00:00I was a pregnant dad with twins at 19.
00:02What makes daddy special?
00:03Having a baby with us.
00:05I am 39 and 2.
00:07I recently gave birth to another baby girl and now I'm a trans dad to three kids.
00:12People accuse me of lying about my pregnancies.
00:14They couldn't believe I was a man carrying a child.
00:17I've had comments saying, it's so funny, I'm sorry,
00:20that my pregnant belly was AI and that my baby was a reborn doll.
00:25When I came out to my parents as transgender at 16, they were shocked.
00:28I think they were hoping it was a phase.
00:30I was angry.
00:31It didn't make sense.
00:31Surely you knew that something was going on.
00:42Can I have a plate, ma'am?
00:43No.
00:44Okay, thanks.
00:47My name is Aiden.
00:48I was assigned female at birth.
00:51I was pregnant at 19 with twins and I just gave birth to another baby.
00:56This is Quinn.
00:59This is Carter.
01:01We've got Claire, his mom, and we have baby Cove.
01:05She's having a good nap.
01:08I would describe my family as any typical family.
01:11We're just like everyone else.
01:12Who is this?
01:15She's your baby what?
01:17You're a great big sister, aren't you?
01:19Yeah.
01:19Quinn's kind of shy.
01:22Carter is very outgoing.
01:23She's Miss Personality.
01:26And Cove is just the perfect balance between the two of them.
01:30She's a very easy baby.
01:32Say good morning.
01:35Before my transition, I just felt very lost.
01:38Growing up, we didn't really talk about gender.
01:41It wasn't something that we ever discussed in our family.
01:43But when I found out you could be transgender, I felt like I fit in that box.
01:48How old were you when you first came out to your parents?
01:50I was 16.
01:51The initial reaction was not good.
01:54Just wasn't having it.
01:54I was 18 when I first started hormone treatment.
01:56They were not on board with that at all.
01:58And I think that made it like real for them.
02:00You know, I think they were hoping it was a phase.
02:03I realized I wanted to have children early on.
02:08I got pregnant with the twins doing IUI, which stands for interuterine insemination.
02:12I didn't know I was having two babies.
02:14It was very scary and overwhelming at first because I was young.
02:18And I could barely keep myself alive.
02:20And then I was suddenly responsible for not one, but two babies.
02:24Do you like to go to Pride, girls?
02:25Yes, go again.
02:27Yes, go again.
02:29Pride is super important in our family.
02:31It's full of love.
02:32And we want our kids to know that they're loved no matter what.
02:36What makes Daddy special?
02:37Having a baby in the belly.
02:39All the daddies can have babies, but they can't because it's only special.
02:44Yes, that's true.
02:45Were you in Daddy's belly or were you in Mommy's belly?
02:50Yeah.
02:52We don't really believe in gender-specific toys.
02:55We kind of just let them gravitate towards whatever their interests are in.
02:58Did he get burned in battle?
03:00Yeah, we lost his sword.
03:02He lost his sword?
03:03Oh, yeah.
03:04Even with clothes.
03:05Like Quinn.
03:06Quinn has boxers.
03:07Quinn literally has boxers.
03:09Oh, he's going to have a big load.
03:11Uh-oh.
03:11It's too heavy.
03:12Oh!
03:13My turn.
03:18I met Claire.
03:18We were working at Starbucks together.
03:20We kind of just became friends at first, and our relationship just took off from there.
03:26Okay, come on.
03:27We're going to pick out Coven outfit.
03:28How did the twins react to her joining the family?
03:30The twins reacted really well to Claire.
03:32I was very open and honest from the beginning about wanting to have another baby.
03:35When we got closer to the two-year mark, we decided to, like, discuss what it would take
03:39and how adding another baby would fit into our family.
03:42The twins were about to turn four, and we decided, let's just go ahead and do it.
03:46You like that one?
03:47Okay, that's a good choice.
03:48What do you like, Quinnie?
03:50This.
03:52I think it's a little bit too cold for that one, but it is very pretty.
03:56When you became pregnant with Coven, how did you explain your pregnancy to the twins?
04:00They just reacted completely normal.
04:02They just think that daddy is daddy and daddy can have babies.
04:06Does it make you happy?
04:07Do you love baby Tissy?
04:08Yeah.
04:09Yeah.
04:09They were super excited.
04:10They were, like, screaming, you have a baby in your belly.
04:12Like, it was great.
04:13It was awesome.
04:14Can you tell me some of your favorite things about being a big sister?
04:17I like to play with her and dress her up.
04:20I like changing your diaper.
04:25Seeing my body become more feminine during the pregnancy was really hard.
04:28This time, when I had the baby, I had already had my breasts removed,
04:33so that in and of itself was easier, but I lost my whole beard.
04:37It still is not grown back.
04:39Even though I opted into having a pregnancy, you know, I still feel how I feel as a person,
04:44and watching that version of myself fade away was really hard.
04:48I originally started posting online about being trans and pregnant when I had the twins.
04:54I just woke up.
04:55I am five days post C-section.
04:59The postpartum, like, hormone drop.
05:01It hit me pretty hard.
05:02The reactions, you know, there was a few good ones.
05:06We're going to the pool.
05:07But 90, 95% of them were bad.
05:09I mean, people were saying horrible, awful things.
05:12This is an adjustment period, okay?
05:13And I'm trying my best out here.
05:15At first, it was so upsetting.
05:19Now it's, like, funny to me that people go out of their way to be unkind and nasty to me,
05:23because I'm just a typical dad.
05:26Someone said, who's going to be your kid's dad?
05:28Obviously, we're in a typical situation.
05:32So, you know, he is the dad, and I'm the mom.
05:35Someone said, confused generation.
05:38When I met Aiden, he was 100% sure this is what he wanted to do.
05:41He wanted to have a family.
05:42I'm anything but confused.
05:44The most commented thing on every single video was that poor baby or those poor kids.
05:49And it is the farthest thing from the truth.
05:53Our family is just a little different.
05:55But, you know, we still do all the normal things.
05:57Our kids are loved and great, and they have great lives.
06:01Positive feedback, people online commenting,
06:04this is all they needed to see to let them know that this was possible.
06:07I wish I had a dad like you.
06:09That's what I'm talking about.
06:10I mean, that's the ultimate goal.
06:12That's the highest compliment you can get as a parent.
06:16My mom's coming over to visit today,
06:18and we're going to discuss how my transition made her feel and our relationship today.
06:23Hi, baby.
06:23Hi.
06:24It was, I was very upset when you told me you wanted to transition.
06:31I was angry.
06:32I didn't understand it.
06:33I thought it was made up.
06:34And in my mind, I had a vision for your life.
06:38No way did you become a transgender.
06:40Did that ever fit into my vision?
06:44It was challenging to me.
06:45Yeah.
06:45I was afraid for you.
06:46It all makes sense.
06:47Yeah, especially now that I'm a parent, I understand.
06:50When it comes down to like, this is my child.
06:53And then I realized, oh, you're the same person you've always been.
06:59You know?
07:00And I could see that you were happy.
07:03And I never want anything more than for my child to be happy.
07:06I deeply regret the way I reacted.
07:09How did you feel when I told you I was a pregnant dad at 19?
07:13Honestly, I was pumped.
07:14I was so excited.
07:17Your life is beautiful.
07:18It's turned out better than I ever could have imagined.
07:21I think you are a wonderful father.
07:24And I also think that these girls have a really good life.
07:28And that's because of you and Claire.
07:30But I'm so proud of you.
07:32I love you, mama.
07:33I love you too, baby.
07:42I'm going to show her why.
07:43Is there anything that you'd like to say to other trans dads out there?
07:47To other trans dads, we are a team.
07:49And I feel like it's important for us to stick together and be a united front.
07:53And show people that we're going to continue to be ourselves no matter what.
07:56A message I have for people who still choose to judge me is I feel sorry for you.
08:03Because our family is very happy and very content.
08:06And we all love each other very much.
08:08And anything you say or do couldn't take that away from us.
08:12I'm very excited to see what the future holds for our family.
08:15And we're always going to be proud of our kids no matter what.
08:18Yeah, they have the freedom to be who they want to be.
08:20And we'll always be there for them.
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