00:00This is Katie, she fell in love with Ness and they fell in love with Kaylee.
00:07We fell in love with our maid of honour.
00:09People have judgements about us because we're a throuple.
00:11Usually it's just like gross, disgusting, wrong.
00:15We just want to love one another and live our lives.
00:18Our friend Christina is coming over.
00:20When I first had the first conversation with her where I officially was like, hey yeah
00:24we are all together, we're called a throuple.
00:26That was hard and I don't know why.
00:28I don't think I could share the person I love.
00:31It's definitely not for me.
00:34So this is our king bed.
00:36This is mine, furthest from the door.
00:38And I'm in the middle.
00:39Jason's in the middle.
00:40And I'm on this side, closest to the door.
00:42The reality is that at night, me and Kaylee actually share a blanket and Katie gets her
00:46own because she is- I hog the blanket a lot and I roll.
00:50We met at the job we were working at.
00:52We were working at a daycare and pretty quickly fell in love.
00:56We've been together for about seven years now.
00:58We met Kaylee when she started working at the same daycare that we had met at.
01:02I was attracted to Kaylee right off the bat.
01:04I don't know, you would walk in and I would just stare at you for a second and I was like
01:09no, okay, this is wrong.
01:10Every time you walk in I would get nervous and make sure I look okay, try to impress
01:16you a little bit.
01:17Me and Katie got married in 2021.
01:20Kaylee was our maid of honor.
01:22Sometimes it's funny when I'm referring to the wedding and stuff, I'll accidentally say
01:27our wedding.
01:28And then I'm like, your wedding.
01:31From the start, I was very attracted to them as people, as my best friends.
01:36I saw the possibility of us becoming a thing.
01:39None of us informalized it to one another.
01:42I definitely knew that I was having feelings and pushing them away.
01:45That I just kind of was like, yeah, I think I need to say something.
01:49So we had our conversation.
01:52You coming to me and saying what you had feelings for Kaylee, I kind of had already known and
01:56inside I was also feeling something.
01:57I also have feelings for Kaylee.
01:59It felt weird to like say it out loud and not only to say it out loud, but like to agree
02:03with one another.
02:04Like we both have feelings for our best friends.
02:06Like where do we go from here?
02:09What do we do?
02:11So Kaylee had joined us in Disney World in November of 2022.
02:16We were there with another one of our friends and it felt more intimate.
02:20It felt more romantic.
02:21We were just like flirting left and right, really like affectionate, like all over each
02:25other.
02:26And we just like kept going with it.
02:27I think at one point, like me and you had like gone into a bathroom or something and
02:30I was like, what's happening?
02:31She's doing it back.
02:32Do you think this means what I think it means?
02:35And like, you were like, yeah, I think so.
02:37I was like, maybe we should talk now, like here.
02:41And I remember you were like, no, let's not ruin the trip.
02:44And I was like, no, like I really think we should talk now.
02:46And we, and we did.
02:48So we had sent our friend to bed and we said, go to bed, Tina.
02:52You joined us in our room and we stayed up till 2 a.m. just like talking.
02:56I think that Katie definitely caught me by surprise.
02:59I feel like with Ness, we connect really well.
03:04I think with Katie, me and her have always just been like really like girly, like best
03:09friends, like type of thing.
03:10At the time, I didn't ever really have like a really girly feminine partner.
03:16So I was just like, oh, okay.
03:18So like that was, that was something different for me to navigate.
03:21But it was very natural for us because we already had that dynamic going for us of the
03:25three of us being always together.
03:28I think the most common judgment that we kind of get is like looks and confusion, confusion,
03:34like even talking with our families.
03:37Sometimes our family members will throw in the like, wife, you're married, you're not.
03:42Since being online, we've certainly gotten some comments.
03:46Usually it's just like those like single word comments, like gross, disgusting, wrong.
03:51Or like people lean into like their religious views or things like that.
03:55We just have to be okay with like laughing it off.
03:57I personally feel like the positive outshines the negative.
04:00So far, yeah, the positive has been great.
04:02Even just in like the comment sections and stuff, like we've seen people just be like,
04:06thank you so much for sharing your story.
04:07Like you've helped me open up to my friend that I have feelings for.
04:12Our friend Christina is coming over to chat with us a little bit about our relationship
04:18and the trip that she was on with us.
04:20I remember when I first had the first conversation with her, where I officially was like, hey,
04:24yeah, like we are all together, like we're called the throuple.
04:27And that was hard.
04:28And I don't know why.
04:29I have known Ness for a very, very, very long time.
04:32So I wasn't surprised at all when I found out that Kaylee was joining their relationship.
04:36I was very fearful of judgment.
04:39I was very worried about how people would perceive the relationship.
04:43How did you feel on the trip?
04:46So there were a lot of times where I felt a little like left out.
04:52Ness was like shoving Kaylee out of the way for guys staring at her.
04:55And I'm like, why am I not like being shoved out of the way for guys staring at her?
05:00I didn't really understand.
05:01But obviously, now that I know like what's going on, I totally understand why.
05:06And now I understand why there was always a fight on who's sitting with who on rides.
05:10I want to sit with her.
05:11I want to sit with her.
05:12Oh, fine.
05:13I'll sit with Tina.
05:14I'll sit with Tina.
05:15I'll sit with Tina.
05:16I wanted to say that, you know?
05:17Well, maybe I want to sit with her.
05:18No.
05:19No, you can't sit with my girl.
05:22Fine.
05:23Get out of here.
05:24I have always struggled with jealousy issues.
05:27So that would definitely be the absolute hardest part for me.
05:30I don't think I could share the person I love.
05:32I don't know how you guys do it.
05:34We get that a lot.
05:35We do.
05:36I can never share.
05:37I feel like that's like very typical for like monogamous couples.
05:40They're always like, oh, I don't like think I could share and like, I mean, neither did
05:45we.
05:46Yeah.
05:47I feel like at this point, we don't really consider it like sharing.
05:50Yeah.
05:51It's just like us.
05:52Yeah.
05:53Like, I love you.
05:54I love you.
05:55That's normal.
05:56Cool.
05:57Yeah.
05:58But it's definitely not something that's for me.
06:00How did you feel like, so the day that I told you.
06:03I was like a little surprised, but I really wasn't.
06:06And I was a little bit nervous because like, all I've ever wanted is for you guys to be
06:11like happy and safe.
06:13Being in a throuple is not something that like you see very often or you hear about
06:17very often.
06:18So I was just worried about how people were going to perceive you.
06:21People are mean.
06:22And it's a scary world too.
06:24I mean, like, we've seen it like in our travels a little bit, like the culture shifts and
06:29changes that we encounter in other countries, like, yeah, we could run into really like
06:34dangerous scenarios.
06:35Like, not only are we women, not only are we lesbians, but we are in a three way polyamorous
06:44relationship and like it could get us into certain scenarios.
06:48I mean, it's really sad because like there's a bunch of countries and places that like
06:51we would love to go because they're beautiful.
06:53And like, we just can't.
06:55Right.
06:56We just can't.
06:57Yeah.
06:58How do you feel about like us now as like an established like throuple?
07:01Do you see like.
07:02Do you see like how we've changed or.
07:05I feel like you guys have changed in a good way.
07:09You know, you've grown and developed as people do and you've gotten stronger as a relationship.
07:14If you have judgments about people in an alternative relationship dynamic, whether it's ours or
07:21any other type of relationship dynamic, it's good to just like really like look inside
07:26yourself and like try to figure out like why it is that you have those judgments.
07:31It's not directly harming you that we're together, that we're in love.
07:36In the near future, we are looking to get a house.
07:40We want to plant some roots somewhere.
07:42Yeah.
07:43Yeah.
07:44And babies.
07:45And start our family once we plant our roots.
07:46Yeah.
07:47Yeah.
07:48I think that our relationship works because we have the foundation of being best friends.
07:54At the end of the day, like it doesn't matter what's going on in the world around us.
07:57I know that I can come home and I can just like drop it all at the door and just like
08:01be with you guys.
08:02Yeah.
08:03Be with my people.
08:04Right.
08:05I think it works because we love each other.
08:06Yeah.
08:07That's the simple answer.
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