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LINDSEY is a teen mom. She had her first child at just 15 - and a year later fell pregnant with her second, aged 16. She supports herself and her kids working as a carer having recently graduated from high school. Lindsey got together with her boyfriend Clyston when she was 16, and they've now been together (on and off) for 2 years. 4 months into the relationship, Lindsey found out she was pregnant - but when Lindsey was in the early stages of her pregnancy, she ended the relationship because Clyston wasn't acting right and soon after he got sent to jail. During this time, the couple managed to rekindle their relationship whilst Clyston was in a jail cell. He told Lindsey he had learnt from his mistakes and wanted to be there for her and the baby. After 4 weeks inside, Clyston was released hoping to be sent to rehab to overcome his demons, but as he had outstanding warrants he was arrested again and sent back to jail. Lindsey was 3 months pregnant at this time. Lindsey says she has bought Clyston clothes, never missed a call, or a court date, she has always written to him and been there for him throughout his time in jail and now prison, all whilst caring for two young children and holding down a job at only age 18. Although Lindsey has faced judgement and criticism she wants to tell her story and represent the often ignored prison wife community.

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00:00I'm a teen mom with a husband in prison.
00:02Dear Lindsay, happy Valentine's Day, baby.
00:04You gave me the greatest blessing by having my son, and I thank you for that.
00:12And...
00:14So how do you know that Clisten's going to stay out of prison once he gets out?
00:19He's shown me his growth.
00:21So you believe that?
00:24When I had my first kid, I was 15.
00:27And when me and Clisten had our son, I was 16 and he was 19.
00:34They'll say, you ruined your life, you ruined your body, kids shouldn't be having kids, which
00:39is not true, because we're obviously not kids if we can have kids.
00:43In the older generation, they act like they raised us so good, but really they didn't.
00:47Like, we shouldn't be having kids?
00:49Like, y'all shouldn't have been having kids.
00:52That's my opinion about it.
00:53I go to work, I make my money, and I provide them with everything they need to live.
01:00I strive for them to have a better childhood than I had.
01:03I'm 18 and Clisten is 21.
01:06When he was home, everything was, you know, great, but without him, it's more difficult.
01:11When they sentenced him, I, um, cried, because I knew that we were only in the beginning and
01:19had a long way to go.
01:20They sentenced him to three years, a year and a half ago.
01:25I keep him up to date with our kids' lives by sending him text messages, and when he calls
01:33me, I'll talk about them, what they're doing, just to, like, let him know that they're okay.
01:38I never imagined myself being with someone who was in prison, but I did have a feeling
01:46like, it could have happened, because I've always been attracted to the mean ones.
01:51So how I met Clisten was, um, I was dating a guy he was friends with at the time, and
02:02my
02:03ex-boyfriend, I had caught him, like, cheating on me.
02:07And then, basically, to get back at him, I got with his best friends.
02:15Clisten is really calm and very laid back, but when he's around me, he's goofy.
02:21He's not really, like, he's not a bad guy.
02:24He has been away for a year and a half.
02:27He's got two months until he sees the parole board, and he should be coming home.
02:32He says that when he comes home, we are going to get married.
02:37I've written him a letter every day since he's been gone.
02:41I always, like, put on here that, like, you know, I can't wait for you to come home, and
02:46I know you're not going to be there very long, like, you got this.
02:49Some people will say, like, I would have just left him, or, like, you should just leave him,
02:54it's not worth it, like, why would you wait on someone?
02:58He's mainly worried about me finding someone else while he's in prison, and I tell him
03:04every day, like, that's not going to happen.
03:06It didn't, you know, never did.
03:09This one is one from the prison.
03:11Dear Lindsay, happy Valentine's Day, baby.
03:13I want you to know you mean the world to me.
03:15I love you with every bone in my body.
03:17My world begins and ends with you.
03:19You gave me the greatest blessing by having my son, and I thank you for that.
03:30And I had to skip some, but I love you, Lindsay, more than anything.
03:34I want you to know you are more than enough for me, and that you are all I will ever
03:38need
03:38from this life to the next.
03:40Good night.
03:40I love you, and I miss you so much.
03:42I love you to the moon and back, baby girl.
03:44P.S.
03:45I can't wait to get home, and we can't read that one.
03:49I posted this video to share, like, our last moment together.
03:53Before he left, it just, like, went big, like, overnight.
03:58And then I started getting, like, people hating, and I'm like, what is the reason for this?
04:03Someone said your boyfriend has been playing you.
04:05Stay faithful.
04:07I have been faithful.
04:09I have stayed faithful.
04:11Like, even though we may have had our ups and downs, we've always been loyal to each
04:14other, and we can always count on each other.
04:16Like, most of the judgment comes from social media.
04:19Like, you're too pretty to be in a relationship like that.
04:23Like, he can't be a good dad from prison.
04:26I basically just tell him to f*** off.
04:30Like, most of the people who hate on people who are doing so much better than them are just
04:35jealous.
04:35Who's going to say something like that to your face and get away with it?
04:39No one.
04:40So we have asked the audience to send in some questions, and can you please answer some?
04:44Yes.
04:45Are you sure you're the only one keeping him happy, entertained from the outside?
04:50Yes.
04:50I'm positive.
04:52He doesn't put up with cheating.
04:53I don't put up with cheating.
04:55How do you make the relationship work?
04:57Um, well, it's not that hard when you love someone to make it work.
05:02You just be loyal to each other, communicate with each other, and let each other know that
05:07you're there for them, and you're going to be there when they come out.
05:12I've gotten so much worse comments than this.
05:14Like, if this was my comment section, I'd be happy.
05:17My brother Dallas and Anna are coming over today, and I'm interested to hear what they
05:24have to say about my relationship.
05:27I'm pretty positive they're going to have nothing but kindness to say about him.
05:33When Lindsay first told me that Klisten was going to prison, I was pretty sad, actually.
05:39I was disappointed.
05:40Um, I lost hope for her moving forward.
05:44Going into motherhood again alone, I, like, was worried for her.
05:49I feel like Lindsay is giving a lot.
05:52I know how hard it can be.
05:54I thought that without him being present, that she would go down a completely different path
05:58that I didn't want to see for my little sister.
06:00So how do you know that Klisten's going to stay out of prison once he gets out?
06:06He's shown me his growth, and he means what he says.
06:11Like, he really means it.
06:13So you believe that?
06:14Yes.
06:16How are you doing it, like, being, like, a single mom with two kids?
06:19I just do it.
06:21I mean, I've coped with so many more things that are so much worse than this.
06:29Well, I know, you know, while he's been in there, like, a lot of people tell him, like,
06:34infidelity is, like, a big issue.
06:36I tell him, you've just got to have faith in me.
06:41Like, you've just got to, like, trust me so that when you get out, like, you can see how
06:46everything is and you can be aware that I did not cross a line or a boundary.
06:53Yeah.
06:54So, like, one thing I'm curious about is with you doing all of this for him, how are you
07:00not going to be resentful because you have given and given and given and forgiven?
07:05I did all of this because I loved him, not because I wanted to hang it over his head.
07:10I'm never going to be able to change him.
07:13So there's no point in being resentful because it's not going to get you anywhere.
07:17You think it also helps, too, like, y'all are together.
07:20He's the father of your child.
07:21Like, you want to see him do good.
07:23Yeah, like, even if, even if we weren't on good terms or whatever, I'm doing all of
07:29this for my family.
07:30Love you.
07:31Good luck.
07:32Nice.
07:33It was good to see you.
07:34You too.
07:34Love you.
07:35Love you.
07:36There's nothing that Dallas and Anna could say that would ever change my mind.
07:40It's me and Calliston against the world, against family, against friends.
07:45I want to stand by him because we've been together.
07:50We've been in love for so long, we have a son together.
07:53Working things out with him is so much more worth it than starting over with someone I
07:58don't even know or never even met.
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