00:00She needs your presence.
00:01That is the foundational thing that a woman needs from a man, presence.
00:04And what presence means is, I am here.
00:06How are you?
00:08How was your day?
00:09What do you need?
00:10What can I do for you?
00:11Is there anything you need this week?
00:13It's like having an awareness that you exist in a space with another person.
00:18It's about recognizing that they're a human being with feelings and that, you know, it
00:22feels good to be seen in that.
00:24You had a hard day.
00:25Huh?
00:26Tell me about it.
00:26How was it?
00:27Sorry that happened.
00:29Presence is being present with her as a human, not just physically present in space, not
00:34present but watching sports or completely zoning out on video games.
00:39Presence is about, hey, I'm here with you.
00:42How are you?
00:43How was your day?
00:44It's like really the daily presence thing.
00:47It's also about being able to sit there when she's expressing something that's difficult
00:50for you as a man.
00:53Maybe she's giving you feedback and instead of going into your defensiveness, it's about
00:56going, huh, I hear what you're saying.
00:59I'm going to have to reflect on that and get back to you or that makes sense to me.
01:04Presence is about being in the play of the moment.
01:09Not numb to it or separate from it.
01:12And it matters because it's how she can feel whether you're with her or just near her but
01:20not with her in life.
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