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These kids don't listen, are very aggressive, run away, and they can do dangerous things. Will Jo Jo help them?
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00:00Hi!
00:05Hi!
00:06May I come in?
00:07Yes, you may.
00:11Pleased to meet you.
00:12Joe.
00:13My name is Joe too.
00:14Joe, meet Joe.
00:15Pleased to meet you.
00:16Stacy.
00:17Hi, Stacy.
00:18I was really excited because Joe was my last hope.
00:21And who have we got here?
00:23Chelsea.
00:24Hi, Chelsea. Pleased to meet you.
00:25How old are you?
00:26Seven.
00:27Eight.
00:28Eight.
00:29I think Joe is cool.
00:32And what's your name?
00:33Hi, Sarah. Pleased to meet you.
00:35And who's this?
00:36Zachary.
00:37Hi, Zachary.
00:38But shake my hand.
00:39Pleased to meet you.
00:41Oh!
00:42And there's another Zachary.
00:43You're not Zachary though, are you?
00:45What's your name?
00:46Ben.
00:47And who's this?
00:48Andy.
00:49Hi, Andy. Pleased to meet you.
00:50I'm Joe.
00:51Hi.
00:52It was very hard to believe that Joe was actually in my house.
00:58And who's this little one here?
00:59This is Jacob.
01:00Hi, Jacob.
01:01Are you going to say hi to Jojo?
01:02No.
01:03Okay.
01:04So, can I place this somewhere?
01:06Yep.
01:07As long as it's up high enough where they can't get to it.
01:09I tell everybody when they come in the house, when they set their purses down, to put it three feet and above and actually I think I'm switching it to five.
01:19When I first arrived, Stacy and Jo asked the children to go outside and play in the backyard.
01:26You can see it's like they're on a beach. They're making sandcastles.
01:31Yeah, they want to go to the beach so bad.
01:34Do you go to the beach or get away?
01:36No.
01:37I'd be scared to death with a huge beach and my kids running. It'd have to be a gated beach. I don't know if they have them.
01:46We're big about gates and locks and stuff like that.
01:49So, it's the fear of not being able to control the kids.
01:53Joe gets embarrassed, but they have those harnesses that are like vests with leashes.
01:57It's hard to just go on a walk with them in the neighborhood. I can't even take them to the park.
02:03It's something that I want to be able to do. It's just too stressful and I couldn't handle it myself.
02:08No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
02:10Stacy went out into the cul-de-sac with all six kids and she was really trying her best to keep tabs on them all.
02:17Hey!
02:20Don't go over those boards.
02:22Jacob, see the guy? He says slow. Thank you.
02:28Mom's definitely stressed out with trying to manage all the children at once.
02:32As soon as something happens and one child goes in one direction.
02:35You guys, don't go in the neighbor's driveway unless you ask.
02:38She shows this great anxiety.
02:40I'm missing one. Okay. Don't!
02:43I like my clothesline. I hang stuff on it.
02:47That's very dangerous.
02:49Get over here now.
02:51You don't do what Zaki does.
02:54That was naughty.
02:57Jacob! Who are you?
03:02Okay.
03:03Playtime was no fun for Mom at all.
03:05With all six kids running off in different directions.
03:08And Joe nowhere to be found.
03:10Where'd Daddy go, you guys?
03:12Joe!
03:13Well, can you tell me before you just leave?
03:15I thought you had Jacob.
03:19Here, Joe.
03:20Okay, well, I'm going to a meeting.
03:21And we're not having him out.
03:26Stacy feels like she is left here with the kids and, you know, I'm out doing whatever,
03:33which is actually work.
03:34I'm not able to spend as much time with the kids.
03:37I'm trying to get us to a place where I can.
03:39Well, nobody knows.
03:40I think the idea of being out alone with all six kids really got Mom flustered.
03:45So she brought them all in for a nap.
03:48You like ice water?
03:50No!
03:51I think that Mom puts the kids down for a nap.
03:54Not because they're tired.
03:55Stay here, please. Stay here, please.
03:56Stay here, please.
03:57Stay here, please.
03:58But because Mom needs a break.
03:59Get up here right now.
04:04Nope.
04:05You don't hide from me.
04:09Jacob, get to your bed.
04:11Just one frazzled Mom trying to do the best she can, really.
04:13My head's going to explode, literally, like 90% of the time, physically.
04:19My head is like, I want to tear it off and throw it at somebody.
04:24She's emotionally and physically exhausted.
04:27So the overwhelming feeling of having to raise six children
04:30is a bit too much for Stacy, to say the least.
04:34Once the younger ones had gone down for a nap,
04:39I pulled Stacy aside to have a chat with her.
04:42What's the toughest time of the day for yourself?
04:44It depends if Joe's here or not, summertime.
04:46A lot of times he's not here.
04:47Yep.
04:48And that's when I get, like, all flustered,
04:49and I'm trying to cook, and they're all around.
04:51And you say he's not around.
04:53What does he do?
04:54He works, like, 60 hours a week.
04:56He's driving a truck right now, going to school full-time,
04:59and so he's pretty much non-existent.
05:02Like I say, he sleeps here, like, four hours a night.
05:05So you raise these kids?
05:07Alone.
05:08That's right.
05:09Most of the time, pretty much alone?
05:10Yeah.
05:11And I can't do six by myself.
05:13Stacy and Joe have very different agendas right now.
05:16Joe wants to be able to change careers
05:19and better the family situation,
05:22and it's a long-term goal.
05:24But mum needs help now.
05:27You can only handle so much, and I got to a breaking point,
05:30and now I'm overwhelmed, exhausted, and can't do it anymore.
05:36I wanted to talk to Andrew and Sarah.
05:38Get a chance to speak to you both.
05:39Because their dad is not around much.
05:41They haven't seen their biological mother for over a year now,
05:45and that's hard for any child to take.
05:47This is new for you, right?
05:49Because you guys are obviously brother and sister,
05:52but then daddy met Stacy.
05:55Yep.
05:56So now you have a bigger family, right?
05:58Yep.
05:59So where's your mummy?
06:02In California.
06:03In California.
06:04She hasn't talked to us since last year.
06:06She was turning eight, I think.
06:08We haven't talked to her since my eighth birthday and Sarah's ninth.
06:13Are there things that you would like to say to her?
06:17To your mum?
06:18Like, I want to go out and visit you.
06:20How have you been and stuff like that?
06:22Yeah.
06:23Like, I miss you a lot.
06:27I hope she'll remember us and, like, see us again.
06:34But what's important is to make sure that you both know
06:40there are lots of people in this house that love you very much.
06:43I mean, that just must be such a heavy load for these children to carry.
06:47What I would love Andrew and Sarah to recognise is that it's not their fault.
06:54Kill me.
06:55Let me give you a big hug.
06:57Mmm.
07:00Joe and Stacy have had some real serious challenges to deal with,
07:04and I'm prepared to do what is necessary to make a difference.
07:08But I need to know from them first whether they're prepared to make some big changes.
07:13Stacy and Joe, the blessing that you have in your life,
07:16of having six children, should be recognised, but it's not.
07:24Because emotionally, you're overwhelmed.
07:27Joe, you're away from home a lot,
07:31and, Mum, you're home here with the children.
07:34And that can take its toll in itself, can't it?
07:38It was so much easier when he was here.
07:44He always helped at bedtime, and we read with the kids together,
07:48and we sang songs with them.
07:50And, I mean, that seems like a dream now.
07:55Children do need your attention.
07:59They do need your quality time.
08:01Joe, Andrew, and Sarah would love to be able to spend more time with you.
08:09They want to be a part of this family.
08:13Mm-hm. Yeah.
08:15And under the circumstances with Sarah and Andrew's other parent,
08:20more than ever, they need that.
08:24In this house, everything's become overwhelming.
08:28What are you guys doing to change the situation right now?
08:33Because what I see is nothing.
08:37Mum, let's talk about how you are around the children.
08:40Jacob! Come here!
08:44This is you, walking around with your face all day like this.
08:51You've made it very clear that you guys can't even go on an outing
08:55or a vacation or enjoy yourselves
08:57because of the fear of not knowing how to handle the children when you're out.
09:01We tried it. We tried just to go to a little park here,
09:04and, I don't know, it's just stressful.
09:10Wouldn't it be nice to all go out as a family again?
09:14Well, the kids would like to go anywhere, like on a vacation.
09:18You guys need to make a decision
09:20whether you are going to change where you're at right now.
09:25Because not only are you doing it for yourselves,
09:27but you're doing it for your kids.
09:29I felt like we need to get busy and make some changes.
09:33Because the kids, I mean, they're going to, you know,
09:37we're going to lose them emotionally.
09:38I don't want to become further disconnected with my kids.
09:41The pair of you are going to have to do it together
09:43to be able to raise your children
09:45and be a happier family than what you are right now.
09:49Taking what Joe has told me to heart, definitely,
09:52because I've been waiting for a change for a long time.
09:56Okay, so enough said and done.
09:58Tomorrow's a new leaf.
10:01I've got some big plans for the Fager family.
10:05But before I reveal them,
10:07there's some situations I need to address that just can't wait.
10:11I wanted Joe to go on a picnic with Sarah and Andrew
10:16so that he could get the chance to answer
10:18some of the children's questions with regards
10:20to their biological mother.
10:22Okay.
10:23So tell me more about what you were trying to tell me the other day.
10:26It feels kind of sad because we haven't seen our mom in a long time.
10:31And I feel depressed.
10:35And depressed because she never calls us
10:38and I feel like she doesn't, like, love us anymore.
10:41And you guys feel like it's your fault that she hasn't called?
10:44Yeah.
10:45The children were very receptive to discussion with their father,
10:50which was fantastic.
10:52People sometimes make decisions.
10:55We don't understand why they make them.
10:57You guys feel like you can't talk about her?
11:01Sometimes.
11:02It's a hard thing to talk about.
11:04I still picture what she looks like in my head in between.
11:07It's not your fault.
11:09I hope that that picnic was a turning point for Sarah and Andrew.
11:13That maybe they can start to move on a little bit.
11:16Not to forget about their mom.
11:17And like I said, hopefully she'll call.
11:19But if she doesn't, at least that they can deal with it.
11:24So, Dad, I think we should have more days like this.
11:26What do you think, Sarah and Andrew?
11:28More time with Dad like this to come and hang out together?
11:31Yeah.
11:32Like one on one time.
11:34The picnic with my dad helped because
11:37me and Sarah have been having a hard time
11:41handling our problems about our mom.
11:45It was good to hear it wasn't our fault that
11:49she hasn't called us.
11:52Stacy and Joe are absolutely petrified
11:56at the prospect of taking all six kids out in public.
11:59Hey, guys, stay together.
12:01So I'm bringing everyone to the park
12:03because with a little bit of confidence
12:05and the right tools,
12:06they'll have nothing to fear.
12:07What's important here
12:09is that you guys always keep yourself
12:12at a distance where mommy and daddy can see you.
12:16If you can't see mommy and daddy,
12:18you've gone too far.
12:20It wasn't long before Zachary ran off and broke the rules.
12:29Come here, Zach.
12:30This was a good opportunity for Dad to step up.
12:34So you're going to place him on the bench, okay?
12:37You're going to explain to him why you put him here, okay?
12:40And then you're going to leave him here for four minutes.
12:42Zachary, look at me.
12:45I can hear you.
12:46You're sitting on the naughty bench because you ran off.
12:51Right?
12:53And you were told to stay where mommy and daddy could see you,
12:58not to run away.
12:59So you'll have to stay there now.
13:01Because you did not listen.
13:04Now that Stacey and Joe have seen how easy it is
13:07to discipline the children out in public,
13:10I hope they now know they can go anywhere.
13:16Mom and Dad are petrified to take their six kids anywhere.
13:20Oh, but I've got a surprise for them
13:22because we're going to attack that fear head on.
13:25Jojo would like to say something very important.
13:30You guys are all going to go away for six days together
13:37as a family to Florida.
13:39And I'd like to present this to you.
13:41Oh, my gosh.
13:42Yeah, of course.
13:45Florida!
13:47I never thought in a million years that Jill would take us on a vacation.
13:53Honestly, I never would have thought that this was even a possibility.
13:58I wouldn't perceive taking six kids, especially some that are as young as they are,
14:04on a vacation like this.
14:05We're going to need these!
14:07What they learn on vacation they can take home,
14:10and what they learn at home they can take on vacation.
14:13Who's going to make sandcastles?
14:15You're going on an airplane.
14:17Yeah!
14:18I'm kind of in shock because I'm going on an airplane
14:24and one day with my six children and my husband for the first time ever.
14:30We really haven't got any time to waste.
14:31No, sure not.
14:32Because we're going very soon.
14:33Yeah, I was just, like, excited, but, like, holy crap,
14:37like, how am I going to be able to, you know, pull this off?
14:40We're doing the countdown technique.
14:41We're writing everything down so we can eliminate it before we leave,
14:44right down to the last thing.
14:46Everybody has to pre-plan before they go on holiday,
14:48make sure there's a checklist.
14:50So the countdown technique is all about that.
14:52Shorts, underwear, books.
14:55How about goggles?
14:57Goggles?
14:58Socks.
14:59Socks?
15:00How many socks?
15:01Well, I don't know how many.
15:02I have eight kids.
15:03No, I have six kids.
15:05See?
15:06The little suitcases we've got here
15:08is because they're going to pack their toys and activities
15:11to occupy themselves on the plane with.
15:14He's trying to pack the food.
15:16Darling, you're going to eat there.
15:18You need to pack some toys to play with on the beach.
15:21Oh, dear, this is like packing one of my bags.
15:25This vacation is going to be the opportunity of a lifetime.
15:28I'm anxious to see how Joe's going to help us do this.
15:31Calling flights for Florida.
15:33Flight for Florida.
15:35They were going on an aeroplane,
15:37so I wanted to go over a few rules with the children
15:40to make sure they know how they are expected to behave.
15:43Benjamin, listen to what Joe's saying.
15:46When you're on the aeroplane, it's very important, OK,
15:50that you listen to Mummy and Daddy,
15:54that you look into your little bags
15:57and keep yourself active by doing your word searches
16:01or playing with your toys,
16:03but no shouting or screaming,
16:08no kicking your feet and having temper tantrums
16:11because there are other people that will be on the aeroplane.
16:15I'm a little worried because it's a lot to deal with
16:20and maybe the twins and Jacobi aren't already on the plane.
16:24But I don't really know.
16:26The main point here is to make sure that you keep the kids occupied.
16:31I think it taught them a little something
16:33because some of them have never been on a plane before.
16:35Water, here I go.
16:39OK, keep going.
16:41OK, so we're buddy system.
16:44We're going to head this way.
16:46We're all buddied up.
16:47When we arrived at the airport,
16:49I had the older children pair up with the younger children
16:52so that everybody was accounted for
16:54and nobody would go wandering off.
16:56Look at this.
16:57You're doing the buddy up system fantastic.
17:01I kind of like the buddy system
17:03so no one gets lost in anything
17:05because Ben and Zach usually run away and stuff.
17:09It's very cool.
17:11The Fager family got to the airport with no incident
17:15and for the first time this family went on an aeroplane.
17:19Listen, listen to me, all of you.
17:21Benjamin and Zachary,
17:22we're going to take off in a minute.
17:24Remember, stay in the seatbelt, OK?
17:29The golden rule for taking children on an aeroplane
17:38is to be prepared, organised
17:41and to bring lots of activities.
17:43General tips for you when you're on the plane.
17:45Make sure that they get out their activities
17:47and they're playing with those who are keeping the kids occupied.
17:50Now, if they do something that is banging
17:54or kicking the other person in front,
17:56then just use your tone of voice.
17:59All right?
18:00Just a minute, honey.
18:02No.
18:03Don't kick that chair.
18:04Somebody else is sitting there.
18:06If it comes out of control where they're really, really shouting,
18:09get up from your seat, lean into the children.
18:11It's like, too loud.
18:13Have fun, but too loud.
18:15The Fakers were prepared and organised
18:17and that flight went smoother than they could ever have imagined.
18:21Folks, we are going to Florida.
18:29I booked the whole family a vacation
18:31at the Marco Island Marriott Resort & Spa.
18:34Gather them together first.
18:36Tell the children what you expect from them.
18:39Listen, we're not going to run off, right?
18:41Stay together.
18:42Stay together.
18:43We're going to follow the person in front of us.
18:45Walk slow.
18:46Come on, let's go.
18:50The children had never been to a hotel before,
18:52so I reminded them always to buddy up
18:55so they could be a nice shot of their parents.
18:57This is a very large resort.
19:01We need to stay close together
19:03so that you don't get lost, okay?
19:05Okay, guys.
19:06Back in line.
19:07Back in line.
19:08Buddy up.
19:11When I first saw that room, I'm like, wow.
19:15Come on, baby!
19:16Okay.
19:17Come on, baby!
19:18Start unpacking your clothes.
19:19Keep the toys in there
19:21and then they can dip into the toy bag whenever they want.
19:24Get the kids sorted, get their clothes laid out,
19:26everything done,
19:27and then you can start to order dinner.
19:29Remember that even though we're on holiday,
19:32there's still the cornerstones of a routine
19:34that needs to be met when you're on vacation.
19:36Ben, did you put all your clothes away?
19:39Good boy.
19:40Stacy and Joe are going to have to work really hard together.
19:44in making sure that all six of their children tow the line.
19:48The first morning we got here, we went down to the beach.
19:51I was nervous.
19:52So remember, this is a time for children to have fun,
19:55for you to relax and have fun with them.
19:58I wanted to show mum and dad the easiest way
20:01to stop the kids from running off
20:03was to keep them occupied and engaged in an activity.
20:08Joe had me sit down in the lawn chair
20:10and just let my kids play and just watch them
20:13and observe them and relax.
20:15Just get water.
20:17Dad did a fantastic job in keeping the kids all engaged
20:21and it gave mum a break too.
20:23But mum's break didn't last long.
20:25Hmm, Benjamin run towards the water
20:27and mum had to go and get him.
20:29Benjamin!
20:30Benjamin!
20:31Warning!
20:32Benjamin!
20:33Benjamin!
20:39I gave you a warning and you did not listen.
20:41Oh, oh, oh!
20:43Um, we don't, we don't throw sand at other people.
20:46When you put him onto his naughty spot,
20:48you're going to explain with your glasses off
20:52so you can give him eye contact,
20:55okay, why he's there.
20:57Alright?
20:58Discipline needs to be consistent,
21:01whether you do it on the beach or at home.
21:03Benjamin!
21:04You're in the naughty spot
21:06for going to get water without asking.
21:08I gave you a warning and you did not stop.
21:11Now you will sit here.
21:12Let's move away.
21:13Benjamin knew that mum meant business
21:24and he stayed there for four minutes.
21:26So what do you need to say to mummy?
21:30Stacey did a fantastic job with the naughty spot
21:33and if she continues with it, things will get easier.
21:36This afternoon, I had an activity for them
21:42and it's all about bonding, teamwork
21:45and bringing them together as a family.
21:47We have to use all these pieces as a family
21:50to make the boat.
21:51Think we can do that?
21:52Yeah!
21:53I bet you can.
21:54When I first heard we were going to build a boat together,
21:56I thought it was kind of cool.
21:57I thought that was going to be fun.
21:59But I didn't realize we'd have to make it ourselves.
22:01I thought there would be plans there.
22:03Okay.
22:04Work together, mum.
22:06Boat building was very fun
22:09because our family never, never
22:13has built anything together before.
22:16Well...
22:17It could hold the flag in.
22:19Yeah.
22:20The kids have really good ideas
22:22and that's something that Joe's really showing us
22:24is that we need to involve the kids
22:26and listen to their ideas and have them help us.
22:29Yeah, you can write it anywhere, my love.
22:31Let's see where Penny's going to help it.
22:33Take this!
22:34Come here, put it on first.
22:37Ben and Zach were very naughty.
22:42Ben just hit Zach as hard as he could with the oar.
22:46After Ben hit Zachary,
22:48Dad pulled the boys aside.
22:50Now Benjamin and Zachary,
22:52I want you to give each other a hug
22:54and tell each other you're sorry.
22:55Yeah, but how does that resolve it?
22:56What have they learnt from that?
22:58This is the point.
22:59In there.
23:00Okay, Benjamin and Zach, come here, please.
23:01There'd be no hitting one another, okay?
23:03Because that's unacceptable behaviour.
23:04It's naughty behaviour.
23:05You said it was an accident.
23:07If it was an accident, you need to say you're sorry, Ben.
23:10So look at Zachary.
23:11I learned something.
23:12If it's an accident, go ahead and apologise.
23:15Just make clear that it's not acceptable to hit each other.
23:20Once we sorted out our incident, it was back to boat building.
23:23Are you happy with that?
23:24Yep.
23:25I'm proud of Sarah for naming the boat.
23:28Andrew really, you know, did his part in getting it together.
23:32Even, like, the twins picking their own ideas.
23:35And Chelsea with the waves, that was awesome.
23:38Who built this boat?
23:40The Vader family.
23:42And you did a very good job in working together.
23:48Woo!
23:49Gotta go a little deeper than that.
23:51What was great for me is for this family to feel very proud
23:54of the boat they had built.
23:57And together as a family, they had fun with it.
24:04I needed to let them have their family quality time alone.
24:08And so I took it as a perfect opportunity to say goodbye to them
24:11so that I can go away and let these guys get on with the advice
24:15and the technique and see how they do.
24:17Listen, guys, I'm going to go.
24:18I'm going to leave you guys, okay, to get up with having fun.
24:21I'll see when I get back.
24:23Don't forget the techniques.
24:25Have fun.
24:26Bye.
24:27Bye.
24:28Bye.
24:29Bye.
24:30Bye.
24:31Enjoy the afternoon in our Balinese Spa.
24:33Are you naked?
24:34I'm glad to see you took time together, Sitta,
24:37and spend time by yourselves.
24:39You've been naked.
24:40It's about time you've had some fun together.
24:45This is like a honeymoon we never had.
24:50Yeah.
24:51It's just so great to see you guys enjoying the day.
24:55I don't know which fork to use.
24:56I don't either.
24:57I just dig in.
24:58Do you have your swimsuit on?
25:01Well, get it on or throw it in that bag.
25:03Good.
25:04A family trip to the beach.
25:05Look for Ben and Zach's shoes under all the beds right now.
25:07We only have one.
25:08We need three.
25:09This is mine.
25:10There's a phone under there.
25:11Disorganization equals stress.
25:12It's that simple.
25:13Put those away.
25:14The buckets are not what we're looking for.
25:15We're looking for your shoes.
25:16Look under the couch.
25:17Here's one.
25:18See.
25:19They're in the towels, you guys.
25:21Now exiting.
25:22That's crazy.
25:23It took an hour just to get out the door.
25:25Are you going to go on the scavenger hunt today?
25:28No, no.
25:29No, no.
25:30No, no.
25:31No, no, no, no.
25:32No, no!
25:33No, no, no, no.
25:34No, no.
25:35No, no, no, no.
25:36No, no, no!
25:37No, no!
25:38No, no, no, no, no!
25:39No, no, no!
25:40No, no.
25:41Yeah.
25:42A scavenger hunt.
25:43The kids are going to love this.
25:45How old are you?
25:4627.
25:47Count them.
25:48One.
25:49Two.
25:50Joe, I'm loving that enthusiasm.
25:53Eight.
25:54Okay.
25:55What are you doing, Sarah?
25:56Why are you not part of it?
25:59So I can't get to do anything?
26:01It takes forever because there's 50 million of us.
26:04I don't know.
26:05Every time I've done a scavenger hunt, it's really fast.
26:08I know, but you've never done it as a family.
26:10With little kids.
26:11I do, I do.
26:12We got Jacob who's about to fall asleep and two four-year-olds are rolling around the floor.
26:15That's because we're not doing anything.
26:17Stacy, are you hunting for your positive attitude?
26:19Honey, they've been acting like this since we started.
26:21If you guys want to carry on making big progress with your family, you've got to be 100% motivated.
26:26We've got more work to do.
26:28Okay, should we take a look?
26:29Sure.
26:30Yep.
26:31We can enjoy the afternoon in our Balinese spa.
26:35He will never do that.
26:39This is like a honeymoon we never had.
26:41Yeah.
26:42This is great.
26:44And look, your humor's back.
26:46You're just laughing away.
26:48You're able to spend some good quality time together as a couple and just forget about
26:53the kids.
26:54I didn't even make a phone call or anything.
26:56Letting go is such an important part of being able to relax and make sure that you do that
27:01at home as well.
27:02I'm glad you had such a fantastic time.
27:05Look for Ben and Zach's shoes under all the beds right now.
27:08We've got one more shoe to find, okay?
27:11Here's one.
27:12See?
27:13They're in the towels.
27:14What was going on there?
27:15Good job you didn't have a plane to catch.
27:16You'd have missed it.
27:17What you're not going to do is get yourself out the door if you're not organized.
27:22So you have to be ahead of the game so that you're able to be able to smoothly get out
27:27of the door.
27:28And that's what I didn't see happen here.
27:30It takes forever because there's 50 million of us.
27:36I don't know.
27:37It took us an hour to get started.
27:39Oh my word, sourpuss face you are there.
27:43And then you're wondering why the kids are sitting on the chairs going,
27:46I don't want to do this.
27:48Energy level's completely flat.
27:50You've got to be excited.
27:52I was very excited.
27:54Well if that's excitement, I'd hate to see you happy.
27:57That's why I started correcting her.
27:58So mum, you've got to recognize that a holiday is about everybody doing something
28:03that they love to do.
28:05Doesn't all evolve around you.
28:09There is stuff that needs to be tweaked today because you need to be able to take this
28:12back home as well now.
28:13But I'm very proud of the pair of you in how far you've come along.
28:18I mean absolutely remarkable, it really is.
28:21Even though the meeting was a lot more positive than I actually expected,
28:24there were some serious things that she brought out.
28:28So are we ready to be able to tweak the rest of these?
28:30You guys ready?
28:31Alright then, so let's carry on and get some work done.
28:36Hi!
28:37I'm going swimming again.
28:39You're going swimming again.
28:40After watching the DVD footage, the first thing I needed to help this family with
28:45was sorting out the chaos in getting them out of the house.
28:49So I'm giving them the out the door technique so they can use it here and at home.
28:54The first step that we're going to do is tap organization.
28:57Which is, let's have all the shoes in one place, all the beach wear in one place, okay?
29:04We need to prepare ahead of time.
29:06And that's the bottom line.
29:08The stuff needs to be set up and we want the kids to be able to do that.
29:11All the beach toys right here with the big purple bag.
29:13That's good, Sarah.
29:14Come on out and be a part.
29:15Oh, well done.
29:16Look at this.
29:17Good job.
29:18The shoes are great, guys.
29:19The shoes are great.
29:20Come here.
29:21Okay, Stacy and Joe.
29:22So we've lined up the shoes, we've lined up the beach wear.
29:25The children know where to go when you're about to do the next stage.
29:29And this is the next stage.
29:30Once everything was in its place, it was time to get this family moving.
29:33And you guys have, starting from now, ten minutes to do that.
29:37Let's go.
29:38Get your swimsuits on.
29:39Ten minutes with all their beach gear is going to be a challenge.
29:42If they could do it here, then when they got home, it'd be a piece of cake.
29:46We're not ready yet.
29:47Dad, come on.
29:48Chop, chop.
29:49Go put your shoes on, buddy.
29:51Here, put them on.
29:52Chop, chop, Dad.
29:54The older children are doing their stuff.
29:56JoJo really helped us get that act together.
29:59A lot.
30:00You have two minutes.
30:02Room key.
30:03Front.
30:04Front.
30:05One minute.
30:06One minute.
30:07Give me the boogie board, please.
30:08We ready?
30:09You got Jacob, Joe.
30:10Yep.
30:11So, we are ready.
30:12Can I just tell you how long it took you all last time to leave this room?
30:17It took you 60 minutes.
30:19Shall I tell you how long it took you now?
30:22Because you were organized, it took nine minutes and 21 seconds.
30:26Yay!
30:27Good job.
30:28Fantastic.
30:29Joe was telling the truth when she said it took 60 minutes to get out the door.
30:35It's not cool.
30:36I mean, we don't like seeing that.
30:38Right, come on, champions.
30:39Let's go to the beach.
30:40Okay.
30:41And it just goes to show you that when they're focused and they're organized and they prepare
30:46beforehand, they can quite easily get a family of eight out the door.
30:54Before I left, I wanted to speak to Joe about giving Sarah and Andrew a journal, so they
30:59could write down their feelings about the situation with their biological mother.
31:03I thought that perhaps we could have you explain to the children what these books represent.
31:09Okay.
31:10I don't have any doubt that it's good for the kids to write their feelings down, to get
31:15them out, talk about them, so that should be a positive thing.
31:20These books, that one's yours.
31:24That one's yours.
31:25And the reason I'm giving you these is for you guys, anytime you start to have feelings
31:32about your mom, just write them down.
31:37Because we don't know what's going to happen, guys.
31:39But, you know, someday, you know, maybe if you're able to talk to her again, you can
31:44show her these books.
31:46Or you can keep them to yourself.
31:48I encourage you to share them with me.
31:50You can.
31:51And this is just a chance for you guys to write down your feelings.
31:54I liked writing in the journal because it made me feel excited to let my feelings go
32:03in a journal.
32:05Yeah.
32:06I don't really talk about my mom a lot in front of other people.
32:11I love you guys.
32:13That made me feel good.
32:16Well, when Sarah was reading from her journal, she did add a little bit about the divorce
32:22and stuff that she's never talked about before.
32:24So, and Joe said that was a huge step for her.
32:28That took a lot of courage.
32:31And you're a very brave little girl to write that down on that pad.
32:34And I'm really proud of you.
32:36Very proud of you.
32:37This vacation has given the Fager family a fresh, positive outlook on life.
32:47And we'll definitely keep them smiling at those memories.
32:50It's been an absolute pleasure to be able to take you guys on holiday and give you the vacation that you've dreamed of.
32:57You've done very well. I'm really proud of you.
32:59I'd like to thank Joe for giving me the realization that I need to spend more time with my family.
33:05I guess I could just say thanks, Joe, for giving me my family back.
33:09Come on, give me a cut to it.
33:11Come on, give me a cut to it.
33:12Thank you, Joe.
33:13Take care, darling.
33:15We had lots of fun.
33:17I'm going to miss Joe Joe so much.
33:20Keep drawing.
33:22I want her to stay for the rest of my life.
33:25I wanted to give you this. This is the flag and I want you to look after it. Take care, my love.
33:30I felt a little special when Joe Joe handed me the flag of the boat.
33:37Have a kiss.
33:38Mwah.
33:39Bye, Joe Joe.
33:41Stacy, keep positive, okay?
33:45There are no words to describe how grateful I am to Joe for picking us.
33:54And helping us.
33:56May I hug you?
33:57I can leave the Fager family knowing that they have a positive outlook on life.
34:01And that together as a family, they will just continue to thrive.
34:04Bye.
34:05Bye.
34:11I think our family is closer together. I think we're more of a unit.
34:15I really feel like a totally different person.
34:19I love you very much, Sarah.
34:21I love you, too.
34:22Stacy's a lot less stressed out now because of the techniques that Joe's taught her.
34:26Go out there.
34:27There it goes.
34:28Warning.
34:29It's amazing how, when I say, warning, that they're like, no, no, no. I'm done. I'm sorry, Mom.
34:35Jacob.
34:37Went down?
34:38I've never spent this much time with my family before, ever.
34:44Go out of the way!
34:45Woo!
34:46Sarah and Andrew, for their mom, they're able to talk about that more openly.
34:50Give me a smoke.
34:51She helped us a lot.
34:52I wish she could stay here for the rest of my life.
34:54One of the biggest things that I've realized is how important each moment is.
34:59Just the sheer amount of time that I spend with my family.
35:02I've learned that when I come home from work, that if I can just take out just a little bit of time and just spend some quality time with my kids, that it'll benefit all of us.
35:14Not only did I feel like a vacation wasn't possible, I mean, I didn't leave the house.
35:20Now I can go anywhere with all six of them.
35:23Joe has shown me how to embrace my children and like their lives and their laughter and just like everything that I've so missed out on.
35:44I'll see you next time.
35:45Bye.
35:46Bye.
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