SPJIMR CWIL's 20th Wisdom Research Presentation: Kritagyata: The Essence of Indian Knowledge System

SP Jain Institute of Management and Research

CWIL's Twentieth Wisdom Research Presentation was conducted by  Dr. Naval Garg, Assistant Professor (HR and OB) in the University School of Management and Entrepreneurship, Delhi Technological University, New Delhi  In this presentation titled 'Kritagyata: The Essence of Indian Knowledge System', Dr. Naval Garg aims to explore the Indian concept of gratitude, highlighting its depth beyond Western frameworks. It will integrate Indian philosophies like Rnas, Purusharthas, Karma Yoga, and Bhakti Yoga to offer a holistic view. The seminar also seeks to enrich current gratitude research by incorporating insights from the Indian Knowledge System.

Transcript

00:00:00It is my pleasure to welcome you on behalf of SPJMR's Center for Wisdom in Leadership

00:00:11or CWL. At CWL, we believe that true leadership transcends tactics and strategy. It is grounded

00:00:18in wisdom, self-awareness and purpose. Inspired by SPJMR's mission of value-based growth,

00:00:24our work brings together ancient wisdom traditions from East and side-by-side modern leadership

00:00:30practices. At CWL, we host events, workshops and conduct courses. The Center is also leading various

00:00:37research projects drawing from various wisdom traditions like Vedanta, Yoga, Sikhism, Buddhism,

00:00:43etc. Today we have with us Professor Nawal Garg. Dr. Nawal Garg is an Associate Professor

00:00:50at the Department of Management Studies, Netaji Shubhash University of Technology.

00:00:55Previously, he was associated with Delhi Technological University and Oriental Insurance

00:01:00Company Limited. He is a prominent researcher and features in world's two-person researcher

00:01:06as per Stanford University list. His research areas include Workplace Spirituality, Gratitude,

00:01:13Scale Development and Indian Knowledge System. He has around 80 Scopus Index articles with age

00:01:19index of 26. He has published research articles in leading journals such as Asian Journal of

00:01:26Social Psychology, Asian Journal of Psychiatry, International Journal of Organizational Analysis,

00:01:32International Journal of Conflict Management, South Asian Journal of Human Resources,

00:01:36Journal of Organizational Change Management, etc. With this, I request Professor Nawal Garg,

00:01:42Sir, to now deliver his presentation. Over to you, Sir. Yes, thank you. So, let me present it first.

00:02:04So, I think it is visible. Yes, it is visible. Okay, welcome to all. So, the topic, essential topic is

00:02:21Krita Gita, which means in English it is gratitude. But I have purposely chosen the word Krita Gita over

00:02:27here, the reason for which we will be discussing in our presentation. So, right. So, I have tried to,

00:02:36you know, I have delivered the same presentation or the same topic at various places. The input I got

00:02:44there is it is too much, you know, research-oriented. So, this time I have tried to make it a little bit

00:02:50more practical oriented. Fine. So, I will start with a small, very small, you know, I should say,

00:02:57exercise. We have seen this particular, you know, glass way back in when, whenever we were in, you know,

00:03:05second standard or third standard. Our teacher used to, you know, come up with some same, you know,

00:03:11diagram or picture asking us, what do you see? So, the same question I, you know, I have come up with you.

00:03:19What do you see here in this diagram? Can you please answer? Any one of you? No answer is incorrect.

00:03:28Professor, your slide show is not visible. We can see the slide deck. So, okay.

00:03:42Is it now?

00:03:43Still, we can see the PowerPoint, uh, interface, not the, not the slide show.

00:03:53Or if you, if you're trying to project, maybe, would you like to share the, uh, screen again?

00:03:59Okay. Sure.

00:03:59And choose the, uh, slide show window there.

00:04:15Yes. Now we are able to see the slide show. Yeah.

00:04:18Fine.

00:04:20So, this is the picture. We all are very much aware about this picture.

00:04:24So, again, I'm repeating the question. What do you see in this picture?

00:04:30Any answer?

00:04:32Glass half filled with water.

00:04:34Half glass filled with water.

00:04:36Any other answer?

00:04:37Water with bubbles.

00:04:39Waters with bubbles.

00:04:40Yes.

00:04:43I think the glass is more than half filled.

00:04:47More than half filled. Fine.

00:04:52So, the, the reason behind this question is,

00:04:56why I have chosen Kritagyata over the word gratitude is,

00:05:00see, I'm not claiming, it is my observation, that our

00:05:03notion or conceptualization of gratitude. From our, I mean,

00:05:09Eastern. Eastern perspective of gratitude or Kritagyata is much wider than that of the Western.

00:05:15From this very diagram, I'm going to give some, sir, insight.

00:05:19See, uh, from very young age, when we were in the school, the same diagram,

00:05:24the same picture was shown to us. And our answer was, this is half full of water.

00:05:29If a student says it is half full of water, that student is, you know,

00:05:33supposed to be very optimistic. And if certain student says, this is not,

00:05:38it is half empty, that student is labeled as pessimist. Isn't it?

00:05:42So, but I have, you know, connected this with the gratitude.

00:05:46I say that I am grateful because I have a glass full of water, half full of water. That is fine.

00:05:54But what about this empty space? Is it real empty?

00:06:01There is air, you know, in this half space. And if I ask you, what is more important, air or water?

00:06:09Naturally, your answer will be water, air itself, because we can live without water for two, three,

00:06:14four, five days. But without air, you know, in 10 seconds, we'll be somewhere else. Isn't it?

00:06:20So, in our life also, what I have observed, we have neglected the more important things

00:06:27in lieu of less important. See, water is important. I agree with it. But what is more important is air.

00:06:34But none of our participants, even in my previous, you know, workshops also,

00:06:39none of the participants appreciated this, that the water, this, the glass is not half empty. Rather,

00:06:45it contains a more valuable item, which is air. So Indian notion of gratitude says, I am grateful for

00:06:53water as well as grateful for air. And it goes one step ahead also. If I consider it is to be empty,

00:07:02our notion of emptiness is supreme. What we want in our life?

00:07:06Emptiness, whenever we meditate or whenever we do any charity, whenever we do anything,

00:07:14one of the reason behind our entire activities is to get to have a feeling of emptiness.

00:07:23So I am grateful for water, grateful for air and grateful for a chance of experiencing the emptiness.

00:07:31Then we go one step ahead. What about the glass? Shouldn't I be grateful for this glass also?

00:07:37But if, because if I don't have the glass, then you know how I'm going to consume the water.

00:07:43Then we go one step ahead. I have water, I have glass, I have emptiness, I have air that is sufficient.

00:07:54But nowadays, as a scholar of organizational behavior and HR, you know, I'm observing a new

00:08:00type of occupational hazard that is coming in generation Z, which is lack of water, lack of, you know,

00:08:07lack of thirst. They keep on working hours, hours or hours, eight hours, 10 hours, but they don't consume

00:08:13enough water. And we know that the scarcity of water is the mother of a number of diseases in our body,

00:08:19you know, starting with diabetes, kidney disease, et cetera, and et cetera.

00:08:24What I, why I'm telling you, because in psychology, we say two plus two, if you know, if I'm hungry,

00:08:29two plus two is, two plus two is four chapati. It is not four. In psychology, we say two, two,

00:08:35what? Chapati, the person will say four chapati, four answer. So if I'm observing water over here,

00:08:42it means I have thirst somewhere in my mind. You just imagine, you have a fast today.

00:08:50So from the very moment you, you know, left out from your home and say, you, you know, cover one and

00:08:56half hour or two hours to, you know, reach your workplace. So you will, you know, notice a number

00:09:04of, you know, items, eatable items, a number of eatable shops, the shops, you know, canteens,

00:09:12as well as restaurants, which you might not have noticed throughout your, you know, last two years,

00:09:18because you are hungry, because you are hungry. So all your senses are searching for the food.

00:09:23So if I am noticing water over here, that means I have, I still have thirst within myself. So there

00:09:32was a survey. I am unable to recall the exact name of the party who conducted the survey. They conducted

00:09:38survey among Genji, inquiring about their intake of water, that how much water they take on the daily

00:09:48basis. So any guesses? 1.5, 1.5, 1.5 liters. Yeah. 432 ml. You will be surprised when it is only 432 ml.

00:10:07They told Genji that Genji is consuming only 432 ml of water per day. And, you know,

00:10:15doctors say it should be 2 to 3 liters. Why does it happen? Because they keep on postponing the thirst.

00:10:20They keep on postponing the thirst. So they keep on postponing and slowly and steadily, our body,

00:10:29our body is very adaptive. It starts, it stops demanding the water. So I am grateful I have water.

00:10:37I am grateful I am, I have air for the glass, for the emptiness and for the thirst. Then we may go,

00:10:44you know, there are a number of infinite number of steps. Then we can go ahead. See, I have thirst,

00:10:50but I am able to drink water also, because you will find a number of people who are willing to drink water,

00:10:56but they cannot, because their physical health don't allow them. You might have met a number of

00:11:02diabetic people. Their doctor suggests, so I am grateful because I am able to drink water also. I am

00:11:11willing and I am able to drink, I am able to digest the water. This is the depth, you know, we can,

00:11:16you know, keep going, we can go on, you know, defining it and, you know, a hundred more steps,

00:11:23at least hundred more steps we can go. This is the depth of Indian notion of gratitude.

00:11:27It is not likely I should be restricted to what I am observing only. I just give you an example.

00:11:35See, I have this, you know, mouse in with me. So this mouse, particular mouse is being prepared.

00:11:41A number of, you know, a number of technology, technology, of course, has been used, but a number

00:11:46of people has contributed. That's why this mouse is today's with me. Somebody has conceptualized the idea,

00:11:52then somebody worked upon it. Somebody invested heavy, you know, amount of money. Somebody worked

00:11:58upon it. Kuch engineer, kuch technician laghe, workers ne kaam kya, then it went to, you know,

00:12:02wholesaler, then it went to the seller, then me reinvested in isko purchase karke mujhe diya.

00:12:07So if I am disrespecting this particular mouse, aren't I disrespecting the effort of all those people who

00:12:15I am disrespecting all those people. So this is the depth of the Indian gratitude, Indian notion of

00:12:30Krita Gita. That's why I have highlighted the word Krita Gita over gratitude here. So again, a very simple

00:12:36exercise for five minutes. You might have notebooks with you. So on the very left column, you just write

00:12:45down five to ten items for which you are grateful in your life. It could be anything. It could be like,

00:12:52I am grateful to my parents. In the middle column, I request you to write all those things of your life,

00:13:00which are part of your life, but you don't want them in your life. Like I don't want tension in my life,

00:13:07but it is part of my life. You may write over here. And in third, third column, I request you to write

00:13:14down your wishes. Suppose Brahma Ji is in front of you, and he is saying, Vardhaan maangou,

00:13:20You can have an infinite number of Vardaan.

00:13:25Please take 5 minutes.

00:13:29In the leftmost column, the things for which you are grateful in your life.

00:13:42In this middle column, all those things which are part of your life but you don't want them in your life.

00:13:49And in the third column, please write down your wishes.

00:13:52It could be a big car, you want a bungalow, you want a job, spouse, anything.

00:14:19You have a good name.

00:14:24How can you anchor them from the beginning of that dramatically?

00:14:27How could you anchor them into the next slide?

00:14:29How could you anchor them from there?

00:14:31Or try these errors if you could menu?

00:14:34Perfect.

00:14:35Yeah.

00:14:36Awesome.

00:14:37You're supposed to CTR here?

00:14:38的?

00:16:09Let's discuss now.

00:16:12So first column, would you like to tell me what you have written in the first column,

00:16:16the things for which you are grateful in your life?

00:16:18Okay.

00:16:19Should we share?

00:16:23Yeah.

00:16:24Please.

00:16:26So I'm grateful to have a guru in my life.

00:16:29Great.

00:16:30I am very grateful to have a stable life to my parents.

00:16:35And also I have very good friends.

00:16:37So I've written these four things.

00:16:39Great.

00:16:40Great.

00:16:41Ajinkai Ji, anything else?

00:16:42I have taken a bit of macro perspective and I said everything.

00:16:49I'm grateful for everything.

00:16:51And that everything includes my parents, my families, my teachers, gurus.

00:16:56It includes my friends, colleagues, fellow people.

00:16:58It includes environment.

00:17:00It includes failures.

00:17:01It includes success.

00:17:03It includes, and more than that, I feel it includes blessings.

00:17:06And I feel I'm blessed.

00:17:08And that's why.

00:17:09So basically that, one word is everything.

00:17:14I'm grateful for everything.

00:17:16Great, sir.

00:17:17Great.

00:17:18Jimish Jyoti, anything to add?

00:17:22My list is also similar.

00:17:24I also wrote everything I'm grateful for.

00:17:27It's the same.

00:17:30Things that I don't want, like you said, attention.

00:17:32I also thought about sometimes negativity or laziness in terms of my work.

00:17:37And for wishes, I wrote a particular card that I want to buy sometime in the future.

00:17:43So, yeah.

00:17:45Fine, fine.

00:17:46So modern psychology called this exercise gratitude journaling, in which we are supposed

00:17:51to write all the things for which we are grateful in our life.

00:17:56So I conducted this exercise a number of times with students, with practitioners, with

00:18:02people from the corporate world, with students, with faculty members.

00:18:07So using certain permutation combination, applying statistics, so I rang, and this is the result

00:18:14for you.

00:18:19Is it moving?

00:18:22Yes.

00:18:23Oh.

00:18:24Disappeared now.

00:18:27Screen sharing has stopped.

00:18:29Yes, yes, yes, yes.

00:18:31The first and foremost

00:19:01thing that we should be grateful is

00:19:03life. Isn't it?

00:19:05We have taken it for granted.

00:19:08See, at

00:19:09this particular moment

00:19:10not even

00:19:12not in lakhs, thousands of people

00:19:15are dying, have died.

00:19:17See, Corona came, it take away

00:19:19lives from thousands of people but I am still

00:19:21here. Shouldn't I be grateful for

00:19:23only this life? That I am

00:19:25alive? See, now

00:19:27you have column number 2 and column number 3.

00:19:29I am ready to give you whatever

00:19:31you have written in column number 3 but just

00:19:33give me this one thing.

00:19:35Is it fine?

00:19:37So, I am just repeating the same thing

00:19:39that whatever is more valuable

00:19:41and whatever is more significant

00:19:43it has already been given

00:19:45to us. So,

00:19:47there was a famous English

00:19:48proverb that there is no free

00:19:51lunch.

00:19:51but I have been given a life

00:19:54without, you know,

00:19:56costing anything.

00:19:57God has not asked me

00:19:59even a single penny

00:20:00and has given me a life.

00:20:03So, in my opinion

00:20:05the significant thing,

00:20:06the most significant thing

00:20:08has been given to me

00:20:10without any cost.

00:20:12I don't know about you.

00:20:13Maybe God

00:20:14might have asked you something

00:20:16but from me

00:20:17He hasn't, you know,

00:20:19taken even a single penny.

00:20:21Second thing

00:20:22that we should be grateful

00:20:23is for human life.

00:20:26See, there are, you know,

00:20:27there is life

00:20:28all around us

00:20:29in the form of, you know,

00:20:30plants,

00:20:30in the form of animal.

00:20:32I could have been given

00:20:33a birth

00:20:34in the form of a bird

00:20:35moving here and there

00:20:37maybe in the form

00:20:38of a dog

00:20:38you know,

00:20:40begging for food

00:20:41moving here and there

00:20:42for food only

00:20:43but I have been given

00:20:44a life that

00:20:45to a human life

00:20:46and the beauty

00:20:46of human life

00:20:47is like

00:20:48see, in Hinduism

00:20:50especially

00:20:50we call that

00:20:51we have 16 level

00:20:53of pranas,

00:20:5416 different level

00:20:55of pranas

00:20:55and as the human being

00:20:57we are at the 9th level

00:20:59and the God is

00:21:00Krishna is at the 16th level

00:21:02but the beauty is

00:21:05even the people

00:21:06even the person

00:21:07at the 15th level

00:21:08need to come

00:21:09at the 9th level

00:21:10to reach the 16th level.

00:21:11So 9th level

00:21:12the human level

00:21:13is like

00:21:14what should call it

00:21:15it is a Chorahatai.

00:21:18So in order to reach

00:21:20the pinnacle of life

00:21:22that is Buddhism

00:21:23one has to be

00:21:24human being.

00:21:25After human being

00:21:26there are Yakshas

00:21:27there are you know

00:21:28other creatures

00:21:29Pitra

00:21:29there are Pitra

00:21:30but to reach the pinnacle

00:21:32which is the Buddhism

00:21:33which is the

00:21:34you know

00:21:36to get enlightenment

00:21:37one needs to be

00:21:38a human being.

00:21:39No animal

00:21:39you know

00:21:40below 9th level

00:21:41is below 9th is

00:21:428th level

00:21:42is animal

00:21:42no animal

00:21:44can reach the

00:21:45you know

00:21:45enlightenment

00:21:46the stage of

00:21:47enlightenment

00:21:47even the devata

00:21:49cannot reach

00:21:50the stage of

00:21:51enlightenment

00:21:51it is the

00:21:52the stairs

00:21:54to enlightenment

00:21:55starts with

00:21:56the human life

00:21:57only.

00:21:58It is being given

00:21:59in the Hinduism

00:21:59that's why

00:22:00it is being said

00:22:01when Buddha

00:22:02attained the

00:22:03enlightenment

00:22:03all the devatas

00:22:05all the angels

00:22:07came to him

00:22:07and they worshipped him.

00:22:09although at the

00:22:11level of the

00:22:12prana

00:22:12they were at

00:22:12the higher

00:22:13prana level

00:22:14their prana

00:22:15level was

00:22:16higher than

00:22:17that of the

00:22:17human being

00:22:18but again

00:22:19the enlightened

00:22:20state

00:22:20always you know

00:22:22human being

00:22:24is the precursor

00:22:25of the

00:22:25enlightenment

00:22:26state.

00:22:26so I am

00:22:27grateful that

00:22:28I have been

00:22:28given this

00:22:29human life

00:22:30and that's

00:22:30to without

00:22:31cost.

00:22:32Again I

00:22:33request you

00:22:33to have

00:22:34an observation

00:22:35that whatever

00:22:37you have

00:22:37written in

00:22:38column number

00:22:39two and

00:22:39column number

00:22:40three are

00:22:41they more

00:22:42valuable than

00:22:43these two

00:22:43points.

00:22:44So slowly

00:22:44and steadily

00:22:45you will cherish

00:22:46that whatever

00:22:47has been given

00:22:47to us and

00:22:48that's to free

00:22:49of cost is

00:22:50more valuable

00:22:51than we want.

00:22:52Now let's

00:22:53move to three

00:22:54this is

00:22:54sanskara and

00:22:55we call it

00:22:56mumuksha.

00:22:57Mumuksha is

00:22:57a quest for

00:22:59enlightenment.

00:23:00Quest for

00:23:01you know

00:23:01freedom from

00:23:02the bondage.

00:23:03So since

00:23:03you all are

00:23:04here it

00:23:05already suggests

00:23:06that

00:23:07Benajit and

00:23:09Ajinkes are

00:23:10already that

00:23:11they are

00:23:11grateful for

00:23:11the gurus

00:23:12in their

00:23:13life and

00:23:14they are

00:23:15grateful for

00:23:15the guru

00:23:15that means

00:23:16they have

00:23:16mumuksha

00:23:17the quest

00:23:18for enlightenment.

00:23:19So I am

00:23:19grateful or

00:23:21we should all

00:23:21be grateful

00:23:22that we have

00:23:23this particular

00:23:23mumuksha.

00:23:24then sound

00:23:26mind I

00:23:27used to

00:23:28stay in

00:23:28a district

00:23:29in Ambala.

00:23:30It is a

00:23:31district in

00:23:31Haryana.

00:23:32So I was

00:23:33walking in

00:23:34Delhi and

00:23:34you know

00:23:35will go to

00:23:37Ambala only

00:23:37on the

00:23:38weekend.

00:23:39So I

00:23:39debodied a

00:23:40bus and

00:23:40used to

00:23:41walk towards

00:23:41my home

00:23:42which is

00:23:42500 meter

00:23:44away.

00:23:45So one

00:23:45day I

00:23:46noticed that

00:23:46in a

00:23:47particular

00:23:47home a

00:23:48lady you

00:23:49know 45 to

00:23:4950 year

00:23:50lady was

00:23:51chained.

00:23:51She was

00:23:52chained to

00:23:53a tree.

00:23:54So I

00:23:54was shocked

00:23:55how can

00:23:56in 21st

00:23:56century that

00:23:57that's

00:23:58true in a

00:23:58district like

00:23:58Ambala which

00:23:59is very

00:24:00educated

00:24:00district how

00:24:02can you

00:24:02chained a

00:24:03woman.

00:24:03So I

00:24:03inquired over

00:24:04there they

00:24:04told me

00:24:05this this

00:24:05lady is

00:24:06of unsound

00:24:07mind.

00:24:09She is you

00:24:09know mentally

00:24:10retarded.

00:24:11She is of

00:24:11unsound

00:24:12mind.

00:24:13Now then I

00:24:14asked them

00:24:15that why do

00:24:16you have

00:24:16chained her.

00:24:17They told

00:24:18me that this

00:24:19particular lady

00:24:20has left

00:24:21home four

00:24:22times earlier.

00:24:24and she

00:24:24you know

00:24:25she was

00:24:25injured as

00:24:27animal

00:24:27attacked her

00:24:28and on

00:24:30the two

00:24:30particular

00:24:31cases she

00:24:32was the

00:24:32pose of

00:24:34accident.

00:24:35She you

00:24:36know she

00:24:36was she

00:24:37was out

00:24:38of her

00:24:38mind.

00:24:38She you

00:24:39know she

00:24:39ran on

00:24:40the road

00:24:40and in

00:24:41order to

00:24:42avoid the

00:24:43accident the

00:24:44vehicle owner

00:24:45applied the

00:24:46brake and

00:24:46there were two

00:24:47major accidents

00:24:48because of

00:24:49her.

00:24:49then there

00:24:50and at

00:24:51that particular

00:24:52moment I

00:24:53realized that

00:24:53how grateful

00:24:54I am that

00:24:55the God has

00:24:56given me a

00:24:56perfect mind

00:24:57we call it

00:24:58in Hindi

00:24:59Vivek.

00:25:00I have been

00:25:01given a

00:25:01power to

00:25:02understand what

00:25:03is right and

00:25:04what is wrong

00:25:04and again I am

00:25:05repeating it is

00:25:06being given to

00:25:07me without any

00:25:08cost.

00:25:09So the

00:25:09metaphor that

00:25:10there is no

00:25:12free lunch it

00:25:13doesn't make any

00:25:14sense because the

00:25:15most vital things

00:25:16has been given

00:25:17to us without

00:25:18any cost.

00:25:20See then I

00:25:22met one of

00:25:22my friend

00:25:23his wife is

00:25:25suffering from

00:25:25certain psychiatric

00:25:27issue.

00:25:28OCD she is

00:25:28suffering from

00:25:30OCD.

00:25:31Obsessive

00:25:31compulsive

00:25:32disorder and

00:25:34it is a

00:25:34special type

00:25:36of OCD in

00:25:37which she is

00:25:38compulsively

00:25:39engaged in

00:25:42one particular

00:25:43thought.

00:25:44Suppose in

00:25:45morning she

00:25:45got up and

00:25:46she got a

00:25:47thought that

00:25:47I should

00:25:48write the

00:25:49numbers of

00:25:50the credit

00:25:51card that

00:25:51she possesses.

00:25:52So throughout

00:25:53the day she

00:25:54will keep on

00:25:54writing the

00:25:55credit card

00:25:56numbers here

00:25:57and there.

00:25:58So I met

00:25:59my friend he

00:25:59was so

00:26:00depressed.

00:26:01He himself

00:26:02was of

00:26:03sound mind

00:26:03but he is

00:26:04one of his

00:26:05near and

00:26:06dear one.

00:26:06His wife

00:26:07was not

00:26:08suffering from

00:26:10OCD.

00:26:11So I

00:26:11realized that

00:26:12how grateful

00:26:13I am that

00:26:13none of my

00:26:14near and

00:26:15dear is

00:26:16suffering from

00:26:16such a

00:26:17disease because

00:26:18my friend

00:26:20told me

00:26:20that okay

00:26:22the problem

00:26:23of OCD

00:26:23is with my

00:26:25wife but

00:26:26throughout the

00:26:27day he

00:26:28needs to

00:26:29counsel him.

00:26:30Once in a

00:26:31week they

00:26:31need to go to

00:26:32the psychiatrist

00:26:33as well as

00:26:33psychologist.

00:26:35So how

00:26:35difficult it

00:26:36is for her.

00:26:38She cannot go

00:26:38to any public

00:26:39gathering and

00:26:40India you know

00:26:40public gathering

00:26:41us you know

00:26:42it is a

00:26:43custom over

00:26:43here.

00:26:44So I am

00:26:45grateful that

00:26:45I have a

00:26:46sound mind.

00:26:47Moving forward

00:26:48healthy body.

00:26:50Again I tell

00:26:52you one incident

00:26:52from my

00:26:53life.

00:26:55Once along

00:26:58with a friend

00:26:58I need to

00:26:59catch a bus

00:27:00and it is

00:27:02a Haryana

00:27:03roadways bus

00:27:04and the

00:27:05beauty with

00:27:06Haryana roadways

00:27:06is it never

00:27:07stops at its

00:27:08stand.

00:27:09Either it

00:27:10will stop at

00:27:10250 meter

00:27:12before the

00:27:13stand or

00:27:13after the

00:27:14stand.

00:27:14The basic

00:27:15reason is

00:27:15they want

00:27:15you to be

00:27:16healthy.

00:27:17You catch

00:27:17the bus

00:27:17through running

00:27:18towards it

00:27:19or against

00:27:19it.

00:27:20So same

00:27:21thing happened

00:27:21the same

00:27:22day.

00:27:22So I

00:27:22rain and

00:27:23catch the

00:27:23bus and

00:27:23I cry and

00:27:24shouted at

00:27:25my friend

00:27:25come here

00:27:26come here

00:27:26just get

00:27:27into it.

00:27:28And the

00:27:28driver of

00:27:29Haryana road

00:27:29buses are so

00:27:30great that

00:27:30they don't

00:27:31bother about

00:27:32whether all

00:27:32the passengers

00:27:33have boarded

00:27:34the bus.

00:27:35They give

00:27:36you a time

00:27:37span of 10

00:27:37seconds.

00:27:38If you

00:27:39are lucky

00:27:39enough you

00:27:39are in.

00:27:40If you

00:27:41are slightly

00:27:42lazy you

00:27:43will be out

00:27:43of it.

00:27:44So I

00:27:44cry I

00:27:44shouted at

00:27:45my friend

00:27:45you please

00:27:46come in

00:27:47and he

00:27:47was you

00:27:47know slowly

00:27:48moving towards

00:27:48the bus

00:27:49like you

00:27:49know newly

00:27:50newlywed bride

00:27:51slowly and

00:27:52steadily coming

00:27:53towards the

00:27:54bus.

00:27:55Luckily he

00:27:55boarded the

00:27:56bus and I

00:27:57shouted him

00:27:57what was this

00:27:58this was not

00:27:59expected you

00:27:59are a young

00:28:00guy and

00:28:00he was 18

00:28:02years old I

00:28:03was 21 and

00:28:04he was 18

00:28:04years at

00:28:05that time.

00:28:06He told me

00:28:06that he was

00:28:07suffering from

00:28:07a disease

00:28:08wherein is

00:28:10one of the

00:28:10spinal cord it

00:28:11is called L1

00:28:12it is slightly

00:28:14imbalanced and

00:28:16because of that

00:28:17particular disc

00:28:17imbalance he

00:28:19cannot even sleep

00:28:20properly in one

00:28:22particular position.

00:28:24He need to

00:28:24you know put up

00:28:25alarm for after

00:28:28one hour that

00:28:29alarm will wake him

00:28:30up for after

00:28:31one hour and

00:28:31he will change

00:28:32his position.

00:28:34Even his

00:28:35parents they

00:28:36take care of

00:28:36him that after

00:28:38one hour they

00:28:38ensure that

00:28:39after every

00:28:41one hour they

00:28:42make their son

00:28:43change his

00:28:44position.

00:28:46Therein I

00:28:46realized that

00:28:47see how lucky

00:28:48and how grateful

00:28:49I am that I

00:28:50have been given

00:28:51a complete body

00:28:52without any

00:28:53difficulty without

00:28:54any deformity.

00:28:56Now again I

00:28:57request you to

00:28:57compare these

00:28:58five things and

00:28:59whatever you

00:28:59have written

00:29:00in column

00:29:00number two

00:29:01and column

00:29:01three.

00:29:02So you

00:29:02will definitely

00:29:03realize that

00:29:04whatever has

00:29:04been given

00:29:05to us is

00:29:06much more

00:29:07valuable, much

00:29:08more significant

00:29:09and again free

00:29:10of cost.

00:29:12Moving forward

00:29:13financial

00:29:13stability.

00:29:16If I have

00:29:17to read these

00:29:18things I will

00:29:19give financial

00:29:20stability the

00:29:21rank number

00:29:22one because I

00:29:23have met a

00:29:24number of

00:29:25people.

00:29:25See being a

00:29:27researcher you

00:29:28know we keep

00:29:29on talking to

00:29:29people from

00:29:30different kind

00:29:31different people.

00:29:33So once I

00:29:33was talking to

00:29:34a rickshaw

00:29:34wala I asked

00:29:38him what

00:29:38your what

00:29:39are your

00:29:39aspiration for

00:29:40your son what

00:29:41do you want

00:29:41your son to

00:29:42be?

00:29:43Any guesses?

00:29:43Any answer?

00:29:44Any answer?

00:29:48What he wants his

00:29:53son to be?

00:29:54IS?

00:30:01Doctor?

00:30:02Engineer?

00:30:04Anjiyajinkeji?

00:30:06Yeah.

00:30:06Somebody who is

00:30:07successful financially

00:30:09successful in

00:30:11career.

00:30:11I asked this

00:30:13question from at

00:30:14least 150 to

00:30:15200 rickshaw

00:30:16puller.

00:30:16Okay.

00:30:17none of them

00:30:20has an

00:30:21aspiration that

00:30:22their son

00:30:23should become

00:30:24an IS

00:30:25officer or

00:30:26an engineer

00:30:26or a doctor

00:30:27or some

00:30:29you know

00:30:30respectable

00:30:30post.

00:30:31The highest

00:30:32position that

00:30:34they aspired

00:30:34was peon

00:30:35in a

00:30:36government

00:30:36department.

00:30:38The answer

00:30:39of you know

00:30:40say at least

00:30:41100 people

00:30:42were like

00:30:42they should

00:30:44have their

00:30:45own rickshaw.

00:30:46They should

00:30:47be owner of

00:30:48their own

00:30:48rickshaw so

00:30:49that they

00:30:49need not to

00:30:50pay the

00:30:50monthly rent

00:30:51of that

00:30:51rickshaw.

00:30:53Therein I

00:30:53realized that

00:30:54how lucky I

00:30:55am that my

00:30:55parents are

00:30:56financially stable

00:30:57they could

00:30:58provide me

00:30:59good education.

00:31:01I need not

00:31:02to think about

00:31:03food that

00:31:04whether I am

00:31:05going to get

00:31:06food at night

00:31:06or not.

00:31:07But there

00:31:08are a

00:31:08thousands

00:31:09lakhs of

00:31:10people especially

00:31:10in India

00:31:11that they

00:31:13do not

00:31:13have guarantee

00:31:14that they

00:31:14will be

00:31:15getting food

00:31:16thrice a

00:31:16day.

00:31:17I was in

00:31:18Odisha once

00:31:18when I was

00:31:19a kid type.

00:31:20I realized

00:31:21there that

00:31:22the family

00:31:25member used

00:31:26to have only

00:31:26one set of

00:31:27clothes.

00:31:28They will

00:31:28wear that

00:31:29clothes throughout

00:31:29the day.

00:31:30They will

00:31:31wash that

00:31:31clothes in

00:31:32the evening

00:31:32and they

00:31:34will wear

00:31:35it again

00:31:35another day.

00:31:38So financial

00:31:39stability you

00:31:40know a

00:31:41human life

00:31:41without

00:31:42financial

00:31:42stability

00:31:43is again

00:31:43I think

00:31:44it is

00:31:44cautionable.

00:31:45So shouldn't

00:31:45I be

00:31:46grateful the

00:31:46financial

00:31:47stability for

00:31:47all the

00:31:48finances that

00:31:49I have.

00:31:49I need

00:31:50not to worry

00:31:50about my

00:31:51future,

00:31:51need not to

00:31:52worry about

00:31:52my kids.

00:31:56Then we

00:31:57are in the

00:31:57one of the

00:31:58noblest

00:31:58profession,

00:31:59we are in

00:31:59the teaching

00:31:59profession,

00:32:00I believe

00:32:00every one

00:32:01of us.

00:32:02This is

00:32:02one of the

00:32:03noblest

00:32:03profession.

00:32:04Why?

00:32:04Because we

00:32:04are not,

00:32:06each and

00:32:06every step,

00:32:07whatever we

00:32:08do is

00:32:09going to

00:32:10directly help

00:32:11our students

00:32:11which indirectly

00:32:13will help

00:32:15country to

00:32:15grow and

00:32:16ultimately

00:32:18world to

00:32:18grow.

00:32:21Then family

00:32:21and friend,

00:32:22you all told

00:32:22us that we

00:32:23are very

00:32:23grateful for

00:32:24our family

00:32:24and friend.

00:32:25One example

00:32:25I would like

00:32:26to quote

00:32:26that Corona

00:32:27came in

00:32:272021.

00:32:30I was

00:32:30going through

00:32:32a study

00:32:32told me that

00:32:33Eastern people

00:32:34were least

00:32:35affected from

00:32:36Corona in

00:32:37terms of

00:32:38mental health

00:32:38diseases.

00:32:40There were

00:32:40less instances

00:32:41of loneliness

00:32:42or say

00:32:44anxiety,

00:32:47depressive

00:32:47symptoms.

00:32:48There were

00:32:48relatively lesser

00:32:49percentages of

00:32:50people in

00:32:50the Eastern

00:32:51sphere than

00:32:52the Western

00:32:52one.

00:32:53The reason

00:32:53is family.

00:32:55Our family

00:32:55system is

00:32:56very intact.

00:32:58See,

00:32:59you will be

00:32:59surprised to

00:33:00know the

00:33:00definition of

00:33:00joint family.

00:33:01the joint

00:33:03family for

00:33:05us is

00:33:06when our

00:33:07uncles,

00:33:08chachetaus is

00:33:10joint family.

00:33:11If I am

00:33:11staying with

00:33:12my parents,

00:33:12it is not

00:33:13joint family

00:33:13for me.

00:33:14Isn't it?

00:33:15However,

00:33:16the other

00:33:16version is

00:33:17joint family

00:33:17is when you

00:33:18are staying

00:33:18with your

00:33:18parents.

00:33:19If you

00:33:19and your

00:33:19kids are

00:33:20staying,

00:33:20it is

00:33:20okay.

00:33:21Small

00:33:21kids.

00:33:22It is

00:33:22nuclear

00:33:23family.

00:33:23But in

00:33:24India,

00:33:24nuclear

00:33:24family is

00:33:25parents,

00:33:26their kids

00:33:26and their

00:33:27kids.

00:33:27It is not

00:33:28considered as

00:33:29joint family

00:33:29in India.

00:33:30So we are

00:33:30so lucky

00:33:31that we

00:33:32are still

00:33:32living in

00:33:32a joint

00:33:33family.

00:33:34And we

00:33:35celebrate our

00:33:36festivals

00:33:37together.

00:33:37This is

00:33:38the beauty

00:33:38of India.

00:33:39That we

00:33:39celebrate our

00:33:40festival.

00:33:40If it is

00:33:41marriage,

00:33:42you will

00:33:42find at

00:33:43least 100

00:33:43relatives

00:33:44and 400

00:33:45relatives or

00:33:46relatives.

00:33:47And it

00:33:48will be a

00:33:48grand function

00:33:49going through

00:33:494, 5,

00:33:506 days.

00:33:52Meri

00:33:53shadi hui.

00:33:53Main

00:33:53aise-aise

00:33:54logo se

00:33:54mila

00:33:54jise jindki

00:33:55mein kabhi

00:33:55nahi

00:33:55mila tha.

00:33:56And they

00:33:56were

00:33:56cross

00:33:57relatives.

00:34:00We are

00:34:02living in

00:34:02a wonderful

00:34:02country.

00:34:04We have

00:34:04chances of

00:34:05growth as

00:34:06well as

00:34:06chances of

00:34:07growth as

00:34:08well as

00:34:09we have

00:34:10challenges to

00:34:10solve.

00:34:12Just suppose

00:34:13the situation

00:34:13is there that

00:34:14you do not

00:34:14have any

00:34:15challenge to

00:34:15solve.

00:34:16What would

00:34:16you do?

00:34:17Let me tell

00:34:17you a very

00:34:18small story and

00:34:18very interesting

00:34:19story.

00:34:20There was a

00:34:21fish eater.

00:34:22There was a

00:34:22non-vegetarian

00:34:23person who

00:34:23used to

00:34:24fish daily.

00:34:25Let's take

00:34:27he is from

00:34:27West Bengal.

00:34:28It is his

00:34:29habit to

00:34:29take fish

00:34:30from fish

00:34:31on the

00:34:31daily basis.

00:34:32And he

00:34:33used to

00:34:33purchase that

00:34:33fish from

00:34:34a particular

00:34:34shop.

00:34:35One particular

00:34:35shop was

00:34:36there from

00:34:37which he

00:34:37used to

00:34:38take that

00:34:39purchase the

00:34:40fish.

00:34:41And it

00:34:42kept on

00:34:42happening for

00:34:435-6-7

00:34:44years.

00:34:45On one

00:34:45particular

00:34:46day he

00:34:46complained that

00:34:48the fish that

00:34:49he purchased

00:34:50yesterday was

00:34:52not of good

00:34:52quality.

00:34:53Now the

00:34:55shopkeeper was

00:34:55surprised because

00:34:57yesterday only

00:34:58he has

00:34:58chased his

00:34:58technology.

00:35:00Till yesterday

00:35:01he used to

00:35:01go in a

00:35:03very small

00:35:04boat in

00:35:05the sea on

00:35:05the daily

00:35:06basis and

00:35:07used to

00:35:07come with

00:35:08the fishes.

00:35:09Just yesterday

00:35:10he has

00:35:11first chased

00:35:11a big

00:35:12ship and

00:35:13he has

00:35:13catched the

00:35:16fish in

00:35:17a bulk and

00:35:18has stored

00:35:19them.

00:35:20So he

00:35:20realized that

00:35:21the problem

00:35:21is with

00:35:22the

00:35:22fish was

00:35:24stale.

00:35:25They were

00:35:26captured one

00:35:27day prior to

00:35:28the sail and

00:35:29they were kept

00:35:30in the cold

00:35:30storage.

00:35:31So he

00:35:31realized the

00:35:32issue.

00:35:32So next

00:35:32day what

00:35:33he did?

00:35:34Now he

00:35:35has invested

00:35:37thousands of

00:35:38rupees.

00:35:39Give me a

00:35:39moment.

00:35:42Now since he

00:35:43has invested

00:35:44thousands of

00:35:44rupees in

00:35:45the new

00:35:45ship,

00:35:47what could

00:35:48be the

00:35:48reason for

00:35:49it?

00:35:49So in

00:35:50India we

00:35:51have

00:35:51babas and

00:35:52panditji to

00:35:53solve our

00:35:54issues.

00:35:55So he

00:35:55went to

00:35:55one of

00:35:56the babas.

00:35:57He told

00:35:57me you

00:35:57do one

00:35:58thing, you

00:35:59have a

00:35:59pond at

00:35:59your home,

00:36:00you catch

00:36:01fish once

00:36:02a week and

00:36:03you put

00:36:03all those

00:36:03fishes in

00:36:04the pond.

00:36:05That's okay.

00:36:06Fine.

00:36:07He did it.

00:36:08The same

00:36:08customer came,

00:36:10he purchased

00:36:10the fish and

00:36:11went back.

00:36:12But on the

00:36:12second day he

00:36:13said that

00:36:14yesterday's

00:36:15fishes were

00:36:15better than

00:36:16the previous

00:36:17one but

00:36:18they were

00:36:18not as

00:36:19good as

00:36:19they used

00:36:20to be.

00:36:21Now the

00:36:22shopkeeper was

00:36:22shocked.

00:36:23What happened

00:36:24now?

00:36:25So what the

00:36:26shopkeeper did,

00:36:27he took the

00:36:27customer to

00:36:28his home and

00:36:29asked him to

00:36:29take the

00:36:30fish of his

00:36:31choice from

00:36:32the pond

00:36:32itself.

00:36:34Same he

00:36:35did.

00:36:35He went

00:36:35back to his

00:36:36home again but

00:36:37he complained

00:36:37the next day

00:36:38it was better

00:36:39but not as

00:36:40better as

00:36:42better as

00:36:43it used to

00:36:44be.

00:36:44Now can

00:36:45you tell

00:36:45me what

00:36:46could be

00:36:46the reason?

00:36:47Now they

00:36:48were as

00:36:48fresh as

00:36:48they used

00:36:49to be?

00:36:51The reason

00:36:52is the

00:36:52challenge in

00:36:53the life.

00:36:54So again he

00:36:54went to the

00:36:55Baba.

00:36:56Baba told

00:36:56him you

00:36:57put a

00:36:57shark, a

00:36:58small shark

00:36:59in your

00:36:59home's

00:36:59pond.

00:37:01Shark

00:37:01means

00:37:02challenges

00:37:02in the

00:37:03life.

00:37:03Challenge

00:37:04will bring

00:37:05liveliness

00:37:05to our

00:37:06life.

00:37:07Isn't it?

00:37:08You go to

00:37:08a movie

00:37:09theater and

00:37:09see a movie

00:37:10wherein there

00:37:10is a hero,

00:37:12there is a

00:37:12heroine,

00:37:12they keep on

00:37:13dancing happily,

00:37:14happily.

00:37:14And movie

00:37:15ends.

00:37:16Is it a

00:37:17good movie?

00:37:18When there

00:37:18is no

00:37:18villain in

00:37:19our life,

00:37:20when there

00:37:20is no

00:37:21challenge,

00:37:21when there

00:37:22is no

00:37:22up and

00:37:22down,

00:37:23so shouldn't

00:37:23I be

00:37:24grateful for

00:37:24these challenges

00:37:25that my

00:37:25country possesses

00:37:26for me?

00:37:27I say that

00:37:28there are

00:37:28corruption,

00:37:29good.

00:37:29It gives

00:37:30me a chance

00:37:31to come

00:37:31out of

00:37:32that corruption,

00:37:32to work

00:37:33something against

00:37:33the corruption.

00:37:34There is a

00:37:35pollution in

00:37:35Delhi.

00:37:36Every winter

00:37:38it becomes

00:37:38pollution chamber,

00:37:39but there is

00:37:40an opportunity

00:37:41to work towards

00:37:42something better.

00:37:43then time,

00:37:46this is the

00:37:46wonderful time,

00:37:47isn't it?

00:37:49If I have

00:37:51been here in

00:37:5290s,

00:37:53say 1910,

00:37:55I would have

00:37:56been part of

00:37:57independent India.

00:37:58if I have

00:38:01to move from

00:38:02Delhi to

00:38:02Mumbai,

00:38:03it would have

00:38:04taken at

00:38:05least 2-3

00:38:05days in

00:38:06Burlakkad,

00:38:07even 2 days

00:38:09in the

00:38:09train.

00:38:10And suppose

00:38:11if I am

00:38:11born in

00:38:112050 or

00:38:13say 2090,

00:38:15technology might

00:38:16change at that

00:38:17time.

00:38:17It took

00:38:182 seconds to

00:38:19reach Bombay

00:38:19from Delhi to

00:38:20Bombay.

00:38:21So I believe

00:38:22we are in the

00:38:23best of the

00:38:23time where we

00:38:24are having an

00:38:25amalgamation of

00:38:26the tradition as

00:38:27well as future

00:38:28technology.

00:38:30So now let's

00:38:32move towards

00:38:33the second

00:38:33column.

00:38:34The things I

00:38:35don't want in

00:38:36my life.

00:38:37So anything to

00:38:38discuss?

00:38:40What you have

00:38:40written in your

00:38:41second column?

00:38:42Anything to

00:38:43say?

00:38:43bad health.

00:38:48You don't want

00:38:49bad health in

00:38:50your life?

00:38:51Yeah.

00:38:51Fine.

00:38:54Kritika ji?

00:38:55I think you

00:38:57are on mute.

00:38:58No.

00:38:59It's just that

00:39:00no, no, I'm

00:39:00not on mute.

00:39:02Can you hear

00:39:03me?

00:39:03Still not

00:39:04audible.

00:39:05So I'll

00:39:06write it in

00:39:06the chat.

00:39:07Now audible.

00:39:08Okay.

00:39:09Yeah.

00:39:09So I've

00:39:10written self

00:39:10sabotage in

00:39:11my second

00:39:12column.

00:39:13Okay.

00:39:14Okay.

00:39:15Mr.

00:39:15David, anything

00:39:16to?

00:39:17I'll put

00:39:18conflict and

00:39:19pain.

00:39:20Conflict and

00:39:21pain in your

00:39:21life.

00:39:22Fine.

00:39:23So again, I

00:39:24did the

00:39:24similar exercise

00:39:25with hundreds

00:39:25of the

00:39:25participants.

00:39:27See what's

00:39:27come.

00:39:28I don't want

00:39:29toxic people

00:39:29in my life.

00:39:32Isn't it?

00:39:33Toxicity is

00:39:34all around us.

00:39:34It is, you

00:39:35know, within,

00:39:36maybe within the

00:39:36family, with the

00:39:37neighbors.

00:39:39At workplace,

00:39:40you will always

00:39:41find toxic

00:39:41people.

00:39:42Isn't it?

00:39:45So,

00:39:46Navarji,

00:39:48sorry, but

00:39:48slides are not

00:39:50visible.

00:39:51We can see

00:39:51again the

00:39:52PowerPoint window.

00:39:55I don't know

00:39:56what is the

00:39:56issue.

00:40:04Is it

00:40:05visible now,

00:40:06sir?

00:40:06No, not

00:40:08yet.

00:40:10Yeah.

00:40:11Now we can

00:40:12see what are

00:40:13things I don't

00:40:13want in life.

00:40:14Yeah.

00:40:14Oh, fine.

00:40:15you can select

00:40:19from the current

00:40:21slide that

00:40:21will

00:40:22do the

00:40:23slideshow.

00:40:28So, we don't

00:40:29like toxic

00:40:30people in our

00:40:30life.

00:40:31Fine.

00:40:32So, I don't

00:40:34know about

00:40:34Mr.

00:40:34David, but

00:40:35rest of you

00:40:36might have,

00:40:37you know,

00:40:37might,

00:40:37you must have

00:40:38read Ramayana

00:40:40or if not

00:40:42read, you

00:40:42might have,

00:40:43you know,

00:40:43know about

00:40:45the Ramayana.

00:40:46So, my

00:40:46simple question

00:40:47is who was

00:40:48the villain

00:40:48in Ramayana?

00:40:50Apart from

00:40:50Ramana?

00:40:51Apart from

00:40:52Ramana?

00:40:52Apart from

00:40:57Ramana?

00:41:00Kumbhakar was

00:41:01there.

00:41:02Sorry?

00:41:03Kumbhakar.

00:41:03Same part

00:41:04you know,

00:41:05Ramayana,

00:41:05Kekai.

00:41:07Kekai.

00:41:08Fine.

00:41:10See, Kekai is,

00:41:11you know,

00:41:11one of the

00:41:12villain of,

00:41:12considered to

00:41:13be the villain

00:41:13of Ramayana.

00:41:15And the,

00:41:15see the effect

00:41:16is nobody

00:41:17after Kekai

00:41:18named their

00:41:18daughter as

00:41:19Kekai.

00:41:20You will find

00:41:21the people

00:41:21named as

00:41:22Ravana in

00:41:23Sri Lanka.

00:41:24You know,

00:41:24Ravana is

00:41:25worshipped in

00:41:25Sri Lanka.

00:41:26You will find

00:41:26a number of

00:41:27people named

00:41:28Ravana,

00:41:29but you will

00:41:29never find

00:41:30people,

00:41:30you know,

00:41:31any lady

00:41:31named as

00:41:32Kekai or

00:41:33Vibhishan.

00:41:34Nobody named

00:41:35their son as

00:41:35Vibhishan and

00:41:36Kekai.

00:41:37Now, there is

00:41:38another version

00:41:39to, you know,

00:41:40reflect upon

00:41:40the same

00:41:41situation.

00:41:43See, the

00:41:43Kekai was the

00:41:44most loving

00:41:45mother of

00:41:45the Ram.

00:41:46It is

00:41:47reflected from

00:41:47Ram's behavior

00:41:48itself.

00:41:49When Ram

00:41:51came back

00:41:51from, you

00:41:52know, from

00:41:53his exile

00:41:54after 14

00:41:54years, he

00:41:56first met

00:41:56Mata Kekai.

00:41:58Now, there

00:41:59is another

00:41:59version to

00:42:00reflect upon

00:42:01this particular

00:42:01incident is

00:42:02that Kekai was

00:42:04so loving

00:42:05mother, so

00:42:05loving mother

00:42:06that

00:42:07she took

00:42:12Kekai

00:42:13of being,

00:42:15you know,

00:42:16I am short

00:42:18of words now,

00:42:18full of

00:42:19emotions.

00:42:20She was so

00:42:22loving mother

00:42:22that she

00:42:23took all

00:42:27the pain

00:42:27herself.

00:42:30See, if

00:42:31Ram would

00:42:31have been

00:42:32within the

00:42:33Ayodhya, he

00:42:34would have

00:42:34been a

00:42:35great king

00:42:35like his

00:42:36father.

00:42:36He would

00:42:37have never

00:42:37been Lord

00:42:38Ram, Bhagawan

00:42:39Ram, he

00:42:40never would

00:42:40have been

00:42:40Bhagawan

00:42:41Ram if

00:42:42Kekai hasn't

00:42:45forced him

00:42:46to go to

00:42:46the exile.

00:42:48So, what I

00:42:49want you to

00:42:49have a, you

00:42:50know, see the

00:42:51other side of

00:42:52the picture.

00:42:53See, as a

00:42:54teacher, you

00:42:54might be very

00:42:55harsh to your

00:42:55students sometime,

00:42:56but you know

00:42:57the reality.

00:42:57You are harsh

00:42:58because you

00:42:59want your

00:42:59students to

00:42:59do particular

00:43:00things so

00:43:01that they

00:43:02could succeed

00:43:02in their

00:43:02life.

00:43:03Similar was

00:43:04the opinion

00:43:04of the

00:43:05Kekai.

00:43:05She becomes

00:43:05so rude, so

00:43:07harsh that

00:43:08she becomes

00:43:09a, you

00:43:09know, wicked

00:43:10figure.

00:43:10She becomes

00:43:10villain for

00:43:11not only for

00:43:12Ram, not

00:43:13only for

00:43:13Ayodhya, for

00:43:14millions of

00:43:15years to

00:43:15come.

00:43:16Even for

00:43:16us, she is

00:43:17villain.

00:43:18But she is

00:43:18so much

00:43:19loving mother

00:43:19for her

00:43:20son that

00:43:22she converted

00:43:23a Yuraj

00:43:24Ram, a

00:43:25King Ram

00:43:25to Lord

00:43:26Ram, Bhagawan

00:43:27Ram.

00:43:28So this

00:43:30is one of

00:43:30the ways

00:43:31to look at

00:43:31the toxic

00:43:32people around

00:43:32us.

00:43:33I should

00:43:33be grateful

00:43:34for the

00:43:34toxic

00:43:35people.

00:43:35Reason

00:43:36number

00:43:36one, because

00:43:37of them, I

00:43:38will grow, I

00:43:39will develop.

00:43:40They are like

00:43:40sharks for

00:43:41me.

00:43:41If I am a

00:43:42fish, they

00:43:42are like

00:43:43shark.

00:43:44They give

00:43:44me life.

00:43:46Secondly, if

00:43:47not, see

00:43:49every people

00:43:49don't want

00:43:50my, you

00:43:50know, well

00:43:50being.

00:43:51There will

00:43:51be certain

00:43:52people who

00:43:53want to

00:43:56take me

00:43:56down.

00:43:57So from

00:43:58those people,

00:43:58I learn

00:43:59what not

00:44:01to do.

00:44:01At least

00:44:02what not

00:44:02do, who

00:44:03will teach

00:44:03me what

00:44:03not to

00:44:04do.

00:44:05So the

00:44:05people, toxic

00:44:06people around

00:44:07me, either

00:44:07they want

00:44:08my well-being

00:44:09through being

00:44:10harsh to

00:44:10me.

00:44:11Secondly,

00:44:12I, or

00:44:13they taught

00:44:14me, they

00:44:14teach me

00:44:15what not

00:44:16to do, how

00:44:17not to

00:44:17behave.

00:44:18See, in my

00:44:19previous assignment,

00:44:19there was an,

00:44:20you know, I

00:44:21will not name

00:44:22her.

00:44:22There was a,

00:44:23you know,

00:44:24administrator.

00:44:25She was

00:44:25very rude and

00:44:26very cunning

00:44:27and, you

00:44:28know, very,

00:44:28you know,

00:44:29unsympathetic,

00:44:31very unempathetic

00:44:32towards her

00:44:32colleagues, very

00:44:34unfriendly.

00:44:35So I learned

00:44:35from her how

00:44:36not to

00:44:36behave.

00:44:38Isn't it?

00:44:40So in my

00:44:41opinion, I

00:44:41should be

00:44:42grateful even

00:44:42for the toxic

00:44:43people.

00:44:44At least they

00:44:45burn themselves

00:44:45to light me,

00:44:47to guide me,

00:44:48what not to

00:44:48do, how

00:44:49not to

00:44:49do.

00:44:50Then toxic

00:44:53environment.

00:44:54I don't want

00:44:55toxic environment

00:44:57in my life.

00:44:58Isn't it?

00:44:58Toxic environment,

00:44:59you know,

00:45:00includes maybe

00:45:01incivility at

00:45:02the workplace,

00:45:04you know,

00:45:04not so safe

00:45:05working environment.

00:45:07Even at the

00:45:07work, even at

00:45:08the home,

00:45:09sometimes

00:45:09environment becomes

00:45:11too much

00:45:11toxics.

00:45:13But whenever

00:45:13you realize that

00:45:14you are around

00:45:15the toxic

00:45:15environment,

00:45:16please recall

00:45:16the story of

00:45:17fish and

00:45:18shark.

00:45:19Sharks are

00:45:20essential in

00:45:20our life

00:45:21because only

00:45:23because of

00:45:23shark we

00:45:24can grow.

00:45:25Else life

00:45:26will be

00:45:26monotonous in

00:45:27nature.

00:45:28So shouldn't

00:45:28I be grateful

00:45:29for the toxic

00:45:30people?

00:45:30First, they

00:45:32are leading me

00:45:32to certain

00:45:33growth and

00:45:33development.

00:45:34Secondly,

00:45:35they are

00:45:35letting me

00:45:36know what

00:45:36not to do

00:45:37at their

00:45:38own cost.

00:45:39This is

00:45:39wonderful.

00:45:40They are

00:45:40burning for

00:45:40me to

00:45:41light me.

00:45:44Then

00:45:44challenging

00:45:44and trouble

00:45:45in the

00:45:45light.

00:45:46See,

00:45:47one thing

00:45:48is very

00:45:48beautiful here.

00:45:49we don't

00:45:49want

00:45:49challenging

00:45:50and trouble

00:45:50in our

00:45:51life,

00:45:51but they

00:45:51will be

00:45:52there.

00:45:53Say,

00:45:53I would

00:45:53say,

00:45:54Banjit has

00:45:55said that

00:45:56he does

00:45:56not want

00:45:57poor

00:45:58physical

00:45:58health.

00:45:59But as

00:46:00life progresses,

00:46:01as one

00:46:01ages,

00:46:02after 40

00:46:03years,

00:46:03after 50

00:46:04years,

00:46:05certain

00:46:06diseases

00:46:07will be

00:46:07there,

00:46:08definitely

00:46:09will be

00:46:09there.

00:46:10So what

00:46:10can I

00:46:10do?

00:46:11I can

00:46:12start

00:46:12certain

00:46:13good

00:46:13physical

00:46:14practices

00:46:14from today

00:46:16itself,

00:46:16good food

00:46:16habits,

00:46:17leave out

00:46:18junk food,

00:46:19no alcohol,

00:46:19no cigarette,

00:46:20nothing else,

00:46:21jogging practices.

00:46:23So either

00:46:23I should do,

00:46:25if I want a

00:46:26good future

00:46:26ahead,

00:46:27I should

00:46:27start doing

00:46:28practices

00:46:28from today

00:46:29or I

00:46:30should be

00:46:30ready for

00:46:31all the

00:46:31troubles.

00:46:32See,

00:46:32rose and

00:46:33thrones,

00:46:34they will

00:46:35come together.

00:46:35You cannot

00:46:36have only

00:46:37heads of

00:46:38a coin.

00:46:38If you

00:46:39want head,

00:46:39you will

00:46:40also have

00:46:40the coin

00:46:41also.

00:46:41So it

00:46:43is not

00:46:43like I

00:46:43only want

00:46:44heads from

00:46:45the coin

00:46:45and you

00:46:46give tail

00:46:47to somebody

00:46:47else.

00:46:48No,

00:46:48if I

00:46:48am enjoying

00:46:49my life,

00:46:51certain issues

00:46:51should be

00:46:52there and

00:46:53they will

00:46:53be there.

00:46:54So if I

00:46:55am grateful

00:46:55for the

00:46:55good things

00:46:56that God

00:46:57has given

00:46:57me,

00:46:58so why

00:46:58I am not

00:46:58grateful for

00:46:59the bad

00:46:59things that

00:47:00the same

00:47:01good has

00:47:01given me?

00:47:03Moving

00:47:03forward,

00:47:04now certain

00:47:05human tendencies,

00:47:07I don't

00:47:07like conflict

00:47:07in my life,

00:47:08I don't

00:47:09like anger

00:47:09in my life,

00:47:10I don't

00:47:10like greed

00:47:11in my

00:47:11life but

00:47:12believe me

00:47:12my dear

00:47:13friends,

00:47:13they will

00:47:14be there

00:47:14because we

00:47:15all are

00:47:15human being.

00:47:16Until and

00:47:17unless I

00:47:17become Buddha,

00:47:18I become

00:47:19Krishna,

00:47:20anger,

00:47:20greed,

00:47:21all these

00:47:21things will

00:47:22be part

00:47:22of my

00:47:22life.

00:47:23I was

00:47:23going

00:47:24through

00:47:24a very

00:47:24Seligman,

00:47:25you might

00:47:25have heard

00:47:26the name

00:47:26of the

00:47:26father of

00:47:29the modern

00:47:29psychologist.

00:47:31He has

00:47:31written a

00:47:31very wonderful

00:47:32book.

00:47:33Again,

00:47:34I think I

00:47:34am a fan

00:47:35of Shakespeare

00:47:35who said

00:47:36what is in

00:47:37the name,

00:47:37that's why

00:47:37I don't

00:47:38remember the

00:47:38names of

00:47:39the books

00:47:39and the

00:47:39people.

00:47:41So in

00:47:41one of

00:47:42the famous

00:47:42books he

00:47:43wrote,

00:47:44he wrote

00:47:45a very

00:47:45appealing

00:47:48two lines.

00:47:51Luxury to

00:47:51be human

00:47:52being.

00:47:53I was

00:47:54fascinated

00:47:54when I

00:47:55read this

00:47:56line,

00:47:56luxury to

00:47:57be human.

00:47:57I just

00:47:58want to

00:47:59explore what

00:48:00it meant.

00:48:01He said,

00:48:01if I

00:48:02want to

00:48:02cry,

00:48:04I should

00:48:04cry.

00:48:05If I

00:48:05am angry

00:48:06from my

00:48:06heart,

00:48:07from inside,

00:48:07why should

00:48:08not I

00:48:08express my

00:48:09anger to

00:48:11others?

00:48:12If I

00:48:13am greedy,

00:48:14why shouldn't

00:48:14I show

00:48:14that I am

00:48:15greedy?

00:48:16Luxury to

00:48:17be human.

00:48:17Why I

00:48:19have to

00:48:20masquerade

00:48:20myself?

00:48:21Why I

00:48:22have to

00:48:22put a

00:48:22face above

00:48:25my real

00:48:26face to

00:48:26this world?

00:48:27I don't

00:48:27have luxury

00:48:28to be

00:48:28here.

00:48:31Karl Marx

00:48:32has given

00:48:33a very

00:48:33good example

00:48:34that he

00:48:34said when

00:48:35the receptionist

00:48:36goes to

00:48:37her office,

00:48:38even if

00:48:39her mother

00:48:40is dying,

00:48:41she has

00:48:41to smile

00:48:42in front

00:48:43of the

00:48:43customer.

00:48:45He used

00:48:46the word

00:48:46alienation

00:48:47from the

00:48:47self.

00:48:48I think

00:48:49in the

00:48:49very same

00:48:50sense,

00:48:51Mr.

00:48:51Seligman

00:48:51has used

00:48:52this luxury

00:48:53to be

00:48:53human being.

00:48:55So if

00:48:55you are

00:48:55angry,

00:48:56if you

00:48:56have a

00:48:57anger issue,

00:48:57not an

00:48:57issue.

00:48:58If I am

00:48:59greedy,

00:48:59if I am

00:48:59jealous,

00:49:00if I am

00:49:00human being,

00:49:00I will

00:49:01be jealous

00:49:01to my

00:49:01friends.

00:49:02It is

00:49:02quite

00:49:03common.

00:49:03It is

00:49:04quite

00:49:04okay.

00:49:06Until

00:49:06or unless

00:49:06I become

00:49:08Buddha or

00:49:09Shiva or

00:49:10Krishna or

00:49:11Jesus,

00:49:12it will

00:49:12be there.

00:49:13It will

00:49:13be there.

00:49:14Definitely

00:49:14it will

00:49:14be there.

00:49:15Now what

00:49:16should I

00:49:16do?

00:49:17Should I

00:49:17live with

00:49:18this

00:49:18anger?

00:49:19Slowly

00:49:19and steadily

00:49:20when we

00:49:21started to

00:49:21realize,

00:49:22when we

00:49:23start to

00:49:23become aware

00:49:24about these

00:49:25habits,

00:49:25slowly and

00:49:26steadily,

00:49:26they start

00:49:27to get

00:49:27away.

00:49:28So these

00:49:31human tendencies

00:49:31should be

00:49:32there.

00:49:32And if I am

00:49:33grateful for

00:49:33these human

00:49:34tendencies,

00:49:35anger,

00:49:36greed,

00:49:36slowly and

00:49:37steadily,

00:49:38they will

00:49:38start leaving

00:49:40you.

00:49:42Then poor

00:49:43physical,

00:49:43mental health,

00:49:44I have

00:49:44discussed.

00:49:45Nobody wants

00:49:46poor mental

00:49:46and physical

00:49:47health.

00:49:48So if you

00:49:48don't want

00:49:49them,

00:49:50start doing

00:49:51meditation,

00:49:52start doing

00:49:52good physical

00:49:53exercise from

00:49:53today onwards.

00:49:55And if no,

00:49:56not an issue,

00:49:57be ready for

00:49:58these things,

00:49:59accept them

00:49:59as you have

00:50:00accepted the

00:50:01good mental

00:50:02and physical

00:50:03health,

00:50:03accept bad

00:50:04also.

00:50:06Then

00:50:07overthinking

00:50:08and procrastination

00:50:09issue,

00:50:10these issues

00:50:11are more

00:50:12prominent with

00:50:12and G,

00:50:13every student,

00:50:14if you ask

00:50:15students what

00:50:16are the

00:50:16challenges

00:50:16they are

00:50:16facing,

00:50:1890 students

00:50:19out of the

00:50:19100 will

00:50:19come with,

00:50:20we are

00:50:21suffering from

00:50:21overthinking

00:50:22and procrastination.

00:50:23Again,

00:50:23I am repeating,

00:50:24luxury to be

00:50:25human being.

00:50:26If I am a

00:50:26human being,

00:50:27my mind

00:50:27will work.

00:50:28At least,

00:50:29even,

00:50:31it is again,

00:50:34a human tendency

00:50:35to procrastinate

00:50:36the thing or

00:50:37to overthink

00:50:38about.

00:50:38So if you

00:50:39are a good

00:50:39sadhak,

00:50:40if you are

00:50:40doing your

00:50:40meditation and

00:50:41pranayam

00:50:41regularly,

00:50:42slowly and

00:50:43steadily,

00:50:44this

00:50:45meaning of

00:50:46overthinking

00:50:46and procrastination

00:50:48may go away.

00:50:49But if it

00:50:49is there,

00:50:50it is okay

00:50:51because we

00:50:51all are in

00:50:52the stage of,

00:50:53we are all

00:50:53over a sadhak.

00:50:54The word

00:50:54used is being

00:50:55sadhak.

00:50:55We have not

00:50:55reached the

00:50:56pinnacle of

00:50:58the human life.

00:50:58We are the

00:50:59sadhak.

00:51:00Until,

00:51:00again I am

00:51:01repeating,

00:51:01until you

00:51:02become Buddha,

00:51:02overthinking and

00:51:03procrastination

00:51:04will be there.

00:51:05So accept

00:51:06them as you

00:51:07have accepted

00:51:08the good in

00:51:09you.

00:51:09That you are

00:51:10hardworking,

00:51:10you have

00:51:10accepted it,

00:51:11you are

00:51:12charming,

00:51:12you have

00:51:12accepted it.

00:51:13Similarly,

00:51:14I am

00:51:14person with

00:51:15issue of

00:51:16procrastination,

00:51:17that is okay.

00:51:18Now I am

00:51:18aware of it,

00:51:19I will try to

00:51:20get rid of it.

00:51:22How?

00:51:23It depends

00:51:23on our

00:51:24path,

00:51:25which path

00:51:26we want to

00:51:26follow.

00:51:28Since we are

00:51:28short of time

00:51:29and I

00:51:30have to

00:51:31have to

00:51:31take care of it.

00:51:32So this is the

00:51:32holistic

00:51:32conceptualization

00:51:33of

00:51:33Tritaggita that

00:51:34I tried to

00:51:35develop after

00:51:37extensively

00:51:38studying both

00:51:39Indian as

00:51:40well as

00:51:40modern literature.

00:51:43I will not

00:51:43call it

00:51:44Western,

00:51:44modern literature

00:51:45based on

00:51:46rationality.

00:51:46So if I

00:51:48look at the

00:51:50modern literature,

00:51:51it basically

00:51:52comes from,

00:51:53it says that

00:51:53the receiver or

00:51:55beneficiary should

00:51:56be grateful to

00:51:57the giver because

00:51:58they have given

00:51:59them something

00:52:00invaluable.

00:52:01But the beauty I

00:52:02find in Indian

00:52:03literature is it

00:52:04says the giver

00:52:04should be more

00:52:06grateful to the

00:52:06beneficiary.

00:52:07it is the

00:52:10benefactor who

00:52:11should be more

00:52:12grateful or

00:52:12thankful to the

00:52:13beneficiary.

00:52:15Now the

00:52:15question arises

00:52:16why?

00:52:17I am giving

00:52:18something to the

00:52:18beggar.

00:52:20Why I should

00:52:20be grateful to

00:52:21the beggar?

00:52:25My mother

00:52:26bought a

00:52:26photo at my

00:52:28home.

00:52:29It is the

00:52:29picture,

00:52:30it is the

00:52:31picturization of

00:52:32Lord Krishna

00:52:33with Sudhamma.

00:52:35So you

00:52:36might have,

00:52:36you know,

00:52:37see in that

00:52:38picture,

00:52:39in that

00:52:39picture,

00:52:40Sudhamma,

00:52:40the beggar,

00:52:42was sitting

00:52:43on the

00:52:44Raj Singh

00:52:44Haasan and

00:52:45the Krishna,

00:52:46the Lord

00:52:47was, you

00:52:48know,

00:52:48I don't have

00:52:50English word

00:52:51for it,

00:52:51so I was

00:52:54astonished by

00:52:55this picture

00:52:55and one

00:52:58particular beggar

00:52:59is sitting on

00:53:00the Raj Singh

00:53:01Haasan.

00:53:02So now,

00:53:03then when I

00:53:04started to,

00:53:04you know,

00:53:05explore Krita

00:53:05Gita or

00:53:06Gratitude,

00:53:06then I

00:53:06realized that

00:53:07it is the

00:53:07true picture.

00:53:09God is

00:53:09incomplete

00:53:10without the

00:53:10Bhakt.

00:53:12Similarly,

00:53:13I should be

00:53:14grateful for

00:53:14an opportunity

00:53:16given to me

00:53:17to serve the

00:53:17other.

00:53:18You know,

00:53:19God has

00:53:19millions of

00:53:20ways to

00:53:21serve the

00:53:21people.

00:53:22Millions of

00:53:22ways to

00:53:23serve the

00:53:23people.

00:53:24If he

00:53:25has selected

00:53:25me to

00:53:26serve few

00:53:27people,

00:53:28I should

00:53:28be grateful

00:53:29for it.

00:53:30That's why

00:53:30it is the

00:53:32giver or

00:53:32the benefactor

00:53:33who should

00:53:33be more

00:53:34grateful for

00:53:35the receiver

00:53:35or the

00:53:35beneficiary.

00:53:37I have a

00:53:38mentor that

00:53:38Devajit or

00:53:40Jinkini

00:53:40Kaagi Guru.

00:53:42You know,

00:53:42I'm more

00:53:43grateful.

00:53:43I have a

00:53:44number of

00:53:44gurus in

00:53:44my life.

00:53:45One of my

00:53:46gurus said

00:53:46once,

00:53:47it is up

00:53:53to you

00:53:53whether you

00:53:53want to

00:53:54be Ram

00:53:54or Shyam

00:53:54or not.

00:53:55It is not

00:53:56like if you

00:53:56are not

00:53:57helping somebody,

00:53:58nobody is

00:53:58going to

00:53:59help him.

00:53:59Definitely

00:54:00help will

00:54:00come in

00:54:01one way

00:54:02or the

00:54:02other.

00:54:04An

00:54:04option has

00:54:05been,

00:54:05an opportunity

00:54:05has been

00:54:06given to

00:54:06you to

00:54:07help him

00:54:08or her.

00:54:08If you

00:54:09avail that

00:54:09opportunity,

00:54:10you should

00:54:10be grateful.

00:54:11If not,

00:54:12it is your

00:54:12bad luck.

00:54:14So I

00:54:14find that

00:54:15this is the

00:54:16literature gap

00:54:17in the

00:54:17modern

00:54:17studies

00:54:18that hardly

00:54:20I think

00:54:2215 days

00:54:23ago I

00:54:23got an

00:54:24invitation to

00:54:25review a

00:54:25paper in

00:54:26which they

00:54:26were talking

00:54:26about

00:54:27manager's

00:54:28gratitude.

00:54:28I am yet

00:54:28to go

00:54:29through the

00:54:29paper whether

00:54:30it is in

00:54:31the same

00:54:31sense or

00:54:32not.

00:54:33So I

00:54:33am exploring,

00:54:34one of my

00:54:34scholars is

00:54:35exploring how

00:54:36to go about

00:54:36it, how

00:54:37to construct

00:54:38a scale

00:54:39on giver's

00:54:40gratefulness,

00:54:41what could

00:54:41be the

00:54:42various

00:54:42constituents

00:54:43of it and

00:54:44of course,

00:54:45what are the

00:54:46various

00:54:46enablers,

00:54:46what should

00:54:49be the

00:54:49various

00:54:49constituents

00:54:50of benefactors

00:54:52gratitude.

00:54:54Then modern

00:54:55literature talks

00:54:56about whenever

00:54:57you get

00:54:58certain valuable

00:54:59things you

00:54:59should be

00:55:00grateful to

00:55:00the giver.

00:55:02But I

00:55:02just discussed

00:55:03with you,

00:55:05if I am

00:55:06getting bad

00:55:06things from

00:55:07the giver,

00:55:09shouldn't I

00:55:10be grateful

00:55:10for those

00:55:10bad things

00:55:11also?

00:55:12Now modern

00:55:13literature has

00:55:14come up with

00:55:15existential

00:55:16gratitude.

00:55:17Existential

00:55:18gratitude

00:55:18means you

00:55:19are grateful

00:55:20in your

00:55:21challenging

00:55:21time also.

00:55:22It has

00:55:22come.

00:55:23It is in

00:55:23the modern

00:55:24literature

00:55:24wherein they

00:55:25are talking

00:55:26about that

00:55:26you should

00:55:26be grateful

00:55:27in your

00:55:27challenging

00:55:28time also.

00:55:29Whether I

00:55:30should be

00:55:30grateful for

00:55:31the toxic

00:55:31people around

00:55:32me, it is

00:55:33yet to be

00:55:33researched.

00:55:35And what

00:55:35about the

00:55:35unintended

00:55:36part?

00:55:37you have

00:55:38done some

00:55:39I got

00:55:40home education

00:55:41loan from

00:55:42Punjab

00:55:42National Bank

00:55:43to pursue

00:55:44my MBA

00:55:46degree.

00:55:46So shouldn't

00:55:47I be grateful

00:55:47for the

00:55:48Punjab

00:55:49National Bank?

00:55:50Although

00:55:51Punjab

00:55:51National Bank

00:55:52took, it

00:55:53was his

00:55:54business, it

00:55:55was its

00:55:55business.

00:55:57So shouldn't

00:55:57I be grateful

00:55:58for the

00:55:58people who

00:56:00in spite of

00:56:01taking profit

00:56:03out of me

00:56:03has helped

00:56:04me, just

00:56:06consider a

00:56:07situation.

00:56:08If Punjab

00:56:08National Bank

00:56:09helped me

00:56:10probably I

00:56:12would not

00:56:12have been

00:56:12able to

00:56:13complete my

00:56:13PG degree

00:56:14and would

00:56:14not have

00:56:14reached where

00:56:15I am today.

00:56:16So although

00:56:17it was their

00:56:18business, but

00:56:19it has certainly

00:56:20helped in my

00:56:20life.

00:56:21So I am

00:56:21grateful for

00:56:22PNB and

00:56:22the people,

00:56:23the manager

00:56:23there who

00:56:24has helped

00:56:25me out in

00:56:25that particular

00:56:26situation.

00:56:27So isn't

00:56:27like, I

00:56:28give you a

00:56:28very good

00:56:29example.

00:56:31Say you

00:56:32you board

00:56:34a taxi, you

00:56:36gave taxi, the

00:56:37taxi driver

00:56:391000 rupees

00:56:39after you

00:56:40de-boarded

00:56:41it.

00:56:42So should

00:56:43you be

00:56:43grateful for

00:56:44the taxi

00:56:44driver because

00:56:45you have

00:56:45paid him?

00:56:50Should be

00:56:51grateful for

00:56:51such people

00:56:52because we

00:56:52have, see

00:56:53definitely some

00:56:54maid or

00:56:55servant would

00:56:55be coming to

00:56:56your home

00:56:56morning and

00:56:57evening and

00:56:58doing certain

00:56:58household course

00:56:59for you and

00:57:00you are paying

00:57:01them.

00:57:02So shouldn't

00:57:02you be

00:57:03grateful for

00:57:03those maids

00:57:04and servants

00:57:05although you

00:57:06are paying

00:57:07them?

00:57:08Should be

00:57:09grateful for

00:57:10those people.

00:57:11So I will

00:57:11be discussing

00:57:12in the next

00:57:13two slides

00:57:14why we

00:57:15fail to

00:57:15remain

00:57:16grateful.

00:57:17So one

00:57:17of the

00:57:17reasons we

00:57:18remain to

00:57:18fail grateful

00:57:19is monetization.

00:57:20We have

00:57:21monetized

00:57:21everything.

00:57:22If I am

00:57:22paying somebody

00:57:23I think I

00:57:24should not

00:57:24be grateful

00:57:25because I

00:57:26have paid

00:57:26them.

00:57:28Then again

00:57:29modern literature

00:57:30I am telling

00:57:32about the

00:57:32research gaps

00:57:33if I am

00:57:35talking about

00:57:36charity

00:57:36when to do

00:57:39charity

00:57:39how to do

00:57:41charity

00:57:41why to do

00:57:42how much

00:57:43and to

00:57:43whom

00:57:44these five

00:57:45questions are

00:57:46yet to be

00:57:46answered in

00:57:47the modern

00:57:47literature.

00:57:47We have

00:57:48answered in

00:57:49the Indian

00:57:49text about

00:57:50say how

00:57:51much

00:57:52suppose you

00:57:53are earning

00:57:53hundred rupees

00:57:54how much is

00:57:54to be donated

00:57:55any answer

00:57:56definitely if

00:57:59I am

00:57:59grhasht I

00:57:59cannot denote

00:58:00hundred out

00:58:01of hundred

00:58:01if I am

00:58:02sanyasi I

00:58:02can do

00:58:03but if I

00:58:04have a

00:58:04family how

00:58:05much I

00:58:06should be

00:58:06donating

00:58:07any rough

00:58:09idea

00:58:09okay

00:58:14Shastra

00:58:15says 7

00:58:15to 10

00:58:16percent

00:58:16somewhere in

00:58:17the Shastra

00:58:18it is written

00:58:19as 7

00:58:19percent of

00:58:20your monthly

00:58:20salary

00:58:20somewhere it

00:58:21is written

00:58:2210 percent

00:58:22I don't know

00:58:23whether there

00:58:24is there is

00:58:25some scientific

00:58:25reason behind

00:58:26it but

00:58:277 to 10

00:58:28percent seems

00:58:29good enough

00:58:29for the fast

00:58:30five to seven

00:58:31year I am

00:58:32you know

00:58:33I am doing

00:58:34it and it

00:58:34you know

00:58:35my expenses

00:58:37are managed

00:58:37are still

00:58:39manageable

00:58:39then it

00:58:41says

00:58:42to whom

00:58:43to whom

00:58:46should we

00:58:46do charity

00:58:47so there

00:58:48is a term

00:58:48there is a

00:58:51term written

00:58:51as

00:58:52Supatra

00:58:53you might

00:58:53have heard

00:58:54about this

00:58:54term that

00:58:55you should

00:58:55donate only

00:58:56to the

00:58:56Supatra

00:58:57Supatra is

00:58:57one who

00:58:58is

00:58:58who is

00:59:01capable

00:59:02enough

00:59:02so my

00:59:03father is

00:59:04you know

00:59:05very

00:59:06orthodox

00:59:07and traditional

00:59:08whenever I

00:59:09try to say

00:59:10even if I

00:59:11want to give

00:59:11100 rupees

00:59:12or say

00:59:1310

00:59:13very 10

00:59:13rupees

00:59:14suppose we

00:59:15are moving

00:59:16in a train

00:59:16and some

00:59:17beggar came

00:59:18and I

00:59:19offer them

00:59:1910 rupees

00:59:20my father

00:59:21will shout

00:59:21at me

00:59:22saying

00:59:23no you

00:59:24should give

00:59:24it to the

00:59:24Supatra

00:59:25might be

00:59:26that this

00:59:27particular

00:59:27person will

00:59:27drink alcohol

00:59:28using your

00:59:2910 rupees

00:59:30it is his

00:59:31you know

00:59:31genuine

00:59:32concern

00:59:32and then he

00:59:34gave me

00:59:35this you

00:59:35know Sanskrit

00:59:36quotation of

00:59:37that you

00:59:37should donate

00:59:38only to the

00:59:38Supatra

00:59:39person

00:59:39I was

00:59:40speechless

00:59:40yes he's

00:59:41right he's

00:59:41telling me

00:59:42right thing

00:59:42but then I

00:59:44started to

00:59:45explore the

00:59:45Indian literature

00:59:46because in

00:59:48this modern

00:59:48life it is

00:59:49so busy I

00:59:50cannot you

00:59:51know search

00:59:51for the

00:59:51Supatra

00:59:52people

00:59:52suppose I

00:59:53want to

00:59:53donate 100

00:59:54rupees so

00:59:54should I

00:59:55search for

00:59:55particular person

00:59:56who needs

00:59:57it I do

00:59:59not have

00:59:59such time to

01:00:00search for

01:00:01the people

01:00:01so Supatra

01:00:03this concept

01:00:04of Supatra

01:00:04is basically

01:00:05for the

01:00:05Guru

01:00:06Shisya

01:00:07Parampara

01:00:07see the

01:00:08ancient knowledge

01:00:11this pure

01:00:11knowledge should

01:00:12not be given

01:00:13to people

01:00:14who are not

01:00:15ready for it

01:00:16so the

01:00:17concept of

01:00:18Supatra

01:00:19is specifically

01:00:20limited to

01:00:21knowledge

01:00:21the transmission

01:00:22of knowledge

01:00:23that's we have

01:00:24see you want

01:00:24to hire people

01:00:25for IM

01:00:25you will have

01:00:26a CAT

01:00:27examination

01:00:27you want

01:00:28to hire

01:00:28people for

01:00:29civil services

01:00:29you will

01:00:30IS exam

01:00:30you cannot

01:00:31have incapable

01:00:32people over

01:00:33there

01:00:33but definitely

01:00:35incapable

01:00:36people can

01:00:37be helped

01:00:37through money

01:00:38so to whom

01:00:40is whoever

01:00:41is required

01:00:42so there is

01:00:43you know

01:00:43I will share

01:00:44the references

01:00:45there are

01:00:45particular Indian

01:00:46texts who

01:00:47tell us

01:00:48to whom

01:00:49should we

01:00:50help

01:00:50how much

01:00:51is done

01:00:52and which

01:00:53type of

01:00:53charities

01:00:54you know

01:00:54should be

01:00:55done

01:00:55you will be

01:00:56surprised to

01:00:57know

01:00:57the charity

01:00:58done through

01:00:59money is the

01:01:00lowest type

01:01:01of the charity

01:01:02charity

01:01:04done

01:01:04let me

01:01:04repeat it

01:01:05charity

01:01:06done through

01:01:06the money

01:01:07is the

01:01:08lowest type

01:01:08of the charity

01:01:09highest type

01:01:10of charity

01:01:11is

01:01:11any guesses

01:01:12knowledge

01:01:15yes knowledge

01:01:16when you give

01:01:17knowledge to

01:01:17the other

01:01:18this is the

01:01:18highest type

01:01:19of the charity

01:01:20of the donation

01:01:20you do

01:01:21then there are

01:01:22other type

01:01:22of charity

01:01:23you do

01:01:24you know

01:01:24cow donation

01:01:25it is very

01:01:25famous in India

01:01:26you know

01:01:27you give

01:01:27cow in donation

01:01:28then we have

01:01:30Shramdan

01:01:31you give

01:01:31your efforts

01:01:32you give

01:01:33your physical

01:01:34efforts

01:01:34and mental

01:01:35efforts

01:01:35for the

01:01:36welfare

01:01:36of others

01:01:37then you

01:01:38can have

01:01:39charity

01:01:39in the form

01:01:40of you know

01:01:40your time

01:01:41charity

01:01:42you are

01:01:42spending

01:01:43time

01:01:43even you are

01:01:44spending time

01:01:44with your

01:01:45child

01:01:45your children

01:01:46your kids

01:01:47your family

01:01:47your relatives

01:01:48your friends

01:01:49it is also

01:01:50a charity

01:01:50and it is

01:01:51considered to be

01:01:52superior than

01:01:52the charity

01:01:53than through

01:01:53the money

01:01:54fine

01:01:56once I was

01:01:57sitting with

01:01:57a you know

01:01:58just telling

01:02:00you a story

01:02:01a person

01:02:02came to

01:02:03a saint

01:02:03and he

01:02:04he was

01:02:06having a

01:02:06bag full

01:02:07of money

01:02:07he offered

01:02:08that money

01:02:09to that

01:02:09particular

01:02:09saint

01:02:10and said

01:02:10you know

01:02:11please mind

01:02:11these lines

01:02:12I am so

01:02:13so so poor

01:02:14that I have

01:02:15only this

01:02:16money to

01:02:17offer you

01:02:17I don't

01:02:18have devotion

01:02:19to offer

01:02:19you

01:02:20I don't

01:02:21have faith

01:02:22to offer

01:02:23you

01:02:23I don't

01:02:24have time

01:02:25to offer

01:02:26you

01:02:26I am so

01:02:27poor

01:02:27that I

01:02:28have only

01:02:29this money

01:02:30to offer

01:02:30so this

01:02:31is the

01:02:32you know

01:02:32essence of

01:02:33Gritak Gita

01:02:34or gratitude

01:02:34in India

01:02:35moving forward

01:02:38so I have

01:02:38you know

01:02:39jolted down

01:02:39certain references

01:02:40of gratitude

01:02:41from Indian

01:02:42knowledge system

01:02:43so you will

01:02:43find everywhere

01:02:44in every text

01:02:45every epic

01:02:46you will find

01:02:47you know

01:02:47references to

01:02:48Gritak Gita

01:02:48like in

01:02:49Bhavishya Purana

01:02:50Lord Ram

01:02:51said

01:02:51truly it is said

01:02:52that what is

01:02:54not given

01:02:54by us

01:02:55will not be

01:02:56enjoyed us

01:02:56in the future

01:02:57very clearly

01:02:58Lord Rama

01:02:59Bhagavan Rama

01:03:00has said

01:03:01whatever

01:03:01even in

01:03:02although I

01:03:04haven't gone

01:03:04through the

01:03:04Bible

01:03:05I heard

01:03:05that Jesus

01:03:06once said

01:03:07those who

01:03:08have

01:03:09will be

01:03:10given more

01:03:11and those

01:03:12who don't

01:03:12have

01:03:13whatever they

01:03:14have

01:03:14will be

01:03:15taken

01:03:15from them

01:03:17the essence

01:03:18is

01:03:18Gritak Gita

01:03:19gratitude

01:03:19if I am

01:03:20grateful for

01:03:20whatever I

01:03:21have

01:03:21definitely

01:03:22I will

01:03:23enjoy and

01:03:25cherish

01:03:25the beauty

01:03:27of the

01:03:27life

01:03:27and if

01:03:28I don't

01:03:28have

01:03:29gratitude

01:03:29or the

01:03:30Krittak Gita

01:03:30with me

01:03:30whatever I

01:03:31have I

01:03:32will keep

01:03:32on gripping

01:03:33I don't

01:03:33have this

01:03:34I don't

01:03:34have this

01:03:35my entire

01:03:36perception

01:03:37my entire

01:03:38thinking will

01:03:39be towards

01:03:40what I

01:03:40don't have

01:03:41again in

01:03:42different

01:03:43different types

01:03:43of Purana

01:03:44one says

01:03:44that three

01:03:46essential human

01:03:47virtues one

01:03:48should be

01:03:48charity and

01:03:49compassion

01:03:49then whatever

01:03:52see as a

01:03:53student of

01:03:53gratitude or

01:03:54Krittak Gita

01:03:55now whatever

01:03:55Indian concept

01:03:57I study I

01:03:58find gratitude

01:03:58as the very

01:03:59basic foundation

01:04:00stone like we

01:04:01have three types

01:04:02of yoga in

01:04:03Bhagavad Gita

01:04:03Bhakti Yoga

01:04:04Karma Yoga

01:04:05and Gyan Yoga

01:04:05can you

01:04:06imagine the

01:04:08path of

01:04:08devotion without

01:04:09being grateful

01:04:10to the God

01:04:10can you

01:04:13you know

01:04:13conceive a

01:04:15situation

01:04:16where you

01:04:18are a

01:04:18karma yogi

01:04:19and you

01:04:20are not

01:04:20grateful

01:04:21just tell

01:04:22you a very

01:04:22small story

01:04:23of Swami

01:04:24Vivekananda's

01:04:24life he

01:04:25was going

01:04:26somewhere and

01:04:27his temple

01:04:28was being

01:04:28you know

01:04:29constructed over

01:04:29there so he

01:04:30asked one of

01:04:31the laborers

01:04:31what are you

01:04:32doing he

01:04:32said I'm

01:04:35so poor

01:04:36don't you

01:04:38see I'm

01:04:39just you

01:04:39know

01:04:40toying with

01:04:42the stones

01:04:42then he

01:04:48went to

01:04:49the second

01:04:50laborer

01:04:50he asked

01:04:51you what

01:04:51are you

01:04:51doing he

01:04:52said I'm

01:04:52earning my

01:04:53bread and

01:04:53butter from

01:04:54this then

01:04:55he went to

01:04:55the third

01:04:56labor he

01:04:57asked him

01:04:57what are you

01:04:58doing he

01:04:58said I'm

01:04:59so grateful

01:05:00that I have

01:05:00been given

01:05:01each work

01:05:02to you

01:05:03know put

01:05:04certain efforts

01:05:05in the

01:05:05construction of

01:05:06a temple

01:05:07I'm so

01:05:07grateful in

01:05:08my life so

01:05:09the third

01:05:09person was a

01:05:10karma yogi

01:05:10he was not

01:05:11you know

01:05:12he was not

01:05:13concerned about

01:05:14his performance

01:05:15but he was

01:05:16grateful for

01:05:16whatever he

01:05:17was doing

01:05:19so for me

01:05:20even for to

01:05:22be a karma

01:05:22yogi one

01:05:24need to be

01:05:24grateful for

01:05:25whatever he

01:05:26or she is

01:05:26doing again

01:05:28in jnana

01:05:28yoga again I

01:05:29perceive the

01:05:30jnana yoga

01:05:30is not you

01:05:32know feasible

01:05:33without being

01:05:34grateful for

01:05:34whatever we

01:05:35have then we

01:05:36have four

01:05:36purshattha

01:05:37dharma

01:05:38artha

01:05:38kam

01:05:38moksha

01:05:39so being a

01:05:41student solved

01:05:41my one of

01:05:42the greatest

01:05:42puzzle it

01:05:43is being said

01:05:44the earth

01:05:45means money

01:05:45if in very

01:05:47you know layman

01:05:48language earth

01:05:48means money

01:05:49money will bring

01:05:49each and

01:05:50everything so

01:05:51how much money

01:05:51should I earn

01:05:52two lakhs

01:05:53three lakhs

01:05:54per month

01:05:54four lakhs

01:05:55per month

01:05:55you know I

01:05:57need to put a

01:05:57break

01:05:58so I was

01:06:01confused with

01:06:02this question

01:06:02so slowly and

01:06:04steadily when I

01:06:05started to read

01:06:06gratitude I

01:06:07realized that it

01:06:07is not about the

01:06:08amount it is

01:06:09about the

01:06:09gratefulness if

01:06:11I am grateful

01:06:12if I am

01:06:12contented if I

01:06:13am satisfied

01:06:14with even a

01:06:15ten thousand it

01:06:15is okay and

01:06:17if I am grateful

01:06:18for two for two

01:06:19lakhs five

01:06:20lakhs it

01:06:21doesn't mean it

01:06:21is not against

01:06:22materialism it

01:06:23doesn't say you

01:06:24go to jungle

01:06:24you you you go

01:06:26to forest and

01:06:27leave everything

01:06:28at you know

01:06:28nothing that's

01:06:30why we have four

01:06:30ashrams in

01:06:31India we have

01:06:32you know

01:06:33grasth ashram is

01:06:34also very

01:06:34impeccable part

01:06:35of human life

01:06:36it says

01:06:37materialism is

01:06:38part of life

01:06:38that's why you

01:06:39know there was

01:06:39a question in

01:06:40my mind why

01:06:41these old

01:06:41Indian saints

01:06:42why all

01:06:43Hindu lords

01:06:45were kings

01:06:46even Buddha

01:06:49was a king

01:06:50son of king

01:06:51all the

01:06:5224 Tirthankars

01:06:54of Jains

01:06:55were from the

01:06:56king family

01:06:56so it

01:06:58symbolizes

01:06:59something that

01:07:00in India we

01:07:01are not against

01:07:02the materialism

01:07:03it is like

01:07:04whatever I

01:07:05have I should

01:07:06be grateful

01:07:07for it it

01:07:07is not about

01:07:08that I should

01:07:09put a break

01:07:09after getting

01:07:10a good job

01:07:11for two lakh

01:07:11four lakh

01:07:12six lakh

01:07:12ten lakh

01:07:13you know one

01:07:14big house

01:07:14two big house

01:07:15nobody stops

01:07:16you from

01:07:17having ten

01:07:18big house

01:07:19it is ultimately

01:07:20it is gratefulness

01:07:21if I am grateful

01:07:22for whatever I

01:07:23have I need

01:07:23not to put

01:07:24any break

01:07:24if I am not

01:07:25grateful whatever

01:07:27amount is being

01:07:27given to me it

01:07:28is useless for

01:07:29me

01:07:29again moksha

01:07:32is moksha

01:07:32is liberation

01:07:33is you know

01:07:34impossible without

01:07:35being grateful

01:07:36for what we

01:07:36have

01:07:36then we have

01:07:39a very you

01:07:39know what to

01:07:42say revolutionary

01:07:43concept of

01:07:44renas or

01:07:44pious obligation

01:07:46in India

01:07:47it is being

01:07:48suggest that

01:07:49every Indian

01:07:50should within

01:07:54his or her

01:07:55lifetime is you

01:07:58know is

01:08:00obligated by

01:08:01few people

01:08:01like first

01:08:02renas from

01:08:03the parents

01:08:04that as a

01:08:06son or as

01:08:07a daughter I

01:08:08need to do

01:08:08something for

01:08:09my parents

01:08:10so although

01:08:12in literature

01:08:13it uses the

01:08:14word ren

01:08:15or obligation

01:08:16but in the

01:08:17true sense

01:08:18it depicts

01:08:19that I should

01:08:20be grateful

01:08:21to my parents

01:08:22like Rishi

01:08:24Rishi is

01:08:24gurus

01:08:25it is not

01:08:26only guru

01:08:27guru plus

01:08:28the knowledge

01:08:28whatever the

01:08:29knowledge whether

01:08:29it is ancient

01:08:30knowledge or the

01:08:31modern knowledge

01:08:32knowledge so

01:08:33I should be

01:08:34grateful to the

01:08:34Newton for the

01:08:35Newton's law

01:08:35isn't it so

01:08:37all the Rishi

01:08:37is for the

01:08:41Dev

01:08:41Dev is simply

01:08:42God and the

01:08:44godly like

01:08:44people around

01:08:45us

01:08:45Manusha is

01:08:47fellow human

01:08:47being shouldn't

01:08:49I be grateful

01:08:50for the fellow

01:08:50human being

01:08:51I cannot you

01:08:51know have my

01:08:53food without the

01:08:54help of my

01:08:54fellow human

01:08:55being I

01:08:56cannot have

01:08:56cloth at my

01:08:57own I

01:08:58cannot have

01:08:59you know

01:08:59everything at

01:09:00my own so

01:09:02I should be

01:09:02grateful for

01:09:03all those

01:09:03people so

01:09:04in Indian

01:09:05tradition it

01:09:05is being said

01:09:06that it is

01:09:06an obligation

01:09:07for you to

01:09:09be grateful to

01:09:10these people

01:09:11that's why you

01:09:13will be surprised

01:09:13you know surprised

01:09:14to know that we

01:09:15worship each and

01:09:16every animal you

01:09:17name it and we

01:09:19have you know

01:09:19certain and a

01:09:20festival to honor

01:09:22them even we

01:09:23you know snakes

01:09:24we worship snakes

01:09:26and we have a

01:09:26particular festival

01:09:27like nag punch

01:09:29me to honor

01:09:29them you know

01:09:31crow whenever

01:09:33we have to

01:09:34offer something

01:09:35to our you

01:09:35know ancestors

01:09:36we search for

01:09:37the crows so

01:09:38crows are very

01:09:39you know you

01:09:40know holy

01:09:41creature for us

01:09:42even we are so

01:09:44grateful that we

01:09:45worship God in

01:09:46the form of the

01:09:46stones one of

01:09:48the one of the

01:09:49my friend was

01:09:50living in Canada

01:09:50he once visited

01:09:51me and he you

01:09:52know there are

01:09:54stones shivling in

01:09:57the form of the

01:09:57stone it at my

01:09:58home he shouted

01:09:59at me you are

01:10:00so you know you

01:10:01are so educated

01:10:02you don't know

01:10:02that you you

01:10:03are worshiping

01:10:04stone I said

01:10:06it is stone for

01:10:07you but it is

01:10:07gold for me I

01:10:09am my body is

01:10:10made up of five

01:10:10you know for

01:10:11bodies made up of

01:10:11five particular

01:10:12elements and

01:10:13soil is one of

01:10:14it so I'm I'm

01:10:16not honoring if

01:10:17you take away the

01:10:19Shiva concept of

01:10:20it from the

01:10:21shivling I'm

01:10:22honoring the

01:10:23soil I'm

01:10:24honoring the

01:10:25Panch Mahabhut

01:10:25I'm honoring

01:10:26myself I why

01:10:28shouldn't be I

01:10:28am grateful for

01:10:29water I'm

01:10:30grateful for

01:10:30air shouldn't I

01:10:31be grateful for

01:10:32soil also then

01:10:34he realized that

01:10:35it is not like

01:10:36don't go by the

01:10:37you know simple

01:10:40practices or

01:10:41virtues you go

01:10:43by what is the

01:10:44meaning behind it

01:10:45why we worship

01:10:47we have a festival

01:10:48wherein we

01:10:48worship our

01:10:49tools Vishkar

01:10:50Madi we

01:10:51worship our

01:10:52tools see in

01:10:54this picture I

01:10:54have show you

01:10:55we worship the

01:10:56trees in every

01:10:58Hindu will in

01:10:59every Hindu

01:11:00home you will

01:11:00find a tulsi

01:11:01tree why

01:11:02tulsi tree because

01:11:03we know that the

01:11:04plant tulsi give

01:11:05the maximum amount

01:11:06of the oxygen so

01:11:07to honor their

01:11:08contribution to

01:11:09human life we

01:11:10have start

01:11:10worshiping them

01:11:11so I find that

01:11:13each and every

01:11:14aspect of Indian

01:11:16life you know

01:11:19each and every

01:11:19action and

01:11:20reaction of

01:11:21Indian life has

01:11:22come somewhere

01:11:23come from the

01:11:24basic concept

01:11:25of gratitude

01:11:26see in the

01:11:29human style

01:11:29from the

01:11:30the very first

01:11:32thing we do

01:11:33you know when

01:11:33we get up

01:11:34get up in the

01:11:35morning we

01:11:36touch the

01:11:36mother earth

01:11:37and we offer

01:11:38the prayer in

01:11:38the Sanskrit

01:11:39kraagre vasthe

01:11:40laxmi karma

01:11:40desara swati

01:11:41why because we

01:11:42want to honor

01:11:43the earth it

01:11:44is not a

01:11:44you know

01:11:45then we have

01:11:49morning mantra

01:11:50we touch the

01:11:51feet of the

01:11:51elder it is

01:11:52not because of

01:11:53their experience

01:11:53because we have

01:11:55gratitude towards

01:11:56them then we

01:11:57offer surya

01:11:58namashkar then

01:11:59the same

01:11:59Canadian friend

01:12:00asked me what

01:12:00are you doing

01:12:01these are the

01:12:02simple postures

01:12:03what is the

01:12:04benefit of doing

01:12:05them in the

01:12:06morning in front

01:12:07of sun I

01:12:08said told him

01:12:09that there is no

01:12:10benefit if you

01:12:11ask me directly

01:12:12physiological or

01:12:13emotional benefit

01:12:14for doing it in

01:12:15front of sun

01:12:16those 12

01:12:17specific exercises

01:12:19but it is a

01:12:20tradition it is a

01:12:21tradition to

01:12:22honor the

01:12:23invaluable

01:12:24contribution of

01:12:25sun to the

01:12:25human life

01:12:26then we have

01:12:28temple temples

01:12:29are not for

01:12:29worship for me

01:12:30they are to

01:12:31express my

01:12:31gratitude for

01:12:32all fellow

01:12:33human being

01:12:33for the

01:12:34almighty for

01:12:35this universal

01:12:36consciousness

01:12:37then we have

01:12:38bhojan mantra

01:12:39that we recite

01:12:40prior to you

01:12:41know eating

01:12:42something

01:12:42charity I have

01:12:49discussed it

01:12:49with you

01:12:50in Indian

01:12:51ritual fine we

01:12:53are short of

01:12:53time so I

01:12:54will take you

01:12:55to one of the

01:12:56important slide

01:12:57that I want to

01:12:58discuss that is

01:12:59why we fail to

01:13:00remain grateful

01:13:01this is the most

01:13:02important thing

01:13:02firstly monetization

01:13:04of everything as I

01:13:05discussed with you

01:13:06if I pay money

01:13:08I think I should

01:13:10not be grateful

01:13:11because I have

01:13:11paid the amount

01:13:12this is not true

01:13:13dear friends

01:13:14even if you

01:13:16paid the

01:13:16even if we pay

01:13:18the financial

01:13:19amount

01:13:20we should be

01:13:22grateful for

01:13:23all our fellow

01:13:24human being for

01:13:24their invaluable

01:13:25services for us

01:13:26then our

01:13:28demands

01:13:29are endless

01:13:31once I acquire

01:13:34something I

01:13:35take it for

01:13:36granted and I

01:13:37remain I

01:13:38forget to remain

01:13:39grateful for it

01:13:40suppose I wanted

01:13:42to be an associate

01:13:43professor from

01:13:43assistant professor

01:13:44so as soon I

01:13:46get this position

01:13:47associate professor

01:13:48two three four

01:13:49months down the

01:13:50line I will take

01:13:50it for granted

01:13:51and will not

01:13:52remain grateful

01:13:53for this particular

01:13:54position similarly

01:13:55suppose you want

01:13:56to buy a car

01:13:57as soon as you

01:13:58buy a car you

01:13:59don't don't remain

01:14:00grateful for that

01:14:01particular car so

01:14:03our needs are

01:14:04endless I tell

01:14:06you a very small

01:14:07story there was

01:14:09a beggar in

01:14:10front of you

01:14:11know in front of

01:14:12a palace of a

01:14:13king he told

01:14:15the king that

01:14:16give me something

01:14:17you just fill this

01:14:18my bowl beggar

01:14:19bowl but one

01:14:20condition but I

01:14:21have only one

01:14:22condition that you

01:14:23need to fill it

01:14:24completely it is

01:14:26not like you fill

01:14:27it half king

01:14:29said it is very

01:14:29okay you have

01:14:30very small

01:14:30bowl instead of

01:14:32grain I will

01:14:32fill it with

01:14:33the you know

01:14:33diamonds so

01:14:35king ordered

01:14:36his you know

01:14:37so they kept

01:14:39on doing you

01:14:40know putting

01:14:40diamonds in it

01:14:42but again as

01:14:43many as diamond

01:14:44they put in it

01:14:45becomes empty

01:14:46so after few

01:14:47hours king was

01:14:48in the feet of

01:14:49that beggar

01:14:50king asked him

01:14:51what is this

01:14:51miracle the

01:14:53beggar said it

01:14:54is not a

01:14:54miracle this

01:14:55beggar bowl is

01:14:57made up of

01:14:57human skull

01:14:58and human

01:15:00skull you

01:15:00know it is

01:15:01unending

01:15:01desire so

01:15:03one of the

01:15:04reasons because

01:15:05of which we

01:15:05remain ungrateful

01:15:07is our

01:15:07unending desires

01:15:08as soon as

01:15:10one desire is

01:15:10fulfilled it

01:15:12is taken for

01:15:13granted and

01:15:15we remain

01:15:15ungrateful

01:15:16unsatisfied

01:15:17uncontended

01:15:18through our

01:15:19life and

01:15:20last thing is

01:15:21distrust in

01:15:22God's plan

01:15:23some way down

01:15:25the line when

01:15:26things don't

01:15:27happen as per

01:15:27our plan we

01:15:29become ungrateful

01:15:30we start cursing

01:15:31God it should

01:15:33not be done

01:15:34like this it

01:15:35should not be

01:15:35done like this

01:15:36I personally

01:15:37feel that God

01:15:39is more intelligent

01:15:40than me

01:15:40so and in

01:15:43India we believe

01:15:44that everything

01:15:45happens with the

01:15:46you know with

01:15:47his permission

01:15:48so if he is

01:15:49doing something

01:15:50for me it

01:15:51might be you

01:15:52know bad if

01:15:53I may feel

01:15:54unsatisfied or

01:15:56I may feel bad

01:15:57in short term

01:15:58but in long

01:15:59term definitely

01:16:00it is going to

01:16:00help me

01:16:01that's why

01:16:03whenever challenge

01:16:06come in my

01:16:07life I do

01:16:08have ups and

01:16:08downs whenever

01:16:09down comes in

01:16:10my life I

01:16:11realize it that

01:16:12whether you are

01:16:13trusting the

01:16:14God's plans or

01:16:15you are trusting

01:16:15your own plans

01:16:16definitely answer

01:16:18is you must trust

01:16:19your you must

01:16:20trust God

01:16:20plans

01:16:21and I become

01:16:22grateful for

01:16:23even the

01:16:23challenging and

01:16:24downs in my

01:16:24life

01:16:25so there are

01:16:27other reasons

01:16:27also since we

01:16:28are short of

01:16:29time how to

01:16:30remain grateful

01:16:31there are

01:16:31number of

01:16:32gratitude

01:16:33journaling is

01:16:34there practice

01:16:36gratitude in

01:16:36routine activities

01:16:38I was going

01:16:40through a novel

01:16:40again suffering

01:16:42from Shakespeare

01:16:43thing I don't

01:16:44recall the name

01:16:45again of book

01:16:46as well as the

01:16:47author but he

01:16:48told a very

01:16:49beautiful thing

01:16:49see he

01:16:52he referred

01:16:53that in his

01:16:54life he never

01:16:55disrespected any

01:16:57known living

01:16:58thing if he is

01:17:00having mobile he

01:17:00will put this

01:17:01mobile like he

01:17:02is putting his

01:17:02child to the

01:17:03you know he

01:17:05takes care of

01:17:06his you know if

01:17:07he is he has to

01:17:07open the window

01:17:09he will open the

01:17:10window in very

01:17:11subtle and very

01:17:12fine way that he

01:17:13is taking you

01:17:14know he is

01:17:14hugging his wife

01:17:15so that's the

01:17:18expression of

01:17:18gratitude he is

01:17:20not praying he

01:17:21is not meditating

01:17:21he is not taking

01:17:22gratitude breath but

01:17:24whatever he is doing

01:17:25in his life he is

01:17:26doing it with the

01:17:26gratitude then we

01:17:28have gratitude

01:17:29breath gratitude

01:17:29breath is very

01:17:30simple you inhale

01:17:33the breath as deep

01:17:34as you can and you

01:17:36exhale it as slowly

01:17:38as you can expressing

01:17:40your gratitude towards

01:17:41the breath then you

01:17:43we have gratitude

01:17:44meditations time is

01:17:45short else we would

01:17:46have practiced it it

01:17:47is very simple you

01:17:48close your eyes and

01:17:50you remember that you

01:17:53are a very small

01:17:54child five year six

01:17:56year old child and

01:17:58you see that your

01:18:00mother is doing a

01:18:01lot for you your

01:18:01father is doing a

01:18:02lot you are you are

01:18:03playing with your

01:18:04sibling express your

01:18:05gratitude towards

01:18:06them then you become

01:18:0710 years old you

01:18:08express your gratitude

01:18:09towards your parents

01:18:10towards your teachers

01:18:12towards your guru

01:18:13towards your friends

01:18:14slowly and steadily you

01:18:17become 15 years 20

01:18:18years and to the

01:18:20your present age then

01:18:21introspection is very

01:18:22important yes

01:18:23introspection is very

01:18:25important please try to

01:18:26introspect all the

01:18:28challenges of your life

01:18:29of your past past

01:18:31challenges of your life

01:18:32you will realize that

01:18:34every challenge of your

01:18:35life has given you

01:18:35something at least it

01:18:37has given you the

01:18:38strength then last is

01:18:40gratitude letter

01:18:41this is a fun very

01:18:43fantastic exercise i

01:18:45request you to go do

01:18:46it in which you write a

01:18:48gratitude letter to

01:18:50somebody you want to

01:18:51express the thank you

01:18:53you want to express your

01:18:54thankfulness

01:18:55your true feeling through

01:18:58this letter and second

01:19:00exercise is you go to

01:19:02that particular person and

01:19:04hand over this particular

01:19:05letter to that particular

01:19:07thing

01:19:07see this is very difficult

01:19:09exercise in India

01:19:10especially if you are you

01:19:12want to express your

01:19:12gratitude towards your

01:19:13family member especially

01:19:15your father and mother

01:19:16i did it i express i wrote

01:19:20gratitude letter for my

01:19:21father and handed over to

01:19:23it

01:19:23banajit will you know

01:19:25will realize the answer of

01:19:30my father

01:19:31answer of my father

01:19:33have you drunk are you

01:19:41drunk today because in

01:19:42India public affection

01:19:44public display of affection

01:19:45or even in the family we

01:19:47don't say i love you to

01:19:48each other

01:19:48even if i want to say i love

01:19:51you to my life wife i would

01:19:54do it in a you know in a

01:19:56room not in front of

01:19:57everybody so in India

01:19:59gratitude letters are a

01:20:01bit difficult if you are

01:20:02doing it with your family

01:20:03members to others we can

01:20:04do but it is a very

01:20:05wonderful exercise believe

01:20:07me you do it is a very

01:20:08wonderful exercise so thank

01:20:10you very much you give you

01:20:12have given me one and

01:20:13half hour anything to

01:20:15discuss anything to share

01:20:17david sir yeah

01:20:22yeah there's um you make

01:20:29me think about a lot of

01:20:30kind of universal concepts

01:20:32that exist around different

01:20:35wisdom traditions and um

01:20:38so you know in virtue ethics

01:20:43in the the greek tradition

01:20:45rather than talk about

01:20:46gratitude they talk about

01:20:47generosity but it's it talks

01:20:51about the same dynamics and

01:20:53also a lot of what you

01:20:55said was very very similar

01:20:58to the stoic philosophers who

01:21:00were contemporaries of of

01:21:02aristotle as well um yeah so

01:21:06it it's it's just fascinating

01:21:08that these

01:21:08these deep very profound

01:21:13insights have emerged in in

01:21:16almost every part of the

01:21:18world

01:21:18so it was it's kind of it's

01:21:23reassuring to think that um

01:21:26that there can be some unity of

01:21:31perspective about these these

01:21:33deep and profound wise insights

01:21:37about the nature of life and

01:21:39reality so yeah so it's not a

01:21:41question it's just a comment

01:21:43really

01:21:43sure sure sure sure thank you and i

01:21:48actually once wrote a journal

01:21:49article

01:21:49um about knowledge and generosity

01:21:53and the fact that knowledge is

01:21:56completely um dependent on

01:22:00generosity to to do its work

01:22:02yes yes yes

01:22:05i'm also feeling really grateful that i

01:22:12could attend this presentation and i

01:22:14can connect i could connect to many

01:22:15of the things which you were sharing

01:22:17starting from the

01:22:19example exercise how smoothly you move

01:22:22to

01:22:22uh other things which are so um which

01:22:26has so

01:22:27uh changed the perspective of how we

01:22:29see even the challenges and a lot of

01:22:32things so i really liked it and i'm

01:22:34really inspired to do research in

01:22:37indian knowledge system currently i'm

01:22:39doing uh research on workplace

01:22:40spirituality as my uh thesis topic

01:22:43so but i have not picked up actually

01:22:46on indian knowledge system which i

01:22:48found out after joining here later on

01:22:51my during my uh phd phase so there is

01:22:54a scale of spiritual climate done by

01:22:57professor pandeji yes so you can use

01:23:00that scale it has indian construct of

01:23:02you know workplace spirituality yes

01:23:03yes so so yeah i'm looking forward in

01:23:08future researches definitely i'd like to

01:23:10incorporate those things

01:23:12so yes uh thank you yeah and you know

01:23:15one of the really interesting things

01:23:17yeah to think about is um the positive

01:23:23psychology literature which is the

01:23:25modern um seligman inspired uh way of

01:23:31thinking about psychology nearly all of the

01:23:33ideas that seligman developed were

01:23:36either um he kind of stole them from

01:23:40the vedic traditions or from the stoics so

01:23:45they are the idea of journaling um the

01:23:48stoic philosophers did that you know two

01:23:50and a half thousand years ago so um be

01:23:53really interesting too and one of the

01:23:56things that kind of annoys me about the

01:23:59positive psychology literature is that

01:24:02they they almost never acknowledge where

01:24:06their insights about human nature came

01:24:09from and where their insights about um the

01:24:13deepest levels of human psychology actually

01:24:16come from and um uh so it would be really

01:24:20really a fascinating study to to trace those

01:24:25ideas that the the positive psychologists use

01:24:29back to their real origins and to to to of course

01:24:34one of the things that that modern psychology

01:24:37does is try to be values free and it's kind of like a

01:24:42contradiction in terms you know if knowledge is

01:24:45entirely dependent on gratitude and generosity

01:24:49then it's entirely dependent on values

01:24:52yes

01:24:54yes okay sir thank you once again for taking

01:25:04your time to deliver this presentation

01:25:06today i don't know somehow the number of

01:25:09participants were a little less than other

01:25:12days i don't know it's uh why but uh yeah but i i

01:25:17think it came to the supatras

01:25:19only that's what he could attend actually it's

01:25:25the winter solstice yeah tell you take care

01:25:29thank you very much thank you thank you so

01:25:31much thank you

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