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Leilani Li on Trolls, Mental Health, and Future Dreams

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00:00How do you deal with like trolls online and negative feedback online?
00:04Because, you know, everyone in the sex industry gets it.
00:07So I only recently start dealing with the trolls online because up until recently, I was very curated with my image.
00:14And so I didn't leave a lot of room for criticism.
00:19But now that I put myself out there more with hardcore work and getting on podcasts and speaking more, I am susceptible to more criticism.
00:29And the way I handle it is I just don't handle it.
00:32I really don't care.
00:35The things that people say about me will never be worse than what I've said about my own self.
00:42So you can say whatever you want to say about me because I've already said it to myself.
00:48Yeah, that's true.
00:49And the best part about it is that I'm working on it.
00:52So you can say that today, but the next time you won't have the opportunity to say it.
00:59So give me your criticism and I'm going to take it.
01:03I'm going to eat it and I'm going to correct it if I feel like I need to.
01:06And if I don't, I really don't care.
01:08How do you take care of your mental health just in general and maintain like a healthy work-life balance?
01:15Do you find that a challenge?
01:16Yes.
01:17I smoke a lot of weed.
01:19When I was way younger, I had my journey with substances and I had a really, really fun time.
01:27But I had a lot of opportunities given to me when I was younger and I lost a lot of them.
01:32Um, and I felt like the contributing factor was my non-sobriety.
01:36So I've been sober for a long time, like maybe it's like 10 years, I will say, other than smoking weed.
01:43So, but I do smoke weed.
01:45I tend to listen to a lot of music and I am a very introverted person.
01:52Um, the way that I am online and the way that I present myself online, like this really sexual being.
01:58And I am that, but, um, in my personal life, I'm just like, I'm just a girl.
02:03I'm just a, just a trans girl, be specific, but I'm just a trans girl with my dogs, walking them, listening to music and smoking a lot of weed.
02:11And, um, just like trying to stay true to the things that I've always liked.
02:16So I don't like, you know, like lose myself, but mental health in this industry could be like a lot.
02:22So it's better that you surround yourself with other people who have already been in this industry to help you navigate.
02:28And also just try not to forget who you are, like money, fans, notoriety, um, attention.
02:36All those things can make you lose yourself, but you have to try to stay true to the core person of who you are.
02:42And also don't forget why you come into the industry.
02:45We don't come into the industry because we want to be pretty and we want to get fucked.
02:48We come into this industry because we want to get paid.
02:50And a lot of the times we come into this industry because we have no other options.
02:55So don't forget that and don't lose yourself and just always think about what you're going to be doing after the industry.
03:01Um, rather it be contributing to the industry as a producer or director or whatever it is that you want to do, like going to be a nun.
03:10You know, some people leave the industry and find religion.
03:13That's true.
03:14Yes. A lot of people do.
03:15That's true. Do you have any plans? Um, like an exit plan?
03:18This is my life. I've always been, I went from being like an escort to being a performer.
03:25And I think that as I learn more and continue to develop, I would like to contribute, um, to the trans genre with like, you know, my perspective of, um, our sex life.
03:37Like being a director, producer, something to that scope.
03:41That's the pipeline, right?
03:42You go from performer to director.
03:45I've met like a lot of people who still perform and direct.
03:49Yeah.
03:49Do you perform?
03:50No, no, no.
03:51Okay. So you, you strictly are just.
03:52Yeah. I mean, I have an OnlyFans.
03:55So that was, that was an accident.
03:56Okay.
03:57Long story.
03:57But yeah, so I've always been a photographer and director.
04:01Because you come from, you are a, uh, a sex work, a nepto baby.
04:07No, I.
04:07Yes, that is true.
04:09Well, I, I did my research on you months ago when I, yeah, I was like.
04:12A sex work nepo baby. I've never heard. That's, I love that actually.
04:15I've never heard anyone say that before, but that's very true.
04:17Well, I am too, but not the same scope.
04:19My mother actually was an escort.
04:21So I'm like a second generation sex worker.
04:24Yeah. Yeah. I'm a second generation pornographer.
04:28So, yeah.
04:29Yeah. And I, yeah, I saw that your mother was Susan, or Suze Randall.
04:32Yeah. Yeah. That's her right behind you.
04:33Yeah.
04:33That little, little frame right there.
04:35Yeah. I think it's very, very cool.
04:37Yeah.
04:37She's contributed a lot to the industry.
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