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90 Day Fiance: The Other Way - Season 7 Episode 11 -
Kicking the Ant's Nest
Kicking the Ant's Nest
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00:00Really a part why I could never go in that I feel like Chloe is not being honest with herself
00:06Chloe likes much nicer things and she's going to want those things
00:11Since you've been going down here. I've given you a minimum of $20,000
00:17I'm cutting her off. You're deciding to live here, and I can't finance it
00:22I
00:25Got you some flowers and I brought a vase because I didn't know if Dylan had one
00:29I actually haven't seen Patia in 11 years, but I really hope she's happy to share Dylan with me
00:35So when do you think you'll do furniture shopping probably this week you might have to keep an eye on a Dylan
00:40Makes me mad that she's already automatically inserting herself into our relationship. No, I've gotten better
00:46Have you? Yes Dylan so needs to stop talking about our personal business with his mom
00:52I'm so damn sick of it
01:02My sister my mom my dad they assume Mano is starting and Marie's like to create drama with everyone
01:17I'm tired of always being the black sheep of the family
01:22If you're acting like this it's not for you Mano
01:24If you're not going to get to die with people, maybe change your character
01:34We're just making a buzz. From tomorrow onwards please do come in
01:37We made no money
01:39They're handing out whole plates of food
01:42All I saw was food going out the door and no money coming in.
01:48Dignate investment.
01:50We might as well be throwing money out.
01:53We might be stuck living with the family forever.
02:12Oh my gosh, I'm so excited for our night out.
02:21She's had a good time.
02:23It's been about a week since Patia arrived in Tasmania.
02:27Oh, is it like an Irish pub or something?
02:29Yep.
02:30And tonight I'm taking her out to one of the best spots in town.
02:36What do you think about this place?
02:37Different.
02:39Uh, it's not that busy.
02:44Well, it's only a Tuesday night.
02:46Oh.
02:47I did not expect to go out to an Irish pub.
02:50I'm like, Irish pub in Australia?
02:53And it's so quiet.
02:55We're all the people.
02:57We're a long way from Dallas and Vegas.
02:59Thank God we're going to be hanging out with his best friend Chris and his brother Glen.
03:04Drink.
03:05I'll have a Moscato, please.
03:07Do they have that here?
03:08I hope so.
03:09I'm not a beer drinker.
03:12Oh, nice.
03:13Patia!
03:14Chris!
03:15How are you going?
03:17Long time no dream.
03:20Chris was with Thunder From Down Under.
03:23They were really, really close.
03:24Oh my God.
03:25Glen!
03:26Oh, darling.
03:27Hi.
03:28Long time no dream.
03:29Oh, this is amazing.
03:31I haven't seen Glen in 11 years.
03:34Glen is a lot of fun.
03:35He loves to shop.
03:36He loves to wine and dine.
03:38All in my category.
03:40This is to Patia.
03:41To Patia.
03:42To new beginnings.
03:43To her new life in Tasmania, Australia.
03:45Down Under.
03:46I cannot believe I'm here.
03:47Seriously.
03:49I've been teaching some Australian slang too.
03:51What have you got?
03:52Bugger.
03:53Yeah?
03:54Yeah, yeah.
03:55And tinnies.
03:56I love the way you said it.
03:57Tinnies.
03:58Have you met the rest of the fam?
04:02Like Dylan's mom?
04:03Yeah.
04:04I met his mom.
04:05She came over the other day.
04:06Oh, she's a sweetie.
04:07She's such a sweetheart, yeah.
04:08So you got on well?
04:09Huh?
04:10You got on well with her?
04:11Yeah.
04:12Okay, cool.
04:15Me and his mom have a long history of not liking each other.
04:19But it's not something I want to bring out in front of his brother.
04:22Because Dylan always, like, tells me, oh, don't trust Glen.
04:26And he'll, like, be nice to your face and stab you in the back.
04:29Well, you've got to put a ring on that thing.
04:31Ah.
04:32Yes.
04:33I'm working on that.
04:34Thank you, Chris.
04:35I'm working on that.
04:36It's been, what, 12 years?
04:39Yeah, 12 years.
04:40Wow.
04:41It's been 12 years.
04:42Had some issues to sort out first.
04:44Yes, we did.
04:45Well, that just got serious.
04:46What are the issues that you need to sort out?
04:49I don't know if now's the right time to bring them up.
04:52You know how many times we broke up, Chris?
04:54A lot.
04:55You know?
04:56Excuse me, guys.
04:57I'm just going to go to the restroom.
04:58Okay.
05:03I love Patia and I love Dylan.
05:04And I know that they have a rocky relationship.
05:07I know that it's a very passionate relationship.
05:10The happiest Dylan has ever been is when he's with Patia.
05:15But then things happen.
05:17It's all very good now, but six months down the track.
05:21I don't know.
05:23Moving to Tassie.
05:25This is it.
05:26Yeah.
05:27It's crazy.
05:29Oh.
05:30Oh.
05:31What's going on over there?
05:32That young lady over there, Patia.
05:37I've written a song for her.
05:40I'm a little bit rusty, but sometimes I feel like I don't express myself properly to Patia.
05:46But if I can put it in a song, that's how I feel like I can get the message across.
05:54My heart was jumping around like a kangaroo when I first laid my eyes on you.
06:03I never thought I could fall in love so fast.
06:08But then I gave you a ring and I took it right back and I'm sorry for that.
06:18Welcome down under, baby.
06:20From the outback to the ocean, you got all of my emotions.
06:28And they're running like a river to your heart.
06:33You heard this song before?
06:35If you're not coming, I'm not going.
06:39And I hope that I die knowing that we never spend another minute apart.
06:50And I promise to be more gentle with your heart.
06:56Thank you so much.
07:12Hearing that song tonight makes me want to fight harder for a relationship.
07:16I want us to finally tie the knot, get married.
07:20I just hope we don't fall back into our old patterns and break up again.
07:24I honestly feel like I couldn't take it anymore.
07:27Oh.
07:28Oh.
07:29Oh.
07:34Comment es tu etes?
07:35Où etes tu?
07:36You pin on my brain.
07:37I've been missing you.
07:38A tu dire desolé?
07:39A tu dire desolé?
07:40A tu dire desolé?
07:41A tu dire desolé?
07:43Comment es tu etes?
07:45Où etes tu?
07:46Ah.
07:47Maman, merci pour garder ben.
07:49Bye.
07:50Attends, j'ai le parapluie.
07:51Attends, j'ai le parapluie.
07:53It's a two-step walk.
07:54Come on.
07:55This is water.
07:56No, I have my beautiful jacket on.
07:58Okay?
07:59It's been a little bit tense at my parents' house because of the drama that I had with
08:05my sister.
08:06Marseille sous la pluie, c'est encore plus triste.
08:10We texted last night and I'm fine with my sister now.
08:14It is what it is.
08:15But the dynamic with my parents attacking my character, like, it just really lit the fire
08:20in me to just get the head out of there ASAP.
08:23And Antonio and I, we actually made it really clear from the start.
08:26We were only going to live there just temporarily until we found a house.
08:31I'm so excited to see this house.
08:33Like, so fricking excited because it's exactly a hundred percent what I want.
08:45Today, we are going to La Provence Berthe, which is a very nice place in Provence with
08:52lakes, waterfalls, a very nice small village to visit a beautiful house that we found online
08:59that's for sale.
09:02It's only an hour and something away from the city.
09:06It's, I think, three, four or five bedrooms.
09:09I don't remember, but it's like just in what we need.
09:12There's the pool and the view.
09:15You, you are going to love the view.
09:18How much is this one?
09:20It's under our budget.
09:21375, this one.
09:23I mean, it's the highest, highest of our budget.
09:26Yeah.
09:27We have the 25% down for that.
09:31And then it's just wiped out.
09:33Yeah.
09:34So it's a little, it's yeah.
09:35But, but that's negotiation.
09:36We are in France.
09:38And if they want like a guaranteed French income, we don't even have an account at a French
09:45bank yet.
09:46There's even the option of renting.
09:49No, no.
09:50It's an option to rent.
09:53There will be a lot less worry when it comes to renting an apartment.
09:59Plus we have the money to do that long term.
10:03Or even like buy an apartment if we really wanted to.
10:06We have that one.
10:07Oh my Lord.
10:08Get me out of here.
10:10Get me out the car now.
10:12Whoa.
10:13It's just an option.
10:14Anthony.
10:15Chill.
10:16I am not putting my money down the drain and I am not living in an apartment.
10:20You will not put me in a cell jail.
10:23I am not living in an apartment.
10:25I've seen some pretty nice apartments.
10:26Good for you.
10:27Go live there.
10:28Go live in an apartment.
10:29I'll live in a house by myself.
10:31You're reacting as if I'm like saying we're getting an apartment.
10:35Or we're moving somewhere cheaper.
10:36Because I know you, but you know what?
10:37Yeah.
10:38You know why?
10:39Why?
10:40You know why?
10:41Because I always end up doing what you want.
10:42And I'm tired of .
10:46If we can make getting this house happen, we'll do that.
10:50As long as we're in a good space.
10:53Yes.
10:54I'm like in the financially.
10:55Yes.
10:56I agree.
10:57But if I'm sitting here putting other options on the table, it's because those might have
11:01to be considered.
11:02No.
11:03I want to buy a house.
11:08I want to be out of Menon's parents' house just as much as she does.
11:12But there's options that we need to look at that are really what make the most sense financially
11:19speaking.
11:20And if that means we have to stay at our parents' place for a little bit longer, I feel like
11:23that's a small sacrifice to be made.
11:25You got like tunnel vision.
11:29I want to buy a house.
11:32I have no idea how to make this work.
11:33I'm doing my best, okay?
11:39There's a lot of costs involved and you and Chloe are going to need a more solid plan.
11:46I'm doing all I can.
11:47We are doing all I can to figure it out.
11:48There is a way that I would be able to support both of you.
11:53There is a way that I would be able to support both of you.
12:06We need a ladder.
12:29That's okay.
12:30We can fix it later.
12:32Today is the first day of our actual business.
12:36Yesterday, we were successful in the ceremony.
12:40We already served the samplers to a lot of people.
12:43So we are hoping that they were going to show up again.
12:47It's the first big day, so we are going to try to make some money today.
12:51Whatever we spent yesterday, we try to recover as much as possible.
12:54All right?
12:55Assign yourself a job and don't sit idle, okay?
12:58Jenny, you go to your coffee stall.
13:03What do we do?
13:05Yesterday, we made absolutely no money because we were giving it away for free
13:11and I was just standing like, don't you guys understand the concept of business?
13:16I'm more worried about making money so I can get out of the house
13:21and go back into our own apartment.
13:23I want to make money.
13:24We need to make money.
13:26Okay, princess.
13:29Excuse me.
13:32Coffee, huh?
13:33Because cappuccino.
13:34Cappuccino?
13:35Ah.
13:36Oh, I got to find the milk container.
13:40This coffee machine that we're renting is so cool.
13:49It's the real deal.
13:50I mean, it comes with the fresh coffee beans grinder and everything attached.
13:55There's nothing like it anywhere else unless you go to Starbucks.
13:59Okay, I don't know where that container, the milk container is.
14:05Ha.
14:06Find it.
14:11I've been put in charge of the coffee machine by the family and Sri showed me how to use it.
14:17But I'm not totally comfortable with it yet.
14:21I mean, I can make coffee at home, no problem.
14:24But this thing, I don't even know where to start.
14:28Oh, I have to grind the beans.
14:35I don't know how to do that.
14:37Papa!
14:38I have a customer standing here waiting for his coffee.
14:42And I have no idea how to make this grinder work.
14:47Sorry, one minute.
14:49How?
14:51How, how, how?
14:54What did you do before this?
14:56Sorry.
14:57New.
14:58I'm new.
14:59I know you are new, but...
15:03Okay.
15:05Actually, it's not plugged in.
15:24He didn't plug it in.
15:26Come to find out, it wasn't plugged in.
15:29That's why it wouldn't turn on.
15:33You want me to help you, or?
15:35Denny.
15:36Yeah.
15:37First colleague, no, no.
15:39We are late on American paper.
15:41What do you mean, no, no?
15:43That's how you do it.
15:46Okay.
15:47Let's leave.
15:48It's been two minutes.
15:49I'm not leaving.
15:54That's a bad sale.
15:56Yes.
15:58Denny, you have to try to do very quick.
16:01You know what I can do?
16:02I can go home.
16:05That's what I can do.
16:06You are part of Family Cafe.
16:07This is our idea.
16:09You know, first customer loss is a big loss.
16:13Yeah, just like yesterday, giving away free food was a big loss, too.
16:17I'm doing my best, okay?
16:19If this is best, then you need to do a little more extra.
16:22I feel like so disappointed, so frustrated.
16:27We were preparing for such a long time, like our first customer, and we lost it.
16:33We lost it.
16:34Every day, Sri was with her.
16:36From the morning to the night.
16:37And the coffee machine was caught.
16:39If you don't understand anything, ask her.
16:41That's the time.
16:42You should have to practice.
16:45That's the same.
16:46Don't be patient.
16:47Don't be patient.
16:48Don't be patient.
16:49Don't be patient.
16:50Don't be patient.
16:51I'm frustrated with her, but at the same time, I don't want other people to get mad at her,
16:56because everybody in the family finally getting along.
16:59And I don't want the stress of the business to ruin that.
17:22Thank you so much.
17:33Earlier today, my mom and I went car shopping, and she kind of dropped the bomb that she's
17:37going to financially cut me off.
17:39Hello.
17:42I thought you were a waiter the way you came over.
17:45I think in a way, my mom is trying to create shocking situations.
17:48So I can just switch off and be like, you know what, Mom?
17:52I'm coming home.
17:53But no, this is not happening.
17:57So how was the whole car lot thing?
18:00Did you find anything interesting?
18:01Any cars?
18:02The price point was much higher.
18:05We couldn't even get it close to the range
18:07that you had thought it should be at.
18:10Okay.
18:11It would be something that we would need to purchase
18:13on, like, the Internet
18:15in order to get anywhere near that pricing point.
18:18Yes, that was a total fail today.
18:20But now we just need to find a plan B
18:22because that's not
18:23going to work.
18:25Right.
18:26And I think at that point
18:27it should just bring her car, maybe.
18:31I don't know that that's an option either.
18:34Because Chloe and I had a conversation,
18:36you know, that I wasn't going to contribute
18:38financially anymore.
18:44So this is something that, you know,
18:46Chloe needs to work through.
18:49Right?
18:50Right.
18:54The thing about Chloe is that
18:55she's always been catered her whole life.
18:58Always had that safety net.
18:59So she doesn't really know the concept of money.
19:01You know?
19:02Like, maybe it's a good thing
19:04that Chloe's mom is actually cutting her off
19:05because, you know,
19:07I think she needs a more sense of reality.
19:09And I feel like if she doesn't have the funds
19:11to just do whatever she wants,
19:13she's going to really have to think smart
19:15on what she's going to do next.
19:17So, like, I feel like now is a good time
19:19to see if she really wants this
19:21and, like, who she really is, you know?
19:26Chloe's going to need, you know,
19:28a more solid plan.
19:29You and Chloe are going to need a more solid plan.
19:33Yeah.
19:34You know, getting the worker's permit
19:36is a really big deal.
19:39What is needed to get them?
19:41Um, you, yeah, you have to pay for the first permit.
19:44How much do you have to pay for the first permit?
19:46$600.
19:48$600?
19:49Yeah, for the first permit.
19:50But if, no.
19:50You have to pay, like, a permit every three months.
19:53But if a company signs for you, they pay it.
19:55Wait a second.
19:56$600 to $800,
19:57and you have to do this every three months?
19:59The other way to go about it
20:00is if Jonathan and I went to the office together
20:02and Jonathan sponsors me.
20:05How can he sponsor you if he doesn't have...
20:06If he doesn't own a company?
20:08No, this is a different paper.
20:10This is, like, a partnership paper.
20:12Hang on. Partnership?
20:14What does that mean?
20:14Like, married partner?
20:16No, that's a marriage certificate.
20:18It sounds like you have a lot more obstacles
20:20just with papers than I thought that you did.
20:23Maybe you're just not listening.
20:25I am listening.
20:27Clearly not, so what's hard
20:28about walking into an office?
20:29Right, there's a lot of costs involved.
20:30Why are you being so negative about the situation
20:32and being like,
20:33oh, well, it sounds like you have so many obstacles.
20:35Well, I just...
20:36Really?
20:36I wasn't aware of the high costs.
20:38But I'm not asking you to pay for it.
20:40And I've made it clear that I'm not going to.
20:41Exactly, so don't make it so, like, out of reach.
20:44Like, just trust me, she's going to do it.
20:46Enough of the drama, to be quite honest.
20:48It's not about drama, but, like, stop.
20:50I flew all the way out here, and you know what?
20:51This isn't the first time I've come out here, okay?
20:53I've invested a lot of money.
20:54I know, you've been here many times, I understand.
20:55Yes, I have.
20:55But stop making it out to be like that,
20:57because it's frustrating.
20:58Because it's frustrating.
20:58If you're going to decide to move there permanently,
21:00then, you know what?
21:01We need to have these conversations,
21:02and I don't care if you're frustrated or you're not.
21:04But have it in the back of your mind,
21:06as in, like, okay, like, you stop.
21:07I'm trying to give you some ease.
21:08No, I want specific...
21:09Yeah, right, but it's general ease.
21:11I need specific ease, okay?
21:12This is my job out of living in a foreign country.
21:15I don't want to make things up to make you feel better.
21:17I'm doing all I can.
21:18We are doing all I can to figure it out.
21:20I feel like a lot more could have been done
21:22up until this point.
21:23No, you have to get here to do it.
21:26It's not something you can do from home.
21:30Okay, if you say so.
21:31So, I said that I will not financially support any longer.
21:39700 times.
21:40Yes, agreed.
21:42However, there is a way that I would be able to support both of you.
21:49The lottery?
21:51Trust me, I play every weekend.
21:53If you both move to Boston.
22:01Immediately to the left, you will find the bijou of the house.
22:12I love it!
22:14I thought we were supposed to be playing it cool.
22:17Yeah, that's exactly what I've done.
22:19Oh, look at that view!
22:25It was summer in Paris
22:27The day when I found you
22:30For you and me
22:33It was all Paris
22:36A paradise
22:40It was summer in Paris
22:42Hi, it's here. Let's go.
22:48I'm excited.
22:50Hello.
22:50Hello.
22:52Bonjour.
22:52Hi.
22:53Hi, nice to meet you.
22:54Nice to meet you too.
22:54You speak French, no French.
22:56Je suis française, la Marseillaise
22:58et il parle anglais.
22:59On part tous les d'anglais.
23:00So let's do it in English.
23:02Sounds good with me.
23:03Then everybody will understand it.
23:05Let's start our journey.
23:06Yes, please, let's go.
23:07Because I see that you are...
23:08Oh, yeah.
23:09Oh, yeah.
23:09Follow me.
23:10Enter in the living room.
23:12The kitchen, everything together.
23:14Okay. Oh, the kitchen.
23:17The thing that I like is you can still try to modernize it a little bit.
23:21Yes, you can and keep the style of Provence.
23:23But keeping the style and without spending too much.
23:25It's not like crazy expensive to redo.
23:28I want to see more, please.
23:30I want to see more.
23:31So, and then you have the first room here.
23:34Okay.
23:35For your guests.
23:36Children, maybe.
23:37Yeah.
23:37If you have one kid.
23:38Or even an office space.
23:40Because I do sometimes, like, remote work.
23:42So I'm going to need a room, actually, for work, for sure.
23:46Oh, yeah.
23:47For van.
23:47No, there's multiple rooms.
23:49Wait.
23:50And here, you will find a bijou of the house.
23:54Handmade.
23:55Well, not standard.
23:58Exceptional.
23:59Look at that sink.
24:01I love it.
24:02I love it.
24:04Look at that bathtub.
24:05It is really nice.
24:07And then you can go to the left, to the first big room.
24:11And there's another shower.
24:12Yes.
24:13Yes.
24:14Yes.
24:14There are three showers.
24:16There are three showers.
24:17Oh, my gosh.
24:21I thought we were supposed to be playing it cool.
24:23Yeah, that's exactly what I've done.
24:25You show them interest.
24:26You show them you're excited.
24:27So they are like, ooh, she wants it.
24:29Okay.
24:30Like, who's the queen of networking, like you said?
24:34Bibi right here.
24:37Who doesn't have any friends, doesn't have any network?
24:40You.
24:40So please, trust me.
24:41Whoa, I'm not on my own anymore.
24:43I've got my companion.
24:44His name is Ben.
24:46Well, he's a baby who doesn't speak yet.
24:48Speaks to me.
24:50Oh, my gosh.
24:51Can you imagine waking up naked from your bed with your cup of coffee?
24:56You just took your shower.
24:57Here are the birds.
24:58Here are the birds.
24:59Oh, look at that view.
25:01Can I cry?
25:06Go ahead.
25:08It has charm.
25:10It's not a prefab, like you say.
25:11It's not a standard.
25:13You can go in the pool naked and no one see you.
25:16It's so, like, private and stuff.
25:18I love what I see.
25:21There's a lot of potential, even if it's not completely quite perfect yet.
25:25There's a pool, which I said it's what I want.
25:27Et la pièce de résistance, it's an hour away from my parents' house.
25:32Far, but not too far.
25:33Close, but not too close.
25:35You know what I mean?
25:35All right.
25:38The price at the moment is $3.75.
25:43You were looking for this house, so I guess it's in your budget,
25:47because I guess you already talked with the banks, I guess, or not yet?
25:50Not yet.
25:51Mm-hmm.
25:52And we have great history.
25:53I don't have any loan.
25:54I don't have any debt.
25:55Sure, sure, sure.
25:55Nothing.
25:56My husband is a stay-at-home dad.
25:58He's not going to work just yet because he speaks English.
26:01He has to learn French.
26:03It's going to take time.
26:03On my end, I still have a little bit of source of income from my agency,
26:09because I do have a business on my own.
26:10What are you doing?
26:11What are you doing?
26:11I have a social media and digital marketing agency.
26:15We sold our house in Los Angeles.
26:18We sold our car.
26:18We sold everything.
26:19We have right now a total of like around $100,000 cash that we have.
26:26Okay.
26:27So based on your experience, do you think it's possible for us to get a loan through a French bank?
26:34Um, I think with everything what you were telling me, I don't know that many persons today who has one third in cash immediately.
26:43So I think it's going to be doable.
26:47But there is a but.
26:48I'm going to be very honest.
26:50That's my job also.
26:51Of course.
26:51Because I'm there also to tell you everything in all transparency.
26:54I will do the same.
26:54So the place is perfect.
26:56The house is perfect.
26:57But there is in the, um, in the roof asbestos.
27:02Oh, there's asbestos.
27:04So there are the works to do on the roof.
27:07And it's around $40,000 to $45,000 to do all the works.
27:11Oh, wow.
27:12So she is ready to deduct it from this price.
27:15Oh.
27:16So like $335,000 instead of $375,000.
27:19Correct.
27:19Correct.
27:21Manon really knows how to make a house a home.
27:24I can see the wheels turning in her head.
27:27But I'm sitting there thinking, how well is it going to hold up?
27:30And there is asbestos.
27:32This is the first house we're seeing.
27:34And I know that we could find something better out there.
27:38I just hope that she can step back and understand where I'm coming from.
27:43Because it always ends up in a fight or some type of argument.
27:46And I don't want to get into it.
27:51All right.
27:52Bon appetit.
27:52Bon appetit.
27:53Very tender.
27:54Let me get a little something in your head.
27:57I hope it's not kangaroo.
28:01Wait a minute.
28:02Is it really kangaroo?
28:24Oh my God, that's beautiful.
28:28Look at that lake.
28:29Have you ever swam over there?
28:31Yeah, I've swam in there.
28:32Better watch out for the old crocs though.
28:34You're not swimming there.
28:35If there's croc, it's bull.
28:37So it can bite you, you know.
28:39Choo-choo.
28:40Tonight we're having a family dinner at mum's house.
28:45And I know that Patia can't stand my mum.
28:49But at the end of the day, my relationship with my mum isn't going to change.
28:54She's always going to be in my life.
28:57So tonight I'm hoping they can really bury the hatchet.
29:00Hello.
29:00Hi.
29:03Hi.
29:04Welcome Patia.
29:05How are you doing?
29:06I'm good.
29:06What about you?
29:07Good, good.
29:07Are you settling in?
29:08Yes.
29:09Hi Patia.
29:10Good to see you.
29:11You look gorgeous.
29:14Being at Jo's house, I'm putting on a little bit of a front.
29:17What a beautiful view.
29:19It's gorgeous, isn't it?
29:20Yes.
29:21Like I really want to make a good impression and I want her to accept me.
29:26But at the same time, I'm like really dreading to have to sit down and talk to her because
29:32I really deep inside don't like her.
29:34Why don't I do some cooking?
29:36You guys relax and I'll let you know when it's ready.
29:39Okay.
29:40Where's my sous chef?
29:41Here.
29:47Hey, you look good with that apron on.
29:49I'm so relieved that Dylan's cooking because I have this phobia that if somebody else cooks
29:55for me and they don't like me, I feel like just the thought of them not liking me, that
30:01the food is going to be contaminated.
30:04Is that sausage you're cooking?
30:06Do you like sausages?
30:07Yeah.
30:07Good.
30:08My mom always taught me not to eat out of your enemy's hands.
30:13I'm surprised Dylan hasn't kicked off those dirty big boots, Dylan.
30:16Yes, ma'am.
30:18I will take them off right now.
30:20Good boy.
30:20You should know better.
30:22We've got a lot of wallabies running around.
30:24You end up with poo on the carpet.
30:25It's naughty.
30:27I feel like my mom and Patea are both kind of putting on a performance.
30:32Dylan, you didn't tell me that your mom collects elephants too.
30:35It appears we have quite a bit in common, Patea.
30:37Yeah, I know.
30:38I was like crystals and elephants.
30:40It's like I want to see them sort of get along and be friends, but they both need to be honest
30:46first and stop pussyfooting around.
30:49Come on down.
30:52It looks good.
30:54All right.
30:54Bon appétit.
30:55Bon appétit.
31:00Very nice.
31:01Yes.
31:03Very tender.
31:05Mommy, you've got a little something on your head.
31:08I hope it's not kangaroo.
31:09Wait a minute.
31:14That's not kangaroo, is it?
31:19Shut up.
31:22Shut up.
31:23Is it really kangaroo?
31:24I don't want to eat kangaroo.
31:25I know it was a little mean, but I just wanted you to try it, and I knew if I said it was kangaroo,
31:29you wouldn't try it.
31:30And this is how we eat Down Under.
31:35I told him not to feed me kangaroo, and he fed me kangaroo for dinner.
31:39Tasted like, you know, steak.
31:41But still, when I look at the kangaroo, I'm like, oh my God, I can't eat you.
31:47It's actually really good to see you and Patia in the same space.
31:51I know that Patia sort of felt like we were sort of talking too much.
31:57You didn't like our relationship, that we were a bit close, did you?
32:01Well, I don't know.
32:02You can be honest.
32:03No, no.
32:04In the past, Dylan told me that you wanted him to marry somebody younger, closer to his age,
32:10and give him kids.
32:11It just made me so mad.
32:12I'm like, oh, I want nothing to do with her.
32:13I don't want to talk to her.
32:14I don't want her calling you.
32:16That's been embedded in my mind, and that's where the resentment with you talking to Dylan
32:21comes from.
32:28I've never said that.
32:29And you know what?
32:29I couldn't give a toss about grandchildren.
32:31Yeah, that's the only...
32:32Do you think maybe that was, like, just a thought, a fear that you had?
32:36No, no, no.
32:36You said it, babe.
32:37You said it.
32:38You were very mad, and you said that several times.
32:41Did you, Dylan?
32:41Because I've never, ever said that.
32:43I don't remember saying that, no.
32:45Okay, well, I've never said anything like that.
32:50Liar, liar, pants on fire.
32:52I feel like they're in cahoots with each other, and they won't admit that they said it.
32:56I mean, why would I make it up?
32:57I mean, I'm not crazy.
32:58Who makes that crap up?
32:59So that comment never happened.
33:03So aside from that, is there anything else underneath any of that?
33:07No, that's it.
33:07That's it.
33:08I can't believe it.
33:09I just sort of felt sometimes when Dylan's been on the phone, I've said, oh, hi, Patia,
33:14how are you going?
33:14Like, you know, I'm happy to engage, but I don't think you like that.
33:19No, it's because of what he said.
33:23I've never said to Dylan that he should be with somebody younger.
33:27I can't imagine Dylan saying that to Patia.
33:29I really can't.
33:32It's an odd thing to say.
33:34It's very odd.
33:34It is an odd thing to say.
33:36It just seems strange.
33:38Two and two's not adding up.
33:42I'm so sorry, Jo, really.
33:44It stemmed from that.
33:47Well, thank you.
33:48I really appreciate that.
33:49Yeah.
33:50Because all these years, I thought, God, I haven't done the thing.
33:53I just, you know, I was happy for you.
33:55Really?
33:55Yeah.
33:56I've never, ever had an issue with the age.
33:58So he must have said that to try to make me mad or something.
34:01He'll say some hateful things.
34:02And that's where, because he just lashes out.
34:06Yeah, I get that.
34:07But then he regrets it afterwards.
34:09Mm-hmm.
34:10Don't you, Dylan?
34:12Yes.
34:15Yeah, well, I apologize if I did say that.
34:17Let's move forward from that.
34:19Did you really never tell Patia that your mom wished you were with somebody younger?
34:27Hmm.
34:30I may have said that when I was angry, but I don't remember the specifics.
34:36It was a long time ago.
34:38So that's put to bed, all right?
34:40Finally.
34:40But now there's still the constant issue of me talking to my mom, and it's always a problem.
34:46Well, that's where it stems from, is the fact that you said that.
34:49I think that's a bit of a cop-out, really.
34:51No, it's not.
34:51It's like...
34:52No, it's not a cop-out.
34:54I just feel like us chatting on the phone every now and then is still going to be an issue.
34:59No, it's not going to be an issue.
35:01Are you sure?
35:02Yes.
35:02If you want to talk to Dylan as much as you want, then I'm okay with it now.
35:07Problem solved.
35:11I'm so mad at Dylan, because I hated her, I resented her,
35:15and I held this resentment and hate for many, many years.
35:19Well, thank you for having us come over.
35:21You're very welcome.
35:23Now I'm looking at Dylan, and I'm questioning my relationship,
35:26because Dylan had been lying to me about it.
35:30I don't want to be in a relationship like that.
35:34It's going to take you so long to find a job here, and you're going to make pennies.
35:41It's very hurtful to hear her.
35:42It makes me feel like I'm not good enough for her.
35:45You are never, ever going to be able to make like I do.
35:49That was amazing.
36:13That was insightful.
36:15Today, Antonia and I saw a home for sale and I'm excited just thinking about it, so.
36:23Well, there's a lot to talk about, honey.
36:27Oh, my American boy.
36:30No, boy, I am a man.
36:32You're a man. Yes, you are my American man, who I love so much.
36:38That went so well.
36:40He said he's confident we can make it happen, you know?
36:45I mean, I definitely think it's possible, but I think it's like looking at other stuff because you might find something else you like more that's not going to need a new roof.
36:56Honestly, I was really in love with the house.
37:00But there's asbestos in the roof, so I understand Antonia and I'm kind of grateful for him nitpicking.
37:08But the good news that you talked to me about financials and everything saying it's totally possible.
37:15So let's just go visit a little more and maybe I can manifest actually my dream house, you know?
37:19So, like, a big thing I feel that needs to be addressed the most is employment.
37:28Mm-hmm.
37:30That's the next step. I agree.
37:32We cannot buy a house without income.
37:34If I build a business for a long time, I'm not going to be able to get a salary or to make money.
37:38So I don't know. I can find something else, too. Part-time, remote.
37:46But, you know, speaking of, like, working, I like where we are now.
37:51I know we're living with your parents, but Ben has been way better with you.
37:56Oh, yeah, I know. I love it.
37:57You've taken a lot more initiative with the food, with everything.
38:01You're, instead of, like, asking me if I need help, you're actually, like, doing things.
38:05I'm going to run some errands.
38:08Yeah.
38:09It'll be time for his lunch soon, so you just bread, cheese, whatever.
38:14Do you want to put the lunettes?
38:17Okay, I love you.
38:18I love you, too.
38:20We're starting to get the balance we need.
38:23But, granted, we're not working, but I'm starting to see the positive changes already in moving to France.
38:30But we cannot deny that in life we are not rich.
38:34We don't have, like, money coming in from the sky every month.
38:37We're still going to need to find income.
38:39I understand that.
38:40Balance or not, we're still going to have to.
38:42I'm just scared that you are going to go overboard.
38:46No, why not?
38:47I know how passionate you get with work.
38:50And you're already talking about starting your own business here.
38:53And another thing about moving here was that you would step back and maybe I would take over the providing more, right?
39:00Yes.
39:01And now it seems like you're full steam ahead on you doing the solo providing again.
39:05It's because it's going to take you so long to find a job here.
39:10And even if you find a job here, you are never, ever going to be able to make like I do.
39:17Still, you don't speak French.
39:21I get it.
39:22How are you going to find a job?
39:23And what type of job?
39:24What type of job?
39:25Without speaking French, the only thing that comes to mind is speaking English to kids so that they can learn it.
39:31Are you going to make pennies doing that here?
39:35It's very hurtful to hear.
39:41She would love for me to be providing, but I'll never make as much as her.
39:46And the term I hate the most that she uses is that I would make pennies.
39:51I feel like it's not true.
39:53It just would take time for me to get to that space.
39:56And it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for her, essentially.
40:01I love you and we moved here to stay together.
40:07I want to be married.
40:08I want our family to be together.
40:11I am just scared because I've seen how passionate you can get with work.
40:17If I work less, I'll be fine.
40:22Antonia and I want to be out of my parents' house.
40:25And I'm not trying to be harsh or anything, you know, like I know French and he doesn't.
40:30I know the economy here, so I'm just trying to be practical and me working may be our best shot.
40:37I don't want to survive in France.
40:41If I moved to France, it's to actually be more comfortable and thrive.
40:46Or I would have stayed in the U.S.
40:48So no way I'm just surviving here. Sorry, not sorry.
40:51Next time on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
40:56All right.
40:58I know he's here to judge and to be negative.
41:02I don't trust him at all.
41:04You don't have chefs. Your parents are cooking food.
41:08Who does that?
41:10This is not a real business what he's doing.
41:13It will be closed soon.
41:17No, I'm not going there.
41:19This is awesome.
41:20This is like all I've wanted to do since we've been here.
41:23Seeing Menon's reaction to the farm, I'm questioning my decision on the surprise.
41:30I found out on social media that he was with a girl for her birthday.
41:38I am absolutely pissed that Johnny was not faithful to my daughter.
41:43I can't even put into words how disappointed I am.
41:47If you can't trust somebody, you shouldn't be committing anything to him, let alone changing your entire life.
41:53Look at this.
41:56I had to move some money around.
41:58It was $2,000.
42:00Is this a good use of money?
42:02I don't know.
42:03I think I like give you a pretty good life and it seems like you're always mad at me.
42:07Yes, I am.
42:08You always made me mad.
42:10You never made me happy.
42:12Exactly.
42:13So like what are we doing here?
42:14Never.
42:15If this is anything like what our marriage is going to be, holy do we have problems.
42:20This isn't the life that I signed up for.
42:22you.
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