
21:16He says to Meyser, who was describing our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him):
21:21The vein on the forehead of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was already bulging even before he received prophethood.
21:25And he said, "What are you saying, O Jew?"
21:28I would never swear an oath on something I don't believe in.
21:32Allahu Akbar.
21:33He said this before he became a prophet.
21:36Even after he became a prophet, he said:
21:39My brothers said that swearing by anything other than God is polytheism (shirk).
21:43Allahu Akbar.
21:45Allahu Akbar.
21:46So, our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said that it is only necessary to swear an oath in the name of Allah.
21:53But today, she said, her eyes welled up with tears when she heard his name.
21:59saying that they celebrate his arrival during his blessed birth week
22:04And people who don't realize they're just part of a charade,
22:10They swear on so many things, don't they?
22:12They swear allegiance to Kemalism.
22:14They swear allegiance to secularism.
22:16They swear allegiance to Mustafa Kemal's principles and reforms, don't they?
22:21Allahu Akbar.
22:22Allahu Akbar.
22:24Here's what he said:
22:26"I would never swear on something I didn't believe in," he said.
22:29Then, a believer, a monotheist who takes him as an example, should never swear an oath on something he does not believe in, my brothers.
22:39The issue continues.
22:41He says, then he says, on his trip to Damascus,
22:44The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) became very sad.
22:48I watched him from a distance, then he went and sat under a tree and then began to think.
22:55I went to him and said, "What happened to Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)?"
22:59Why did you come under this tree?
23:01What do you think when I ask?
23:03He said, "My personal account and the caravan's account have become mixed up."
23:08"Hey, Maysara," he said.
23:10Bear witness that I transferred my personal funds to the caravan's account.
23:17I transferred the money to the caravan's account.
23:18Allahu Akbar.
23:19So, my brothers and sisters, we are talking about Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), who, out of fear of violating the rights of others, could even transfer his entire personal account to that trust.
23:35Allahu Akbar.
23:36Today, when a prospective father-in-law goes to ask for a girl's hand in marriage, or when he goes to see the girl, he often asks if she prays or fasts.
23:47Honestly, my brothers, these things aren't the determining factors in this day and age anymore.
23:52Yes, it is important for a believer to pray, it is important to fast, but my brothers and sisters, these are the intrinsic relationships between a believer and God.
24:00But the most important thing, the most important aspect, is its horizontal relationship with people.
24:06So you can perform your prayers between yourselves and God, but if that prayer doesn't prevent you from stealing state property, if it doesn't prevent you from squandering the wealth of the community, if that prayer doesn't guide you, how can you be considered servants of God, my brothers?
24:22Look at what our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, did in his relationships with people, in that horizontal relationship of servitude to God, out of fear that the property of a believer, a woman, might fall into his hands?
24:36My brothers had transferred all their personal funds to Hatice's caravan.
24:40So, let's think about this today, for example, are we really earning the monthly salary or wage we receive in the places we work, my brothers and sisters?
24:49And are we still operating under the same mentality as some politicians say today, that "state property is like the sea, only fools don't take advantage of it," my brothers and sisters?
25:00Allahu Akbar!
25:01And where do we go from here?
25:04We're going back to the past experiences that a woman like Khadija would have regarding Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), aren't we?
25:12What will he say when he comes to Meyser? He will say, "Muhammad (peace be upon him) did such and such, O Meyser, he did not swear by a Latin or a Manat, and he even transferred his personal account to yours so that your property would not be wasted." When he says this to a woman, wouldn't that woman feel even more love for him?
25:33If this were done to a man, not a woman, wouldn't the person who did it deserve more trust from that merchant or trader, my brothers and sisters?
25:44If we want believers, Muslims, to trust us in this society today, we need to set the same example that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) showed.
25:56And look, my dear brothers and sisters, our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, came to Maysar and told these things to our mother Khadija.
26:04Look, he didn't say Muhammad prayed, he didn't say "Allahu Akbar," he didn't say Muhammad fasted, he didn't say Muhammad gave zakat, he didn't say he went on pilgrimage. He said Muhammad did such and such, and where did Khadija take this?
26:17He took it to his nephew, Waraka ibn Nawfal.
26:22Waraka ibn Nawfal was a monotheist who preserved the belief in the oneness of God, having lived since the time of idols and adhering to the monotheistic faith that originated with Jesus Christ.
26:31And my brothers came to Waraka and said, "Khadija said, 'These are the qualities of Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him): He keeps his trusts.'"
26:39When Lat said he did not swear by Manat, Waraka ibn Nawfal said, "If that man possesses the characteristics you have described, then he is the awaited prophet."
26:49Allahu Akbar.
26:51So, look, the sign of a man being a prophet is not that he prays or fasts, but that he does not swear by Lat and Manat, and that he does not betray trust; that is the sign of that man being a prophet, my brothers.
27:05Then shouldn't the greatest sign of us being the followers of this prophet now be that we are free from polytheism, disbelief, and idolatry, and that we safeguard the trust properly?
27:19Allahu Akbar.
27:21This is what our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) heard from Waraka ibn Nawfal, and she began to feel an even deeper love for our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
27:30But she doesn't know how to express this deep love to the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
27:38To whom has she come this time to share this deep love?
27:42He told Meyseri.
27:43She said, "Hatice, do you want your love, your affection for him? Let me go and play matchmaker, let me ask Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)."
27:53Allahu Akbar.
27:54We always say, "Do girls want boys?"
27:57So, girls want boys, my brothers.
27:58Do girls really go to see the groom?
28:03In our society, it's always the groom, the men, who ask for the girl's hand in marriage, right? Well, here's the first believing woman in Islam; she went and asked for the hand of the first believing man, Muhammad (peace be upon him), my brothers and sisters.
28:14Or perhaps he had it requested.
28:16He came to Meyser and said, "Khadija has a request for your hand in marriage, O Muhammad."
28:23When he asked, "Would you accept this?", our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "It shouldn't be like, 'Let me take a widow and tell her,' meaning she wasn't a woman who would become rich from his money, was she?"
28:39My brothers never entered into marriages driven by self-interest, like those men who say, "Let me divorce you so I can marry a woman living in France or Holland, and after I get my residency there, I'll have you transferred there too."
28:55Allahu Akbar.
28:55He had entered into a marriage based on compassion, and because he loved Khadija, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) accepted the proposal.
29:05Allahu Akbar.
29:07Look, a woman proposed marriage to a man.
29:10Doesn't that seem strange to us?
29:12We fathers of daughters, for example, feel ashamed when it comes to choosing our own sons-in-law.
29:18We consider even the thought of "so-and-so becoming my son-in-law" to be forbidden.
29:23Why is it that this society, which dreams of so-and-so's daughter becoming their daughter-in-law, doesn't also dream of so-and-so's son becoming their son-in-law, my brothers and sisters?
29:35We've always been suppressed, haven't we?
29:36A perception of religion that has become detached from the natural essence of Islam has emerged.
29:40But then, what did Khadija, a true follower of natural Islam, do when she arrived?
29:46He sought the hand of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), and he accepted his offer.
29:51Therefore, my brothers and sisters, what you give is not yours alone.
29:56What you've taken is yours.
29:57What you hold is yours.
29:59What did Khadija do for Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)?
30:02Whatever he grabbed, it became his.
30:04He took it, and it's his now.
30:06So what should we do then?
30:07Let's try to hold on.
30:09Let's try to find ourselves a son-in-law.
30:11The groom you choose is yours.
30:13The groom you chose is yours.
30:15Otherwise, the groom you gave your daughter to on credit is not yours, my brothers.
30:19Allahu Akbar, our daughter stayed home too.
30:22Come on, someone take this too.
30:24The person you chose as your son-in-law isn't actually your son-in-law.
30:30So, what did he do to our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him?
30:34Our mother Khadija al-Kubra (may Allah be pleased with her), who believed in the principle of "what you take is yours," took her as his wife.
30:40Look, my brothers and sisters, Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) was always by the side of our mother, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he was there for him in this marriage as well.
30:50And he said, "My Hatice," he said.
30:53"I will marry you, but I am a penniless man," he said.
30:56When he said he had no money, Abu Bakr brought everything he had.
30:59Allahu Akbar.
31:00That's what friendship is: being there for someone during these difficult times.
31:06Money?
31:07You will pay the money.
31:08There are times when you'll even give your life for your friend, my brothers.
31:13Here is Abu Bakr, my brothers, a friend who gave him both manna and life.
31:18Allahu Akbar.
31:19May God grant us such true friends among those around us, in our immediate vicinity.
31:28When we fall, we will say, "This man is not just someone who will give me manna, he is a friend who will give me life."
31:35May God grant us the ability and influence to be true human beings, my brothers and sisters.
31:39We need friends like these, don't we?
31:41But not someone fragile, but someone who loves wholeheartedly, is honorable, not dishonorable, and will support you when you fall.
31:52But ours isn't quite like that, I guess.
31:55We're probably paying a little more attention to ourselves, aren't we?
31:57For example, if a friend of ours is thirsty, Ismail, we can offer them this water too.
32:04We can quench his thirst.
32:06When Ali Osman runs out of bread, we share a piece of our bread with him.
32:11But if, for example, a friend of ours can't get married, we don't care about that, do we?
32:15We don't worry about it.
32:17Come on, you can quench the man's thirst.
32:19You can satisfy your hunger, but you can't satisfy a man's lack of a wife.
32:22So, in order to alleviate that man's loneliness, shouldn't we help him in the same way that Abu Bakr (peace and blessings be upon him) helped him?
32:31Do our single brothers here need to hold up signs saying, "Brother, marry me off," or "Brothers, please find me a girl, for God's sake"?
32:42Does she need to go on live television? Does she need to appear on Müge Anlay's show?
32:47Isn't that amazing?
32:48So, isn't this what it means to be friends, to be companions, my brothers and sisters?
32:53Isn't it about sharing his/her sorrow?
32:56Therefore, just as Abu Bakr helped him, let us also try to do our part to become the Abu Bakrs of today.
33:04But we have limited resources; we don't have a catalog to find girls for everyone.
33:09We don't have a catalog to find a man for everyone.
33:11If there is such a person around us, even if we can't do anything for them, we can at least pray, "O Lord, turn their bachelorhood into marriage as soon as possible so that they, I, and the entire Muslim community may be saved," my brothers and sisters.
33:25May Allah grant each of us the grace and ability to be such sincere believers.
33:31Look, my brothers and sisters, our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) invited someone to her wedding.
33:40Who did he invite? He invited them to his mother-in-law's wedding.
33:43Who is his mother-in-law? Since our mother Amina is not here, he invited our mother Halima, may Allah be pleased with her, who was the wet nurse of our Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, to his wedding.
33:54And what did our mother Halima say to our mother Halima after the wedding, when she witnessed the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)?
34:04"Mommy," he said. "Don't go," he said. "Live with us in our house here." Allahu Akbar.
34:11Where are the Hatices of our time? Even before any marriage discussions have taken place, if I marry your son today, will we live in the same house?
34:19Can a woman or girl who asks, "Are we going to live in separate houses?" be like Hatice, my brothers and sisters?
34:25From those Khadijas, Zayds were born, and Zubayrs grew up.
34:31Do you understand now why we don't have men like Zayd and Zubayr among our women who, even before getting married, worry about whether they will live in the same place or separately from their mother-in-law?
34:42Allahu Akbar.
34:43So, it's not just about living in the same city anymore; we're even hearing about people moving to different cities because they're afraid their relationship with their mother-in-law or father-in-law will deteriorate, right?
34:55Allahu Akbar.
34:56The man built a huge apartment building, ten stories high.
34:59He had a dream. He said, "I want to live on the top floor."
35:01He said he wanted his children to sit under him.
35:03"No, sir," he says.
35:06Can a woman like Hatice, who says, "I can't live in an apartment building on the same floor as my mother and father," and imagines herself stepping into a two-meter-deep grave when she enters, ever be like that, my brothers and sisters?
35:20Allahu Akbar.
35:20May God grant us more women like Hatice.
35:24Let us pray that God will grant us spouses who will wash our mothers' feet and never even speak ill of our fathers.
35:31If we couldn't find wives of that caliber, let's at least try to raise our daughters to be such wives, my brothers.
35:39Allahu Akbar.
35:40Why?
35:41What did the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) say?
35:44A woman said, "If he does these things, by God, he will enter through whichever gate of paradise he wishes."
35:48But our women today are searching for paradise far away, my brothers and sisters.
35:52What did he say?
35:53Let him perform his prayers and keep his fast.
35:57These are already on sale.
35:58Then she should protect her honor, he said, and she should obey her husband.
36:02Allahu Akbar.
36:03Then he said, let him enter through whichever gate of paradise he wishes.
36:06Don't obey your husband, do charity work.
36:08Don't listen to your husband; attend a Quranic exegesis class.
36:11Don't take your husband's words seriously, go out and act all high and mighty.
36:16Allahu Akbar.
36:17Why are these necessary?
36:19If you add all of this up, your husband probably won't say a single word, right?
36:25Therefore, may Allah grant such understanding to our wives and daughters, my brothers.
36:30Look, my dear brothers and sisters, even our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her),
36:36After he made this offer, our mother Halime did not accept it, and later my dear brothers sent her forty sheep as a gift.
36:46He gave forty sheep as a gift and sent them away.
36:49So what do we understand from this again?
36:52How respectful should a bride be towards her mother-in-law, right?
36:57When his own mother comes, when his own father comes, Professor Mehmet just pours everything out.
37:04When her husband's parents come to visit, she acts as if she's facing resistance from outside, doesn't she?
37:09It starts with all the whining and complaining from now on.
37:11Allahu Akbar.
37:12Look, my dear siblings, they're brand new.
37:14In Saudi Arabia, the younger brother, Kashfi, has sued his older brother.
37:20What is the reason?
37:20What is the reason?
37:23He received his rightful share of the inheritance.
37:27He didn't commit corruption.
37:28Here's the reason, my brothers.
37:30I want my mother to stay at my house, but my brother won't allow it.
37:36He wants to take care of my mother in his own home.
37:39The judge listens to these things, but the judge cannot make a decision.
37:42Then he asks his mother.
37:44What do you say about these children?
37:47They say, "They are like my two eyes."
37:49He says he can't say anything to either of them.
37:52And the judge rules that the mother can stay with the younger sibling.
37:58And the older brother starts sobbing uncontrollably, my brothers.
38:02My mother won't stay with me, she'll stay with my little brother.
38:06So what are we doing?
38:08We're putting them in line too, aren't we?
38:09If we have eight siblings, we draw lots, right?
38:12That's right.
38:13We don't even look, my brothers.
38:14That's the strange thing.
38:15I say this to myself as well.
38:17We're not interested in their problems or difficulties either.
38:20And then we're talking about Hatice Dül Kübra.
38:23If Hatice Dül Kübra was so generous even to her own mother-in-law,
38:28What might your ancestors, who lived 14 centuries ago, have said to us?
38:34He's saying this, right?
38:35If your mother, Hatice, treated even her mother-in-law so generously,
38:40Doesn't the Prophet Muhammad say, "O my children, O Ummah of Muhammad, do not fail in respect and courtesy towards your own mothers," my brothers and sisters?
38:48Allahu Akbar.
38:49Hopefully we can create a similar problem there as well.
38:52My brothers later recount that Abu Talib said to his servant Nawa during the early days of their marriage.
38:58"Go and see for yourself," he said, "at Hatice's house."
39:01Hatice is a very rich woman, and my nephew is poor, that's why she said that.
39:06He asked if she was being mistreated.
39:08He asked if she was being mistreated.
39:09For example, when our sons marry into the family and live with their parents' families, what do our parents do about it?
39:16Mahzuncum says, "I wonder if my child went to live with their family as a son-in-law?"
39:20They might think, "Are they mistreating my child because they're penniless?"
39:24He probably thought the same thing, poor guy.
39:26He sent Neva, she went to Neva, checked on their situation, and then returned to Abu Talib.
39:32No matter what I say, my siblings have probably never heard arguments like this.
39:35Our mother Khadija didn't say to our Prophet, "Get up, you brute, as a husband, get your own water," did she?
39:42Or, cut the nonsense, we bought this house with the money my father gave us anyway.
39:48Are you even a man, a fellow?
39:50If it weren't for the money my father gave me, you would have been so hungry you wouldn't have been able to breathe.
39:53He probably didn't say, "You couldn't even lift me up in a tent," did he, my brothers?
39:58What did he say?
39:59Nawa said, "By Allah, O Abu Talib!"
40:01"I have never seen such love, such affection, such a husband-wife relationship before," he said.
40:08"The doorbell is ringing," he said.
40:10Before Hatice could even reach the door, Muhammed ran after her so she wouldn't get tired.
40:15My brothers and sisters said that Khadija was running so that Muhammad wouldn't get tired.
40:19Now think about it.
40:21He was sitting idly on the sofa with his wife when the doorbell rang.
40:25Who's going to run first, my brothers?
40:27Everyone's staring at each other blankly, right?
40:29It's not about whether he'll get up or whether she'll get up, right?
40:34Such a love, such an affection.
40:35What kind of love is this?
40:36A love that shields you so that you don't get tired.
40:39Of course, what are some of you thinking right now?
40:42Teacher, where in our country can we find a woman like Hatice?
40:44Some of you might be thinking, "What kind of women are there in this city?"
40:47But doesn't the same apply to our women as well?
40:50Where is this great man named Muhammed among us?
40:51So, if there are problems with women, it's because we men haven't been able to show our women the same care and attention that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) showed them.
41:00They should also go and answer the door so as not to hurt their feet.
41:04Allahu Akbar.
41:06Then what did he promise?
41:07Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) wasn't like those women who, when I asked for something, would say, "Get up, you brute, get your own water!"
41:17What would he say?
41:18My parents would sacrifice themselves for you.
41:21"Do you have any other requests, any other orders?" my brothers would ask.
41:24Allahu Akbar.
41:25I mean, I don't want to dwell on such painful things, especially for any of our men.
41:29I don't want to be too harsh, but I'm saying this to illustrate a point.
41:34I suppose if we went home today and we asked for something, like "Wife, bring me some water," and she brought us water and he asked, "Husband, do you need anything else?", we'd probably say, "Is this the end of the world? Come on in!"
41:45We're going to say, "What the hell is going on?" right?
41:47We've reached that point.
41:49If we cannot receive a rose because of a lack of love, let's give a rose; perhaps life will become more beautiful.
41:55We have things we need to do too, don't we?
41:58Sometimes, when she shouts, let's just be quiet.
42:00Sometimes, when someone defends their mother, we might just say, "Okay, your mother is right."
42:05Or what are we unable to do?
42:06We can't make ends meet, my brothers.
42:08Let us pray that Allah will instill in us all the love between our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and our mother Khadija.
42:16My brothers and sisters, look, the verse from Surah An-Nisa has been revealed, and men are permitted to have up to four wives.
42:24But we always misunderstand this.
42:25It's as if they've suddenly allowed marriages up to four times.
42:29No, this restriction applies, my scholars have said.
42:31Because during the Meccan period, people used to marry on it, my brothers.
42:36"Marrying only four men" means not marrying more than four, or ten men in total.
42:41And on that day, people were only saddened after that verse was revealed.
42:46Because we can't marry more than four women.
42:49Why are we sad?
42:50Or move on to marrying more than four women.
42:52We're so upset just because we can't get married.
42:54Four of them, right?
42:56So that our single people can get married.
42:58Those of us who are already in first place can't even dream of coming in second.
43:02"Oh my teacher," he says, "one of them is enough, right?"
43:05And then for the second one, he says, "My weight class isn't suitable," and so on.
43:09And consider, my brothers and sisters, that our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, could normally have married multiple wives.
43:16Five years have passed, and he is now thirty years old.
43:19After five years had passed since the time of his marriage to our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her)
43:24To whom did Hatice send her friend named Nefise?
43:29Our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him.
43:30So he sent it to his wife.
43:31Perhaps he himself could say it.
43:33But he was polite.
43:34"Perhaps," he said, "I will embarrass my Muhammad."
43:36He said, "Go to your ego and say to my Muhammad."
43:40If he wants to buy a second one, let him," he said.
43:43Allahu Akbar.
43:44He said, "If he wants to buy a second one, let him."
43:47Does such a woman really exist?
43:49Subhanallah.
43:51Woman, woman.
43:52That's what we mean by a real man.
43:54These are my sisters who are real men.
43:56Subhanallah.
43:57Nefise is gone.
43:59Now you will say:
44:00Our mother Khadija said this because she knew that even a man like Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) would say such a thing.
44:05Honestly, that's not the case.
44:07"I would never smell a rose over my beloved Khadija," said our Prophet.
44:11He said he wouldn't marry another woman as long as she was alive.
44:14And for twenty-five years
44:16My brothers have never taken another woman besides him.
44:21You know, he got married many times and did this and that.
44:23Those vile people who say "Muhammad is a slut" fail to see this.
44:27He spent twenty-five years in a relationship with one woman until he was fifty.
44:33Allahu Akbar.
44:34Here is our mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her).
44:37While proposing a second marriage to her
44:39Unfortunately, my brothers and sisters, we are witnessing such things...
44:42The man apologizes to his wife.
44:44Why did he apologize?
44:46His wife saw him getting married a second time in her dream.
44:51"How is it that in my dream you took a second wife?" he says.
44:53He says apologize quickly.
44:54"Okay, my dear wife," he says.
44:56"I'm so sorry," he says.
44:58He comes to you in your dream and says, "This is your second wife."
45:00He says it's because I got it in your dream.
45:01"I am very sorry and I apologize profusely," he says.
45:03Allahu Akbar.
45:04Or the man himself in his dream
45:07He married a second wife.
45:09In the morning, Professor Lokman apologizes to his wife.
45:11"My wife," he says, "I'm sorry."
45:13In my dream, she says, I smelled roses on you.
45:15Allahu Akbar.
45:17Allahu Akbar.
45:18But of course, my brothers and sisters, these are all just jokes.
45:20But are there really women like Hatice in this day and age?
45:24Yes, it really exists.
45:25Yes, it definitely exists.
45:26I swear to God, my brothers.
45:28Look, my dear brothers and sisters.
45:30I have a very dear and valued friend in Istanbul.
45:34If someone were to ask me, "Professor, in this world..."
45:37So, if a prophet came, and they said they knew 10 men who could be his companions...
45:41Honestly, for me, he's just one of those ten people.
45:46You'd quickly impress the man if you saw him.
45:48It's really that sincere.
45:50Monotheistic, monotheistic, moral, very orderly, very organized.
45:55Just think, he's not even 40 yet.
45:59She has six children and says her goal is to have eleven.
46:02My father made 10, and I hope to make 11, he says.
46:04He has six children, my siblings are telling me, he says:
46:08My older brother said one day, "My wife and I have had lessons on hadith in the evenings."
46:13"One day," he says, "we sat down and started having a lesson on hadiths related to orphans."
46:17He says, while reading those hadiths,
46:18My wife read this hadith of our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), she says.
46:22Whoever strokes the head of an orphan,
46:25He read the hadith that says, "In paradise, I will be like these two fingers of mine."
46:29And the woman says he suddenly fell silent, and so on.
46:31Then he goes inside, thinks about it, comes back, etc.
46:33Then he said, I won't mention his name.
46:36"Because don't tell anyone my name, brother," he said.
46:38He told me in private.
46:40My wife said to me, or rather, she said...
46:44"I," he said, "I mean, it's been next door for a year or two."
46:47He said there's a martyr's family, and they have orphaned children.
46:50"We are taking care of them," he said.
46:52"They're in a very difficult situation, sir," he said.
46:54"I said, 'Madam,'" he says.
46:55I thought that,
46:58Since our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that stroking the head of an orphan...
47:01He said it required being with her in heaven.
47:05Then I thought,
47:06"Our house is a four-bedroom apartment," he said.
47:09You said,
47:10What did Professor Ismail say to that woman? He said, "You should marry her."
47:14He said, "You should marry her too."
47:16They said, "Even if she comes here," they said, "she'll bring two children."
47:18"Couldn't we all live together?" he asked.
47:20Allahu Akbar.
47:21That brother says,
47:24So, he says, "I couldn't bring myself to accept it."
47:26"I couldn't believe it about myself," he says.
47:28"I myself was scared," he says.
47:30My wife says, "He turned out to be more of a man than me."
47:33Oh my goodness, how can that be, how can that happen, is it even possible?
47:36He said nothing will happen.
47:38We said, "Didn't we believe in the Prophet of God?"
47:40"Nothing will happen, God willing," he said.
47:42"My wife said, 'Please, don't do that, don't even think about it.'"
47:44He said it took a few days, he explained, "I tried to explain it to you because I was trying to make you understand."
47:46Then he says, "I'm sure."
47:48I said, I believe in him, that prophet.
47:51In order to be worthy of the prophet's prayer.
47:54He said, "You should marry her."
47:56"Who will want him?" the lady asked.
47:59The second biggest royal move from the sister-in-law.
48:02"I'll ask for it," he said.
48:04Me, me.
48:05He said, "I'll go and get the second one for you."
48:07Allahu Akbar!
48:09There are still women like Hatice in this day and age, aren't there, my brothers and sisters?
48:11Yes, yes.
48:13Yes, we have it too, God willing.
48:15Hopefully we'll have one too.
48:16And those of us who don't have, let us pray, "Oh Lord, give it to us too, oh Lord," my brothers and sisters.
48:20God's bounty is vast.
48:22You never know, your wife might be telling you the same thing at breakfast the next morning.
48:26Allahu Akbar.
48:27Do you think the effect of the conversation wore off quickly?
48:29No.
48:31Thanks.
48:32My brothers arrived later, and my wife and sister-in-law had already left.
48:36That Syrian woman wanted exactly what her husband wanted.
48:40He said, "I want you," he said to my wife, "I want you as my husband."
48:42That lady said, "Sister, I'm not thinking about getting married right now."
48:48So, normally, a woman should be upset.
48:51He should be happy.
48:52Isn't she secretly thinking, "It's a good thing she didn't accept"?
48:55Because, as our Prophet said, the intention of a believer is greater than their deed.
48:59He came home upset, he says.
49:00He says, "I swear."
49:01He says he didn't accept.
49:02"I was so upset," he says.
49:03I said to my wife, "Don't be upset," he said.
49:07"I said, what did Professor Mehmet say?"
49:10"Would it be someone else?" he asked.
49:13If you hold it, it's yours.
49:17What did our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) say?
49:19A believer's intention is greater than his deed.
49:21Therefore, he said, "God willing, we have attained this reward," and that closed the matter.
49:25My brothers and sisters, this is what it means to be like Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her).
49:30It truly means being people who follow the laws established by Allah Almighty.
49:35May God grant us all the ability to show the same faithfulness in faith that He demonstrated.
49:42May God grant us the same manhood as him.
49:45May God grant us wisdom in our minds, insight in our eyes, and love in our hearts.
49:51All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
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