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27-YEAR-OLD stay-at-home mum Sharnae had four children by the age of 19 - and now has a grand total of seven. She became a teen mum when she had her first child at just 16 years old, which at the time was "definitely a shock" - not just for her but also for her mum Veronica and sister Naomi. Despite this, Sharnae went on to have another child a year later and then twins just after that - making her a teen mum of four before she turned 20. Now running a bustling household of seven children with the help of her partner Romario, Sharnae posts about her experiences as a young mum on social media - but she has received a real backlash, with comments like: "Maybe you should have kept your legs closed" and "This is shameful. That many kids at your age?" Luckily Sharnae's support system has given her the confidence to shake off any criticisms that come her way - and even though mum Veronica was "very disappointed" when she first found out her daughter was pregnant at 16, she is now one of Sharnae's fiercest supporters. But with Sharnae considering the possibility of adding another child to her family in the future, how will the news go down when she confides in her mum and sister? Will they support her again, or will this be one child too many?

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Credits:
Videographer: Marcus Hessenberg
Series Producer: Kim Nguyen
Producer: Tom Buckman
Casting Producer: Courtney Buabeng
Editor: Helen McKee

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Transcript
00:00I had four children by the age of 19 and now I have seven.
00:04I get comments like maybe you should have kept your legs closed.
00:07This is shameful, that many kids at your age.
00:09Becoming a teen mum at 16 was definitely a shock.
00:13My mum was devastated when she found out.
00:15I was very disappointed and I was thinking that because of her age
00:18she might not be able to give them what they need
00:21because she was still a child herself.
00:22I don't know if my mum and sister know that I want to have more children
00:25and I'm really nervous because I want to talk to them
00:27about the potential thought of having another baby.
00:30How would you guys feel if I was to have another baby?
00:37Kids are starving right now.
00:38They are hungry every morning.
00:40That's the first thing they want, breakfast.
00:42So I'm doing the five kids first and then I'll do the babies.
00:45I tend to feed them together.
00:47So how many kids have we got in here?
00:49We've got seven kids all together.
00:51Guys, breakfast time.
00:53Hurry up, come on.
00:55This is Kazea.
00:57She's my eldest.
00:58She's 10 years old.
00:59We've got the twins.
01:01Isaac and Isaiah.
01:03Yeah.
01:04We've got Jeremiah.
01:07And then we've got Saraya Nicole.
01:09And we've got Azari.
01:11And then we've got Kehlani Ray.
01:13This is my partner.
01:15He's very camera shy.
01:17And then my brother Ezreal.
01:19Hello, hello.
01:20And I'm mum.
01:22My house is very chaotic.
01:26It can get very noisy, but it's full of love and I wouldn't change it for the world.
01:30My kids are very loud.
01:32I don't even speak.
01:34You're loud.
01:35You're not loud.
01:36No.
01:37It's passionate.
01:38It's passionate.
01:39It's passionate.
01:40So in the morning the kids will get up, brush their teeth, have a shower, come down for
01:44their breakfast.
01:45And then they'll probably go straight on their tablets for Sunday, so we tend to do some
01:49homework, do some uniform prep.
01:51And yeah, it's quite a busy day.
01:54Once the kids are in bed by 6.30, I will, yeah, 6.30, that's when I get me time.
02:00All right, upstairs, let's go, let's go.
02:02What are you doing?
02:03Why are you walking somewhere like this?
02:05So this is the boys' room.
02:07I had to get a triple bunk bed to make use of the space.
02:09Are you happy with your beds?
02:11Yeah.
02:12I was 16 years old when I fell pregnant with my first child.
02:17Being a mum at 16 is definitely very overwhelming.
02:20I was very overwhelmed.
02:21I'm still a child myself.
02:23Having my first child, I felt a lot of judgement from others.
02:27I felt embarrassed.
02:28I felt like I let my mum down.
02:30It wasn't a nice feeling.
02:31I was very scared to tell my mum, so I spoke with my sister.
02:34I wrote a message to my mum on Facebook and I said to her, like, it was a paragraph of
02:39me explaining how much I love her and how she's so lovely and she's not any less of a mother.
02:44And then I told her I was pregnant and all I got was seen.
02:48No response.
02:50Look, you draw me on this side and you draw me on this side and don't make my head look big.
02:53When she came home, she didn't speak to me.
02:56She stayed in her room.
02:57We didn't have any conversation.
02:59And then eventually my mum came upstairs and she literally said to me, so, are you not
03:05going to speak?
03:06I said, about what?
03:07And she's like, what's in this?
03:10And immediately after that she gave me a hug.
03:13So that made me feel like she was going to support me.
03:16Isaiah?
03:17What?
03:18Who's that supposed to be?
03:19Me.
03:20Me?
03:21That does not look like me.
03:22That does not look like me.
03:24That does not look like me.
03:25Do you like having a boys' room?
03:27Yeah.
03:28What do you like about a boys' room?
03:30We like about a boys' room.
03:32If all the walls were split and then I'd probably be scared.
03:35Because we don't like monsters.
03:37You don't like monsters?
03:39No?
03:40Are there monsters under the bed?
03:41No.
03:42I hope not.
03:43So this is the girls' room.
03:46Hello.
03:47Hello.
03:48I wanted to give my daughter a double bed because she's going to high school.
03:52So she needed that space and then Soraya's at the top.
03:55Are you drawing?
03:57I'm proud of you, Kazelle.
04:00She shows me that I'm doing a good job because she really does help with her siblings.
04:05Like, she genuinely helps them.
04:07Like, when it comes to school, she helps them in the morning.
04:09Like, she tells them, like, guys, remember, you brush this way when you're brushing your
04:12teeth or she will guide them with how to do their laces instead of doing it.
04:16These are orange.
04:17Orange.
04:18So this is the baby's room.
04:19This is the smallest room in the house.
04:21It's like a very small box room.
04:23We've got Azari in this bed and then we've got Kalani in this bed.
04:26Are we going to change your nappy?
04:28Because your smell.
04:29So I have three baby dads.
04:31I had one child for the first dad.
04:34I had four for the second.
04:36And my current partner right now, we have two children together.
04:39Me and Mario, we've always known each other.
04:42We would talk online.
04:43So around 2021, you know, we just started talking a bit more.
04:48He was coming over a bit more.
04:49He was playing with the kids.
04:51He made me feel like, okay, let's go to the park with the kids.
04:54He would come to my house and bring nappies and he would just do things that I never asked.
04:58And I instantly like fell in love with him for that.
05:08Two.
05:09Now we can start cleaning.
05:13So in my TikTok videos, I post a lot of voice overs and I do a lot of clean with me's.
05:19I'm going to organise the boys wardrobe with me.
05:22After I've done my video, I'll try and trim it down to about three minutes.
05:25And I'm going to start my voice over.
05:27In this video, I'm going to be tidying up the baby's room.
05:30The baby's room looks very messy.
05:32The kids were playing up and down all day today.
05:34So there's a lot of things that I need to do.
05:36When I first started, I got quite a few hate comments.
05:40I mean, I still do sometimes.
05:42I get comments like, maybe you should have kept your legs closed.
05:45Why don't you use contraception?
05:47This is shameful.
05:48That many kids at your age.
05:49And then I've got any fathers knocking about.
05:52The benefit check of my tax must be good.
05:54I'm not going to lie.
05:55It used to really bother me.
05:56I used to cry about it.
05:58They used to just have such an input on my life.
06:00Now I'm like, you know what?
06:01Say whatever you have to say.
06:03Cuss me out.
06:04Just give me a comment, whatever.
06:05It's helping me.
06:06It's paying me.
06:07People are going to say things no matter what.
06:08It's not going to change my kids.
06:09It's not going to change how I parent them.
06:11My mum and my sister are going to be coming over today.
06:14Hello.
06:15And I'm looking forward to that.
06:16They always help me with the kids.
06:18Hi!
06:19Hey!
06:20Hello princess!
06:22It definitely takes a village to raise a child.
06:25Without my support system, genuinely, I don't know where I would be.
06:29How many grandkids all together then?
06:30So we've got...
06:3124 mum!
06:32You've got 24!
06:33That's so greedy.
06:34How greedy!
06:36How did you feel when you found out I was pregnant at 16?
06:41I didn't like you.
06:42I was very disappointed.
06:44To be honest, I felt wounded.
06:46I felt like...
06:47I can't explain.
06:48I felt like I'd lost you.
06:50And I was thinking that because she was...
06:53Because of her age, she might not be able to give them what they need
06:56because she was still a child herself.
06:58Yeah.
06:59But she proved us wrong.
07:01I remember her coming and saying to me...
07:03And I was like, oh my gosh, you're pregnant.
07:06Like, oh my dear, oh my dear.
07:08God works in mysterious ways because I feel that the way me and her relationship was prior
07:12to having Kazaya.
07:13Had she not had Kazaya, I don't think we'd be like this now.
07:17Because she was different.
07:19I told you you'd be best friends when you got older.
07:22I'm open to having another child.
07:25I don't know if my mum and sister know that I want to have more children
07:28and I'm really nervous because I want to talk to them about the potential thought
07:32of having another baby.
07:34How would you guys feel if I was to have another baby after marriage?
07:40One's not going to make no difference.
07:42I was going to say, you've got like...
07:44It's going to be shocking.
07:45I know, I just thought you guys were being happy because I know of it.
07:48I'm so used to it now.
07:49Absolutely not.
07:50So you're happy with the kids I've got you?
07:52I do.
07:53I love my grandkids.
07:54I'll always support her.
07:55I don't agree with her most times, but I love my grandkids, so I'll always support her.
07:59She has been looking after children from she was 12 because her older siblings have
08:03always had children, so I've never been actually worried about her looking after kids.
08:07There'll be a lot of young girls out there today who are going to be in your situation
08:10and they're going to get the same stigma that you get.
08:13And I feel you telling your story is going to help a lot of others.
08:16And just because you've got seven children, I don't see why that wouldn't make me proud
08:21of you.
08:22It doesn't make sense.
08:23I was saying keep it up.
08:24Proud of you're a racist.
08:25Proud of you're a racist.
08:26Having kids don't...
08:27It doesn't change anything.
08:28Guys!
08:29Come downstairs.
08:30It's a stair gate.
08:31Good girl.
08:32I hope one day that my kids, you know, come out of school and
08:36you know, have their education and basically, you know, just do well for themselves.
08:43I can't even do it.
08:48I wouldn't mind going back into work, but whilst I have so many young kids now, being
08:53a stay-at-home mum now, it just works best for me.
08:57I'm super excited for my future with my kids because I just know that we're going to make
09:06it.
09:07I just see it.
09:08I just have really good hope and faith that we're going to make it and that they're going
09:12to see that this was all worth it.
09:27Perfect.
09:28Now we've got his Therapy right?
09:29I loved our substance and we need to maintain
09:45some more problems and work.
09:46ygrap
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