00:00I'm LaJoy.
00:01My name is Rachel.
00:02We're Polly and we're looking for a male partner
00:05to join our relationship.
00:07I'm masculine presenting and bisexual,
00:10so I often get judged for that.
00:11I've never gotten the backlash that I've gotten
00:13with posting about us being Polly.
00:15Why are y'all together?
00:17Like, this doesn't make sense.
00:18Just drop each other and go find a man,
00:20each of y'all individually.
00:22People are like, okay, something is obviously
00:24off in this relationship.
00:26We're going to be going on a date with a guy.
00:29I'm very nervous about the guy.
00:31Being able to be a third to a femme
00:34and a masculine presenting woman.
00:38I was a dancer and Rachel was a chipper.
00:42I just saw this gorgeous woman over there from a distance.
00:46She's like doing her tricks.
00:48And then on top of that, when I started to walk toward her,
00:51she flashed a smile.
00:52The conversation was so good.
00:54I'm like, let's actually go on a date.
00:56We became an official couple within a few months of that.
01:00We introduced Polly and our relationship from the onset.
01:04Like some of the first conversations that we had,
01:06we just said, this is something that we are interested in.
01:09We haven't looked back.
01:11We're looking for a male partner
01:13to join us in our relationship.
01:15Most of our interactions with men have been
01:17just online dating and nothing really in person.
01:20So this would be the first time that we're in person
01:23with a guy that we are potentially interested in.
01:26I am a bit nervous.
01:28I'm a lot more nervous than Rachel.
01:31My brother Tyrese is gonna come over today
01:33and help us get ready for the date.
01:35My initial thoughts about Rachel,
01:36I didn't know at first.
01:37I was kind of iffy about it.
01:38She was kind of like different from the previous people
01:41I've known my sister to deal with.
01:42For me, I believe that two people
01:44can make a relationship work
01:45and just add another person
01:46will kind of just confuse things a little bit.
01:48Just not for me.
01:49So we got this date.
01:52We have a blind date.
01:55Who with who?
01:56That's the thing, it's blind.
01:58We don't know.
01:59We don't know who it is.
01:59But it's a guy.
02:00It is a guy.
02:01A guy?
02:02Yes.
02:03It's a guy.
02:04Why are you looking at me like that?
02:04Why are you looking at me first?
02:07I know it is probably a shocker date.
02:09That would be a surprise.
02:11I'm very surprised.
02:12Tell me why he's surprised.
02:13It'll be kind of different.
02:14You know, I'm used to y'all really like dating females.
02:17So seeing y'all with a guy,
02:19you have to go through my approval first.
02:21Okay, Tyrese, the guy is not playing.
02:24Maybe going to blind date route
02:25will help us find somebody that we both like.
02:27Because usually we meet people
02:29in more of a biased situation.
02:30Like they first come to me or they first come to her.
02:33So the fact that we're going in
02:35and somebody see both of us at the same time,
02:37this might be fun.
02:38Well, whatever makes y'all happy,
02:39you know, it'll make me happy as well.
02:41So.
02:42Thank you, Tyrese.
02:43I don't want you to feel like
02:44this is just something that we're doing just today.
02:46Like this is actually a long-term commitment for us.
02:49All right.
02:50Y'all looking good.
02:51We are cleaned.
02:52Oh, the fist came together.
02:54Fist came together.
02:55Cheers, y'all.
02:57Blessing of.
02:57Cheers.
02:59All right, I'm happy for y'all
03:00and good luck on y'all date tonight.
03:02Thank you, Tyrese.
03:03Appreciate it, man.
03:04This is an absolutely blind date.
03:06We haven't seen pictures.
03:07We haven't messaged.
03:08We haven't talked on the phone.
03:09And don't go playing with my liquor cap.
03:11What?
03:11You don't know anything.
03:12Yeah, we are blind.
03:14I'm very nervous about the confidence of a guy
03:17being able to be a third to a fem
03:20and a masculine presenting woman.
03:22I haven't felt like this nervous since our first date.
03:26Well, I'm Steven.
03:27I'm 41 years old.
03:29Sort of kind of my first time dating two women.
03:32Nowadays, you can't be conservative.
03:34You might miss out on some good or some fun
03:36or something that can change your life.
03:38Who knows?
03:39So I got to ask you, do I pass the eye test?
03:42Yeah.
03:43That honestly wasn't even our concern either.
03:46Well, I got my teeth made, and they ain't gold.
03:48So.
03:49What's your dating life been like?
03:50It's been terrible.
03:51What about yours?
03:52I mean, I honestly landed something really great.
03:55So, who are you in terms of extending to a third person?
03:59You know, that's our main concern.
04:01As a poly couple, we still have boundaries.
04:04We still have rules.
04:05Even though we're poly,
04:06this doesn't mean that this is okay to cheat
04:10or you're looking for a partner.
04:11It's okay to go to this guy.
04:13We have to choose this person together.
04:15We are a team in all aspects.
04:18So question, the biggest question.
04:20Yeah.
04:21Have you ever dated a poly couple?
04:23I have not, but obviously I know all about it.
04:26Got transgender family member friends,
04:28bisexual family member friends.
04:30I don't care about that, if you happy.
04:33I think the only but would be,
04:35how would you feel about walking into a room
04:38with you out on another date?
04:39It'll be exactly.
04:40Someone would cast a judgment on you coming in
04:42with a masculine woman.
04:44Wide ass women though.
04:46I don't really care what other folks think about me.
04:49I mean, I do, but it's like.
04:51I have dated women.
04:53I have dated men in my life and I've posted
04:56and I've never gotten the backlash that I've gotten
04:58with posting about us being poly.
05:00The response can range from people who were like,
05:03I love this for y'all.
05:04Y'all doing what's best for you.
05:06Keep going all the way to extreme haters.
05:08Like, why are y'all together?
05:10Like, this doesn't make sense.
05:11Just drop each other and go find a man.
05:14Each of y'all individually.
05:16People will automatically put a label on her
05:18because she's been a dancer.
05:19They think that she's only doing things
05:21that are materially motivated,
05:23but they don't know her as a person.
05:25Me being masculine and liking men,
05:27people are like, okay, something is obviously off
05:29in this relationship.
05:31She likes to let the haters hate.
05:33And I'm like, we're gonna stop the hater in their tracks.
05:36That's me.
05:37You gotta tell us what was your first impressions
05:39walking up or seeing us.
05:42I'm not gonna, well, you want the truth?
05:45Yes, we gave you the truth.
05:47Okay, I'll tell you.
05:49So in the South, we love big girls.
05:51I'm gonna just say that.
05:54I ain't saying that to be disrespectful.
05:56I'm just saying that I was like.
06:03I think it went good.
06:05I was nervous for nothing.
06:07I think the date went very well.
06:09He was a super nice guy.
06:10Very easy to talk to.
06:12It went good, man.
06:13A lot of chemistry.
06:15I enjoyed it.
06:16I really did.
06:16I thought it was a good looking guy.
06:18I think his smile was gorgeous.
06:20Physically, I thought it was nice.
06:22What about you?
06:26Thoughts?
06:28Oddly, he was more so attracted to you.
06:32Oddly.
06:32Oddly.
06:33No, it's even.
06:34You don't never want to do that
06:36with any woman or man, though.
06:38It's even, man.
06:39I think it was a mutual.
06:40I think it was mutual.
06:42You think so?
06:43Yeah.
06:44Okay.
06:44You can tell that they're one.
06:46They speak as one and think as one.
06:47So that just makes it just like a normal date.
06:51I think we're gonna save the game.
06:53Sooner or better, actually.
06:55They'll probably be making more decisions than me.
07:00I mean, it exceeded my expectations,
07:02but I intentionally went in with a very low bar
07:04because I didn't want to be disappointed.
07:06But I mean, it's just like, wow.
07:07This was like really great.
07:09This was way better than I could have expected,
07:12even in terms of judging what a good date would look like.
07:14So I'm very happy.
07:15Yeah, I was very nervous.
07:18So I went in with like a really low bar,
07:20but I was nervous because I felt like
07:22you exceeded my expectation.
07:27To the people that post judgment
07:29on the lifestyle that we live together,
07:31I would say that it doesn't bother us.
07:34We're gonna continue to live our lives
07:36the way we want to live them.
07:38And if that means adding a third male or a female,
07:41we're going to do whatever our hearts desire together.
07:44Yeah, if you are gonna mind our business,
07:46then hopefully you can find some inspiration.
07:49Hopefully you will see the love.
07:50Judgment doesn't stop our love.
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