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00:00So do you guys ever have any like jealousy issues or other conflicts come up with that

00:05arrangement?

00:05And how do you navigate that if you do?

00:07The only time that it would, would be if, if like, okay, I'm like trying to think of

00:12an example.

00:13It would be like, maybe if I didn't feel like, I don't know, like if he, but this would

00:21never happen.

00:21That's the thing is like, this would never happen.

00:23But it would be like, oh, if I felt like my, like his work with me wasn't getting as much

00:28attention as his work with other women.

00:31Right.

00:31Okay.

00:31Because I'm like, um, like my work with him is like, we, that's what is the best for us

00:37financially.

00:38And then also for me, I feel so like there's a certain magic that him and I are able to

00:45create on camera.

00:46Like I need him, you know, in that sense.

00:49And so if I was to feel like, you know, he was like shooting with everybody else and never

00:54shooting with me, I'd probably feel like, oh, yeah.

00:57Like a bit distracted.

00:58Yeah.

00:58But that's the thing is we haven't really like dealt with that at all.

01:02And I feel very, very fortunate that it hasn't really been something.

01:08If it, if a feeling were to ever come up, we would just talk about it.

01:11Yeah.

01:11And then be like, oh, okay.

01:12I'm so sorry.

01:13I didn't know that was a cross-court boundary.

01:14Never happening again.

01:15Yeah.

01:15I mean, a common theme that I hear with all people who have different kinds of relationships

01:22like this is communication, right?

01:24Which I think is key to a relationship in general.

01:27I think a lot of really successful relationships in this industry are like probably some of the

01:33most successful like relationships in the world.

01:36Yeah.

01:36Like there's a level of communication that I see with a lot of these couples that I do

01:41not think I have ever seen in the regular world.

01:45Well, to be a sex worker and to do it professionally, you have to like be able to communicate your

01:49boundaries and talk about sex, which most people never do.

01:54Most people never do.

01:54And like husbands and wives don't.

01:56They don't.

01:56I get so many guys who write to me, they're like, I would love to have anal and like, I

02:00am too scared to like bring it up to my wife or I would never talk about my wife with this

02:04or I'm into this and she has no idea.

02:07You guys aren't talking during sex about like, what does this feel good for you?

02:11What would you like me to do for you?

02:13How can I make you feel good?

02:15Like you're not like, what kind of weird?

02:18Yeah.

02:18Most people are not.

02:19I'm like, are you just like shoving it in and then busting and then leaving?

02:23And then I'm also like, how sad it is.

02:26How sad it would be to be a woman in a relationship and not feel like I could ask for what I wanted.

02:33Yeah.

02:34You know?

02:34And I think that that's so many women's experience.

02:37Yeah.

02:37Because they, because a lot of women use sex as like a tool or as like a prize.

02:42I also think that a lot of women feel really ashamed of what they want.

02:46Right, exactly.

02:46Because we've been forced into, and you know, they want their, of course, when you, when

02:50you love somebody or you care about them, you want them to think of you really highly.

02:53And it's like, oh my gosh, I want to ask for this specific thing, but I'm afraid my husband's

02:58going to think I'm a slut.

02:59Yep.

03:00And that I'm just crazy.

03:02And then he's going to go and tell all his friends that I want this crazy thing.

03:06And it's like, maybe it's, I don't know, get me, like something so simple to us, right?

03:14Like using a toy.

03:16Yeah.

03:17Like to us, that's like so base level.

03:18I just genuinely, I really hope that people, I don't know, I hope that for other people.

03:24Yeah.

03:24I hope they're able to like figure that out in their own lives.

03:26And maybe even like, it's like, if they're not interested in this kind of work or whatever,

03:30maybe that's something they can learn is learning how to like communicate better in their own

03:36relationships.

03:37And.

03:37Well, I think so many women were raised with the idea that like your virginity is this prize,

03:42right?

03:42And you give it out to like the highest bidder.

03:43I think we're going to talk about that today.

03:45And it's just like, it's something and they're, of course, like taught to believe that sex

03:52is like shame, sex before marriage is shameful and all that.

03:55And then when you get married and have sex, it's literally to procreate and create children.

03:59Like it's not meant to be.

04:00Functional.

04:01Yeah.

04:01Exactly.

04:02It's not meant to be like this pleasurable experience between the two of you.

04:06So.

04:06Some women die without having ever flicked the bean.

04:09Yes.

04:10Or had an orgasm just in general.

04:12Yeah.

04:13And it's just like, it is sad.

04:16Mm-hmm.

04:17Mm-hmm.

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