"I have multiple partners - I'm non-monogamous but it's not an excuse to cheat" - video Dailymotion

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A woman often has multiple partners at once but insists non-monogamy isn't an excuse to cheat.  Kenna Bethany, 26, says the idea of being with just one person for the rest of her life "doesn't appeal" to her and some people "aren't built for being monogamous".   Instead she believes in having multiple partners and has dated multiple people at once throughout her adult life by being upfront and honest with them from the get go.   Kenna claims a common misconception is that non-monogamy is primarily a sexual thing - but insists it's "not a free for all".   She is currently single and says friends respect her lifestyle but she hasn't explained it to family yet.

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00:00First of all, what is non-monogamy? A lot of people use the term polyamory, which I also

00:04use occasionally, but for me, for my own personal definition, I've always thought

00:09of polyamory as being multiple romantic partners, as opposed to my non-monogamy,

00:16in which I would probably have one romantic relationship, which I've prioritised above

00:20all others, but I am not monogamous to that person. I might see other people

00:26casually. If that's not your cup of tea, I'll have already lost you at this point,

00:29but I will go on. When did I realise I was non-monogamous? I knew that I was not comfortable

00:33in a monogamous relationship when I had my first one, when I was 14. I just didn't feel

00:37like it was right. I first started moving non-monogamously when I was about 15, 16.

00:43I was seeing two boys in my year at school, and I just told both of them I'm also seeing

00:48him, is that okay? I do think that my neurodivergence potentially contributes to

00:51my relationship with relationships, because I don't perceive the social norm as having

00:57to be the correct move. The way in which it's worked for my own relationships is that me and

01:03my partner, we come up with a list of what we call parameters. This has always been the case

01:06in my relationships, of things that we're comfortable with the other person doing,

01:10things that we're not comfortable with the other person doing, and these are constantly to be

01:13revisited or amended if things aren't working. Do I find it difficult to find other non-monogamous

01:18or poly people today? Yes, I do. Don't you get jealous? Yes, I do get jealous. If I'm

01:23emotionally attached, of course I can get jealous, and I very much do, unfortunately. But I made a

01:29video about that once, and someone commented something in that people who are non-monogamous

01:34who experience jealousy, generally what it is, is that they are missing having one of their

01:39needs met. So if it's like, oh, I'm jealous that you're off with such and such, is it that I need

01:44more attention? Is it that I need more reassurance? Is it that I need more compliments, or more of

01:48your time, or more physical touch? It's a need that's not being met. Would you be monogamous

01:52for the right person? No. Do you think you'll always be non-monogamous? Yes.

"I have multiple partners - I'm non-monogamous but it's not an excuse to cheat"

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