00:00 This is Eli. He fell in love with Mykie. After 16 years of marriage, they both fell in love with Alida.
00:08 We're a polyamorous triad. That means three people equally in love.
00:12 I didn't realise I was bisexual until I met Alida.
00:16 Alida's mother didn't approve at first.
00:19 I kind of thought she was unhinged. I was just like, oh no, the divorce really did it in.
00:25 I became really fearful and afraid for my grandkids.
00:29 This triad face judgment when they're out in public.
00:32 I just wish that we could be seen and people wouldn't take a second glance or it to be awkward or weird.
00:41 We were at a camping event. Her and Eli walked up and introduced themselves.
00:51 It was just an instant connection and we wanted to be around each other.
00:57 We don't call ourselves a threesome or a throuple, right?
01:01 Threesome sounds like it's all about sex and a throuple to us sounds almost like a joke.
01:08 Like, oh, look at that throuple. A triad just sounds strong.
01:11 This one always looks really good on you.
01:13 There are a lot of advantages of being in a polyamorous relationship.
01:18 We're able to get a lot done in a very short amount of time.
01:21 And three incomes.
01:22 And on the cold nights, you know, three people, you're warm.
01:26 You're boiling.
01:27 It was more of a slow burn with Eli.
01:31 He was around, but he was more reserved and watched how things were going.
01:37 It took time for us to get to know each other and for that to develop into where it is now.
01:42 We get a lot of looks, a lot of weird faces or confusion.
01:46 I just wish that we could be seen and people wouldn't take a second glance or it to be awkward or weird.
01:55 We're not ashamed of our relationship.
01:57 We hold hands, we give kisses, we cuddle.
02:01 When we're out in public, it can depend on who is in the middle.
02:05 When it's him in the middle, we definitely get more response.
02:10 Look at the wildflowers in them.
02:13 Yeah, I love those.
02:15 Thank you.
02:16 You too.
02:18 Ready?
02:19 Yep.
02:20 All right, let's go home.
02:23 On Instagram, we get a lot of "lucky him" or "how do I get involved?"
02:28 Or "how do I convince my wife to do this?"
02:31 The worst comments are the "we're destroying our kids," that "we're teaching our kids horrible values and morals."
02:37 We teach our children, "you love people and you accept people for who they are."
02:42 Look at that.
02:44 Like the perfect size.
02:46 When I told my mom, she wasn't not open to it.
02:50 She just didn't understand.
02:52 It had just come out of a divorce.
02:54 She was just concerned.
02:56 When I met Alita's mom for the first time, I felt like a 14-year-old boy meeting his girlfriend's parents for the first time.
03:07 There's always a little bit of anxiety when you meet someone's parents for the first time.
03:12 How you doing?
03:13 Good.
03:14 Hi.
03:15 Hi.
03:16 How you guys doing?
03:18 Good, how are you?
03:19 Good to see you.
03:22 When she used the term "polyamorous," I was confused and pretty afraid of what that meant for her and her kids.
03:32 As she continued on in her relationship with Eli and Mikey, I tried a lot harder to understand what was going on.
03:41 I sort of got an inkling of her proclivity for having multiple partners before her divorce.
03:49 I was really taken aback by it.
03:51 I became really fearful and afraid for my grandkids.
03:55 I kind of thought she was unhinged.
03:57 I was just like, "Oh no, the divorce really did it in."
04:01 I am very happy for her being happy, and I want her to thrive.
04:08 It seems to me like she really understands what she's doing.
04:12 We don't have a lot of jealousy in the relationship.
04:15 My jealousy in the beginning came from their longevity of their relationship and trying to figure out, "Well, where do I fit into this?"
04:23 And realizing that it wasn't a "Where do I fit into this?" but now, "What are we creating as the three of us?"
04:31 The idea of loving multiple people throughout your lifetime isn't new.
04:35 It's been happening for generations over generations, and so I think this is just redefining that,
04:42 helping people understand what that can look like and mean.
04:45 Love is ever-growing. It continues to grow.
04:51 People leave nasty messages.
04:56 "You're a pervert." "There's something wrong with you."
04:58 "Yeah, that hurts." "I feel like they're hurting your feelings. They're hurting you."
05:02 People perceive us as weird as a couple because we don't follow the regular status quo.
05:09 "What the hell is she doing with that little old wrinkly ugly dude?"
05:14 "She must be cheating on him."
05:15 There's a lot of people that will bash us at any chance that they possibly can.
05:19 It's so unbelievable that she's together with me that there's no way that she's a real woman.
05:24 "There's no way this could be real, so she must be in danger."
05:27 "You're too short, and he's too big."
05:29 People just don't get it.
05:30 "He's crazy. He lost his mind. What's wrong with him?"
05:34 It never deterred me one bit.
05:36 [Music]
05:46 Interabled relationships are beautiful.
05:49 You can date somebody who's transgender and not be thought of as a weird person.
05:53 I know that it looks weird from the outside, but it just makes my little puppy heart happy.
05:58 Humans today, we are all judgmental. All I know is I love her, and she loves me.
06:05 We're just going to continue loving each other. No matter what, nothing's going to change us.
06:09 The thing I love most about Mason is how cute he is and nothing else.
06:16 [Laughter]
06:18 It doesn't matter your gender, your height, your disability.
06:23 Love is love, and love will conquer.
06:25 F*** the haters.
06:29 [Laughter]
06:32 [Music]
06:35 [Music]
06:38 [Music]
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