00:00I had no idea I could get pregnant at 14.
00:02I thought she was lying at first.
00:04I get a good bunch of hate.
00:05It's like, oh my gosh, you're 14, you're dumb, you're stupid, why would you do that?
00:09Why would you think you're infertile or couldn't get pregnant?
00:13Why wasn't the option of not having the child even a thot?
00:17I was actually shocked.
00:18I'm not ready. It was too early.
00:22We sleep together on my bed in my room.
00:24I started co-sleeping when she was about two months and I think it works best for me.
00:29My name is Grace and I am 15 years old.
00:32When I felt pregnant, I was 14 years old.
00:35Hi girl. What do you want to wear?
00:37Look at this. You want to wear this one?
00:41My daughter is Delina and she's seven months.
00:43Delina's pretty active, you know, I think she's a fast grower.
00:48She's fast paced. I mean, she wants to crawl. She wants to do a lot.
00:51I didn't think I could get pregnant because in my mind, I thought I was infertile.
00:56Now, I don't know why, but it was like, there's no way.
00:59And then also my age, I was like, now I have my period, but I was like, there's no way.
01:03So it's like, I guess I just put it in my mind.
01:05Like I'm infertile. I can't get pregnant.
01:07I was feeling so nauseous.
01:08I was like, you know what? Let me just try to take a pregnancy test.
01:11I took that and it came really fast.
01:13And then I was like, what?
01:14But because I was in disbelief, I went ahead and took the second test.
01:17When the second round of tests confirmed, I got excited and I started hoping for a girl.
01:24I went ahead and called my boyfriend at the time and he was like, what?
01:28You know, like, oh my gosh, we got to tell our mom, which I was not trying to tell our
01:32moms
01:32because I was scared, but he soon convinced me and we ended up telling our mom.
01:37But he was pretty like shocked too.
01:38My mom works third shift.
01:40And so I had to wait all the way till 12 for her to get back home.
01:43So as soon as she walks in the door, she's like, oh, you look so pretty.
01:47Why are you up?
01:48And I'm like, I didn't know I could get pregnant, but I think I'm pregnant.
01:52She was like, what?
01:53How didn't you know you could get pregnant?
01:55How are you pregnant?
01:56What?
01:57What?
01:57People around me was kind of like, what?
01:59That's crazy.
02:01But they weren't necessarily my friends.
02:03So everybody was kind of just shocked.
02:05What did you think when Grace said she was pregnant?
02:08But I didn't believe it at first until I actually seen it in real life.
02:16Like, I've really seen the belly popping.
02:18It's amazing.
02:19And the way she takes care of the baby is amazing too.
02:22I came back from school and she told all of us that she was pregnant.
02:27And I thought she was lying at first, but she showed us all the proof.
02:31But I still thought she was lying until a few months later.
02:34The birth was crazy.
02:35It gets 10 centimeters dilated and it's time to push, which was kind of scary.
02:40But I did end up getting the epidural.
02:41It comes to a point where my baby actually has a shoulder distortion and her arm gets stuck.
02:48And so like a bunch of doctors come in and they're like trying to pull out the baby.
02:52And it's this crazy thing.
02:54And I'm so overwhelmed because I can't move because like the epidural numbs you.
02:58And so I'm like, oh my gosh.
02:59And then when they finally take the baby out, she's not crying.
03:03And I'm like, oh my gosh, what's wrong with the baby?
03:06And then she starts crying eventually.
03:07But she did have to spend some time in the NICU.
03:09Now I have a routine for my mornings.
03:11I can't just lay in bed all day.
03:13Like I have to actually start to get up now.
03:15First couple of weeks was hard, the newborn.
03:17And I'm crying.
03:18And I felt like I was going crazy for a little minute.
03:21But as she grew older, I definitely started to adapt to motherhood.
03:26And I started to learn who my baby was and what she wanted and what she didn't like.
03:30And yeah, I feel like I've adapted pretty good.
03:32So we're feeding Delina mango with Carrie and then some yogurt.
03:37I feel like the biggest changes I've had to make was probably not going out as much.
03:42I used to go out a lot with people.
03:44I still do go out, but now I've got to be cautious of when I get back and, you know,
03:50when my baby goes to sleep.
03:51Me and Delina's dad are not together.
03:53My family is my biggest support, but her dad helps as well.
03:57I like hanging out with the baby a lot.
03:59We usually play on the bed, like baby games.
04:02She helps me out a lot.
04:04Like most of the times when I'm like doing something, she'll like hold her.
04:07Or just when I need some alone time, she'll like go and help me and play with her and stuff.
04:13I'm going to lay her down so I can start homeschool.
04:17Me, school, we never went together.
04:19So I decided that homeschooling was going to just be the best option.
04:23I needed something flexible if I was going to be a full-time mom.
04:28It's a little hard, but I just try to make a routine because I've learned that if I make a
04:35routine and I know when my baby goes down and when I have to put her for her nap, I
04:40like can make a schedule where I'm also able to balance my work.
04:45If I see people going to prom, you know, I'm missing kind of out on that and also getting to
04:51socialize how everybody else is getting to socialize.
04:54That's definitely something big, but I definitely knew that was going to take a toll on me if I went
04:59to school pregnant with a big stomach in middle school.
05:03So, yeah, I like it because I'm not socializing.
05:06I'm not being judged.
05:07Spend the night with me as a teen mom with a three-month-old.
05:10I always had a platform even before I gave birth.
05:13And then when my baby was born, I had posted like my body postpartum and everybody was like, what?
05:20Oh my gosh, you look so good postpartum.
05:22And I think that kind of encouraged me to start, you know, doing little get readies with me on TikTok
05:27and stuff.
05:28Get ready with me and the baby that I had at 14 years old.
05:32It was a good bunch of hate, but I was like, I'm going to put this out there for the
05:37teenage girls that are pregnant or mothers to be encouraged to just love motherhood, you know?
05:42Being a mom itself is hard, but it's just hard in general.
05:45Just being young and still being in school makes it like 10 times as hard.
05:52Okay, so I'm going to read a couple hate comments to you guys.
05:57Such a shame.
06:00Why would you think you're infertile or couldn't get pregnant?
06:04Why wasn't the option of not having the child even a thought instead of, I hope it's a girl?
06:09So basically they're saying you should have f***ed a baby.
06:12Young as heck.
06:14Fast as heck.
06:16Not even with the father.
06:17Goofy.
06:18I get a good bunch of hate.
06:20You know, it's like, oh my gosh, you're 14.
06:23You're dumb.
06:24You're stupid.
06:24Why would you do that?
06:25How does that make you guys filthy that she's getting that kind of stuff on her?
06:30I feel like even as young, we don't know much about like protecting yourself and you never learn how to
06:35do any of that.
06:37You will still get to that place.
06:39So I feel like people should end judge a book by its cover.
06:41You should not take that in like as her for like how it's supposed to be because she already know
06:46what she's doing right.
06:48And as a mother, there's nothing wrong with whatever she's doing.
06:50I don't take it personal because I'm like, okay, this is kind of funny.
06:52But I've definitely never had one that really like touched me like, oh my gosh, this hurts my feelings.
06:58I never really was like that.
07:00My friend Nova is coming over.
07:02At first when she found out I was pregnant, she was pretty shocked.
07:05Hi, how are you doing?
07:06I'm fine.
07:07How are you?
07:08So why did it take you so long for me to find out that you were pregnant and nobody told
07:13me?
07:14I just felt like you were going to judge me.
07:16And so I just didn't want you to know for a little minute because I was scared of just the
07:22judgment.
07:23I was actually shocked until I actually seen it with my eyes.
07:26Then I was like, oh, she was actually pregnant and she actually gave birth.
07:32I was like, maybe you're not ready.
07:34Maybe that was too early and I was kind of worried about your health too because something could have happened
07:42while giving birth.
07:43Was you worried when you found out you was pregnant or was you worried to become a mom?
07:47Yeah, I guess I was worried a little bit about my future.
07:51But then when the baby Ashley came, then I was like, okay, I think I got this, you know.
07:56So what struggles did you go through when you was pregnant and right after she was born?
08:01The struggles, I would say, I was just crying.
08:04I was just emotional, the hormones.
08:06And then after she was born, just having to wake up in the morning and wake up at night to
08:14feed her and take care of her.
08:16And it took a lot of my time the first couple of weeks, but I'm adapting.
08:21I think you're actually doing great.
08:23I'm actually like super surprised because at your age, not a lot of things can actually do that.
08:30And you're doing way more than a lot of moms are doing.
08:36Yeah, I'm proud of you.
08:40I'm going to definitely spoil my baby, but I also want her to be, you know, I want her to
08:47be respectful at the same time.
08:49So I want to be able to give her the life that I never had and grow her up in
08:55a way I didn't get the chance to grow up.
08:58What do you say to a 14-year-old Delina if she comes up to you and says, Mom, guess
09:03what? I'm pregnant.
09:07I would definitely be shocked and I would also question my parenting because I'm like, what did I do wrong?
09:13But I do also, I would understand things do happen and I definitely would give her my all support and,
09:18you know, see what she wants to do.
09:20Being Delina's mom definitely changed my life.
09:24Had forced me to kind of say like, you need to grow up and you need to put that aside
09:29and like value motherhood.
09:31I definitely do want more kids.
09:33I love my siblings so much, so I would definitely want more kids because I want Delina to build a
09:39bond with her sister or brother.
09:41Those who judge me, I would probably say don't judge someone before you get to know them.
09:55Who cares for me?
09:56Those who judge me, I would say well, I love, but I'm glad we all have to do.
09:57The only thing I need to think about is that your motherhood is one of the people who judge me
09:57and all of the people in the world.
09:58The only thing I want to say is that your motherhood is one of the people in a career that
09:58I want to be here.
09:58I want you to take care of the children in the world.
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