00:00Dr. John Gottman studied thousands of partnerships and he said relationships die in the conversations
00:05that never happened. I couldn't agree more. And since I met him once and he seemed like a really
00:10great guy, I hope he would give me permission to expand on that a little bit. It's true,
00:15relationships die in the conversations that never happened and they die in the appreciation never
00:20expressed, the bids for connection ignored, they die in the pain dismissed, the feelings that were
00:26invalidated, the boundaries that weren't respected, they die in the affection rarely given, they die
00:32in the needs that were never acknowledged, in the vulnerability that was punished, in the support
00:37that wasn't offered, relationships die in the effort unreciprocated, in the apologies never made
00:43and the repair attempts never started. But they don't die all at once. No, they die slowly by a
00:50thousand paper cuts, each one silently chipping away at the trust and intimacy until connection
00:55is just a memory. But you want the best news? You can change that today. You can start the process
01:03just as things destroyed safety and connection in the relationship, they can start to be renewed
01:07and rebuilt if you're willing to put your ego aside and actually put in the work before it's too late.
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