00:00I was homeless and I chose to have a baby.
00:02We are judged as parents.
00:04This should be illegal.
00:0518-year-old homeless couple shouldn't be having kids.
00:08I would never promote it.
00:09It was just my situation at the time.
00:12And I was young.
00:13We had our babies via sperm donor.
00:15Have you guys met many of your daughters, sons, or siblings?
00:20I would say in total, we might know 80 to 100.
00:22I don't know the whole 200.
00:24We would love to have more children.
00:26Just surprised, you know, at this time.
00:29Wait a minute.
00:32Do you like reading?
00:33Yeah.
00:34Hi, my name is Kai and I'm a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom.
00:37And my name is Dee and I'm 26.
00:40We have two kids and Katie is five and Faith is three.
00:45When and why did you decide to homeschool the girls?
00:47We decided to homeschool the girls when we realized
00:50that would be the best choice for them as far as learning academically.
00:54They've experienced a slight bit of formal education.
00:57It only occurred for about two weeks.
01:00That was two weeks?
01:02Yes, it was about two weeks.
01:04So do you guys plan to always homeschool them?
01:07Yes.
01:08How would you describe each of your children?
01:10In my eyes, they are perfect.
01:12And they are the most smarter kids in the world.
01:14How did you two meet?
01:15We met in high school.
01:17We were best friends at one point and things happen.
01:22Yeah.
01:23Yeah.
01:23We have been married for five years now.
01:26How do you guys make time for each other?
01:28I would say it's pretty hard to make time for each other.
01:31The most we make out of each other is date nights in the room.
01:36Oh my god, not like that.
01:39All right, mommy's going to tie that one for you.
01:42Can you hide this one?
01:43Hold on.
01:45Okay, that's it.
01:47Now the coconut sugar.
01:50How did you decide to conceive?
01:52We decided to conceive by finding a donor.
01:57That was free.
01:58We ended up finding him through Google search.
02:01I just put free sperm donor.
02:04When I got pregnant, I was 18 years old.
02:05I was in shock because I didn't think it would work the first time
02:09by inserting a diva cup in me and it would just get pregnant.
02:12I never knew that was possible.
02:15How did each of your families react to the news?
02:21They weren't very pleased when they found out
02:25that I was pregnant at a young age.
02:27They just wished that I kind of waited a little longer
02:31before trying considering the situation I was in.
02:34Can you tell us a little bit about your experience being homeless?
02:36When I was homeless, it's not like I was on the street.
02:39It was just like I was in a homeless shelter.
02:42It was kind of hard because me and her were separated at first.
02:45So it was just me in a pregnancy shelter
02:47and it was my first experience being pregnant.
02:50I was alone.
02:51I knew I was going to get out of that situation.
02:53When Katie was born, I was still homeless.
02:55I was in the shelter by myself.
02:58And then a few months later, my wife came along with me.
03:02We stayed there for a few months until we got our apartment.
03:05Our circumstances has changed drastically from then
03:08because, of course, we're not homeless anymore.
03:11And we've done a lot.
03:13We do content, we're in school, we have jobs.
03:16I feel like you learn from your mistake.
03:20It made us grow in different ways and stronger.
03:23Do you know who this is?
03:25So you know who your donor is, right?
03:28And you know the siblings you meet, right?
03:31What does the term siblings mean?
03:33Siblings means donor siblings.
03:35Have you guys met many of your daughter's donor siblings?
03:40I would say in total, we might know 80 to 100.
03:43I don't know the whole 200, but yeah.
03:45We share our day-to-day life on social media,
03:47basically normalizing our life as a two-mom family.
03:50Some people were basically saying that homeless couples
03:53should not have kids, especially being 18.
03:56I do feel as though when you explain your story
03:59versus when somebody else explains your story,
04:01there's a different outcome.
04:02I feel like no matter what, you always get a hit or out there.
04:06There will always be somebody, that one person.
04:10Y'all look nothing alike.
04:1118-year-old homeless couples shouldn't be having kids.
04:14This should be illegal.
04:16Government is supporting this family
04:18and will continue to do so.
04:19I would never promote it.
04:21It was just my situation at the time.
04:24And I was young.
04:25I love kids, and I just decided to have kids on my own.
04:28And everybody's circumstance is different,
04:31but the choice is yours.
04:32It's your life.
04:33Have you experienced any judgment in person?
04:36Just saying that those are not our children.
04:40Oh, you guys the nanny?
04:42I just would look at each other,
04:44not just push, I should just keep going.
04:46Because at this point, I'm tired of people asking questions like that.
04:50They definitely said, you're the nanny.
04:52We would like to have more children.
04:55We are in the process of trying to conceive for not one, but two more.
05:01And hopefully conceive at the same time and be pregnant together.
05:05How are the kids?
05:06Where's Katie and Faith?
05:08The kids are doing great.
05:09They're in the room playing right now with Play-Doh.
05:12That's good.
05:13I don't hear them, which is kind of...
05:16Yeah.
05:17Vanessa, were you concerned when Kai got pregnant with her first child?
05:22Absolutely.
05:24I wouldn't say that I was happy with the method.
05:27I don't think she fully understood that concept at that age.
05:31So I was more fearful.
05:34I did feel nervous about telling my family.
05:36But at the same time, I was happy with my own decision.
05:39So I kind of wanted to just feel like I was an adult by doing things growing up fast.
05:46I agree.
05:47No, yes.
05:48It doesn't even matter whatever anybody says.
05:50I was still going to do it.
05:51Definitely.
05:52We just want to have the last two and just be done.
05:55Yeah.
05:56Yeah.
05:57You know that we told you that we were both trying.
06:00You said you wanted to have two at the same time.
06:02Yeah, yeah.
06:03What do you think of us having two more children?
06:06Just surprised, you know, at this time.
06:09To be completely honest, I think you guys should wait a little bit and be more settled.
06:14Ultimately, I know it's up to you and you're going to decide what's best for you.
06:18But that's like one of my regrets is that as I had children at a young age,
06:22there were activities that I wanted to do with you guys that I couldn't
06:28because I couldn't afford or I didn't have the help or the resources.
06:32Like, I know you're thinking everything's going to be perfect,
06:34but that's not how it always winds up.
06:35Wait a minute.
06:37There's nothing perfect.
06:38But that's all I ask is that if you're planning on more,
06:41is that you take their nurture and their well-being,
06:46mentally, emotionally in consideration because they're already here.
06:50Right.
06:50I've seen Aya develop as a parent very responsibly and I was actually, I am surprised.
06:58I would describe Kai and Dee as good parents.
07:02Honestly, the only thing I'm not too crazy about is they kind of move around a lot.
07:05Other than that, I think they are doing an amazing job.
07:09They feed the kids healthy.
07:10They're like well-kept and I really like and appreciate that as a grandmom.
07:16Okay, I'm going to go back to work, girls.
07:20Okay, goodbye.
07:22I'll call you later.
07:23All right.
07:24Okay, bye-bye.
07:26What do you guys hope people learn from you guys sharing your story?
07:29We hope that people learn that, for one, we are not an 18-year-old homeless couple.
07:36We are now adults that have live and learn.
07:39We cannot change the past, but we just have to move on in life.
07:42We hope the future holds a lot of success, joy,
07:45more happiness into our family and more children, of course.
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