Dear Chixie: Misjudgment

SunStar Philippines

Dear Chixie,  Itago lang ko sa pangalan nga Honey, 25 years old. Naa koy boyfriend nga si Ron. Dako ang among age gap kay he is 45 years old. Sa tinuod lang, I never thought nga makauyab ko og mas maguwang nako ug ingon ana ka dako among age gap. Client diay nako siya sauna, Chixie before mi nagkauyab. Iya sad kong gipahibawo daan nga naa syay mga anak. Kaedad nako ang iyang eldest nga lalaki.  One year nami Chixie ug nakadecide siya nga iya nakong ipaila-ila sa iyang mga anak. Nag expect nako nga bati ang first impression sa iyang mga anak dinhi nako apan wala ko magdahom nga gold-digger ang ilang tan-aw sa akoa.

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06:59Hello, everyone.

07:29I think we just went through a little bit of things that we have to fix.

08:07And sorry if we're right back.

08:36We're right back.

12:06Okay, okay.

13:06We're right back.

14:36We're right back.

15:36You're right back.

17:06And again, we're right back.

19:36We're right back.

23:06Again,

23:36Thank you so much.

24:36We're right back.

25:06So,

25:36Korea for her,

26:06solo actor,

27:06media page,

28:06No, so,

28:36their thoughts,

29:06people around,

29:36and maybe you're right back,

30:06But,

30:36I'll be right back,

31:06I'll be right back,

31:36because,

32:06always after,

32:36gap, I mean,

33:06I'll be right back,

33:36I'll be right back,

34:06okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, they're both single.

34:36If I fall with somebody who's older than me, if I will answer you, it's not wrong to fall in love.

34:42The thing lang, Yud, when you enter in this kind of relationship where people will easily judge you, you have to be ready.

34:53Kaling 10 years nga gap, wala yung problema na.

34:55Diba? Amot lang ni Sir, de rin nga, nadirin mo, agree ba ni sila?

34:5910 years gap, wala, rana.

35:0110 years, mara, mara, rana, nagigsoon, kuya, ate.

35:03Wala yung problema, okay, rana.

35:0515 years, medyo, uy, nananay mga, kung ano na, question, question, no, nga taskig mo gap.

35:1220 years old, the more, kaya morang nakaga-anak.

35:15So, muna ang pinakakuan, hunahuna nila.

35:17And, anak, parang yung edad.

35:19Mismo ang anak, may yung, ha, parang yung edad, sa'yo mong giuyap.

35:23Siyempre, dali kayo mo question, dali kayo mo judge, dali kayo mo doubt.

35:28Why is age an issue in love?

35:29That's the first question that pops into mind, no?

35:32Nga nung age is very, it's such an issue.

35:36When dapat feelings from mga gilunta deambasihan,

35:39the mutual respect, the love, the care for each other should be the basis of love.

35:44Pero people nowadays, because of our own stigma and our own notion,

35:49na nagdakotaan ng, ay, sugar daddy, sugar mommy,

35:52nagdakotaan ng mga termino, munang judgmental kay ang mga tao,

35:56giyod, automatic, moderitso, giyod ay nag-ingon.

35:59Quartara na, kaya cliente, ramanan niya, no?

36:03So, lisod ba ya?

36:04Diba? You're being placed in a situation where you need to be secret lovers

36:07when you should not be secret lovers in the first place.

36:10Diba? Lisura kayo, ana.

36:11Dapat dilita mo mag-secret-secret sa inyong feelings,

36:14pero kailangan na lang mo mag-secret.

36:16Okay?

36:16Unsa-untaman, no?

36:18No, people around will judge.

36:20So, to answer the question,

36:23dilit sayop ang relasyon.

36:25It's just that you are being placed in a situation where

36:28you are being challenged to prove kung gugmaan magid mo sa usag-usa.

36:34Now, this is the challenge.

36:36After, when I say nga, dilit ni siya sayop, dilit mangyod.

36:40Pero, ang panguta na, kaya ba ni mo?

36:43Will you take the risk and the challenge of loving someone

36:48will you journey together and not give up

36:51despite of the judgment,

36:53despite of the connotations,

36:55the stigma that you should not be together?

36:59Will you, are you willing to fight?

37:02Are you willing to continue?

37:05Muna, ang challenge yung akong ibalik, mihani.

37:08Kaya if you're willing,

37:09if loved you ka ni Ron,

37:10loved ni mo siya,

37:12wala naging mabuhat ang mga tao sa kalibutan.

37:15Bisag-unsa pa na yung istoryas,

37:17o baan din ha?

37:18Kung gugmaan,

37:19giyod mo,

37:20ay nako,

37:21pikat na lang yun.

37:22Diba?

37:22Pikat na lang yun sa tinuod lang.

37:24Muna, giyod na.

37:26Diba?

37:27But, are you willing to take the challenge

37:29and to take the risk?

37:31Because it's natural.

37:32Labi na,

37:33if you feel nga,

37:34it's about time for us to open up to the world

37:36that we are lovers

37:37and there's nothing wrong with it.

37:40Diba?

37:40Pero, you should be ready.

37:42Kaya naaman yun na yung pros and cons

37:44ang kada relasyon.

37:46And this time,

37:47ang pros or pros,

37:48you both love each other.

37:50Ang cons is the judgment lang.

37:53Pero ako,

37:53regardless of age,

37:55naagay yung mga chismosa

37:56o maritas palibot.

37:57Nag-unsa kayong mga mo-comment,

37:59bisag-unsa pa na yung status kinabuhi.

38:02Kaniyam nanggi-uyab.

38:04Kaniyam nanggi-uyab.

38:04Example lang ha.

38:05Kaniyam nanggi-uyab.

38:06Nga barkadista.

38:07Kaniyam nanggi-uyab.

38:08Nya siya.

38:08Inusinti kayo, disinti kayo.

38:10Naaman yun na.

38:11I mean, naagay yung mga judgmental people

38:12in the world.

38:13Now, the question is,

38:15are you willing to risk?

38:17If you are willing to risk,

38:18kaniyam nga padayunan yung relasyon.

38:20And I don't see

38:21nga enough reason

38:23ang magbuwag mo

38:24just because a family member

38:26doesn't want you

38:26in a relationship.

38:28Kung ako pa ikaw,

38:29kung mabuwag ka

38:29because you are threatened

38:30by the word

38:31nga gold digger ka,

38:32ah.

38:33Kung padayun,

38:34kung kinabuhi,

38:35dahil,

38:35diligid na ako buwagan,

38:36akong partner dahil

38:37because of the misjudgment.

38:39If love na kong partner,

38:40ako, June,

38:40siyang ipaglaban.

38:41If love po ko sa kong partner,

38:42ipaglaban po ko niya.

38:44And the thing is,

38:45you need to prove

38:47that you can.

38:48You are a working girl.

38:49You don't need to depend on Ron

38:51para masagpapod sa face

38:53ang iyahang anak

38:55nga wak ka nagsaligs

38:56ang papa.

38:57That you can manage.

38:58You can work.

38:59And how to solve the issue,

39:01the problem,

39:02nga kanaabang

39:03you're hiding it

39:05maski sa workplace.

39:07Then kung ako ikaw,

39:08mabalhin kaglaing trabaho

39:09where people,

39:11new people,

39:12new workplace,

39:14new environment

39:14where they will not judge you

39:16for having an old man

39:17nga client,

39:19mandain mo sa una,

39:19so they will not judge you

39:20kayo dinan mo cliente,

39:21lainain mo trabaho,

39:22di ba?

39:23So, in time,

39:25hinahinay lang,

39:26take it as a challenge

39:29that every relationship

39:30will go through.

39:32Now,

39:33the question is,

39:34will you survive?

39:36You will

39:37if there's teamwork

39:38in love.

39:39Ano,

39:40mag-inah,

39:40partnership.

39:41Moga ni partner

39:42because you need to,

39:44ku ano,

39:45you need to join forces

39:46with each other.

39:48Mabit na nang itawag nila

39:49kung sa salida pa,

39:50love team.

39:50You're a team.

39:52This should not be

39:52a one-way street.

39:53Dilipwede nga,

39:54ikaw rin nag-effort,

39:55ay mong partner wala.

39:57Dilipwede nga,

39:58ikaw lang ang

39:59mo-push,

40:00o mo-risgo sa gugma,

40:02ay mong partner wala.

40:04And for as long as,

40:05wala mo'y kiatakan,

40:07nakatungud,

40:08ikaw,

40:08wala po'n ka nagpa-ala,

40:10stepmother nga,

40:12stepmother ni Cinderella,

40:14wala po'n ka nag-subra

40:16sa imuhang pagkakuan

40:18or wala ka nag-change

40:19as a person

40:20kay abing ma

40:21nakapartner kag-arangan,

40:23then go ahead,

40:24pada yun lang.

40:24I don't see anything

40:25wrong with that.

40:26And with the judgment,

40:28you have to live with it.

40:29People will always

40:30have to say something,

40:31regardless of what kind

40:32of relationship you have,

40:34naaagyo'y masulti

40:36ang mga tao.

40:37The thing is,

40:38kung kaya ba ni mo,

40:39kaya ba din yun,

40:42pada yun.

40:43Kung di na,

40:43good,

40:43o kung you think

40:44this is not working anymore,

40:46it's affecting you,

40:47then ayaw.

40:47Pero if you are

40:48willing to risk it,

40:50go ahead, no?

40:51There's nothing wrong

40:52in falling in love.

40:53Paran ako,

40:54feelings ng yun,

40:55mutual respect,

40:55feelings,

40:56and love.

40:58Genuine love.

40:59Muuragin na,

41:00regardless,

41:01kung unsapan na din ha,

41:02basta wala ka na kayatak,

41:04wala'y nag-cheat minyo,

41:06wala'y mistress,

41:08wala'y other man,

41:10pada yun,

41:11di ha,

41:11girl,

41:11go ahead.

41:12Muna akong advice,

41:13I hope it makes sense to you guys,

41:15and sa mga nanapot sa live,

41:17daghang salamat,

41:18thank you,

41:19and to everyone who's misjudged,

41:20well,

41:21let them judge you.

41:22Okay,

41:22namgi-judgmentals kalibutan,

41:24but just keep going,

41:25be happy.

41:27Muna kita,

41:27huwag nga,

41:28pasuya apa,

41:29para mas masuyag sa mood.

41:31Diba?

41:31Oo,

41:32real talk lang.

41:33Anyway,

41:33that's it for me.

41:34Daghang salamat for joining us

41:36for almost an hour of the show.

41:39Gikan Paganina,

41:41and with of course,

41:42Eric,

41:43Kenneth,

41:44and

41:44Chari,

41:46for our,

41:47uh,

41:47kuano drama part,

41:49thank you so much.

41:50And again,

41:51sa tanan-tanan na gustong mo,

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41:54sama na lang ni Honey,

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42:22Daghang salamat,

42:22and to the entire team,

42:23thank you so much.

42:25Sir Mark,

42:26and everyone sir,

42:27thank you so much.

42:28Sa tanan-tanan,

42:29and together with the interns,

42:30kinis si Chixie,

42:31para sa laing episode of Be Your Chixie,

42:33till next week.

42:34Bye-bye.

42:42Bye-bye.

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